That's because 99.9% of the time, when a little kids behaves poorly, it's due to inconsistent parenting & poor boundary setting.

He is/was an angel on earth.

Maybe he discovered how messed up the world is early in life.

Unfortunately, he would be imprisoned our days. He has touched the child!!111!!! Oh, God11!!

It's ALWAYS the parents. That's not rocket science

You just described African parents

@@belle3055 lol yes! 💯

Some Hispanic aswell

Well said.

Why do you have to say the women was beautiful or not?

@anastarbird2160 I heard that as well. that comment definitely got my attention.

just like it 100% always is. all cases like that are caused at home 100%. I've worked with disabled kids before, so even the kids with mental impairment are able to be ok with each other, if they live with a family that acts reasonable... the only reason why a unimpaired child would be aggressive to others is because of some problems at home, usually problems with violence, especially spouse on spouse violence, because children do what they see. it's normal to them.

The child just copies his parents, which I assumed was basic knowledge.

Exactly and people say spanking isn’t abuse…

no one hit my mom, she always ordered the abuse or abused me herself, she ordered to have me tortured over bad grades after I was honor roll in 3rd grade.

Indeed

Totally yeaps

bazinga Boulogne bullsh💯

@@UNIXSOLJASysadminSyndicate not exactly. People have always had varied opinions but official government PSAs and national ads have convinced (certainly modern Americans) that everyone thought a certain type of way “back then”.

all the gentlemen seem far more ahead in several aspects then whatever grownups i have to work with

Right. The mom was a little distant looking. Never know what happens in private...image doesn't equate to reality all of the time.

That's because he's not getting the love at home just an opinion course I'm in the middle of this will see what they say

what's the timestamp?

@@__enarkive3:17

After 3:10

Being a parent is hard, being a step parent is harder. Blessings to you and upon your journey as you try to heal that which you did not hurt and in breaking those cycles.

@@TinnyDee thank you so much!!! We've definitely made a lot of progress. I've definitely noticed that being tender with him and very soft spoken has helped. Him seeing a big man be sweet and kind is not something he is used to. It's opening his eyes to how he can be too if he tries.

I was a step mother to a boy like this. Nothing I said or did made a change. My ex expected me to change the boy. I had a 3 year old,this kid was 6. Never had any consistency in his life. He was aggressive with my child. Yet the boys father never spent time with him or showed genuine affection. It was a living hell.

@@janetsides901 spending time with them and showing genuine affection is the key. I'm sorry that you had to live through this. The task of raising a young boy should have been more on him (the dad) than anything. I'm sorry if this sounds wrong, but it's a man's job to teach his son (or step son) how to be a man.

Have you considered introducing him to martial arts?

Psychiatry is a pseudoscience

Shocking insight... We watched the video too.

On psych meds

Isn’t this the 60s? Back when they started medicating women and telling them their work in the home was of less value than outside the home? Obviously medicated women was just a fraction of the amount of women that are medicated today. But the medication’s just create a false sense of control, they don’t actually make things better, so often people who lash out in extreme ways, seemed like zombies on their medication’s, but their opinions and deeply rooted issues were never altered, just temporarily suppressed. Don’t forget her father was probably a World War II soldier and this was also during the time when people pulled away from the morals of the church at home and school and experimented with everything. They look proper, but is that just facade?

actually you're completely wrong the kid isn't acting up because the mother is angry at herself, no, according to the video the mother is angry at herself because the kid is acting up it's the exact opposite, if you paid a little bit of attention you wouldn't have typed this useless comment

What about his father? Does he exists at all??

Of course his father is not responsible at all 😂😂😂😂😂

Spectrum of autism 😊

The father is not supporting His wife when she tells the child not do something. He is being an enabler in the child's oppositional defence. He is rearing his son to be sociopathic. And misogynistic.

Anyone who followed this story knows the childs father was an astrount the child has questions

omg...it's almost a culture shock to see. lol

Yes, it really brought me back to when I'd visit the HS where my mom taught History and Government. I'd sit like a nice, grownup little lady pretending not to mind the teachers' smoke.

I caught that immediately

She looks like she's had a fkin hard life

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Your mom might have had the same experience from her parents. Sometimes we need to learn to forgive and forget

@@derinok9833 I'm not like that with my children though....you can change the pattern so if I can change why can't she?

