"Is it weird that I would secretly really like to be diagnosed with something??" aka 24

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1. Hey Kati, is it weird that I would secretly really like to be diagnosed with something?? I’ve been struggling mentally for about 8 months...
2. I see my therapist once a week, but after each session I find myself already longing for the next session because it feels so nice to talk to her. The 6 days in between appointments feels like forever! Is this a sign of good therapy, or an unhealthy attachment? Does it mean I should ask for more support? What do you recommend I do in between sessions to keep myself from feeling this way?
3. In what way are therapists 'responsible' for you? If you commit suicide or homicide, how can they investigate how much you told your therapist about your plans?
4. Hi Kati, is it normal to feel abandoned/rejected when your therapist has to cancel a session? Recently we had a hurricane in NJ and the power was out for days which is why the session was cancelled. Even though I know the cancellation had nothing to do with me, I still feel a sense of rejection. Is this normal?
5. Hey Kati! I have been diagnosed with GAD for a while. Whenever I’m trying to concentrate, whether it’s reading something, or trying to do school, my brain won’t stop thinking about things, which then leads to me not being able to focus and potentially panicking or feeling on edge a lot. Is this just my anxiety, or could it be something else causing my lack of focus? (comment: Kati, maybe you could also talk about whether medication could help improve focus. I’m in therapy, never really considered medication, but my lack of focus is making it impossible to do what I need to each day.)
6. Do you think it can be traumatizing to hit a child for discipline?
7. Hi Kati. How can I avoid building an unhealthy relationship with my therapist? I decided to try out therapy and I've been pouring my heart out to him. The thing is, I'm afraid of getting too attached to that person and having a hard time trying to get...
8. Hi Kati, I hope you're doing great. I wanted to ask you how to bring the topic of sex to my therapist and how to better deal with it. I was sexually assaulted by my...
9. Hi Kati! Will dissociation always be a part of my life? Considering that it’s a coping skill that I honed since childhood, and that showers is the only grounding technique that works 95% of the time (bless the water bill) which is...
10. Hey Kati, I told a friend that I struggle with self harm and an eating disorder. At the moment things are really bad for me. I often see the person who abused me because of Corona. He doesn’t do anything anymore, but...
11. Hi Kati. How can I find out what I truly want? I always seek my therapist's opinion; she says it's all somewhere inside of me, but I can't see it. I always think other people know better what I need or want so...
12. Hi Kati, I fear the day that the people I care about will pass away. When I think of this, "What if I just die before they're gone, I wouldn't hurt that much." is what I tell myself. I want to stop thinking that way. What should I do?
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@nisafinnegan 3 жыл бұрын

*QUESTIONS + TIMESTAMPS* 3:08 Is it weird that I would secretly really like to be diagnosed with something? 9:55 Longing in therapy - is it a good sign or is the attachment unhealthy? 14:05 In what way are therapists 'responsible' for you? (e.g. suicide/homicide) 24:09 Feeling abandoned/rejected when your therapist has to cancel a session 29:39 Concentration problems with GAD (+ can medication help improve focus?) 39:05 Do you think it can be traumatizing to hit a child for discipline? 45:06 How can I avoid building an unhealthy relationship with my therapist? 50:18 How to bring the topic of sex to my therapist and how to better deal with it 55:52 Will dissociation always be a part of my life? 1:01:32 How do I tell my friend I've been abused? 1:05:45 How can I find out what I truly want? I always seek my therapist's opinion. 1:10:15 I fear the day that the people I care about will pass away. When I think of this, "What if I just die before they're gone, I wouldn't hurt that much." is what I tell myself. hope that was helpful! happy thursday everyonee :) Sean and Kati, i hope u guys are enjoying your vacation!

@artemkatelnytskyi 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you, legend

@nisafinnegan 3 жыл бұрын

Artem Katelnytskyi 😂❤️ you're welcome! have a good day x

@artemkatelnytskyi 3 жыл бұрын

@@nisafinnegan You sure too! 😌

@nikkimckay860 3 жыл бұрын

Nisa thank you for the time stamps with questions

@nisafinnegan 3 жыл бұрын

Nikki Mckay welcomee

@skyelyndadavy-clark3345 3 жыл бұрын

A good way to read a textbook or book with anxiety trying to concentrate, listen to the audiobook at the same time, and I like to walk around my house while I’m reading and listening and it stops me from spiralling

@toni2309 3 жыл бұрын

I think the discipline I have experienced has been traumatizing for me. It's because I never understood how to do better. I did most of my "bad behaviour" because I didn't know how to control my impulsivity, because I was trying to shield myself from sensory overload, and other stuff like that. I feared for my safety because I knew I couldn't prevent my parents from disciplining me again. I didn't understand what to do different and how to manage, I didn't even understand what I did wrong a lot of the time. Because I didn't understand, and because I didn't seem able to change it, it always felt like I was just wrong, and my parents were punishing me for being wrong.

