Aging is a privilege denied too many. I am proud and honored to still be here after being diagnosed with a terminal disease and overcoming that prognosis. Gray hair is my tinsel and scars are my battle reminders. I am strong. I am worthy. I am alive.

I started to turn gray very young and colored my hair from age 28-44. My coworkers were so negative towards me when I started to grow it out. It really is a power move that bucks the system. I am 6 years into my gray journey and I am so glad I stepped off the hair dye merry go round. I think my old co workers felt threatened when they saw that I was bucking the system that they felt trapped in. Baby I am liberated!

Thank you for your empowering words. I am 64, a cancer survivor, and have had grey hair for years. When I'm having a "bad" day, I remind myself that "I have hair, and I am alive". It is truly an honor to be on this journey.

Your right Nikol. My girlfriends would say to me why I was not dying my hair. They would say you look old. But when we would go out I was always had men talk to me and with that is said my girlfriends just stop asking me to go out with them. I stopped dying my hair at the age of 45 I’m 72 now. My husband and other men always say to me that I have the most beautiful hair. And that makes me feel beautiful. Thank you Nikol you are beautiful.

Recently out of the blue, another woman gave me a compliment on my gray hair at an airport. It was great and impressed my husband. I’m 67yrs old & have been gray for 9yrs. I love it! Thanks Nikol!!🤍

Thanks for reminding me it is a power move... Just had an idiot spit venom at me and tell me he knows the reason my ex-husband left me and that no one wants to be near me. I am crying to hear this and remember how brave it is just to be me. At 38, I embarked on the grey journey from long long dark hair past my breasts to a very short grey pixie cut. In one fell swoop, the transition was complete and I donated my hair to a children's charity that makes wigs for children who have lost their hair. 💖

Letting my gray grow out after 30 years of chemical coverups was freeing and empowering. You are so right, Nikol - it is about attitude. I had wanted to stop coloring for years but my husband had said he wasn’t “ready” to see me in gray hair. I finally spoke up and said, “I promise it won’t be your Grandma’s gray hair”! And grew it out over the fall & winter when I was 58 years old. Caps, berets and root powder kept me curious about my results for 6+ months. I knew there was plenty of white under there as I had discovered my first grays in my late teens. I felt like a kid anticipating Christmas morning! I went for my pixie chop and have never looked back. I care more about my makeup and personal style now then I ever did, because my attitude is: I’m a platinum lady of great value”. My gray says “confident”, not “old”. On my way home from the first cut, I stopped at the grocery store and a man I had never seen, stopped me and said “Your hair is beautiful” God bless him! I get more positive comments about my hair now - no one ever noticed the brunette with highlights that cost me soooooo much $$$$!

I love my grey hair. People ask what dye do you use...... I say, it just grows out of my head!!! 😊

I asked my chap what he thought before I made the decision to go grey naturally. He said he might not even notice! We both laughed. I love you saying the silver coming in was your new path! I finally feel grown up.

It took two years to grow out my shoulder length hair and I’ve never liked the texture better. The first few months I looked depressed; like I didn’t care, so clothes & makeup were essential. Embrace the Crone!❤️

Most of my friends love my gray but I have a few family members who say color it as its aging. Heck I'm 65 and blonde won't won't make me 30 so nope

Thank you for your inspirational message 👩🏻‍🦳💖 I’m 8 months in cold turkey and received my first compliment from a complete stranger, a male hairdresser asked me, are you transitioning? I said yes, he said keep going it’s looking great and that is was a beautiful colour coming in ☺️

Haven't dyed my hair since March. Your videos were the first that I found when I needed support. I'm more salt and pepper, not solid grey. I have my days where I'm self conscious, but I am happy that I am sticking to it. A friend said I could get grey highlights to blend the old dye, but I told her that I need to go through this process, it's bigger than hair. Thank you, Nikol. 🤍

Now that was a very interesting presentation. In 2019, I lost my long thick dyed hair during 1 year of cancer treatment, and I was so tenderly cared for. My hair grows fast. It's now shoulder-length, strong, thick, a beautiful shiny silver-white, the natural color appears different each new day. This is me! After hearing this presentation I'll be entering into another journey. I can hardly wait to read my new biography!

