1. Lack of communication 2. Lack of appreciation 3. Jealousy with rivalry 4. Betrayals and dishonesty 5. Refusing to forgive and holding a grudge 6. Not spending enough time together 7. Spending too much time together 8. Possessiveness 9. Selfishness and being self centered 10. Arguing too much

Playing Mario Party and Monopoly on the same night

I lost a fake friend like this because they never cared about me But I kind of happy

One thing that‘s sabotaging my friendship is that my friend constantly wants to spend time with me, constantly wants to call, and I obviously want to spend time with her but sometimes it’s too much time to the point where we basically have nothing to talk about.. sometimes I just want to be alone- it’s really hard to avoid her, in a way-

“No" is a complete sentence.” ― Annie Lamott

Two of my friends have betrayed me and talked bad about me behind my back. They never apologized to me and never admitted they did anything wrong. One of them has recently said something extremely rude, and the other one took their side. I also argue a lot with them. I think we need some new friends.

Me and my friends have a counseling session at least once a month where we get frank with each other and tell each other what's wrong with them (like being too selfish, being too bossy, etc.) That's how we keep our friendship strong since we don't lie and backstab each other.

I had one pretty good friend, but I did a good amount of these and was a kind of crappy friend. Looking back on it now, I wish I hadn't been a complete idiot.

You can tell he/she is a real friend if no matter how many months or even years you haven't talked to each other, they still think about you and if you did meet up it's like nothing changed, you still talk like you talk everyday... well not like i have one lol

That awkward moment when you realize your friend checks basically every negative box on this list....

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” - Jim Rohn Choose your friends wisely please have a good day 😇

What did you lose recently? Comment below.

Lost my best friend last year because we were spending too much time together. That led to me being reluctant to bring up my dismay, thus led to our lack and failure of communication. Give your friends space and appreciate them in a way they CAN see that you’re appreaciating them, not in ways they feel anything but appreciation. Don’t be like me, I still feel bitter about her to this day.

Psych2go, you have been for me to help with my problems for a while now. My mom however does not appreciate you. She thinks the content you make is not helpful and bad for me. I just want to thank you for helping me with all my problems.

Romantic relationships leads to end of friendship too, just informing

I would like to thank all the whole team behind this. You guys, although living miles away from me, you literally saved me. You were the ones who said that it's okay for me to talk about my mental health problems with my family and gave realistic outcomes. Now I live happier everyday thanks to every single one of you. Just thank you. Blesses to the whole team so you can continue making such lovely content.

I fell out of friendship with my bestfriend... we've been friends since we're 12, it's been 9 years and our lives just grew apart more and more.... We went to different college in different city, I changed, she changed, and a lot of attempts I made to try to maintain the friendship just feel unreciprocated. She would cancel hang out plans last minutes and makes no effort to compensate for it, left my messages on read, rarely contacts me first that turns into never at all... I know she's that type of introvert who's not comfortable with connecting with other people. On the other hand, I find myself leaning to my extroverted sides more and more by the time. When I think about it, maybe our personality has changed to the point it's not a match anymore. I know changes like this are inevitable but still, times I spent with her are dear and precious to me, and I haven't found any other friends that I can consider a bestfriend like her, I can't find anyone other than her that I can share all my thoughts with with no hesitation. I'm sad. But again, I don't hate the way I changes and I think the way she changes is also good for her.

I remember, when I was having a lot of busy stuff I had to do: I had important clubs, studies, trips to my grandparents etc. I tried giving my friend as much free time as possible, but It was never enough for her. She thought I was lying and she started acting like I don't exist. For someone, who was suffering from depression and anxiety + her being my only friend, I was actually traumatized. And yet, in the end, It was my fault that I couldn't skip my theatrical practice, it was my fault that I couldn't say to my parents "I don't want to go to my grandparents". In that moment, all I ever saw was people's toxicity. My parents and brother act toxic, my friend left me, none of my classmates supported me, not even teachers.

Can’t sabotage anything when you don’t have friends 🤷‍♂️

"We've always experienced friendship in one way or another." What I heard: "We've always experienced countless backstabbings and betrayals." *_heLp m3_*

I feel like over this quarantine, me being a very social person always needing to be around people has created some new trends to try and compensate for it. Most of my time during the summer, I plan out my weeks to do things, but mostly to see friends. Obviously, can't do that right now--so I've been texting and especially calling even more (I prefer calling to texting, something about hearing the other person's voice just makes things better for me). I feel like it might be getting a little obnoxious...

