I am a nervous flyer and will start having anxiety days before. In the past when I mentioned this to the flight attendants I was not helped. They looked at me more as a burden then helping me. I have to say, the exception was from a flight from Chicago back to Brussels. I was very scared and had a migraine. One of the flight attendants noticed me and saw my fear and pain. Mid flight on of the 3 pilots came to calm me down and that changed so much for me. I will forever be very thankful for that flight attendant and the pilot. After the flight I contacted the company to express my gratitude to the flight attendant and the pilot. So, follow Stella's advise and to tell them instead of being like me and making it worse for yourself.

i used to be anxious at flights but i recently overcame the fear on a trip to atlanta and i almost feel like sharing what i learned that helped me get over my fear lol. so much so that i'm looking forward to my next flight to see if it helps again. here's a little breakdown of what helped me overcome my fear/apprehension. 1) i learned some fundamentals about flight and planes. for example, planes can fly with just one of the engines in the rare case that one of the two engines fails. and actually, if both fail, the plane continues to glide for tens of miles. it does not just drop straight down, which was what i thought. this is simply a matter of engineering and science. 2) i watched a video on youtube that explained all of the sounds heard on an airplane. in particular, there is one alien type sound that i always heard and just immediately thought something was wrong. no, it's actually a normal sound made by hydraulics starting. 3) turbulence is normal. this is just the fucking truth. i used to think "omg, turbulence, the pilot is losing control!!"......no. turbulence is a normal, expected inconvenience. i had to get this through my thick skull. 4) this last point might be hard to explain, but i think it played a role especially for the takeoff. here it is: i had to just learn to let go. if i was on the plane, and it was starting to take off, i was going to go up in the air and that was it. it's a psychological tactic. here's an analogy: not letting go would be like an animal that continues to pull away when he is being dragged by a lasso around the neck, hurting himself. he has to let go, and counterintuitively move towards the person pulling in order to release the strain on its neck. i had to tell myself i was going up into the sky and that was the end of it. that's about it. all of these points helped me get over me anxiety on my last flight. i hope this helps someone else. don't believe some of the claims i've made? that's fine. you don't take my word for it, go ahead and look into it yourself

Distractions never work for me. The second the plane starts shaking my mind instantly stops caring about everything I’m doing and the plane shaking is the only thing i can focus on. I was always sit there so nervously and everybody is so calm and I’m like how-

I have a trip coming up very soon and rn listening to this for some reason I'm shaking. Anyone else?

I am a VERY nervous flyer and I HAVE to sit by the window. The thought of not being able to constantly see what's going on outside is extremely unnerving to me.

This video itself made me nervous, my fear of flying is so awful

Not all flight attendants are as sweet as you Stella!!

I don’t agree with tip one. Getting to the airport too early intensifies my anticipation of the flight. Actually getting to the airport and getting in the plane and taking off as soon as possible helps me more. There is no anticipation anxiety and I feel like I’m getting the flight over with and I can start focusing on landing and being done with the fear. Does anyone else agree?

I’m a flight attendant too and I would recommend them meeting the pilots so they can see who is flying the plane. Also, I tell them we fly millions of hours and we wouldn’t be on the plane if we didn’t feel safe. Kinda puts it into perspective. 😃

I am petrified of flying... I was on a flight once where the, "ding-dong" came on the the pilot was like, "ladies and gentlemen a bit of bad news... (10 second pause) we're going to be about 30 mins late as the runway is a little congested in Frankfurt". I was like WTF douche-bag! :(

I’m a nervous flyer, my first flight was with British airways from Toronto, I was 21 or 22 and I was sat beside a really lovely older lady. As we took off the force surprised me and scared me and I started crying a little, and this lady put her hand on mine, told me it was ok, asked me if I’d like the blind shut (I said yes) and then she held my hand until we levelled our. I appreciated it soooo much, she probably has no idea ❤️

I remember when i was nervous on a flight and asking a flight attendant is it always this rough, she could tell i was nervous and gave me best visual to “pretend you are like Nemo the fish swimming through the currents” and it has helped me since :)

In regards to turbulence, a flight attendant told me once, to envision yourself as if in a car, going over a bumpy road. That helps me, along with the bringing distractions.