It took me 2 times to completely embrace the gray. I grew it out & half through, I colored it. I decided I'd try it again, I got it more than half grown out & slipped back again, because I listened to other peoples comments. Well, my third attempt, bingo! I thought heck what others thought. It was my hair, my business and my choice. And I love it, it made me feel confident, made me feel good and most of all free to be myself. And my husband says it's sexy, lol.

"Give yourself grace." "Actually I can..." "The journey..." So appreciate your thought processes that encourage!!

I decided to stop highlighting my hair 15 years ago. A few years back while getting my hair trimmed I asked my stylist about a little color enhancement. NEVER will I color your hair was her response. Apparently some of her clients asked her to replicate my color. Talk about a confidence boost.

I decided to go grey last year. I decided to focus on my skin and weight. Thank you beautiful lady ❤️

Feeling like this is the true me. Attempted this at at 40 but buckled to peer pressure. Tried it at 50 and same. Last year, 54 I lost my dog and started the journey right after. So happy. Feeling so blessed. Look at myself in the mirror every morning and smile at that woman looking back at me. It’s a revaluation and it feels right. Thank you for the amazing inspirations you share with us.

Going gray is so freeing! I have a ways to go but loving my journey. Thanks for sharing and inspiring ❤

Grey is a perfect backdrop to fabulous deeper colours - gorgeous pinks, peaches etc ! We may double take when we see ourselves in a mirror- others see us all the time and accept the colour quicker than we do ! We are gorgeous and different 🤩

Funny story for you, when my mom first went grey she became the Bride of Frankenstein, it looked soooo amazing! She had all this dark brown hair that was just not yet black with this awesome streak of white hair right next to her right temple. When I first told my mom she thought I was making fun of it.....long story short she actually got a little teary eyed when I told her I thought it was the coolest things......I would tell all my friends that I thought my mom looked amazing with her shock of white hair. It was sooooo bad ass!

I hated the 2 year grow-out process but I loved that I stuck to my guns. And I love the final outcome.

It does not hurt that you are beautiful and have a fantastic head if hair.

I’m one of the women who, bc of quarantine, decided now is the best time to finally stop with the dye, it’s VERY freeing. i’ve always liked being different, and going grey is definitely being different (at least in S Florida), as i’m the only one of my friends to be walking away from dye. on the days i feel washed out, i just slap on self tanner!

I earned my gray hair. My gray hair is a strength and a blessing..its my badge of matriarchy. Thank you for this video Nikol. I went gray 10yrs ago and didnt look back. I get a million compliments on my hair

I have had more great comments and attractions from men with my gray then I ever did in my life...yes its liberating we stand out..I feel more confident every day with my gray.

Thank you so much Nikol! May I jump in? Not grey, I am 56...BUT I went natural...quit pretending to be blonde and straight haired...I have brown curly hair with the slightest threading of grey...this was huge for me and took me two years as I wear my hair mid length. I have never felt more beautiful..being as God crested me. Thank you for helping us to accept the beautiful gifts we have, 😃🙏🏼⭐️💎

Proverbs 16:31 "Gray hair is a crown of splendor; it is attained in the way of righteousness." There is nothing wrong with gray hair! :)

I have had so many compliments since going grey and I don't regret doing it. Give it a try you might be surprised how good it can look.

Nikol, your hair is beautiful and so are you, inside and out. I decided to go grey in January 2020 and have not regretted it one single moment. Like you, I have people telling me all the time how beautiful my hair is. And, I agree with you, it is so very liberating. I wish I had never colored my hair at all..., but I am glad I made the decision to stop doing it this year.

One of the favorite things I say to myself when I am feeling washed out is “this is the best I can be today”. I say this not in a detrimental way but a positive way to give me confidence. I went gray a couple of years ago and there are still days when I think I should dye it back to brown but when I wear black, I look so much better than I did with brown hair so it stays gray. Thank you for your beauty inside and out.

Personally, I found myself when I allowed myself to go grey, I was so caught up in being what others wanted me to be, even growing up I was compared to my siblings over and over again.... I was always extremely shy and did not feel good enough because I was not like others, I copied other people’s style but it was not me, then when I decided to go grey, my whole mindset changed, suddenly I was me, my confidence changed, my style changed and people saw me for the first time, I have been greatly surprised by how many people I have influenced to stop colouring their hair only because I stand tall and love myself now....it has been the greatest gift that I could give myself!!

