Pediatrician's Top Tips For Sleep Training and Teaching Your Baby to Sleep Through the Night

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We all need sleep, and this week, The Doctors Bjorkman, a board-certified pediatrician and board-certified OB/GYN, are diving into the world of sleep training as they review the literature about possible benefits and harms from these methods of helping babies learn to sleep. They also share HOW to actually accomplish this with the 6 Key Things you can do to help your baby learn to sleep through the night!
0:00 - Intro
2:09 - Newborn Sleep
3:08 - Before You Consider Sleep Training
4:53 - What is Sleep Learning/Sleep Training?
5:56 - Does Sleep Training Work?
9:06 - Limitations of Sleep Training Methods
10:16 - Additional Benefits of Sleep Learning
11:17 - (IRL) Emotional Prep
14:17 - Can Sleep Training Harm Your Baby?
17:07 - Negative Effects on Breastfeeding
17:54 - Nighttime Feedings
19:40 - (IRL) Nighttime Breastfeeding/Pumping
21:41 - Weaning Overnight Feeds
23:07 - 6 Key Steps to Sleep Learning
31:51 - (IRL) Our Own Experience with Sleep Learning!
6 KEY STEPS TO SLEEP LEARNING:
1.) Daytime Nutrition
2.) Supportive Sleep Environment
3.) Have a Bedtime Routine
4.) Set Your Baby Down to Sleep
5.) Mid-Night Reassurances
6.) Be Consistent!
Also check out our video to learn about What a Pediatrician Wants You to Know about Baby Led Weaning: • Pediatrician Explains ...
Other books/resources we’ve read along the way:
TakingCaraBabies - Cara Dumaplin
Baby Sleep Solution - Suzy Giordano
Cribsheets - Emily Oster
Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problems - Ferber
Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child -Weissbluth
Happiest Baby on the Block - Harvey Karp, MD
And probably others I’m forgetting but those were the big hitters!!
Studies on sleep training mentioned in the video:
- Mindell JA, Kuhn B, Lewin DS, Meltzer LJ, Sadeh A. Behavioral treatment of bedtime problems and night wakings in infants and young children. Sleep 2006;29(10):1263-76.
- Kerr SM, Jowett SA, Smith LN. Preventing sleep problems in infants: A randomized controlled trial. J Adv Nurs 1996;24(5):938-42.
- Hiscock H, Bayer J, Gold L, Hampton A, Ukoumunne OC, Wake M. Improving infant sleep and maternal mental health: A cluster randomised trial. Arch Dis Child 2007;92(11):952-58.
- Leeson R, Barbour J, Romaniuk D, Warr R. Management of infant sleep problems in a residential unit. Childcare Health Dev 1994;20(2):89-100.
- Eckerberg, B. Treatment of sleep problems in families with young children: Effects of treatment on family well-being. Acta Pædiatrica 2004;93:126-34.
- Gradisar M, Jackson K, Spurrier NJ, et al. Behavioral interventions for infant sleep problems: A randomized controlled trial. Pediatrics 2016;137(6).
- Price AM, Wake M, Ukoumunne OC, Hiscock H. Five-year follow-up of harms and benefits of behavioral infant sleep intervention: Randomized trial. Pediatrics 2012;130(4):643-51.”
- Blunden SL, Thompson KR, Dawson D. Behavioural sleep treatments and night time crying in infants: Challenging the status quo. Sleep Med Rev 2011;15(5):327-34.
- Middlemiss W, Granger DA, Goldberg WA, Nathans L. Asynchrony of mother-infant hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis activity following extinction of infant crying responses induced during the transition to sleep. Early Hum Dev 2012;88(4):227-32.
- Kuhn BR, Elliott AJ. Treatment efficacy in behavioral pediatric sleep medicine. J Psychosom Res 2003;54(6):587-97.
Intro Music: A WAY FOR ME - Nicolai Heidlas by Chem Ocampo
Keywords: pregnancy update, the doctors bjorkman, fourth trimester pregnancy, pregnancy vlog, new parents, newborn sleep, parenting tips, safe sleep

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@elizabethjones3456 5 ай бұрын

Seriously, can I send you guys a fruit basket or something? This worked NIGHT 1 with my 11 month old! She cried through the 5 min, 10 min and 2 15 min check ins and then laid down and slept through the night! Nights two and 3 she put herself to sleep and slept 12 straight hours. Amazed by how well this worked for her!

@andream6477 Жыл бұрын

We tried sleep training at 4 months, for 7 days, and it didn’t seem to work, and had me a nervous wreck listening to the crying - then we tried again at 6 months (when our babe was waking up once every hour) and it worked like a charm after 7 days! So, don’t be afraid to try again later if you abandon the first try.

@21StephieD Жыл бұрын

Yes absolutely. With my oldest we tried at 5 months and it didn't really take. Tried again at 9 months. And by night 3 he was sleeping 7-7!

@nk47100 Жыл бұрын

How long did your baby cry for those 7 days at 6 months?

@ramunedaugirdaite4171 Жыл бұрын

It is terrible for the baby!! Super traumatic and will influence him for the rest of his life, there is so much scientific proof about it!

@nk47100 Жыл бұрын

@@ramunedaugirdaite4171 That’s actually just false. Reputable studies show the opposite. I have a PhD in a scientific field and understand how to interpret scientific studies and I’ve looked at the data. Crying for 20 min with 2-5-10 minute check ins is reassuring. Prolonged overtired ness in children and the family systems does, however, have detrimental effects and long term behavioral and cognitive consequences. I see sleep training as an intervention. It’s not necessary for all families or well suited for all babies. But when things are going poorly it’s a helpful intervention like any other.

