Agreed, i remember my father insisted that we sisters sit in our lawn outside to learn Quran when our Qari came, he would water plants, clean his car , etc so that he is continuously around us, back then i didn't understand but now i do.

My mother used to sit in the room next to where I was reciting the Quran with my teacher. This was 30 years ago. Now I know why it was so important.

"Be paranoid" . I agree with you!

I agree to this 100%. I am a nurse and I see this in hospitals so much. It’s really sad. I also have a boy who I always talk to him. Abuse happens in the home first. It’s very important to give that knowledge to the kids.

Thank you for speaking about this issue Amna. I was molested by a molvi, chauffeurs as well as hired help when we lived in Karachi and mind you I was under 9. Also in our society we shame the victims, stay silent with religious figures and most importantly the lack of education. I think we should educate our kids about private parts and if someone tries to touch it, they should be shunned.

You're right Aamna. Every child must be taught good and bad touch. Unfortunately we have sexual predators within our family, society etc. Cannot trust anyone.

So glad you spoke on this issue that many shy away from. Unfortunately this is so common now and usually happens from the people we trust. We really need schools to also educate children about this subject and how to be safe.

Completely agree with you. Whenever I see people posting pictures of their kids online showing them in diapers only(however innocent it may be), I just feel so uncomfortable thinking about all the predatory glances that post will receive. Before this video I used to feel that I was overthinking maybe but that's not the case.

I couldn't have agreed more to this. Hats off Aamna for picking this vital topic for discussion. As parent we have to be extremely aware about our children's whereabouts. Indeed predators are most often in our surroundings.

Agr ek bacha bhi Bach gya Amna k iss video ki waja se tou itna sawab Amna ko milega apki soch hai

Children need to be taken seriously, when they say they don't wana go some place or meet some person, or sit near a certain person, there opinion should be taken seriously. Otherwise they loses the confidence that someone have their back.

Aamna thank you for this video. Although it has been in society since ever but considering the recent incident of Qaari in Faisalabad, it was much needed. And please be more careful with Qari(s) because these people can't be punished and accusing them may lead you to the hell of blasphemy false accusations.

Thank you Aamna ❤ People also keep your children away from old people (both men and women). In our culture, old people (including old immediate and distant relatives, neighbors, colleagues, etc) are given alot of respect but in reality old folks are just aged people and not necessarily saints. Encourage children to speak up. In our culture we like children who don't talk much but this results in children not voicing their concerns. Be there for your children (as said by Aamna).

Amina I wish you’d covered this topic in Urdu to reach a wider audience.... really need this in our Mohallas & little towns & villages

I’m totally agree with you Amna,be aware of your close family they are the one who touched you very inappropriately.

I am very blessed that the young clean shaved guy who taught me Quran Pak, was sooo respectful. Even I know him now after so many years.

Thank you for this very important video. Highlighting a taboo subject but 1 that people need to be aware of.

Thanks so much for taking on this sensitive topic. I feel it’s heavily needed and more ppl need to speak about these things. Unfortunately very few ppl actually go after the predator , everyone always shames or hushes the victims and this needs to STOP! Ppl don’t realize the trauma victims have from these childhood situations, it literally stays with them for life. I’m definitely that paranoid parent and I barely leave my kids with other people unless I am there and honestly ppl should be the most protective and paranoid about their children. It’s sad that previous generations were so relaxed and didn’t prioritize protecting their children from these creeps. If a maulana saab is coming over in your home to teach kids, an adult should be there at all times, there should be no compromise on that. Also ppl who opt for online teachers, there’s lots of creeps online so please sit with your kids.

Asslamualekum Aamina, Allhamdulillah , Allah has blessed you an art to articulate topics in such way that are a ‘taboo’ or ‘ shouldn’t talk about it’ on your platform to raise awareness and open a conversation to build form of protection. Every time I watch your reviews or topics on this channel it always leaves me informed and leaves some questions for me to think as a reflection. Please dont loose this skill to touch people! Take care and keep it up!

I want to add that we should also be careful with female house help, not just male help. But males treat everyone as a suspect

Absolutely 💯 agree with your every word .This issue needs to be discussed every other day in some form .Make it so so important,that every member of the society is aware of it .We as a society feel such things are to be kept hidden ,no bro ,if something bad has happened to you talk about it ,tell it to everyone so that they are saved ! Well done Amna , another video another day ,you continue to Impress us

I am appalled at the pardoning behavior exhibited towards these imbeciles. These predators strutting around with their head high in arrogance while divulging in heinous acts is absolutely disgusting.