And every point in this video hit me in a way ... it shows me how I don’t regret letting that person go . 15 years of friendship down the drain that simply can’t be restored to the way it was before . I was too naive to even notice that warning signs until it was too late .

*its true that friends can make you happy but there’s always a time where you will fight and that’s when all your happiness goes away realizing your friend was a fake one* one reason I don’t have loads of friends except for a few :)

Ok so one thing that’s ruining my friends ships is I feel unappreciated I feel like I’m the bother when I check up on my friends I’m putting more effort into my friendships than my friends do it’s just sad how I can be a good friend and everyone Turns they back on me or abandon me :(

The scar never goes away.i forgave.but they never even acknowledged or even said sorry.

I have lost most of my friends when they got into a relationship. Before they find their boy/ girlfriend they were very clingy to me, calling me almost every day to discuss or meet and after finding their mate they don't send me even happy birthday

I can definitely relate to the point they made about spending too much time with someone. My roommate and I were best friends starting last fall, and at some point in the spring semester she turned on me with no warning and refused to talk to me or answer my texts. She never actually told me what she was mad about, and from my perspective our friendship was pretty great. It still hurts so much thinking about what she did. I have reached out to her again months later and said that I don't want our friendship to be over and she just told me she needed more time. I don't know what to do. She hurt me so badly that part of me doesn't want to be friends with her again, but if she were to reach out to me I might change my mind. I just felt so betrayed by someone who I thought I could trust

♡ Summary ♡ 10 Things that couls sabotage friendships 1- Lack of Communication 2- Lack of Appreciation 3- Jealousy with Rivalry 4- Betrayals and Dishonesty 5- Refusing to Forgive (and holding a grudge) 6- Not spending enough time together 7- Spending too much time together 8- Possesiveness 9- Selfishness and being Self-Centered 10- Arguing too much I would recommend to always watch the video :)

Me and my best friend love drawing. We used to sit at the tables in the out side of our school and be there drawing for hours. But sometimes, somme random people started appearing and looking at my friend's drawings, compliment him and it was like I wasn't there to them, and I got jealous. But then I went to talk with him about it and he said my drawings were as awesome or even better than his and that he didn't even like when people started surrounding him talking about his drawings. Now it still happens but I don't care because they are just random people and I'm not a professional, so I am happy only having his support ^w^

Thank you so much for this, I really needed it recently since arguing has been a problem in my friend group. 😊

Lately me and my best friend have been going threw some stuff. I feel like I’m losing him and he doesn’t seem to care. He’s changing in a way that freaks me and makes scared so I’m trying to hold on. I know things change and things never stay the same but it’s crazy I might lose this person. This video helped me a lot. I need advice.

I still don’t know how this came out when I’m having trouble with my friendship

Well I just finished this video and I have to say, I know why I’m alone now, and it wasn’t all my fault..........but I recognize the sabotage I committed. 🤔😞💔

I’ve kinda separated from one of my first friends because his parents wanted him to home school and he hardly talks to me anymore

I’ve been struggling myself and his relationship with my boyfriend it’s hurt trying to be change myself

No wonder she didn't feel comfortable around me I guess she felt alone 😟 2:41 I'm a horrible friend!!!!😭😭😭😭 But, thanks to this video I know what I have done wrong I'm gonna try to make up with my friend😊 Thank you!!!

Hooooh, I just ended a 6-year friendship and it hit nearly all the marks. Mostly the possessiveness and spending too much time together. She would call me daily, usually multiple times a day, and she was very "clingy" (I say this as she would LITERALLY cling to me). What bothered me the most was that she had a tendency to rip me away from my other friends, or wedge herself between me and other people to prevent me from getting close to them. Even my mom would tell me she was clingy and warned me not to get taken advantage of by her. I should've taken that as a red flag _so_ much earlier. A mother's instinct is never wrong. Anyways, the final straw in our friendship was when she knowingly started dating my crush. I still don't know what compelled her to do that, or if she even liked her. Initially, I gave my friend the benefit of the doubt, thinking, "Oh, it's okay, you can't control your feelings for someone." In hindsight, though, she didn't seem to show any signs of liking her and treated her more like a trophy. Thank god that's over with. I talked with my crush afterwards-we were relatively close friends to begin with-and she said my now ex-friend treated her the same way. She was possessive and took advantage of her... even physically. (Not as far as sexually, thank god, but it still leaves a bad taste in my mouth and really just confirmed how s****y of a person she was.) So both my crush and I cut her off. It was really freeing. I also ended up confessing my feelings to my crush not too long after and we are now in a relationship. Honestly, it feels like a dream. I'm just glad things worked out well in the end.