@ramunedaugirdaite4171 Жыл бұрын

@@nk47100 no it is not. They have to wake up at night and during some time always because it is in our nature. Leaving baby alone crying is just torture, no loving father would ever do that. Baby is born not to make your life comfortable

@HisBeloved2Cor11_2 Жыл бұрын

Do you know WHY your baby trained so easily? I’ve watched your newborn video, and I think it’s because you started teaching her how to fall asleep from the very beginning. You structured her days such that she slept, and then ate, then had wake time. You put her to bed awake, and the cycle repeated. Since you didn’t nurse, or snuggle her to sleep, she was learning to go to sleep on her own in her crib or bassinet from very early on. It paid off with big dividends when your nighttime sleep training officially began.

@janinemarish4419 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for this video! This gave me the confidence to sleep train my 4 month old. It was hard for about two weeks and slowly but surely she learned how to sleep on her own. We transitioned her to her own room when she was about 8 months. She sleeps through the night soundly and is able to get herself back to sleep on her own! Everyone comments on how lucky we are but I know it was the sleep training. I understand it’s not for everybody, but it was a life safer for me!

@madiarabella2589 Жыл бұрын

I like how they still lol at each other when one another is talking and still take each other in and validate each other while speaking I just love this couple

@blmdadventures6007 Жыл бұрын

This worked!! I used this method on my 5.5month old. Took 2 nights. I was holding her to sleep for the last month before that (she had a huge regression). Thank you for making such a helpful video explaining the training!

@katedaczka9158 Жыл бұрын

I am so gosh darn thankful I found y’all’s channel. This is so helpful, well and clearly researched and comprehensive. Thank you for sharing your expertise!

@samanthag1785 7 ай бұрын

This is so hard. I teared up throughout this video. My 11mo wakes up every 2 hours and has pretty much since he was born. It’s time. I’m just so anxious. I’ve heard so many negative things and I was emotionally neglected as a child and I am scared to do this to him. I work full time and waking up every 2 hours is killing me, especially because now I’m 11 weeks pregnant with our second. So tired.

@MaineCoonMama18 6 ай бұрын

You can do it, Mama! Sleep training is not emotional neglect and you will all get through this. I hope you both get some good sleep very soon.

@khadijarmf485 5 ай бұрын

I hope you are feeling better now, more rested and that your pregnancy is going well. Could you give an update, how did the sleep training goes and how does your baby sleep now? My daughter is 4 months old I am looking up some sleep learning methods 😊

@zainabbashir1220 2 ай бұрын

I need an update coz I have the same exact situation, I haven't started training, and I am currently listening to this video to see what I can do.

@khadijarmf485 2 ай бұрын

@@zainabbashir1220 السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته I tried this method in the video for 3 days, my baby cried 40min the first night, 18min the 2nd, 10min the 3rd. But I felt horribly guilty and stressed and felt it was wrong (after all we are made to respond to our babies' cries, or it wouldn't be that hard ignoring them, in my opinion anyway). What I ended doing with my daughter is : - waking her up constantly at the same hour even if she didn't sleep well (around 9am). I took into account her sleep cycles that are 45min. So if she slept last time at 5am, I would wake her up at : 5am + 6× 45 min = 9:30am. This prevents to wake her up in a middle of a cycle and be very tired - stretching her awake windows, I would let her nap only when it's obvious on her face that she's tired (red eyebrows, rubbing her eyes, yawning) and just not looking at the suggested wake windows depending on the age - awake period for the entire day 12h (if she woke up at 9:15am, bedtime 9:15pm) - last awake window 4h (except if she shows sleep cues and obviously wants to sleep) - naps in the daylight, only the night sleep in the dark (with a night light) - consistent bedtime routine She was 4 month old ⅓ when I started. After a couple of days her erratic sleep schedule was solved!! She sleeps 12h at night, wakes up twice or three times to feed I think she is in a growth spurt (she is 7 month old) but most importantly she falls back asleep after a 10min feeding!! Not like before when she was staying up 1 or 2h in the middle of the night when I desperately wanted to go back to sleep 😆

@khadijarmf485 2 ай бұрын

@lkathleenc Жыл бұрын

We based our sleep learning method off of this video and it has worked very well. We started with a few weeks of 5 min checks with cuddles and hourly bottles then slowly transitioned to the 5-10-15-15 method with no bottles. Now he is usually asleep between 15-20 mins whether he is laid down awake or if he wakes up a bit after being laid down. Thank you for your guidance and research!!

@beckt6953 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video! My baby was a good sleeper until 10 months. Sleep training changed our lives as we both worked early in the morning. I also reminded myself and baby he was loved, well fed and dry. Best wishes to all parents going through sleep difficulties. It gets better I PROMISE.

@kihembodoreen7368 Ай бұрын

Listened to y'all my entire pregnancy.. Can't believe I am back here now that my son is one year old.. Thank you ❤

@shrunjalpatel1570 Жыл бұрын

We sooo appreciate this video and all the details and research provided! Thank you so much! 😊

@anniegoldblatt5836 Жыл бұрын

I kid you not I sleep trained my 6 month old baby and I was terrified. She screamed 45 minutes for 1 nap and then I never had any issues again. One single nap. She still wakes in her sleep at night every few hours but puts herself right back down. Best thing I ever did for my sanity, health, marriage etc.

@adrienneweisner5263 Жыл бұрын

This was excellent!!! My little bubs is 10 weeks and I’m learning so much for when we are ready!

