Me too. I want to know how to do this without a pill. I take the pill and I start to relax because I know my anxiety will go down and pain will decrease. But now, I don’t have pills.

@@amazingsupergirl7125 Sorry for finding this funny...The expectation of relief calms me down too but before I started managing my pain with unregulated "supplements" (won't say more) this wouldn't work at all because I was never sure if the measly dose I was prescribed would do anything and I knew that if I had to take more (always as directed cause...jeez... I doubt one could abuse so little) I would have to face a potentially worse flair up with no meds left, so many times I would end up getting more anxiety right after taking one a quarter pill instead of just one (this is how ridiculous being prescribed 40 5 hour pills per calendar month, to someone who is in pain 24/7 and had to take 2 pills since day one to kinda tame the pain at least 70% of the nights just to get some sleep)

@@Sketch1994 I truly and daily live your pain. I have a high pain tolerance. I have worked since the age of 12 and in my 25 to 35 area I was trying to fight MMA. I can take a punch, roll an ankle or break a toe and continue. Shit happens. However I was on my motorcycle when a deer attempted to jump on the back passenger seat. I happen to be in a long extended corner when it happened and the end result was a trip into the ditch. I was thrown from the bike after something broke my ankle. I rolled down the highway, luckily I had the forethought to cover my face and roll on my arms, legs and back. So my ankle, bone out toes pointing at me. Doctor screwed the tib and fib back together and reattached some ligaments. Also my knee on the other side tore my acl but the dic oops I mean doc wouldn't hear me. He was focused on my ankle and making sure we didn't get any infection with all the new hardware. Months go by, Im finally allowed to start walking lightly. I followed the program given to a T. Never varied. My ankle started swelling up like a small water melon and I would lay on the couch basically moaning and tearing up in pain. I asked the doctor for t3s. I was told I have drug seeking behavior (I also happen to appear indigenous, something that has taught me much about racism. The rest of my family is fair skin and all considered white. Only Grandpa and I are the dark ones. Im literally the brown sheep of the family.) I kept complaining about the pain until 3 months later he finally booked me a CT scan. After which it turned out I had a piediel fracture where the large bone in the bottom part of the leg was broken where it connects to my ankle. I had complained about tightness in that exact area and was always told it was just the swelling. I and anyone that has looked can plainly see the bone was broken at the point where the screw went thru. The same doc that said I had drug seeking behavior looked at me and said "I guess you weren't being a suck" I wanted to choke the life out of him. So hear I am now, same surgeon tasked to clean it up. He decides in surgery that he thinks a fusion would be better and he fuses my ankle. Now I have no movement in my ankle and I am constantly in pain. Then we add the knee on the opposite leg. Doc only took me seriously after my knee collapsed when I was still using crutches and I hit the ground hard. Then it happened again when I was in the cast boot walking and that one was far worse. It felt like my knee was broken. Ffwd past the knee surgery and the new GP as I hadn't had one since childhood, never needed one. He has me try a plethora of pills, some psychotropic ones some pain ones. The tropic pills made me want to kill myself because they did nothing for pain and made me feel like I was less than a dog. At least they would have humanely put a dog down, I was suffering for nothing. Finally he digs deeper into the pain meds. Our plan was to get my on my feet for 6 hrs a day so I could get back to work. We got close, after trying everything under the sun we got to some heavier (vilified) meds an they were helping. Then the my long awaited appointment to the pain clinic arrived (2 year wait) she immediately wanted me off those meds and onto psychotropic drugs again. My doc reduced my meds and we went thru a plethora of new meds. I started feeling like a guiniepig. Eventually the madness stopped and I have been getting like yourself a meager supply of meds that barely help. I sleep in two hour sets as I wake up in pain or I start groaning so loud in my sleep my wife wakes me to stop. I have been on stronger meds and my days were much easier then. Now if I mention that, I'm just drug seeking. You know what I am, Im pain relief seeking and if Flintstone vitamins took away my pain I would happily take those instead. I have seen a pain psychologist, my pain is not manifest or anxiety, it is mechanical. The more I do the more my legs hurt. If I do nothing my days are easy but what kind of life is that when you have a good 40 + yesrs to live ? Surely I can turn to the street for meds but they are expensive and inconsistent so why can't the medical community step up. Because these drugs have been vilified and regardless of my clean track record of not calling in early or with stories of lost or stolen meds I'm still treated like a "dirty drug abusing Indian" even tho my heritage is English, French German and Scotish. Pain sucks, its something you live thru alone. My wife had great compassion for me for the first few years but now will watch me wither into extreme pain before offering to help. I recently had my thyroid removed. This has led to more issues like extreme cramping and unfortunately 20lbs in weight gain which is not helping my legs in the least. If I could get enough pain relief to get back on my feet these things could be improved. Our doctors have stopped helping those that really need pain relief because of those who abused the system and now people like myself suffer for it. Sorry for the long winded story, pain is something I have become friends with and its an abusive relationship.

