Parents like these are always confused as to why their children don’t talk to them anymore when they move out.

"Every kid deserves a parent, but not every parent deserves a kid" ~ A Wise Man

When he said "Journals are also good to go through" my jaw dropped. Journals are extremely private things and should NEVER be looked through. I can tell you right now that if you do this to your kids, they will resent you and as soon as they move out, go as far away from you as possible. Kids are people too, they deserve privacy.

I like how they didn’t check under the bed or in the pillowcases which are like the most common areas to hide things but instead ripped apart every random knickknack

I was a correctional officer. The way he's training parents to search their kids room is the way we were trained to search cells. Not just actively searching but the way he told his kid to leave to room. Do not treat your kids like they're inmates

What he's actually trying to say is: "It's important to search your child's room regularly, in order to teach them the valuable skill that is hiding their shit in a different room."

The thing LOTS of parents fail to understand is that if you DON'T snoop into your kids' things and invade their privacy, they're far more likely to trust you and share the more sensitive topics with you. When you search their stuff, you're essentially telling them you're looking to condemn them and making them not want to tell you stuff.

So you can get in trouble in Gunsolley's house for: -having an empty container -having keyboard cleaner -having drawn anything related to drugs or suicide (aka being an edgy teen) - having small plastic bags (they COULD have had drugs in them at some point) Wild. Living here would be miserable lmao

"Journals are good to go through." This guy really knows how to treat a child

this kind of parenting doesn’t prevent bad behavior, it teaches the kids how to lie and deceive the parent

"Make sure you respect your child's property" *literally less than 5 minutes later* "Make sure you go through their journal too"

The part where he says to check the journals too just angers me, I remember when I had stayed with my step-mother for a while and she had gone through my mini journal while I was asleep and I woke up to being told that she had called the cops on me for writing how I did not like the way she was abusing me and how it made me depressed, it was a vent journal and she apparently called the cops and had told them that I was suicidal and needed to be escorted to a hospital, I was traumatized, my trust had been completely ruined I was completely ashamed of expressing my feelings through any means after that and I do not write in any journal anymore as I now tend to unhealthy bottle things up instead and I was humiliated as the cops thought it necessary to have me in handcuffs in escorting me from the house to the hospital even though the only thing I was doing was sobbing in confusion and hurt and it only served to make me more depressed as the first time I was in that hospital for being “suicidal” I felt scared and alone and I did not know what was going to happen to me, I certainly did become suicidal after that, invading your child’s trust of privacy does mentally damage them in ways you might not realize, im still dealing with a lot of mental health issues that stem from that particular incident in my life, please do not be that kind of parent, if you suspect your kid of something have a calm and comfortable conversation with them and not in an accusing way but in a way where you let them know they can trust you and that you only want to help them, that lets your kids know you really care and that you do love them.

This doesn't feel like a psa, more so a guide to cleverly hiding drugs

"And also, It's very important to be respectful of the child's property" Doesn't fold clothes, leaves mess

The teen drew a goofy edgy drawing of a kid with a gun to their head as a BOOKMARK, this dude REMOVED HIS PAGE FROM THE BOOK BRO

This is why I hurt so much for kids as a whole. It's so terrible how we as a society view such a massive group of people as pets that you can cage and control and not human beings with their own needs for dignity and respect. It's horrifying to see how normal this is treated by so many people. I hope kids never stop rebelling against this kind of behavior.

Gunsley's kid is straight-up trying to get high in every way imaginable just to escape the pain of having him as a parent

"We want to respect our child's privacy." "So your child's journal is a good place to search."

9:40 "Now we know our son isn't just a criminal, but an extremely untalented one when it comes to art" -Art Institutes in 1940's

My grandfather (who fostered me) used to search my room all the time. I always thought it was amusing that he thought I’d be stupid enough to keep shit he shouldn’t find in the room with me. He usually would just find stuff that was never even hidden but he disagreed with but it was all very arbitrary. He got really, very upset when he started finding post it notes saying shit like “nothing here!” “Look harder” “did you think it would be that easy?” He actually confronted me on these antagonizing notes and my response was simply that if he didn’t invade my privacy and show me that he doesn’t trust me; he wouldn’t be getting humiliated in this fashion. Suffice it to say that we don’t talk anymore.

A message to parents: regularly searching your child's room causes them to feel the need to hide from you. If they are displaying negative behaviors this won't solve them, all it does is make them double down and dig in just to rebel against you.

The worst part for me is the fact he’s telling you to check the journal. That’s all your secrets and the most private thing you have, that fully ruins your kids privacy more than ever.

