"We commit one acceptance at a time" made me chuckle. I gotta admit, that's true

Wow so much wisdom expressed. Especially the part on righteous indignation - lightbulb moment!

SPOT ON! You covered all the secret sauce of my own death-do-us-part 19-year marriage / partnership. Prior to discovering each other, we were both just being the dogs we were (being ourselves) until we found someone with whom we had the right amounts of diversified skills and perfect imperfections we could care less about. Our attendance of your one-day course was a game changer for both of us. Thanks for all you do.

It soothes my broken heart to listen to alison

If a woman wants a man to change something, she will get so much further by sharing how she feels about it than criticizing him on it.

I can listen to Alison all day long :)

Loved everything you shared. Huge huge Thank You ❤

Amazing work!

Unbelievably and astonishingly valuable. I appreciate you Alison and this content

Outstanding. Thank you,. Alison. 🎉

Alison listening to you I always weep, so appreciate hearing what you have to say...really makes me question myself n reflect a lot on what I can do differently in the future, thank you!

I loved this thank you. It's how I see things too but without communication due to righteous indignation, it always ends up in misunderstanding and not listening to the concept or in denial. lack of maturity in this area I guess. Thank you for helping me see what I ask for isn't too much. kindness, thoughtfulness and supporting each other to become better not worse. ♥

Where has this awesome woman been ALL MY LIFE!!!!❤❤❤

It’s beautiful, thank you for sharing. You are admirable.

Can't believe I discovered you just today 🤯 but so glad I did! 😄

I absolutely love you! And absolutely love spirit and divine timing for leading me to you!

Thank you Alison for taking your precious time to enlighten us on this topic!

Thank u so much for this video . Such an eye opener and makes so much Sense.

Woo hoo more content. Thank you for share

Wow! This is brilliant! I wish I had tuned into Alison Armstrong sooner! Omg! Her knowledge, wisdom, insight are incredible. I’m learning so much. Thank you!

Thank you so much for your courage, commitment, and generosity in sharing all that you do, in the way that you do, Alison! 🌹✨

The solution for relationships is not relationship. It's giving without obligation and expectation. Relationship is about trading.... we all want the most for the least. It creates power struggles and control dynamics to increase benefit and lower costs. This can be circumvented by giving and meeting needs freely without expectation. The more this occurs the more it increases. Love spirals up..... relational trading spirals it down. The stronger will literally put the weaker into absolute bankrupty.

So so good❤❤❤❤❤

Very helpful and going to stop trying so hard and show appreciation and be myself and now tell my husband what I need to say for appreciation because no one knows from one day to the next what can happen as you described with the sudden heart attack

the perspective you give helps me realize how amazing men actually are, thank you

Great woman!

I thought that men know fairly quickly when they've found the woman they want to marry. I think it's also true that men settle for the woman who is around when they decide they should marry.

Why buy the cow when the milk is free?😂

alison is AMAZING. best person ever to actually learn about the opposite sex and yourself.

You are phenomenal and the world needs you sooooo much!!! Slash I do!! What is the 12 things?

Goodness you’re so cute Alison! Thank you for your wisdom. 🥰

Thank you Alison, i have to watch this again because i wonlisoon be meeting the man i dated online and it could be the make or break moment for both of us, it gave me the courage to say what i have to say in order for him to decide to run...or stay 😊😉

Thank you Alison! Your work is helping me so much understanding my experiences with men recently. I suffer from a chronic health condition and it's hard to find a man who thinks he is right for me, even when I think we are great together. The last man I had a relationship with said he couldn't commit because he didn't think he could take care of me due to other responsibilities in his life. I told him I didn't expect him to take care of me any more than he already did and I was happy with what he was giving, but it was no use, he had an idea of what a committed relationship meant to him that he couldn't fulfil for me... I also wonder, how long does it usually take for a man to get to know a woman enough to know she is right for him? Sometimes I despair that I will never find a man who would want to take care of me the way I need to be taken care of because of this illness, but I am making an effort to believe and have hope... I have to say listening to you talking about how men commit made me more worried, because if love is not what drives a man to commit, I feel very powerless to do anything about it. I love so fiercely that it overwhelms me. I wish to find a man who will want to receive all my love and care. It hurts to have to hold back because he is not willing to give to me in the same intensity...

Love you❤️

25:20 "He could protect me, because he didn't have to protect himself _from_ me, because I wasn't attacking him." I have a list of women whom I want to show this clip to.

I would more on this. Specifically the 12 things for men

Sometimes men want women to change too.

I wish I had friends like you Allison....

Where do we find the 12 things list ?

Holy shit, this is it. She figured out why my marriage fell a part. He was a man who couldn’t relate to what I needed, and why try to “logic” me out of it

You're missing something essential - that marriage was designed for character change. We tend to be self centered. Learning to truly love someone entails growth and character change. Read Tim Keller!

You have great content but a good microphone would be great for you 🙏

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I see marriages that “work” where the wife tells the husband what works for him, contrary to the integrity in this video. I am constantly asking myself why those men stay without their autonomy honored. Two people with integrity for themselves seems like the ultimate in a good marriage, not to mention the respective appreciation for the integrity in each other!

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Wow!!!!!!!!!! Wow!!! We gather in tribes where we have righteous indignation but it’s not a substitute for real power

Some of what you said reminded me of a joke: How does a woman impress a man on a first date?

God said get married

When guys circle it triggers me. I can’t sit through the circling. I wish I could and that’s what I want to work on. Understand that a guy circling is normal and is actually healthy and necessary.

37:58 "I'm speaking to the person whose underwear you're wearing." I'm going to start using this. It's better than "who makes the decisions in your relationship?"

KZfaq Logo Lauriston Smith replied to your reply on Georgina D's comment Alison Armstrong Addresses Commitment Controversy (live replay) Lauriston Smith ​terry tariThey most certainly do. They go every which way but loose to give the guy the "benefit of the doubt". Reply Alison: will you marry me, ok?

Don't men know fairly quickly whether they want to marry you or not? Even when you aren't acting like their wife, they will know almost immediately if they want you in that role and they act accordingly...?

What can I do to make him want me again for not only a quick sec ..

This is juvenile. What age is that woman 65?

Is there an age factor to using your situation as an example? You’re past the whole baby/child rearing phase.🤔 Otherwise you have some good advice in regards to having clarity and awareness.

Relationship between a man and a woman are only legitimate through wedlock. Its about obeying God. Not status not a ring not a label. The only thing that matters is obeying God. A man is a man is a man. Changing people is a futile endeavor.

I’m sorry but her cackling creeps me out. I keep waiting for her to whip out a large knife and start stabbing!