I feel for him so much… reminds me of the relationship I have with my mother. She wasn’t a drug addict but also sacrificed me to her selfishness…. The only thing we can do is refuse to let this kind of thing effect our kids! I pray he will have the strength to cut her out of his life to protect his kids.
@wizardofahhhhhhz2 жыл бұрын
The son wears his pain so visibly, no child deserves to go through that 😢😢
@btsbarb87982 жыл бұрын
Fr it’s heart breaking
@rasheeda13032 жыл бұрын
@Quentin Mallard some do some dont😔
@ayanmoody97582 жыл бұрын
@Quentin Mallard how’s he disrespecting his mother.parents/adults never want to hear the truth about their mistakes.smh “disrespecting”?
@marionweeks59532 жыл бұрын
So sad I cried !
@Justme-jq2np2 жыл бұрын
@Quentin Mallard I bet you never had a drug addicted parent. Totally different relationship.
@humanwithfoodname29502 жыл бұрын
I ain’t never seen a defendant tell the judge to hold on and he actually do it 😭
@lifewithaziyah2 жыл бұрын
My god put this young man in your hands and watch over him I just want to cry God bless him he so hurt
@TheSolitary12 жыл бұрын
JM knows that his pain run so deeply
@knightclassic1 Жыл бұрын
I'm from South Side Chicago and my Mother came from Alcoholic Family from Michigan so I do feel this Dude's pain 100%
@stanleybowser5853 Жыл бұрын
Exactly, smh. He let dude go too far
@krystaldanielletv52952 ай бұрын
He knew what it was he knew buddy needed to get that off!
@Leelang9312 жыл бұрын
This is intense. He’s so aware of his issues regarding relationships. A lot of men can’t even admit that.
@joelynhypolite322 жыл бұрын
11⁰1100
@gbr26312 жыл бұрын
nigga what?
@Durktoomany2 жыл бұрын
Men have admitted that but no one takes men seriously at all.
@ambzcloud2 жыл бұрын
@@Durktoomany Some of us do. Many of us are regularly advocating for men to be taken seriously and respected when it comes to them expressing their emotions in healthy ways. I would rather a man cry about being "damaged" than take that hurt and try to hit someone.
@Durktoomany2 жыл бұрын
@@ambzcloud or just sit with it and be unhappy until death. Thank you for advocating and of course it’s not all but in general it’s your a man deal with it.
@themacxavier2 жыл бұрын
I cried for the little boy inside of him still needing and searching for his momma.
@natasha1976tnmh2 жыл бұрын
I’m crying too. I hurt for him
@jow2652 жыл бұрын
That's so sad but you described it perfectly.
@kayshawnsimmons68222 жыл бұрын
His pain is still very present
@TheQueenrevolution2 жыл бұрын
Same here... this was so heartbreaking to see.
@shimmergangfitness58802 жыл бұрын
‼️‼️‼️‼️‼️
@deejai11732 жыл бұрын
The defendant is the first man, ever in my life, told the truth about looking for a mom in his girlfriends, most of them do. It’s a sad shame, but it’s true.
@perriredd6152 жыл бұрын
Nothing but the truth. This should be reposted
@psychicladyg94152 жыл бұрын
That's powerful cause women look for their daddy in their boyfriend not all though. What do kids look for when they don't know their daddy or mommy well?
@looper50702 жыл бұрын
Same thing I noticed. It made me think of my ex’s and have a little, just a little now, more understanding of maybe why they treated me a certain way. Men can be broken from childhood as well. Sad!
@deejai11732 жыл бұрын
@@psychicladyg9415 yea it works both ways. It was just a first in hearing a man admit it… You know how it is.
@psychicladyg94152 жыл бұрын
@@deejai1173 Part of me wants to watch it again, but it is so intense. I was doing something else and hearing the tone of his voice made me watch. Kids really need help. I was thinking about working to help kids find permanent loving homes. Seeing this has given me more of a reason to choose to do so.
@Belle2oo82 жыл бұрын
Hes just expressing himself the best he knows how. He doesnt mean any disrespect towards Judge ❤️
@just_anobservation2 жыл бұрын
Yeah and I think JM knew that as well.
@gwendolenmccloud87712 жыл бұрын
The son's testimony brought me to tears. He is just showing his raw emotions. I really, really feel for him!!!!!!!!!!
@lawill35592 жыл бұрын
He’s hurt hurt. He’s said he’s numb, but his emotions shows something different. It’s to be expected.
@lindalewis2952 жыл бұрын
Yes, I agree with you he's hurt. I wished Judge Mathis would have offered he and his mom counseling to help them both heal.
@leir20052 жыл бұрын
Comes across as dangerously angry to me.
@lanasiakishana28632 жыл бұрын
@@leir2005 really?
@rasheeda13032 жыл бұрын
@@leir2005 I disagree
@lawill35592 жыл бұрын
@@lanasiakishana2863 not all folk will make a compassionate attempt to understand......we’ll just continue to pray for our brother.
@NotUnique_2 жыл бұрын
I like how judge mathis told him respectfully to be more respectful
@SD-gf1qg2 жыл бұрын
He knows he’s hurting
@NotUnique_2 жыл бұрын
@@SD-gf1qg yea that was hard to watch
@mr.unbothered2 жыл бұрын
@@SD-gf1qg yea Judge knew he had to vent some of that pain away...