@suzannep 3 жыл бұрын

I think when the discipline feels so unpredictable that it can cause a traumatic fear. It's a fear of further discipline and no understanding of why it is happening. Maybe it's more that we felt abused by being disciplined without understanding why. The unpredictability of the discipline left no clear way to avoid the discipline by changing our behavior. It was more about our caregivers not using discipline to train us but instead maybe to "control" us?? Discipline is just abuse when the child has no understanding of why it is happening, what is expected and how to avoid it.

@toni2309 3 жыл бұрын

I have secretly wanted to be diagnosed for so so long. I have struggled all my life, feeling so estranged from people, finding so many things hard, but no one seemed to see that there was any issue, putting the blame on me for not doing this or that. Fast foreward, therapists/psychiatrist suspect autism and adhd and I am now waiting list for diagnosis. I was also diagnosed with fructose intolerance after years of people saying that I "just" have IBS.

@clairbear1234 3 жыл бұрын

Ugh! Yes, I was just journalling about how, when you are different from the majority of people but no one recognizes it or understands it, you end internalizing it as something you need to fix or something wrong with you that you have to get to the bottom of it and it means your always kind of battling yourself to fix yourself. But having a diagnosis like Autism can give you appropriate tool to work on what you want to but more importantly just know that is what makes you who you are and it's not a symptom of some sort of defect that requires correcting.

@deannaa2297 3 жыл бұрын

Were you able to find somebody to diagnose with asd despite covid? I finally decided to actually get tested for it but I cant find anyone who tests and is seeing patients now

@toni2309 3 жыл бұрын

I was put on a waiting list way before covid, in december last year. Covid is delaying things though as they seemed to not have done testing for some time after the lockdown, but they did start again.

@deannaa2297 3 жыл бұрын

@@toni2309 thanks! I'll keep trying

@ellaheeks6985 3 жыл бұрын

Your titles and thumbnails are great kati !

@LisArgollo 3 жыл бұрын

"Is it weird to secretly really like to be diagnosed with something?" OMGGG this resignates with me so much! I sent an e-mail tô nu therapist 2 days ago talking about wanting a diagnosis to explain my shit. Thank you, Kati, I feel less weird now. Hope you guys are well!

@haisesasaki3944 3 жыл бұрын

I've always wanted to see a mental health professional so I can know what is wrong with me, what can I do and to know really that I'm not a bad crazy person. I suspected that I would be struggling with BPD. When I saw a psychiatrists a week ago, he diagnosed me with both BPD and OCPD with depression. I felt so relieved and validated. The diagonoses may seem scary but now that I have a name for them, I know I can do something about it.

@Chillingcomfy 3 жыл бұрын

Timestamps guys! Thank you, Miss Kati! Q1- 3:06 Q2- 9:55 Q3- 14:03 Q4- 24:09 Q5- 29:37 Q6- 39:05 Q7- 45:05 Q8- 50:18 Q9- 55:52 Q10- 1:01:30 Q11- 1:05:42 Q12- 1:10:13

@nikkimckay860 3 жыл бұрын

Benisse calmleth m.farmat. thanks for doing this

@minshubay6740 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for this. I've been feeling like "Am I just making this up. Am I just attention seeking? Am I just trying to find an excuse?" just because I want a diagnosis. A specific diagnosis that can explain why I'm like this because my current diagnosis couldn't. Or maybe I just didn't know that this is part of my depression/anxiety/OCD. I mean, explain it to me if you can't give me a diagnosis. Because my mind is so full of questions.

@crimsontuba1 3 жыл бұрын

I am not a parent, but I work with tons of kids. I would argue any discipline can be damaging psychologically. It's more of a matter of consistency. Hitting a child isn't really a fair form of consistency because the adult in the household doesn't also recieve that same consequence. Conversely, something like, if we don't get our work or choirs done, we don't get to go out, we don't get to play games. A consequence that affects adults too when the adult breaks the rules, set's a better example.