Tip number 6: stop watching “mayday” air crash investigation series!!! 😂😂😂

I usually fly with westjet. And I am a super nervous flyer, like turbulance makes me want to cry. I am so afraid of dying, the days prior to flights I feel like I'm walking to my death. I always found that talking to the attendants helped, one gave me a tablet to watch tv for free and something that always stuck with me was when an attendant said "the pilots have families they wanna get home to also".. I also talk to fellow flyers, I cried in the arms of a stranger my last flight lol we landed and I cried and hugged him. Super nice old gentleman, I had called my dad and said goodbye thinking I was gonna die. The isle seat does help me, and so does getting up and moving. This video is super helpful. I live in newfoundland Canada, and my dream is to make it to austraila. Strange tip!! In bad turbulence I close my eyes and pretend I'm the pilot. sorta helps, and shake your legs it removes some of the shaking feeling.

For me tip #1 actually makes it WORSE. Getting to the airport early and then waiting at the gate for 1+ hours just leaves more time for the anxiety to build. The times I've had to hustle to get my flight were actually better because I'm focused on getting there on time rather than sitting and counting the minutes until we board.

I hate turbulence it always gives me anxiety attacks

i only got on a plane for the first time in 2009. I went from Manchester to Malaga, so that was about 2 hours. I told the flight attendants i was a first time flyer, and once the plane took off, i was absolutely fine!! And now i do big international flights, i'm flying Manchester to Orlando, then Orlando to JFK, and JFK to Manchester.

I am an extremely nervous flyer with panic disorder... so I'm a ton of fun! LOL I just wanted to say that these are some AWESOME tips! The distractions are my number one. Audio books, movies/TV on your device, relaxing music and a book to read.. whatever you enjoy, it makes everything so much easier on your mind. Also, I make small talk to people around me. I know this is a faux pas to some but, most of the time, people are super happy to have someone else to talk to during the flight. Unless they're asleep or in their own entertainment, guess what? They're also looking for a distraction! For anyone else out there with PD, it'll be OK! You're survived so much more than a little plane ride.. you got this!

Former flight attendant that retired in 2017 after flying for 33 years with Northwest Airlines based at MSP, DTW, Back to MSP, and 9 years with Delta,( Really big mistake...we'll leave it at that) total of 42 years. Anyway Stella, sound advice!!!! I would have said the same thing,, I arrive at least 3 hours before domestic as a pax, and 4 hours for international. I also helped a friend of mine in PHX on his FEAR OF FLYING GROUP. It is very successful, and it works. I could always tell the white knuckle first time flier. I had a passenger ask me one time, "If we're going to fly, who drives this plane?" I took the pax up the flight deck while we were on the ground, and she met the captain. At the end of her flight, we gave her a bottle of champagne, pair of wings, and a first time certificate flier!!!

I'm also a flight attendant and my best tip are noise canceling head phones. They help to relax me when I am the passenger

I think you should talk about or share your knowledge about the plane's safety because thats what makes people afraid of flying. What makes people scared is the lack of control on the flight. You cant do and see anything. And everything is in the pilots hands. What is above normal turbulence and when is the time that you dont need to panic. Do you get information about the flight from the cockpit. I am always scared to ask the flight attendant..especially when the flight is too BUMPY i dont know if they actually know whats happening out there. ALSO do flight attendants get scared too on a flight and when did this happen!! share that with us

I always get anxiety attacks in the air. I’m flying on Saturday alone. Thank you for posting this.

Honestly, I've had the best flight attendants and I can tell you, as a nervous flyer, I am beyond grateful. I dont know if they go home and complain about how they had an annoying, anxious flyer. But for me.... it really helps.

