ONE YEAR Without Smartphones. Are we going back?

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Today we are unpacking all the details about how neither of us have had a smart phone in our home for a year now! Since we have gone to completely dumb phones, we have had to change a lot of things. Today we will break down exactly how we do that, especially the question we get so often, “how are you guys online without a smart phone?”
The first six months, it was an inconvenience to not have smart phones. Our biggest reason was because all of our systems for our whole life were based on having a smart phone. That was how we lived our life, so when you take that all away, we didn’t have any new systems. Since this year of developing new systems, we haven’t been in a situation where we thought we desperately needed a smart phone. When we have been more prepared, it has eliminated so much stress in our lives than having to do everything on the fly. Ultimately, our lives have become a lot more efficient, productive and peaceful.
Being smart phone free has been one of the best decisions of our life. It has enhanced our quality of life in such a way that it’s hard for us to fully express. It also has made the quality of whatever thing we are doing at home or with friends and family at the moment far greater. Honestly, trading the noise of something always being there, has opened up more room for thinking, silence, praying, meditating and memorizing Scripture, as well as just processing. Our level of intentionality and the ability to be so much more deliberate has increased so much!
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TimeStamps:
00:00-2:34 - Intro
2:34-4:55 - How Do You Document Family Life?
4:55-8:32 - How Do You Navigate without GPS?
8:32-12:34 - How Do You Travel?
12:34-15:03 - How Do You Keep Up With Friends?
15:03-18:28 - What Do You Do Without Apps?
18:28-24:37 - How Are You On Social Media?
24:37-26:01 - How Do You Stay Informed?
26:01-27:26 - How Did You Start?
27:26-28:54 - Closing

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@safiyyab Жыл бұрын

Is there another video coming with your mom? I benefited so much from her videos as a stay at home, homeschooling mom.

@AN-jw2oe Жыл бұрын

Me too, I miss seeing Big Ski Family video content! But I sure am glad that they have kept their old videos available still, so encouraging and edifying. :)

@cbbaby2012 Жыл бұрын

Why have they not been posting? Their examples are greatly needed!

@catgeel264 Жыл бұрын

We kind of found a middle ground that works well for us. We still use our smartphones, but have deleted all apps that make us use it in a consuming way. So no browser, no social media, no time sucking apps. We do keep our messaging apps as we don't have good replacements and are not willing to give up on that line of communication, and practical apps like route planners, public transort and our banking (which we need a smartphone for anyways as there is no desktop-only option). However, because we cut out on all distractions, we use our phones only a few times a day so even the messaging apps are not distracting during in-person contact at all.

@jacquelyn9018 Жыл бұрын

We went smart phone free this summer and love it! We use a "Lightphone II." They are so simple, and the way I describe it to people is that it's an intentional way of living. There are so many things I love about being free from a smart phone. And I really love having my kids see me NOT on my phone all day. We are choosing to set the example that they can live in this world without a smartphone.... because my husband and I will never give them one. Therefore we need to practice what we believe. Thank you for your words of encouragement! Keep it up!

@andrewbowman5601 6 ай бұрын

Do you still have your light phone when you keep jumping back and forth from dumb phone to smartphone just curious if other people have the same problem

@dashanovokreshchenov8836 Жыл бұрын

My husband and I recently found y’all and my husband is so inspired to go screen free!

@Marianchiki Жыл бұрын

Hello and thank you both x super inspiring!

@hannahl1092 Жыл бұрын

I agree to all this. Working at a small town with no signal for 4 months showed me how much life is nicer and more personal without smartphones. If I needed to login in on the shared library computer it needed to be very intentional. I would love to live somewhere with no signal long term, unfortunately living in a place where majority are on screens makes it hard to find others who like "doing things" and not being on their phone or TV for all hangouts. We live as screen free family most of the time, and I am struggling as a mum to find others to form friendship with when they just want to have kids on TV or tablets. Finding a like-minded community is really becoming a stronger focus for me, lovely to find you's on KZfaq today and see inspiration. Information & documentary style videos are still great, just being mindful of how much we all watch is the balance we are all learning to navigate in these modern times.

@3ate4 Жыл бұрын

For anyone that wants to keep their smartphone, but hates the fact that apps and Google has so much access to you and your information, you can go into your settings on your phone and disable certain permissions. I had to do that with my Google account too. You can make your account so disabled that you don't allow google or any apps to access your personal info (or camera! Dont use siri!). obviously some apps need certain permissions to work properly but you can at least disable some things. It's in Google account settings, your email settings, and phone settings. In your phone settings, go to permissions and it will list the apps you have and you should be able to disable some permissions there. Also, don't accept cookies on websites. Every website has them now. Most websites will give you the option to click on "preferences" when the cookies notice pops up and you can disable marketing and sale of personal info there... Most of the time. I avoid websites that don't give me that option to disable sale of my personal info. Hope that helps!

