hey! thank you for this video it really helped, do you mind making one about how to get over friendships? love your content, have a great day/night!

@Psych2Go I had a situashion ocurr multipul times were i tried to explain to someone how i felt about a specific thing they did repeatedly... One time i said "please stop, I need some time by myself" thoes were our set of "safe" words for when things got to heated... Sadly they would always push me and then say something that would force me to respond back to them again instead of letting me leave so I could calm down. After the heated argument and calming down i would go back and try to explain to them that i didnt like what they did. "Hey, can we talk? I dont like something that you did and would like to speek about it and why i dont like it" this person was the type to constantly repeat the same thing over and over and over without a break or any changes inbetween so it was like how a friend or sibling would consistently make the same noise or do something very irritateing .. But the difference was that they didnt stop repeating and it would go on for days, it would even start up again after a few months if brought up again and they would use it as an excuse of some sort weather it was valid or not. After thoes conversashions i would tell them "I feel like your not listening to me because you keep repeating" then they would apoliguize and say "but" sutch and sutch which was them repeating again dispite just being told about it and how it made me feel. Once i realized they wouldent stop i would be furious again and say "Whatever, forget it... Im tierd of hearing you repeat yourself constantly." And dropped the onesided conversashion. We would go for a day or two without talking and then go back to normal. Could you make a video on this or tell me how to deal with this situashion for future reference?

"you'll never see me again!" ... and went back to his house 🤣

I ignored them...

Told my girlfriend, in a very underhanded and uncalled for way, that she was terrible at communicating. I let her know that I made it there safe, without saying when or where I came from or where I made it to. She was worried and confused, and asked where I was. I snarkily responded, “If you wouldve responded sooner, maybe you would know.”

^^^^this I spend two years straight being a therapist for my online friends, worst decision ever.

@@adobepastryssss8132 same, literally gave me depression while trying too keep 5-7 people from offering themselves every single day

@@adobepastryssss8132 us. I'm going to therapy myself now and I've been told to put myself before others. Being a therapist for everyone isn't good for yourself. I'm glad I understood in time.

This is so true the real work comes from finding which relationships are genuine and which ones aren’t

Thanks for communicating that. Hope that people can communicate that too

Editing as you watch. Smart.

@@_Diggler unfortunately that is a very clear example of toxicity: making the other person feel at fault for their shortcomings, plus emotional manipulation (“I am done”). I know for a fact, it is very hard to endure such type of relationships, so (of course) don’t blame it on yourself. I hope you’re ok now ❤️

thank u hug back

The first and fifth is what I hear literally everytime, I'm just tired of this shit

Thank you... 😊 A big hug to you as well...!!

We are all toxic sometimes. What's important is trying to do better, because really that's all we can do.

You are not the only one! If you are really human you make this mistakes.. You can't always be perfect and talk nicely to someone. You should be self conscious of every single word that comes out of your mouth. Think first and then speak, but it is not easy when the situation doesn't help. You try your best not to hurt someone's feelings in different ways

For sure! But because we are human sometimes we say hurtful things. How do you plan to practice not saying those hurtful things?

Samee

Same bestie

Same, although I can’t always help myself. I live in a family where these types of comments are quite common, so not saying them in response is hard.

Same and i realized that i have done a lot of mistakes from these videos. I will try to change and be abetter person

No worries! Sometimes, we just need some time to calm down, and it's harder said than done. Glad this video could be helpful at the right time!

same here. being vulnerable is so scary to me

What if i try communicating and it backfires of making me feel more empty and guilty. It took a lot to reach out and it is soul crushing to see my loved one (my mom) belittle ans not understand my feelings. 🥲

One month ago, I was messaging one of my best friends about what I was doing this summer and other personal stuff and she hasn’t replied for awhile. Until the next day, she replied to me, and she said some pretty nasty things about me and lied to me a whole lot. It turns out that she’s a fake friend and a toxic person. 😕💔

@@feliciamarilyn well, maybe they are the toxic one?

Same....

SAME

Sounds like you won't have to worry about saying hurtful things!

Watch less anime and socialize more

@@Phobicsleaguechannel333 good advice

It seems that my one and I are fighting more than makeing love . I don't think either one of us knows how to have a healthy relationship. Altho their is a significant age difference we didn't let that interfere with our love.. Everytime we would fight or she gets mad she withholds love . No matter how much I try and she tries to communicate , it always ends up with distance and silence. After we finally make up for a day or too. In thoes moments I feel very close to her and want to open up completely, so I do . When I am completely honest and feel very vulnerable she gets super angry all over again and is never empathizeing or being understanding.. just another week or two of anger no physical contact. Shot and rude behavior. Then says it's all my fault..what do I do

