Truth is.. all of us are going to “miss out” on so many things at some point or the other.. that’s how life works.. we can’t have it all! Just like how when we make a career choice between 2 most wanted options, we miss out on the experience of the option that we didn’t choose.. you’ll never know how your life would’ve turned out of you had chosen a completely different path.. we’re all “missing out” on something or the other all the time.. we just need to make peace with that and keep doing the things that make you feel alive everyday! That’s all🤩

Not bringing a child into this cruel world is the biggest philanthropy

If having kids gives all the happiness, then why isn’t India the happiest nation considering the population

I had this thought: if I had a child and he/she came to me and asked, "Why, Dad? Why did you have me? I can't handle this pressure and pain. I'm tired of this mundane, repetitive life. I'm done. All this suffering could have been avoided if you had considered it from my perspective." That is when I realized that there isn't a single selfless or convincing reason I could give them. This is why I have decided not to have children. Children aren't toys; they grow into mature individuals. People say life is a gift, but I believe we are potentially gifting 80+ years of imprisonment to a new life that didn't or couldn't ask for it. In law, when you can't get consent for a certain action from an individual, you should not make the decision for them. In such cases, no action is the best action.

It’s quite difficult, almost incomprehensible for most Indian people to understand that there are people (male and female) who have no desire to raise a child. They have other passions in life which they are fully committed to and they never think they are missing out.

Madam I've seen you when was 18yrs old, you were client of m/s Madhavan and Trinadh, CAs. I was a typist there. You were beautiful, young, you were already successful in Biocon. Iam 60 now, I have 4 children two sons one 27, another 17, and two adopted special daughters one now 14 partially hearing and speech impaired another 8 year old cute girl with AMC problem 89 percent physically handicapped. She can't walk inspite of physical operation, she cannot write neatly. 200 percent iq, speaks fantastic English, Hindi, tamil, kannada. I could not give 24 hrs time for my own children as I was working but these two girls lucky. I'm blessed I think they're company now..

Kudos to Kiran Mazumdar for being so unfiltered about her husband and her missing out on having children..especially on the internet! ❤

When you have your own children. You have big responsibility and you want to spend only for your children. I feel nikhil decision is good , he can do more philanthropic work and can do more social work.

It’s not compulsory to have kids. It’s a couple’s choice. Being parents is a full time job. Many parents don’t have the time and patience with their kids which isn’t really great. It’s is better not to have kids rather than make the kids feel neglected.

Criminals roaming free, corruption of the highest magnitude , severe environment pollution. Not having kids is the most benevolent act.

Having kid changes your life 360 degree. In my experience I am other person. I have become more empathetic. You start seeing others and life with different glance.

People in comments 😂talking about having kids, as if it’s a big achievement,😂😂😂 it’s the most common thing humans do, that too for their own selfish needs, such as a social status trophy or a retirement plan🤣

Actually it's KIRON MAJUMDAR SHAW s life....let her lead the life as the way she wants...whatever u guys have...it's ok...but don't put ur life understanding on her....she is really GREAT...that's why we r watching her...she deserves only our respect....

Environmentally speaking, I feel having no kids is the go-to thing in today's times. You could say I have a gloomy, pessimistic attitude towards Life but about people who talk of demographic dividend or having kids, I feel it is so pointless because just today or tomorrow, we may lose out on water, good air etc. and then what use do all of these things hold. It is also just shocking how even billionaires or people who are so well-informed and educated tend to ignore the environmental problems that look over us. Both Kiran Mazumdar Shaw and Nikhil kamath come from Bangalore and we all know what's happening in the city. I just want to know what their opinion is when it comes to this environmental aspects.

No one misses on anything. Psychologically, if you haven't experience something in first 30-35 years of life, how can you miss that experience? It's just people mostly do kids either because of following reasons: 1. Parents or partner pressure 2. FOMO by looking others around them 3. Want to leave inheritance or legacy None of which is a valid reason to do so.

I chose not to have kids, I love kids but did not want to have my own we love our life as it is.

in my opinion, people birth and raise kids with the underlying purpose of keeping themselves occupied… for most, the concept of life is “samay bitane ke liye karna hai kuch kaam”…

India having huge population but quality population matters for building economy.