I work in a prison, this guy is treating this kid like an actual inmate, even some of the cell inspections I've done have never been this drawn out... This guy seems like the kind of peer that I would hate to even work with, let alone be RAISED by...

5:50 "Kids use this to get high, and so do I" *Sniffs* So wonderful

"Respect their privacy" "Check their journals" Perfectly balanced, as all things should be

"We'll talk later" So many years later and this phrase still sends chills down my spine.

My dad is ex army and we don't talk anymore, he got violent with me and I left. He regularly performed inspections like this, and refered to the house as a military base, just to give you some perspective

when i was 8 my parents were starting to quite honestly beg me to ask them to buy me a diary. they asked so often that i was like okay please get me a diary. i wrote in it ONE time, next day after school it was gone and i was screamed at for a long time because i wrote that my friends and i loved a (male) band. been anxious and extremely depressed since! woohoo good parenting!

As someone who is actually a counselor, if I had a nickel for every time a parent asked me “why does my child not like me/want to spend time with me” and then they tell me “oh I have their passwords to their social media, life 360 app, search their room, etc.”, I’d feel pretty financially secure. And it’s always kids who are well behaved too. And this is stuff parents have told me, if not just one parent doing all of this shit. Literally the biggest problem everyone has when it comes to any kind of bad relationship is COMMUNICATION. If you are concerned, TALK to your child without accusing them randomly. It’s not hard, that’s how being a decent person works.

I've been to jail. This is literally a shakedown. Even then, the corrections officers were doing their jobs and didn't sit us down to talk about drawings or empty bottles. Parents out there, you're not a CO. You're a parent. If you do this kind of thing, prepare for your kids to never talk to you again once they leave the house.

If you try and turn your child/parent relationship into a prisoner/warden dynamic, your prisoner won’t return to their prison the moment they’re given the chance

Growing up, my room was never randomly searched for contraband or anything like that, but there was a distinct lack of trust between myself and my parents when it came to money. Every Christmas and birthday, half of the paper money I'd received would be immediately confiscated and "put away for college," and during the rest of the year for the large and most part I wasn't even allowed to spend my own money on things. Naturally, once college started I immediately became an impulse-buyer to make up for lost time, and to this day I'm still trying to tone that drive down. The most ridiculous example was when one classmate in 11th grade was trying to sell me his old PSP and a handful of games for $130, which was a great deal by 2008 standards. I had an ATM card at that time, but because of my upbringing I had the misconception that if I walked up to an ATM and withdrew my own money, my mother would somehow immediately know about it because she had to open the account with me, a minor. Long story short, I had to BEG my parents, at the age of 17, to access $130 of my own money from an ATM to buy this handheld game device from a classmate. And they, who know absolutely nothing about the video game economy, agreed to do it after several days only if I could negotiate the price down to $120. I had to lie to this classmate during that interlude and keep saying I "had my wallet in my other pants" or some BS because I'd have been embarrassed to tell the actual truth. Thankfully in the end, I got the PSP and paid my classmate the full price we agreed on without mommy and daddy knowing, but I felt like a complete fool for having to go through that whole damn process.

I love how parents immediately assume their kid is doing drugs as soon as they are classified as a teenager lol

Bruh his kid isn’t just a drug dealer, he’s the entire black market

8:58 as a child, you have every legal right to send your parents to a nursing home when they're older

He'll never find the weed hidden behind the paint, glue, and sunflower seeds packed into a hole in the wood furniture

Damn Nursing home speedrun world record holder looks sick ngl.

That “teenager” would be a perfect cast for a new Netflix series

My parents did shit like this all through growing up. Took away my door and curtains for over two years just so that “I would have nothing to hide” among other crazy shit. It created problems that didn’t get solved in our relationship until I was well into my late twenties and after my twin brother hung himself in our apartment. If you’re a parent, don’t treat your kid like this ever.

“make sure to take advantage of that and search their room while they’re under 18” is crazy 💀

Can’t fathom why the kid would feel the need to hide anything, look at how respectfully gunsley treats all of their belongings. _Clearly_ this is an open and accepting household

"HEY champ how old are ya?" "17 but tomorrow's my birthday" "OH SHIT BETHANY HURRY! RAID HIS ROOM THIS IS OUR LAST CHANCE!"

Five bucks says Sheriff N. Vader doesn't have children. Anymore.

Violating their privacy because they're "just kids" is going to lead them to become insecure and will give them trust issues. It will also impede their growth. We all need privacy. Making mistakes is a natural part of growing up. I know this would absolutely destroy me if my parents searched and went through all of my private stuff without my permission.