@dominiquedcosta Жыл бұрын

Thank you for taking the time out of your busy lives to put out this info

@lilyc1011 10 ай бұрын

Great video! Informed and personal and inclusive. 😊Thank you

@tamigarbarino6036 Жыл бұрын

My little man was a good sleeper from the start. I’ve tried to to create a bedtime routine with him in at least reading/reciting the same 4 books. We have only had success getting him to bed before 9:30 once or twice. He sleeps until about 7am. I’ve always been nervous to leave the room until the baby falls asleep once he was standing and semi mobile because he would run around the crib and he went down hard a few times. I stay in the room but have been letting him settle himself and I sit and knit quietly until he’s out. I’m definitely jealous of everyone who can get their baby to sleep earlier in the night. (He was also in the same room with us until he was almost 9 months if not a little bit longer and was basically sleeping through the night before we moved him to his own room

@wenjunbleeker6020 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for confirmation that sleep training/learning is okay 💕i was so scared to traumatize my baby but this makes sense

@JohnPaul-qo2xi Жыл бұрын

It takes several months for babies’ brains to grow into the understanding that when an object is out of sight, it still exists. (This is called object permanence.) Just think, when parents are not present, the young baby has no sense that they might be nearby. For that baby, they are gone-out of sight/out of feel. Young babies have no sense of anyone unless that person is sensed right there. So when a baby is left alone, it would be normal for a baby to have a severe stress reaction with a fight-flight reaction. But babies cannot move so they are stuck, unable to run to the parent for help (which we all know they would do if they could). If this mobilizing reaction goes on too long, the baby’s body has to downshift to a self-preservational mode. It turns into a freeze-faint reaction where the body slows down to preserve its life, slowing down energy use and growth. The baby will look catatonic. It’s strange adult logic that thinks this is good for the baby. Too much or too many times of this experience will have an effect on trust, and health (and morality).

@cvhashim 5 ай бұрын

Interesting

@amongthewildspices 2 ай бұрын

My goodness - this sounds possible but for a young baby (at 6+ months my baby was looking at two different doors to our shared room (telling me she was expecting me to come in).. I get your comment but the video stated the importance of waiting until your baby was old enough (also wanting to share my thoughts on this so other parents don’t feel fear shocked at your comment when sleep training is SO beneficial for all.)

@riccardosamartin 2 ай бұрын

That is fascinating, could you link some research about that?

@candisham1978 Ай бұрын

You sound like a loon. None of this is accurate. Nobody is putting their baby out in a field and letting them fend for themselves 5 days out of the week. Solo sleep is not abandonment. According to your logic, all us adults should not be able to sleep alone or comfort ourselves .

@allybby21 Ай бұрын

Please share where you found this: I want to read up on it.

@tiffanynaranjo7243 Жыл бұрын

Love how informative this video is and how it gives both sides!

@kristenbunch2177 Жыл бұрын

Learning wake windows was the major game changer in sleep training for us! Everyone asks us ‘nap times’ or ‘bed times’ but I always gave them time windows.

@kristenbunch2177 Жыл бұрын

After learning age appropriate wake windows, our colic baby who was waking 10 times a night and had to be rocked for 30 minutes before going back to sleep, fell right asleep and didn’t cry AT ALL the first night of sleep training.

@TheDoctorsBjorkman Жыл бұрын

Amen to that. We didn't even know what a wake window was when Cec was first born LOL and once we figured those out, it made ALL the difference!!

@TheDoctorsBjorkman Жыл бұрын

That is AWESOME! Agree they are a total gamechanger.

@mindom Жыл бұрын

what is a wake window? how often should my 13 month old be awake for during the day?

@hibaalhajji123 Жыл бұрын

@@mindom for 11-14 mo they are 3-4 hours

@divines7114 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video!! Super helpful. :) one question I still have that wasn’t mentioned in the video, do you recommend to take away the pacifier during the sleep training period??

@mamabear8446 Жыл бұрын

Babies have not yet developed the ability to self regulate. That doesn't happen until at least 18 months up to age 3. They can start to link sleep cycles at 4 months but they still wake up and assess in between. The studies done on effects of sleep training are inherently flawed. They rely on parents relaying information from a biased perspective, sometimes years after the fact. The follow up interviews are only after a few years and some of those are also from parents biased perspective. When babies are in distress, they produce cortisol. There was a study in 2012 that proved that sleep trained babies stopped crying on the 3rd night but had the same level of cortisol as the first night when they were crying. Their behavior was conditioned but they were still in distress. There have been no follow up studies on adults and how sleep training may have affected their social and emotional relationships. There have been no studies on any correlation between sleep training and the high levels of cortisol affecting cardiovascular health, weight, or even mental health issues in adulthood. Research on sleep training has not proven a long term benefit for children either. The only lasting benefit is to the parents getting more sleep. If you have done all of the research and decided it's for you then good on ya. Just look into it first and realize it's biologically and developmentally normal for a baby over 6 months to wake in the night and to call out for their caregiver.

@ThePink123candy Жыл бұрын

This was so informative! Thank you.

@MsSupenova Жыл бұрын

This video is awesome informative relaxing and empowering. you guys helped us so much. Thanks doctors!

@MeMe-ht2hd 10 ай бұрын

This channel is fantastic. I was afraid to go to the hospital as an African-American female because of the racial statistics of many African-American women dying after pregnancy. I went to the internet, which may not be the ideal location, and saw their hospital video about what to expect, and their films helped me. Thank you very much.😊❤+ 🏥

@tilaw6397 Жыл бұрын

Personally i went with the strategy of laying down next to the crib, getting up to comfort baby in ferber style intervals of time. I didnt leave the room until baby gave up crying & settled to sleep. I comforted her in ways that included picking her up. I never understood why theres no explanation on the recommendation to not pick them up & i didn't agree with that. This is the balance i found works so that i was certain my baby didn't feel abandoned or afraid. I was there fully for reassurance. It still took lots of crying but it actually worked. Whereas leaving the room resulting in 2hours+ of continued crying & i just made the judgement that this was causing to much distress. It genuinely isn't for every child.

@symphie5493 Жыл бұрын

Such a great video!! I always recommend The Peaceful Sleeper to my friends. Love that she offers different methods to fit you and your family’s situation. Also love that she also calls it “sleep learning” and really emphasizes the importance of tuning into your parent-gut and learning your specific baby’s cues. A frustrated “fussing” for your baby while they’re figuring it out versus an escalated upset “fussing” that needs comfort from Mom/Dad will look different for every baby, and this is SO important in the sleep learning process. Give them a little space to figure things out, and still support them along the way.