As a father of a 2 year old daughter . You 100% miss out on a lot . Is it hard ? Ofcourse it is ! but when I come back home after a long day at work and she gives me and smile and a hug , all my mental exhaustion goes away ❤

We should have a discussion around adoption.. more conversations will normalize adoption.

Please please please help make child adoption for single people easy! Current process is so difficult, esp for. single women who dont want to marry, but adopt a child and raise them! Forget the mental battle women need to fight the society to adopt, but the number of scrutiny of legalities, monetary proof and then again waiting period is insufferable! If only we can make that process faster, people will come forward and adopt! 🙏🏻

Life in current times is full of hardships. How does a person justify bringing a child in such a world? Imagine even when that child gets physically or mentally bruised, parents would say thats the way he will be become stronger for what future holds. How does a parent justify the suffering of their offspring when they have to face any disease or disorder? This orthodox school of thought that child is the only way to achieve eternal happiness should be changed. In this world of natural calamities or man made wars, how does a person ensure their child will not have to go through its turmoils?

I am married for 10 years now. Me and my husband we both do not want any kid right from the beginning and we dont miss anything. I know only few people think like us who actually do not want a kid and there is nothing wrong in it. U need to njy ur life thats it. But people give it different names like bacche nahi ho raha inka but seriously we dont care because we know what it is. In short u should be happy with ur decision and should not be confused. U can njy your life with other things u have. I have seen bacche hoke v log dukhi hote hain divorces and jhagda. So its better to keep ourselves happy with pur decison.

Thanks Nikhil. It's surely not easy to live a "public" life and yet have honest, open conversations about perspectives that are generally not shared by everyone. Your honesty about wanting to or not wanting to have a child - for your reasons - has been so empowering. Finally feel like it's okay to have such perspectives and be honest about them vs being made to feel like we're just selfish or cuckoo. Thank you!

Having kids makes one circle very limited, as our priority would always be kids over everything. It would bbe too personal , jot that people are not doing big things but obviously their priorities would be kids and family

M also 36 got married at 29 and though struggling no big regret

I wonder how many folks realise that children are joyful and an important responsibility too. As a parent you are responsible for the wellbeing of your child - Emotional , physical, financial and all other aspectsk. It’s not just about fulfilling a child’s basic needs of food, clothing, shelter. Parental responsibility is not something one should take lightly.. once you become a parent you are a parent for life…

The Reasons why I don't like to have kids:- 1. We both work in 9-5 we don't run any businesses so we feel like taking retirement in 50's and leave bangalore but with kids we can't 2. I don't want my body to undergo so many changes like pregnancy, postpartum and some hormonal changes 3. I don't want to invest too much emotions on my kids I have seen almost all mothers or parents giving too much love to their kid and they can't tolerate little arrogance from kids. They start acting too dramatic I don't want to be that 4.I hate this world and education system I don't want to pressure my kids regarding studies but now adays competition is getting more and more so im worried about that 5.I have my own dreams and life so I won't feel happy If I sacrifice that 6. My MIL is negative person she is not staying with us if I have kid she comes and starts staying with us and she is obsessed with kid and she gonna snatch kid from me and she might teach some negative things about me and my husband for that kid and make my kid stubborn I want to avoid her But My family has to understand this I don't know what to do

Nikhil Kamat , just be happy that you and your partner are at a same page. Congratulations 🎉

The greying population is a challenge to any country. But can an average Indian family afford to have more kids when the cost of life is so high? Education, housing, food and healthcare, nothing comes cheap. Can one of the parents stay home to take care of the children? Do we have safe childcare services and family-friendly work culture ? We see homemakers taking care of the household and children 24/7 as the partner is too busy at work. Do we have social security? It is too simplistic to say we should have children so that the country has the ideal demography.

I am a professional and have two children. Looking back, there have been many ups and downs. It's hard to manage a profession while bringing up children. But that's not the point. It's not about me. It's not a question to an individual. Even bringing up children must be seen as a phylonthropic activity. You do this for the society, culture, country and world. Tomorrow, the children will contribute in some way. Nikhil has chosen to do other phylonthropic actitivites and not this, fine. There would always be some people in every generation who contribute in other ways and not have kids. But as a society, that should not become a trend and we must pass on the baton to next generation.