@saigemarie9679 3 жыл бұрын

FALSE BELIEF ALERT! Kati, your titles and thumbnails are good!! Have some confidence girl! Love your vids 💕

@rogueerised979 3 жыл бұрын

Was thinking that too. Titles & thumbnails are good. Then huh, guess even therapists have the inner critic that likes to be mean, but they push through. And still accomplish what they want.

@nikkimckay860 3 жыл бұрын

Opinions that don't matter kati and Sean have a good holiday and enjoy your time away miss you looking forward to hearing about your holiday and your return 🙂

@aramyengoyan.7325 3 жыл бұрын

Yes! So happy to watch another AKA!

@aliceg2890 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for another amazing informative video! You’re incredible 💜

@hannataiv2494 3 жыл бұрын

Hi Kati! Thanks so much for all the videos they are a great distraction whenever needed :)

@angelsimmer6415 3 жыл бұрын

Keep this coming, i've been a fan since 2014 of you and your videos ive got some mental illnesses n as a young teen you helped me majorly so thank you so much for that... keep these podcasts coming because i adore them, and you!

@SusieQ78 3 жыл бұрын

Another awesome set of answers to some great and relevant questions!!! Thanks so much 🙂

@puppys8998 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for leaving us an episode for when you’re on your trip!! I look forward to these for my own mental health journey but I’m also an MSW student in the Clinical pathway! I don’t know if you would ever teach at a university or anything but your videos really help me learn new tools and ways to approach conversations with clients. Really appreciate it, Katie! have a great and restful vacation!

@emmabeckett6451 3 жыл бұрын

I completely agree with everything you said. I also wanted to add- I just got my MSW in May and wanted to say you got this and you're gonna be an amazing social worker! Good luck with school 😀

@puppys8998 3 жыл бұрын

Emma Beckett Thank you so much! I love that you are an MSW too!!

@brimeslow2081 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you for answernig my question, finally someone with a sound explanation 🦄

@allie-5324 3 жыл бұрын

Ah thank you so so much for answering my question (1st one). I’m so relieved I was worried I’m just trying to seek attention. Thank you so so much for the advice ❤️❤️❤️

@colalein8941 3 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for answering question number 11. You are right about everything.. I have a hard time to see anything positive about myself, so I hope I can find some things I enjoy about myself.

@kaydeebug24 3 жыл бұрын

Regarding #1, the way you describe it it makes total sense!! My question is why the heck don't all therapists think about diagnosis like you do. I was almost venting to my therapist once something like why am I feeling this way I don't have x thing, then be told he had actually already diagnosed me with x thing but didn't tell me earlier. I was super surprised like why wouldn't you tell me that?? I think he was trying to be nice and to not make me feel like there was something wrong with me but it kinda did the opposite for me

@allyflynn2869 3 жыл бұрын

Your voice is SOOO soothing!!

@kanaler5924 2 жыл бұрын

Abusing a child by any means including hitting can be traumatizing in more ways than cognitively fearing for your life. It can be traumatizing to be wronged and treated unfair and be made feel like you arent worthy of being treated well.

@rogueerised979 3 жыл бұрын

Super helpful video, would pause & remind a several times. Or even just pause & think about it. I had such trouble in the beginning of therapy navigating the different kind of relationship therapy is or even talking. So these questions helped me see it in a new light.

@rinciel4999 3 жыл бұрын

Same!! I'll stop and just cry sometimes because i just feel validated hahah. Sometimes i pause to take super quick notes.

@NidusFormicarum 3 жыл бұрын

Second question: a.Yes! b. Yes, but it's not attachment to my therapist, but to "support persons" and friends. I see them as my mum.