@aunparalleled Жыл бұрын

Can I have her account?

@sophiejones1698 6 ай бұрын

Who is the author of The Peaceful Sleeper?

@hamamama3v01 Жыл бұрын

I think I needed and appreciated the parental reassurances! Thank you

@hannahtoriumi-frageman8323 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so so much for this extremely thorough video. It answered all my questions and I so appreciate that you linked to all the studies you cited in the notes (fact finder mom over here 👋🏻).

@valeriepark9444 Жыл бұрын

My baby just hit four months, and I don't know if it's his age, or the fact that Daylight Savings Time ended last weekend, but he all of a sudden figured out how to tell me he was tired, and needed to go somewhere quiet and less stimulating. He even asks for a pacifier now! So much happier in the mornings, and the rest of the day :)

@bluetrolling Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for taking the time to inform your audience, it is greatly appreciated. I have started using the Ferber method and it appears to be working. I have had a few family members frown at it, I really needed this video. I love your positivity.

@brittanyphilpott5626 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video! Very informative

@taylorswf23 Жыл бұрын

My daughter was hella cranky all the time until we reluctantly sleep trained at 8.5 months. She immediately started sleeping through the night and taking regular and predictable naps. She was a different baby after that. It’s not going to change the mind of someone who’s staunchly against sleep training, but hopefully does encourage someone who is on the fence 🙂

@mileenamay1399 Жыл бұрын

I’m in the same situation…and this gives me hope what method did you do?

@kerryalai2017 Жыл бұрын

Was she rolling in her sleep? And if so, how did you go about her waking herself up every so often in the night? I feel like these videos dont really address the situation quite right

@taylorswf23 Жыл бұрын

@@kerryalai2017 she didn’t really roll. For the most part she stopped waking. If she did wake we’d let her fuss for a while. If it persisted we’d go to her

@kerryalai2017 Жыл бұрын

@@taylorswf23 oh ok. Thank you lol. I started rubbing and patting my babies back whenever the fussiness starts lately, its been working pretty well.

@sarahgeorge1968 Жыл бұрын

What about naps,how do you sleep train a baby to nap on their own

@Beba1589 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for speaking so softly 😅 its like you KNOW as I'm sure you do. So many gems in this video. Thanks again 💕

@relaxingsoundthearapy688 Жыл бұрын

Everyone works differently - for some sleep training might, but for others, there are various white noise or background sounds that you can use to comfort the child! The video is great...and it sounds to be very helpful as well....if one method doesn't work, give something else a try!

@annabondar2636 Жыл бұрын

This was so helpful! 👌🏻 We just started sleep training our 6 month old this week (our pediatrician recommended it) but I still had so many questions, you answered them all, thank you for this valuable information!!!

@MM-dx7oh 3 күн бұрын

My 9 month old nurses to sleep and has separation anxiety. We tried following these steps (with gradual weaning from nursing and putting him in the crib awake). The first night took an hour and he slept over 8 hours in a row. The second took 40 mins with only a bit of crying. We’ll keep at it but such an improvement! Thank you!

@malkablowy2106 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this!! As a desperate mama of an 8 month old (who slept through the night until about 3 weeks ago), this video saved me. So informative, a ton of (backed up) information, and we're on day 2 and haven't had to intervene for nap time. I sincerely appreciate this!

@brianhunter6324 8 ай бұрын

@malkablowy did you nap and night time train at the same time? We are having trouble naps right now. Thanks!

@malkablowy2106 8 ай бұрын

@@brianhunter6324 Yup, started with the first nap on the first day, followed by all naps and nighttime sleep. Good luck! You'll get through this:)

@ADayNTheLifeOf Жыл бұрын

Love this thank you so much!

@Lionel_473 Жыл бұрын

Currently trying to sleep train our 6 month old. It’s so tough! Thank you for sharing your experience and giving evidence based advice

@crachellaka Жыл бұрын

Thank you guys so much for this video!!!

@sabrinabelloso8832 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for sharing, this video has come at a perfect time! I do have one question.. how would you suggest weaning the night feeds and starting sleep learning? Should we focus on weaning the night feeds first and then once the baby manages to sleep through the night without any feeds, then tackle the sleep learning? He is currently eating twice on average per night. Thanks for all you do!

@mariacatuna8 Жыл бұрын

My FAVORITE VIDEO so far!

@juli00453 Жыл бұрын

What a great video. Can I ask you a question about your bedtime routine? How did you baby fall asleep before sleep training? Was she rocked to sleep or feed and the sequence changed?

@GJess09 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for being so detailed! Before this it seemed very overwhelming!

@TheDoctorsBjorkman Жыл бұрын

You are welcome. And it totally seems overwhelming. Especially cause EVERYONE has some kind of feelings about it being "the best thing they every did" or they're more like "how can you even consider something so horrible". We just wanted to share what exists in the literature/what has been studied and then let people figure out what works for them!! It was great for our family for sure.

@kimk5838 7 ай бұрын

Okay I can’t thank you enough! This is your best video by far! And that’s saying something!!! THANK YOU!!!

@vivani7363 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for all the tips. Do you have any advice on sleep training for naps? My little one followed the Ferber method for sleeping through the night, but we still have difficulty using this method for naps. Should we end sleep training for naps after an hour? If so, do we rock to sleep or try again after some more awake time?

@livyyybbyyy Жыл бұрын

I really needed this today because we’re sleep training this weekend so I’m emotional hearing you guys say “you can do this” because it has felt like I can’t.

@ramunedaugirdaite4171 Жыл бұрын

And you should not.

@livyyybbyyy Жыл бұрын

@@ramunedaugirdaite4171 Um....and why is that?