I completely agree with not having kids and donating for research and education is absolute bliss😊

Nikhil, u r doing wonders by creating such varied podcasts🎉❤

I became a mom of twins after 10 years of marriage- Allah ka shukar that I was blessed with beautiful healthy babies - My husband wanted to have another and I said no - It was a very firm, calculated NO that no matter what pressures come my way I will not go for another baby - I am super satisfied with my decision- Unfortunately, many girls in Pakistan don’t get autonomy over their bodily rights -

One of the most neglected demographic is the handicapped or differently abled. We must give more to ex deaf, blind children, help make them ready for to earn their livelihood. My heart breaks when i see deaf, blind kids especially girl children. I would vote for thst Nikhil

Kids or no kids, it should not feel like a Liability.

Watching these guys literally makes us feel how far they have come from the point we are today😢

Even as a father of a 1 year old daughter...m 100% with Nitin K's thinking.... More Power to you brother....❤❤❤❤

This podcast is quite close to home and a goldmine… Thanks Kiran for sharing…

Kids are the light of life.. I don't have any. But will definitely have 2 in future..

I am 36, a Neurologist and Movement Disorder specialist by profession and a mother to a 1.5 year old son. Trust me, my life has never been so beautiful and peaceful. And till you dont experience something, you have no idea what you are missing out in life!

I completely agree with Nikhil. Thanks for normalizing this. Animal welfare is one of the underfunded area. Philanthropy can help.

Do we have professional town planning experts guiding us on City development? The last town planning expert was Patrick Geddes. Landscaping was by Gustav Krumbiegel and B S Nirody, then came Dr. A Ravindra.

Lot of respect and admiration for ur honesty-both of you,so down to Earth.

Contribution to society (humanity) is more imporatant. Contribution to already Billion population is NOT important.

I have a 21 year old and trust me it been a joy ride having him. Sometimes ur upside down on a roller coaster but then it’s fun. I am a ceo and single mom but I managed it all and having a blast

I really like that twisted, free-spirited, care free version of nikhil. i love his ideologies.. but personally doesn't influence. in my opinion i have really grown up from taking to giving.. enjoy a phase of nurturing, holding up to responsibilities. when you know your heart stays with something, be with it.

Going through the comment section the reasons people give for birthing kids all starts with me: my bloodline, my happiness, my connection with me, my empathy level, my betterment as a human... and people call birthing kids a selfless act...

Everyone seems to be so humancentric.....there is very little investment going into wildlife and the huge land corridors it requires as opposed to the needs of a human population

New education policy is great initiative..hope the government and teachers accerelate the quality effort..

To all those who doubt the upbringing of the person who doesn't want children... i would say the upbringing and education have been perfectly perfect as they have given the ability to the person to evaluate and question and analyze the rudimentary societal norms and myths.

The sadness is clear on the face of both. The sad outcome is in front of all through the China story playing out. Unfortunate that a fantastic personality like NK is setting this example.

Hi nikhil kudos to kiran and nikhil. Both of u are phenomenal. Each individual should contribute may it be a meagre amt. So we inspire each and everyone to give back to the planet. Best wshes. As far as kids is concerned thats each ones perspective but if u have a strong purpose that itself accomplishes u. ☺️

But with kids struggle is real

Asking a successful woman this question in todays time and age!! Would be interesting to see how Many males with no kids get asked the same question

Firstly you touch upon an issue, which appears normal / personal but having a larger impact as pointed out by Madam Kiran. However I deeply appreciate and amazed at your decision. Wish you two renowned large hearted entrepreneurs inspire many, to give back to society it's due for the larger good. As mentioned the time spent with young children brings joy and a stress buster.

Having a child is the epitome of happiness; nothing can supersede that. No matter what logic you bring into this argument, the love you receive surpasses everything."

Many people love dogs, not all adopt them, many people love kids not all have them by choice or by nature's choice, I hv twins n i keep wondering how much i could hv done better had it been one at a time.. so... yes, its a big responsibility, if one is not up for it... so be it. Coming from Kiran Majhmdar Shaw, the sociodemographic view of various countries n the philanthropic point is worth a thought!

2:51 Thats very scientific and this is one of the reason I vote for Modi and Yogi ji

I had miscarriage twice of 1 in 7 months and 2nd in 8th.. then had a 3rd child.. he was 18 .. i lost him in an accident in 2022.. now am in my 50s.. .. i am thinking what is life..

Having kids is important (not ignoring that financially) because nations like Japan and many more will go back because majority population is senior citizens now. Having good youth population supports economy.