@@staciedixon3802 it might help to have a neutral mediator or dare I say, maybe couples therapy if both of you are willing. This comment is an excellent ice breaker to show you are both actually trying to work on things. It's sometimes very difficult to communicate between people very abstract feelings. I've been there with over 10 year age difference in past relationship. Sometimes just that can cause misinterpretation. I hope you both can work things out, glad you are trying and watching these helpful videos. 👏🏽🙏🏽

@@staciedixon3802 maybe it’s more than just plain they don’t want to communicate. It sounds kinda like narcissistic tendencies. We all go through them, some people obviously don’t care to make themselves better, but others become aware of their actions and then try to change. It does sound like you may need a couples therapist so that that person can help her see how she’s hurting you and the relationship. If they choose not to from there, You might want to rethink the relationship. It’s sounds like they’re not willing to put in the work and ultimately you’d be the one wasting your time when you’re trying to invest for a long term relationship. If anything I would look into narcissistic relationship and videos on YT just to see if that fits your situation because that manipulation can play with your head and heart heavily. And if they cannot empathize and don’t deal well with your emotions… its sounding like Narcissistic tendencies to me

@@alejandraquintana692 Or maybe they’re just scared of being hurt again so running away feels like the only option. We’ll never know though haha

It's crazy how I was thinking about this today. I told myself I don't ever want to feel scared of losing someone simply because there's an argument. So I am going to wait for the right partner no matter how long it is and if I never find him, I at least don't have to live a life full of rollercoasters.

True true

I kept saying that to my friend as a joke and they legit didn’t speak to me for a week like I’m sorry but it’s kinda true

Same. Once.i wanted to know why a fire started in my building and not knly did the FD dismiss my concerns my friend said "it doesn't matter why as long as it's out." Wait what? It doesn't matter why a fire started and my concerns with how it happened???????? Not to mention being dismissed or not believed regarding my own mental health. I don't get why people think this is ok to say to their friends/family or s/o it doesn't matter or it's not that deep unless they are speaking about their own issues and don't want to discuss, not the other person's. concerns.

@@Fenellamcclean Who is anyone to say what matters to someone else and what doesn’t?

That's why I don't talk to folk I don't know. I don't wanna know how your day's going, what happened during one of your IT classes, etc. Do they introduce themselves? Not at all but they'll talk that s*** saying "mm.. he thinks he's better than the rest of us" when I keep to myself. All this BS is avoided when earbuds are allowed in the workplace

Thanks for putting this together and keep up the good work with your channel!

@@Psych2go Could you help me to find why I only get so few view 😂

Correct me because I might be wrong but I believe youtube is not as accessible in China which is where many people who speak exclusively mandarin come from.

@@Slow-zm5wv I dont think so，there are so many mandarin channels have so many many subscribers，such as “Mr & Mrs Gao”，“小高姐的 Magic Ingredients”，“Ak‘s Tech Studio”，“小Lin说”......and so so on😂

@@psych2gomandarin thank you for letting me know, I usually don't follow those channels because I don't speak the language but hopefully your channel starts growing soon because your goal of spreading mental health content is an admirable one. After all this kind of content should be more widely spread and normalized in my opinion.

Instructions unclear. Belongings in front lawn.

Well then I would send him right back to his ex, lucky if he doesn't go on a gold platter with an apple in his mouth and a side of mint jelly.

yep that's a struggle. I think the way to improve there is to say things earlier, when it won't necessarily create an argument. Many little things that annoy you can create an argument, but if it's only one and you express it with good manners, it probably won't be an argument. But I know that's precisely the hard part. Also, silent treatment can be necessary/benefitial in some cases, but it's hard to judge when.

Sometimes no response is a response, especially to a manipulative toxic person.

You are right but mate I’m gonna tell you something Stuff like this, toxicity in friendships and relationships amongst other things, it’s already been bad, it’s been bad since the dawn of man, since Jesus was on the cross, since the founding of America so it is indeed what it is Basically all these bad things in the world, it’s already been bad since the start of man and it isn’t that we don’t care less we say it is what it is because it’s been this way from the dawn of man so we just gotta get used to it The truth is anyone is gonna hate you or not care about you or your well-being so you just gotta get ready prepared and used to it son Ok bye

@@Antonio-fj5gs I think I stead of getting used to other people being toxic, other people should realize they’re toxic and get used to the idea of changing their behavior. Instead of forcing others to just deal with it, they should work on their flaws so we can all suffer a lot less… Causing others to suffer, because you suffered doesn’t help anyone.

@@HappilyAnonymousGirl yes but as I said we are trying to fix the world but it’s been bad and sometimes what we do doesn’t always work That was I meant

@@Antonio-fj5gs That’s true. I misunderstood what you were saying a bit, so thanks for clarifying.

@@HappilyAnonymousGirl yea your welcome До свидания

But that could also be what they ea. So be careful around them. They are dangerous.

Whole lotta of I relate over here.

I feel you…. 🥺

I think the important thing you can do to mitigate that is to explain that you need some time to mull things over but that you’re not mad.