@SD-gf1qg2 жыл бұрын
@@NotUnique_ facts smh
@SD-gf1qg2 жыл бұрын
@@mr.unbothered it made me just text my mother saying “I love you” because I’ve never had to deal with that even growing up in the hood. I’m from Newark, NJ where it’s rough but my mom made it priority to get us out of there and make a better way and I appreciate it and feel so sorry for others that went or is going through this. I teared up twice watching this cause I feel sorry for the people that are hurt and going through this is well. Sucks wishing that there was a way for myself to help bring them closer together when you can’t. Praying for everyone going through this 🙏🏼
@grateful96722 жыл бұрын
This should definitely be viewed in drug addiction support groups.
@ggaona112 жыл бұрын
The fact that he said “I still love you momma” at the end like that shows that he still loves his mom even after the serious pain and trauma she’s caused 😔
@knightclassic12 жыл бұрын
He had no choice because he never had his Father
@mmsmart10142 жыл бұрын
His bring tears to my eyes the is in so much pain. Hope he can get some therapy
@Justice4some2 жыл бұрын
He a good son
@believer1715 Жыл бұрын
@@knightclassic1he said multiple times his father was the one caring for him & his sisters.
@believer1715 Жыл бұрын
@@Justice4some he's disrespectful
@Missyjjm2 жыл бұрын
I’m glad JM letting him get his anger out… I’m hurt for this young man
@kayshawnsimmons68222 жыл бұрын
He needed to vent
@lilliewalker88792 жыл бұрын
Judge Mathis hate crackheads .that boy is outta control& JM should make him hush!
@lilliewalker88792 жыл бұрын
JM is wrong on this one
@lilliewalker88792 жыл бұрын
He need to calm tf down.
@jamesstewart5222 жыл бұрын
Judge knew he didn’t mean no harm. He could clearly see this man was hurting.
@godschild55722 жыл бұрын
Can’t stop the crying,they will overcome this I’m praying for them both
@virgirl84132 жыл бұрын
Beyond crying…. This hit HOME! 😢😢😢
@eve33632 жыл бұрын
Me, too
@moddyboddy36312 жыл бұрын
I’m praying with you
@Jmarie01342 жыл бұрын
@@danchris6823 meanwhile white people alway in other cultures business. Don’t y’all have something to do Dan?
@sharjjahnaziz41222 жыл бұрын
Why you cry ?
@cassiew17342 жыл бұрын
This case just broke me down into tears for the defendant. He really needs counseling because he is so damage and broken by his mother. Shame on her
@MurdenButts-mo2jv9 ай бұрын
I'm in tears,this was a very hurtful case to watch
@cocokeys22862 жыл бұрын
My heart hurts for this man. He’s HURTING. The little boy inside him is hurting
@jasonr.98632 жыл бұрын
Salute to JM. I don’t think I’ve ever seen him give someone this much rope with disrespect. However, he understood the pain and struggle this man has gone through. I hope the young man gets counseling because he has six kids to raise.
@kimmarievan-ever65992 жыл бұрын
He could see this young man needed to vent and pour out the pain of growing up in that atmosphere of neglect.. big respect to judge Mathis for allowing him to do so and I'm glad he found in his favour for emotional distress as its very rarely he gives a judgement based on that..
@pamelaallen57162 жыл бұрын
The son is so hurt my heart goes out to him😪. I pray he gets the help he needs!
@nurarobinson77892 жыл бұрын
Yesss!!!! 👏🏿 👏🏿👏🏿 I truly CAN feel his pain. SO SAD 😞
@troyabrams85392 жыл бұрын
Facts
@jeremiah61142 жыл бұрын
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@iMr.Jetpacks2 жыл бұрын
JM was the perfect judge for this case! No offense to any other televised judges, but they wouldnt of known how to handle this the way JM did. JM let this case go on for lesson purposes
@MarcosRodrigues-pm1df2 жыл бұрын
That's right, I couldn't imagine this episode on Judge Judy. I also believe that Judge Joe Brown would have dealt with It with the same amount of respect.
@angelamarshall71942 жыл бұрын
You’re so right, no one else could have dealt with this case the way he did! Blessings to the young man, praying he can heal for his children..
@g.jameson33142 жыл бұрын
@@MarcosRodrigues-pm1df I think Judge Joe would have tried to lecture him with GRE words.
@classierobertson99752 жыл бұрын
OMG this was so sad 🙏🙏🙏
@laurena53352 жыл бұрын
Absolutely💯
@aaronvanauken97062 жыл бұрын
I myself was an addict and have put the relationship with my children in jepordy. I feel for both of these people after spending time, I pulled my head out and raised my kids alone. My eldest is 27 and my children are the most respectable and responsible people and thank my god everyday for that. This case really hits home and I hope they can patch up the damage. My heart goes out to you.❤
@andreabobbette8252 жыл бұрын
Stay Blessed
@almohvn332 жыл бұрын
He is so real. I love how he was real and made this clear!!! He is real, and we are all so sorry for what you went through, young man. We are on your side!
@rashidareeves782 жыл бұрын
This was intense...and that's an understatement.
@kayshawnsimmons68222 жыл бұрын
Indeed
@FM-ig2nj2 жыл бұрын
Had my heart rate up...
@shimmergangfitness58802 жыл бұрын
Very hard to watch
@perriredd6152 жыл бұрын
Soooooo INTENSE!!!
@agray74742 жыл бұрын
This was so intense, I couldn’t watch the whole thing. I’ll come back later
@amandapeek83582 жыл бұрын
I pray he is covered with the Spirit of Healing!He is carrying so much trauma and pain and Thank the Most High he is attempting to heal. Love light and peace to you King!!
