8 Hurtful Things Parents Tell Children

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Do you have a good relationship with your parents? Do you think you might be raised by toxic parents? How you were raised is one of the biggest factors that determine who you are. Your parents and environment shape your personality, interests, and ideals much more than what most people realize. However, parents are human too. As much as you may idolize them and want to follow in their footsteps, they make mistakes as well. Whether you’re already a caregiver looking for phrases to avoid or a child seeking information, here are a few hurtful things parents tell children to help you become more aware!
Are you depressed because of your parents? We also made a video on the signs your parents are making you depressed: • 10 Signs Your Parents ...
Article link with sources: psych2go.net/8-hurtful-things...
Disclaimer: This video isn’t meant to diagnose, treat, or cure anyone. It is for informative purposes only, so if you or someone you know may be struggling, we urge you to seek professional help from a therapist or another trusted professional. If you can relate to any of these signs, please do not take this feedback as an attack on your character. This video was meant to be a self-improvement guide for those of you who have been feeling a little stuck.
Writer: Lily Mentriko
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Jonelz Leo
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References
Duncan, L. G., Coatsworth, J. D., & Greenberg, M. T. (2009, May 2). A Model of Mindful Parenting: Implications for Parent-Child Relationships and Prevention Research. Clinical Child and Family Psychology Review. link.springer.com/article/10.....
Faircloth, C. (2010). ‘What Science Says is Best’: Parenting Practices, Scientific Authority and Maternal Identity. Sociological Research Online, 15(4), 85-98. doi.org/10.5153/sro.2175
Gryczkowski, M. R., Jordan, S. S., & Mercer, S. H. (2009, November 14). Differential Relations between Mothers’ and Fathers’ Parenting Practices and Child Externalizing Behavior. Journal of Child and Family Studies. link.springer.com/article/10.....

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@somebody7650 3 жыл бұрын

“Talk to me about what’s wrong” “I’m listening” two sentences i have never heard in my entire life

@zergthe6597 3 жыл бұрын

Or when you do hear them, it's by the time you're already shutting yourself down

@pawbeanzx387 3 жыл бұрын

Same dude, it's almost like my parents don't know those phrases existed. They always tell me I'm being over dramatic, so when someone else asks me this, I always lie and say that I'm fine because I'm just too used to being called over dramatic

@juliazhou4394 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@miyaka1870 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@WhatTheFleepBro 3 жыл бұрын

@@pawbeanzx387 same

@imalittlemffrog2374 3 жыл бұрын

“There are people who have it so much worse” “You’re being selfish” “Crying isn’t going to fix anything”

@ranmarume 3 жыл бұрын

oh..i remember that

@aimlessequation5390 3 жыл бұрын

Ah... yes. Those.

@steph_senpai 3 жыл бұрын

MY F E E L S, N O O O O

@morellocherry8820 3 жыл бұрын

Yes... i feel that

@keegantheidiot5067 3 жыл бұрын

Ahh i hear this ever 2 days

@Mushroom-Top 7 ай бұрын

Skills I learned from having a toxic/strict parent - sneaking things without anyone noticing - recognizing sounds like steps - seeing through lies - not making empty promises - going through a day by barely eating Thanks mom.

@Shghgdhjj 6 ай бұрын

@Keykey11271 6 ай бұрын

You missed one Not showing skin/shoulders I have strict/toxic parents too😢❤

@kojismiles 6 ай бұрын

that sucks

@Who-fn4kz 5 ай бұрын

:’(

@SomethingExist 5 ай бұрын

same

@AnnaMay-ed3mh 8 ай бұрын

My friend was asked seriously "why are you like this?" by her dad, for fathers day, she killed herself because what he said made her believe that he wanted her gone, and she really loved him, she just wanted what was best for him. She took her own life, for somebody she loved.

@sanjaijagesar6176 3 ай бұрын

I know maybe you wont react but any update on the situation? What happened with the dad after that ?

@user-nl8pb3hx5f 2 ай бұрын

Damn. That sucks that it happened. That bastard just did that? Be suprised if he ends up with regret for a very long time

@peaceangel-rl2hf Ай бұрын

That's so sad. The only 2 times I ever really felt so worthless and felt I should just die were after deeply cutting and nasty remarks about my character from my father during a very tragic and traumatic event that was occurring to me, so I understand. Narcissistic parents cause severe emotional and mental harm to their children 😢9

@elianamuniz7486 Ай бұрын

Wish I was her

@FlimFlemFlom Ай бұрын

@@elianamuniz7486 Don't say that, your life is valuable and precious

@annathepotatowitch6395 3 жыл бұрын

who else really wants to send this to their parents but are too scared because you know they’re going to counter it with some shit reason? Just me?

@gublaibanerjee 3 жыл бұрын

Rather I want to send to every parent I know

@sonshine_ssb 3 жыл бұрын

Nah man me too

@End336 3 жыл бұрын

@blam9360 3 жыл бұрын

Yes.

@kittysakuraba1656 3 жыл бұрын

*hugs tightly*

@mohamstaz3618 2 жыл бұрын

"I had it worse growing up." Trauma isn't a contest, mom.

@vixenthehybrid2622 2 жыл бұрын

That's what my family does to me I hate it They fucking tell me "oh you have it so easy, we had it worse."

@crapnuts 2 жыл бұрын

and sadness isn't a contest

@rawlicious3790 2 жыл бұрын

I remember back when I was young my mom would say my grandma beat her up with a rattan when she's being bad Sure that's rough and you didn't beat me up with a rattan but with words mom, smh I doubt and hope she doesn't see this comment because if she did she'll possibly kick my ass

@xlatte8150 2 жыл бұрын

@@vixenthehybrid2622 same, they sometimes tell me: Be grateful that we let you relax and play on the phone for you, while other kids have to do work just for themselves and their family. The fact that i think work sounds like a good life, if its not way too hard..

@ciirl9462 2 жыл бұрын

Istg- Have you been kicked? Have you had a dad that doesn't care? Have you had mild depression just because of your parents?

@Joanna-uh7eq 2 ай бұрын

“stop crying or I’ll give you a reason to cry.” Is a sentence that always makes me cry more.

@ShaySupportsPalestine313 Ай бұрын

I would be absolutely terrified if my Mom told me that. Does your parents realise that you can’t rlly control crying? (especially if you’re still sad/angry/happy/whatever other emotion)

@user-bp8no4lt6v 16 күн бұрын

whenever I mess up, my parents would hit me with whatever they could find, and if I cry, they'd warn me that the more I cry, the more they'd hit me, and I did get hit more. so I cry when my parents hit me, and because I cried, they'd hit me more.

@olivaisnothere 11 күн бұрын

They punish you for feeling emotions

@lunarmcflurryonrecroom-bs6cl 11 ай бұрын

Stuff I’ve learned while with a toxic mother: • The sound of her car coming into the garage • The sound of her footsteps • When she is mad but doesn’t show it so I know to stay away until she calms down • The difference between play-fighting and secretly hurting me • How to stay calm when publicly humiliated I’m still fighting anxiety and depression while this is going on 💔💔

@GhostPlatypus 4 ай бұрын

I’m so sorry 😭😭

@abdearahmanboda8731 3 ай бұрын

I don't know you but ,just stay strong ,and no matter how rough the going is ,there is always better days to come I hope that helped even if just a little

@Psiosgamers942 Ай бұрын

Same

@user-bp8no4lt6v 16 күн бұрын

you're publicly humiliated? my parents care about their image so much that they fake being nice in public, but abuse me at home.

@thorach7607 3 жыл бұрын

The worst thing about our parents is that they neglect us everyday, but act surprised when something happens to us.

@anonymousfeather1907 3 жыл бұрын

They act surprised in a bad way though

@wolfqueeni484 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, this legit happened to me as well

@kermitthuglife4190 3 жыл бұрын

i get beaten up at school everyday and my mom thinks i get into fights so i get grounded for being beaten up. this is why i want to kill myself

@zerotwo8737 3 жыл бұрын

@@kermitthuglife4190 explain her?u r getting bullied!

