Our First Major Argument as Parents
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@shanboody 3 жыл бұрын
What is a creative relationship to you? Also calling all my creatives!! I am looking for a social media manager (someone who can legally get paid in America), if you're interested please visit my site AND I am also looking for a full-time executive assistant in LA for someone else - you can visit the same page for more information on that. This is the first place I am starting my job search because I value this community so much!
@justaraba 3 жыл бұрын
Definitely your response made me think about how I viewed a creative relationship. I kinda grew up like Jared but my ideals on how to go about a creative relationship is like you Shan . Thank you for this !
@dylanajohns3246 3 жыл бұрын
Years ago I attended a Faith based conference and one of the classes I signed up for was called "Children Of Destiny -- What's In A Name". I can tell you more about it if you're interested. However, the reason I mentioned it is because I'm wondering what does your daughter name mean. You may have told us in an earlier video that I missed. If so, please tell us again.
@aellalee4767 3 жыл бұрын
I agree with your definition. It's about adapting as time goes on, involves growing together, and sometimes apart hopefully where you come together again (like working abroad or having a major illness or accident). But it's finding ways to make up a life that you're both fairly involved in and making it work. It won't always be 'happy' but there's a contentedness that allows for trust and communication and togetherness. I didn't think of describing relationships that way before, it was just how I thought of it. But saying creative, and being able to further define it seems useful to better explain what I expect to potential partners so I'm glad you brought it up.
@mindovermatter8888 3 жыл бұрын
You gave a good explanation. I think creativity is basically going by the seat of your pants with a purpose. No matter what life throws at you, its figuring it out together and trusting one another to work through it despite the uncertainty of the challenges. BTW I'm checking out that position on your site!
@brightwithspirit 3 жыл бұрын
How did yall come up with your daughters name? Its ssoooo cute! xo
@vegahw 3 жыл бұрын
Every time my husband and I get in an argument I stop and declare “we’re on the same team!” It helps... sometimes lol
@SwissMissss 3 жыл бұрын
Thats a good tip! I gotta remember that!
@mariasmith05 3 жыл бұрын
Hard to remember but so right! Honestly, even if the views are different still the same goal to protect and love the babies
@diving.deep. 3 жыл бұрын
😭😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️
@clarabelle117 3 жыл бұрын
My boyfriend does that!!! It helps. I love it. Keep doing it, it works.
@nourberete8944 3 жыл бұрын
I’ll remember that
@KralyZC 3 жыл бұрын
I STRIVE to communicate like THIS with my partner. Not like you, but like this. If that makes sense?? 😂
@CelineAdobea 3 жыл бұрын
yees the honesty
@vm6796 3 жыл бұрын
I don't know why, but I cried a little whilst watching this. I think it's because it made me so happy to see people have such a healthy relationship even post pregnancy.
@MIRANDA92 3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Makes perfect sense!
@aminadanielle925 3 жыл бұрын
Yes
@jasmineburgess9029 3 жыл бұрын
Makes perfect sense
@onauhishorter8299 3 жыл бұрын
They are literally their own marriage counselors❤️
@living.on.a.floating.rock. 3 жыл бұрын
True!!
@kaerka87 3 жыл бұрын
And that’s how it should be!
@briabree7683 3 жыл бұрын
right? its beautiful. i love seeing stuff like this
@justaraba 3 жыл бұрын
It’s the parent glow for me 😍😍😍😍
@jesse3332 3 жыл бұрын
So glowy and happy!
@Noa-qo5ch 3 жыл бұрын
I'm sorry but Ryu was so well bundled up that it looked like Shan was rocking a pillow 😂😂😂 I was so confused at first
@Zariamma 3 жыл бұрын
She is there, chilled. She has probably just had her milk and is in a lull.
@kinndah2519 3 жыл бұрын
@@Zariamma She's a newborn. They're mainly quiet and sleeping at that stage.
@iitsb554 3 жыл бұрын
As a married man with two kids, I can 100% relate to j’s bad habits. I am constantly working on not automatically try to defend myself before I actually listen to my wife.
@ladylocs2xcel 3 жыл бұрын
I’m married and my husband and I have two kids too. My husband struggles with the same thing! It took me years into our marriage to realize it but now that I do I’m always careful about my tone and my word choice when I broach a topic with him. Do you have any other communication tips?