Can't lose friends if you can't get them or keep them, once you reach a certain amount of conditions you're screwed unless you find another unlucky soul such as yourself.

I've learned direct communication is key, don't bottle things up, it is better just let them know. sadly so many people shy away from simple direct honesty at the time of a mistake. I wish we lived in a world where people were brave and resilient enough to share when they've been hurt, and to genuinely apologize when we've accidentally hurt someone. We still have so many unhelpful 20th century habits as a society, including avoiding conflict and then ghosting people. Good friends are rare, we should all take care to keep them. Thanks for these easy to digest videos!

This helped me realize the things I need to change about myself! Can you guys make a video on helping to set the right boundaries so as to spend the right amount of time with your best friend/others?

What destroys a friendship ? When someone lies, plays games, tries to screw you over with intent, tries to compete against you, or uses you. One should never be jealous of someone else....

11: confessing that you like them

dang, this helped me see a lot of the things i've been doing wrong in past friendships. my social life... to be honest, it's in shambles, but i feel like this is just another test to see what i can improve about myself. thanks for the video!

I’ve lost many friends because we would get super close and attached, but then life changes and I would start to gain interests in new people and hobbies. I never want to completely abandon an old friendship; I just need space to grow. When the friend does not have the same space to grow and wants to stay attached (and ultimately doesn’t encourage your growth), you know there’s a problem.

thank you for posting this. Me and my 'best friend' fought due to arguing a lot. she chose her online friend more than me. where i had been friends with her for 5 darn years. we always fought, months and months. until we were okay. for a while she told me that she trusts me now. she didn't trust me for 5 god damn years. I trusted her for 5 years is it wrong that i only wanted to have a friend because i felt that she was lonely? Wow. i really miss the old days. every time i get sad.. lonely she wouldn't even put effort on comforting me. and i envy of her for having friends.. i am possessive for her. I know its wrong. ever since we entered the year 2019 everything changed about our friendship. I always am there for her. I always try and put effort in comforting her. she never even sometimes talk to me. maybe because she doesn't need me because she has 'friends.'

I just love how you guys post these videos spontaneously with top quality... Thanks Phyc2Go!

You guys are posting so much Thank you

Iv never had a friend for more than a year no won talks to me in school and the friends I do make move or turn into drug dealers this video has helped so that I can hopefully try to open up to more people and to be a better person regardless of my mental health

Focusing only ever on differences instead of both people practicing focused mindfulness on things being held in common is one of the most common mistakes made when trying to maintain friendships. Differences like the neighborhood setting present or potential friends each person or persons are living in; family background differences, pre-existing daily habits before they met; differences in appearance; differences in gender; etc. destining healthy friendship to fail sometimes even before it can get off to a good start.

First comment! But seriously, your channel is awesome and thank you for the good work in your videos!

I love all your videos 🥺 they help my mental health a lot 💖

I had a lot of hurtful friendships in the past, and I was in one at the time that I met this group of amazing people. I eventually got out of those horrible relationships, and now those people are my best friends. I had no clue what real friendship was like. If they did something for me, then they wanted something back, buy now it's more like, they'll do something for me and I feel like I have to do something for them, but they constantly tell me that I don't have to. I have to admit, if I had to choose between saving my family and these people, while I love my family, I'd choose my best friends. They support me and my dream to become an author, and they don't question the fact that I listen to mostly showtunes. I really hope that everybody can find someone like these people.

Still working through a friendship that ended a few years ago. Not so much that I miss the friendship or obsess about it as I try to process what happened and what I can learn. It was a friend who over time I just felt like I couldn’t stop being the bad guy around, even though we both made honest efforts to communicate boundaries. Didn’t help that they got very sensitive and triggered into aggressive self-victimization whenever I didn’t particularly agree with them, and looking back I think there was some unintended gaslighting making me feel like I was constantly being an insensitive asshole. Which is hilarious with my big weeping heart and constant fretting about doing right. It made me feel unseen. In the end I needed to cut off and disengage because it was just getting exhausting and toxic. They reached out again several months later to apologize, saying they realized some things in therapy. But while I was mollified by the apology, I still didn’t want to engage any further. No punishment, it was just over for me. Tldr; friendship takes showing good faith and affirming that you’re friends for a reason. If someone’s words and actions leave you feeling like you just can’t ever get it right, despite best efforts, it makes sense to disengage. You’re not the bad guy for deciding how you want to be known and loved.

