My dad used to tell me that the woman should always be more interested in the man than the other way around or eventually you're screwed. Glad to hear this from other people.

Treat her like a celebrity she will treat you like a fan.

'Don't marry the woman you love, marry the woman that loves you'

" the best relationship is when the woman loves you and you like her " - Patrice O'Neal

My first marriage lasted about a year because she thought she could do better( she did much worse and wanted to come back "Big No) 2nd wife chased me , and has been chasing me for 44 years, living this way is smothe and easy. No drama, respectful, loyal.

Women are like cats, they run away when you chase them. You have to let them come to you instead.

Not one girl is worth chasing 👏👊

EVERY SINGLE TIME I've seen the guy become a puppy dog....they would end up being wrecked...When a girl loses interest, they are savage AF...

My grandma always said to me if the woman doesn’t love you more than you love her you will never have a happy relationship.. Remember to always keep her chasing no matter how long you have been together or she will find something else to chase, kids, career etc.

Need to get him on a panel with girls asapppp

Bored men go find something to do. Bored women go find another man to give her attention.

It's good to know that he explains it very similarly as I have. To sum it up, since hypergamy exists, if you love her more than she loves you, you're essentially putting her on a pedestal and she will believe that she's of higher value you than you and she won't believe you're the best she can do.

To be the adorer as a man is to be a simp

Yep. My dad told me a old saying. A woman who's truly interested and in love with a man, will follow that man too the gates of hell to a fight with the devil and cheer him on. No matter the sacrifice she has too make. An if she's not willing too sacrifice then she's also not honestly not willing to be with that man.

This is why when you’re with a woman that you don’t actually want and she can see that, she’ll do any and everything you ask. If you think back to any time you have had a non committed relationship with a woman that wanted you, you’ll notice the way she looked and treated you. Compared to when you thought a girl was special and you treated her as such. I love this video!

This means by default men typically have to date down.

This is what I learned 30 years ago. You don't want to spoil a child, why would you spoil a woman?

"I don't chase 'em, I replace 'em, and If I'm caressin' em, I'm undressin 'em" -Biggie Smalls

I wish I knew this decades ago. Women would always tell me "I feel like I love you way more than you love me". I always thought there was something wrong with me. It's way easier when you understand it and are comfortable with it

I have heard this as well. "Settle down with that woman who love you, not the one you love" .

Its simple. Men should never chase. Show that you desire her but dont be desperate. If she is not reciprocating the energy then cut ties. Simple. Work on yourself.

I lost my marriage because I put myself in the adorer position...I can't even blame her much for the disrespect I got because she likely didn't even realise it. In fact, when I told her I want out...she said "I did not see this coming". It is all because I adored her instead of the other way round. Even when I told.her outright that she is disrespectful and not wanting to follow my leadership, she couldn't see it and thus couldn't change.

These modern women are garbage. I stop chasing a long time ago glad I learned my lesson.

Excellent discussion and points made! The definition of the word "adore" is: to love someone very much, especially in a way that shows a lot of admiration or respect. The key word is "respect." A woman absolutely MUST respect her man, or he is getting finessed and/or dumped. Respect is WAY more important than love, but for her to both love AND respect you (adoration) is ideal.

A rule about women - they operate based on feelings and these feelings are short term. So they tend to behave in ways that are detrimental to the long term success of a relationship. They will want to be adored on friday evening between the hours of 3pm-9pm b/c of a fleeting insecure moment. A lot of guys will then shower her with adoration moving forward. Over time she will lose the attraction and act out by being difficult or at worst cheating. The things to keep in mind are this - First, women don't do this consciously so its not really their fault, its just how they're built. Second, you need to be the anchor in the relationship. The anchor keeps the ship docked when the tide comes in and out everyday. Never forget this...

It goes both ways man. You get a chick that's too clingy, and obsessed with you, you get bored and tired of her. Man follow God's Word and not the world's advice. Follow Him, set boundaries, pursue your purpose, and instruct her on how to help you. Everyone wants that person they really want. Pursue them and them only. Yet make sure to honor God in doing so by following His Word

Chasing a woman is the same as begging a woman to be her provider I just can’t understand it😨😨

This is almost impossible to fulfill if the girl you're into is a dismissive avoidant person.