I was married to a man like that. He worked two jobs to avoid the difficult job of raising our kids, and was highly critical, of the limits I set. He often let the kids out of punishments and the limits I set. I tried many years and once the kids were grown (which definitely felt like a prison term), I divorced him. My second husband was the exact opposite of my first husband! I was a full time step mum to two of his four kids. This experience was so enjoyable, I almost hated to see them grow up. So, I learned then, it wasn’t totally “me”, it was the lack of “us” that was the problem. Sadly, the people we love, sometimes ARE NOT the people we should have kids with. 😞

Yes . We’ll put . Mine was very course towards me . And I’d beg her to not go to work but I know she had to . I lived with her but I didn’t see her much . I stay with my grandparents a lot . And I love them all to this day but I strive to be more like my Nana . She was a sweet soul and made sure we had grocerys . She was my fathers mom . He was in prison his whole life so she and my granddaddy tried to make up for his absence . My father was adopted . And I’m so thankful he was ♥️

Me too. I didn't know how to act on rare occasions when anyone showed any affection..i was NEVER hugged or told i love u! Never heard my mother say it & when i told my dad once that i loved him his response was.."i know" ! 😂😅😂! Unbelievable! No hugging, or ur amazing, talented, pretty (&i was very pretty once i hit about 17) nothing at all to validate me as a worthy human being..needless to say i had a lot of problems growing up..

Why hasn't anyone made a profit off that yet ? Someone could make alot of money doing that !

Yes very interested in how he is doing now

Precious Little One had bio-energetic 2.5dimensional field dark attachment picked up. Since mother had similar behaviour if innerstanding correctly family dynamics most likely picked up in utero. Bio-energetic field (auric field) protection is a must. With this said mother most likely has same field attachment picked up lonnng ago. These type attachments have been common in various ways, some more serious than others, for most now being discovered more so in these Times of Transparency, Awakening & Juvenation. Time to Heal. A-Gain KEY POINT is to have ones energy fields protected preventing situations similar to this from happening. Kicker is if field attachment healed not then field attachment can come to be an Entity of its own overtaking body and original conscious. Bliss Us All as we are in times of change realigning with truth.

@@effiahalhumbhra3755 Spam!

@@effiahalhumbhra3755 stop being weird.

Yeah, or trying to change your gender.

Well, if you want that, go to a therapist or a psychologist cause psychiatrists job is to only prescribe medications now

​@@MP-mo4ys i don't think any psychiatrist changes a gender or sexuality haha that's usually up to the patient, not the doctor themselves 😅

They can’t do that these days for fear of sexual harassment charges 😢

​@@MP-mo4ysu become a female now lol

So if I broke your nose punching you in the face you would think I'm just looking for love and affection? Sometimes I know it's hard for most people to grasp but people give into the monster that is human nature rather than fight it... Even in loving environments this can happen and has

Did u watch the video? Obviously every case is different and what u said is a possibility, but we just watched a 30 minute case study on this child. How can u compare that to ur dumbass walking up and punching someone and argue that anyone would call them similar situations??

​​@@ThecouncilOf8yes but only if you were in your development years .

​@@ThecouncilOf8you told the truth but this is only revealed in adolescence, when puberty arrives that shows that love and affection were in vain

She doesn't realize she is the issue.

Evidence of emotional distance

She's highly stressed and in an unfamiliar situation - and this is also a much different time to the one we live in.

The child is better

Thats what they called them in those days

I was the child until i was 4 and they knew i was gonna be around a while

Things weren't so ghetto.

I caught that to..That is a telling sign that he doesn't hear that said to him very much I thnk.

The problem right there .. doesn’t feel loved by either parent, acts out negatively to get attention .. poor love ❤

And suddenly there was extended eye contact too...he searched the Dr's face to see if he really meant it!

❤

Another thing is he is receiving punishments. And physical punishments at that but then the poor boy is being rough to others

Damn, if the child would be an adult asking that, the adult would scream it out. What a heartbreaking silent scream for affection and (parent) love.

I came here to make that exact comment.

Yes. Absolutely, that’s the core /cause of his bad behavior.

A child that fails to feel the warmth of his village, will burn it down just to feel it’s warmth.

I'm probably stepping on a landmine by asking this, but what is Telling about the lad?

It wasn't that they didn't love you, they didn't understand you and felt like failures. People who feel like failures but lack coping skills often behave aggressively and/or distant from the child because they feel helpless. And helpless people develop apathy.

Sounds familiar. I was the black sheep and my mother seemed to not like me. As you say, if other people liked me I figured it must be my mom who had the problem. Still painful though.

@@SKYCHICK__good insight. Thanks!

Thank you for sharing that. I am the warmth and love for my grandson. My daughter, his mother, is cold like this. He has no father around at all. I often wonder if all of the affection and care I give him will be enough. Your comment gives me hope.