@ramunedaugirdaite4171 Жыл бұрын

@@livyyybbyyy baby needs you and your being around, if he cries it means he needs immediate attention and if you don't give it to him you just leave it to get traumatised and develope a not safe attachment wich will leade him to have emotional problems and many more. You should never shut your gut feeling, you feeling that you should react has to be followed and most importantly during first 12 months! It is just crazy that people are doing sleep training when it is prooven to be very unhealthy and does a huge impact on kids brains, cognitive develompment and causes so much unnecessary stress, why would you do it? Just because it is easier for you? Really, don't follow these trends

@livyyybbyyy Жыл бұрын

@@ramunedaugirdaite4171 did you even watch this video? Which included actual scientific data that refutes all that you just said…..? Or are you just here to parent shame?

@Azmina_the_warlock 5 ай бұрын

@@ramunedaugirdaite4171 delete this nonsense 🙄

@virgowitch8790 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful and informative video! As a mother of a 10-month-old who was firmly in the no-sleep-training camp, I'm considering it now because baby still wakes up throughout the night. Is 10 months too late to try sleep training? Don't want to put my baby through it if it probably won't work at this age.

@chocoluv403 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video! I have a question, was pacifier used for sleep learning/training?

@kelseyomg5495 Жыл бұрын

Love your videos. We just decided we are going to give IVF a shot, watching you go through it yourselves is so informative and somehow comforting haha. I appreciate all that you guys do and I’m crossing my fingers and toes for you!

@fadliputera2324 Жыл бұрын

I wish nothing but the best for you. Me and my missus went through 3 Ivf cycle before finally blessed with a son. May the odds be ever in your favor

@kaylinde2321 Жыл бұрын

Wishing you the best of luck as well. Also went though 3 cycles before having our son 🤍

@RedFive03 Жыл бұрын

Wishing you the best! My wife and I are expecting our little miracle boy soon. 3 failed response rounds of IVF and many IUI's. Mini IVF did the trick!

@sarabonakdar6332 10 ай бұрын

Thanks a lot for this video. Could you also please discuss early wakings? Did you experience this at all? How did you manage it?

@amandacosnett5820 Жыл бұрын

Just wanted to say to any new parents out there: you do not NEED to sleep train if you don't want to. It is not some rite of passage that all families have to go through. And even if it's something you want to do, you can do everything "right" and everything that the books say to do and it could still end up not working. It doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you or your baby. In fact, it probably means your baby is doing what is biologically normal. Listen to your heart and intuition: if it feels wrong to you, you don't have to do it, no matter what anyone else (your parents or in-laws, some "sleep consultant," friends, family members, "experts," even medical professionals, etc.) says.

@Redrock312 Жыл бұрын

If you watched the video closely, they make that point in the video. And it’s great that as physicians they’re acknowledging that it’s a personal choice as a parent. This video was obviously made for the parents that are interested/ curious about sleep training.

@TheDoctorsBjorkman Жыл бұрын

Agree with this 1000%. You are the expert on your baby and your family!! We so support whatever works for you to get rest - and that looks different for everyone. We definitely don’t think sleep training is the best or only way to do that, it’s just something we have gotten tons of questions about so wanted to share what the research has shown so parents/caregivers can use it as a resources as they are trying to figure out what will work for them!! Listening to your heart and intuition is SO IMPORTANT. Thanks for sharing that here. We really appreciate another viewpoint and normalizing that different things work for different families.

@beverlyceron8722 Жыл бұрын

@@Redrock312 I hope that she watched the video and not just started writing. Makes these two wonderful parents/doctors seem inconsiderate of others feelings towards it. Thank you for noting this

@ChandraCoatsBengalifornia Жыл бұрын

It sounds like you didn't watch the content. It's fine if a parent doesn't want to sleep train! Spreading misinformation however is not! "Biologically normal" infant sleep is a myth. Sleep is not intuitive to babies. Circadian rhythms start to arise while babies are still newborns and teaching them to sleep independently is also an age old tradition that benefits parent and child. "Biologically normal" was a phrase coined by an anthropologist who studied monkeys but I'm not a monkey and I'm not raising a monkey. The idea that this "expert" compared BIPOC to monkeys is highly problematic. The only reason it seems non Western cultures have lower bedsharing deaths is because only 20% of infant deaths are investigated vs almost 100% of them being investigated in the West. I was hanging out in the "biologically normal" infant sleep community for a long time but I could not stand all the tokenism, cherry picking and misinformation. I had to take a neutral look at the evidence eventually. Non Westerners traditionally don't use car seats either and we don't see that lauded as "biologically normal." It's quite silly.

@Anitacurtin Жыл бұрын

@@ChandraCoatsBengalifornia well said.

@ronamaria15 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for the video, appreciate it :) I see that it is suggested to start sleep training/learning around 6 months. My baby is 3.5 months now, and only sleeps if rocked or nursed to sleep. I will soon be starting with the bed time routine suggested in the video. Till I sleep train at 6mo, after the bedtime routine do I just continue to rock to sleep? Or is there a better way?

@sarahj87 Жыл бұрын

Great information, I’m in the midst of ST and I needed to hear all this again

@Perlita908 Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this!! I hate to ask another question because you have already done so much research. But I’ve been wondering what happens if you don’t sleep train a baby? How do they eventually learn or want to put themselves to without support and does this take years? My 10 month old has recently started sleeping through the night without having sleep trained but still needs support to fall asleep through nursing or rocking. So is waiting it out an option. Will he eventually just want to fall asleep on his own or am I creating a sleep association that will last months and years to come?

@rachelle2227 Жыл бұрын

This is such a great, all inclusive video! I love how you guys included how beneficial it can be for both parents and baby. The extra sleep is so important for everyone! We sleep trained our babe a few months ago, and it was so amazing not to have to get up anymore pretty quickly. She only took 15 minutes to fall back to sleep at each wake up, and we started with two night feeds, and quickly went down to one, which we are still doing at 7 months old. My husband does the night feed since he is a better sleeper than me. Each time I would have to feed her before, it took a long time to rock her back to sleep, and I would take a while to fall back to sleep each time. I matter too!

