Beautiful Trauma I think he meant only strong do it because, you have to be strong enough to admit you have a problem you want to solve. I think I probably have depression, but I'm a coward and I fear going to teraphy because I fear that people will view me differently, or that they might think that just bcs I have depression I'm suicidal etc. I fear using ant depression pills bcs I fear becoming someone that's not me, someone I don't recognize. I don't want to be happy go lucky all the time, I fear that taking those pills might change me as a person. So in a way people that go to therapy and get help are strong bcs they overcome their fears in hopes of getting better. I hope that you overcome what ever you are dealing at the moment 😊

@@asobimo5532 I don't know you personally,but i don't think you're a coward.It takes courage to even admit that something might be wrong with you mentally.I'm currently antidepressants and believe it won't change who you really are.I completely understand the fear of your personnality changing.I feel the same.However leaving your possible depression untreated will change you. It's like all life will be sucked out of you.I understand to that going to therapy is intimidating.But maybe you won't even need antidepressants ?you can only be sure if you go right ? i'm sure you can one day find the courage to go to therapy.If you can't now it's okay.😊 Thank you a lot I wish you the best too.😄

It's true for every person who has the strength to face and try to defeat an embarrassing problem they have. The moment you tackle the problem is the moment when you acquire confidence in yourself and what you are, both good and bad aspects. As Tyrion Lannister once tells Jon Snow: "Never forget what you are, the rest of the world will not. Wear it like armor and it can never be used to hurt you." This quote is not 100% truth in our reality, but you get the point :)

I really don't like complementing myself because it feels like a cope out of responsibility. Like why should I feel proud of myself for doing something that should be so basic? But, there have been times where I have completely shot past others my work ethic and I know what life is supposed to be like, and it's not supposed to be this hard to keep living. So, Yeah, it's like I have crippled a part of me and I just need help so that I can get back to running at full capacity. Cause who knows what you could accomplish when you're ACTUALLY in control? (You can always do things to improve but sometimes mental illness can really pull you down despite everything) Idk, that's just my inspiration for getting better.

I seeked help in a tory neighbourhood and got called a hypochondriac

We will never know really so that statement is more of an opinion; just saying, I’m not accusing you of anything 😅

I was surprised she didn't mention this, because it is likely to be a factor in that gender difference

You can check the suicide rate and that cam somehow help imagine the situation. Men commit suicide more than women, I don't remember the exact percentages but you can check it at the WHO page.

@Antônio M Women are so lucky in that area, we are always encouraged and comforted when showing emotions whereas men tend to be shamed and told to 'man up'. Really, toxic masculinity probably kill some you really slowly.

@@bethmckitrick417 Well being gay has been shown in many animals besides humans, it is shown by phycologists to be natural, and some straight people (quite a LOT actually) would rather have careers and be free rather then be tied down by a child. Also just because I'm gay doesn't mean I don't want children. If anything gays are NEEDED because there's THOUSANDS of poor children DREAMING of having a home, but since most fertile straight couples would rather have a biological baby, not many children get adopted as we'd hoped.

I can kindof relate...

Then how did u got over it?

I have, it's awful 😢

@@Anny_-_ I was seeing a new primary care physician and he asked me if I was depressed. I had never sought help, because I was embarrassed. I teared up and said yes. He prescribed bupropion and I’ve been slowly returning to myself since.

@@audreymoyers9350 That’s great! May you have a speedy recovery …… I wish l also had the courage to seek medical help…

My grandma was a great woman with a great sense of humor, but she brooked no nonsense. She had a long hospice -months -before she died. At one point, I was upset at the fact she had tubes in every orifice it seemed, and though my Aunt told me all was well with her, from her description of my grandma I could tell she wasn't doing well. I'm a biologist with a lot of medical knowledge. I knew she was lying. And in frustration I said, "Why doesn't she die, already!" and I regretted it. But I didn't regret her passing. We had a full relationship, and it was time to move on. It was alright.

@Evan Hodge I could ask you the same thing

I don't know it's kind of selfish. You might not like them but they have their own Lifeforce. So they only exist as to how they affect your life?. You're the narcissist by the way

@@ginnyjollykidd I totally understand that weird sense of relief when someone who you love and who was declining for a while finally dies. I felt it when my grandpa who had Alzheimer's died. He was basically gone already anyway, and it was so horrible how you can see he was suffering and before he became bed ridden, he would cry I think because he was sad and frustrated not being able to process thoughts and memories. It sounds awful, but I wish he would have passed a bit sooner, before he got so bad. It would have saved him a lot of pain and suffering.

Hey guys look, danger hair feels relieved when someone dies. Women have more empathy than men. What a laugh.

I didn't think about that, but yes, would have been great

I would love to see this.

When I found out when you feel hungry most people just go and eat, like when you need a wee you just go for a wee. I was 1, shocked at myself and 2, couldn't actually think of what hunger is

Yes, I agree

@@ashyosings5089 Would you explain this a bit further? Do you not get hungry often, or at all?

Lucky you tbh

How do we know your telling the truth?

@@justarandomconservativecoo3016 what would they gain by lying👁️👄👁️

@@perryleow6536 Rule #12 - Everyone on the internet is a liar until proven otherwise. (a.k.a. - "pics or it didn't happen")

I agree with rule #12, show us the proof Pinocchio

BetterHelp is a scam.

The same thing with me. I didn't resonate completely with the each and every 5 stages of grief. More over, I was going through "the 5 stages of grief" in a chaotic disorganized order with my break up

Yeah, BetterHelp is a scam.

@@ohemdoublegee i’ve heard this a bit, why is it a scam?

@@theyopo3426 imagine going to a car mechanic asking for new tires. And instead they just ignore you the entire time and they give you an air freshener

Definitely. If you're devastated by something, but manage to overcome it, that's what is admirable.