I am ten years old and I flew alone last month I flew from ewr to hkg to bkk and I was so nervous on the first flight but now I ain’t scared of nothin

I'm not nervous I just hate the feeling in my tummy during take off and climbing 😥 But having said I got super brave had a few drinks the morning of my flight and I switched at the window and I was absolutely fine thank God I had my phone and earphones and I watched my fav show downloaded on Netflix during take off

Good advice. The problem is the weeks of anticipatory anxiety before a trip. If my anxiety was only bad for those 2 hours of the flight it would easily be worth it.. but its much much more.

My fear of flying started when a 747 I was on had several tires blow out when we were accelerating for take off 40 years ago in Hawaii. The massive vibration, overhead bins opening and things flying out left a metal scar that lasted a long time. I eventually got over it but I still hated flying with turbulence. My solution was putting on my earbuds with a song with a heavy beat to it (rock, disco), play it loud and when the turbulence gets real bad and lift my feet off the floor for a few seconds at a time. I also close my eyes and imaging I'm at a disco, lol. That fixed it for me.

Xanax.

I hate hate hate being early at the airport. Being scared of hell is even worse if you wait in the devils waiting room. I hate it. Getting to the airport -> bag drop off -> security -> getting to the gate on point of boarding -> less scary

I’m not a nervous flyer but one thing I always do before take-off is say the Lords Prayer. It gives me that extra feeling of assurance that it will be a safe and enjoyable flight for me AND my fellow passengers and flight crew. I’m so relaxed after my silent prayer that, I’m often asleep during take-off! If I have any apprehensions, I put it in God’s hands.

I am a very nervous flyer, and as I get older, it gets worse. It's strange because I've flown a lot, and I've flown many times to Asia which is a heck of a long flight! I've used many of these tips. I have to sit in the aisle because I'm afraid of heights, and looking out the window freaks me out. The other part that I hate is the noises that planes make, especially when taking off. The noises are different every time. I distract myself with loud music or a TV show on my phone. I also hate how the plane feels when it has to decelerate a bit from the take off speed. It feels like the plane is braking mid-air, and it makes my stomach turn. I hate planes (even though I work for Boeing 🤦). It doesn't keep me from traveling though. I just have to learn to cope.

Seriously, this has to be the best flight attendant/travel/personal vlog channel out right now. Keep it up Stella!!!!!!

It’s amazing that I have been flying since I was like 4 years old...and still haven’t overcome this fear. You have help me a lot in my journey to overcome fear of flying! Thanks Girl! ❤️

once I'm up I'm calm, but I can't help thinking "what if something bursts" and then we plummet into the sea.

Yes to number five! Love that. It’s OK to be nervous but except your nerves and don’t let it hold you back. Life is too short.

Flying didn't scare me before, but I've developed so much anxiety over the past 3 years that every time I get on a flight I become more terrified than the last.

I think another good tip is to be informed! A lack of knowledge is a major factor behind the fear of flying. For example, a lot of people don’t understand what turbulence is and they see it as dangerous. Getting them to understand that air is fluid and constantly changing goes a long way to helping them work with turbulence...once they understand that turbulence is similar to the ocean waves or a bumpy road it's a lot easier for them to stay calm and rational. Also, don't watch movies or documentaries about plane crashes because they give you a lot to imagine lol.

Wow you were awesome! Telling the flight attendant is so so important! What helps me, is thinking pilots and flight attendants fly on planes for a LIVING as a CAREER! That helps put that in perspective.

You have an infectious personality ❤️ and pretty too! I would love to be on your flight!✈️

Thank you for these tips. I drive my family nuts getting to the airport early. Now I can say it is recommended to be even earlier! LOL My fear is the turbulence. I do not like falling sensations. I have heard from experts to think of it as potholes in the road. Fine and dandy but these are potholes with no bottom. YIKES!

I binge watched all your videos, and they have unexpectedly make me SO much less fearful of flying! The thought of it used to paralyze me, but now I am excited to take a trip and only a tiny bit anxious lol- just watching you do it so much, over and over, with a great attitude, has completely changed my feelings about flying! Thank you Stella for sharing your life!