@msilva2423 3 жыл бұрын

@Nick That’s nice

@constancelai5529 2 жыл бұрын

Things I learn being in a strict family... • Hiding emotions quickly • Being able to recognise everyones footsteps • Learning things by myself • Good at keeping secrets

@nathanieldeez4370 2 жыл бұрын

Bro the part with being able recognize everyone's footsteps is so damn accurate. I didn't live In a strict household but I could still recognize footsteps

@muhammadraffydzakwan7679 2 жыл бұрын

This is exactly me

@GameSpyke 2 жыл бұрын

i can relate

@quentinramecourt6628 2 жыл бұрын

@@HellEnforcersAirsoft and you piss them off for what reason?

@supahmist6068 2 жыл бұрын

Yo same! I also learned how to fake being happy and fake a smile :D **Silently crying in the corner**

@FredrickAddo-sc2fn 10 ай бұрын

my parents have said a lot of hurtful things to me but the one that hurt me the most was when my mom told she regretted giving birth to me. I really cried that day.Iwas only 13 when she said that.Then she said that two more times when I Was 15 I told her what she said hurt me she didn't care she was laughing and being proud of what she said.

@Flaco5609 8 ай бұрын

ugh that’s infuriating to me, im so sorry you had to go through that. My mom told me the same thing when i was 14 but instead of laughing, she was crying bc she recently turned islamic (we’re latino) and i tried coming out to her as bisexual. Not only did she wish that i was never born but she said the same ab my innocent younger siblings (including my brother which she had just had) and all i could do is just watch her cry on my shoulder as i sat there completely disassociated from reality. Parents suck bro

@maryam_ali2012 2 ай бұрын

I'm so sorry you had to hear that, my mum said the same thing, she told me to go and jump of a building which led me to seriusly think that if i die , it might be better for my mom and dad. They wouldnt have to be angry all the time because of me. Im very sorry

@nathandrago3989 2 ай бұрын

I my #### that's so rude ur mom sucks like he'll tell

@FredrickAddo-sc2fn 2 ай бұрын

@@maryam_ali2012 oh my God, yours is worse than mine .I am so sorry.I know we are both strong and we will get through this life.Please dont listen to your mom whenever she says things like that. please stay safe and always be happy☺

@Agent_Demigod02 13 күн бұрын

Uhm, yeah…. Where the f### is my RPG

@randomhuman2318 4 ай бұрын

“You’re a horrible example to your little brother” is one my dad has said countless times or “you’re too sensitive”

@Lethalgold 2 ай бұрын

Damn you have that "boys don't cry" dad too?

@user-bp8no4lt6v 16 күн бұрын

when my little brother mess up, my parents would automatically blame me, but when I tole them that it was my little brother's fault, they'd say that I'm the older one, so I have to take the blame, or they'd cool down IMMEDIATELY like nothing happened and smile to my little brother. what kind of 2 face is that?!

@mediocregamer2484 3 жыл бұрын

"How are you depressed and unhappy? You're life is so good. I've given you everything you could want. You're just spoiled. You don't know what it's like in the real world. You've never actually suffered."

@kevinnguyen552 3 жыл бұрын

You never actually suffered I really hate that your parents said that cuz it suggests that there is only two types of emotions Very very happy And very very depressed It suggest that ur feelings don’t matter which I HATE

@Isabel-sr8ep 3 жыл бұрын

Any parent who says that deserves to get smacked so hard they forget their own name my brother was trying to talk to my dad about how hard school is and it stresses him out cuz he’s a bit older now and it’s getting harder and my dad said he’s too young to be stressed or sad and damn I actually hate my brother but I felt bad for him in that moment...

@diminished_my_blocks_ 3 жыл бұрын

Tell them, that anyone can be unhappy nomatter what age nor lifestyle,even wealthy people can be unhappy sometimes. I really hate it when parents tell their kids that.It's gonna be hard but it will be too late if nothing gets done about this.

@mateoignaciomontanocatacor8786 3 жыл бұрын

"Maybe you are just bored"

@cmcphotography1 3 жыл бұрын

People who treat others' problems for being "not as bad" as theirs as if it didn't exist are scumbags who should be thrown around like a football

@joannaliu9579 3 жыл бұрын

Grades and being successful in the future mattered more than my mental health, I want to be a better parent or a caretaker when I grow up.

@crispymattu9286 3 жыл бұрын

Youll be!! I can sense it! ♡

@alexwolfplush7523 3 жыл бұрын

I do to but I'm afraid I'm going to give them the same experiences that I had / are having. I wanna see someone have a better childhood than I have and I wanna do it in a better way than my parents but I'm way to scared to become a parent

@kanzieabuaisha4574 3 жыл бұрын

@@alexwolfplush7523 nah I'm sure you'll do great 👍🥳🥳

@ton9698 3 жыл бұрын

Same here!

@harshita827 3 жыл бұрын

Me too .they say all types of stuffs bout me as a joke like yu cant just talk about yur child's insecurities in front of everyone .they are always like why are yu like this yu should have manners ,yu should meet new ppl like wht is yur prblm i dont feel to socialise why pressure someone to do something we should be honest to ourselves not to those fake ppl around us

@Manic68686 2 ай бұрын

I’m 13 and depressed and my parents would be super angry at me for accidentally making a mess I try to clean it right away but when they see it they say “your a burden” or “why are you like this do you want to have a future!” And I’m still scared of those sentences and for the people that have depression you can talk to me about anything and I’ll do everything in my power to help you, and I’ll try to make you feel better

@baileyryan488 Ай бұрын

I live with my family members and they physically verbally and me abuse me

@trwn87 28 күн бұрын

Man, I'm 16 and my parents don't even like me anymore. Yet, I am legally forced to love with them. Children have no rights... #kidsrights ✌️

@imnobody7912 4 ай бұрын

My parents acts like their good and nice parents only in front of others but u never know what happening inside the home...... You mentioned everything that my parents say to me time to time

@mansoorahmad1320 3 ай бұрын

Same my all teachers or school thinks that my parents are so understanding, cooperative,never make me sad,listeners or they support me but just I know the reality

@Patheticmoonheart Ай бұрын

This is so true

@user-bp8no4lt6v 16 күн бұрын

mine too

@JayV300 3 жыл бұрын

Parents: **Says hurtful things to their kids** Also parents: Why doesnt my kids love me? Its like saying "Im stabbed, why does it hurt?"

@Luke-nc5nf 3 жыл бұрын

Cheers ill drink to that bro

@holyonesingadimedja3241 3 жыл бұрын

True

@saraaaa27 3 жыл бұрын

and they dont even realise it, baffles me.

@itsyourgurlxrystallized7143 3 жыл бұрын

And they wonder why we go to our other family members who will support us or go to our friend(s).

@asimocloud5736 3 жыл бұрын

And then they scold us for being more close to their friends

@JJ-ru6bh 3 жыл бұрын

1. "You're so dramatic, grow up." 2. "Why are you like this?" 3. "You belong to me and no one else." 4. "As long as I'm feeding and clothing you, you'll follow my rules." 5. "You're too thin/overweight." 6. "I wish you were more like..." 7. "That's the way I was raised and I turned out fine." 8. "You were an accident." Thank you soooo much for this information!!!

@evy2248 3 жыл бұрын

Thank youuu

@prettylikeice 3 жыл бұрын

I was told im too skinny and underweight by my mom but I was born that way I dont wanna gain weight and look fat :(

@SweetUniverse 3 жыл бұрын

That was my dad, "that's the way I was raised and I turned out fine!" He's an alcoholic who has an alcoholic mistress. 😂😂😂

@prettylikeice 3 жыл бұрын

@@SweetUniverse wow he only want to be alcoholic just to be cool my one cousin is like that she tries to drink just to be cool

@IndyLaLune 3 жыл бұрын

@@prettylikeice not every alcoholic has the same reason x)

@twistedaddiction 10 ай бұрын

Honestly this video hurts a lot. I was forced to grow up very fast after I turned 11 and was molested by a close family friend three seperate times until he ran away. Also doing the same to a few of his nephews before leaving. Ever since then my innocence was shattered and most of these things except being told I was an accident weren't even seen as problems. Im 20 years old now, turning 21 soon. Yet I carry so much truama from my childhood. My Mom has gotten a lot better now that I'm an adult; but when I was 16 I fought her boyfriend several times after he put his hands on my Mom. Defending her from her abuser; and she took his side and let him back into the home. After a few more fights I moved out at 17, and returned a little over a year and a half later after winding up homeless for a few months of that. Thankfully he was gone, and that's when my Mom apologized for everything. But it hurts; so much to think back on half the shit I've done. I'm leaving out so much here; but I have been through the ring of abuse so much. These videos are hurting my soul because I can't help but watch them; and hate myself for just how commonly I can relate to things in them. I'm a broken person; and my fucking head hurts. All the time.