There is a concept - childless by circumstance. It is different from childless by choice. Childless by circumstance is what Kiran is describing. Not many people know about this differentiation - many even presume that if one doesn’t have children, it’s by choice. No, not having the right circumstances at the opportune time for having babies is a truth that many women and men grapple with (an unsupportive spouse, late marriage or no marriage, health issues, financial constraints, are just some of the reasons. PS: for those who think “there’s always adoption” no, it’s never that simple. More conversations need to happen around this aspect of childlessness.

Without kids you are going to miss and With kids you are going to miss. So relax👍

In short no one is content with what they have. Some thing or the other will always be less in your life, so be happy with what ever you have. Its destiny, we say we don't want this or we want....HIS is the final call

@Nikhil, don't waste your time wondering if you should have a family and kids. You must have that experience so you can stop having these questions on your podcast. First, heal your soul; love will automatically find you. You'll have an amazing family and kids, and you'll enjoy life. Take it from me, a mom of two babies, and my husband, a self-made businessman. We wouldn't have it any other way. You have enough money to lead a beautiful life, and I'm sure you'll be an amazing dad too. When you have a family, all the money you make will have more meaning in your life. I'm praying you find your soulmate soon and have beautiful kids. Having a family will bring you more respect in this world. Don’t wait and wonder-just go ahead and be blessed. If you are scared of finding love and having children change the people around you, they are giving you wrong advice, it’s time for a life upgrade. 💕🌟👍. Love Rachel

Young people in India, try to avoid responsibility. Taking responsibility always rewards in life be it monetarily at your job/business or in life with relationships. Life is all about making relationships so why wouldn't one invest in the strongest bond that can ever exist, between a parent and child. The vagabond life of roaming eating luxury has an end in the high 30s beyond that you need something to look up to that makes your life complete. Remember every species reproduces, so without experiencing it your life will be incomplete. Also just remember ppl abroad not only raise kids but also do house chores like dishes,clothes, taking kids around for classes along with the job. My point is it's easier to raise a kid in India than in the US or UK where you don't have cheap labor accessible for help. So don't run away from taking the most important responsibility in life it will hit you hard at a point later when luxury/abundance will be there but no real relationship to share it with

குழல்இனிது யாழ்இனிது என்பதம் மக்கள் மழலைச்சொல் கேளா தவர் Written by the great poet Tiruvalluvar thousands of years ago. It means ..."Flute is sweet, Lute is sweet they say those who have not listen to infant's babble"

Kids are nothing but and obligation, and there is nothing secured in life. Having kids and a big family doesn't mean there isn't a chance if you living and dying alone. So the only thing that is going to accompany you is you yourself and God the creator... Everyone else's contribution comes with a timeline... Your life partner can still be a great support for you but kids take much more than what they can give you.. After kids all you do is adjustments and compromise..

The burden of huge population is way bigger then the opportunity of having a massive population. (From ground day to day experience)

I believe it takes a lot to grow kids...I rather than putting my energy in growing kid would prefer to do something else ..may be help someone ...do good for society ..meet new people...

It’s very personal and depends on individual circumstances. I always I will adopt when I am older but then has my daughter at 38. Oh boy!! I realised what I was missing out on. My husband and we both think we should have had her sooner

If you have a kid, you'd love the way you're connecting back to yourself. It's not just about discovering opportunities. As a businessman or an entrepreneur, having kids really helps us connecting with next generations and your DNA gets carried on if you raise your kids groundedly. Education is not just about curriculum and schools, it's about someone holding younger kids hands and teaching them what's right and wrong on a daily basis. Organizations and their donations cannot change the truth that parents can influence early in anyone's life. This influence is useless. Is situational and she didn't want or couldn't make, doesn't change facts of any society.

We can never miss something we didn't want in the first place ( here ) kids.

Its completely a personal choice, both having or not having kids have their pros and cons. If you have a troubled marriage then its better not to have kids.