Love the grey, wish mine was as thick as yours. I have major thinning

I also started going grey in my early 30’s. Actually I had some greys even in high school, but not so many to notice much. I’ve been salt and pepper since my 30’s, and now in my 40’s it’s more salt than pepper. I have never died my hair. I just let it be natural. It bothered me at first, and I complained to my husband that my natural color is dark brown. He responded that dark brown is no longer natural for me. Well, he’s right. His comment really hit home, so I never died my hair. My grey hair is me and now I actually like it. I have had many hairdressers compliment me because my hair is similar to the lady in the video, only short. My grey and brown is evenly distributed and hairdressers say it’s pretty.

YES to silver hair! Thank you for sharing your message! I have had grey/silver hair for more than 25 years. I love my silver hair and I Am proud of it.

I’m all over the place with growing out my gray and I need encouragement. Thank you!

The best thing I have learned is that I can read (rarely every someone in person) a negative comment about the way I look and kind of laugh it off and know that person is dealing with how me being gray make THEM feel. It's never really about my gray at all.

I have loved my grey hair from the beginning (in my midt twentieth). When I was 40 it was half and half gray/ dark brown, and all over silver, when I was 50. I have never dyed my hair. But yes: When I am travelling in Italie or France people are looking at me. I often ask my husband: Do I have mascara under my eyes, or icecream on my nose? But he always say: No, it's your silver hair, you are the only person with gray hair. Now I'm 60, and people are still looking at me. Let them, I love my hair, and my husband likes it too. He says: No matter how many people there are, I can always find you.

Nikol, if my friends have supported my decision to go with the grey -but my husband did and teenage son did! It gave me the strength to carry on. Also finding people like showing you can be grey, and fabulous!

Going silver was the best decision I made! I love my hair and I get compliments on it from men and women. Nikole is absolutely correct in everything she says. The transition was difficult but worth it!

Wonderful video. I do get compliments from men more than women. I think there is still that myth that when a woman goes gray she's somehow given up . When that is so untrue. When we go silver, salt and pepper or ombre it opens up a whole new color palette for clothes and,makeup 🥰🥰🥰

I need this so badly. I'm trying really hard and you are so inspiring and make me want to take more care of my skin and really get some confidence!! Thank you for this challenge!

I’m in my Gray hair journey. Love how powerful this video is. Thank you!

i went 70 percent gray in my early 30's...colored it until i realized i was only trying to look "average" and then...quit the color...now in my 60's and retired, i work part-time to get out of the house working retail. my hair is silver, got it cut into a pixie, lost 50 pounds from not sitting in endless meetings and the comment i get from women is "your hair is so pretty, but, I don't think i could pull it off" YES, you can. one less thing to maintain and timeline...find a good looking hairstyle and just do it. it not only gives you power, it gives you freedom.

Great power video. It helped very much. Turning a new corner of life today. Staying gray, age 60. Have a beautiful butterfly day. Confidence. ❤️🦋🙏

I have always felt this way: I want others to feel better after spending time together. THANK YOU for the reminder!!

I like what you said "I want people leaving my presence feeling better". That is so positive and we all need positive encouragement and to help build up people. It goes full circle.....you feel better, too! Thank you, Nikol!!

I colored my hair at quite a cost for 25 years but not until I let it go silver, which took close to two years, did I get at least one complement every single time I was around other women! Now, Nikol, I will say this - it has to be the right gray hair - don’t you think? Healthy and thick being important, I think. I love it so much! Thank you.

Thank you for all this positive information. I used to color my hair, highlight it, every thing to cover my silver-grey. About four years ago I got tired of spending so much time at the salon, not to mention the cost. Decided to let everything go and embrace the change. I LOVE it, I LOVE the silver-grey and do everything to show it off. The streaks of silver-grey are beautiful. It’s been a journey to experiment with different makeup shades, eye shadows, blush and lipsticks. My journey has been beautiful and fun. Thank you for sharing yours 💜💜

I appriciate your attitude of feeling confident with your grey hair. You are such a beauty.