Good for you, I was taken from my destructive mother at the age of 8 and instantly put on medication the minute she left the hospital, been passed around my whole life since then, never attached to anyone. I'm turning 28 this year never worked & have no friends I did try for the past years and clawed my way threw my trauma with the help of social workers. Became more stable and able to live on my own for about a year now. Sadly I see no way of ever being a productive part in this society. At least I'm not bothering anyone and manage somehow. can't say the same about my siblings. People shouldn't be allowed to have children without a license IMO.

made me cry tbh

It’s called fidgeting. Some of us need to have busy hands to focus when someone talks. He was actually paying attention the whole time.

The way his face lit up with the affirmation of love 😭😭😭

He was listening the whole time

His mother referred to him as 'the child'. Very impersonal. I was a child in the 50's/60's and had a very kind & caring mother. We were working class so didn't have much in the way of possessions. Love is free. Myself & most of my close friends were not disciplined in a physical way so had a good childhood. School however showed us a different side to life. Corporal punishment was prevalent. Watching 'rude' children being struck with a leather belt did not help them or those of us that had to watch. The usual recipients ended up getting in trouble with the police or dying young due to taking drugs. A long time ago now but never forgotten. Violence can begat violence. At least it did in our school 😢

@@msch7620Correct, he paid attention the whole time, but it seemed as though he wasn’t, especially when juxtaposed against his reaction to those magical words.

That's more often the case than not. That's mostly what child psychiatrists do - educate and change the parents.

Everyone basically needs therapy

Did, a long time ago.

I dont know. It is a quick fix answer. She needs advice, which she gets.

@@Aimercesttous Maybe still does.

When he looked at the doctor with excitement and " You love me!?"

Yes

Which annoys me because the mother towards the beginning said "" He has everything he wants and needs "" its a Shame some parents fail to see the very thing the child needs is love, attention, kindness, empathy etc. She sometimes refers to the child as "" IT"" 🥺 hurt adults going on to have hurt children

Yes. They did.

@@robinluich6626 glad you saw that too. How fast he looked at the doctor and asked “you love me?” So hungry for love.

111%

She probably is tired of dealing with him . Remember depression is real

@@Parisbluesun its more likely that he is like that because she is like that and not the other way around

You cant blame her. The child is psychopath!

My thoughts exactly. He wants to be loved. Gentleness goes a long way. He needs patience, and hugs.

Nicely done, nicely done.

Great tip!

Brilliant, thank goodness for natural and intelligent teachers like you 😢

Brilliant!

Using brainwashing methods is evil.

do you mean "these days" as in because of Covid? :0 cause if not I surely hope there isnt a rule against hugs for therapists

@@DrFeelGoood no, I mean therapists/ counsellors are not allowed to touch the client in any way covid or not (UK)

@@meelodeshmeeelo2034 this is so sad to hear, that brief hug embrace can change someones week

@@astridparanormalscotland7434 A therapist is trying to get the patient/client to THINK.

True it is sad but nowadays you can be charged with molestation etc.

With the way this is filmed, I would say the 'mother' is played by an actor. Did they use two camera back in the 1960s for tv shows? No, just one. So why and how can a low budget training video afford to have two camera men catching each of their facial expressions going back and forth?

I wasn’t born in the 60’s or anything, but I have a feeling they likely couldn’t since he was a little boy and the medication wasn’t as.. advanced? Unsure, really

​@@StinkyWetRat505either way love is a more effective form of medication.

This one’s rocky, sure the whole throwing opioids at mental instabilities only works on some occassions, the power of love can only go but so far for suffering individuals

@@crystalyn2855Nah, I’ll keep my drugs thanks. 😂

​@@StinkyWetRat505No.

My mother is an early childhood teacher. In behavioural reports that go to parents I’ve seen that they use Initials or ‘the other child’ or ‘Other’ for safety reasons - protecting that child from identification by strangers - an example was a choking incident like the video, the mother of the choked child was extremely protective and threatened to sue (can’t sue in New Zealand) the parents of the child when they found out who they were. To avoid the whole mess and others like it, my mother used fake initials, ZT, to which the mother was looking on the birthday wall for the initials. Her plan apparently was to find the child, wait with them, and threaten the parents. Nut jobs are why nut rules are in nut place.

@@geminiwriter8875 this child's name is all over the video. But it's the mother who never uses it.

@@kathyhayevsky4703 this is the 1960s, I was giving you a modern option and showing parents went from undercaring to overbearing.