@homeschoolmom779 Жыл бұрын

You've inspired me so much. 3 days ago I deactivated Instagram, tik tok, snap chat and fb. I keep messenger for work group and KZfaq but I don't watch any TV. I am ordering the little house series and lots more books to start reading to my family instead. Can't wait to get started. Thank you 😊

@nowthatimamother Жыл бұрын

No way! This is so amazing to hear! Way to go!!!

@homeschoolmom779 Жыл бұрын

@mirela I completely understand. It's not easy. I'm just gonna try to stay as busy as possible. It's during idle time that I struggle the most. I work part time and homeschool my three boys so I definitely have alot to do. I'm also reading through the Bible again and that helps some during idle time.

@danief929 Жыл бұрын

Now, this is motivation.

@danief929 Жыл бұрын

@mirela same, it's like I'm going in circles

@selinee13 Жыл бұрын

Same! I homeschool my boys and have a baby girl as well as work, so I try to keep busy and delete by social media. Only have messenger and on KZfaq sometimes for gardening and learning purposes.

@erinc9672 Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for sharing!! This is inspiring!!

@jessicablakely6802 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for your wholesome content. As someone who is 26 and very excited to be a mom and homemaker, your videos inspire me SO MUCH. I have so much joy looking forward to cultivating a healthy and connected family. Thank you for sharing the wisdom that your mom gave you, and you have gained from motherhood!

@hartleyfamily5451 Жыл бұрын

We use Gabb phones in our home, they work like a Smart phone with no internet or social media. After breaking up with the iPhone I used a flip phone for several years but had to replace it 1-2 times a year (breakage, reduction in hearing, voice quality, etc.). We also bought a GPS system for a car :)

@michaelwiebe4282 Жыл бұрын

Love your channel! May God bless You!

@SDWits Жыл бұрын

You two are admirable (and a gorgeous couple). While I have been using my smart phone less lately, I wouldn't have the will power to go without a smartphone.

@ashley.hulsey Жыл бұрын

Wow! I am all about restricting certain apps and limiting screen time with set time limits. I commend you all for sure! With kids in tons of activities that all use apps (not email) for games practices, etc., apps that result in efficiency (mobile order, grocery orders, etc.) that require check ins like Kroger and Target, and always listening to podcasts/audiobooks while driving/doing chores/etc. would make this more cumbersome for me. But, I think this is great that you all have been able to do this!

@amyguzman1525 Жыл бұрын

When I had my first child in 2011 I decided to delete Facebook and go social media free.. it has been a wonderful journey. I find myself talking to people more when I'm out and intentionality meeting new people..I remember the days when people used to talk to one another more in waiting rooms..I miss the good old days before smart phones and social media

@madamekrista Жыл бұрын

Thank you! You answered all my questions about going to a dumb phone :)

@tibby24 Ай бұрын

Love this guys!

@elizathies6303 Жыл бұрын

All those hoping to switch to a dumphone should check out the WisePhone. It's a "smart phone" that only has text, calls, camera, and GPS. All of the necessities without any of the temptations!

@jessicacarlson347 Жыл бұрын

The Lord is definitely using y’alls content. I have felt called to have an online presence but have been hesitant because of the the exact issues you’ve listed. Thank you for outlining how it CAN be done in a much more God glorifying way. Thank you for the inspiration!

@S_1490 Жыл бұрын

Any plans for an in-depth homeschool video please? In a previous video you said your style is a mix of Charlotte mason and classical. I would absolutely love to know how you implement that/ curriculum used/ routines especially with little ones. Thank you ❤

@livingthefruitfullife654 Жыл бұрын

good info, but how do you deal with all the apps you're present on... instagram, fb, youtube etc. answering folks or reading comments etc. even posting your work, recording your work? interesting...and i loved that you posted your evening routine. my husband and i did the same. so thankful. wishing for more of a routine back now that they are older... it's hard to keep the patterns!

@sb-rb4ti Жыл бұрын

Why did you get rid of the Light phone? Thanks for sharing your smartphone-free journey!

@camibohn1017 Жыл бұрын

Hi!! So curious, what phone provider and phone do you guys use? Did you get them directly from them provider? Thanks!! That's what keep holding me back.

@Dreaming0fSunshine Жыл бұрын

literally been contemplating doing this since your podcast about it but it’s so hard to take the jump . did you guys keep a smart phone just for the apps on wifi for work or do you only use a desktop now?