@kahlynloyd341 10 ай бұрын

🙏🙏🙏

@Legend_Evve 9 ай бұрын

That was sad. But there's ALWAYS a solution! God will come to u soon, and soon u will have victory! Have faith

@twistedaddiction 9 ай бұрын

@@Legend_Evve Thank you, I appreciate the kind words. My situation only continues to grow worse with each passing day however; and I try so hard. I feel like I've been forsaken.

@n.e.r.d.2213 7 ай бұрын

Don’t give a damn about your long ass comment 😊

@StoneTheScrap 4 ай бұрын

@@Legend_Evve dude religion doesn't fix everything please just understand that your only making an empty promise I do still suffer with toxic words my parents mostly my dad says but I suffered more with toxic relationships and trust me i prayed for a good relationship every day but never got one. Please understand that religion being used on these topics are you just making empty promises because your talking to people behind a screen you don't actually know what their life is like. So please for our sakes leave religion out of this okay

@theisaashishow251 10 ай бұрын

" Education was meant to give wisdom and not stress " ~ Isaac Scribe

@strix501 5 ай бұрын

Sorry buddy, but on engineering degree that thing Will be considered as Bullshi- They really give us pressure when studying and never want to give us an easy way for learning.

@theisaashishow251 5 ай бұрын

@@strix501 Yeah bro I understand ur pain

@fia8591 3 жыл бұрын

I hate when parents say things like, “back in my day” because guess what? It’s 2021- not 1980 get over it- the world has changed okay? Just because you wish you were a kid again... 😒

@chocolattefeverdreams4228 3 жыл бұрын

Ik. Times have changed. Their methods might not even be useful, when there are easier ways.

@raniaalmaadiva8465 3 жыл бұрын

Mom dad we are from two different generations-

@maren4582 3 жыл бұрын

exactly it’s 2021 PARENTS.

@estelaatheneaduransanchez6241 3 жыл бұрын

my mom and grandma told me that and it was soo long that i hate it and i wanted to sleep

@estelaatheneaduransanchez6241 3 жыл бұрын

the one ''bAcK iN mY dAy'' i be like: yeah no one cares.

@Sizzle78 2 жыл бұрын

“Thats the way I was raised, and I turned out fine.” This hurts so much

@Sizzle78 2 жыл бұрын

@Bianca Barragan I hope you’re doing ok Just remember that no matter what, your feelings are always valid to yourself ✨

@Sizzle78 2 жыл бұрын

@Bianca Barragan 🤍

@crysmo247 2 жыл бұрын

@@Sizzle78 i feel your pain but dont listen to them they want you to be what they want instead of what you want they are treating you like a doll!you deserved better

@sriku1000 2 жыл бұрын

A Great watch on how bad parents are made kzfaq.info/get/bejne/rMqnhZmku7jZnJ8.html

@specnut3172 2 жыл бұрын

u mean it isnt normal to be told that? i was said things that i shouldnt have been born so they would have mney to live in a house with only my brother and that my school fees are holding them frm giving my brother a happy life , at this point im waiting to turn 18 so i can move out of that pathetic household

@user-qp1fj3hr8f 6 ай бұрын

I literally cried when I watched this😢 my parents did everything in this video to me. Especially comparing, and it's now that I realised that it really affected me as an adult. I was aggressive and didn't treat my friends well. I used the hurtful words that my parents used at me. They act as if they don't mind, but I know it hurts.

@TherealCataBlue 11 ай бұрын

My parents said "Stop being so needy!" I cried myself to sleep that night. It harmed me mentally and emotionally. My sadness still sits with me.

@AyeeeItsAlii 3 жыл бұрын

Honestly this just hurts me and I feel like I can't expression my emotions or well-being to my parents

@trinaq 3 жыл бұрын

I agree, this unfortunately hits too close to home for many of us! 💔

@lunarlotus8778 3 жыл бұрын

@Trina Q ya I know what you mean

@nvlogs6207 3 жыл бұрын

I completely understand I feel like I have to be a certain way when I’m with family quiet and reserved and distant I don’t really know how to express my emotions or how to feel loved

@hmmmmmnmmmmmm 3 жыл бұрын

Same! My emotions were always invalidated, but I was fine with it until my closest friends did the same thing, especially when I confided in them. I didn't see it as a big deal back then, but now I'm too scared to tell them my parents are genuinely abusive. They just think they're strict

@manufacturedpie4118 3 жыл бұрын

I’m scared to tell I don’t know what they will say so I just keep it to myself or I’ll ask my bffs or cousin

@CareFreeNarcoleptic 3 жыл бұрын

My mom: you can tell me anything Me: tells her “anything” Mom: gets mad and starts yelling Edit: I never realized how many people related to this omg

@khitaraaldilla5406 3 жыл бұрын

;-;

@deborahjolly2653 3 жыл бұрын

I can relate to this

@ahbabraufahmed3058 3 жыл бұрын

same but for my dad (somehow it is the reverse cause my mom does not do anything and father gets angry for little reason).

@poison5363 3 жыл бұрын

MOOOOOOD

@riesuki 3 жыл бұрын

@@deborahjolly2653 same

@yanderefangirl8317 10 ай бұрын

My parents were far more comforting. They could lose their temper sometimes, but they both worked two jobs when I was a kid (they only work one job now) because we were poor and living in a sketchy neighborhood (gangs, drugs, and homeless people walking around the neighborhood). But honestly, my parents gave me and my sister a far better life than they ever had. My dad had worked since he was in elementary school, had an alcoholic dad who has never said ‘I love you’ to either of his children, and his mom was kind but addicted to drugs and food. My mom had an abusive stepdad for a while, was mostly raised by her grandma while her mom worked, and under constant stress. But they both vowed to give their children the exact opposite of what they had and we are forever grateful for them.

@emilyplaysgames927 3 ай бұрын

my mom says all of this and makes me depressed. thanks mom. your definitly the best.

@sanamono8186 3 жыл бұрын

The worst part is that they don't even realize how much their words can hurt us. They have no idea what "emotional support" is. For all my life I've been feeling unwanted or not enough. Having perfectionist parents is the worst...

@user-je5yg5nj2m 3 жыл бұрын

Just know God made you for a reason and Jesus Christ for you so you can fulfill your purpose don't just read this and go back to sin but read this and turn from sin to receive the fullness of God Almighty Pray this prayer with me "Lord I come to you for without you I am hopeless, Lord I give you my life for I alone cannot do this Lord forgive me for the times I've signed and fallen short of your Glory, Lord help me to forgive others and receive your light and let your light shine through me in the Mighty name of Jesus I pray Amen

@yuzumifumiko9328 3 жыл бұрын

i can feel you...ive never heard my parents saying something positive or good aboute me...

@user-je5yg5nj2m 3 жыл бұрын

@@yuzumifumiko9328 you are beautifully and wonderfully made by God as Psalms 139 says and all God's works are wonderful and you are purposed, you are hand-picked by God to do great things you just to step out and grab on to God, just gotta hold on to God to receive your blessings to receive your break through and it gets bad before he gets good but if you keep on trying, the best thing you will do is try the worst thing we will do is not try your best.