@@geminiwriter8875 Yup Licensed k-12/special ed teacher k- 8 over here. Written a fair share of IEP's. Parenting/environment is huge on the development of a child....fu**ing obviously...but, neurology/brain structure is a large part of "dysfunction"/(abnormalities as well), too. Pardon poor grammar, as I am talking to text on the go..., obviously. I will say that in homacidal cases especially, when the *past tense* is used/not the names etc, that is a red flag for sure, as mentioned.

@@natalie9884 well, the kid its aggro because his mother beat the sht up of him everytime he behaves like a child, he is just mimicking his own experience

So sad and typical, when it takes a village…

He didn't want to be in the film, you can't know he didn't go privately after

@@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre they are mentioning this cause this happens a lot in real life as well..a lot of the blame of emotional education is placed on the mother..not always just I see it happen a lot

Yeah - she was consistently beating the child. "lEtS sOmeHow blAMe tHe mAle !" Wow Anita, just wow.

@@audas she doesn't suggest blaming the father for anything. Your personal bias came up with that. All she said is there is only one part of the story visible and that everyone tends to be blaming the extremely attractive mom, and for all we know the father could be far worse of an influence. All we know is that the kid is annoying, the mom is hot, and you are easily triggered. Anita applied thought, you applied prejudice.

I dont think he was ahead of the times, these types of treatments have been coming on way longer than we realise.

I thought he was brilliant - a natural at it.

@@Beckysinlondon Yea I think so too.

That is an excellent technique for about anything one can think of.

What does collaborative problem solving mean?

how does lack of love and acceptance cause neurodivergence? Or are you speculating?

@@azimuth5620 I believe they are saying that he needs love, as well as acceptance of his potential neurodivergence, to solve his behavioral issues

Neurodiversity comes after the trauma

Yes I agree, as a parent of a neurodiverse child and also 2 partners in my life, it's so obvious to me. But alot of people don't understand it so they will put their uneducated 2 cents worth in. People also need to understand this mother had 6 years of being expected to conform to a stereotype of a parent which was impossible for her to achieve. Fortunately now if you understand neurodiversity you know that punishment is futile, and love and understanding can do amazing things.

​@@azimuth5620Hai ragione, neurodiversi si nasce e non si diventa! E le cause sono ad oggi sconosciute...gli scienziati di tutto il mondo stanno tuttora studiando le possibili cause della neurodiversita'. Saluti dalla mamma di un bambino con sindrome di Asperger (autismo di livello 1).

He understands more than those now

That's the normal way to be

​@@coppersulphate002 not then it wasnt

To be honest, he understood more than this time even. Adults and parents lack the interest in really understanding the child. They don't realize that what they need is love and affection. Now parents just shove phones, tablets, or TVs in their children's faces to not deal with them. We really haven't progressed, now parents just abuse their children with neglect. Maybe if more parents watched this video, they'd be inspired to help their kids more.

Sorry to hear that you felt unloved. My folks were a bit like that too, no hugs ever. They were good parents in other ways but lacking in affection. Even now at 82 years old if try to hug them they tense up and get embarrassed. Grandparents were the same. I mean I knew they loved us kids, but they just never said it or showed it. I remember one day my Aunt (not a blood relative) hugged me for some reason. I kinda just froze and thought "this is weird" but maybe that was because I never really liked her that much. Anyway, I try to do better with my daughters because I realise now how important it is for kids to know they are loved.

I don’t know. I have to say the therapist kind of creeped me out. He kept invading the boy’s personal space and getting way too close. I think the boy probably suffered from ADHD.

Similar , in a way, but we can't blame them as they didn't have when they were babies!

I thought that's the way they spoke at the time. I actually thought the mother was a good mother for seeking help and taking advice so well. The therapist is brilliant, I wonder who he was.

@@ZosiaSamosiaOo Actors, I’m thinking.

The Doctor turnt out to be a child 💀 PREDATOR

@@RikkiTheFool did he?..how do you know that?

@@loonylinda Ignore that clown

I have worked in early childhood education for 40 years and the look on a child’s face at 4 years old when you say you are a clever kind ,good boy is priceless. It like they have never heard these words before heartbreaking

​@@loonylindaignore that comment. Some people just love a reaction. 😵‍💫

Agree.

If I had to bet on who has that brat figured, I would bet on you! How did this 1960's story end? Serial killer?

Needs to lose a fight... that's all. This is normal boy behavior to an extent.

What’s the difference between ridicule and shame?

This is all common knowledge but everyone is different. This isnt accurate all the time.

Wonder if it will ever come back

The Trans Atlantic accent

@@12484uespicysvideo you've read my mind.