@bondbaby11702 жыл бұрын
AMEN
@rasheeda13032 жыл бұрын
I agree and he really loves his mother😔
@QueenSheba432 жыл бұрын
Amen
@rachelcallahan26122 жыл бұрын
AMEN
@latoshalove95432 жыл бұрын
Amen
@shellzdabest802 жыл бұрын
She not only needs rehab she needs counseling for the traumatic things that she has gone through!! The fact that she has not taking her own life like her mom shows her strength. May JESUS heal her, her son, her daughters, and their family as a whole!! Amen
@bigpooh23at Жыл бұрын
As a black man with a mother who was a victim to crack I can TOTALLY relate to this. This hit deep. Bruh is hurt. Didn't realize this till my mom died that every boy needs his mom
@ignitionSoldier2 жыл бұрын
This man is full of pain. He can't even express himself without it pouring out.
@mitulu742 жыл бұрын
I felt it too...def dropped a tear...
@cici78442 жыл бұрын
I feel him when he says “I’m damaged by you! I’m damaged!” Judge Mathis handled this case so well. Wow.
@destinymariee81252 жыл бұрын
That's exactly how I feel from my mom.
@beb54072 жыл бұрын
JM was phenomenal 🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️
@cutandgo2 жыл бұрын
The trauma in this episode is quite palpable. JM is bringing awareness to the public all the time. I pray for all the families going through such experiences.
@serious71792 жыл бұрын
This made me anxious...I hope this young man finds peace and I hope she stays in recovery.
@sweetbeloved6232 жыл бұрын
The son bless his heart he is so broken with his mother about her drug addiction, them drugs are powerful it doesn't care about nobody.
@elwin382 жыл бұрын
I know this is status quo, but cocaine is really a hell of a drug!!
@sakurakou20092 жыл бұрын
@@elwin38 black people should avoid drugs like plaque , learn from asians , it hardly you see asian who drug addicted , they take drug problems seriously in asian countries you can get executed for drug dealing in asian country even if you forgein.
@sweetbeloved6232 жыл бұрын
@@elwin38 so true i see this a lot.
@sweetbeloved6232 жыл бұрын
@@sakurakou2009 I agree with you💯🙏
@benimcanm3512 жыл бұрын
@@sakurakou2009 Added a few links out of many to show the Asian fight against drugs across the continent. Also, I live abroad and I often travel through parts of that continent and their struggles are no different than ours, really. Across the ocean in different countries people fight, do drugs, have babies out of wedlock, and etc etc. While living overseas the people I meet are always curious about America and describe it as a Hollywood movie, because that's all they see and know from TV. Your comment is reminisce of that. One thing you said right was *Black people should avoid drugs like the plague.* kzfaq.info/get/bejne/sLljprd-t6zelYk.html kzfaq.info/get/bejne/j9SnY8p0t92ocYU.html kzfaq.info/get/bejne/idKBrKWit92-iWQ.html kzfaq.info/get/bejne/gbOgaa2Y0MW3gWg.html kzfaq.info/get/bejne/kM6WrNNj0a-spX0.html kzfaq.info?search_query=drugs+in+asia
@apromiseslade24662 жыл бұрын
I like that the judge let him talk. But when he said he wanted him to talk so that people can see how children felt when they’ve been abandoned by their parents due to drugs. It’s not only for those children, but the children that been abandoned by parents that were addicted to men, addicted to drama, addicted to what other people say about them. It’s for those children too because we all feel the same way. Whether our parents abandoned us due to drugs or because of something else. I felt him.
@tinadepratto6032 жыл бұрын
Omg I kept waiting for JM to snap on him or smthg😂😂.I glad aswell that JM let him tell his story n get this off his chest I bet he probably felt a lil better..I hope he stay straight n have a good life..
@biggboi39322 жыл бұрын
A hurt kid is a hurt kid I get you. However I don’t think it’s fair to compare drug addicted mother to man addicted mother. The dangers and hurt and the scars are way to different. It’s a wonder this young man is even alive.
@apromiseslade24662 жыл бұрын
@@biggboi3932 I understand where you coming from, but I felt his pain and my mother wasn’t addicted to drugs, but to men. We all got taken from her actually from her addiction to men. Being addicted to a man is just as bad as being addicted to drugs. And that’s evident soon as your kids get taken away from you. Just as the parent that’s addicted to drugs would get their kids taken from them. My mom was so addicted to her man that she couldn’t even give her kids a call that were living with her mother, not even a two minute convo, not a happy birthday, not a I hope you get well soon. So I believe in my case it can definitely be compared to those that are addicted to drugs. Because any addiction that allows you to neglect your kids is a bad addiction, it could just be too food.
@apromiseslade24662 жыл бұрын
Oh and my mother let 8 of her kids go. She had a total of 11. So yea, from my experience men can be just like a drug.
@Sandalphon137292 жыл бұрын
I’m glad he did….unfortunately my daughter has a father who is still doesn’t bother (drugs too😢), now I know how bad it may hurt her. Maybe it’s a blessing he’s not around if his life comes with all this drama, anyway….I pray to God I’m doing enough.