@yuzumifumiko9328 3 жыл бұрын

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@jjais964 3 жыл бұрын

They litherlly have no way of supporting me and then say "You just want atenntion" then say "You can tell me everything" LIKE BITCH YOUVE DONE SO MANY BAD THINGS TO ME TO THE POINT I CUTTED MYSELF WHEN I WAS 10 they dont know I cutted myself

@scarakisser_com 3 жыл бұрын

The fact that I'm more vulnerable towards my friends than my own blood relatives is concerning

@funnychannel3813 3 жыл бұрын

Same tho

@jinhitlabels.2014 3 жыл бұрын

I havent seen a single relative of mine for 6 years

@xandriee 3 жыл бұрын

@@jinhitlabels.2014are you sad about that?

@mizukihayashi2637 3 жыл бұрын

Same, like I'd literally die for them, and I never shed a tear when a family member of mine dies.

@timik32 3 жыл бұрын

same here :/

@user-vy9hy2qp7s 6 ай бұрын

I now see the massive emotional scars my father is leaving me. I dont think the trauma and abuse he put me through can be reversed. This video and many others from you have helped me realize the abuse i deal with is real, and its not just me overthinking it. My trauma is real, and i need therapy to even have a chance of somewhat reversing my scars, but they will never fully hear.

@imakia_official 5 ай бұрын

I'm actual happy I found this channel. My school also found this channel and is supporting it because of what it talks about! Thank you!

@NotKevinNeverWas 3 жыл бұрын

"I wish you were more like...." [Slams table] *ADOPT HER THEN*

@yaganonobvcyv9613 3 жыл бұрын

That’s damn right

@melodii9749 3 жыл бұрын

If I said that I would’ve been dead by now 😭 ✋

@NotKevinNeverWas 3 жыл бұрын

@@melodii9749 Same

@EHMM 3 жыл бұрын

@SANJEV MARIAPPAN Moe Slap them back show dominance

@Phoebe5448 3 жыл бұрын

I said the same thing to my mum when I was 11.

@user-gi9yj8bp3l 3 жыл бұрын

Disclaimer: The dislikes are from parents.

@tyreekhillthegoat-KF 3 жыл бұрын

lol so true

@alinciobanu628 3 жыл бұрын

Lol obviously

@mohammedemdad5006 3 жыл бұрын

Yes

@cursedpotato64 3 жыл бұрын

They are all idiots? ^^'

@gabbie6281 3 жыл бұрын

Omg- probably

@aliciahigdon12 8 ай бұрын

I'm fostering my 3 grandbabies right now, in over a year their growth and development has just improved 10 fold, and I'm happy to know of extra things to watchout for as we help them grow, and I'm happy that despite some of the trauma that had happen to lead them into our care, that I know and they know they are loved, that they trust me 100% and that I have earned that trust with them, and I hope that once they get reunified with their mom, that we still keep that solid foundation of trust and unconditional love, that they always know no matter what I will always love them and be there for them, that they can come to me even if they feel they can't talk to anyone else. One thing I've found is when I do need to get a little cross with them it's too let them know,"I can be mad with you, like you can be mad at, me. But I love you no matter what!"

@cubemasterwashere 6 ай бұрын

The overweight part spoke to me. My mom usually says such things when I tell her that for example I feel like I'm worse than the people in my sports team or when it's because of my skin condition and disguises it as "wanting me to be healthy" even if it just hurts.

@victorianmist8531 3 жыл бұрын

The worst thing is we love them and they love us but they still hurt us in ways they'll never probably know and it makes a great impact on our mental health.

@erinshannon8031 3 жыл бұрын

This is exactly where I'm at. I know they love me, but I also know they have no idea how the things they've had told me all my life have damaged me. And if I tell them, they'll just get defensive and think I'm dissing them...

@CheshireCat-cm1si 3 жыл бұрын

victorian mist After a frustrating morning (I had overslept, rushed through my morning routine, and was already late for school by the time I realized I'd forgotten something), my mom told me in the car that she'd failed as a mother. I spent the next three years feeling like my mom saw me as a disappointment and secretly hated me. It took me five years to stop thinking that way, and my relationship with my mom has deteriorated as a result. NEVER say something like that to a kid.

@Muichirohaze 3 жыл бұрын

ikr.

@emorobin3901 3 жыл бұрын

I don’t love them, but I think they love the version of me they see…it’s not the real me but they love it, so I live it.

@soranokenshi7616 3 жыл бұрын

Oh they love you?

@-kiyomii- 3 жыл бұрын

“Life got worse after you were born” “Idiot” “I’m the parent! listen to me” “Your mom changed because of you” “Get off your phone” “You’re so ungrateful” “How many pimples do you have” “Do you ever brush your hair” “You should eat... something” A few things my parents have said to me

@elijahcarson9218 3 жыл бұрын

ayy same...

@hayamixd88 3 жыл бұрын

@@thethethejdgj6592 mine's the opposite, When I had my grandparents take care of me everything was great until I got back to me family, That's when my torture started. My brothers are the only people that care for me and we promised each other that we would leave the house to go back to our grandparent's house to live a better life. And look at me now, I am happy with them.

@anonymousfeather1907 3 жыл бұрын

My parents said that to me, but they said it so much, I don't even care anymore

@-kiyomii- 3 жыл бұрын

@@thethethejdgj6592 I remember the good old days when my grandparents were alive... My dad’s mom was the nicest thing and my dad was the opposite he used to pick her up and throw her on the ground when she didn’t listen He used to make her cry for some stupid reason (still does that to mom) I could go on and on but my fingers are already tired Just saying I used to love my grandparents(especially my dads mom) but my dad turned out to be a complete psycho... But I will say my dad has had an influence in my life, he normally lies about everything and recently I’ve been noticing I’ve been lying for dumb reasons

@misterghastly3759 3 жыл бұрын

My mum has said 5 of these things to me and I'm only 12.

@ILiketoDrawNAnimate27 27 күн бұрын

This pretty much helps me understand the quote: " All kids deserve a parent, but not all parents deserve a kid. "

@Fridgerator2pointoh 3 ай бұрын

I remember when i was 12 and i had an agrument with my mom for telling her how i feel and actually expressing mt emotions. After my mom gave me a moment to cry, i asked her to come back into the room so we could talk. I was trying to tell her how i felt, and was crying in the process. I took a moment to catch my breath and cry before continuing, and while this was happening, my mom crossed her arms and gave me the most uncaring look ive ever seen, and said; "did i just come in here to watch you cry?" Ive never talked about my emotions and how i felt since that day... Everybody tells me to do so, but im just so traumatized and hurt from that moment that i probably never will.. thanks mom...

@alexissimons2666 2 жыл бұрын

As a child, I was always told: “Stop crying, or I’ll give you a reason to cry.” It made me feel like it was pathetic and I punish myself when I cry to this day. Please never tell your children that, or they could end up like me.

@HopelessAnguish 2 жыл бұрын

my parents did the same

@Mrs.P.Riddle 2 жыл бұрын

I wish my paren were never like that:(

@Dara-cn2vh 2 жыл бұрын

Ah my parents tell me the same thing

@potato8032 2 жыл бұрын

When I was a toddler my mom would cry from frustration as I’m an only child, my dad would say “You make my wife cry and I’ll make you cry.” ....I was 5

@alexissimons2666 2 жыл бұрын

@@potato8032 Jesus Christ, and to a toddler? I hope you’re okay now.

@ummm_88okboomer45 2 жыл бұрын

“You’re so sensitive.” “Smile.” “Come on it was a joke” “What are you, depressed?” “Stop worrying all the time.”

@coffeeshampoo87 2 жыл бұрын

"Attitude problems" when I'm having a meltdown

@lykoii1705 2 жыл бұрын

"pathetic"

@fw.jay2 2 жыл бұрын

My parents told me I was sensitive

@bbachan9609 2 жыл бұрын

The “smile” just hurts me, my mom says it all the time

@AviationGeek01 2 жыл бұрын

My mom and older brother always make jokes about my weight so I can relate.