If all of us get inspired from this and don’t have kids then we will become extinct species. If our parents too had thought of this we wouldn’t have been here in this world. Creating souls is greatest philanthropy .. if you create souls that empower millions it is greatest philanthropy. Having a child is responsibility agreed but then running a company earning money taking care of yourself is also a responsibility. I had baby at 45 yrs of age that too naturally and I delayed this process as I wanted to be financially ready and secure to give good life to my baby. I have an angel daughter and it’s immensely gratifying. Having said all this if one is not mentally ready to have kids then one mustn’t as then they will be bad parent. One must introspect why they want to have kid .. be financially, mentally and emotionally prepared to have kids and it’s indeed a joyful experience. Your Y to have kid should be very clear. Why I wanted to have kid was to create a soul that grows up to empower people. Philanthropy you can do with kids also. If someone really hates kids then one should not have kids as they will be bad parent and may be god made their destiny that way. Till now nothing has given me more joy than being a mother. My husband too didn’t want to have baby as we were 45 yrs old but now he too agrees there is no better joy than this, there is no greater cause than this. Raising your child to be good is like being passionate about growing your company 😊. At times people dont want to kids as they have seen unhappy families at home or are too obsessed with their goals their passion and don’t want to invest time in kids. Everyone’s circumstances are different. Would recommend having one kid. To each his own. Disclaimer this is just my opinion and to what I have seen around. Everyone has freedom to choose. Choose wisely!!

Well this video was more of philanthropy and economic impact of having children not much of influence of children on parents life. I think this will not help much of viewers who came looking at the title of this. Just my opinion but this is a great channel.

Never worry nikhil .....where Indians will soon also reach to such level and that's all part and parcel of tym.....

Why we always highlight the point of demographic dividend in India? I have read so many articles where quality of education and graduates and post graduates are in serious question in India. It is advantageous only when we have a skilled workforce and an equal employment opportunity available.

Everyone is free to do whatever they want, don't need any validationvfrom anyone, but should not regret one's decision at any point in life

My opinion - we need to have more kids. At least 3/4 Bring olden times back

There is a difference between being a childfree and a childless person. So both of you are different! But still it is nice to see you both engaging ideas

Kiran ma'am has got some clarity which is worth admiring

Kudos to Kiran Mazumdar.. but more than higher education, the foundation stage requires more attention.. only about 20-30% students reach to college level. Rest fall behind.. if 80-70% are leaving behind...

Thanks for the contribution to the philanthropy. But does the Enterpreneurs have any responsibility in making the indian governance better?

You can never answer this question until you have your own kid!

Plant trees and promote environmental sustainability

Dude you are asking a person who hasn't had kids if one misses out on a lot if they don't have kids???? How on earth will she know??

** Education the first & foremost part of any society to grow, yes the education from school… Very very well said

Why don’t mention guest name and firm name in description..?

My in-laws stopped talking to me because we don't want kids. Don't know when my husband will turn away from me because his parents are emotionally blackmailing him.

The main problem with what Nikhil stated abt not having kids elsewhere is, if ppl who have high probability of raising good human beings , back out stating bs reasons like what if my kids leave me at old age when having enough money in his case, for a few generations - what will become of the country n future ?!! You can continue doing the philanthropic work simultaneously.. It's a lot of work that i l agree

I am really Happy With my 2 kids❤❤i LOVE them a lot.. ha kbhi kbhi frustrated ho jate hai but wo to agar bachhe na bhi hote to bhi ho jaate Meri life me to Bachho ki vajah se discipline aa gaya otherwise me to 🙃😅 Family to chahiye hi❤❤❤❤

We are all gonna miss out on something either this or that,past 9 years I am raising children,2nd one is still pretty young and needs my assistance I am missing out on sleep,exercise,promotions,raises,travelling etc etc I have gained strong sense of belonginess and fulfillment So there is nothing to regret either this way or that

For someone who has degrees in Biology and Anthropology, let me tell you every life form whether a mosquito, cat, tuna, parrot or human have only two objectives in life - to survive and reproduce. If you you don't achieve these two basic objective then the life is considered a failure by nature. Since Humans are social animals, we have an additional objective - Survive, Reproduce & Pleasure. Your favorite food, holiday, career, etc all comes in pleasure. Do not get sidelined by fancy words and forget your basic objectives as a living being!

Thankyou for saying the truth and not saying ohh we did not want one ...

Nice conversation... There is a gap though. One person who didnt have is speaking with a person who is thinking of not having. Both dont really know the reality of having kids.

Adoption should be normalised and made more popular

Absolutely nobody,especially women should be called out/shamed for not having kids.

Cruelty was always wars and all with swords. Imagine

Only people who can care for their children and provide for their education should have kids. It is wrong to bring a child in this world and expect the state to provide for them