@@nolongerjuicyboiz4413 For me it's more along the lines of not losing your spirit and generally jolly self. You know just because you lost somebody or something, other people will expect you to act all gloom and doom or they will judge you for 'not even grieving'. And that's not always the case

I'm battling cancer and was told I have "situational depression". I think it's bullshit! I'm dealing with a disease that could kill me. It's just a way to get me to take more pills. I've had pain so bad, it's enough to want to die!!! They don't seem to understand about cancer and how it f*cks up your life!!!!!

@Anne-Lou Oh man that sounds hard. I can only relate a tiny, tiny little bit because I'm also very sensitive to loud or high-pitched noises, feels like getting stabbed in the chest. And I also sometimes have trouble keeping up with conversations or even making out what people are saying in crowded environments, because noise is just SO distracting for me. But what you're going through sounds much worse. I think you can only be as empathetic and understanding towards yourself as possible, given that most other people lack the capacity and education to relate to your experience. Give yourself time and space to process things, don't agree to do things you don't really want to do, and don't hesitate to remove yourself from environments that are causing you suffering. Shit now I'm handing out unsolicited advice again, sorry 😄 You know what's best for you. About the "depression": I don't know the details of the situation. But if it really is depression and not just a normal grieving process, it's paramount to treat it as quickly as possible before it totally starts to spiral and incapacitate you even further.

"Thinking positively" has become such a cliché that it has really lost all the meaning it once might have had. I prefer "focusing on what you want". Once you've accepted the situation and all its ramifications (because a lot of what people group under "positive thinking" is actually just resisting the situation at hand and wishing things were differently), you can ask yourself: "Given that this is the situation, how can I live the best life possible for me?" or sth like that. Because it is true that chronically focusing on what you DON'T want (aka resistance) will do two things: 1. Increase the likelihood of you actually getting what you don't want and 2. Make you feel bad. The problem with this is that for nearly everybody on the planet that isn't engaged in some form of serious mindfulness practice, 99+ percent of this focusing process happens automatically and unconsciously.

I'm in school for mental health counseling and my prof. shared this with me, thought it was pretty neat surrounding that idea where if you just think positively then it's all okay. But that's just hiding the issue. upliftconnect.com/the-myth-of-positivity/

I thought that "situational depression" was just the term for feelings of depression that are caused by your situation (in other words, an appropriate, healthy response to something like cancer), as opposed to "clinical depression," which is diagnosed as a mental illness. But I'm not an expert.

don't worry about that, if they don't want to understand is their problem, not yours

I’d trade 10 friends for a good therapist.

@@jerrybrown1446 some of my friends are very supportive and we are very open about our issues and emotions. Maybe i would trade 9 regular friends for a good therapist and him. :D

A paid friend 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

True! A paid friend is a frat brother/sorority sister 😅😝

That wasn't his point though, and it's pretty easy to differentiate what he was talking about... The myth is that any/all poor parenting decisions are GOING to cause mental illness in the children... NOT that it's impossible to get mental illness from sufficient abuse out of parents... Yeah, sometimes there's only the kind of damage a parent (or two) can do to the child... and nothing else in the world could possibly f*** someone up so bad... BUT my mom broke a brand new Reebok tennis shoe across my ass... among many things casually yanked into repurpose as a whooping instrument, from ping-pong paddles to belts... There was yelling and swearing at each other between her and me... occasional outright explosions in public... BUT I'm not bad off. I do pretty well in society. I may have joined the Navy specifically TO GET AWAY at the time... BUT I grew up fine. I've held jobs, worked independently, and even now do quite well. I'm fiercely independent and capable of withholding a temperamental outburst (usually) until I "cool off" enough to respond to a conversational point rather than spew filth and rage at someone... I'm not afraid all the time, and in point of fact, ride a motorcycle and even manage to get along well in traffic... hot or cold, doesn't matter... I can laugh at myself riding into a rainstorm and having forgotten my wet-gear at the house... "Yup... another of life's little tragedies..." whatever. Now, most people seem to take personal offense or slump into bouts of depression or even blubbering when I share stories of my youth... I laugh about it. We carried on... but before she passed, I told her she'd made me the man I am... AND I didn't figure she'd done a bad job of it... She told me I was one of the two best things she ever did... My brother is the other... and I managed to get him into town one last time to hear that... SO no... Bad parenting decisions (because, obviously her paradigm was less than stellar... not gonna lie) do NOT necessarily cause mental illness. There are other factors to consider... As he said, if all you're going to do is b*tch and whine about how bad you had it growing up... you can't change a thing about that... It's processing through it to get to what you HAVE now... what did the trauma and scars and all of it leave you with today... and what can you do with it to move forward.... THAT is still on you. Seriously, not trying to pick a fight here... BUT you just missed his point. I'm living proof of it. You CAN come to a place and shrug it off... ;o)

It agree. It also bothered me that he talked about parental guilt. There are so many who have zero guilt. There are a lot of narcissistic parents out there that get very angry and defensive and will always invalidate the person they neglected and abused. And the invalidation in itself is abusive. Boy, this video has me so triggered right now. lol

Very true I had an abusive narcissistic mother as a child. I have C-PTSD, OCD, anxiety disorder, depression and many other issues thanks to it. Unfortunately some of the things she subjected me to qualify as crimes against humanity by the definition of it. The USA government believed her lies and ruled in absolutes that I be punished indefinitely for life. So I'm a prisoner of my past until the day I die. I don't have any choice, nothing I ever do will change it thanks to the dogma of the USA. The fact the government was deceived by my narcissist mother. Every single conscious moment is both painful, and debilitating to me for the rest of my life. It honestly hurts more to know how powerless I am to alter such a fate. Despite I haven't really done anything wrong just got dealt a very poor hand for parents in reality. Being born to a narcissist is a fate worse than death, or nigh any other for that matter. Few people would believe the horror stories children of narcissists have experienced first hand.

He probably shouldve qualified that bad parenting isn't the same thing as pervasive abuse/neglect/trauma.