@kiranasif6483 8 ай бұрын

Hey how did you feed her between a sleep. My daughter is going to be q 4 months old I want to sleep train her but feed her too at least two time .

@rachelle2227 8 ай бұрын

@@kiranasif6483 From my research, you only need to feed a baby once in the night between 4-6 months old (I think this could be different if your baby is really small, or of course has medical needs). My daughter got used to it fairly quickly, and we just started responding to one of her wake ups between 2-4am or so to feed her. We easily dropped that feeding at 6 months old (though looking back at this comment, it looks like we were still doing the one feeding at 7 months old). Of course you can feed twice, it was just a game changer for us to only have to wake up once.

@vizlev Жыл бұрын

Thank you for a great video. What no one seems to talk about is if we're supposed to do the same thing for nap time during the day as well? When I'm at home at night this works great, but when only mom is at home during the day it doesn't seem to work. Any ideas?

@samanthab5006 Жыл бұрын

This is probably not the best analog but this reminds me of when we got our first cavalier king charles puppy and were kennel training. Obviously dogs are not babies but I remember a few nights of discontent. He loves his kennel now and we all sleep better. Currently trying for our first and like the idea of sleep training as we really prioritize healthy sleep habits for ourselves but am well aware that there's so much I can't imagine until I'm going through it.

@kristinsong7236 Жыл бұрын

THANK YOU for making a comprehensive video on this touchy subject. I have a 3.5 month old who has to wake up 4-5 times a night to feed, and sleep training has been THE most confusing thing in parenthood so far. I was going back and forth between wanting my baby sleep through the night for my sanity and getting scared by other websites warning long term attachment issues and psychological damage by letting the baby cry it out. I love that you actually read the cited literature on which this claim is based and gave me some assurance that I’m not treating my child like a neglected orphan 😅

@feliciahatchett2222 Жыл бұрын

Are you me? 😅 I’m in the same boat with a 3.5 month old light sleeper who wakes about every 2 hours during the night to ‘feed’. I’m still a bit confused on what the training would look like with room sharing and with night feedings. I feed on demand and while I assume the little one is getting adequate nutrients during the day, it’s hard to tell with an EBF baby.

@courtneyallen5793 Жыл бұрын

Literally same. My little just turned 4 months and enf and he will wake every two hrs and “feed” but back down within 1-3 mins but will actually feed 1/2 times at night. I think we are struggling with wake windows.

@MadhuriGuptawhousesthisanyway 10 ай бұрын

Also dealing with a sleep regression with my 3.5 month old babe. He wakes up generally 2 -3 times in the night to feed ( worse now ) but I am yet to understand how to ensure he had enough since I nurse mostly. Need to understand the prerequisites for sleep training in terms of baby’s ability to go without feeding during the night and wake windows etc. huge learning curve this.

@hibaalhajji123 Жыл бұрын

This was the hardest yet best thing that I've done with my baby when he was 6 months old, except for the reassurance part we've skipped it because in our case coming in to the baby would only make him cry even more and i fail and restart the process the next day because i would instantly pick him up. So it worked that way but it wasn't easy and it took him almost a month to sleep without crying. He was fine and healthy and got checked by multiple pediatricians because i was concerned too that he wasn't responding well with the method. Now he's turning one in two weeks and we get ALL the sleep that get us energetic playing the entire day!

@Adrian13rams Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video and rubric🥰

@clauiev.670 Жыл бұрын

Great video...extremely informative, and we will take your advice when the time comes to sleep train our newborn. Thanks again! P.s. - Im not sure if it was the lighting, but there appears to be a lump on the left side of Dr. (Mrs.) Bjorkman's neck. Maybe it was the camera angle, but noting it in case it had gone unnoticed.

@keylianeguillemi3441 Ай бұрын

Thank you very much ❤

@kittytv5653 Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this! Going to try seep training tonight 😬 !

@meganh.6993 6 ай бұрын

We tried this out because we were so tired after our 8 month old was waking up 2-4 times during the night. It works so well! We have to reinforce it from time to time but the best thing we ever did! She is such a GREAT sleeper now. She wasn’t before and I will be doing this with future babies!

@jeannelzaldana57 Жыл бұрын

Just want to say to all the parents who are sleep training: you can do it! Its hard but its so worth it in the end. We had to deal with disapproval from our family while we were sleep training but in the end, you do whats best for you and your family. We first tried at 4 months after our pediatrician gave us the okay but we abandoned it after a couple nights. Came back to it at 6 months as my bub would want to be rocked until they were a limp noodle. It was brutal! And it worked after 5 nights and it saved our sanity! We read “precious little sleep” and its amazing. Def recommend to parents who are nervous about starting as it lays everything down.

@LindaLeeNguyen Жыл бұрын

Couldn’t come at a better time. I just started sleep learning with my 6 1/2 month old two days ago. Tonight was definitely hard for me. No mother wants to see and hear their baby cry. Couldn’t hold back my tear. Thank you for all the information. Wasn’t sure what to do when he wakes up in the middle of the night hence why I KZfaqd it and you guys answered it. Definitely not easy to do but I know it’ll be better for our family. We all got this!!

@Velveteen2 Жыл бұрын

Based on the science and Dr Gabor Mate you are just teaching your baby that their needs don’t matter when you let them cry and they just give up crying😢

@aakritivatsa342 Жыл бұрын

My baby is 6and half and started training him today and was unsuccessful as he was crying for continuous 40minutes and I could not take it any more. He was crying so badly. I finally breastfed and he slept. I was feeling bad so i started researching and as i have been watching their videos since before i got pregnant i am watching this video for reassurance. But i have read an article that psychologist recommend not to follow this as this is stressful for baby and may have affect in longer run. I really do not know what to do and if i should continue. Did it work for you?