@tkloveshair 3 жыл бұрын
My partner is overcoming this hurdle also and I am so proud of him for how much more he listens instead of getting in defense mode
@iitsb554 3 жыл бұрын
@@ladylocs2xcel actually I do!! So if I’ve noticed that my wife and I haven’t had time to talk much ( between our jobs and the kids we get busy) I take a moment and find time to sit down and ask her if there is anything she wants to talk about. ( this should be done by both parties IMO) also date night at least one night minimum a month helps relationships. For my wife and I it helps our relationship and gets us away from the kids and helps us stay connected 😊 hope all that makes sense and was helpful advice.
@iitsb554 3 жыл бұрын
@@tkloveshair glad to hear!! We are not perfect humans and we all have things we need to continuously work on! Wish you both well.
@viceanterra3 3 жыл бұрын
@@ladylocs2xcel my wife gets defensive. We both do to some extent but she's much more sensitive to tone and wording. Start by saying something he did right that you appreciated before jumping into any criticisms. Works like a charm. Softens the "blow" quite a bit.
@purepsyc 3 жыл бұрын
In my head I have conversations like this with my partner. In reality, I’m bitching and he just sits there and says nothing! I strive to have these open conversations and work on our communication. It’s a journey and it takes two! Appreciate watching these interactions.
@gingerjuice4053 3 жыл бұрын
I have this conversations with myself. In reality my hubby and I don't talk about shit..i honestly wonder why we got married😰😰😰
@SwissMissss 3 жыл бұрын
I am on the same page with you ladies😫😩
@purepsyc 3 жыл бұрын
@Q E I actually told myself this last night. I am going to let him watch it with me hopefully when we are both relaxed. When it’s done I will try my hardest not to force the issue and hopefully fingers crossed it Might open him up!
@alibabyasmr 3 жыл бұрын
Forreal me too and maybe we need to give up. It's been 3 years for me
@viceanterra3 3 жыл бұрын
@@gingerjuice4053 hey it's never too late to start. It'll probably feel awkward at first but I'd definitely get that communication ball rolling. That "not talking about shit" can last decades. The Five Languages of Love book was eye opening for me. Go into it looking to understand and not criticize. You're on the same team after all. Edit: another eye opening podcast is Where Should We Begin, by Esther Perel
@rickireign 3 жыл бұрын
If you can’t say it, I will. 🗣🗣🗣 YOU KILLED IT SHAN!!
@LaLa-gk6rd 3 жыл бұрын
Jared is so sweet for trying to give you a break. This is why communication is key.
@joybanks 3 жыл бұрын
It's interesting how both sides have good intentions and yet their actions were not well received by each other. That's why these conversations are important.
@constructingadditionalpylo8597 3 жыл бұрын
It takes intense self-awareness to comprehend your own need to have the "perfect relationship" and identify the times you try to force it or ignore issues to keep up the appearances. It's soooo healthy to recognise this in yourself, and shift your attitude towards one where you don't have to have the perfect relationship but you can be resourceful and flow with the times
@musicscopeswithkd1694 3 жыл бұрын
Y’all communication alone is literally goals. I pray to achieve this kind of connection when I’m meant to meet my partner 🥺
@Alexa-ri3re 3 жыл бұрын
When I think of a “creative relationship” I think of a relationship that is built on a foundational safe space that allows all involved to grow and thrive and fall without judgment and with support and sincerity.
@shanboody 3 жыл бұрын
Alexa nailin it!
@jessicagrover402 3 жыл бұрын
This is relationship goals here. It’s your constant , complete honesty and communication for me❤️❤️❤️
@expatlifestyle6069 3 жыл бұрын
What he said about being helpful after she came home, reminds me of my husband. I thought my husband was doing it because he was trying to tell me that I wasn’t doing a good job. This is a wonderful conversation, it’s so helpful.
@KenyattaDavisPhotography 3 жыл бұрын
This man reminds me so much of my husband. These types of men are very rare.
@severinestany3769 3 жыл бұрын
Wheeeww 😪😪
@gigiajavon122 3 жыл бұрын
The fight after birth is very normal. It’s part hormones, part adjusting to baby and part no sleep
@bugbite 3 жыл бұрын
"Creativity" within a relationship can also be known as psychological flexibility = choosing one's behavior based on the situation and personal values.