Im glad !!! Im so happy someone is talking about this matter ❤ Thank you Amna ❤❤❤

Thank you so much for speaking on this topic 👏

It's incredibly considerate and always considering how you might support others. Fantastic work, Aamna

How very thoughtful and considerate of you.

Thank you amna for addressing this issue I'm so glad that I'm your subscriber❤️ I'm also eldest of 3 siblings I take care of them And I just hope that I can keep them away from predators 😊

thank you for doing this show

My dad used to be in US and my mother was our father and mother she protected us and we were so naive back in 2000s didn’t know anything. We used to go to school our mother drop and pick us from private bus. She hired female quran teacher for us and the mon dropped us to tuition and pick us. Once we had male qari, he grabbed me from my shirt to see inside that was his first and last day even though we were like 10 like wtf is wrong with these nasty ppl 🤮🤮

Done a wonderful job while discussing this topic

Agree child abuse is becoming common in Pakistan quite alarming

I'm glad. .. I'm so happy ki aapne is topic pe baat Kiya har parents ko friendly hona chahiye ki aap ke bache aap se khul ke baat kar sake,,...

Agree ! Be always paranoid when it comes to protecting ur children. And yes they are not safe at home. We should always educate our children and keep the conversation ongoing.

Would love if you do a combined 101 of Eid & Ramzan. Also, for Something Haute, maybe wrong in asking for it but since you are going to Lahore, would love if you do an interview of Mr. Kashif Nisar for Stand up Girl and a combined interview of the entire Stand up Girl cast. All deserve to be there for the interview, not just the leads 😅

Thanks Aamna! This is a topic we all know but choose to not talk about. As a parent of a 9 year old girl, I can say I am paranoid about her safety to the limit. Even though I am living a relatively safer country compared to India/ Pakistan. Communication with your child and giving them the trust to walk up to you and talk about not feeling safe is the key in this. Good touch bad touch. I have told my daughter that ONLY I am allowed to see her below her neck.. NO ONE ELSE! So far I feel she tells me everything which I pray everyday continues to be! Thank you for sharing your personal experience. I am so glad your child and you have that bond which is needed to dissolve this situation. ♥️♥️🙏🏻🙏🏻

Very good job Aamna.very sensitive and important topic to discuss,but i wish you talk more about this topic ❤

Relevant topic sharing on Linkedin a must

Agreed, it is sad but 💯 percent correct so we have to be conscious for our kids of all ages. Thanks Aamna for giving awareness

Agree, with Aamna 100 % very relevant in this day and age. The saying is trust but verify don't blindly send children anywhere or with anybody. I am so glad you are raising awareness. Teaching children about good touch/ bad touch and as you said,they should feel comfortable to talk to parents. The problem is as you said the Molvi,Qari are given too much blank check by the society but they are all humans like priest scandals in Illinois ,also famous Muslim clergy in Illinois was found guilty in the court running a Muslim Madrasa. He was 75 year old at that time and sadly half of the muslim community was in denial that he could do such a thing. He destroyed many lives. Absolutely, never trust anyone blindly and listen to your kids.

So proud of you for talking about this. Yes and please also be careful of extended family members also.

Dear Smba g, you are such a precious voice of reason. Iconic.

Very true Amna May Allah swt protect our kids ameen Indeed we r in times where none can be trusted at all I remember not letting my child go any picnics, any shops or any single teacher tuitions till she reached the age of 16/17 Made sure she visited relatives in my presence or my parent’s presence And above all I had taught her that her mom is her best friend, it really does wonders to the relation and their upbringing as well Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah Alhamdulillah and praying to Allah to keep all protected all times ameen

Fantastic work Amna ji. This is such an important topic to talk about

Topic👌👍👍, shopping with kids of any age, take care of them, especially in the trial room Sometimes salesmen are predators and check any hidden cameras in the trial room and switch off the lights (if possible ) during the trial

Assalamu Alaikum Aamna Hats off to u for speaking on this topic🎩🎩🎩 I am pretty much sure many of ur viewers will benefit from it ✌ Jazak Allah Khair Sending lots of duas from India 🤲🤲🤲....

very important video!

Good talk ❤

Me being a teacher would like to add that children in a class come from different families and experience unfortunately different things in their households. I have witnessed a 5 year olds hiding under the desk doing strange things to the other children. Caregivers either parents or teachers should remain alert, understand, guide and insure security of each child. Bring a mother I always took a firm stand that my children are safest with me only. And for that (living in joint family) if I have to keep them locked with me in the room when I rest, I did. Never let anyone clean or change my baby. Being a mother is a life time responsibility. Full stop.