@nikkimckay860 3 жыл бұрын

Kati Morton hello thank you for another ask kati anything podcast very helpful and important questions for the people who can relate to them no matter what questions are asked I always will watch and listen because being here in the comments is of help to me to feel calm and knowing these podcast is the place I can come to read people s comment s and a safe space because everyone here suffers from a mental health problem here and freely share there problems so it helps me feel I can share things.thank you kati you really are my favourite KZfaq health podcast and therapist you are the closes to having a therapist right now due to the virus and still unable to have any new therapy thank you 😊👍

@sharondahan2418 3 жыл бұрын

I’m totally like the question’s 12 person. When you said it could be good to consider therapy or medication I felt demoralized, I did not know it was that « bad ». But thank you for your answers 💗

@crimsontuba1 3 жыл бұрын

I was on medication for a short time in college. Doesn't help that my psychiatrist at the time was an ass. But I chose not to go back on meds. You can still make progress without it, but it definitely takes more time, effort, and determination in therapy.

@janetslater129 3 жыл бұрын

The hard thing with a diagnoses, at least for me, is wanting to find out EVERYTHING about the diagnoses. This sometimes ends up being very overwhelming, and even triggering. BTW, I was diagnosed with major depression/anxiety due to a major trauma, which caused suicidal and self-harm ideations, which led me to self-committing to a mental facility.

@milenaciaramella3524 3 жыл бұрын

I’m loving it 🔥

@NidusFormicarum 3 жыл бұрын

It easier to tell people that I have a diagnosis than to give a long exolanation why I don't manage my daily, because that is not generally accepted.

@kathrinkaefer 3 жыл бұрын

I felt like that for years. I was like, I know something is wrong with me, but I don't know what. Then I got diagnosed with autism at 28. It was not the diagnosis I was expecting but it gave me clarity and suddenly everything made sense for the first time in my life. It's not a bad thing to want answers, and it can be a good thing to keep looking until you find them. Just try not to latch onto any one thing until you can get a professional diagnosis.

@elpuerco6059 3 жыл бұрын

Yes

@keelyschemmer 3 жыл бұрын

Wow! Learning that depression and anxiety live kinda like in our frontal lobe helps me make sense of why my seizures affect my mood so powerfully. My seizures originate in the frontal lobe of my brain.

@keelyschemmer 3 жыл бұрын

If you’re reading this, Kati: Yes, yes I am still binging AKA 😆

@agelessorca 3 жыл бұрын

Book 7 of Harry Potter isn't long compared to the big Book 5! Over 900 pages

@ghostie7790 3 жыл бұрын

I think about people I love dying too. I had no idea it was connected to anxiety! It makes so uch sense... because I have GAD too. But I used to obsess over it SO MUCH. As a child I had multiple bad dreams about my twin brother dying. And some about my mom and dad dying too.. Omg I was anxious even as a child. T_T I just realized.

@kathleenwharton2139 3 жыл бұрын

I totally understand! My health suddenly broke down to the point of disability when I was 47. I went to the ER and then doctor after doctor hoping they would find Something Wrong..SO THEY COULD FIX ME! And in 30 years they could never find anything wrong with me and I would be so disappointed! Sounds so Crazy! But Now I Know..I have TMS..and I just got to do the work.

@SailorGreenTea 3 жыл бұрын

Is it surprising there is not a restaurant called screaming baby, for families with loud children to go?

@wolfferoni 3 жыл бұрын

I don't think anyone would really want to be in that restaurant, even the families with loud children. Imagine how loud it would be.

@SailorGreenTea 3 жыл бұрын

@@wolfferoni at the time of the post, I did not need to imagine it, it was like I was there.

@quincystone2380 3 жыл бұрын

Can you please make a video or something on how to submit a question?? I really need to ask a question

@ellagreen7067 3 жыл бұрын

When will your trauma book be out Kati?

@Maxxiroon 3 жыл бұрын

I was prescribed an SSRI (sertraline) for mood. It didn't help my mood but my derealization went away completely!

@janetslater129 3 жыл бұрын

I’m on Sertaline (Zoloft) as well. Depending on how long you have been on the medication, it may not have “built up” enough in your system to help with the mood. I have been on the medication since April, and it took until about a month ago until I started being on much more “even footing.”

@ryannesumbry4130 3 жыл бұрын

Looking for time stamps👀

@jennamartin5913 3 жыл бұрын

Question 1 is so me...... I want a name for things. I have cptsd, anxiety, depression and they haven’t decided about bipolar. It all has to do with lifelong medical trauma and then I lost my dad in 2011 and then 2 days ago lost my mom. I’m like what mental disorder did all this cause. I do not feel fine or good at all.

@KK-qy2hn 3 жыл бұрын

So sorry about your loss. It sounds like an overwhelming amount to deal with.