@shanboody 3 жыл бұрын
Eva this was great food for thought
@bugbite 3 жыл бұрын
@@shanboody Thank you! And thanks for sharing your journey with everyone, I love your willingness to be open. Also, I love Ester Perel! I was supposed to see her this December at the Evolution of Psychology conference but it's virtual this year. 😕
@johannaniesha 3 жыл бұрын
Shan already has the momma rocking down packed! 😂😂😂😂
@BirgettaJohnson_LetsTalkAJR 3 жыл бұрын
The levels of self awareness and emotional maturity here is incredible. I hope if my partner and I have kids we have a conversation like this.
@dnyellebaldwin8737 3 жыл бұрын
I’m lightweight mad that Shan looks so amazing being she just had a baby. I don’t have no kids, and I look like a dusty cheeseburger. Anyways, congrats on the new blessing to your family!!!! I’m happy that y’all are happy!!!!
@RealElongatedMuskrat 3 жыл бұрын
Me, me and me 😩🙌 you're not alone bud!
@dnyellebaldwin8737 3 жыл бұрын
Elongated Muskrat lmaoooo yesssssss. That makes me feel better. Hahaha she is just so naturally pretty, and I’m here for it. I look like a sloppy Big Mac from McDonalds. That’s 3 hours old.
@ninakarimy 3 жыл бұрын
🤣🤣🤣🤗🤗🤗
@deej5608 3 жыл бұрын
@@dnyellebaldwin8737 STOP MAKING FUN OF YOUR LOOKS. YOU'RE BEAUTIFUL
@amyareed1640 3 жыл бұрын
“Lightweight mad” lmaooooo😂never heard that one before imma have to use that
@10byrdie 3 жыл бұрын
I think you and Jared have the same vision for parenting style. He said the same thing you said but you think micro while he thought macro. You wanted to share the weight on each individual responsibility. You carried the baby for 9 months and delivered her. Men physically can’t carry and deliver during labor and pregnancy so when the baby is here they can finally carry some of the weight. Your communication is beautiful.
@charleighsangel1470 3 жыл бұрын
I’m literally sobbing while listening to this video (I’m 34 weeks pregnant) There was so much beauty in this content 🥺
@jadealexander6277 3 жыл бұрын
Pure example of why communication is key for a successful relationship!
@kaiymariewalker8823 3 жыл бұрын
As a consumer of extremely toxic KZfaq content, this channel is so refreshing and healthy 🙏🏾
@ShericeeJ 3 жыл бұрын
riiight! like I need to stay on this side of KZfaq fr
@Mamaisthesource 3 жыл бұрын
The way you guys hold space for each other while speaking and listening is so beautiful and attractive. Love you two
@lifeisatrip8 3 жыл бұрын
lately the messages in my life always bring up a “helpful things can also be harmful”. i just kind of wanted a moment to take that in. rn i’m in my master’s program for music therapy and the main thing thats always being said is “music therapy is helpful for people, but some approaches can be harmful to certain people, so always be aware and knowledgeable on your craft so you will not harm someone.” as i go through my life i find myself reflecting on things i’ve done and where, just like jared, my intention is pure and coming from a place of love, but has been hurtful to someone. anyways, this is just thought vomit
@jasminedwyer4323 3 жыл бұрын
This is the first time I’ve heard the term “Creative Relationship” but to me it sounds like a relationship where the two find new ways to to flourish as the dynamics change. A relationship where you thrive on and place a primary focus on coming up with new, innovative and creative ways to feed each other spiritually, emotionally, mentally and physically. Holistically really. So that no matter what the circumstances are, the relationship is still going to thrive. Also Shan is just already such a natural at being a mother! On the first kid! It’s so beautiful to watch 😍
@adrianae699 3 жыл бұрын
That light is hittinnnnn Shan
@tashiralott2559 3 жыл бұрын
A creative relationship is a partnership that evolves overtime and gives each person the space to grow and try new things individually as well as together.
