Good story! I never considered myself bad but others did. I was a teenager during a time where my parents were living in a western society they didn't understand. I didn't drink or smoke or hang out all night. I just want a bit of freedom to have friends, socialize and participate in some after school extracurricular activities. But because my parents and other Hmong parents grew up differently, in a whole dofferent country, they said I was bad.

There’s no better lessons then the one you learn from yourself. 👍

Our parents always say when we become parents, it’s even we understand the love our parents have for us. This is true.

Parents can only show the love they were shown as well. They learned as they were taught from their own parents. We can't blame them as they migrated to a new land and had to be accustomed to new life here in America. Can't put all the blame to parents. As a parent now, glad she realizes what her mom went through as well.

Ua neej nyob ces yus niam yus txiv hlub yus tshaj li os.. luag pab yus ces pab tiag2 pab dawb paug tsis yuav dab tsi nrov qab li.

Nyob hauv ntiaj teb no tsis muaj neeg hlub yus npaum yus niam yus txiv li os mog

Growing up, i was the "bad" daughter. I dont think i did anything extreme, but my parents strict-ness left me to sneaking out, skipping school, drinking in high school, hanging out with the wrong crowd at some point. I never failed high school classes.. but there were days i was worried i would not graduate high school. I have daughters myself now, and i would not treat them the way my parents did with being how strict they are being biased towards my brothers and sisters.

Koj hais yog kawg tus viv ncaus peb niam peb hlub peb tshaj tsis muaj leej twg hlub peb tshaj nawb mog

I was a bad daughter too. I learned to forgive my parents for being strict and mean to me. I learn to forgive myself for the mistakes I made. You have to understand that it was nobody’s fault because our parents try the best they can to raise us in this American culture as we only did what we knew from the American culture. I love my parents even more now because I didn’t get to do that when I was young. Ive been marry to my liab husband for 23 years and we’re still as strong as ever. My kids are good and are entrepreneurs. I wasn’t strict on my kids as long as they’re honest with me where they’re at. Don’t be so hard on yourself and don’t blame on your parents curse. You need to break that cycle and figure out a way to get to your daughter.

Yog ib txoj muaj ntsiab lu zoo ua kev kawm kawg li os

Yog lawm os peb cov niam yeej tsis tau txoj kev hlub los ntawm peb cov menyuam li os peb hlub peb cov menyuam tsaj plaws li os

Growing up, it was hard for me too. I was a good daughter to my mom, like her right hand. I did everything I can for her and to me it was normal but I couldn’t understand why my mother didn’t treat me the same like my American friends mothers. My needs and wants were put in the back burner for the sake of my siblings. Through the years a did rebel until I had my own, I understood how it was for me and how I needed to be for my own daughters to not fall into a cycle. Everything I did for them after they thank me, I remind them that I love them and do it so when they get older they listen to me. I gave them everything I couldn’t have. We had bumps here and there but overall they have become good strong little women that I’m soo proud of. Remember that we made mistakes and learn from it to better your children in the process. What we want wasn’t just selfishness but mostly trying to find our own identity in this new America without the guidance of our parents at that time. They were lost themselves coming here to America, so it’s ok.

Glad you learned your lesson.

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Zoo heev li o kuv tuaj koom koj lawm o

Even though my parents considered me a “bad girl”, I would love to have a daughter like me. I took advance classes, play sports, and join after school programs. I never drink, do drug, skip school, or go out all night but because I have a BF they didn’t like (he’s not even a gangster). My parents put a 5 PM curfew on me when I go out and if I don’t come home by then I get beaten and cursed on. My parents never praise my achievements and my dad even told me I couldn’t go to college. I told my dad, once I move out I will never move back! So guess what I did? I move away to go to college, came back and got a job, and bought my own house. Now a day they depend so heavily on my help because their favorite kids wouldn’t do it for them! I will never treat my kids the way my parents do!

Sad your mom keep cursing you 😢 I get it when we young we want fun but doesn't mean your parents remind you how bad you were constantly. That's why you both can't get along. Im sorry but your mom never had anything nice to say to you never praised you but a constant looked down on you. You were just a young girl exploring life . There are worst cases out there what you did was not bad

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Ntiaj teb leej twg thiaj yuav hlub koj npaum li koj niam koj txiv yug koj 😢😢😢

Yus niam thiab yus txiv yog tus muaj nuj nqis tshaj thiab hlub yus tshaj. Twb tias kom txhob tawv ncauj thiab ntxub yus niam yus txiv. Zoo qhov koj txawj this xav thawj hlub koj niam koj txij lawm ma.rov this xav pib mloog lus ua neeg zoo rau niam thiab txiv ces zoo lawm.