@@gnarthdarkanen7464 Its semantics...essentially you're saying your mom *wasn't* a bad parent. She just used physical discipline, which could be a bad decision. Often minor physical abuse is mitigated by a combo of structure and genuine affection. A child who also gets alot of love, but is disciplinary spanked on a fleshy area, especially if the parent isn't motivated by emotion nor arbitrary, will often be fine. One of the reasons minor physical discipline is frowned upon is it allowed us to normalize those who lashed out physically in personal anger at people over whom they have tremendous emotional, physical and legal power. I'm guessing it's affected you less negatively because her intent wasn't malevolent, she made you feel genuinely loved, and you sense she was honestly trying her best. That's a categorically different experience than what the Commenter is bringing up.

@finalfantasy8911 Do you really expect any mental health worker to just go out and treat random people on the street. These people are not miracle workers, they need the patients to come and ask for help (or present to a hospital). Only those that make a choice can be treated unless deemed a danger (though that takes time and the patient usually needs to have already presented as being dangerous). Unless this school shooter was under treatment (even if he was it doesn't mean it could have been prevented) and the health worker was able to establish them being unstable or a danger, there is nothing that can be done.

@finalfantasy8911 You aren't even a therapist so you don't even understand or know what you are talking about. You just sound like a pissed off uneducated moron. You can't help people who don't want help. That is reality. You can go ahead and force people to thearpy but that doesn't mean they will show up to therapy or talk in therapy or that it will work for them. You can prescribe medication but that doesn't mean they will take it. I used to go to therapy because I was forced to and forced to take medication. I never took the medication, I never talked in therapy and then ghosted my therapist. I just recently decided to go back to therapy but I don't even talk about what I really want to. I was told that I need medication but I won't do it. Their only so much a therapist can do to get me to talk & take medication they cannot legally make me unless they send me to the hosptial. Therapist jobs aren't to solve your problems it to help you learn a way to solve your own problems, to teach you how to cope with your future issues and understand why you are feeling the way you are. They aren't miracle workers. They don't know who has issues or not so to go say they should be doing this or that is stupid because they don't know who needs help or not unless that person gets help or is forced to get help by someone else. Go after family, friends, schools, cops, government, etc. that knew something was wrong but didn't do anything to get that person help. Therapist do what ever they can to help people and spread the word but you can't force anyone into it. Therapist can't look at a person and be like he will be a future mass murder or he is going to kill himself so I should force him into therapy. Reality they can't even prevent things because government, healthcare, and that person who needs help are what gets in the way from them helping. As I said, YOU CANNOT FORCE PEOPLE INTO THERAPY AND YOU CANNOT HELP THEM WHEN THEY DON'T WANT IT. The real fault is everyone else who didn't pay enough attention to that person and not getting them help. The only idiot I see is you.

@finalfantasy8911 Okaaay, do you have the magical solution that will somehow extract all the ted bundies of the world to step forth and proclaim their desire for mental rehabilitation? I'm guessing no. And the practise you're talking about is *research* Therapists do therapy to treat individuals, kinda like doctors. You don't talk shit about doctors because there are people dying of malaria. Why don't they stop malaria?! Answer: 1. People are always researching methods of treatment and 2. it's not a freakin' easy thing to do; otherwise it would have already been done. If you are genuinely this damn upset about it; try and solve all mental illnesses yourself and see how far you get. Best of luck.

The problem is that people often aren't compassionate enough to care about 'clinically insignificant' mental discomfort such as sadness or stress. If these were taken seriously and properly comforted/remedied, people wouldn't feel so desperate to get validated clinically.

@finalfantasy8911 Thats a stupid accusation and analogy. Its like blaming a doctor when a person in the street got sick bcs the doctor did not got to that person and its NOT any doctors fault. Omg ppl these days. 💁🙄

Sometimes it's a long road to get there, and as you mentioned relapses can come from an unknown trigger. Counseling/therapy does help, even if it just someone to confide with.

Good for you I may be a stranger but I'm happy for you and proud of you ❤️

I go to a therapist for my ADHD and I am not ashamed about it. It's much better to get help from other people than just letting it hurt your life. I am very happy to know that you are making the right decisions and making sure that you get the help needed for you.

Your profile picture is very cute.

Me and my therapist both have issues so we discuss them. Well...I have issues and my therapist used to have issues. I have anxiety (mainly social, but a good helping of the others) and he used to have depression. Oh also, whenever I feel especially down or I need to take a minute to calm down we play board games. He's a very nice AND extremely good therapist.

100% agree. One of the main things that irritated me about this video. If anyone is out there feeling like their mental illness is due to their parents, YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID!! Bad parents can 100% be responsible for their children's mental health issues.

i wish it was just easy. we can point out the problem but the problem is far, far greater than pointing it out to a single entity.

He's refering to the Biopsychosocial model (4p factor model too) which specifies that there must be multiple reasons for a mental disorder to occur. A traumatic event (social factor) must also be coupled with biological and/or psychological factor to spur a mental disorder. This is why not everyone who suffers a traumatic event will experience a mental disorder.

When I heard him say this I immediately check the comments to see if anyone else caught it. That was ridiculous.

I was searching the comments for someone else who was bothered by this answer too. I feel like he didn't acknowledge the fact that the stressor has to be present to "cause" mental illness in some people, and that stressor can indeed be parents through neglect, harmful discipline, abuse both emotional and physical, or a plethora of other things that can affect a child.

Laila Dobb I would love a video like that as well, coming from having a nieces with autism and a nephew with ADHD

Laila Dobb is ADHD related to ASD or Tourette’s? Or are you just saying there’s a spectrum for all of these disorders?

@@KallieMae they are related but you can have ADHD and Tourette's without being autistic (at least i think i'm remembering correctly). they have some things in common so videos that go over autism can possibly give you some insight on how neurodivergent things affect people. I think all three of these things fall on a spectrum (Tics and characteristics from being neurodivergent can go from almost unnoticeable to severe and very noticeable)

I'm autistic so i happen to know the most about that, and that is on a spectrum

In fairness neurology and psychology are different fields. They'd really have to devote a whole video to myths about neurology.

And it should have a copay of no more than $10, not $40 like my insurance has it.

@@ginnyjollykidd i know i dont understand why its so expensive!

Yes yes yes yes, even if all you need is a cheerleader!