I love your message! Being a woman is such an honor, in my opinion. When I decided I was finished with the monthly ritual of coloring 'my roots' that is when I literally reclaimed my inner strength. It sounds a bit odd, I know, yet it is true. The hairstylist I had been going to for upward of 15yrs was not supportive, so I found a new one. I learned a lot about myself thru the transition and made the best of the opportunity. It was so liberating! I can honestly say that I think my natural hair is the prettiest, the most healthy it has ever been. It's vibrant, soft, and has so much natural body. I actually use less product these days.

I really needed to hear this today Love the book referrals 🌸🌼🌺🍁

I love how kind you are to others who may be different from you!! Women tell me oh, I love your hair! Interestingly, none of them are going grey!!! It is an honor to get older and reach back to younger women and share your journey! Shame on the shakers! You go girl!!!

My word but you hit the nail on the head with all of your inspirational videos! Seriously, thank you so much for giving us all the strength to move forward in this gray hair adventure!!

Good advice. I’ve let my hair turn grey and love it. About all the blonde is gone. Now working on the cut. Good advice and attitude. Thumbs up!

Because of you, I stopped dying my hair and plucking eyebrows. Thank you, beautiful lady 💕🌹

You nailed it with this one!!! So true, in all respects... Thank you for being you and sharing with all of us!

I decided to take really great care of my skin and fitness when I went silver. Men compliment my hair. Women compliment my skin.

Thank you so much for all your positive advice Nikol. I am almost 11 months in and had to stop coloring due to an auto immune disorder but I recently posted on your FB group and I have to tell you what a wonderful page you have. The women are so generous and supportive, it's really an amazing thing to be part of. You are beautiful inside and out!!

I cut my hair short and love it. The grey come through easily after 8 months of trims - lockdown helped. Then I had a wobble and bleached it myself! Those toxic thoughts....you look old, you look like your mum, you have given in ...they got me! Now after the hairdresser got me blonde and repaired the chicken little look I gave myself I am letting the grey come through again. You are always my go to person when I need a boost, you express the vulnerabilities we all share. Thank you

Thank you so much for being so positive about aging! We need more people like you!!

Oh my word. You are so right every time I walked into a room I always got a compliment, people telling me that my hair was so beautiful! It gave me lots of confidence! I always fixed myself up, and my hair was the center piece the talk of the town; you might say! I walked with confidence! I just love my hair! 💜👩🏼‍🦳 Thank you Nickol 💜

Thank you again, for another great video of being positive in life and excepting the change in ourselves. You are my inspiration. Well said dear Nikol....stay safe. Lots of love from Sydney 🙋‍♀️🤗💜💋

Saw this at the right time. At the end of March I made the plunge. I decided to cut my hair super short in order to shorten the “skunk” phase. Now I am dealing with thick, wavy hair that is growing out. I feel like I went from looking striking (very dark hair with very light skin) to “washed out.” I’m learning that I have to change my makeup somewhat and modify my wardrobe a little. I do get compliments on my salt and pepper hair color, but it feels weird. So I’ll keep watching your videos; they really do help.

I really needed to hear this today Nikol, thank you!

I receive a lot of complements on my gray hair. It s great , practice makes perfect. It’s a new Journey, a new you! Feel Proud an Happy!

Thanks for another positive message, Nikol. Being an encourager is one of your gifts!

Think of all the people that don’t get the opportunity to see their grey hair. I feel blessed beyond measure. I have been grey since 2023-25. I have never dyed my grey hair. It is still salt and pepper. Loving it. Black woman, natural, and grey. Living my life. P.S. my honey loves it.🥰

Oh Nikol I needed this video today! I'm at 13 months in my gray journey and I was feeling so sorry for myself and needed to hear this message! Thank you so much!

Gray or silver hair sets you apart and makes you "different". Dying your hair makes you pretty much the same as everyone else. Picture Nikol with her hair dyed a dark brown or black. NO!

I rock my grays.. I've developed my unique style and it works for me..Attitude is everything!!! Love you new vlog. You are gorgeous!!!

Great message! Thank You for your Honesty! You Go Girl!