I think these days no matter what you do the chances of a good long marriage are zero, best to focus on what makes you happy and reach your goals as a Man. I think women are so all over the place emotionally its like a living embodiment of chaos theory, best just to enjoy your turn and move on to the next one.

Take notes boys. Everything he is preaching ive experienced and observed myself. 110% true. I remember dating a girl...she told me she gets bored easy from past relationships. I played a push and pull game kept her interest. She told me herself...her last ex was a push over and just always wanted to please her.

Awesome advice,Much Appreciated Gentlemen,thank you and stay blessed.

glad he shouted the OG patrice oneal... "the perfect relationship is the woman is in love, and the man is in like"

Very true. This if something you can easily fall into as a man. And not know you have until it’s too late. Watch your unconscious actions as well, just need to understand your self more boyz, good luck!

gold. this is absolute gold.

One of the best doctor on relationship.

Always a pleasure, gentlemen... Keep em coming... ;-)

Makes sense to me. I've already had these thoughts thanks for the validation.

Ya some girl told me she likes it when she is chased. I was like well that means you don't actually care about me and just want something from me I have.

Don’t wait until you’re old… To figure this out, this advice is golden !,I’ve seen it, I’ve lived it, it’s real!

If you do not want to chase, and be chased, you would end up dating down with a woman who you do not really like and find her annoying throwing her in trash when something better comes along. he knows nothing

Do not help them, Do not save them. HOLD THE LINE

One of the dumbest girls I ever met told me the smartest thing ever I’m the dumbest way. She said there’s a reacher/chaser and a settler. Someone’s gotta like someone more and it’s better to be the settler and now I’m really glad I know even the dumbest people can teach you something

You can make a girl adore you without being tall and rich. You just need to believe that you deserve to be there and not be afraid to lose her if she crosses you. It has nothing to do with looks and money and everything to do with self-respect.

Great advice. 🙌

Successful men don't chase women. Women chase after successful men. It's super weird but attention is like a drug. The less you give or control how much you give out, the more a woman will want that attention.

If you treat her like a celebrity, she will treat you like a fan

I learned this the hard way! Ha! Ha! What an education. Nice video!

To be honest this is adapting to Moden woman. It shouldn’t be this way women should be adapting to us. There is so many rules and laws to talking to woman that at this point it’s only going to get more complicated. What we need to do is reject their ideas of them being ‘bored’’ and reject them as a whole until all this feminism movement strong independent movement washes out as many woman are already complaining no one is asking for their number and similar things. Stay strong and focus on yourself.

He’s the best guest.

Precisely, #SHHTOPSHHIMPIN!!! 💯💯💯🎯🎯🎯

I wished I had heard that advice when I was 20. It's still good to know in my early 40s.

This generation of men in particular needs to write this principle down and study religiously until it becomes ingrained in their very being.

Straight gold nuggets 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

Interest has to be on both sides

One of the best guests so far

Not only that, but as the man you should be nonchalant in response to adoration, as if you don't care that she's adoring you and your self-esteem does not hinge on it, nor is it a requirement.

Interestingly enough, your relationship is the best, when it's boring. Because the reason for the alleged "boredom" is the woman's fear to say or to do something "wrong", that might upset the man / drive the man away. So, it should make you worry more, if the woman is all witty banter mocking you "playfully" as it actually shows lack of respect = lack of fear (of making your upset = lack of fear of losing you)

Chase your self respect, chase dignity, and most importantly chase God first. "Seek first the kingdom of God, then everything else will fall into place"

Me: a 5'4" 31 year old, 3 previous long relationships gone HORRIBLY wrong... Listening to the guy mentioning how women wanna look up to their man. I'm really done trying 😂😂😂😂 my first girlfriend was 5'11" we were together almost 7 years. She left me for a lesbian. Next girlfriend started using heroin when i was in prison for a dwi i was falsely accused of. Breathalyzer the cop had wasn't even on. Told em i had a couple beers hours ago before being pulled over. Last girlfriend is to long a story. She took my daughter from me when she was 2 weeks old and ruined my life. Im absolutely done with relationships...