Never been into writing journals but reading your kid's journal is on a whole another level than searching room itself

Ah, the cop makes a good point, we should just send our kids to jail then they'll be safe from all drugs

Watching this made me remember that night my parents pulled me out of my truck and started rummaging through all of it's compartments out of no where. I was in high school. We drove separately to dinner that night because I performed in a symphonic band concert that night. They were in the car behind me on the way home from dinner. As soon as I parked in our driveway, my parents stopped their car, go out, ran up to me, and yanked me out of my truck. They started going through all of the compartments and demanding to know "where I was keeping them." I told them that I had no idea what they were talking about - because I didn't. They demanded that I tell them where I was keeping the cigarettes because "they saw me throw one out my window." I have a known fatal allergy to tobacco. I go into anaphylaxis if I am exposed to tobacco in any form. How the hell and why the hell would I have fucking cigarettes?! Not to mention, I didn't even smell like smoke at all - shocker, I know because I didn't/don't smoke. Needless to say, there were no cigarettes in my truck or on my person. What they saw was the person in the passenger seat of the car in the lane next to me throwing out their cigarette butt at a stop light. That's only just one example of how controlling my parents were. I have no relationship with my parents now.

The best way to prevent adult addiction is to prevent child addiction. And the best way to prevent child addiction is to be an actually good parent who doesn't drive their kid to need escape.

So basically no privacy. That’s a great setting to raise a kid.

"You have every legal right to search your child's room." And your child has every legal right to move out when they're 18, break all contact and forget you ever existed.

*"Hey there, fellow kids. I sure do love playing Tetris on my good ole PlayStation."*

My parents was like this, except *much* more religious. Turning 18 in a few weeks, I’m playing nice right now telling them what they want to hear but the second I’m legally an adult I won’t be talking to them ever again.

This isn’t just bad parenting advice, that’s exactly how correctional officers search prison cells. That guy was literally telling parents to treat their children like criminals. How has he not been fired yet?

No one wonder Gunsolley's son does so many drugs. Imagine having a parent like him.

I remember a couple years back I had gone to a camp for a couple days. While I was gone my mom searched through my room and read everything. Everything that was personal, embarrassing, or emotional was looked at. And then she wrote about it on her blog, which my entire family and a lot of family friends read. It was the most painfully embarrassing thing I've ever gone through. I 100% support involvement in your child's life, but there is DEFINITELY a such thing as "too far."

He lists multiple items that could be bought online, why this guy isn’t searching every single thing delivered to his house is a good question especially with the regular prison cell inspection check

Great job Sgt. gunsley, you just taught me how to properly hide all my things from my parents

He doesn't ever once mention talking to your kids like they're also people.

“Go go gadget crack pipe.” 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

*Grabs his son’s weed* “I’m gonna hold on to this” *Proceeds to smoke that flower like an absolute unit*

I used to be a prison guard. This is literally how we were taught to search cells at the Academy.

"This may be a sign of suicidal ideation." Well, with you as a father....

Hilarious…… For “worst parent ever” And great tips on cool gadgets for hiding illegal crap.

Was raised like this, I'm an adult now and if you want all of your kids to leave at 16-18 y/o and never talk to you again raise them like this. (don't matter if one of them was a prized golden child that got everything they wanted they will see your ways for what they are and leave as well)

Not gonna lie, the pipe highlighter and mountain dew hidden compartment are great products. Would buy. Thanks officer. Also, parents like this would drive their kids into drugs and alcohol as they'd want to act out. A complete lack of respect and privacy doesn't make you a better parent funny enough.

This is the type of parenting that guarantees you a one-way ticket to an old folk's home when you get older.

I get parents wanting to make sure kids are safe, and kids are stupid sometimes, but doing this every six months for NO REASON is unacceptable. And unless there’s been reason to believe they may be considering self harm, I would NEVER search their diary.

9:15 Yeah, my son is smoking weed. He drew pictures of mary jane in his journal so he has to be on the grass and not a dumb teen who thinks weed jokes are the funniest thing on the planet.

When he said “make sure to take advantage of that while they’re under the age of 18” it just feels so manipulative and like this guy treats his kids as objects and not actual people. It would suck to have this guy as a parent.

As an ex correctional officer, this is note for note exactly how we used to conduct searches in cells. Fucking tragic and disgusting that this is being done to children, don't treat your kids like prisoners when you should be talking to them like a respectful human being

Speaking from experience, having your parents search your room as a teenager actually makes you want to do drugs FAR more. Now I have a propensity for drugs, and a real major anxiety problem about people being in my home/ room etc as an adult.

"You have every legal right to search your child's room." Dude, just because you _can_ do it doesn't mean you _should_ do it.