@abouday-bp5ok 9 ай бұрын

I was exposed to a harsh childhood from my parents, so thank you for this video. It seems that I need a specialist because I am different

@user-xr2md9ls8u 2 ай бұрын

Your voice is super calm like it’s so soft like like when it’s like harmful topics your voice is so soft while doing it makes of feel so relaxing while knowing the truth

@BoygeyMario 2 жыл бұрын

My Mom just laughed at me because I simply said "I'm trying my best". I ABSOLUTELY hate it when my parents laugh at me. They are experts at hurting my feelings, making me depressed.

@unnimaya2409 2 жыл бұрын

It's ok I know how to feels but don't give up 💜😊 have a good day

@Finfection 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, that shit is the worst. I would have full on panic attacks in front of my mom and she would just laugh at me and tell me to stop acting stupid.

@zao2103 2 жыл бұрын

@@unnimaya2409 lol 🤦🏼‍♀️

@hajar2919 2 жыл бұрын

very sad

@widefusion7086 2 жыл бұрын

@@zao2103 ????? what did you mean????

@matty1214 3 жыл бұрын

Mom: Look at him, he's so talented, brillia- Me: Look at his mom, she doesn't compare him with others which established his confidence Mom: 👁️👄👁️

@namidahooman8238 3 жыл бұрын

Exactly 👁️👄👁️but that is something we can't do.. Because they will only say "are you talking back!?"

@yourlocalpancake 3 жыл бұрын

i wish it was that easy-

@leeleebahleelee 3 жыл бұрын

@@namidahooman8238 lol ikr

@Yeonderellashoe 3 жыл бұрын

My mom - 😡 🥿

@justanintrovertwithcooldp7 3 жыл бұрын

Well I was quite good in studies when I was a kid. So my mother never compared me for my personality. But I still had to find an excuse to not let my friends come home cuz everytime she saw them, after they left she says look at your friends, they look good and talk so nicely and then LOOK AT YOU!!

@MatthewIsntCool13 7 ай бұрын

I grew up with a very abusive mom and a emotionally distant dad, My mom would drink and tell me hurtful things on a daily, itd go from "Your the best daughter ive ever had" to "I wish i wouldve aborted you". She fought with my dad a lot and id always be dragged into the middle of it. She guilted me for the reason her and my dad not loving each other and many other things

@UvaVerde12 2 ай бұрын

My mom used to show me photos of kids on the streets who didn't eat for a long time,when I dind't eat all the food in my plate,and either said i would be like that or that i am wasting food,and that food could have gone to them. She ignored me when i told her i suffered bullying in 1st grade. My grandma skinny shamed me,compared me,and at the same time victimized herself when i was mad or sad. She doesn't let me have privacy,and threatens to tell anything to my mother,knowing she will yell at me. She tells thing I don't want her to to tell to other people,like personal information that shouldn't even be with her. This video is honestly very relatable for some reason.

@ShoppingCart_er15 3 жыл бұрын

Instead of saying “you were an accident”, say “you were a surprise” instead. My mom always says that and it makes me feel special, like I was unplanned but my parents will always love me and their lives would be totally different without me.

@CombatHelm 3 жыл бұрын

Yeah, typically people associate accidents with mistakes, but surprises are typically associated with fun and a happy random thing that just kinda happened. More parents with ‘accident children’ should say surprise instead of accident more often.

@finnishnationalist9481 3 жыл бұрын

Damn. That's some good parents. *cries in dodging sandals being thrown across the room*

@trish7048 3 жыл бұрын

That really is a better choice to say, surprise is much better than accident

@lilysalisbury6554 3 жыл бұрын

my mom said i was an oopsie baby and she always says she's glad she had me :)

@blxck_dxrknessxz1948 3 жыл бұрын

Dang nice parents *while dodging sandals*

@1TS..M3 3 жыл бұрын

And then parents be like, “Why doesn’t my kid like me?” Edit: Omg this is the most replies and likes I’ve ever gotten on a comment and just in general- TYSMMM

@ChocoMelodii 3 жыл бұрын

Ikr They would always be like “You don’t love me anymore?,” “Do you still love me?” and “I don’t think you love us anymore” They don’t even realize what they are doing. They always say that it’s for my health, teaching me a lesson because they “love” me and blah blah blah

@clubkarma4655 3 жыл бұрын

Ikr my mom is like that she will say it do something that offends me and she will go “I love you” and I won’t say anything back and she will complain that I didn’t say “I love you” back.Like bruh -_- that’s annoying

@1TS..M3 3 жыл бұрын

@@clubkarma4655 I know like I hate it so much

@arandompersonthatpostsstuf4788 3 жыл бұрын

Me: Well maybe you should stop beating me for the most stupid reasons i haaate you >:(

@rui.inazuma7078 3 жыл бұрын

yeah

@cabletilley648 10 ай бұрын

i love how they dont ask for subscribers at ALL. they really take this stuff serious and that is really good to see.

@codingwithk5725 4 күн бұрын

One time my mom actually said this to me "I wish I never had you! It would've been better that way" that shocked me to my core as a damn child. And next day she acted like nothing ever happened

@naviestyx 2 жыл бұрын

The fact there are more children and teenagers watching this than actual parents is infuriating as hell

@fairylaw4994 2 жыл бұрын

They learn how NOT to act around children to be better than their parents

@akira_playz3111 2 жыл бұрын

Amen- I'm 12 :-:

@VaishnaviJamdagniDPGA 2 жыл бұрын

Ikr

@StarryHorizons_ 2 жыл бұрын

@@akira_playz3111 I'm 11..

@crysmo247 2 жыл бұрын

@Omega Pringles fan im also 10.

@nikko2469 2 жыл бұрын

"what is wrong with you?!" "why are you so dramatic?" "shut up" "stop crying" "why aren't you like your sister?" "why are you like this?" Those are usually the things my mom tells me... I know she doesn't mean to but... It hurts.

@nathanieldeez4370 2 жыл бұрын

Yea, I can agree, even though my parents are good parents they would sometimes say this when talking about grades. They did not mean to he harmful but it would hit hard, *be

@Dogz411 2 жыл бұрын

My mom had bad past but understand her I think she had anger issues she can't control what she said so sometimes yell at me "Stupid girl!" and i understand you.

@vicious_vixel 2 жыл бұрын

Parents probably know. But they won't apologize

@jujotheweeb7247 2 жыл бұрын

My parants are like that sometimes to

@Stringer7390 2 жыл бұрын

The pain of being compared to your sibling.

@Marina-vb9by 4 ай бұрын

“You’re such a drama a queen.” to this day, I still don’t think my mother realizes how I hurt I am by the poor choices she made that traumatized me.

@CatherineLee3000 10 ай бұрын

My parents are awesome! But I have been bullied by other people and they have hurt me. After a while, I learned not to care what others think about me. But some of the comments that wounded me from the past are still there. My parents had to be very careful with me because I am more sensitive, and I have high-functioning autism, and I learn and handle things a little differently. I was the first child out of two siblings, and I have a sister, who is almost two years younger than me. I learned to stand up to myself, but my dad would stand up to others, like a few teachers and some older people, who love to be jerks. My dad will go after anyone who tries to hurt my sister and me.

@cloudedmind1536 3 жыл бұрын

When I grow up I don’t want my kids thinking “My parent will kill me” I want them to think “I’m going to get my parent”

@chrisv1ds800 3 жыл бұрын

yes! I'm 14 and yes tats true!

@anitharamaiah3845 3 жыл бұрын

Yea same oof

@ahbabraufahmed3058 3 жыл бұрын

yes thats true for me too you spoke us abused kids heart

@Neecie.1009 3 жыл бұрын

Ya I've always dream abt my dad holding a knife try to kill me cause he once do that to my grabdpa when I was younger but in the dreamland I am the one being chase by a knife

@wh00s_nic0 3 жыл бұрын

Same!

@kiwis7449 3 жыл бұрын

my mom literally said “im sick of taking care of you” but isn’t that the point of having kids?

@anmolarpit_2178 2 жыл бұрын

I can understand you

@jhigudhaka5655 2 жыл бұрын

I can feel , what u feel

@sacrificeforcats6943 2 жыл бұрын

and my mom would be like ''' SHUT UP, STOP USING THAT STUPID SENTENCE OH YEAH''

@ThePromisedFall 2 жыл бұрын

One time my mom told me “ I did so much for you, but you just cry all the time, stop being childish and grow up. “ I broke down in tears after that.