Nicole, I am 71 and have been salt and pepper since I was in my late 40's. I wound up becoming allergic to hair dye so I just made the decision to stop coloring. I can't tell you how many compliments I get on my hair color. Your positive message is so encouraging, and I try to encourage others to just embrace the change. Thank you!!

This made my eyes water a little (in a good way!) Fantastic message. Gray is a Power Move, Confidence and an HONOR will be on sticky notes where I can see them! THANK YOU!!!

I left watching your video feeling BETTER! Thank you, Nikol!!!! I am very grateful for you & your positive messages/energy.

I tried it. Grew my hair out for three years and did a wild thing a few months ago. I decided I want color again. I love it! I won't be going back to grey till I feel ready again. This talk is so important to have. Beautifully done, Nikol. TY!!!

I am going through the grey transformation now and honestly im excited. I look in the mirror everyday and think, YES!!! I see more grey coming through. Thank you for your encouragement and btw your grey looks amazing.

Nikol you have mentioned every point in this video of the journey that growing gray is about. I never thought in my wildest that I would, but I prayed about it, I have a great friend/hairdresser that is helping me through this journey and my family is very supportive. Yes, there are so so days but I get through those with a bit of makeup and color. I have been dye-free since February of this year. Will keep you posted. Thank you for your uplifting words and support.

I am a natural blonde. My colorist/stylist is a brunette. January of 2020, I was overdue for “highlights” because I did have my natural blonde highlighted and she even put in dark strips for contrast. Anyway, I was overdue when social isolation began (I was also the only client she had to remind to come in for my regular 8-12 week appointment because I am a natural blonde and I’d either forget or get busy :)) and I was also noticing silver coming through on top. But she had already been telling me that my silver was coming in “gracefully” and while I love that word and description, I had NO clue what that meant. So she said, Well let me tell you what it’s like when it comes in UNgracefully. So, long story short, I felt blessed to be beginning a relatively easy transition first, due to social isolation and salons shut down for awhile, and also being blonde it’s all in the same family. By the way she doesn’t even say “gray” - she says it’s not a hair “hue”. She says silver, platinum, blonde, dark, even almost black, in some cases, are hues. I began to be just fascinated with it! I couldn’t go into a salon anyway...and I was home anyway...my hair began to grow and grow and the platinum began to just amaze me. I started using a purple shampoo recommended by her, and I love the color. Everyone does. I really believe it is a POWER PLAY. I believe that men love the confidence it gives off and women are totally and completely INTIMIDATED by the display of confidence and POWER this choice screams at them. Thank you Nikol for preaching it. Ladies, if you have negative nellies in your life, (you know women already intimidated by your confidence and power and who hope to mess with it) this will in-your-face them like no other move. You know why? Because...they...couldn’t...do...it...and the fact that you can...well...YOU are the winner. I don’t even mean to be mean. I mean YOU be YOU and let THEM be THEM and love every one in spite of their bad behavior. ❤️

Everything you say is true to the tenth power. I have been grey for 20 years this year and for me, it truly was a power move and it absolutely has paid unimagined benefits! Keep up your positive messaging. It's SO important and thank you for all you do to build women up!

I fully agree. I am 52. I’ve had gray hair since I was 27 and have colored it since. With the pandemic I dyed it in February 2020 and during lockdown the gray started showing of course and I actually liked the color! With your videos I got inspired and took the plunge. By July 2020 I was almost all gray, of course I always have it short. As you say men come up to me and just compliment me. A few of my women friends have told me, very lovingly to dye it red again but I won’t. I just love my gray! Thank you for being an inspiration

Nikol....your gray hair is lovely! Thank you for being such an inspiration to so many...

Thank you so much for this video it was so much needed here 🤍, I have 46 weeks without dying my hair. This morning I was feeling down but this video of yours reminded me what is all this about ❤️ blessings

I love that your talking about this! It is so helpful & every bit of this is truthful!

I’m 47 and in December 2018 I stopped foiling my hair. I then cut it short to raise money for leukaemia research in March this year and now I have a short bob with platinum highlights!