@westdellarosecreations9827 Жыл бұрын

I was just talking to my mom this morning about how yall have inspired be to finally pull the plug and go screen free on all forms. My husband is stuck to his phone 24/7, or the TV with ungodly stuff.. so any advice for that I'd love!

@juliequates9529 Жыл бұрын

Are yall involved in a church? This seems like a great thing that he could discuss with an elder or have other good influences.

@REBEC65 Жыл бұрын

Bonjour de France - HAving been educated in India with blessed parents I feel blessed to watch your videos. Have pulled out from everything myself and it’s’ that much more time for reading Gods word and going for mass and looking out for the old aged with Little Bros of the poor in France. I like the idea of enjoying the sharing without taking into account what we get back . Stay blessed and welcome to Paris anytime🎉

@justbeemama697 Жыл бұрын

I would love to know what systems you have created to help it go easier. We are having a hard time adjusting as well.

@veronicaandrde3693 11 ай бұрын

Hi there guys, my husband and I just found you a few weeks ago and have been loving your videos. It is so encouraging and refreshing to see the male and female Godly perspective on a lot of your topics and so we wanted to request a video on how you guys talk to your boys about purity. The fact that your kids being so YOUNG were able to open up to you guys about how they either looked away quickly or looked for a little longer when they saw those girls with little clothes was just so beautiful to us. We would love to hear how you guys plant that seed on them and present those subjects to them in this time where promiscuity is found EVERYWHERE! We would love to hear how your husband specifically is able to relate to them in that sense as well as how you play a role as their mother on relating to them afar from displaying modesty in your own home.

@brittneyrussell1766 Жыл бұрын

For years I've wanted to get rid of my smart phone. The problem is we don't have internet where we live so I have to have my phone for homeschool, banking, gps, recipes, etc. I am thankful to hear how y'all manage things without one. Maybe one day.

@Ptly Жыл бұрын

How do you mange your feeling around the KZfaq analytics?

@lovingsunshine3515 Жыл бұрын

For me smartphones are not exactly the problem. It’s how we use it. I’ve never had Instagram and just deactivated Facebook. I find it very useful especially when we’re travelling and we want to find out what restaurants and hotels are around the area that we’re passing through. I also work at the school and we use a certain app for quick communication with the parents and one just for the school staff if there’s changes or something that has come up.

@yola6139 Жыл бұрын

as a 20year old whos lived half a year without instagram or tiktok I have to say that there is no negative side to it that even comes a little close to the benifits... that you miss out on something valuable is not true and its just not the platform to be beneficial for educational purposes

@Dom-jb3pi Жыл бұрын

Hi there, I can’t seem to find your video on infant sleep training.

@kendratai Жыл бұрын

When we were in college, we faced some financial hard times and had to cut expenses. We had flip phones and paid cash for them. We still pay a monthly plan but own our phones. I would totally go back to flip phone, I'm not sure my husband would lol

@modelingmotherhood Жыл бұрын

Did they mention what phone they use ? Thanks !

@TwiFiveGirls101 7 ай бұрын

Would you be able to make a poster with visuals or how you replaced certain systems in your life away from apps/smartphones. I would like to still listen to audiobooks and podcasts. Is there away to do that on the go or around the house without smartphones?

@jaydenicole4063 Жыл бұрын

In this world, especially as a woman. I feel you should always have a phone! But I do want to say that Instagram, Tiktok, Facebook, Snapchat are just TOXIC! Social media really consumes people for years and some don’t even see it.

@haleyjmorris Жыл бұрын

Yes! Def feel like a victim in some sense. Like I wouldn't have even had certain thoughts or signed up for certain things if I wouldn't have been on social media! I'm ready to go smart phone free and just use my laptop and wifi. What kind of phones do you have?

@lisapitts9518 Жыл бұрын

We have never had a smart phone. We live in Florida, my daughter lives in Seattle, when we went out there for her wedding we used Mapquest and printed everything we needed. No need for a smart phone in our home.

@cirelo1896 Жыл бұрын

I was smartphone free for a while and I had a trac phone i would just buy a small amount of data for when i traveled in order to have that convenience.

@BBunch9 Ай бұрын

Our biggest struggle is the bank app. We keep all our money in a separate account without a card assigned to it and move the money to our debit card after shopping (we calculate the cost as we go through the store) to pay right away.

@cbbaby2012 Жыл бұрын

What about banking or paying something online? I guess just use a computer. I guess I get caught up with thinking no smart phone with no computer at all but I guess that’s not the case it’s just taking away the instant gratification/action ,impulse, if you will aspect of technology and more of an intentional mindset.