@hi-qe2ob 2 жыл бұрын

My mom once yelled at me "I HATE YOU"

@aubreereed1424 10 ай бұрын

I wish parents will understand the ways of kids like me but all they do is what this video says my parents say that ALL the time it’s just not good. Love you guys this video helps a lot!❤

@RYUUDRAWS 2 ай бұрын

What i learned from growing up with my parents -Hiding emotions -Not telling about school issues -not too proud of accomplishments -depression -feel empty -trust issues -efforts are not much for to be proud of -house is prison

@eimerhegel427 3 жыл бұрын

"Bobby can get all A, why can't you?" *"Bobby's father can make 1 Million per month, why can't you?"*

@random_girlypop_ontheinternet 2 жыл бұрын

I’ll steal this thank you

@mako_the_seawong7306 2 жыл бұрын

I shall steal

@Cloud-ed7gb 2 жыл бұрын

Brooo my parents compare me to everyone all the time :(

@laiqeua 2 жыл бұрын

@@Cloud-ed7gb i feel bad for you I remember when my mom said "you're friends can do it then why can't you?!" That hit me so hard

@Cloud-ed7gb 2 жыл бұрын

@@laiqeua yea it’s so painful seeing ur mom wishing for a different child who could do better tjs things than me but it’s life

@bunni4230 2 жыл бұрын

My parents say: "Stop eating so much or else you'll be fat" "Go workout" "You're eating again" It doesn't happen often but it still does hurt the more you think about it.

@jamkb9266 2 жыл бұрын

The same she will also say What kind of a kid is this

@mindyobusiness1408 2 жыл бұрын

She would try to put it like she was helping me 💀 “I was fat in school, I wish I had someone to tell me this like I’m telling you”

@kiki3990 2 жыл бұрын

My parents also say those words to me cuz I am overweight. I feel so empty and tired of this world and if I say it yo them they'll be like "Stop pretending and go study" I always cried whenever they say it to me I am burnt out and one time I even tried to kill myself.....

@itsnats8007 2 жыл бұрын

They care about your weight. But it hurts.

@ranvirt283 2 жыл бұрын

Its more like: « Are you never tired of eating? You are already fat enough….you want to look like an elephant? Etc… »

@Theonlycherrios 8 ай бұрын

•thing to do when your in a strict family • •hide your feelings when you go to a different person or family member •remember that your in a strict family so look out for the footsteps •keep secret close to you don't spill them •remember to hide your phone's or tablet or laptop and try to delete your search history •don't yell at the monsters (parents) it will make it worst •Make sure you do the chores when there not around they'll say stuff mean around you when your near • Make sure to wipe the tears they made you cry out so hard so they won't Bully you some more •when they compare you to somebody don't think that's true there wrong.... •I hope this helps y'all •

@V_haunting_in_the_comments 9 ай бұрын

I love how you use different words for a fitting category. And I also love ur voice and way of art style. Keep it up!

@tobym2138 3 жыл бұрын

“What was your childhood like” Me who physically cannot remember any more than 6 memories: uhhhh good? Bad? Uhh

@zzyz7751 3 жыл бұрын

SAME!! Idk why but I don't really remember anything that happened before I was in 7th grade. I only remember the major events, like MAJOR ones. But apart from that everything is just a white blank screen

@amandalang5772 3 жыл бұрын

This is probably a defense mechanism

@maxim_ssc 3 жыл бұрын

Was your childhood good? yesn't

@neptune6970 3 жыл бұрын

Same, my memories get repetitive and it kinda drives me insane

@a.s.5058 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@crystaelechan487 3 жыл бұрын

One sentence that traumatizes me: "You're a girl but you can't cook or be anything kids your age in a poor village can do."

@finnishnationalist9481 3 жыл бұрын

damn... those comparisons to poor people Does she/he understand the enviroment? In a poor enviroment, the child needs to rely on themselves for food. In an average enviroment, they have someone to take care of them, and she/he thinks that that is the same.

@woahouuu4383 3 жыл бұрын

THIS RIGHT HERE. They just don’t understand that I simply don’t have the time like they do to learn to cook; I haven’t gotten the chance to do anything I wanted in years. Their lifestyle is different than mines and they keep expecting me to have that on top of my disastrous workload.

@gayasuzuki895 3 жыл бұрын

This :(

@toallthemanhwasireadistill7452 3 жыл бұрын

yup, they always tell me that , it is just that i ain't interested in cooking ! why is it so hard to understand ?? they always compare me with my younger sister who likes cooking . But , it isn't my fault cooking miggt be her passion or at least hobby , but to me it is nothing ( sigh) my parents almost tell me everything in this video

@nightmare_6 3 жыл бұрын

My mom and dad don’t tell me that but my grandma always says that for some reason 🤷‍♀️ Idc tho 💅

@KAYLEEBRIDGETTEYU-ws8nq 19 күн бұрын

the thing my mom said to me once when i was working on an assignment with her since during that time i could never do anything right she said in a struggling voice cause it was night like 11pm plus she said if i saw you in the streets i would've never picked you up and i just stood there dumbfounded while everything turned out alright its been in the back of mind like a key memory in my life she isnt that type of person but if you piss her off like how i did she wouldve made you cry but now she understands my feelings but not all of it.... but she is the most supportive person to me now i love her and i wish she will never fall down from her throne.

@ck.southlondon2 Ай бұрын

im sittung here crying in my bedroom and watching this video. tysm for the info i'll give updates when i get home from school

@MoonlitBookworm73 3 жыл бұрын

Things my family has actually said to me: - "You aren't allowed to have an attitude!" - "Are you seriously crying!" - "They hide it well don't they?" (My weight) - "You're not active enough!" (This has been said many ways, many times, by many people) Yes guys, these are all real.

@ashleythehooman 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@callmeflower6901 3 жыл бұрын

@@cupcake038 They said that i can't do anythink right

@TwN-vv4mi 3 жыл бұрын

To my family, crying and venting feelings aren't any good. When someone cries and it's not them, my parents dismiss it.

@ashleythehooman 3 жыл бұрын

@@cupcake038 same ;-;

@DreamKittyLove 3 жыл бұрын

AWWW DONT SAY THAT!!! your making me sad and appreciative towards my parents :,)

@dog4927 2 жыл бұрын

My parents often say: "Don't cry, it's embarrassing us." "Be quite, everybody is already looking at us" They are really lovely to me but when they say that it still hurts me.

@crystal_candy8685 2 жыл бұрын

Could relate but my parents say the opposite '"Why are you so emotion less "' "'Learn to be expressive like your sister" "You are so quiet and introvert"" Gets compared to my so called "hot and sassy " sister 24\7 now I wish I could switch lives with u even tho your a complete stranger

@meganpirello7627 2 жыл бұрын

i have been told that too

@kateri7404 2 жыл бұрын

@@crystal_candy8685 my mum shouts at me to stop crying when I cry but she says I’m emotionless when I don’t cry at a supposed “touching movie” or a tragedy

@bread_chills4159 2 жыл бұрын

True

@bread_chills4159 2 жыл бұрын

It still hurts me too man ;-;

@knowitall100 Ай бұрын

Thank you for posting these videos

@user-du6zl8vh5u 9 ай бұрын

My father once said this: "Watching all these useless video won't even help you! If you study , then you can get good marks!" what he said really hurt me.. I dn't know how to cope it. I am already trying my best but it is not good enough...

@luvykori 3 жыл бұрын

“You’re too dramatic.” “Why are you like this?” “You’re very skinny”

@Creamchzbagl 3 жыл бұрын

Yup soo eating for me is actually a chore now I guess

@e.ashton 3 жыл бұрын

@@Creamchzbagl I guess this is me, my mother complains I am too skinny

@ekambirb 3 жыл бұрын

For me, it’s I’m overweight.