@@ruiqi22 that's a really good idea in theory, but whenever I'm in that state I can't think about anything except what's in my head and it warps whatever the situation I'm in at the time.

Clearly communicate that exact behavior then your partner should be able to recognize when you’re overwhelmed… or at least understand. Don’t beat yourself up for it

Whats really frustrating is that you almost never notice until AFTER.

Indeed. When people say or do something to you, it's sometimes just about them.

@@Akemaste I think it's always good to know how others treat you is sometimes a projection of them, and not you.

@@Psych2go I think it's most times about them, not just some. Sadly that's the society we're living in.

Thank you! Glad you enjoy this animation!

Couldn’t have said it better! We can all be a little more self aware

same

I think it's important to communicate after no change has been seen the first time around, with a plan of action on how they could address the problem. Sometimes, people don't know how to change, and a compromise of what can be done could work.

For sure! A grateful attitude will bring abundance.

It is good!

It’s cool :))

It’s amazing!!! We need Eddie back!!

I love it sm

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I did that once, apologized first in a situation where, though both of sides had made mistakes, I still thought and felt honestly the other person had more to apologize for, but hoped that by being the first to apologize it would be easier (and hopefully automatic) for the other person to likewise apologize, and so to clear up the mess. Never happened. They just accepted my apology as if they had done nothing wrong, leaving me feeling all the more irritated with that person for utterly lacking self-awareness.

Glad you like it! How do you feel about the other animations?

@@Psych2go I love the other animations as well! but so far, this is my fave, hehe ☺️ Thank you for making these videos!! you don't know how much it helps us! I get to learn new things, and get to apply them too! Thank you so much for all the work that you do! (人 •͈ᴗ•͈)

You are exactly right ! They literally want to destroy Us because We are Happy ! They hate that !

And Yes it can effect Your Health like crazy !

I think they meant using "I'm done" as a threat or using the relationship as leverage against someone rather than expressing that you're leaving the toxic situation that you're in. Also kudos to you for having the maturity to just silently cut ties and move on as I know it's not something most people would do.

Good for You ! Your happiness matters more than anything ! It’s always the ones closest to Us that hurt us the most ! Family can be so toxic ! GOD Bless You 🙏💕

@@Slow-zm5wv oh, honey, I had INTENDED to leave quietly. However, I've felt hurt so badly with years of being gaslighted and blamed, without ANY recognition of my boundaries, I blew up and told him to f-off before I issued my, not ultimatum, but truth. The next and last time I will see them is at my Mom's funeral.

there's nothing wrong with saying "I'm done" if you are really and act on it. My ex constantly used that, leading me to full-on panic and thinking we had broken up when she actually didn't mean it. I told her over and over how awful it makes me feel, especially since I've abandon issue and sadly she kept on.

@@amyrocks88ss yes, that's triggering and manipulative. Stick to your boundaries. I hope it works out for you!! ❤️❤️

Thanks 8888 I'm in HS too. Well homeschool but I went to HS.

I'm a shy type, sounds like you are too? 8888 I'm only 14 1/2.

@@ashlynripikoi5826 I'm not shy, in fact I'm a very extroverted and open person. I've never had issues saying my opinion or having a nice conversation. I've just become less open about interests specifically because I've been told that the things I like are wrong to like such as school, genres of music, certain video games, bored games, and many other things. Also I was homeschooled but ended up back in public school so it's kind of a reverse situation

What's holding you back?

That was not very nice of your mother.. she should be more supportive to you than say that! Im sorry you are going through hard times, it will be okay! ❤️ (if any of that hurt you im sorry and PLEASE tell me)

@@CouchPotat_IsGay Well, even though my mom and brother say these things constantly, I love them. Thank you so much for your support, Cadence! :)

@@ramune3389 i know, its still not right to say things like that. You have all permission to still love them as well! You are welcome, i love being able to help others when i can! ❤️

Personally, I think that instead of "You're too sensitive." It might be better to say, "I'm sorry I don't have the energy to talk right now" It's important to set boundaries

Awww. Glad you like it. How do you feel about the more recent videos?

Hey @@Psych2go i think the videos are great , very informative and cute as always, your videos make me more self aware of myself and others 🐧💖😊

then it needs to be a case by case basis. if im freaking out and someone says "calm down", they're looking to get punched

For sure! It depends on who you're dealing with too. Against toxic people, sometimes, we don't have to be as mindful about our words. We just simply leave if we have to.

I think dealing with online catfish is outside the scope of the stuff on this list, which was meant for how we communicate with people we actually have *real relationships with.* Abusers and con artists need to be completely cut off and pushed away from us for our own safety, not reasoned with.

What-

@@Squidward589 I meant how to ignore... Without expressing any reaction...😒

Mental torture...

@@mnr8854 if you’re being bullied just bring a knife. Don’t even have to use it, just show them you’re not playing around

@@Squidward589 🤗💯 BTW 👌 not bad...