Thank you - it’s been a journey for sure! I’ve gone back & forth with myself- WHY are you doing this- like REALLY? Because I CAN and I don’t want to be a slave to conforming to the expectation of some others opinions! I’m 62- I love my skin looking healthy with or without make up- I am enjoying the gray slowly changing and I’m always learning how to keep the yellow under control! I do agree it’s a POWER play!

I am fortunate enough to have 3 children who have embraced my grey hair. Their opinion means far more than that of any stranger acquaintance. I am 51 and was tired of spending money on coloring every three weeks. I would rather have a great cut and healthy hair. It is harder when I am pale but once I get a little makeup on I always feel better.

The best that i heard since I turned 59 and gray. Thanks Nikol

Thx for cheering us on.

I have been grey & natural for almost 3 years and have never regretted it, but actually love it. Your hair is absolutely beautiful

I will be 51 Dec 8th I've dyed my hair many of years but seems like my hair grows so fast that my whites showed really fast...I decided last night to cut off my hair and go with my whites ..I want to feel confident like you are ..I love the way you doll up your hair makes you so viberant and beautiful....you are an inspiration to women ..thank you

A few months before quarantine I had decided to test going without hair color because I knew a couple of friends at my church did that and it turned out beautiful. I had noticed my roots were now white instead of the dull gray. So my hairstylist went a shade lighter to help the contrast of roots to not be so great. The next time I went to salon, she just did all over highlights and that was right before quarantine. Then when we weren’t allowed to go to salons, my hair was continuing to grow out. The first time I went back to the salon this summer it was looking so good. I’ve only been getting trims. I began getting so many compliments. I love the variations of color almost every wash. It still has halfway to go . I originally thought I would get it cut short at some point in order to cut off the “leftover” color but it’s blended so well. Plus I’ve also let my bangs grow out and I have such a good stylist who knows how to shape it for framing my face. The texture of my white hair is soft and shiny which was not true of my colored hair. I love it and on our zoom meetings friends are always commenting how pretty it is. No one has ever commented on my hair before this - ever. I look at former photos with the brown hair and it even ages me. Today I look younger. Blessings!

i cannot believe anyone would say something negative about your hair ..........that says everything about them you have been the number 1 encourager for me to plunge into the decision to go silver. :) i'm about 15 months into it and half way there. without you I couldn't have done it! huge hugs and thank yous forever! :)

This is the best video I have come across concerning going gray (and I feel like I've watched millions). You are an amazing influencer, I am so glad I found this video, I am a new subscriber for sure. You are real, and so inspiring, thank you for making this video!!!!

Such a powerful and inspiring video, Nikol! ♥ I have been growing out my gray since last November, and I'm loving it. It's coming in kind of a dark ashy shade with blondish streaks (I'm a natural redhead). So happy to finally have my authentic hair color coming back again after decades of coloring. I also love the long transition time, gives me a chance to really get used to it.

Such a powerful, honest and beautiful message for all of us today. Thank you.

I am 56 yrs. old. After 25+ yrs of coloring my hair and I've been working from home since March 2020, I decided to stop coloring my hair to see just how much gray I have. I figured if I don't like the gray, I can go back to coloring it. I was getting my hair cut in a pixie to help accelerate getting my hair to its natural state of color. As of two months ago, my hair is now in its natural state and the salt & pepper mixture in my hair looks very similar to yours, Nikol. I am LOVING my gray hair!! I purchased a "purple" shampoo by Matrix that I have been using once weekly, to help ward off any yellowing to my gray. I should have done this years ago!

I love that ur doing this. So happy ladies ahead of me are talking about aging gracefully. I'm not grey and not sure if I'll do it like you did, if at all,, but I'm glad ur there to look to.

This is a great vlog, and i agree with everything she says. Went grey or should i say platinum over my natural color light brown. And yes I had several hairdressers tell me not to think about going back to highlights. This is a god given gift of natural highlights. Yes, it took me a long time to get use to it, and yes I most likely look my age. Family members tell me I look old, however I have had many many people tell me how beautiful my hair is and ask me if its all natural. One lady followed me around in a store, and finally she says you hair is awesome and it is your natural hair right? She told me she was afraid to say anything at first because she said its so pretty, but thought it was a wig! Thank you Nikol you look beautiful!