@e.ashton 3 жыл бұрын

@@lynnhelga9512 My mom thinks I am too skinny

@jungkooksbananamilk8885 3 жыл бұрын

@@ekambirb same

@yoonshoo 3 жыл бұрын

I was raised to stay quiet about my opinions and that everyone in the household hated all my opinions 😀

@darkwolf780 3 жыл бұрын

I felt this emotionally

@yoonshoo 3 жыл бұрын

@@yournewfriend6247 ☺️

@amzir9020 3 жыл бұрын

Me too🙂

@DIZZYDIZZYDIZZY 3 жыл бұрын

same -_-

@oliverafton1444 3 жыл бұрын

I know, right?

@wiktoriaprzybylska865 11 ай бұрын

I Shown this to my mom once, but she didnt even bother to look at it, She just went back to what she was doing. So i had to take care of myself, but throughout my childhood i learned that i should: -Not mention my feelings or decline to anything im asked to do. -Know what i should do. -Listen to everything they say. During my last school, 3 months before summer break i went through an empty phase of mind because of a betrayal my best friend did to me, i felt so bad that i couldnt help but actually yell at a teacher and then got a lecture from my parents that i should keep my thoughts to myself no matter how i feel, i never did that again but after that i just felt like hiding what i felt and thought about. when they finally noticed they said i should go out more because i look "Depressed" and "Overdramatic". after an amount of insults i had to bear in the age of 8-11 i just learned to keep myself from crying, listening to everything im told and not questioning people while keeping my opinions, ideas and thoughts to myself. i also remember the time i asked my mom if i had something she wanted me to be better at, and she said i should work harder and look more "alive" and happy. after i asked her about it some time later, she said she didnt remember anything. she also doesnt ask if i wanted to come with her in some situations; those are going to the mall, clothing shops or work celebration meetings (i think thats what she told me.), when i told her once in a clothing store that i didnt really want to be there she just said im kind of ungrateful and said i should stop complaining.

@shabafunmilayo5610 10 ай бұрын

I have heard this phrase it was the phrase that said I wasn’t exactly like that but with something like that parents raise me this way emotional

@gabiz1331 2 жыл бұрын

"You're kinda fat" "Can't you be more like them?" "Why did I had kids" "You're such a crybaby" "You can never do anything right" Despite those things my mom never listens to anything I say

@user-tm7hf9kw5t 2 жыл бұрын

Same but my dad can u pls wish him get away from me and my mom

@AgentGrace15 2 жыл бұрын

My mom didn't necessarily say anything about my weight daily, it was just clothes shopping. She would always force me to try on clothes that were a size or two smaller than I needed and wouldn't let me grab stuff that fit until I was in tears. Then I was just a brat for not appreciating her buying me any clothes at all.

@serenarodriguez1411 2 жыл бұрын

Merkimer: sad🐷👑

@meganpirello7627 2 жыл бұрын

i have been told that too

@serenarodriguez1411 2 жыл бұрын

Sad

@Yomush 3 жыл бұрын

Bonus things from me: 1. "Stop crying or i'll give you a reason to cry!" - Basically stop showing emotions or i'll punish you even more 2. "At your age I was already doing x and y!" - I think that was supposed to motivate me but it did exactly the opposite 3. "Don't backtalk!" - That was especially common when I tried to challenge my dad's decisions 4. "You'll get respect when you'll get a job and buy a house!" - After this sentence I limited talking with my dad to absolute minimum 5. "You know how to do it. You're just lazy/don't want to do it."

@KENONICAL 3 жыл бұрын

The first one man, it’s always the first one

@chubbychicken2412 3 жыл бұрын

2,3,5 for me Also does anyone else also get the "get out of your comfort zone" thing alot?

@alanisashleypconanan2778 3 жыл бұрын

Ahhh my whole life

@mannybutler7517 3 жыл бұрын

never heard 4 other than that yess

@visureddy726 3 жыл бұрын

The first one

@KimberlyHancock-jf1bs 17 күн бұрын

When I was younger my mom always asked me "why are you like this?!why can't you be normal?!" I now find myself treating my younger sister like this and telling her that exact thing....

@kazikool69 3 жыл бұрын

"My child is fine!" Your child are barely living, and your just making it worse.

@jemeilleure 3 жыл бұрын

Not me laughing on how true this is and crying on how sad it is at the same time- 😭

@anitharamaiah3845 3 жыл бұрын

Ikr

@mewmew539 3 жыл бұрын

For me my mom told me I don’t respect her and I do and she say I don’t respect her shut up that what my mom said and I cried for hours bc it hurt my feeling and I was angry bc she doesn’t respect me every time she leaves the dishes and we have dishwasher and she doesn’t put it in there

@kazikool69 3 жыл бұрын

@@mewmew539 I'm so sorry that happens. I can relate. I wish i can help you more but i can't belive she does that to you. Ithe next time she does that, tell her calmly what she does to you.

@i_hatemuggles 3 жыл бұрын

@@mewmew539 not da only one

@Thebestcoconutever 11 ай бұрын

I’ve learned many things from having strict parents -hiding Emotions -You can recognize their footsteps -Learning by myself -learning how to starve

@dokkaebi_kiki 6 ай бұрын

@19783008ful 6 ай бұрын

So Wrong. Damaging. I understand this

@More1481Pictures 5 ай бұрын

Another lesson, don't call them out for their actions apparently. My mom (she isnt that strict but she acts like such a bitch over any bad habits I have she would be on my ass about it so goddamn much.) Literally told me OH THATS FUNNY when I told her my true feelings about her. Like seriously??? Screw off...

@cathycasinger3197 5 ай бұрын

I can also detect my family members by their Footsteps

@Helloy_t 5 ай бұрын

Really? I have too. It sucks having strict parents.

@h34rtsf0rm3-yx3vh 8 ай бұрын

i am child rn and i love watching your vids and i do use some of the information that you tell like sugns that your parents are toxic but you dont realize it and 7 types of crushes you should avoid

@matyzplayz_fx 10 ай бұрын

as a child, It is related to what my parents say to me and im having mental problem what my mom said it, but this one really explained my whole mental problem, I thank you for this, W

@itz_ladynoir_fp5450 3 жыл бұрын

“Your overweight” - dad “Stop crying you’re annoying” or “You’re too sensitive” “Be more like your classmates” - mom I am tired.

@liancristelquitsang4643 3 жыл бұрын

Every body shape its beautiful i am also sensitive and you don't need to be like your classmates you need to be yourself God and Jesus loves you the way you are

@tiduspayne312 3 жыл бұрын

Your classmates? Why does your mom have enything to do with your classmates

@itz_ladynoir_fp5450 3 жыл бұрын

@@tiduspayne312 because most of my classmates get good grades

@itz_ladynoir_fp5450 3 жыл бұрын

@@liancristelquitsang4643 🙏 thank you

@foxeyclouds5021 3 жыл бұрын

I am sick and tired of parents saying “I was like you!”

@carpathianken 3 жыл бұрын

My mother often asks me "Why can't you be normal?" which is ironic, because when she gets overly upset over some trivial matter she starts shrieking like Nancy Kerrigan & starts punching herself in the head.

@amandalang5772 3 жыл бұрын

I think she needs to see a psychologist.

@carpathianken 3 жыл бұрын

@@amandalang5772 Unfortunately she's not that type of person.She did a stint in a psychiatric hospital one time, but I remember her saying that she resented being told by the Doctor there that if she stopped feeling sorry for herself & started working on herself that her symptoms would improve.

@amandalang5772 3 жыл бұрын

@@carpathianken goodness.... sounds like they need to revise how they address people. I’m sorry you’re having to experience that. Have you told her how that makes you feel when she hurts herself? Or will that bring on more pain?

@shadowhawk4164 3 жыл бұрын

This phrase I am VERY familiar with but I can’t defend against it because I am not normal (sorry if that didn’t make sense) I have at LEAST one mental disorder and I just can’t act normal, I can barely speak, I’m extremely childish, I can’t do a lot of things normal people can do, I’m not normal and I hate it, sorry if none of that made sense 😔

@carpathianken 3 жыл бұрын

@@amandalang5772 Yes Thanks Amanda,both my sisters & I have told her that it's very distressing to see her punching herself up & using it as a coping mechanism, but then our mother calls us ungrateful.Our counsellors tell us that considering the harm that our mother is causing us that we need to sever all ties with her.My mother shook my sister so hard during one of her psychotic outbursts when she was crying as a baby that she's now permanently mentally challenged.