@momoflittleladies Жыл бұрын

Why do you use a laptop when you could use a tablet/iPad? Are you against them to? Would seem easier when traveling, especially if it had Wi-Fi already. My husband has a smart phone and keeps apps off it, you can even turn safari off on an iPhone. He doesn’t use it much, even when I need him 😂

@TheTexasBoys Жыл бұрын

Maybe the happy medium for some people could be to have a smart phone only for traveling or for people who do need a smart phone only for home internet...use it only for that and have a dumb phone as you daily user. Keep the smart phone locked away in a closet🥳👍

@hannahl1092 Жыл бұрын

That's right, to treat it like a mini laptop/gps and not a daily device to check all the time.

@bethany3914 Жыл бұрын

One of the issues that I have is how to connect with other homeschool local families... All local groups are either on Facebook or WhatsApp. It's exhausting to have to keep up but because all the info is on there, I struggle to see an alternative.

@juliequates9529 Жыл бұрын

You can use your laptop for Facebook use?

@samanthaborlaug8854 Жыл бұрын

I was going g to say for maps the light phone has a map option, the light phone is a great alternative to get rid of a smartphone but have a few blessings of having some connection

@jennifer61122 Жыл бұрын

Hi, Can you listen to podcasts on it?

@samanthaborlaug8854 Жыл бұрын

You can download music, don't know about podcasts though

@hannahmcmillan5712 Жыл бұрын

For the last few months, I've been subscribing to a physical newspaper, the Epoch Times (I highly recommend this publication! They are very investigative on world events.). I wanted my kids to see me off of my phone more, but I still wanted to know what is going on in the world. It has actually provided more discussion with them about world events and gives us opportunities to discuss them from a Biblical standpoint while they are still young. I still read the news on my phone sometimes, but it's like eating fast food as opposed to the 5 course meal that I get from reading the physical newspaper. It costs more, but I'm trying to set and example, and know about topics more deeply.

@BarbaraAnnB-yi5ew Жыл бұрын

I didn't have a smart phone until 2019 and I miss my flip phone. I'm in my mid 30s and hate these stupid phones.

@suestephan3255 Жыл бұрын

That is something to be in your mid 30’s and 3 yers ago got a smart phone.

@meganarcher4886 Жыл бұрын

Can you still use WhatsApp online? All our family/church/school chats are on WhatsApp so we’d struggle to communicate with people. Any tips as I hate having a smartphone!

@jmljasmine Жыл бұрын

I appreciate not having Instagram exclusive content. I don't want Instagram but so many KZfaqrs really try to force it.

@laurenrasmussen7997 Жыл бұрын

I want to do this!!!! But I love using Instacart for grocery pick up.....

@bunny_0288 Жыл бұрын

You can use Instacart on a computer!

@SamanthaH Жыл бұрын

What type of smartphone do you have?,

@rachelsnyder2427 10 ай бұрын

Just switched to a flip phone. I get group messages to my email now... can I respond to everyone in the group message with my email? I'm having trouble figuring that part out.

@brookenicoley90 Жыл бұрын

I went smart phone free for a couple years and just last month went back to a smart phone and I kept complaining of a sore neck and thought it was my pillow then realized it's from looking down at my (smart) phone!!!

@juliequates9529 Жыл бұрын

Why did you go back to a smart?

@brookenicoley90 Жыл бұрын

@@juliequates9529 I think mostly just to see if I could not be distracted by having it, but also I missed taking pictures and the convenience of having one - GPS, looking things up while out and about, being able to scan things on my phone etc. But to be honest, the hassle of not having a smart phone is worth the extra presence to my family. I will probably go back to a basic phone - I am not as distracted as I use to be but it's still pretty distracting.

@juliequates9529 Жыл бұрын

@@brookenicoley90 thanks so much. I use my phone for so much. Photos, banking,GPS, bible study, podcasts etc. I want to start moving some of those tasks off my phone and slowly start stepping back. Thanks for the reply!

@brookenicoley90 Жыл бұрын

@@juliequates9529 you should! With each little step, you'll see a blessing unfold. You don't have to do anything extreme! I am sure the Lord will guide you for what fits right for you and your family :)

@SimplyLivingInFaith Жыл бұрын

Not to be nosy, but do you guys live on the west coast ? I would love to live there ❤.

@nowthatimamother Жыл бұрын

We used to! A couple years ago we moved to Idaho. :)

@SimplyLivingInFaith Жыл бұрын

@@nowthatimamother ooh that's so awesome !