When a woman adores her man she will go above and beyond to please him. It truly is a wonderful feeling. She becomes a pleaser. His happiness is her happiness. Men should not take this lightly if they find such a woman because a woman that loves you to this degree will take care of you and your needs. The Doc. is right. It is a relationship that will last so as long as she doesn’t lose respect for you. It’s a great balance when the woman adores you but these women won’t do this for someone who is just using them. Women aren’t dumb. It can’t be a one sided relationship. The woman who adores you won’t waste her time, energy or efforts for a man that isn’t worth it. But as far as cheating… Naw. That is a lowered standard women these days allow because maybe they are unfaithful themselves. No one wants to be cheated on. Physically or emotionally. If you have a low invested woman.. maybe. But someone who adores you and loves you does not want to be cheated on. So maybe in some instances it’s better for the man to adore his woman…. Because if he is emotionally invested maybe his eyes will stay focused where they belong. On her.

I hope people understand that when a woman adores the man, it means that the man essentially chose a woman that is engaging in hypergamy. The art is to find a woman that is just slightly below your level, and no more. Otherwise you are getting a rotten deal.

Definitely got some gems from this. That said… the “I’m not monogamous that’s stupid” comment 😬. The one size fits all black and white thinking here is sad.

Just think of logic of this situation. The man has to constantly keep himself above the women in her eyes, and he must always keep her entertained. If she gets bored, then she'll likely leave him. Forget it. This is nuts. Way too much work. That really only works when divorce isn't an easy option. Better to just date but no marriage or living together.

Casanova said this....be the flame and not the moth.

This only works for genetically gifted men

It goes both ways at the same time.

The best Fresh & Fit shows are the ones without women.

I think it's great when a guy who couldn't pick up women to save his life, tells us the new super formula for all women. There ain't one and if you ain't an 8 then don't expect one. The internet made everyone stupid. Lots of people happily married 6 and 7s and made it work. Grass is always greener? No, you waited till it went brown.

Fresh stepped up his style game

Salute to this dude, for a very specific reason. We all know the RP. Very few of them have said anything we havent heard before. This guy is RP af, but he is always coming up with brand new concepts and line of thinking.

3:45 Very good insight

If you look at her as the adored, she'll look for the door.

Women don't want you to cheat on them but they want to know that you have the options

Being adored just simply means the person wants to date you. Relationships occur when two people want to date each other. I spent my younger years being adored throughout HS in college and all it gets you is a bunch of thirsty women you have nothing in common with. Letting someone know you're interested is not chasing them. Being told they are not interested and still persuing them is chasing. Doing that is stupid no matter how you cut it. If you ask a girl out and she says no, move on. That's the only message here. Making it seem like showing interest is chasing isnt helping.

I agree with the video, but I don't believe that this position is fixed, but rather mobile. There will be several moments where you will love her more and vice versa. But with that in mind, it's a good idea to try to keep her interested most of the time.

I've always been second choice, or very last. And what annoys me is that they come back after their so called amazing man cheats, or stops putting in effort, or just uses them. They come back to me and want me. Even though I told them this would happen. I don't even capitalise on this, I just tell them exactly where to go and to suffer since they had the chance to be with someone decent.

I'm not tall nor rich nor strong. How are they gonna adore me?

The classic dilemma of the one you like vs the one who likes you.

ALL FACTS

So the REAL best thing is to BE the guy adoring his woman and getting to be the one with they love, but LETTING HER THINK it's vice-versa. Keeps her on her toes and tricks her into being the happiest.

Brilliant.

Like my grandpa Always said: "How can they miss you if you never go away?" Keep her close but not too close

Facts!

Monogamy is not stupid in fact very realistic and practical.

Monogamous is not stupid.

Jesus, whatever happened to two people liking each other, everything is so complicated now

The Most High brought the woman to the man, not the man to the woman.

So much free game it's crazy!

Imagine being so shallow that you wake up in the morning and you're a woman.

And people do change. They may start in a role and end up in another

Hypergamy in action - she WANTS the higher SMV man, that means SHE has to chase.

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He basically just said with his own mouth : just be tall , rich and good looking 😂 Otherwise you are the adorer

The power anyone has is to just not care.

What is left out of the percent discussions is just how many women are competing for each of the kinds of men they want.

His tonality is super on point...

Don’t chase and don’t even attract. It ain’t even worth it today. I’m so glad I went my own way, got bank, freedom and not a slave to my urges.

How do i keep a woman in the ‘Adore’ stage?

I don't know what value system this channel is promoting. However, I saw a psychack vid and this came up... Where is the world going...... especially families

Thanks Lord for your salvation Thanks Lord for your peace Thanks Lord for Bible study class. Not chasing. Not bothered