@territoryoflucy001 10 ай бұрын

Your videos explain my whole life,seriously,Thank you:D❤

@Landionsdafurryofficial Ай бұрын

I May have gone down the bad path but after reflecting with some videos i learned that dont let hatred consume you

@gemandromeda7834 3 жыл бұрын

"i brought you into this world i can take you out" This is why I'm paranoid and afraid my parents are going to hurt me

@shootingstardragon7764 3 жыл бұрын

That's messed up on so many levels

@anonymousfeather1907 3 жыл бұрын

my parents say that a lot too

@onicalypso1684 3 жыл бұрын

My grandma only said that once because she's my mother figure, and she never said it again because after she said it, I said, "Do it, I dare you."

@yeetplayzroblox211 3 жыл бұрын

same, my moms said actual threats of killing me and/or hurting me. One time she did actually try to choke me (scared the hell out of me although im good now) This made me super flinchy now whenever someone comes close to me.

@chickennugget3742 3 жыл бұрын

My father said that to me. I have my father on so much levels, but no one listens to me. Everyone around me says that I doesn’t mean it that I’m just confused and I love him. But the truth is I hate him. I hate it so much that it hurts. I cry every time I remember this piece of shit. The only thing that stops me from killing myself is my mom, little sister and brother. I love them so much. I love life so much. I love my friend. And I want to find a love of my life, a husband that will respect me, a husband that will love me... my soulmate. I love you guys. Every one of you! ❤️❤️ when im sad I look up to the sky... nature is so beautiful

@godzy323 3 жыл бұрын

"Why do you choose to be upset" As a kid, this was super difficult bc we would try to explain but they would never listen to us n just blame us for feeling upset despite i felt being wronged. So its was my fault for being upset bc i was wronged

@bunille 3 жыл бұрын

Your parents went through the exact same thing, I'm just saying. Have compassion for them as they did for their own parents, otherwise you're just making it worse for yourself and you only have yourself to blame.

@kyliesmith9199 3 жыл бұрын

I've been told this, but in a different way? I was told my anger, frustration, and disappointment was all because of my depression when it only had a part to play. WIth this shitty reason always being shoved in my face when it wasn't true, I just stopped saying how I feel altogether. :/

@kyliesmith9199 3 жыл бұрын

@@bunille Maybe so, but it's more heartfelt and caring to give YOUR CHILD the childhood that you never had. If it hurt their parents, why did they choose to give their child the same pain? We're not ungrateful for our parents being our parents, but just because something shitty happened to them growing up doesn't mean it's okay to repeat it and hurt another human being the same way.

@hannahmeharg2128 3 жыл бұрын

333rd like 😳😳😳

@kittenomg992 2 ай бұрын

I’ve been called 2 or 3 of these and it’s RIUNED my life

@alelagatta 9 ай бұрын

I think my parents gived me depression, thanks to your videos now im sure and i know why. You helped me a lot, thanks you❤

@emorobin3901 3 жыл бұрын

“A child could start believing they’re inadequate, broken, or there’s something wrong” I already knew I was inadequate broken and there’s something wrong…known it for years

@DreamKittyLove 3 жыл бұрын

aww, dont say that, nobody has a perfect life! I noticed that if you have amazing on one side of life, it wont be the same as the other. I have amazing parents and Im so lucky but I do have a physical health problem. Im so glad I have it! I wpuld probably be addicted to my phone, computer, etc. Things happen for a reason, remember that :)

@Please...Just....Dont. 3 жыл бұрын

I was *forced* to stay quiet and sad alone in my room with a computer dog without a leg and that's all. my entire childhood- in a nutshell

@aprileurasialugo9885 3 жыл бұрын

Same. Even though they RARELY do it now, what they said before has deeply engraved my mind and I can't get rid of it to this day. Even if they apologize, I don't think I can forget about it. (Sorry if my grammar is terrible. English is not my first language.)

@jinhitlabels.2014 3 жыл бұрын

Ummm I think its too late for me to think about it that way

@sk8boredd 3 жыл бұрын

I hate that shit with my mom my dad, i dont really know what he thinks about me but my mom, oh i already know it.

@chibio_o 3 жыл бұрын

"gets mad for no reason" top 10 ways to make your child sad

@LyleCollo 3 жыл бұрын

Why is this funny? This is a accurate representation of my childhood

@thegammer4747 3 жыл бұрын

Ornrhre

@idf1294 3 жыл бұрын

2.answer sh** when they ask or they will surely slap the f*** outta you.

@realityisabellatusmere9722 10 ай бұрын

Ive gotten told "I brought you into this world, I can take you out" a few times from my birth giver and a lot of other things and people expect me to forgive her, keep her in my life, and love her because "she's still your mother" when she wasn't there for years and when I did see her she verbally, mentally, and emotionally abused me

@Frogger1370 Ай бұрын

Out of what i can remember my mom or dad never told me that there are people who have it worse but instead im the one telling myself that everytime i feel sad or anything like that

@kazikool69 3 жыл бұрын

My child is fine!" Your child is telling people not to kill themselves, even though they are $ucidal

@priscillajaldi6146 3 жыл бұрын

true!

@thh1226 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@RaccoonHurtm3 3 жыл бұрын

Same

@thh1226 3 жыл бұрын

I like to comfort people it bring a weird feeling to me. But I will take the chance to die if I can like car accident or something else as long as it's not suicide

@Jasmina1Urata 3 жыл бұрын

o-oh that hits hard

@Emilybaeee 3 жыл бұрын

“I wish you were more like your sister” “Your sisters getting good grades you should try harder and be like her” “Shut up go away” “Stop crying it doesn’t matter”

@ythewoodpeckerfan5286 3 жыл бұрын

Parents later after abusing their child: "i'M a GoOd PaReNt!"

@kermitthuglife4190 3 жыл бұрын

i get beaten up at school everyday and my mom thinks i get into fights so i get grounded for being beaten up. this is why i want to kill myself

@tinaangelica2760 3 жыл бұрын

@@kermitthuglife4190 I don't know you or how your mom acts in general. I don't know if you've told anyone else about this, a teacher or other adult, (one worth trusting I mean) a friend or classmate who could convince her, and I don't know whether or not she'd react like a halfway decent mother should even if she knew. But don't give up. Please. I probably sound totally generic... but long as you're breathing you've still got a chance in life beyond all this crap you put up with now, and if you kill yourself you're killing that chance along with it. First time I had suicidal thoughts I was about 10; Next few years of my life turned out to be beautiful years I wish I could go back to. Not saying it'll magically turn around right away, that'd be sending out false hope and who wants that when they're miserable, but there IS actual hope is what I'm getting at. The kind of pain you're probably in, while completely valid, has a way of blinding people from that. That goes for anyone else struggling reading this too. I care about you. I know for a fact Jesus and God cares about you whether you believe that or not actually and I'm not gonna leave that part out. Take good care of yourself. Even if the people around you won't. I also believe God will take care of you and be there if you let him. Either way, God bless you, stay safe, and if you feel like talking or venting even you're welcome to reply.

@esteffanynolasco8347 3 жыл бұрын

no tell someone and get help

@ivymuncher 3 жыл бұрын

that was abuse? wacky

@StormCarlson Ай бұрын

I’m still a child and I’ve heard of these because I’m on devices a lot so I feel like I’m not perfect anymore and my family always says: you were so nice back then. Why can’t you change? And I have this sibling who is really skinny and I don’t ever want to eat too much because we are poor but that ends up with them saying : eat more or your gonna end up very skinny! Not to mention that I self harm myself just to change and all this has ended up to a depressed anxious eight year old girl I and I have no friends just imaginary friends and online I am also always jealous of my cousin who gets everything I want and never get if you read this whole thing. Thank you. Thank you for listening to my life story