On a smaller note, I like how he's saying to respect his kids belongings while just throwing his shorts in the drawer and unrolling all of his socks

Ah yes, the most important parenting lesson of them all - making sure you instill trust issues into your child before they’re able to live on their own

My parents went so far as to drill my bedroom door to the floor so that I couldn’t close it. As a socially awkward teenage boy who had few friends and was too afraid to even try drugs or anything, this confused the hell out of me and made me resent them for as long as I lived there.

0:11 "disentry"

“As a parent you have every right to search your child’s room. There is no legal wrong there.” If the only thing stopping you from being unethical or immoral are laws, then there are bigger issues at hand 😒

"Respect their property." - He says, as leaving every single one of his clothes jumbled together like a ball of gum.

I was an indoor kid and a video game nerd my entire childhood. If my parents had taken away my compressed air cans, it would've been a genuine inconvenience as I was using them for their intended purpose. 😂

My parents have the belief that they would only look through my stuff if they had a justifiable reason to do so. My parents know me well enough that I'd never do drugs or hide things from them. I'd tell them straight up instead of hiding shit. They have no reason to suspect me. I wish more parents had this mindset instead of treating their teenager as a rebel or a prisoner

I'm extremely glad my mom treated me like a human being and not a criminal on parole. I think if i had to grow up with a parent like this guy, I'd have willingly eaten lead 13 years ago and just hope for a re-roll on the rng to get a better parent.

"You see, this looks like a normal pillow but it's actually your child's moonshine distillery"

Ajax: is used to clean things that are stained. Sergeant gunsely: He is using this to get high >:(

"Timmy, I'm respecting your privacy by knocking but asserting my authority as your father by coming in anyway!"

"Legally, you can search your child's room. There is no legal problem with that." Legally, you can also tell your child they are disappointing and worthless. There are absolutely 0 legal issues with this as well, and I encourage you to take advantage of that while parenting them.

Sgt. Gunsolley literally said it's ok to fully take advantage of someone as long as it's legal. Great parenting advice that builds sociopaths

Bunk check, up against the wall outside inmate- I mean, son.

Best way to prevent drug addiction is to *educate your kids* on why it's bad. Not ignore them and then act like it's the kid's fault when they're not taught properly like Charlie says in the beginning

The most frustrating part of this to me is imagine being a kid that actually bothered to fold all your clothes and put them away, then on a weekly basis your parents come in and wreck your dresser looking for drugs and just leave it like that. Not only does he invade the room, he trashes it in the process and doesn't even have the decency to clean up behind himself as he goes

Parents that do this will unironically call their kids "their property".

The journal bit! I felt for sure he was going to say "You have every legal right, but be very careful about violating boundaries when it comes to your child's journal." But no.

Clearly this guy lives in fear because he sees every innocent object as a threat. I bet he's the kind of guy who would plant stuff in other people's belongings just to "prove" his false accusations so that he can feel good about his serious paranoia issues. Imagine him being a father, his home would be a prison.

“You hate me?” “I’m a terrible parent?” “It’s a prison here?” “It’s not like I search through all you personal belongings, read your private thoughts, are suspicious of literally everything you have”

The worst part about this is when the kid grows up and has issues, the parents will not admit its their fault.

I fucking hate that people think it’s okay to do that, AS A COP, you should KNOW that shit like this is what CAUSES crime in young children, like this is how my mom acted and it made me wanna die more than anything I could’ve experienced online holy shit

My guy is taking his ticket to a nursing home EARLY… as a child who had a journal that was searched through when I was a child it made me cry and I still hate it, extremely embarrassing

My parents were like this with an additional step of intrusion: they took notes on me. My behaviors. My habits. Everything. Notebooks filled with daily journals about what my mood was, if I got in trouble for anything, what they found in my journals or room, what I ate, when I woke up, when I went to bed… I just found their logs a few months ago, and I haven’t said a word about them. I think I might wrap them up and give them to them for Christmas just for some dramatic spice.

Looking through someone's diary or journal is the absolute lowest of the low. You're looking inside their head, and most likely one of the only places they feel comfortable.

Plot twist: hes searchin his own room

My parents don’t search my room but they do go through my phone, use life360, make me keep my phone out of my room, no social media (which I totally get and don’t think I will get when I leave home anyway), etc. I don’t really know how I feel about it. Honestly it hasn’t affected me too much because I have nothing to hide and I love my parents more than anything. I don’t think it’s really affected our relationship and I guess it’s kept me out of trouble online but I do feel it’s unnecessary sometimes. The only thing I won’t do with my own kids is read their text messages. THAT really does feel like an invasion of privacy and I feel like I have to censor my own thoughts and feelings to make sure I don’t get in trouble with my parents. I’m 15 btw