@natashakhamo86962 жыл бұрын
I had to pause when the son was talking. Made me so emotional i needed a break. Broke my heart and cried for him. When he started saying ..... she was never there always right around the corner or on her way. Especially when he said she didn’t help with me homework. The things that may seam insignificant to some make the most impact. God bless this young man and give him the strength to let go of the anger, forgive, and get through all the trials he has had. May the mom also get the strength to stay clean and earn her children’s trust and forgiveness.
@ceciliawhite19072 жыл бұрын
Wow this deep but someone needs to tell him how to carry himself in court. Judge Mathis is a real man!
@Cookiemom6752 жыл бұрын
It’s amazing how our parents were addicted to drugs, abandoned us. Then come back and think we are supposed to have a healthy relationship. She hasn’t considered the damage she’s caused this young man.
@blaqkdiamond9792 жыл бұрын
How do you know that? Obviously they considered more than that cause he stay needing her he's a deadbeat as well
@babygee93492 жыл бұрын
That part
@jeremiah61142 жыл бұрын
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@wecountingmoneyoverhere25172 жыл бұрын
It really seems like she's putting fourth an effort to better herself and gain some respect from her son. The young man could probably use some therapy as well.
@believer1715 Жыл бұрын
@@wecountingmoneyoverhere2517 I agree it's disappointing to see the judge handling in the manner he did. Judge Mathis lacks compassion, sometimes I can't stand him. Always insulting people calling the crackheads like he wasn't no damn jailbird hisself
@EmperatrizNyhnaLaw2 жыл бұрын
That poor baby is so hurt by his mama. And whatever woman trying to love him is probably running in circles 😫
@OchoaSkyy2 жыл бұрын
Exactly men that aren’t loved properly by their mother don’t know how to love a woman correctly. 😩
@kayshawnsimmons68222 жыл бұрын
She has to be his momma, therapist, and friend
@darrollcubit38702 жыл бұрын
The young man really needs counselling
@TSR2282 жыл бұрын
He’s a man.
@Bloombaby992 жыл бұрын
@@kayshawnsimmons6822 And that isn't fair because nobody does those things for a woman.
@diamynefarmer2 жыл бұрын
I really wish the son can be a public speaker I really wanna hear his story my family went thru the same thing an it always seem like the drug addicted parent don’t never wannna take responsibility for what they caused but I hope someone reach out to him.
@jlothomas13492 жыл бұрын
This was intense and so hard to watch. I can really see this young man's hurt. So sad how drugs has ruined this family.
@Firece_Lioness2 жыл бұрын
This right here I got me crying. This man is hurt but living for his kids.
@cassandracarter81972 жыл бұрын
He acting a full, six kids he making a total fool of himself! He knew his credit wasn’t shit!
@Firece_Lioness2 жыл бұрын
@@cassandracarter8197 By the use of your grammar in this post I have determined, you are a fool too...Just a FYI having bad credit a person can still get a car. Its called "Buy here, pay here" the interested rates are high but they are riding.
@lilliewalker88792 жыл бұрын
Never tell JM that your a crack head because he use it against u...lol
@lorenzosimmons5507 Жыл бұрын
@@cassandracarter8197 always that one.....
@justinwaltower94542 жыл бұрын
This had me in tears, I wanted to give him a hug…. Man to man.
@simplelady43712 жыл бұрын
King!
@mom2bbygkaterad3792 жыл бұрын
Beautiful words Sir. He's truly damaged. Please God, heal this man.... Mind, body & soul.❤🙏🏾❤🙏🏾
@ericarogers4282 жыл бұрын
Me too.. I couldn’t hold back the tears!!
@sheskates65512 жыл бұрын
💕💕
@mitzithompson65852 жыл бұрын
Beautiful ❤️
@amayanicholson81712 жыл бұрын
I cried listening to all the son went through, I pray that he makes it great in life! I'm also glad that JM let him speak his truth and was understanding towards him!
@deshawnmason26772 жыл бұрын
😢 😢 Tear dropper.. Speak the truth sir!! Thank you JM for allowing him to speak his pain!!
@cristinaaperalta2 жыл бұрын
It's so sad and I feel his pain. It takes a strong person to stop the cycle and survive. I'm still crying😭. At least he's letting it out and with the right judge. Judge Mathis is one of the best judges for situations like this.
@Its_TJayy2 жыл бұрын
He sure is I love judge mathis!
@danchris68232 жыл бұрын
out of the Asian culture white culture black culture Hawaiian culture Spanish culture, the black/African American culture is the weakest always blaming someone
@andrejamal54382 жыл бұрын
That it does
@troyabrams85392 жыл бұрын
🖕🏽 Blame this We good without your complaint
@troyabrams85392 жыл бұрын
@den
@shannonmarieh.7942 жыл бұрын
He needs therapy to heal. I feel for him. However, legally, he should pay. Her being a bad mother can't be the legal reason not to pay. Sad all the way around 🥺
@annatillman922 жыл бұрын
I think JM just really wanted to compensate for all his damage and hurt. Maybe not the best judgement because I've seen him deny emotional distress to children of addicts, but I can understand why he ruled in his favor.
@Bloombaby992 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@kaniajones40292 жыл бұрын
@@annatillman92 He probably was scared of how the son might act if he lost. He was already on 100
@colors57782 жыл бұрын
JM did make him pay for tickets and made her pay him for being damaged.😎
@jerrandorose54432 жыл бұрын
The judge did let him pay.
@rashidatajibola1892 жыл бұрын
You can see and feel all the hurt in this man, it’s almost like he is searching for answer to why this happened, I feel so sad for him, I’m glad he was given the chance to speak even when the court does not like the language, how does one heal from all this hurt!!