That's a very good episode! I really want to keep my frindship with my best friend! Your channel has the best videos! I learned a lot from them! Thank you!

The video is really helpful!!! 🤗 To be honest, I had every single kind of reletionship mentioned in this video with at least one friend. There was no new information for me, which is actually a little bit concerning. 😅 It makes me wonder how have I managed to keep so many good friends close to me, since we've been sabotaging our friendship so many times...

Wow you post so many videos! These are really helpful.

Truly feel it's important to have effective communication in a friendship, effort by both people, openness in discussion, respect, and trust for a friendship to thrive and do great truly:)

Could you please do a video of the differences between mucking around with friends and mucking around with 'friends'? To elaborate on: mucking around with friends is when you say/do something that may seem hurtful but no one gets hurt (example, teasing about killing each other) and mucking around with 'friends' is when someone says/does something and at least one person gets hurt (eg, someone says something that is hurtful and if you say anything about it, they say it was just a joke). If you haven't already! FYI: I'm not dealing with any fake friends at the moment, just thought that it could be helpful to others -and my past self, but I've gotten over it :)

Drifting apart is usually the first red flag that a friendship is starting to break down. Where as you would instantly answer a text or phone call, you start to ignore them as they have been ignoring you. You don’t know what you’ve said or done but something has went wrong. It’s all quite sad

Can you do a video on how to be a good friend? I feel like it’s not something taught in school very often

Love watching these videos. Besides the topics one of my favorite things about the video is the person with the plant in their head. It’s so cute

Wait, when was this posted? I’m really confused as I couldn’t find it in the “recently posted” thing And your video posted in like an hour had 4K+ views and this has 19 Like wtf

it hurts that you're the only one who feels there's an issue and your friend is not aware of it and you try to fix sth you both need to work on by yourself

Hi Psych2Go, I realized that your animations, and content got wayyyy better. And I wanna thank you for helping me through hard times.

#7 is mostly why I've stopped being friends with so many friends in recent years. Just hanging out too much. I was often my friends' only friend as well, I'd have a lot of pressure to be around them. And if I didn't, they'd make it out to be like it's the end of the world instead of just hanging out another day. Or in the case of one friend... we talked all the time. Especially after me and my long distance girlfriend stopped talking. Eventually I'd stop responding as often or at all, just cause... trying to give off a hint that I didn't wanna talk at that moment and just be by myself playing something... and after a while of that I noticed he started being an outright jerk like pushing me to respond and if we hung out after that I'd see a lot of passive, underbreath insults to my face like he thought I was too stupid to get it or something. My biggest fault and probably an even bigger contributing is a lack of communication, especially on my part. I have a fear of bringing my feelings to the table and as a result have done some pretty stupid things. Such as ghosting, which really isn't okay in the abstract... but circumstances made me feel that way and blowing up in anger instead of just talking rationally about it. But honestly #1-9 on in my view mostly my friend's part contributed a lot also. So, not sure if I needed to say anything to them? I dunno. I recognize a bit of all of those in myself slightly as well, so maybe I'm just a shitty friend too.

I remember that I were used to be the object in one of my old friends groups. They usually wanted me to talk to but when I tried talking about myself they just came with answers like “ok” or “oh that’s sad” and really just did not care. I personally am still in the lack of communication, so I’m not any better than them but it would still be nice to have a few of “how are you doing” and have a conversation about how I was rather than always having to be the one asking how they were.

Thank you psych2go💓💓

damn this hit me hard im too clingy to my friends

For most of my life, It felt as if the only thing I could truly contribute towards my friendships is material-wise...I’ve tried to cheer up and give advices towards others but, I’m rarely the person they talk to when they have a dilemma because of my sensitivity, lack of emotional strength, lack of knowledge, lack of understanding, and lack of availability...I’ve been so lonely my entire life, I barely understand social situations AND problems...I’m pretty sure my friends don’t deserve a friend like me...

My former friend basically told me that she couldn't give me the same time and energy of being best friend as I did. She had just met a guy after wanting a boyfriend for so long and spent so much time with him. I don't know if she ditched me for him but it certainly feels like it. She told me she didn't want me to be hurt but if she shouldn't have said that! She went with me when my mom took me to the ER three years ago on my birthday because something happened to me... She treated me poorly for no reason. She said she can't have best friends and that hurts. She knew I get close to people, that I cling, she basically led me on...