@LindaLeeNguyen Жыл бұрын

@@aakritivatsa342: I didn’t end up going through with it. My heart couldn’t handle it on the third night. My son is now 10 1/2 months and is sleeping through the night without sleep training. Could also be that he’s burning a lot more energy now bc he’s walking and is way more active.

@beketay Жыл бұрын

Just huge thanks from me! This is first informative video on sleep training. Hope it will work!❤

@kaylinde2321 Жыл бұрын

My baby is currently 5 months old, 3 months corrected (born 2 months early). He spent the first 2 months in the NICU and although I was there every day, I felt I missed out on so much and he’s gone through enough. I love when he wakes in the night for feeds because I miss him when he sleeps, although he is right beside me. I am lucky and not working at the moment so it is okay for me to be sleep deprived. He loves sleeping! But is still young and needs to have night feeds. Before having a baby I was all for sleep training. Now, it hurts my heart to even think about it. My son doesn’t cry for more than ten minutes a day, most of which is during tummy time. I couldn’t stand the thought of him crying for so long. I remember being at home watching him on the baby monitor when he was in the NICU, crying for 20 minutes and I felt absolutely helpless! Now, whenever he needs me, I am there. I know my situation is unique, just wanted to share. I don’t need sleep training for night feeds but I need help for during the day! Baby is fine sleeping in his bassinet at night but only naps in my arms during the day. I can’t get anything done, not even go to the bathroom. I need him to sleep in the bassinet so I can eat, tend to the house, dinner, etc. Anyway, good luck everyone regardless of your situation! You know what’s best for your family.

@sandysanchez7151 Жыл бұрын

Baby wearing (like using a wrap or a carrier) is a good idea for all babies 👶🏻 but especially those who love being with momma😊

@tamannasummer8920 11 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you listened to your momma intuition because many people ignore it due to societal pressures. Especially in the West, it's the worst. When we support our babies sleep, it actually nurtures their brain development. The book: The Nurture Revolution: Grow Your Baby's Brain and Transform Their Mental Health Through the Art of Nurtured Parenting. -Greer Kirshenbaum, PhD is an excellent read. I know you posted a while ago. But we'll done momma, you're doing a great job. ❤

@sophiejones1698 6 ай бұрын

I’m in a similar boat that night time is okay but nap time is tricky as they want to be in my arms and I can’t get anything else done. We had a difficult birth too although didn’t spend time in NICU. I have been told this can affect things. Slings don’t really work for me as I can’t really clean or cook etc. with a baby in the way on my front. When my baby cries, no amount of hands on belly or soft voice calms them. They close their eyes and scream and don’t even notice when I am there, holding their belly or talking calmly so they either exhaust themselves and that’s why they fall asleep or I pick them up and they calm until I put them down again. In my situation where gentle talking and hands on belly has no effect, how can I be confident that continuing is teaching my baby to self soothe and not just that their parents will come but won’t help so why bother?

@patriciacorreia7647 Жыл бұрын

I love you guys but I’ve learned that my baby doesn’t cry for no reason. She sleeps through the night without any sleep training because we have been there to help her settle down and fall asleep in my arms. The only times she’s had multiple wakings was because there’s something wrong. I wouldn’t let my baby cry inconsolably for over 2 hours

@saramations Жыл бұрын

2 hours is a bit too much.. after 2 hours they'd just be hungry and ready for another diaper change... If your baby doesn't get cozy after a few minutes, they aren't ready for sleep...

@zezella03zezzie57 Жыл бұрын

The breast feeding thing about the bottle. My daughter is about to have her second so she has decided to pump and feed baby from a bottle so there is no nipple confusion. I think this is a great thing since I will be keeping the baby on the weekends once he is two months old.

@jaimoi2012 Жыл бұрын

Thank yall for this. I do have a question. How do we apply this during nap time?

@courtniebri Жыл бұрын

My four month old sleeps well at night (wakes 2-3 times, but goes down after eating). But her nap times are not easy. She's hard to get to sleep and prefers to be held. Is sleep training a thing for naps? I'm always paying attention to wake windows.

@yuniesongstress Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this very informative video! I was just wondering what should be done differently if there were multiples (eg. Twins, triplets)? 🤔

@krishnak9567 Жыл бұрын

Do you practice this for day naps as well? If you have done the five mins, check in. Wait 10 mins, crying so check in. Then quiet baby. Started crying 4 mins later. Keeps crying for next 2-3 mins. But quiets down before the 15 mins end and starts crying right at that 14 min mark. Do you go in since it has been 15 mins since she has been crying or is that start of 5 mins again?? (Hope it makes sense what I am asking)

@hopelabrie6936 Жыл бұрын

So helpful! Thank you! Quick question... if a baby hasn't slept in their crib yet and is still in the bassinet, is it okay to begin sleep training when they are introduced to their crib for the first time? Or would you say it's best to get them used to their crib first?

@krystalstrickland3321 Жыл бұрын

I’ve seen some resources say to start putting them in the crib for naps. My baby is 4 months and he went in his crib without a problem and actually prefers it.

@guilhermecosta7938 6 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for this video. This is a real masterclass!!! One question. Can I do it the same process for an 8 months old baby? Do you have other tips or it's about the same? Cheers from Brazil 🇧🇷

@haileycarpenter9268 Жыл бұрын

Could you do a video about teething and sickness when sleep training? My baby sleeps well throughout the night - he does occasionally wake up at like 5 am talking to himself but he’s a good sleeper. Do you have any tips though for when teething comes?

@user-uy8me2dz4k Жыл бұрын

Thanks for this really informative video! Question: how do you understand if baby just wants comfort or is actually hungry without picking them up? Do you go by their age somehow? Or I guess your point was that they don't really need the nutrition in the night by 6mo? Love your channel & thank you!