@marionweeks59532 жыл бұрын
This episode is so powerful!!! It brought me to tears I just want to hug that young man!!
@adriagray94272 жыл бұрын
Lord please heal this young man. Heal his heart heal his mind
@bondbaby11702 жыл бұрын
AMEN 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
@Ives_xo2 жыл бұрын
🙏🏾🙏🏾
@kayshawnsimmons68222 жыл бұрын
He needs therapy
@btsbarb87982 жыл бұрын
@@kayshawnsimmons6822 g-
@startinajackson6062 жыл бұрын
Yes yes yes heal him Jesus. My God this crack was the devil
@playboyprincess78322 жыл бұрын
*The PAIN on Judge Mathis face for this young man.. It's just ALL on his face through the ENTIRE trial (I'm sure he spoke with him privately after the show)...GOD I PRAY TO YOU NOW THAT THIS YOUNG MAN CAN TURN TO YOU AND EXPERIENCE THAT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE...AND LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU ARE ALL THINGS! YOU'RE A MOTHER TO THE MOTHERLESS, YOU'RE A FATHER TO THE FATHERLESS AND YOU WILL NEVER LEAVE HIS SIDE...IN JESUS NAME, AMEN🙏🏽*
@streetsofgold43102 жыл бұрын
AMEN!
@playboyprincess78322 жыл бұрын
@@streetsofgold4310 🙌🏽
@babycakebullock16622 жыл бұрын
In the Mighty MIGHTY NAME of JESUS!!!! 🙌🙌🙌 amen! 🙏
@Kiera_R2 жыл бұрын
Amen
@elishamartin98632 жыл бұрын
Amen!!
@nunyabidness7313 Жыл бұрын
As a child of addiction this one took me to sobs. He said it all ❤️
@ambzcloud2 жыл бұрын
My heart aches for our brothers and sisters like the defendant. I can't believe the mother had the audacity to sue her son for emotional distress after all she put him through. Smh. I hope he and his sisters get some therapy. They deserve to be happy.
@lisapoole12192 жыл бұрын
She broke his heart. I will die before I let any of my FIVE sons feel even a piece of this pain. God heal this man.
@marionweeks59532 жыл бұрын
Broke me down completely!!!
@troyabrams85392 жыл бұрын
Thank you for your love for your kids
@lilliewalker88792 жыл бұрын
I didn't believe her son some of the stuff he was saying he was lying
@marionweeks59532 жыл бұрын
@@lilliewalker8879 I don’t know what you were watching are hearing but if you don’t hear the pain in that mama voice and see the passion in his eyes something is wrong
@Observe..The...Truth...4442 жыл бұрын
@@lilliewalker8879 I felt every bit of what that man was saying….. He had no reason to lie at all……Parents aren’t always truthful to their kids……
@ChocoBeauty82 жыл бұрын
The defendant needs to get into counseling ASAP the amount of complex trauma he has experienced is painful. He needs professional support to get through it, if not for him he should do it for his six children. I pray this young man and men like him receive healing.
@corazoncubano53722 жыл бұрын
Especially due to the fact that he has his own kids.
@rosej50292 жыл бұрын
I'm surprised JM didn't offer family counseling as he has in other episodes.
@adagator332 жыл бұрын
This made me cry. God help this young man. Thank you for this Judge Mathis.
@debrahill22722 жыл бұрын
Judge Mathis demonstrated exceptional patience during this episode. 🤔 This is what happens when you don't raise and love your children. Generational curse culture is real. MENTAL health counseling is essential for both.
@neciemfkirby2 жыл бұрын
Why this man have me crying, sadly so many adults have to heal from their childhood.
@101KANDYCANE2 жыл бұрын
I mean real tears i had to pause and get it together 😢😢😢😢
@prettyparker2 жыл бұрын
This was so painful to watch and I PRAY for healing for this young man’s soul. The mother needs to accept responsibility in how she affected her son! I wish I could just hug him and tell him everything will be alright, but GOD’S got him! 🙌🏽🙏🏽
@Belle2oo82 жыл бұрын
Yesss Judge this was such a good episode. I love that Judge talked about how this is the effect of parents drug use
@jewels9642 жыл бұрын
"I'm used to it" . That is no sentence any child should ever have to say about a parent. These poor kids! 😓
@madisonmullen2190 Жыл бұрын
I agree! Unless it’s “I’m used to my parents drowning me with their love”
@jewels964 Жыл бұрын
@@madisonmullen2190 truth! ❤️
@believer1715 Жыл бұрын
You'd be surprised.
@rashidareeves782 жыл бұрын
As a former substitute teacher, he must've been a trip in school. But most teachers don't take the time to really understand...and I know they are overworked and underpaid but that's a whole different thing in itself. God bless EVERYBODY...for real.
@JustSheaShea2 жыл бұрын
My friend is a sub and is currently experiencing the same issues. Underfunded schools lead to lack of teachers and untrained professionals to deal with the problems children have, in school and at home. The rotating instructors belittle the disruptive students which upset them to the point where they are eventually removed from the class (temporary time out) despite the fact that there have been complaints from fellow employees (including my friend) and even students. The school feeds from 2 housing projects and the whole area is in the process of gentrification so the area gets worse for the residents before they are bough out by developers who will make it better for people like them.