Yeah me too and i still dont know what it is, maybe its because it sounds natural

@@12484uespicysvideo I hope man

That's some solid training and understanding of psychoanalysis and relational therapy ❤

There's always been sweet doctors that cared and knew what they were doin. (In all medical fields) Problem is they're the exception to the rule. And there has to be the luck of the people needing their particular style of caring and relating actually finding them.

He almost seems like a time-traveler, he's so wise and empathetic.

When I was 11 years old, I was seeing a psychiatrist, had toys, there were other kids there also. I went through all kinds of hearing testing. I recall the doctor and staff all very nice and caring. This would have been about 1963. Of course, I only realized what was going on later in my teens after asking my mother about it. I wasn't an aggressive student as here, but I was acting out in class and under performing in spite having high scores on intelligence test for the time. Turns out it was due to my relationship with my father. He got involved and apparently all worked out for the better.

@@bobbyd6680 That is a super interesting story! Thank you for sharing, and I'm glad it worked out well for you!

he really did calm down after that.

Yup.. The parent was the problem

@@phillippereira6468He felt that the father got the show of warmth and affection , that he craved, She could show it to her husband, but not to her child.

I think this boy wil be a good man, he has to much energy doest know what to do with it. I see these children are sometimes agressieve but that comes that people and other children become always angry at such childeren till now you see they are most atta. by other children or adults who cant handle the way those children act. Then you see someone intelligent and nice comes and take time to talk in a smart way with them or love to play with them you see them become like a totally different child a happy and quit child . You see it when the dr hold him he is just happy and play like most childeren.

Thank you for spelling Philip correctly!

It's not always the parents. ADHD and ASD are genetic.

no it is NOT always the parents ffs. Horrible comment.

​@@nica900 genetics are not what you think. Kids who have adhd also have a parent with adhd... they just picked up on the behaviors. Read gabor matè

@@Saffronelle 84 people disagree, i think that says a lot. Yes genetics can play a role but as THE PARENT you should then seek help from professionals for your child. It is the parents responsibility.

@@nica900 So true. I have one child with ADHD. He got diagnosed with bipolar now at 22. I love him dearly, but every day is exhausting..

No doubt the parents were raised by emotionally bankrupt parents themselves, just as their parents before them. It’s an abusive cycle.

No wonder why the little boy had so much aggression because he was shown that by his mother. Alongside no love and healthy attention

Families often used corporal punishment it was much more common than today. Getting that child help for his behavior probably saved that kid.

@@seeker8097 Yes.... Oh as we live, we learn. Or supposed to anyway. My parents were never parented. But they did a decent job considering. I have found so much compassion for people now.

What a compassionate therapist.

Well, that would be all of my great grandparents and grandparents. My grandmother was evacuated from London during the Blitz. My grandad was in the Royal Navy. They weren’t cold and horrible!

​@@pommiebearsit depends on the people but generally speaking, times were insane and abuse pretty normalized, sadly. It's a whole generational trauma thing.

Philima, I tend to consider it depended on the family. Different families , different stories.

@@pommiebears I didn't speak for all of the survivors of WWII. My grandparents were in the USA, were well off in adulthood and my maternal grandmother had 6 kids that raised themselves essentially because her career and social life came first. She was just selfish, no trauma. Some people who go through actual warfare trauma might become emotionally stunted at the age they were damaged, thus having Children of their own... They're unable to connect to them in a mature, nurturing manner you'd expect from a stable adult.

@@philima Right! You didn't have the widespread understanding of trauma and abuse we have today. Your average person didn't get therapy. So trauma and abuse got passed on, sadly.

Not everyone gets healed!

And sometimes it doesn't go healed

And, for many, it's a healing that never comes.

🤒💯🤕

So true! I've spent a boatload of money on therapy to try to undo my childhood. It's been money well spent. My parents were the worst bullies. I wouldn't treat an enemy the way they treated me and my sisters. Horrific things went on behind closed doors. It is stopping with me, though. The generational trauma ends here. Too bad I'm too scarred to want children 😂 🙃.

That's a really good way of seeing things and I'm glad you pointed this out.

I agree, she was trying and trying to learn to correct behaviors. Not one sign of the dad trying here.

Well, here's what's going on and it happens today, It's domestic violence, the father is beating the wife. The child is showing that the alligator is his father, he's showing how dad loves on mom but turns into a beast. The child wants love from the father ...the doctor is what the child wants because he affectionate, the mother is angry at the father and taking it out on the child because she sees the father in the boy.

She’s very vulnerable. And clearly never felt safe herself as a child.