@Alexa-ri3re 3 жыл бұрын
What a deeply informative and soulful conversation. I would love to know more about each of your anxieties being parents as a result of your personal family experiences. I align very closely with Jared’s background of family and it makes me fear becoming a parent one day because I don’t want to accidentally fall into the same patterns my family set for me when I was growing up. Essentially answering: How do you create a beautiful family when you don’t necessarily come from one? Also, that GLOW Shan!!! Wow!!! Gorgeousss!!!
@luving11life 3 жыл бұрын
Yes! Love this idea!
@RealElongatedMuskrat 3 жыл бұрын
100% feel you on the fear of being a parent and repeating those very patterns! My upbringing has really made me doubt myself in adulthood and fear the notion of becoming a parent myself. Because my parents thought they did the best they could. I'm terrified that I would think I was doing my best, only for my child to secretly be carrying so much pain like I have.
@Alexa-ri3re 3 жыл бұрын
@@RealElongatedMuskrat Yes! You completely understand where I’m coming from. I always frame it this way: My goal (should I have children) will be to love them in the way they receive love. To be curious about them and learn them well enough to be able to discern how they best receive love. People often talk about how hard it is to be a parent and they reference all the money that goes into it: house, school, food, after school activities, summer,... But, from my own experiences and from what I have seen from others, it’s the emotional expense that is the most costly. Being patient, when you don’t feel it. Being caring, when you don’t feel like it. Being supportive, kind, understanding, PRESENT, when your attention is elsewhere... those are the hard parts. I think being able to maintain those consistently is what makes a good parent.
@TyraSeymourTV 3 жыл бұрын
This level of introspection and the ability to put your own ego to the side and have these conversations is truly goals.
@Mindfulbanterofficial 3 жыл бұрын
I love how she rocking back and forth whole video that natural movement is locked!
@TheRealMae 3 жыл бұрын
I loved when Jared said “he didn’t want you to do anything because of you just had the baby” 😭😭😭😭 that was so beautiful, some men really don’t get this! But Shan! Ugh I understand where you were coming from, let him do it tho! Relax mama, one thing I’ve learnt is it’s okay for someone to help we’re still strong through help, it doesn’t take away from you at all. I feel you tho I really do. Felt like that for a long time and my daughters 5. You guys got this ❤️❤️❤️ also how broody did this video make me 😭😭😭😭 she’s toooo cute!
@nariasealy1220 3 жыл бұрын
in going to someone with an issue, the thing i hold with me is "lead with curiosity".
@NigeriaSimone 3 жыл бұрын
Girl I need to write that down! Lol
@Joy-xu9wk 3 жыл бұрын
Explain this please. Thanks.
@MegaKhelditia 3 жыл бұрын
@@Joy-xu9wk When a problem arises, assume the problem is miscommunication, rather than assuming your partner is setting oppositional intentions. Approach problems with solutions, not suspicion. Helpful?
@Joy-xu9wk 3 жыл бұрын
@@MegaKhelditia very! I love it! Thank you!
@MegaKhelditia 3 жыл бұрын
@@Joy-xu9wk Yay! Welcome! 😊
@Inunity2020 3 жыл бұрын
I love how you guys talk through your conversations with each other. It’s really cool.
@MiVidaBellisima 3 жыл бұрын
Shannon is a real one. No Jared, your HONESTY doesn’t make you an asshole 😊 #teamShared+Ryu ❤️✨
@sweetie_babie 3 жыл бұрын
no, honesty does not make him an asshole, but him looking back at what he said and how he said it and saying "damn, that was rough. I was an asshole" isn't bad. I would say that's a symbol of emotional maturity, to know that you could have and should have been more empathetic.
@daniellesmith7390 3 жыл бұрын
Such a beautiful conversation with 2 different opinions from parents wanting the same thing 🥺
@JobyJay 3 жыл бұрын
It's so crazy to see you and Jared here now, married and as new parents. I've been a subscriber for years and its just so beautiful to see where you guys are now and how you have so gracefully evolved and been open in that process. Your existence is so inspiring Shan. I look forward to your content now that you guys are in a different phase and learning and bringing us along. All the best to you both. 💜
@trulyzaynah 3 жыл бұрын
same! i was subscribed before Jared, and i remember their early videos together. watching them grow as a couple and as individuals has been lovely. what a beautiful family, too!