@chasc63342 жыл бұрын
Yep. You really have to have a passion for children. Never seen myself as a teacher. I even settled for the low pay because I care for those children. Taking a course right now to identify a traumatized or abused child. I love talking to them and hearing them get steam off of their chest. It’s interesting looking through what’s called a “trauma based lens”.
@yotiep.10722 жыл бұрын
@@chasc6334 im most definitely traumatized frfr..
@the4cqueen1482 жыл бұрын
The sad part is... You can tell that he really wanted to learn as child.
@kjlee83992 жыл бұрын
@@chasc6334 As one of those former kids, thank you for your extra time attention and effort. I had a parent that was emotionally and mentally absent, physically she was there but abusive. School was my only escape. I had teacher's that took a special interest in me and showed me extra kindness. It made a big deal of a difference in my life. Thank you!💕💕💕💕
@ProfessorSinister222 жыл бұрын
I mean, I knew that daughters love their fathers and will eventually find a man based on how their father treated them growing up. I knew the same was for little boys. But this made me REALLY see it. Makes me look at my son a bit differently. Let's me know how I have to be there 100% in ALL ways.
@Keymommy2 жыл бұрын
This case hurts me bad I’ve never seen a man so hurt 😭
@wadilotus2 жыл бұрын
I sure hope this young man gets the counseling he needs. I feel his pain and it is excruciating. This level of generational dysfunction is destroying our communities. 😢
@marionweeks59532 жыл бұрын
I literally cried I just want to give him a hug and my phone number and say whenever you need to talk call me!!
@derrickbarber99582 жыл бұрын
@@marionweeks5953 yes❤️
@derrickbarber99582 жыл бұрын
Yes
@isaackid2 жыл бұрын
You can hear the hurt very strong in his voice.
@kayshawnsimmons68222 жыл бұрын
Yes, it's present and deep
@sweetbeloved6232 жыл бұрын
It so sad😒🙏for the both of them.
@isaackid2 жыл бұрын
@@kayshawnsimmons6822 facts
@isaackid2 жыл бұрын
@@sweetbeloved623 facts
@porsleendoll2 жыл бұрын
He needs a hug and a long cry. He needs some type of release 😩 🥺
@brittanyy.95432 жыл бұрын
I just started tearing up at my desk....you can REALLY feel his pain. Bless his 💙 !! Whew 😢 !!
@natalieharris86022 жыл бұрын
WOO WEE!! When the Defendant mentioned that his Mother chose a man over her children, I can TOTALLY RELATE TO THAT!!
@nekososa4182 жыл бұрын
Yes lord!! Me too!!! Sad
@queenleorobi82532 жыл бұрын
This young man is completely emotionally traumatized by his mother. 😢
@kiavin65462 жыл бұрын
Hurt people hurt people this man is in pain no judgement on how he expressing himself, I hope they get the help they need.
@kwasiaking19892 жыл бұрын
Salute to Judge Mathis, for recognising and innerstanding the defendants pain. I think he related some of his upbringing to what this brother endured. Showing patience, support and mentoring. That’s what we need more of in OUR community!
@tinawalker53352 жыл бұрын
He’s ordained. He has a calling on his life. He’s not super educated but he is highly intelligent if that makes sense. I’m so glad Judge let this young man speak. This was so necessary.
@Lovely_1One2 жыл бұрын
Yes thank you for saying that! That’s all many hurt people need to overcome their past a little.
@mybabies11062 жыл бұрын
YES!
@karameldrip97032 жыл бұрын
Ordained?
@tinawalker53352 жыл бұрын
@@karameldrip9703 Would you like to add to what I suppose is your question? I said ordained. As in he has been provided a spiritual gift through his pain and he will speak over the lives of others. I felt him and his pain and that's what I felt. You may feel different.
@dw39982 жыл бұрын
Sadly I understand perfectly how this child feels because I was in the exact same situation with my mother. He is gonna have to let it go with the help of a good therapist.
@TB-fk4qm2 жыл бұрын
Sending healing your way. May God mend your heart
@yotiep.10722 жыл бұрын
@dw Mann that shit be hard tho smmh...I been through same thing..I think I just have to get away for good from mines and not even have a relationship with her...
@dw39982 жыл бұрын
@@TB-fk4qm Thank you so much. My healing began 8/2020
@dw39982 жыл бұрын
@@yotiep.1072 yes it is very hard & you have every right to protect your peace. I did just that last year. My only regret is that it took me 49 yrs to realize that. I said that I was not taking any of that with me into my 50th yr on this earth. You can't make someone have a healthy relationship with you no matter how hard you try. That's not your burden to carry thats on them. Just follow what your gut tells you. Wishing you the best & I will be praying for your peace.
@yotiep.10722 жыл бұрын
@@dw3998 appreciate that luv..yea keep your peace and keep moving foward luv..
@spiritualvibrations28252 жыл бұрын
Mother and son need to get therapy. He is very angry and out of control. At some point, you have to take responsibility for your own life. He has 6 kids, with how many women?
@drknow19972 жыл бұрын
Oh gosh my heart broke. I am so glad that JM let him vent. The world really needs to see that and what drugs do to families.
@moestew23682 жыл бұрын
This sht got me crying man! It’s nothing like a young man pouring out his heart….you gon be alright cuz! Hold on!
@marionweeks59532 жыл бұрын
I know me too I just want to give him a hug!!!