Honestly we should let people decide how to medicate themselves.

Not everyone wants to be dependent on drugs that don't even prevent any serious diseases as oral microbial attacks. The psyche has a subjective existence, therefore its contents are also has spiritual experience and so you can do reach other ways of improving your psychological well-being through therapeutic psychosocial disciplines such as meditation, Yoga, Tai chi, etc. that involves communal activities that would purify/heal your soul positively while making some friends along the way.

AspergerUnicorn it’s actually not. Depression can be caused by one even, multiple different events or factors, or simply because your brain doesn’t produce enough serotonin. It varies from person to person.

@@andreah9587 I'm sorry if you found it offensive, what I wrote, I'm the kind of person who deals with it through humor, it's just how I cope. Didn't mean to make you feel unheard/not valid, many apologies!

@@Blondythedragon no i wasn't offended but i did misinterpret your comment, sorry about that! i took your comment to mean "i'm laughing because the myth is true" instead of "I'm laughing because the myth is false" like you meant.

@@andreah9587 You have nothing to apologize for, I do realize that it can be read two different ways, that one is on me!

@@Blondythedragon it's no problem, my dude. Btw i also have Asperger's, so Autism team unite!! lol

Ugh. As an ADHD and Aspie, being misrepresented is standard fare and sucks. Hard. : /

I have a friend who I love with all my heart, but she does this all the time. I feel bad not letting her know it upsets me. Is there any way to politely tell her off?

Although it’s annoying try and understand that it isn’t their fault for making that mistake as they were probably not made aware as they are not educated properly about what ocd truly is and that I blame the education system for not teaching about mental disorders

I would just straight up tell her to stop. Tell her the difference between OCD and just being neat or what not

I say that sometimes as a coping mechanism though, when I get really frustrated with it. Idk if it's actually helpful or just selfharm haha. But when thinking about it, saying "I'm so ocd" has almost become a compulsion. So there is that lol..

For real. That’s why I don’t do therapy. These “professionals” truly believe they can get in our minds and tell us how we feel/why. There are SO MANY things about the human mind that we may never know. Live your truth, my friend. I believe in you.

Check Psychology in Seattle. The psychologist is na expert on trauma and he has a better knowledge on this area than this people.

Hi Jason, i'm really sorry you feel that way, however I would like to point out that the therapist in the video is talking about bad parenting, being abused by your parents isn't bad parenting, it is a crime and of course that event or series of event has causal relationship with suffering mental illness. If you're struggling with the emotional fallout of being abused as a child by your parents, seek help. Contrary to what Jacky says, a good therapist will never tell you who you're feeling and why, but rather help you in any way you may need.

Mental, psychological, physical, or sexual abuse are entirely separate beasts from "bad parenting". "Bad parenting" involves not teaching children to act like responsible adults, and then an adult blames their inability to act like an adult on their parents. Abuse is completely different. Abuse, gaslighting, all of that can and does cause mental illness or exacerbate an illness that is already there.

Very true. Parental abuse is Domestic Violence and most psychologists have no clue and little training on abuse. Psychology is of little use in the real world because it's all about giving out diagnosis for insurance companies to make money. Psychology is quackery.

They are the expert who spent decades of their life studying this. And you are not. It’s equivalent to saying you know more than a doctor

@@stevechrollo8074 so are you indirectly saying that what I am saying is not true? Also, I am not saying I know more than a doctor. Science is always changing. A few years later you’ll find these same ‘experts’ saying something else.

@@ananya.a04 It’s been a year, and they are disproving you (uneducated in psychology) with the same points with actual countless of studies and in field experience within therapy, which again you are limited in. Again, the argument that is “science is always changing” is a bad and arbitrary one that can be made against any scientific claim (could be an argument against proving a round earth), and that’s what makes it erroneous. There are a lot of findings in psychology that are less likely to change, that parents definitely dont cause mental illness is one of them

@@stevechrollo8074 are you kidding me? Bad parenting is one of the biggest cause of psychological disorders in children. Even if we ignore the disposition of certain disorders that children inherit from their parents, the abuse and pressure they inflict on their children messes them up pretty bad and pushes them towards many mental illnesses. I’m not talking about basic facts that had been known beforehand and got repackaged and sold again in the name of science. I’ll even give you examples if you want. Science is ever changing due to its very nature; it is incomplete. Despite all the money and efforts put in since its beginning, western science is no closer to understanding the true nature of everything.

@@ananya.a04 There’s no good evidence backed by a good psychology journal to suggest your claim of a causal relationship (correlation isnt causation). Just because abused children are more likely to develop mental illnesses doesnt suggest that that itself or in combination CAUSES it. It seems like you have a hard time understanding causal relationships and how it differs from correltaion. You will probably link to me some correlation studies that dont have a real treatment or control group, and say look it causes it when it’s really correlation, and the author mentions it up front Literally you are disagreeing with an expert in that video. You need to really reevaluate your knowledge or lack of

Bingo. You just discovered that narcissistics can cause your depression, and when you get better, they go crazy because they can't see you being happy and can't manipulate you anymore. In my case, my narcissistic family almost induced my to suicide because they don't want me in the family, and when I saw this, my depression started to vanish. People can be truly assholes, and if you allow it, you get depressed, till you find the root of your death inside.

It’s them, not you ❤️

Oh My! You saying this make me feel so much better about medication!! I've always been scared of it because even when I'm not happy I still like some parts of me and I don't want medication to change that, but now you made me realize, it's THEM, it would be their perception, not my reality.

Yes!

Yes!

👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾👍🏾 very very well said

I legit have PTSD and a myriad of other diagnoses from childhood abuse and grooming and literally all my mental illnesses have come from my parents and family abusing me. I was told this by my therapist after intense therapy. I have nothing nice to say about that man.

I'm just gonna reply to myself here and say that after thinking about it a little bit, I think he was trying to say that bad parenting isn't THE ONE AND ONLY cause for mental disorders. However he should have worded it better because clearly I wasn't the only one that was upset by the way he said it.