I really needed this thanks psych2go

This channel helps me and makes me paranoid at the same time

I had a friend who would be late to our plans anywhere between 20 minutes to an hour or more. I would tell her I find her tardiness to be disrespectful. She would roll her eyes and never apologize. She always chose where we would go and she always chose a place within 2 miles of her house. She was also very demanding and superficial. She didnt have many friends so I felt bad for her, so I prolonged the friendship a lot longer than I should have.

This video really help me, Thank you so muchh, it makes me realise the truth about things that happen around me...

This video is so good. 💛

Love these ❤️

You got to have friends for these to be problems. Lol

I just lost my best friend when this was uploaded....

Honestly love all your content. Would you consider running the audio through a de-esser? The S sounds are so sharp it cuts through my soul :')

All my friends were toxic, and i cut them off of my life.. but now i realize i dont have friends. they were the only "friends " i had.

Here’s my thing: This helped me SOOOO much. However... #9 talks about being self-centered. I hope I am not. But my friends are always asking about me. But when I ask about them, they just say they are fine or will do little conversations before asking about my mental health disabilities. I constantly ask and say that I am being self-centered but they just say I’m not. I’ve lost so many friendships to it and so now I just shut up about my struggles and then my friends get frustrated but I’m only trying to make it an even conversation. I hate talking about me. I HATE it. But it helps me when I’m struggling and I have some seriously awesome friends who just listen to me and help in any way they can and they do tell me when they are struggling but they never wanna talk about it. I’m sure they talk to it about other people but it hurts me. I’ve tried telling them and one of them actually did reach out once but has never since. I wanna talk about the good things too but they always turn it to my struggles. I know they are trying to help but it’s not helping because all I see them as are people I can go to in times of need. Which I guess is good. But I don’t know who they truly are besides like one of my friends is on the varsity tennis team. But I don’t know anything else. I try to get to know them I promise but I feel so selfish and horrible that I don’t. This quarantine has just made everything worse. They check in on me almost daily but we never talk about anything good. Sometimes focusing on the good is more important than the bad. I don’t know what to do anymore.

The reasons why I subscribed to Psych2go: 1. They make nice videos about real life problems and things 2. Their videos are a medium length and are perfect to watch if you are bored 3. The videos are full of educational facts 4. They take their time to talk about each topic 5. They make me smile everyday!

Me: I should go to be- * sees title * hold up... just this one and thats it

I love watching every video you uploaded ❤ from philippines

OMG! i'm moved for real! I'll fix some of these flaws that have also spoiled my frienships with others. Be blessed

Great video!

I have been experiencing these videos as they come out. I dont know how they know what my life is like or if they are just that good.

The animation is hella cute 🤗😍😘💚 I had no friends whether irl or online but now I have online friends. I'm happy but sometimes I made mistakes.

This is true. And its really hurtful. If only we communicate and trust each others. Gossip is another reason why your friendship got destroy.

One of my Internet best friends are so sweet, once a week she sends me and a few others reason why she's grateful for us.... I really want to meet her because she's an amazing person 💙💙💙

I am so conflicted about my friends. I don't wanna let go because I love them in a way only we understand but I feel like I am not appreciated by them the way I appreciate them

Could you make a video about dealing with an emotionally immature friend? I love my friend and we've been friends since we were 6,, but I don't know what to do to not lose him

Thanks for this video, I have a best friend who currently, I feel might be a bit tired, so maybe we need a break, thanks.

V.nice sounding voice over... peaceful, relaxing, disarming 👍

😂😂😂Animations are great. Was wondering why only one friend had a leaf on her head this time?

Repair, maintain, improve. Sounds a lot like secure, contain, protect.

Nobody gonna talk about how cute that first clip was? The person banging on the desk and then they do it together! Sooo cute

Admitting to your friend that you have a crush on them can sabotage a friendship. I lost my best friend earlier this year because he had a crush on me. I was flattered and fine with it but he changed the way he acted around me and started treating me really unfairly so I had to ask him to give me some space. We haven't spoken since😔

Okay 19 seconds in when they were tapping on their desks it's already super wholesome

So much of what makes a good friendship is reciprocity. If you get back what you put into a relationship, then the friendship is real. If there is none, the friendship is one-sided, and you devalue yourself. And the "friend" picks up on this, and either uses it (narcissist), or ghosts you.