@@SpicyGramCracker That child is going to grow up beating on his own wife. The father is not present in this scenario, where's the father?? He's absent. This is a good example of why children need a loving FATHER in the home. If we can recognize domestic violence, we can stop the cycle of it. BUT the cycle continues til this day.

Hi that's what I was thinking

After such an edgy mother, Phillip Went on to have the most successful razor company., Phillips Razor's.😏

@@TheSaltyEgo Wow 👌 thankyou so much for this information!

​@@TheSaltyEgoReally?

Me too

Heartbreaking 😢💔😢

That’s very sad and also disgusting at the same time

@@rachelpayne8497 it is very sad .....and I think I know what you mean ..like disgusting as in..imagine if the doctor was being a perv and how simply this kid could prob be groomed ?

Seen The Madman and the Professor? (Just for the odd kind doctor in a 19th century asylum that are usually portrayed as inhumane...). Decency is decency, throughout time

@@briancolwill3071 Sounds interesting. Thanks for the recommendation, sounds right up my alley

@@sarahg2653 oops. I'm back to front. It's the Professor and the Madman. Dunno where you're at with Mel Gibson but I think he's a good actor despite personal difficulties... Creative arts are full of people with problems, sometimes it's tricky. Like, I loathe Polanski personally but I can't boycott his films! Rotten Tomatoes slayed Professor and the Madman but I found lots to like in it, plenty indeed....

Me too

@@sarahg2653 I set you wrong, it's the Professor and the Madman, but I bet ya got it

The type of woman that shouldn't have reproduced, but at least her offspring was used as a lab rat so that we could acquire knowledge

You can tell she's a single mother.

​@@faustopacheco120 she isn't single mother, it's common situation where parent don't know how to raise a child becauce they are busy

​@@gamesahsv862true. Even they lie to itself...

She seems like a stereotypical WASP

That little boy is about 61 years old if he is still alive.

Lol

He is in prison now.

@@dawndoliber2663 que eres malo jajaja

@@dawndoliber2663 Running cell block D and has all his bitches in a row so he can punch them for getting ink on their hands, mind you his cell block is the cleanest in the whole prison system.

⁠I don’t think the mother asked for help voluntarily. I think she was ‘forced’ to accept any help, because otherwise Philipe would’ve been expelled from school. For sure she ‘s not the type who would be cheerful about that outcome. Home schooling Philipe or sending him to a special school would only made her feel more like a loser. My guess, she just had to take the advice of his teachers.

I have a feeling what she should have done for his future was leave her husband .

To me it seemed like it was very painful for her to even admit

Let’s also wonder why the father isn’t there to take any responsibility. It’s sad how the parent that shows up is the one that’s solely blamed.

@@rakregastop blaming mothers

I'd argue the evidence you give supports the idea of the mother caring about her appearance. When she was smiling, it looked like relief that the kid saw the parents as loving and showed people that. Did she care? I think so. Was she more selfish than caring? I can definitely see it being possible. Was she more focused on herself when she was under stress? After the kids description of the birds he painted, I'd say likely. Is there a second appearance of the blobfish? Yep 25:54

@@lemonstealinghorsdoeuvre Selfish or not selfish, self focused or self conscious, what matters is that the channel she has with the child works such as providing love, assertive communication, limits, etc.

@@helenacorreia7613 agreed

She was probably treated the same way by her parents. Very sad.

Every child is an individual. It was an era when children were corrected.

I don’t necessarily agree or disagree with this. I’m very curious as to why you think that?

Many people become psychologists with out any love, or understanding of it. but this doctor is so keen and obviously loving what he does.

Also I believe there is too much pressure for easy solutions. Might not be the modern psychiatrist's issue.

@@farangisehsani592 Yes I definitely agree with this, as an aspiring child psychiatrist myself :)

Just for clarification, he is not a psychologist. He is a psychiatrist. Psychologists get doctorates in the science of psychology to become therapists. Psychiatrists are physicians who go to medical school and then concentrate in the treatment of mental disorders through medication alongside therapy. This difference could also be why you're impressed with him, he has had much more extensive training than a psychologist.

😥 yes

​@marilyncantrell4954, and then the baby grows up, and the cycle repeats itself.😮

PAIN

Yes, this was very good. It helped me learn.

i agree that. greetings from the Netherlands

That's what I'm wondering, how he is now , I mean I respect their privacy but I'd love good news

@@shawnaclarkson9401 same! he is probably out there living his life, and even the mother could be still.

He sat waaay too close.

@@shawnaclarkson9401 Me murdered his mother in 1975.

@@bobbyd6680 what?! No way! How did you find this out? Or are you joking?