I agree with you. But I think his point was that is counterprodutive to blame your own problem for on them for the entire life

Literally all of these things are the story of my life.

Yes, agreed.. usa in particularl is rather quick to toss labels. However irritation is in fact 1 of (hypo)mania symptoms, the line is drawn when it becomes painfully dysphoric with out of control racing thoughts, intrusive thoughts, horrible sleep & then the infamous flip (mainly bpII) into depressive lows so dark that self harm is a persistent thought throughout one's years of life. After so many cycles of dysphoric (mania) irritability/depression over & over it takes a hard toll, truly.

really? I broke a chair against my brothers back when I was a little kid

Yeah same with my grandma as well. She was paralyzed and had dementia. She thought I was my mom. But I think she's happier after passing yet I miss her I was so conflicted

When my grandmother died, I felt the same, and I felt so guilty, but the thing that relieved me was thinking that since I was going through that pain in that moment, I wouldn't have to go through it later, especially because in the last period she was ill and i was very anxious of when she would die because i I didnt know how to face something like that

Kind of a similar thing with my mom actually. She had been terminal with lymphoma for a year or two before she died. We had to move to a different city for her treatment, we never knew when to expect good or bad news, we couldn’t travel at all... My Dad barely even had time to work since he was jumping between going to see mom, taking care of my brother and I, and doing daily chore type stuff. I felt pretty bad (and still do to an extent) that I felt relieved when she was gone. We were free though, for the first time in years.

Yes I've been there you have to find a way to distract your mind. Good luck hope you get better.

My mum thinks she has OCD because she's pedantic, she gets really upset when I tell her she doesn't. It's so irritating

exactly being clean because you like it is being a perfectionist it ocd someone with ocd has to do ritual cleaning otherwise they feel someone might die because they didn't clean something properly and ocd isn't just about cleaning it could be related to just intrusive thoughts

yep.. i can't say whether it's ocd for me though. but getting out of the habit of having to check things so many times without feeling anxious is so bloody hard though.

Random xx yes, my brother has OCD too and has germaphobia, so he’s like actually afraid of being dirty and he washes his hands every time he touches anything, even tables or countertops. I think the rule is it has to negatively affect your life in a big way.

I would tell them I'm crazy and proud of it and I like going to therapy.

God bless you Kaylee! 😊💯

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I have never heard that word used in any psychological way, what you most likely have heard is 'thinking over and over about a particular thing or situation'.

My partner ruminate's everyday. That's some good insight

Rel1369 Yeah most people use the word brooding or dwelling instead of ruminating

@@paleobc65 I would say dwelling because i can't say my r's that way. Lmfao

luis arroyo and I learned that in a psychology class! I remember very well listing these in my exam paper! Maybe they should say, new research says... not just call it a myth, we didn’t come with these stages, “they” taught us

i definitely do not believe it’s a myth. it’s real. it happens. that’s how our brain processes grief of ANY kind. it goes in different orders. if it was fake it wouldn’t be in college education

Yeah I had to write 3 essays about that and study on it for it all to be a lie

@@PaolaTheTimeLord well many things make it into higher education that isn't correct or becomes outdated.

And that a number of therapists still use it in counselling 😐

PTSD is real and can follow for a lifetime.

@@CedarMountainsnow Right. Each illness is different. If they had said 'environmental factors play a lesser or unknown role in certain mental illnesses and parental neglect and abuse can determine or cause mental illness in other cases', they would have been correct. They didn't. They claimed parenting does not cause mental illness, which is false.

Bad parenting is different from childhood trauma from the result of abusive/neglectful parenting though. Ongoing trauma is more likely to result in C-PTSD than ptsd anyway.

@@CedarMountainsnow if we're only talking about illnesses like schiophrenia and bipolar that you're born with, then they wouldn't have been talking about depression. In reality, depression, ptsd, schizophrenia, and bipolar are all mental illnesses. It's not useful to delineate like that unless we're talking about something specific

Or like DID

turbosdolphin It takes a lot of courage to talk to someone about something so personal. It’s hard but it’s so worth it:)

@@zain4019 Thank for kind words Zain

turbosdolphin I hope you’re doing well now! Allow yourself happiness, you truly do deserve it.

Oliver Berner I’m sure almost everyone loves their parents in one way or another. We can show our parents and those we love our appreciation, but often things are left unsaid because they may die unexpectedly. The best we can do is deal with our grief, let ourselves feel the often overwhelming feelings in whichever way suits us- it may involve writing letters to our loved one, forgiving them and ourselves, rethinking our view on life and it’s frailty- it’s different for everyone. Whatever we choose and whatever path is best for us, it involves making peace with what has happened. This isn’t a bad thing- it’s freeing and allows us to spread joy while we ourselves are alive, as our loved ones would want us to.

So why do you think that waiting 5 years was such a good choice? /s

Wow I am happy to have stumbled on your comment. I had similar situation where in my case I could not pretend anymore and was basically forced to confide. Now I was already struggling with my problems and it made it much worse because I now had to help reassure the person "helping" me.

I think in general it’s still true that reaching out is usually the best first step. When you’re alone with no support or feedback it can be nearly impossible to find which way is up. You just need to reach out to the right people(Which I recognize not everyone has in their life) and not expect only one person to be able to handle all of your mental and emotional needs

A lot of things they said are incorrect.

It's a good cue to talk to a doctor about it.