Totally agree with everything you have said ..

bravo!

Agreed 100 % in everything you said.

Agreed...

This is very true our parents always kept an eye on us even wity the Qari sb or home tutors and we were never allowed to stay wt relatives,cousins at night.. we were always surrounded by our parents and grand parents Alhamdolliah

Aamna you are amazing

I was molested by a cousin in a car while sleeping…he thought i am asleep and groped my breasts…i was terrified and didn’t moved…he thought i do not know about what he did and despite having great level of frankness and comfort with my parents i choose not to tell them and avoided it and never even confronted him and that same bastard then did the same thing with my little sister and when she told me i regretted my decision…i told my parents all about it and they handled the matter but till date i regret….maybe if i have done something at that time i had saved my little one of the trauma that it caused when someone touches u inappropriately…she then told me about all the men that have done that time to time and all of them belonged to the family….every other uncle or brother is a fucking predator….all this happened when my mother specifically sits with us during school tutuions and with our maulana….she is so peculiar and particular about it and all this still happened….i just have a fear of having a child and all these things happening to him or her

I 100%agree with you

Never never trust anyone when a child is concerned....

100% agreed

Because of this. I opt for online teaching.

*Agreed...* 💯

Maa ka hamesha alert rehna zaroori hai girls boys dono ke liye

Agree!!! Don’t trust anyone!!!

DO NOT EVER force your children to hug a family member that you love, if the children don't want to. Grandparent, uncle, cousin - the relationship DOES NOT MATTER. If your child is not in the mood or is disinclined to hug or sit on someone's lap, you have to support your child. You can't teach them to say 'no' to bad touch while also forcing them to hug people they don't want to.

agree

I’m sorry to say that this predatory behaviour unfortunately is not limited to the male species. It is predominately males who have this behaviour but I have heard cases of women also abusing children. I’m not sure if this is the case in Pakistan but, here in the UK there have been some cases.

Insaniyat hi khtm ho gayi hai...

Prevention is the best cure. Teach your children from a very young age not to let anyone touch or look at their private parts and not to touch and look at anyone else's. Group activities are best, not 121. Online supervised is preferred aswell. Only people who can harm your children, are ones who have access to them. Firstly that will be family, friends, teachers, tutors, coaches😢

This awareness is very important, repeat awareness for this regularly,also predators in police cases should be punished by islamic law,it would reduce such crimes iA

I think a child should not be touched or asked to touch any teacher molvi qari in any way, parents before admission must categorically put this point Infront of the principal so that a principal then could educate teachers very clearly no matter what you just can't touch the child.

8:11 Let's say they're in a Madrassah or any type of group Quran class, the Qari/ Ustaad/ Ustaani can easily ask or single out one kid and take them to a side room. You can't expect the other kids to stand up to the teacher? You can't leave kids alone even in a group setting. Unless you literally drop your kid with a nanny cam ? I know it sounds insane but I'd do it for my kid. I'd speak to the teacher and literally as I drop my kid, walk in with a nanny cam, set it up with the teachers consent so I can watch my kid during the class remotely the whole time. That or the teachers coming at my house to teach with me right there. My point is you have to have eyes on your kids the whole time.

I agree all parents should be *Paranoid*

All our teachings were done by parents I cannot figure out how the qari culture started?

This is a very serious topic and sensitive one for me as it hits home. And I am so sad to say that it is more common than we’d like to think. I have a 3 year old and we were having discussions about how we should introduce Quran classes gradually. And I made it very clear that he will not be going to a masjid or a madrasa. And if anyone will come over to teach him Quran in future I will chaperon him. If that makes me a helicopter parent I don’t care.

In a way i agree with you but we can't be always be with our kids we should make our society in a way we don't have to be with them all the i know it is idealistic but it is possible a lot of other nations have done it

Great topic ...thanks for talking about this ...we need to stop trusting religious clerics blindly .These maulvis should have been penalized.

I am like that mom who shak every one and akely NAHI Jana same

Khandan k uncle bhi khatarnak hotay hain un se bhi beware hona chahiye .

Imran Abass taunted at Abdullah Kadyani who's posting his umrah pics, Imran asked kya inn paisa khanay walay production houses ka umrah qubul hoga 😅

My husband always insisted on female quran tutor for my girls ...

Apny bachy ky sath aayain

It is a Human Right for a Maulvi to be a Predator

Islamic law best

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