@janethavila2792 жыл бұрын
The pain is extreme! Break the cycle! Prayers for this young man and I bet he is an amazing father to his kids. 🙏🏽
@abrianaiverson8427Ай бұрын
How interesting that he yelled over her the entire time but as soon as Judge Mathis walks away, now all of a sudden the son can acknowledge his mother’s continued growth and how she has tried to uplift him.
@scuba6162 жыл бұрын
My heart is broken for dude. You can feel the pain behind his words
@lawill35592 жыл бұрын
My heart hurts for him.
@kayshawnsimmons68222 жыл бұрын
His heart is broken and his pain is in every word
@peachesandpoets2 жыл бұрын
This cracked my fucking heart. This is why I roll my eyes when men try to gaslight women by calling them emotional... Men are emotional too. They just can't cry and stuff like we do because other men call them weak and stuff so instead they get into gangs and all kinds of toxic nonsense. This brother here needed so much love that he never got. This cracks my heart in two. I just can't. I'm so sorry baby boy. I'm so sorry. You should have been loved so much harder. Everyone failed you and I'm so sorry.
@yotiep.10722 жыл бұрын
Shiddd I cried...ioan care..this one hits home
@biggboi39322 жыл бұрын
As a whole women are more emotional. This is why women are more equipped to show empathy and love and caring. One of the reasons mom is the hugger the boo boo fixer the one most kids go to when they need to cry or need help. Not to say men aren’t emotional though.
@karameldrip97032 жыл бұрын
As a daughter of a mother AND dad who were on drugs (crack), I understand the frustration but I DO NOT judge my parents. I'm not mad at them, they are human. My childhood was not ideal but it is the past. He needs therapy and to humble himself.
@Hadiswife2 жыл бұрын
He needs humble himself? For what? This is his truth. He don't need to humble nothin!!!!
@itsjustme96822 жыл бұрын
humble?? go hook up the def then come back, ppl handle shii diff and he was juss too hurt to hold back. stop comparing yo problems wit others
@t_aintbut1me4162 жыл бұрын
I understand what your saying or attempting to say. It’s about forgiveness. My parents didn’t have best parenting skills however In spite of their failures I loved them. God blessed us at the end of their lives to come together and build some wonderful memories. Holding on to hurt prevents forward mobility. My parents issues were theirs I’m not saying their actions didn’t affect me but they didn’t define me. God kept me when I was suicidal, homeless, etc. He put people in my life to fill the voids. The story ended with me caring for both of my parents until they passed away. My son was able to meet and spend time with them . Life is like a race. Even if you don’t get a good start out the blocks still finish strong.
@believer1715 Жыл бұрын
So far this is the best post I agree my parents was on drugs My mother was on drugs all my and my entire life However that was her decision that she made for her life and although it had a negative impact on me I'm an adult now I don't hold it against my mother for her choices I just tried to make better choices but I have respect for my mother and I love my mom with the best part of my heart and I just say together we'll figure it all out but God makes no mistakes He don't give us our parents by default So I'm going to make the best of a terrible situation God bless you and I wish you the best in this life cuz I understand what it's like having drug addicted parents
@believer1715 Жыл бұрын
@@Hadiswifeoh yeah he needs to humble himself. In spite of a drug addiction you still honor your mother did he marry the mother of those six kids?
@tingtingtown2 жыл бұрын
I can hear his pain😢💔
@ISayToMyself2 жыл бұрын
I hope he finds peace. He didn’t ask for any of this. Every child deserves loving nurturing parents.
@michellesherice2 жыл бұрын
I feel for him. My children’s father is a drug addict. My exes parents were drug addicts. I see the effects first hand.
@payableondeath90912 жыл бұрын
he needs to do everything he can to stop the cycle even if it means keeping his Mother away from them children
@AieshaMc2 жыл бұрын
💛💛💛
@glamglam20112 жыл бұрын
Best case ever! I could've watched this for the full hour. I wish you would show more raw and gritty cases like this.
@simplelady43712 жыл бұрын
Thank you judge for letting him speak. I went through severe trauma from a mother who I believe hated me! He's not a bad guy, he's tormented by the pain! Black King you are worthy! You are loved! I manifest healing to you! If only I could hug you. I shed those tears of your heart with you! I see you King, I see you!
@butyoucancallmesam2 жыл бұрын
This man is going to have to learn some self-control. Even in anger, you must control yourself. He's before a judge and can't contain himself.
@Bray_Jay2 жыл бұрын
That is the result of being reared in an uncontrollable environment.
@SRT_DRE2 жыл бұрын
He’s from Chicago. And his mom a drug addict. Probably was on drugs when she was pregnant with him. Never know. But he just poured his heart out that’s why Judge Mathis let him keep going. Judge Mathis felt every word.
@melanieedwards47622 жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly. Understanding his pain and frustration, But very much Needs to Grasp his self control
@cflournoy15292 жыл бұрын
Very true but you see the judge is nodding his head in understanding. He’s from the hood too, and he can relate. When you know nothing but the streets it’s hard to change your behavior even in a professional setting.
@mecca69412 жыл бұрын
He wasn't raised ... He don't know
@indigorose12702 жыл бұрын
She has an EXCUSE for everything. Which unfortunately will slow his healing. May God bless him.
@JustSheaShea2 жыл бұрын
I’d like to believe that it’s just another scar, another wound she has inflicted. However he has to make the choice to heal with or without her admission. It could hold him back or be the last straw and the very thing that leads him to healing. I’m not disagreeing or being disrespectful, I just like psychology and philosophy n shit 🥰
@Imissyoulou2 жыл бұрын
@@JustSheaShea You learn to live with it. YOU NEVER HEAL. Only speaking from experience.