@AN-jw2oe Жыл бұрын

Really great concept! What if you keep a smart phone just for the utilitarian purposes (like google maps or checking flight info and Uber and camera), but then just delete all social media, podcast/media and even email apps? Could that be a good balance?

@catgeel264 Жыл бұрын

Yeah, that's what we did and it works pretty good for us! We need one for banking (two-factor authorization) anyway. We also kept messaging apps. I find that I'm now using my phone for about 1 hour a day, including phonecalls (which have become way more frequent and I love that!). I also find that I'm grabbing my phone only a couple of times a day, mostly when the kids are in bed, so it's no longer a distraction. Yay!

@AN-jw2oe Жыл бұрын

@@catgeel264 Wow, great to hear-thanks for sharing!!

@samanthab5006 Жыл бұрын

KZfaq is the only app on my phone where I've found myself wasting time. We haven't used Facebook, Instagram, tictok, etc since we started dating almost 8 years ago. I'm currently pregnant with our first and thinking of just removing the app from my phone. I have a laptop and we have one smart TV that I can use but these are things I already do not use often. I've deleted it from my phone in the past and find after a day or so I don't pick up my phone much during the day. I just need to make it stick this time.

@emilygracephotographer 8 ай бұрын

PLEASE!! I neeeed to know what kind of flip phones you have!!

@laurenrasmussen7997 Жыл бұрын

Where do you even get a dumb phone and what providers work?

@hartleyfamily5451 Жыл бұрын

We had Consumer Cellular (which we loved!) and purchased compatible phones at Target. We now have Gabb phones which have no internet or social media; they are not expensive with a low monthly fee. Call your carrier and they will let know where to purchase compatible phones :)

@rachellanden729 Жыл бұрын

I’d love to know if you miss Google maps?

@bethany3885 Жыл бұрын

I have been looking into going without a smart phone when I tried switching to a dumb phone 2 years ago the slow texting was too annoying for me. I am looking into Gabb wireless right now it looks like a smart phone but has no internet or social media have you guys heard of that before? If it had gps that would be a bonus for me but not a necessity. Like Elisha was saying I would love to use my free alone time praying or meditating on the Lords word without the temptation to fill the time with podcasts or even Christian KZfaq I spend more time hearing about the Lord then intentionally spending time with Him!

@elizathies6303 Жыл бұрын

Check out the WisePhone! Has text, call, GPS, and camera. All the essentials without any of the temptations :)

@bethany3885 Жыл бұрын

@@elizathies6303 Thank you so much!!

@mattandcatherine5302 Жыл бұрын

What phone do y’all have and do they work with any plan? Probably a dumb question;)

@CatladyActionFigure Жыл бұрын

They have lite phone. Gabb phones r apparently simular. They posted info below title. Good luck🙂🍀👍

@saintamerican6105 6 ай бұрын

Most ppl i know are possessed by their phones, including me, thank you for this video!

@rorydiane6728 9 ай бұрын

My husband came to me with the conviction of getting rid of our smartphones and going to dumb phones not too long ago. Since then we've switched over, and life has been so much better honestly. We are more intentional together, more social, we spend our time together more wisely, we spend more time in the Word of God... there are almost no cons that can't be solved with a little ingenuity. The "cons" are also almost always related to conveniences that come with smart phones

@katietsykal4053 Жыл бұрын

Haha back to 2010!

@elizabethbrink476 Жыл бұрын

If I get rid of my smart phone…how will I watch your content? 🤔 we don’t have a computer. This will be interesting….

@EyreEver Жыл бұрын

Smart tv has a KZfaq app etc.

@melindabiddy7165 Жыл бұрын

Do you have books or a video on how to improve your marriage?

@aletteanne1 Жыл бұрын

I think I'd just keep an old iPhone just for travelling by plane

@turquoismama33 Жыл бұрын

Going without a smart phone is a very beneficial trial and tribulation. What other trial and tribulations are you dealing with, beside being a spouse, parent and living with one car?

@steveguffey6481 Ай бұрын

Go back to 2024 may

@RS-ck5md 9 ай бұрын

Don't most people watch KZfaq from their mobile phones now? Kind of ironic (or maybe even a bit hypocritical) that you are touting a smart-phone free lifestyle when you depend on people watching your videos and engaging with your content from their smart phones. It would be interesting if you made a video where you share the analytics report from your channel so your subscribers can see just how many of your views come from mobile phones and then discuss how you feel about that as an anti-smartphone couple.

@TwiFiveGirls101 7 ай бұрын

KZfaq existed before smartphones. I used to watch the majority of KZfaq on the family computer as a kid. They never said others should ne smartphone free. Its just for their _household._