I had twin boys. One of them sometimes drove me crazy but we always had fun and he always felt loved. I don't think the Walk a Mile in Her Shoes fits in this instance. That being said, at that time children often got spanked and sent to bed without dinner. I was brought up that way but broke the cycle with my sons.

Yes I noticed the 'this child' 'the child etc. Putting a distance between her and her son who therefore became an object to be controlled rather than a son to be loved.

It was the 60s. Things were different. Parents were stricter and more detached. Good parenting back then was considered making sure your children were fed, clothed, and educated. A whole generation grew up like this.

@@matthews852 And you think parenting is better nowadays. It's easy to make generalisations, my parents weren't overly strict and I'm pretty sure none of my friends parents were either. The woman in this film came across as cold and it seemed from what she said her husband was much the same.

@@shamteal8614 It’s not a generalization. It’s based on a study conducted by California-Irvine, and the evolution of accepted discipline between the 1960s and today. Also the amount of time parents spend with their children has increased on average from 54 minutes a day in 1965, to 102 mins by 2012. I’m giving you facts. You gave us an anecdote about your friends.

that sounds so lovely! You aren't even allowed to comfort a hurt child today - it is heartbreaking.

why on earth wouldnt you be allowed to comfort a hurt child today?@@SerenDipity64711

​@@SerenDipity64711at my kids' school they are absolutely allowed to comfort them. it's a small private school though. My oldest just started public school so I'm not sure of the difference yet. I'm sure they are allowed to offer some comfort. Maybe not physical (I'm not sure) but definitely with words.

Today the child enters, the teachers not even greeting.

are you in the UK? A friend of mine who ran a nursery for 40 years, told me recently how things used to be.They could kiss children's knees better, if they had a fall but not anymore! If a child needs a plaster put on, they have to phone a parent for permission!@@DSDaly

It’s the labeling!!!!

The way a child called "trouble", the relationship between his parents could be called the same... A "trouble".

That's mirroring and children do for many years in early developments try to be what their parents let him know about who they are reflect positively and child developed a healthier self images of their own existence

I find your, very interesting… I’d be very curious to know the age, role, and and gender role of the child gets you praise, and the same things about the child that gets you condemned. While it’s true, that our children do come with a certain nature, it’s also true that the nurture of a child impacts behavior. It’s true that we make have a child with severe autism and they’re going to act a certain way than a less autistic or ADHD child, but I wouldn’t be so hasty in saying that children are not impacted by their parents and are just hardwired to be a certain way. That’s the age old argument of nature versus nurture. You may be "loving" parents as you describe, and I’m certainly not going to argue that. I’m not here to condemn or judge you. I am an analyzer personality, so I hope you won’t mind… I’ve also seen the side of parents or siblings, who are narcissistic, and appear like one thing to the world when in reality, they are acting far differently behind closed doors. Dysfunctional families can have a child or two who are well behaved and exceptional in their accomplishments, but that may have more to do with the fact that they are a golden child, or a hero child. This is something involved with the identities of roles in a dysfunctional family. The middle child may be seen as the problem child… When in reality they come from a dysfunctional family and are not given healthy tools to learn to cope with life or face, life, challenges in more socially acceptable ways. I know that every family has its challenges, and I know that some are far more dysfunctional. It often boils down to healthy attachment, styles, and whether people are respecting boundaries or ignoring boundaries, or demonstrating healthy love If you are genuinely a person who is open and vulnerable and capable of recognizing your weak spots, I hope you’ll take some time to consider some of the other factors in the life of your children. Do you feel you’ve made any mistakes in parenting? I personally believe that we are going to make mistakes, but I know that God can I help us find healing and change as people and parents. God can help children heal from our mistakes that we may not be able to change if they are no longer being raised by us. Accepting responsibility for mistakes may be very hard to swallow. it’s just something to consider in terms of a "good" child versus a "bad" child. I’m not negating the fact that some children are just much harder, but to absolve ourselves (which I recognize you aren’t doing, but some people do) of all responsibility seems short-sided to me. I wish you all the best, and hope you don’t mind the ideas I have proposed. I write them as much for myself, as for anyone else trying to figure out the complexity of relationship's. ❤ Esperanza P.S. Obviously I can’t cover all my thoughts or the possibilities, but one last thing that I consider is the possibility of detrimental outside influences to a person, such as with abuse. I know personally the effects of abuse outside my childhood home (something my family didn’t know happened on repeat experiences), which my siblings didn’t seem to experience. That form of abuse may have been the reason for my seemingly more amplified feelings of brokenness… or a “worthiness wound," (that Heidi Priebe here on Facebook addresses) than my siblings feel. So, you are correct to imply that parents aren’t always the problem. I just don’t completely agree with what you seem to be saying about accepting all parental responsibility when things don’t go well with children because I find your, very interesting, but I wouldn’t be so hasty in saying that children are not impacted by it environment. I personally believe that we are going to make mistakes, but I know that God can I help us find healing and change as people and parents. God can help children heal from our mistakes. That’s hard to swallow, it’s just something to consider in terms of a "good" child versus a "bad" child. I’m not negating the fact that some children are just much harder, but to absolve ourselves of all responsibility seems short-sided to me(which I recognize you aren’t saying, but some people do prefer to avoid responsibility , or "blame shift.") I wish you all the best, and hope you don’t mind the ideas I have proposed. I write them as much for myself, as for anyone else trying to figure out the complexity of relationships in life experiences and choices. I feel very strongly that relationships (and usually home relationships) generally have the most significant influence on children, and consequently on their adult selves, in more ways than one may be comfortable to acknowledge! But even for the many forms of abuse that I’ve experienced, I really do believe in miracles because I am one!