@JustSheaShea2 жыл бұрын
@@Imissyoulou “You are the key to your own healing, not time. Hurt, trauma and dense conditioning will continue to sting in your mind, impacting your emotions and behavior, until you go inward. What heals is self love, learning to let go, self awareness, and building new habits.” Yung Pueblo | Intention You never stop healing because you never stop growing but aggravating old wounds instead of learning how to heal them with love and care will always hurt.
@Imissyoulou2 жыл бұрын
@@JustSheaShea You have got to live it, to understand it. NO TWO INDIVIDUALS are cut out from the same personality pattern. Not withstanding, that I, and many others, have had TRAUMATIC experiences early in life, we all deal with it differently. All of that self love, healing, let go, etc. sounds good, everybody deals with it differently. Me, I returned to school, and earned a Bachelor's and Master Degrees. Many hours of post graduate work and a Real Estate License. Grand daughter just graduated from law school. Children are doing well. Another friend of mine, was abused by his father but he went on to become a successful surgeon. Before he died, we use to talk about things we endured, but there was one thing we had in common; WE WERE BOTH BETTER PARENTS. We learned what NOT to do to our children. Once again, you have to LIVE IT, to understand it and no two people's feelings are alike.
@knowledgelady1 Жыл бұрын
I’m over here sweating after watching this. Very intense case and I hope this family receives peace and healing 🙏🏾
@boodang1002 жыл бұрын
Judge Mathis is the wises judge ever. People really did need to see this. Y'all know usually judge Mathis would've never tolerated that in his courtroom but the wisdom in him acknowledged that this was a very teachable moment. That's how you run a courtroom, it's all about results. Bless this family and I pray that they can heal.
@mjustien132 жыл бұрын
We needed to see this and im glad JM knows when to put formality aside and not hide the truth
@naturallymayah50472 жыл бұрын
Man. I’m only 6:44 in and let me just say I LOVED how JM allowed him to speak. Judge knew what was up.
@youngtiq47042 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@tarawhitaker272 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@mom2bbygkaterad3792 жыл бұрын
I wholeheartedly agree..
@taylorannmarie66402 жыл бұрын
This episode has me in tears……..he’s has so much pain and anger building up. Then when he tries to release it, he’s met by a green lighting and deceiving mother who’s still in denial!!!
@aadedapo47572 жыл бұрын
I feel for this brother. I’m happy that he’s trying to break the cycle. She really needs to take the blame for what she did or didn’t do and learn how to improve her relationship if not with her son but for her grandkids. This man is hurting and needs serious counseling.
@synoviahorton82012 жыл бұрын
He's so hurt that he can't see that his mother was also hurt and that people handle trauma differently 😔
@synoviahorton82012 жыл бұрын
Never implied that, I'm simply taking both parties perspectives into consideration with the information given in this short video. I know it's way more that was done and said in their lives, but sometimes If opposing parties actually got to the actually root of what started the issue in the first place, there might not be as much anger, bitterness, resentment, etc...that may be an opportunity to heal either together or parallel to one another so at least the negative energy is cleared for future generations, because if they can't at least come to an understanding, they either need to completely separate, or the situation will only get worse🤷🏾♀️
@adrianprince72662 жыл бұрын
Hard to see a mother/son going through something like this over drugs. Just goes to show us all how the drug epidemic can destroy a family.
@Chee2352 жыл бұрын
I think this is the main reason grown men hate women. Was your mother like this Adrian?
@adrianprince72662 жыл бұрын
I had the best relationship with my mother. Best mother anyone could have. But aside from that I speak nothing but the truth when it comes to women.
@Chee2352 жыл бұрын
@@adrianprince7266 that interesting... sometimes you speak like the son of a crackhead mother. You should represent your mom better by not talking trash. That way folks don’t think your mom is a crackhead.
@333.senpaimamiii2 жыл бұрын
@@Chee235 he’s not talking trash though….?
@Chee2352 жыл бұрын
@@333.senpaimamiii This comment was good but usually he demonizes women. On most other videos.
@professoruniversity56122 жыл бұрын
This brother speaks for so many people's pain.
@Taviaj2 жыл бұрын
I cried from the moment he started talking. I don’t see a good relationship moving forward but I hope they each get counseling to deal with the issues this has caused.
@krazychilel2 жыл бұрын
He is so hurt,he needs help he can't effectively raise his kids with this kinda anger. I wish him all the best.
@demetriarincon1352 жыл бұрын
Whew this was stressful to watch. I pray they both get the healing they need.
@teresaevans48402 жыл бұрын
I agree,this is do hard to watch 😭
@vickyserr2 жыл бұрын
That’s true, I winced as he spoke!! Bare pain in all this family! From generation to generation!! Cycle after cycle, I pray it stops with this young man !!
@corazoncubano53722 жыл бұрын
@@vickyserr From what I saw there is no way he isn't passing this onto his kids.
@andreabutts86972 жыл бұрын
She didn't laugh because she thought it was funny. She laughed with a nervous embarrassed laugh. I know judge mathis knew that. He just wanted to have something to say. I feel so bad for the young man. I feel bad for the mother in other ways. She has probably burned bridges she can't cross again. So sad.
@TheGemini52 жыл бұрын
God made sure I saw this TODAY! The past issues I had with my mom as a kid seem very minute compared to this. I really felt heartbroken listening to both of them.