Actually. Neuro-typically , you feel emotions in a transient way. So, if you are sad that your pet/family/ whoever died/ had a severe accident/ traumatizing experience, you do actually continue to feel other emotions (you might laugh, feel numb, might watch a video that's interesting etc), but you cycle back to being sad and so on. But each emotion is transient and it passes/ cycles through. Depression may feel the same. But it isn't as transient, it's more pervasive. It affects your appetite, sleep, hygiene, motivation, resilience, and emotional/intellectual/sensory overload/numbness. Many feel loss of interest in materialistic/ creative/ sexual experiences they used to enjoy. They often feel hopeless, helpless, worthless. Many experience difficulty in concentration, memory deficits. Eg. I have difficulty concentrating, don't take bath for days, room's a mess (I'm an organizer), I get tired if I'm laughing/socializing/ start crying, I'm always irritated, have body pain, literally lay in bed all day (cannot sit up, or lie down immediately after sitting up), I start watching/reading/creating something I'm excited about and I cannot finish it (I feel 'dead' inside, so that excitement/interest/ focus goes away, I think 'thats so much effort and what's the point) Depression is not the same as sadness (even sadness you experience over your lifetime). I know because I've experienced the difference between being sad and being depressed. Also, I should add, I'm from the field of psychology/ neuropsychology, so, I'm speaking from knowledge & experience. There is also a difference in the chemistry & thought pattern when sad/ grieving vs being depressed.

@@sheilaharrison8547 that's mourning. Most of the time if being sad about death of a loved one was close from their death, you cant be qualified for depression. Until you have it for longer and have the textbook symptoms like losing overall interest for things that you love, etc then you could be diagnosed with it

ive been sad since i was like 12.

Your parents are selfish pieces of shit and I hope that you get help with that. I hate people who do that shit.

@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 lol nice one judging people on both sides when only hearing one side of the story shows how much of a great person you are

I 100% agree with you, Rose. They always ask where I got this shit from (obviously it can't be them).

Rose Netherton If your parents don’t help you, go and ask someone else. I bet there will be someone who would want to help you unlike your parents. Keep searching. Someone cares about you. My family does not help me, so I talk to friends, especially older people, in my church and school, and they are willing to talk. You will be surprised about the people who care about you other than your family. People have walked up to me and asked what’s wrong. People care about you. Please seek them, and they will help you.

@@laurahuynh8333 thanks! I do have some amazing friends and chosen family. 💕

Alexisasheep I’ve never commented on a KZfaq video before but I just had to say thank you for posting this comment. I’ve never read a more spot on description of what it’s like to suffer through the “pain” of depression. I’m sorry that you have to deal with it. But also thank you and kudos for being optimistic and helpful to yourself and to others. As much as I wish I didn’t, I agree with every single word.

@@aleksandrakulesza9912 thank you, I wish all the luck and the happiness in the world cause lord knows we all need it

It's called apathy. A very common symptom of depression and the one I hate having the most.

@@alexandercanella4479 yeah that too. Feeling tired all the time is the worst for me, both physically and mentally. And not enjoying things anymore.

​@The_dane Same. I think that there are definitely different variations of depression. There are sort of episodes where I've been a lot more sad, and other times where it's apathy - normally in my experience, the sadness builds up and up for a while, and then the apathy hits at the end stages where the depression seems to be more clinical and sorta neurotic (like physical symptoms, weird obsessions etc...). In a way, the sadness hurts more, but the apathy stage looks more like someone you'd call mentally ill.

That's not bad parenting, it's genetics. A C-PTSD diagnosis is what comes from bad parenting... and DID for criminally punishable cases of bad parenting

It's like if a chemist student decided to correct what people are calling substances, it would be annoying. "Its not salt, its this!" Dont do this. You will be there for the patient not the other way around

@@KillingCrusemsPaige I dont correct when A=B (similarly subsets) and I don't mind being corrected knowing that I'm wrong also I don't correct them when they only do it once but they go around telling everyone educating people or make it in the form of question when they don't want answers. A: guys.. *explains condition* I don't know what to do.. B: You might have Bipolar Disorder *continues explaining Bipolar disorder as mood swings, alternating between manic and depression also in the form of mood swings* 'it seems like i have OCD I need everything in order, clean and tidy. I have to wash my hand almost all the time too. Seems like I have ot doesn't it?' and I don't plan to be a psychiatrist

I believe that people can self reflect

I hear you

I totally agree with your first part. I used to have those similar thoughts when I was a teenager, I was naive and inexperienced. My depression and bipolar is so ingrained in my personality and life now that I've gone beyond the typical normal persona and have ruminated so deeply that I'm now totally past the usual hopelessness and worthless feelings. I've attempted suicide and been in deep suicidal rabbit holes that lasted for many, many years. For 20 years I've been dealing with bipolar depression, on and off of course. I never have those thoughts of love lacking or being a horrible person, I could care less. I hate people, I hate humanity SO much, I don't give a damn of what other people think of me. My concerns are more about being a burden because I'm mentally disabled and unable to work, and the worries of my future. I'd kill myself just so I don't have to worry about money and stability anymore, it's all about survival at this point for me. I feel like I'm so far gone and past the usual depressive thoughts most people have, I just can't even relate to other depressed/bipolar people, but I'm a misanthrope and I have other heavy opinions and worldviews. I'm also an antinatalist and an atheist, so I'd just love it if I could get free euthanasia, that'd be my dream come true. No matter how happy or content I am or could be, I will always be suicidal and wanting to die, I just cannot stand this world and this species.

Those thoughts either make or brake me, I hope you're doing well right now.

@@dreamrabbits5072I’m sorry to hear this how are you doing now?

Yeah it kinda took away some of the credibility to the video

He's refering to the Biopsychosocial model (4p factor model too) which specifies that there must be multiple reasons for a mental disorder to occur. A traumatic event (social factor) must also be coupled with biological and/or psychological factor to spur a mental disorder. This is why not everyone who suffers a traumatic event will experience a mental disorder.

There are good parents who produce kids with mental illness. So ur point is invalid.

All of the black and white thinking here

Ava Martin I don’t think they meant that all people with mental illness had bad parents, i think they mean that people with bad parents are likely to cause mental illness in their kids.

I take this as someone who was diagnosed with BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder) and the stigma that comes with it

y e s. say it louder for the people in the back. i hate it when people assume that everyone with a personality disorder is inherently a bad person.

@@jessicatoussaint9140 same. ive had to say no i dont have 5 different personalities im terrified of abandonment cause of my abusive childhood. its just a name of the disease

Yes

yes, but well, except NPD.

You may not even go through any of those stages! That’s why it’s useful to be extremely critical of these theoretical or conceptual models being applied to complex human lives!