@JobyJay 3 жыл бұрын
@@trulyzaynah so beautiful!
@natashiawoolaston2837 3 жыл бұрын
I knooow !! & Seeing her as a mom is so beautiful 😍
@DomisWorld 3 жыл бұрын
this is so special and needed. I am watching all the content on new parents, its super helpful for our family planning stages!
@ctakabahinah 3 жыл бұрын
Amazing conversation! I really felt when you said, when im mad my energy is I don't need you, dont mess with me versus saying I'm hurt. Appreciated this! Learned from this! Congrats and hope the transition keeps going well.
@yltnaillirb4438 3 жыл бұрын
I LOOOOOVVVEEEE this new setup!!! And I love how well you two communicate with one another! Keep it up👏🏽
@bextree 3 жыл бұрын
Communication goals! Thank you for modeling healthy communication in a relationship, including finding ways to connect and understand each other after an argument.
@anobodytrynatelleverybody7535 3 жыл бұрын
This transparent conversation is beyond priceless and beautiful All couples need to be taking notes
@TheElsaAlvarado 3 жыл бұрын
I really appreciated this conversation! This was so honest and raw, even though it was very difficult to voice those things.
@reemak8794 3 жыл бұрын
The introspection is beautiful and something I am personally grateful for in myself every day, it's a gift to think this way, not everyone does.
@checkmarie 3 жыл бұрын
I recognize bits of myself in both Shan and Jared. This was so insightful, thanks!💕
@virginiabrown7202 3 жыл бұрын
It’s the open and honest communication for meeeeeeee sis!!!!!!! Shan and Jared y’all DID DAT! 👏👏👏👏
@jodynanci 3 жыл бұрын
The openness between y’all is beautiful!
@raineaye 3 жыл бұрын
I just love watching you listen to each other. So attentive, even when coming from different places. Congratulations on your blessing and as a parent, I look forward to seeing how you grow with the added role of parents.
@flooliveira9266 3 жыл бұрын
Everytime I watch y’alls videos you guide me through ANOTHER healthy convo!! Thank you for sharing your brilliant selves with the world 💗
@Rashell_williams 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing these talks with us. Brings so much healing and really gives a great example of how to communicate openly with you partner💕
@pm1647 3 жыл бұрын
The self awareness and openness is so good. No relationship is perfect but I learned a lot from this interaction.
@TheShontay1 3 жыл бұрын
You guys are so deep. I love the open discussions. Effective communication I love it!
@AmyraMM 3 жыл бұрын
You should add CC. 💕 It helps me understand what y’all are saying.
@blackwomanplantchronicles 3 жыл бұрын
I love this conversation. I can really appreciate and admire the way you choose to communicate and share your vulnerability.
@linnielvelvet7970 3 жыл бұрын
Your openness about your relationship is so inspirational!
@alex-is3385 3 жыл бұрын
I love the unapologetic honesty that y’all bring to KZfaq 🤍 Love y’all!
@AlicatStyle 3 жыл бұрын
I love your dynamic! It’s beautiful and so mature how vulnerable you both are with one another. Absolutely beautiful. Jared no worries soon enough momma is gonna need at least a little break to get out of the house alone and you will be able to step in fully. Welcome to the world Ryu! ❤️
@PattyCakeCrafts 3 жыл бұрын
Wow, you guys are being so real all the way.
@Itsdaddey 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for making this video. This is such a beautiful example of having open and honest conversations without engaging the ego. I am so happy I found your channel a long time ago to watch and learn with admiration
@adaaleide 3 жыл бұрын
i’m always in awe of the conversation that comes from you two. i aspire for a relationship that’s even a fraction of what y’all have. blessings to your family 🤍
@shoualor9129 3 жыл бұрын
wow this whole convo got me emotional in a good way.. love the way you two communicate and listen to each other. thanks for always putting these raw and honest conversations out. love love love your little family. ❤️
@rosebud0391 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for bringing Ryu to the conversation 😍 She'll be a great communicator.
@ShadesAndBoots 3 жыл бұрын
Another open, honest and informative discussion. You guys' argument (about the amount of labor division) is great bc you can see the validity of both parties stance. And how easily it turned into an issue without both ppl realizing what was happening, but with the best intentions.