Koj zaj neej neeg mam xav tau cais twb li lawd ! . Kuv tsis hlub koj kuv hlub koj niam xwb os MI ntxhais aw !!

Ntuj aw cas tu siab ua luaj

I grew up being bad person too and parents are strict. For my kids, I only worry when they're under 18, when they're over 18 they are on their own...they need to move out and take responsibility. Less stress for me!!

Yog lawm os kuv niam thiab kuv txiv lawv ua neeb 6 peb cov mi nyuam txhua tus thaum peb pib loj

When you understand your parents, you are a parent yourself.

I strongly believe in karma. The stress you gave your parents will come back to you. Luckily, I was well behaved so my daughter is a good kid. She’s 19 now and haven’t done anything that stress me out. I am glad I didn’t give my mom headaches and heartaches! You live and learn!

I grew up being “bad”. The only reason so is because my parents are strict. They said the same, how I’m gonna learn when I have my own. Well my oldest is 18 and I have never experienced anything like it because I refuse to raise my kids in a strict manner. Each to their own

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Most teenagers are bad at some point during middle and high school. We were invincible and trying to find ourselves. High school teachers are the brave souls. Luckily majority of us turned out to be pretty decent human being. It's growing pains for most parents during teenage years.

Hmoog tau lo2 kua muag kawg o

I was also a hard-headed teen. When I unexpectedly have birth to my 2nd, she left work early and killed chicken for me when no one else would. She was always checking up on me after I gave birth, when no one else did. It took my husband and I, 8 years to do our wedding, finally did it last year. And she passed away in April of this year. I miss her so much. She was a widow after my dad passed for 13 years, made sure all of us kids were secured before she left 😭😭😭😭

To each, it’s own.

Heev neeg muaj heev neeg tsim

Txog yus thib yus thiaj kawm tiav ces yog li ko mas

Peb ua neej nyob yog yus tsis muaj nyiaj txhob mus txais lwm tus especially cov neeg uas cem cem yus thiab yus ho yog tus txomnyem dua yus cov siblings

My daughter should listen to this story.

To my Step Daughter!! You will be like this lady one day

Great story!❤❤❤

Kuv niam los ib yam

True love is mother's love.

Asian parents are really bad at showing love, so we receive tough love instead. It don’t mean they don’t love us, it just mean when you’re younger you’re unable to comprehend why they’re nagging all the time, therefore it’s received as unloving. But I believe parent’s love is the only love that is unconditional. Regardless of how they project it. ❤

Ua rau kuv nco kuv niam tshaj plaws. 😢 don’t take your parents for granted. Especially your mom. Kuv niam mus tag kuv mam hais lus thov txim.

Peb hmoob nyab laj Thaum 14-15 xyoos yeej ua neeb kho o

Very good advice !!! Hit my heart! To the person in the story, your mom love you so much, she is super mad at you, but she still come and help you. It is ok. She still love you no matter what, cuz you are her daughter. Now, go you and love yourself and live and be happy. She want that for you.

Cas ua hais tau tu siab heev li

Pauv tsis ntxiv li os ?

Mee tus me neeg zoo nkauj ntxim hlub thov koj hnav koj daib tiab kom luv luv puas tau xav tias koj yuav zoo nkauj ntxim hlub tiag tiag li ok yog tau pom yuav ua rau npau suav hlub koj tag li ok ok

Txhob ua niam txiv poob kua muag cam npam.

😢😢😢😢 this is the best story I heard.

Oyo... chim ces nplooj yoog kav noob yoog tsav lawm tiag lau. Txiv apple poob tsis deb ntawm lub hauv paus lau.

Yus kawm yus thiaj tiav.hnub no koj kawm tiav lawm lauj.

My parents were strict too... but as time changed, my parents also changed...no matter how old I am and even when I got married with childrens my parents still yell at me and as I get older it doesn't bother me anymore...now my parents are both gone and I wish for just one minute to just hear my mom yell at but i dont hear anything....I miss them dearly.😢😢😢😢

Og moms are always cursing and never forgive anyone.

Great story, love it! Thank you for sharing your story with us!

Niam&txiv yug mas thiaj hlub tiag, yus ua txhaum thiaj npam.