I’m flying for the first time in 12 years in less than 2 weeks! Headed to Spain 😀

Your personality is just so positive and uplifting, thank you so much! I'm flying on my own for the first time and having to take 2 flights each way!!! I always feel like i'm bothering flight attendants haha but you've allowed me to think otherwise, thanks!! xxxx

You made this video just in time. I'm leaving for a trip in a couple weeks and it's my first time flying without my parents. I also hate flying cuz of my fear. Thank you!!

I'm a weather enthusiast and love knowing about jet streams and thermal convections, etc., so turbulence isn't something that seems to be bother me much. But I absolutely hate takeoff and landing, those times are the scariest to me!

I clicked on this video so fast!!! Great start to my day - a new Stella video!!!!

When the plane has even a little bit of turbulence I literally freak out

best tip is to not watch air crash investigation the days before a flight

Am I the only one who got even more nervous post watching this ???

Such a great video! Really great tips, i really appreciate it Stella! Also your hair looks so good omg 😍😍

My hands are soaked just thinking about boarding a plane and being on it for hours

Great so arrive 3 hours before instead of 2 so I have 3 hours to worry than 2 hours before I fly...

Great 👍🏼 advice - how about for claustrophobia on planes because you’re trapped?

Fantastic tips Stella. The first time I ever flew, I wasn't scared but more nervous cause it was something I had never done it before. It was a 3 hour one. I quickly got that out of my system and I've loved it ever since. Plus that occasion it was an international flight so it made subsequent domestic flights so easy.

I have like 1,000 songs on my phone so I just turn the music up super loud during takeoff, landing, and turbulence. Really don’t like to fly but I’ll still do it. Flew 15 hrs to Ukraine and that was just the worst.

I’m forcing myself to kill my anxieties of flying. 3 hours to Orlando, and I’ve made sure to have window seats both ways. Overexposure to my stressors. Same way I killed my fear of needles and bloodwork: I had phlebotomy students like me for their training. That’s the worst that could happen, it can only get better from here!

Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge and tips! You have an amazing personality and are so fun to watch. 😄

honestly never was really scared of flying. but my anxiety has gotten so bad lately that a lot of things make me unnecessarily nervous. i have a flight to take in april and i’m honestly a little nervous. but I will definitely use some of these tips. the only thing i most worried about is how my mind tries so hard to focus on the negative side of things, even if everything is going right. and I overthink that too and it just escalates the situation. anyone else?

Just listening to this im freaking out

I flew last week from Ireland to France so only about 1 hour flight, the tip about looking out the window at the airport really helped. It makes you realise how many actually take off in just the space of an hour. Another helpful thing throughout the flight was that there was a pilot deadhedding sat beside me and when it was very turbulent, he wasn't afraid at all

I’ve been on around 15 flights, and I have 2 flights coming up and then 2 more in a few months. My anxiety never seems to go away.

I used to be scared of flying and it was primarily because I was using my own fear based logic to determine my feeling of safety. I realized that my thinking was actually irrational and oddly enough this helped! Flying is not dangerous. Flight attendants are proof of that 👍

Thank you for the advice Stella! 💕

Thank you so much for this 😊 i’m gonna totally try out these tips on my next flight in 5 days 🥰 ✈️

Stella you are an angel and a credit to your profession, nervous fliers like me are so grateful for flight attendants like you. Shout out to Virgin Atlantic and Air France flight attendants who were the best I had.

Hi Stella. I really 💘 your hair in this video. Love you!!!

Great tips! I am ok on flights. I love window seats so I can look out (and film stuff lol) but also like isle seats because of the getting up use the bathroom easier. but I have flown with people that had a lot of anxiety too, so bad they would shake and be in tears. Pretty much the only thing that helped them is to be medically sedated.

My biggest fear is traveling, either flying, car, bus you name it! I always pray for God to keep us safe going and coming back. But its soooooo nerve wrecking for me. I just cant seem to find a way to overcome it but your TIP 5 might help me out alot.

I do like flying but before I did a flight between NYC and Los Angeles in January 2023 (5 hours each way), I prepared myself with shorter flights, JetBlue between NYC and Boston (1 hour each way), did a few of those in December 2022 and it helped me prepare for the longer distant traveling.