@fatimaallawati947 3 жыл бұрын

This isn't book 7 of harry potter. Hahaha actually a harry fan fan will know that kati means book 5 cuz its the longest.

@JenTalks247 3 жыл бұрын

Where do you think Kati fits at Hogwarts? I selfishly hope Ravenclaw....but alas that perky “ anything “ in the tag line says Hufflepuff. 🤔important issues 😜

@fatimaallawati947 3 жыл бұрын

@@JenTalks247 i think its a bit of both ravenclaw and hufflepuff depends on the way you view it. But she seems more ravenclaw though. Imagine if people were under threat of dying kati would say i will find a solution where no one dies i stead of i will die with you .

@fatimaallawati947 3 жыл бұрын

@DrummerGrrrl 3 жыл бұрын

No. She's Gryffindor! She is sweet but have you ever watched her videos with her husband, Sean? She ain't always so sweet. She even has a tiny bit of Slytherin in her. So do I. She is not Hufflepuff material.

@fatimaallawati947 3 жыл бұрын

@@DrummerGrrrl oh yea the vibes in her videos differ from when she is doing them on her own vs with us. Not hufflepuff material. Loll!!

@kristinakomarova7555 3 жыл бұрын

Regarding question 6, don't know where to spit it out, so I guess I'm just gonna do it here.. I don't remember my mother spanking me, but I think I am traumatised by my father. He would slap me in the face and everywhere he could lay his hands on, be it the booty, or legs or arms.. I don't remember anything before the age of 4. When my brother was born, as he was experiencing shortness of breath when crying, I was not supposed to make any sound, ask for anything or be around him. Whenever he started crying i was being yelled at and told to go downstairs to my grandparents. Always. Fast forward to 2-3 years after my brother was born.. He was spoiled rotten.. Whatever he asked for he was given so he won't cry, meanwhile I, I was told that I was old enough not to seek the same things as him, such as toys. Most of the time when I was in my own room (i was given one at the age of 5), I would play with my dolls or whatever I had at that time. Every time my brother would start crying, my father would come running straight to my room and beat me well. I say beat me well, because many times I felt like I am about to faint. I have had blood from my mouth, blue eye - on the sides, and also many bruises.. Fast forward to my 21st year of life, my father was drunk, I was aware of that and I had an issue with something happening to the animals abroad (TOTALLY UNRELATED to his anger, wasn't even talking to him). He started chasing me around the house and that's when j realised that it's a trauma!! Note: I am married and live with my parents. In front of my husband and mom, he said he has never laid a hand on me! My mom corrected him and he was like: okay, you probably deserved it.. I hate him and will never be able to repair that relationship

@helenc1027 3 жыл бұрын

I want to see Kati Morton doing a collab with Dr Nicole LePera :)

@alanaange1977 3 жыл бұрын

what is the comuntey tab?

@daisy6260 3 жыл бұрын

Yayyyyy 😁

@NidusFormicarum 3 жыл бұрын

No, if I felt that a therapist had that slightest resposibility for MY I would NEVER tell them. That is just extremely anatural, unhealthy and is working against its own goals: I am there to be able to to tell stuff without being worried about the consequences. That is the entire idea of seeing a therapist! Thus, I never tell them because I have already done that many times and it always ends my seeing this therapist. It starts to sound like my sister that says that if you are screaming for help, how can peoole know whether you are serious about it! I will never forgive that.

@ameliorated 3 жыл бұрын

I thought don't be suspicious was from parks and rec, maybe I am wrong idk

@wronglayerbutok 3 жыл бұрын

It is

@pajaskalicka2593 3 жыл бұрын

Is this podcast on Spotify? I can't find it

@Patriots128387 3 жыл бұрын

Here you go! open.spotify.com/show/7itqbvflj0Q9IUDqOF5NST?si=tonakr6CS7q2JfdttO8K-Q

@AbbyJenna 3 жыл бұрын

The sound is really weird in this video

@aidis138 3 жыл бұрын

21:45 "because...to keep you safe" c'mon. there were some honesty going on before you said that! you just had to ruin it...

@DrummerGrrrl 3 жыл бұрын

Kati, I have a pressing question. How many licks does it take to get to the center of a Tootsie Pop?! Ha ha...you're too young for this question. Look it up on KZfaq. I always thought the commercial was hilarious.