Omg it is

Lol, yeah

I know exactly what you mean. I too have had and still deal with the results of those injuries. God help us.

Would you please give me a more detailed explanation on the relaxation you're speaking of? Thanks

I prey for the release of my pain

Emotional pain and physical pain signals both use the same neural pathways. The brain cannot always distinguish between these two forms of pain. At times, physical pain will cause emotional suffering, or emotional suffering will cause physical pain. If you suffer throughout your childhood from emotional abuse, and especially if it's from your parent, then you have continual pain signals running down those neural pathways. More than that, one area of your brain is continuously overstimulated, and you are continuously bathed in excess stress hormones, while your brain is in development. This causes permanent damage to your brain and nerves. Likewise, chronic pain that is not adequately relieved, will eventually cause permanent damage to your brain and nerves. Not to disrespect this doctor's expertise, but he is not exactly correct in suggesting that chronic pain doesn't mean damage is occurring. First of all, some chronic pain is degenerative, which means it IS causing damage. He assumes that chronic pain is always Central Pain--caused by the brain. But even then, Central Pain can be caused by damage to the brain, and if it's poorly treated, it leads to more brain damage and more pain!

Thank you very much for your reply. I was wondering what would be a good way to treat emotional pain. I'm good with dealing with physical pain. Where I push myself thru it.

Rushikesh Parekh You should become familiar with what is called "Emotional Intelligence," and how it consists of 2 sets of essential skills. Set One involves the skills of "Emotional Self-Regulation," and Set Two involves the skills to connect emotionally with others in a rewarding and healthy manner. For Set One, or "Emotional Self-Regulation," you need to accomplish the following steps: * identify your emotions as they occur. * defuse the emotion to a manageable level (relieve the overwhelm). * Express the emotion in a genuine but safe manner. * Process residual emotion and (possibly) make an Action Plan (Empowerment Process) I can tell you more about how to accomplish each of the above steps, but I dont want to overload you with too much information at once. Please know that you can learn to regulate your emotions--by knowing you have a plan, and by practicing all of the sub-steps to accomplish the skills and make them reliable habits. Please ask me any questions. Know that traumatic memories often take longer to work through than fresh emotions. I can tell you more about dealing with traumatic memories if you'd like. Peace & Grace

Thank you very much I actually have been practicing emotional self regulation. It is the traumatic experiences that I want to heal from some of it is recent.

Rushikesh Parekh With traumatic memories, you may find yourself wanting to escape from them when they surface, because of the intense sensory and emotional grief. Healing requires that you use an "Exposure Therapy" approach. This allows you to sit with little pieces of the memory at a time that you process and fully feel, until you can sit with the entire, intact memory without overwhelm. Exposure Therapy is best done with a therapist who is very experienced in "trauma work." She will have to know how to gauge when she should press you a little further, when she should back off, and how to help you make sense of feelings. She will help you to see that your value as a person is not altered due to the behavior of others. It will help you to use the emotional regulation techniques to diffuse the emotion when it is too intense. If you've been trying to stuff down the intense grieving, it cannot heal. It has to be felt a little at a time so that you can release that energy. Trauma traps energy in your mind and in your body. You have to get that energy out, or it will cause a breakdown of your health and happiness. Please remember to honor what you did to survive. Do not be ashamed of the ways in which you coped in order to get through the traumatic experiences. Now you may have to learn to let go of any of the coping behaviors that no longer serve you. This requires the trauma healing mentioned above, honoring what you did to survive, learning and accepting that you are safe now, that you can let go of negative behaviors, and realizing that you can proceed with your life with new knowledge and skills to protect you in the future. Peace & Grace

It's all in your mind. Like they say "time flies when your having fun" well pain also flies when your having fun!

@Sophie B Nope! If you believe, you can achieve!

🙏🌹💕👏🤷💋👊😘👍😉 God bless you for the statement! Sometimes I feel like I'm here by myself too !

@Sophie Try it. Try being more positive and you'll be surprised at the results.