Thanks for your video. I'm getting ready to fly and your video was fun to watch and reminded me to go travel and overcome my fear.

It’s been several years since I’ve been on a flight now, due to severe fear of flying. I used to talk to the flight attendants and my favourite question to ask them was usually how many years had they been doing this job, and then how many times had anything gone wrong. It helped me to rationalise things slightly. I’m hoping to do a flight next year, it would be transatlantic to visit Orlando from the uk. I feel like this fear has really made me miss out on a lot but it really does completely take over all logical thought. Any advice to get myself in that plane next year would be hugely appreciated.

Tip # 6 Have several drinks.... 🤪🍹🥃 It really helps when flying

I am a nervous flyer. Always used to sit in the aisle seat but then I discovered that sitting at the window helped me lots. This is of course eaiser when sitting with my fellow travellers in the same row. I struggle with take off. Find once in the air I’m ok and landing I actually like.

Great advise!!! Thank you!! You definitely have a confidant calming way about you. I have the highest respect for flight crews.

I travelled with 17 airplanes in one year and i am TOTALLY afraid of flights with all of them. recently i found out that a distraction helps me feel totally better and deep breathing. i was afraid to say to flight attendant that i was not feeling good and i got up and i passed out in the middle of the airplane. then 3 flight attendants came and talked to me and i was much more better. don’t feel shy, this is their job and they are going to help you. I am still fear of the airplane not because of heights but because of the noises that the airplane make but putting music on my distraction helps me finally to relax a little.

This made me feel sooooo much better I’m going on my first flight in a week and I can’t stop flipping but I think this made me feel less nervous!

Thank you soo much! I am going on a plane tomorrow and I’m a nervous wreck. But this reallyyy helped me a lot.❤️ I’m definitely using these tips!

Thank you for the tricks and tips! I will use them coz I feel nervous in some flight.

whenever I watch one of your sit down video’s, i always look around for franny and get so happy when I see him❤️❤️❤️

I’m a nervous flyer and I’m going on a flight soon

I have a big fear of airplanes.this video really helped me get through my we'll get some stuff through my extremely big fear, like, when I'm on airplanes, I feel like crying my heart out but

Love it , very upbeat!

I have a crippling fear of flying. I really wish I didn’t. It’s stopping me from going abroad

Great Tips ✈👍🏾

I needed this!

Thank you for the upbeat and encouraging video!

Hi Stella. Thanks for this video. I love your very upbeat, cheerful style and your tips are really helpful too. In fact you are my tip number 6 - I am kind of ok after take off and if we're cruising along smoothly above the clouds. But if we hit any kind of turbulence with all that shaking and dropping, I am seized by an overwhelming feeling of fear and panic. However, when that happens I always look at the flight attendants and the sight of them just carrying on chatting and smiling as usual is so very reassuring. If there were any real danger as opposed to my perceived sense of danger I am sure they would be just as scared as me and showing it too. This really helps to calm me down so might be helpful for others too. Keep on smiling girl!

Stella’s and Bart’s Channel is the best !!

Love ur videos. U inspired me to want to become a flight attendant. Sending lots of love from NYC💕

I love your vibe. Thank you!!

I have a panic attack before in the airport waiting and as soon as I get on the plane after that I enjoy the flight. I just look around and see how many other people are on the plane and tell myself people do this all day everyday. It’s debilitating in the moment but you can all get through it like I can.

I’m flying with Ryanair and trust me flight attendants don’t care at all if you’re having a panic attack or else 😂

Love you and your videos! You make me want to be a flight attendant again!

This video couldn’t come at a better time. I always get mini anxiety attacks when on planes 😭😭Thank You Stella

I need her to be on my flight so I don’t die

Unfortunately some people feel self conscious about ringing for help and introducing themselves... thanks for spreading the positive message

I love your energy, good job.

Thank u sooo much for this very much helpful

My trip is in a week and a half and I’m freaking out