Hate to be rude but I already now that, but thanks for letting people know though so that they can learn something as well!

@@comprends2138 as big brain as I am I don’t even know LOL

I think its better to think of them as a frame work rather than as a law. It can be helpful to some to contextualize their grief in that way, but we can't be so rigid in the belief of the stages that we dismiss the individual grieving process, because its different for everybody.

Lol even the classifications for the personality disorders are not black and white. When it comes to actually understanding the mind, psychology turns into metaphysical philosophy

They are not reliable but I think you can still call yourself an Infp. I consider myself to be an infp. And I'm a psychologist. It's just fun, not everything fun has to be serious. Just don't treat it as sth that determines your value/fate/everything in your life.

Yeah I agree with you guys. I just thought the MBTI was something that psychologists used but yeah it is a starting point in helping to define ourselves.

@@rjmiko333 I only pull out the word INTP when I need to look for strengths and weaknesses for an interview. I need to manage these weaknesses to make myself look nearly perfect on paper.

Greetings from an ENFP Burt by that fact.

Hurt*

@Nancy Jaimes Reyes Might be worth taking that feedback seriously. You probably don't have a disorder, but there's a lot of misunderstanding about germs that has people doing things like wiping grocery cart handles. Lot of bad, unscientific ideas about bacteria and viruses.

You can be a neat freak or a germa phobe and not have ocd. You can even have ocd qualities and not have ocd, like repeating tasks and what not. My doctors think I might have ocd and I have none of the common traits most associate with it. I have intrusive thoughts and nightmares and they told me that is a form of ocd. Honestly if it isn't effecting your daily life and how you function you probably don't have it. There is a reason its called Obsessive Compulsion Disorder lol. Wanting to do something isn't the same as having to do it, or not realizing you are doing it and having it screw your life up.

A friend of mine called me a psychotic about cleaning because my house is tidy and relatively clean. I do a general cleaning every two weeks but I never leave things or trash everywhere and my house is quite minimalistic. My husband helps a lot and he is tidy as a person too. She, on the other hand, pets her animals and then cooks without even washing her hands first. Her house is filled with objects and her trash bin smells from meters away.

I've noticed that some of the cleaning things actually help set things up to be easier to keep in order later on.

One of my dearest friends died last week and I spent most of the day sobbing. And I knew she was dying and was expecting the call any day.

@@shamanbeartwo3819 I'm so sorry, I'm praying for you 😯😯😯💗💗💗 I was very sad for a long time when my great grandmother died. She was the only extended family I had

@@jasperdent4363 - Thank you for your kind thoughts and prayers.

@@shamanbeartwo3819 absolutely 💗

then thats depression not sadness, dumbass

I think it would be more appropriate for a Neuropsychologist (rather than a clinical psychologist aka therapist) or a Neurologist to address these disorders

Cara same! Adhd may be a more common disorder but there are so many myths about it that the average person doesn’t seem to know about it at all.

Same. I have ADHD and i'd love to see a video on 15 myths about ASD. BTW, i am somehow handling quarintine in SF kinda well.

I have had ADHD and I’ve had people tell me its not real. For those who don’t believe its real I dare you to spend a day with me off my med and watch me try to do some house hold tasks cause you can see it

@@Dragondude16 I'd show them my adhd superpowers. Or the research showing the meds working for people.

When it said bad parenting I instantly thought, abusive and neglective parents ect.

@@f.k6920 right? maybe they weren't talking about those cases but it should have been specified more clearly

It rankles me for people to have the misconception that you can be cured. You can be in a more stable state, but it goes with you everywhere.

God be with you fam

Or just use weed

Both TMS, ECT and ketamine seem to be very promising, I know people who had great results with some of those (one of the guys I know who has hardcore shizophrenia was crying of happiness after his first ECT session). There are psylocibin and LSD treatments on the horizon also and we may yet see the day when we'll be cured with CRISPR or cybernetics or something. I'm myself past a dozen ADs (currently on mirtazapine + valproic acid for bipolar/dysthymia/cyclothymia) and yet to try therapy, but I'm kinda stable so no rush. Best of luck to you.

Not everyone does well on antidepressants and therapy. Testing all medications while sick is exhausting. I hope you are doing better. All the best.

they said that too, they called about ANHEDONIA which is what you describe ~I think.

That's not depression that's a brain dead situation , try running naked in freezing cold weather for an hour daily it will go away within a week

Depression has different symptoms, not everyone will feel the emptiness you desrcribed when they are depressed.

depression is different for every person, for me i can be really sad today but tomorrow i'll be feeling empty, and going sad again for the rest of the week

Depression is a little different for every person. At times, I felt completely empty and I could not express any emotions. I felt like a robot. Like I was just going through life, but not ""experiencing" it. I would want to get angry or cry, but I was unable too. It got me very frustrated and It felt like I was "losing who I used to be". Other times, I was extremely sad, or extremely anxious to point of having anxiety attacks. I had the depression that was coupled with anxiety, and it was probably what someone could easily define as mental torture. I would get anxiety attacks several times a day. You FEEL that shit. Nowadays I just have a somewhat mild form, without the frequent extreme anxiety. Still a little rough though.

people with npd are not inherently abusers nor is anyone with any disorder. there is no mental illness that can make you hurt another person. im truly sorry that you were emotionally abused and i wish you all the best in your healing and recovery but it is not okay to throw mentally ill people under the bus

@@milosmith5326 agreed!

@@milosmith5326 'Narcissist', 'narcissism' and 'narcissistic' are not diagnostic terms. They are descriptive terms used to describe a particular pattern of behaviour. They are useful word because they encapsulate a variety of behaviours into one word. Calling someone narcissistic is no different than calling someone antagonistic or difficult, or calling someone agreeable or friendly. Meanwhile, 'Narcissistic Personality Disorder' is a diagnostic term, which consists of meeting a certain behavioural criteria and that behaviour causing distress for the person diagnosed with the disorder. If anything, your comment actually invalidates the experience of miira saika and how they feel about their parents. Someone who can be described as narcissistic may have traits such as: lack of empathy, entitlement, gradiosity, selfishness, high-conflict confrontation behaviour, interpersonally challenging and uncooperative. However, that does not mean that they have a disorder. But I can tell you, there's a few people in my life who I would consider to be narcissistic in the way they behave. That does not mean they have Narcissistic Personality Disorder

@@liambraithewaite6415 keep away from those toxic people whatever 'term' or label they like or don't like being called.