@AnyaB18 3 жыл бұрын
Wowowowowowow what a beautifully honest conversation. So happy to see something so vulnerable and know that it’s possible xx
@ironeousaudio 3 жыл бұрын
Congrats on the new baby y'all! I hope Shan's new editor/social media manager is as fire as she is!
@MakedaBadu 3 жыл бұрын
It’s amazing to see how much you both have grown. This is top tier communication. So introspective and well spoken. I wish more people were able to verbalize and understand their motives/emotions like this. It takes real work!! This kind of emotional intelligence took years and time in the making. I hope you both continue to fight for each other like this. Congrats on the new edition and God bless your family !The little one is in the best hands.
@siewitnessnews 3 жыл бұрын
Everyone just looks so vibrant and beautiful! Enjoyed the conversation as always.
@liveshiv 3 жыл бұрын
When Jared was talking about how you killed it.. I teared up. The way you two talk about your relationship with such understanding and nuance is so inspiring. Goals!!!!!
@rosebud0391 3 жыл бұрын
This conversation is so important. I love that you both touch on how upbringing and personality affect your parenting AND not only how you aim to overcome it but the ideal parenting styles that you each would like to achieve together.
@rhiannon_pearl 3 жыл бұрын
Literally had to pause this 3 mins in because I was just thinking about how far yall have come. Ive seen this relationship from when you first made it public all the way to this point. Your relationship is beautiful, you both are beautiful as individuals and it's so special to have been able to witness your raw honesty and transparency here on this platform. Now you have your sweet Ryu added to your union, and man... life is grand isn't it? Sending all 3 of you love and blessings.
@Thinkslikemakeup 3 жыл бұрын
This was an awesome conversation! Shan you always been so good at sharing yourself on the camera in my eyes, but I’m so overwhelmed by the growth of Jared. This is a true example of a relationship aiding in betterment and growth individually and as well as together. More life, more love, congratulations on the beautiful baby ❤️
@DynamicDreamer2785 3 жыл бұрын
I love your guys vibe. Intense but chill. Complex but simple. Very communitive but not talked out. It’s inspiring, thank you for being and doing yous. We all get to see and aspire.
@chloejay8791 3 жыл бұрын
I love how you guys are so transparent. The set up of this conversation was verry aesthetically pleasing. Precious baby too! 😍
@kierre8938 3 жыл бұрын
I loved this talk so much. The way you two are communicating and have self-insight is wonderful. I wish you three all the best.
@khalilahhall 3 жыл бұрын
THIS!!!!! THIS!!!!! THISSSSSSS!!!!!!!!! We NEED more of this from out in to the universe because it’s so valid and relatable!! Creating boundaries on how we fight. Sharing the stories we tell ourselves with the other person. That is so important! We ALL have those internal conversations about a situation we’re in. If we don’t communicate that with each other, miscommunication is guaranteed and we will miss out on a better connection and constant growth. Thank you BOTH for being vulnerable and brave to take us on your journey to a greater relationship. I LOVE IT and am so hear for it!! ♥️🥰🥰
@diamonmagic 3 жыл бұрын
This is relatable content for me and my husband as we made our journey into parenthood three yrs ago. We're still processing our experiences of the first 7 months of parenthood until this day. Haha. Thank y'all for sharing this intimate journey. Wishing you all the love, patience, health and connectedness that this universe has to offer. Also, creativity means to me, the ability to adapt, change and be flexible which results in a creation of a new norm, new/enhanced connection and/or transition.
@tleak1287 3 жыл бұрын
This level of honesty and communication in yalls relationship is refreshing! ❤
@kiragreen95 3 жыл бұрын
This conversation was amazing. I see a lot of things that I could work on in my relationship also, which is why I watch these videos and talk to my husband about it. Congratulations on your gorgeous baby.
@ItsMona4Me 3 жыл бұрын
Listen. I love you two. Well, you three now with Ryu added ❤️❤️❤️. I appreciate real-life married folk convos and the love you have for your family is so beautiful. Thank you for sharing your journey! 🙌🏽 A creative relationship is an adaptable one; motivated by the understanding that it’s ok to change with your loving partner to accommodate the climate you’re in together. Making moves together when needed, even if it’s not 50/50. It’s like customizing your relationship to balance whatever is lacking or even overcompensated.