Mother is focused on herself: "there's something that makes you feel like a failure." Bad behavior may be an attempt to get mother to focus on the child.

And what about the father ?

@@shelleyoxenhorn833 well, if it were the only "project" in your life and it failed, you would feel similar as her. and if on top of that she had inferiority complex, than it makes even more sense.

@@shelleyoxenhorn833 I know it's easy to look down upon her but has anything changed today? Mothers are still under enormous pressure and I know a lot of them who routinely ask themselves those self-centered questions of "Do people think I'm a bad mother and a failure?" despite having their kids best interest at heart. It's hard to shun other people's opinions when it comes to emotionally loaded topics of family and raising children.

Well it shouldn't be her burden. Where is the father?

The lightning moment

If I was that therapist I would have taken him home immediately 🥺

I just want to give him a big hug.

I struck seeing his action. He wanted to be loved.

Where is this part

No such thing as unconditional love.

It was so normal back in the day 😂. She wasn’t tryna hide it either it’s so funny and weird how Normal it was back in the day . Knowing she could smoke at work is crazy

I used to work at Trader Joe’s and my boss told me about how the checkout all used to have burn marks on them from employees placing their cigarettes down to bag the groceries (back in the day) 😂. Times have sure changed!

Oh yes, vaping is so much more healthy & lovely.

@@stephenpmurphy591 Vaping wouldn't be allowed in Kindergarten either.

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She probably does it simply because ot makes her feel powerful, she knows she could never get away with doing that to another adult but she can get away with doing it to her child and that makes her feel good about herself

@@ratdog6317 She confirmed that she had _never_ cried. Probably a psychopath

That wa very disturbing. That guy was way to close ti that little boy. He's definitely a perv.

@@michaelfornell4467 Did you miss the entire point of the video?? The child was missing affection so he addressed that issue perfectly and helped him. I hope you don't have any children because they will turn out just like Philippe. A man showing affection to a child is perverted??? You're an imbecile.

@@michaelfornell4467why is hugging and holding a young child inherently sexual? He didn’t have a healthy experience of parental love, so it seems like the psych was trying to show by example what love feels like. children NEED to be held and loved for neurological development.

He gets paid to be gentle and affectionate it’s part of the manipulative. Actions with the doctor is taking.

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She sounded British to me, if this is the case, her phrase "the child" could just be a typical sarcastic tone. It is entirely normal and comical in Britain when speaking to children, say when they're being cheeky but playful, to start referring to them as "child", replying to their taunts with phrases such as "listen here child". It's a sarcastic way of joking about how in the situation they may of gotten the psychological upper hand, with a witty comment or joke, but that by reverting to a luddite style of speaking in nouns rather than proper verbiage, I am as an adult congratulating them admitting they have gotten the upper hand and made me look a fool, but that if we strip away our civilised façade I am the older, bigger, stronger participant and can with authority overrule them, that their quick wit wont save them from the natural order, and that while they've done well to master their sarcasm, they should respect their elders when employing it. The same thought process is on display but in a more matured stage, when the younger would use the phrase "old man" when speaking to someone who is old age and past it, but has similarly taunted them with a sarcastic remark.

@@Alfred5555 foolish comment

She is the parent who sought help- she owned up to her failures. Blaming the mother is a very simplistic approach to complicated family dynamics.

@Norah Fitzcharles I'm not "blaming" her for anything. Like all things in life, the back story is complex. I was merely making an observation. After all, she is the only person there. If I could observe the father, no doubt I'd be critical of him also.

Disassociation, probably suffer from some sort of trauma and abuse.