Peb ua neeg nyob ces txawm muaj tub ki los yeej nyuaj siab, txawm tsis muaj los yeej nyuaj siab txog thaum lub kua muag poob os niam Ntsuab Teev. Tab sis zoo siab tias tus sister no nws paub txog nws niam cov lus nyiaj lus kub es ho muab coj los qhia ib tsoom phooj ywg sawv daws li no. It’s a good lesson.

Growing up, my parents were also strict but now being a mom myself I understood why, they were strict bc they cared for my well-being and safety, they only wanted the best for us. There's only so much you can do as a parent. Your kids are growing and learning, they will only learn from right or wrong by making mistakes.

Mee koj ma zoo nkauj ntxim hlub tiag li yog koj tseem koj lub me cev nkauj xwb ntxim ntxim li no thhiab yuav saib tag li ntxim hlub ua luajnli ok ok

I didn't want to listen to my mom. I ignored her, got mad at her, complained about her, and call her names. I only knew and changed when I had my first child. My daughter was the apple of my eye. I knew what it meant to be a mother and why she always complained about me and lectured me. She use to call me and cry that my sisters yelled at her. I miss her so much. Her last phone call was when she named my 6th baby. The one she didn't get to hold. I hope she's free of her pain from dialysis and her kidney transplant.

I don’t think the parents needed to be this harsh and bad on their daughter. Been there done that. Kids will be kids. Kids our generation and our kids generation thrive on positive reinforcement and positive words of affirmation. NOT negative reinforcement like our parents and grandparents generation.

Fun true story.. a lady i knew in my small town told us that she went to court awaiting her sons hearing along with many other hmong mothers, each mother was telling how great their son was.. this and that.. this mother told them..if hes that good, you won't be sitting here with us..😂

Peb cov nus muag ces txhua tus thaum muaj 13 14 xyoos kv niam thiab txiv yeej ua neeb kho neb txhua tus os. Kv yog ib leeg ntxhais kv yeej paub zoo kv tawv ncauj dua thiab kv tub nkeeg dua os. Kv twb ua poj nrauj ib zaug os lawm twb rov mus ua lub neej tom 2 lawm thiab os kv hnub yug muaj 25 26 xyoos.

Yog kawg ua li leej niam txog kev nyuaj siab rau yus cov mi nyuam.

When we were young, we thought we know everything and we don't listen to no one but a self taught lessons learn best.

Can someone translate this story in English. Such great story but needs to be in English so this generation can understand it.

Kuv ib tug tub nws tus tub dai tuag lub vij no yog vim raug hluas nkauj tso tseg es dai tuag nws muaj 16 cov me nyuam noobnyoog li no tabtom qaug rau kev hlub loj2 yus cov yog niam txiv yuav tau ceevfaj thiab saib kom zoo

History repeats itself

In this world. Not matter how strict your parents are. Only your parents will still love you and be there for you, no matter what. Always cherish every moment. Never take your parents for granted. By then, it will be too late.

Good lesson....

Poj laib now having poj laib kids, hypocrite much? 😂 Lol, so many poj laib coming out in the comments.

Txoj neej neeg no zoo ua kev kawm peb tej me nyuam tseem hluas tsis Txawj xav lawv txawm ua tsis zoo los peb tsuas qhia lawv xwb tsis txhob foom foom lawv kom lawv txais tau txoj kev npam. Kuv xav mas yus tau kev Txog nyem yus yeej tsis xav kom yus tsev neeg txom nyem li yus ces kuv tsis nyiam cov niag laus es pheej foom kom npam

What u give out to the universe, u receive back. A mother’s love is unconditional and no matter what, they’ll always love you.

Amen🙏❤❤❤

Nej cov ntxhais tos niam txiv tsis tshua hlub los vim thaum nej nto plaws 14-15 xyoos ces nej daim nqaij plees pib khaus tuaj lawm ces niam txiv yeej hais tsis tau nej. Hmoob haistias niam txiv tej lus ntuas txawm tsis zoo tshuaj los yuav zoo yeeb, yog leej twg tsis ntseeg ces muaj ib hnub yuav tau txais txojkev txhawj xeeb. Niam txiv tej lus tseeb txawm tsis zoo yeeb los yuav zoo tshuaj, yog leej twg tsis mloog tsis yuav ces muaj ib hnub twg yuav zaum tsaws quaj. koj yuav txwv tsis pub lawv yuav txiv ib tsam nws tus niam hluas tawv2 thaum ntawd nws yuav nij txiv neej ces nws yuav tsis mloog koj hais lawm. Txiv neej li tawv tseem hlob tau hos pojniam li nyob puag hauv nruab nrog lawm yuav tau qws txob coj los nrws thiaj li zoo nyob.