@Feelinfine1987 Жыл бұрын

If baby wants comfort- comfort them. 🥺 they are only so little for so long.

@XtineVL Жыл бұрын

Thanks so much for all the diligent well researched content!

@TheSchmenda Жыл бұрын

Thank you!

@TheDoctorsBjorkman Жыл бұрын

You are so welcome!! Hoping it helps you get some sleep!!

@noir8255 Жыл бұрын

our baby is a great sleeper, she sleeps 12 hours with 2-3 night time feeds. not sure if we should start sleep training or is it better if we wait for that 4 month regression? she's turning 4 months tomorrow:)

@kaitlynmcpeak196 Жыл бұрын

So glad for this release because people love to shame sleep training !!! And from doctors!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

@beccat8481 Жыл бұрын

Quick question: what should I do/not do to provide reassurance during those 20-30 seconds other than not picking him/her up? Can I use a pacifier?

@dianaf6055 7 ай бұрын

How did you apply the Ferber Method with naps? I’m on Day 3 and my 6.5 month old is doing so well with bedtime. Last night, after the initial protest, when she finally settled she awakened a couple of times and went back to sleep without a peep. First night was as expected. However, the naps are very challenging because even though she is tired and wants to nap she will protest past her “allotted” nap time and I have to end the sleep training because it’s getting close to her next nursing session. Since the weather is nice out I go for walks and she’ll nap in the stroller. Also, when she’ll start teething, I’m not sure how to go about it. Does the Ferber Method go out the window? Do I nurse to comfort her? Will it set her progress back if I do nurse her? Thanks so much for your time ❤

@16bayana Жыл бұрын

Great information Doctor Sara, I noticed that you have a right thyroid lobe swelling/mass that needs to be checked.

@emmypilates Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for this!! How do I implement the method you did while my 6 month old is also rolling on her belly but can’t get on her back? Maybe the Ferber wouldn’t work for her right now and I should try something else? Thank you!! After she got the flu all our sleep training went out the window but is also tough with her rolling over constantly but not knowing how to roll back

@dimahaddad3259 Жыл бұрын

Should daytime naps be in a dark room or not? I read that you should leave the baby in light during the day and dark at night to regulate the circadian clock but at what age should I make the room dark for her naps? My baby is 6 weeks

@lifebrarian Жыл бұрын

We cut the middle of the night feed once our daughter got her first tooth to avoid cavities and she was fine. At 9 months we felt comfortable sleep training but she was a decent sleeper at that point.

@BrittniisBlah Жыл бұрын

Do you do this for naps as well? My almost 5 month old sleeps pretty well at night but hates naps

@yeseniatorres3132 Жыл бұрын

Thank you for this video! My 8 month old baby sleeps during all night YEAH! However, he needs his pacifier. Not sure how I will slowly take away his pacifier when the time comes. Any suggestions?

@tenraiko1 Жыл бұрын

This video is almost word for word the chapter about sleep training from Cribsheet by Emily Oster.

@asindy123 Жыл бұрын

Sleep trained my baby at 6m and moved her out of our room.. she woke up 2x for feeds until she was 1yr. Then she cut to 1 feed now shes 14 m and sleeps 12-13hrs straight no feeds…its great… training was greatt!! And having her not wake up for feeds is even better esp because she has teeth now.

@TheDoctorsBjorkman Жыл бұрын

We hear this from many many people--that sleep training was great for them!! There are many ways to do it, with the end goal being that everyone is more rested!

@mindom Жыл бұрын

my baby is 13 months and wakes up a couple of times a night for comfort and a nursing. I tried giving her a bottle but she wants me to feed it to her. shes literally still a newborn!! I am dying for her to sleep the nights but shes so stubborn and I cant hear her cry for 2 hours, shes a fighter

@asindy123 Жыл бұрын

@@mindom my baby use to do same before we sleep trained her so we gave her a pacifier and she uses it for self sooth. We also taught her it is only used for sleep. So before coming out the crib we wouldn’t take her out until she spit it out. So she learned that it stays in there and everytime she wakes up it became a routine and she spit it out herself lol… I also nursed her for 1 year but for night feeds we did bottle so i knew how much i gave her and always fed her extra . During the time that she did wake up for night feeds i fed her the bottle which i was fine with they are fast eaters but she did go back to sleep so i didnt mind it

@amyann47 Жыл бұрын

What would be a good cut off for middle of the night wakenings (knowing when they actually are hungry?). There are times where we restart the clock and then 45 min later they are still full on crying and we give him a bottle and it’s lights out.

@WanderwithIntent Жыл бұрын

Long video, I had to watch it in chunks. Great info though. Worth every minute. Have you guys sleep trained your naps? Do you follow the same process? Backstory, I am incredibly lucky that I have a great sleeper. He has been sleeping through the night for the most part by 2 months. Maybe one wake up a night. Maybe two when he has a daycare cold. Generally, 90% of the nights he sleeps without any wake up. But I established a solid bedtime routine around that 2 month mark and he honestly just goes to sleep on his own and if he wakes up at night, he self soothes rarely waking all the way up but when he is sick and likely just needing more feeds. But naps, whole different story. He fights them a lot. I can usually get him to self soothe to sleep for the first two but not later in the day. Any advice for that?

@starry_eyes_k Жыл бұрын

I am shocked and amazed at how well this is working so fast for us at bedtime. My question is in the middle of the night when they wake but don't need changed or fed (babe is 1 year now) do you soothe without picking them up and do the 5-10-15 thing again or can you pick them up and rock them initially but not during the subsequent checks?

@kidneykid 7 ай бұрын

With establishing a bedtime routine when did you start this? My baby is 7 weeks now and with her wake windows and naps being so varied in time how should I go about getting this going?