@jennkreg387 3 жыл бұрын
Yall are such a gorgeous couple, but most importantly... good people. Many blessings to you
@boricua584 3 жыл бұрын
Hey Shan and Jared ! So happy for you. 2020 has been terrible for me so I’ve been taking time off social media a lot. But I am soooo happy for y’all and happy you’re letting us in the journey. Even tho 2020 has been horrible, I’m still glad beautiful things can still happen.
@TheSuperNats 3 жыл бұрын
The ending was so beautiful, I love hearing Shan express her love. I relate to Shan talking about wanting the relationship to maintain a level of happiness. I’m the same way (probably worse) my parents had a horrific marriage and now I’m in a Beautiful one and I panic when we falter. I believe creative is a relationship that ebbs and flows with the natural ups and downs of life but with the foundation of respect and commitment. I hope to achieve that and stop being so afraid of becoming my parents.
@InStepWithSteph 3 жыл бұрын
The communication and understanding in their relationship is beyond beautiful.
@Ilikefrogs.. 3 жыл бұрын
I need a podcast from the two of you. Honestly. You guys having these open honest conversations are my favourite videos. And watching them has made me an incredible communicator in all of my relationships.
@alicianorman3184 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for allowing us to peek into how you all process post-argument. Both of you all’s self awareness is refreshing. This is helpful for me as I consider me and my husbands marriage. Thank you 💜
@sixteen.candles.4644 3 жыл бұрын
Awww shan rocking with the babes is so cute. Also hair cute af.
@kopanokekana1796 3 жыл бұрын
love the way you and Jared resolve and communicate with each other. its so beautiful to watch 🤧🤧❤❤❤
@pumladada7133 3 жыл бұрын
Aw I love the fact that you guys affirm each other just as much as you're brutally honest about your flaws❤
@PhoenixGoddess 3 жыл бұрын
Jared sound like a awesome husband and father.. The fact that he is always thinking about Shan is wonderful to witness. I didn't get the same consideration when I had my kids. And I was married. But he was and still is a selfish person.
@EnjoyOverEverything 3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this comment 💎🤞🏽
@isa-qz8fg 3 жыл бұрын
@@EnjoyOverEverything You are truly a dope human, husband, father!
@omphilemoerane2569 3 жыл бұрын
I REALLY sympathise with you. However, I'd advise you to not say anything negative about your husband online cause the vultures aka side chicks are watching and waiting cause in their small minds they think they can appreciate him better than you🙄
@PhoenixGoddess 3 жыл бұрын
@@omphilemoerane2569 I feel you. He's my ex now. I usually keep everything in but I wanna speak my truth. But not always. This video just hit home when comes to what a true union should look like. They are not perfect but they care soo much about each other. It's nice to see. 🙂
@omphilemoerane2569 3 жыл бұрын
@@PhoenixGoddess oh he's your ex? Hell then go off sis!😂😂😂
@NaturalJournee 3 жыл бұрын
My idea of a creative relationship is literally creating the relationship that works for you both as life changes and as you change. Getting creative in finding ways to keep your relationship interesting
@vanessad.00 3 жыл бұрын
A podcast with the both of you would be amazinggggg. Congrats on a healthy baby girl!
@camillehendricks9819 3 жыл бұрын
How is shan so secure?! It just radiates off of her!!
@claudiaeperez140 3 жыл бұрын
My husband and I are working so hard in having such open conversation like this( you guys inspire us ) and we can definitely see the difference in the relationship 💕👏🏼
@shimareel5268 3 жыл бұрын
I actually love these relationship videos. Great communication. I feel like I’m learning a lot
@MIZZBADDAZZ23 3 жыл бұрын
This made me cry because my family experience is literally his. I understood that exchange 🙏🏾 your baby is so lucky to watch a healthy relationship and have something worth emulating . Great parents
@mayrapadilla4384 2 жыл бұрын
I am in Awe of yalls relationship the more I learn about the dynamic the more I feel aligned with having a free relationship.
@elizabethporter4541 3 жыл бұрын
I think that this was a much needed reconnection step. Having a baby is hard, and I think this conversation will really help y’all parent and communicate better
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