Peb yog niam yog txiv peb yeej muaj cai qhuab qhia yus tej me nyuam rau qhov zoo cem kom tsim txiaj tabsis peb tsis muaj txoj cai los foom peb cov me nyuam

I was always open with my mom. There were times when I disagreed with my mom, but i was never this extreme to her. I never skipped school before, except that one day I skipped to go marry my husband. Lol. Even to this day the only person I talk to most is my mom. I wish I can go back and live with my mom again.

Grew up in a small town, not that many hmoob people! I had no problems or screwed up! Children screwed up in their teens, and some turned out successful later in life! Live and learn and struggle here and there!!

2 generations of bad ass silver kids shenanigans. God is always watching that’s why parents says you will one day wear their shoes and live their life if you don’t learn from them and their mistakes.

Ua ib leej niam leej txiv txhua txhua lo lus qhia kom ua zoo xwb na nyias ua nyias niam nyias txiv thiaj paub hos hmoob aw...

Cov neej neeg me nyuam poob no boring mloog kawg

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Niam ntsuab teev qhov hai tia me nyuam loj 13.14 xyoo e ua neeb khi hlua no yeej muaj tseeb ov vim kuv niam kuv txiv ib txwm tia yog loj tiav nkauj tiav nraug lawm tsi ua neeb kho ce tu me nyuam ntawv kho² siab tej tug ce kho² siab ua rau nw tuag tau thiab vim nw loj lawm ce nw yuav muaj txoj kev nraug nraug ce yuav muaj tej yam tsi zoo yug tau nw lub siab ce tsi ua neeb qua ce txog thaum kawg nw yuav tswm siv tej yam tsi zoo os.

Live love and learn. Everyone has to endure the hardships of being parents. Karma is real just like What goes around will comes around. Everyone will suffering the same consequences but a few will tolerate but the rest will be deeply hurt for life.

Koj niam tsi tuag ces koj yeej tsi thim xav cov niag es tos yus niam tuag yus mam hlub li koj ces Txhob tusj hais cas tsi txaj muag os hmoob

Peb ua niam ua txiv, tus menyuam twb tsis hnov lus los yus kajtsim hlub vim yus yog tus yug nwb. Peb ua niam mas peb yuav tsum hlub teb menyuam ua ntej es teb menyuam thiab paub hlub yus os.

I’m a good daughter and my husband was a stubborn child growing up till high school but still wanted his own way through his life. We have mix kids

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You broke your parents heart as they did yours. They loved you the way they only know how. Your mistakes made them loose hopes on you. Glad that you now understand what your parents went thru.

My mom and dad get on my nerves but I would never trade them for anything.

You niam yug yus thiaj li hlub yus tshaj xwb.

U should apologize, no matter what ,parents always forgive and love. Hmong r tough love but they value your life in the long run.😮😮😮😮😮😮😮

I was bad too but I never ask or bother anyone for anything… I can say i did by myself so idc what they want and need from me… raise my kids myself and idc if my kids wants to help the in-laws or my mom..

Npam loj kawg li thiab nej cov ntxhais ua pheej mus ua laib nas yom 😅

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Sometime parents are being over protective m too control..... remember kid is kid. As parents u gotta know how to tell your kids the rules and their boundaries if they don't follow. Don't be too harsh on your kids too hard.

I grow up where there so many Hmong people my younger years are super bad. Spend jail time go to hospital. It’s not the parents fault it you. People think of freedom in the USA is wrong. Freedom is free education and good paying job travel the world. Basically it where you grow up and the influence around you. You choose your route. Listen half way only. No need to finish

Es yus twb tsis mloog niam txiv Lus ne tsuas yog yus cuab qhov ntse2 xwb ces txhob Tus siab rau lawv rov tu siab rau yus Tus kheej xwb vim yus ntshaw2 txivLaib ne txoj kev sib hlub noj tsis tsau mam nrhiav Tus zoo kom yog ib tug zoo txiv xwb

I cried so hard listening to your story sister! I was also the black sheep in my family. Luckily, my mom and my dad love me unconditionally. Today, my dad is no longer here with us, with me.😢

I’m good daughter but no one love & care & support me No matter u good or bad Sister Some people don’t like they daughter

Nev nev karma is at its best!