That either is or should be illegal. Imagine them using f'ing astrological signs. God damn I hate Myers Briggs.

@@aplus1080 Yeah, it was the 2010s so I'm not sure anymore. But yeah it was weird

Retail is a nightmare, you dodged a bullet.

He means that seeking blame and feeling resentment towards your parents after realizing that something is not quite right won't get you anywhere. At least that's how I understood the message.

Who's the expert

He should’ve elaborated, I think he was just referring more to the fact that he’s working on the understanding that there is not one cause of mental illness. It can be social but it’s often also biological, or cognitive, or vice versa. But he is right in that parents make mistakes all the time & it doesn’t mean that they should take the blame for mental illness just because they make one mistake, although ofc it depends on the mistake & the degree to which it is made.

patrolmostwanted it won’t get you anywhere if you want to move forward. it is a normal response to resent your attacker because that’s what your brain does. it’s in survival mode. survival mode doesn’t have rationality bruv.

Bad parenting is not the same as being an abusive parent.

Walking Charade A great example is when you get mad and then a few minutes later you are laughing about something.

@@koolk2269 I'm not saying sometimes emotions aren't fleeting. they can be. I'm saying this idea that if they last more than 10 minutes it might be pathological and a mental illness is absurd and harmful if that's what she tells clients. If she's never experiencing emotions for longer than 10 minutes maybe that's a her problem

If you replay the situation over and over again in your mind, you'll keep experiencing the emotion. With better coping techniques, I've found myself able to get over the negative emotions much quicker. Maybe if she had more time to speak she would've gone into more detail about the kinds of situations that may have you experiencing the emotions repeatedly, without it being related to mental illness. If you're able to feel happiness despite also feeling sad before and after the happiness, then the emotion isn't stuck lasting that long. Maybe I'm wrong 🤷‍♀️

@@jessp4016 happiness is also an emotion. One that by this definition should also be fleeting. The idea that negative emotions over a loss or anger at injustice should last no more than ten minutes is as absurd as the idea that happiness lasts but a moment. That's not how the word emotion is used. If she means something else she should say something else. There is no pathological cut off for emotion.

@@wakingcharade yeah I'm not happy at base, and it comes in moments, cycling back repeatedly depending on what I'm doing. But they only had so much time, probably being rushed through answers, so 🤷‍♀️ that's what we get

That seems like an issue ngl

What are you doing in my head?!

@@delevator8755 what ? Is it the same for you ? Then hi comrade

@@Nili7012 in mine too!

same. im down in the depths im always in. therapy & medicine and im still down

Late

Or other mental health professionals! Seriously we worry

I really needed to see this comment tbh I havent been in contact for 3 weeks im gonna call tomorrow. .

Oh god that's a thing that's extremely pathetic they don't even think what it does too the therapist. They only care about there shitty ass selves

@@thelegendkillersshittyduff1335 Dear random internet person, Sometimes the mental illness is the reason for the ghosting. Like if they get severe panic attacks with phone calls, or all of their energy goes into just getting out of bed in the morning, etc. Sometimes it's not an active choice, and they likely already think they're shitty and pathetic. Also, going to therapy is really a struggle for some people in the first place. Please try to see they potential reasons for the situation before making such comments in the future, especially in regards to mental health, as it could negatively impact someone trying to manage a difficult situation. Thank you, Other random internet person

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I am glad to hear that😊

Dude antidepressants don’t do shit all they do is make pharmaceuticals gain profit if you want to open and expand your mind you need to try hallucinogenics but before you do always do your research

@@Salinassss And what type of mental health clinician are you? Are you just looking up articles, or do you have an actual license to practice?

Tsukushi Ikeda because people that are licensed by government oriented facilities are pretty reliable. Clinical practices are dictated by government and it hinders our ability to expand in all areas of the medical field, instead everyone is worried with filling their pockets.You don’t need a stupid certification to understand the underlying complexities of the brain. Also you do realize that the only way you can learn about the mind is to either perform your own experiments or reading published articles and journals from other psychologists.

@@Salinassss Antidepressants are working to some level, not everyone reacts to it the same way. Some will require strong one and others will require weak ones just to rebalance dopamine. The "big pharma" of Canada made 16$ out of me each months I used antidepressants. I feel so poor now!! /s I'm just not in a back bearing thinking country without free healthcare. It wasn't about opening my mind, it was about rebalancing hormones. Antidepressants used ALONE don't do shit and that's proven, you need to actively work on yourself, consult and follow a treatment plan. Psychologist went to school, learnt how the body works, how psychology works and have been tested and deemed worthy and scientific enough to be employed. Pretty sure they know more about mental health than someone using Google to find answers to all his problems.

Yeah.... depression etc aren’t nearly as stigmatized as personality disorders. Yet they’re the only ones we talk about... it’s sad

It would be great for them to talk about these disorders but there are still so many misconceptions about 'common' mental illnesses so I guess we have to start somewhere. If we properly understand anxiety disorders and depression we can better understand other personality disorders without forming misconceptions, y'know?

Yeah I thought they were going to mention DID when they discussed the myth about schizophrenia but they didn't. I hate being treated like we're unicorns

Like what myths?

@@aplus1080 I think there’s a myth that people with borderline personality disorder are sociopaths

I think he meant that blaming your parents for your mental illness wont get you anywhere, and you cant change the way you were raised. He never really said it doesnt cause mental illness

I hope you are not referring to parents hitting the children when necessary when you say horrible parenting. Mostly Western countries aka "white people countries" always blur the lines between abuse and disciplining their children. If hitting their own children was so bad then almost every person from Eastern countries would be having mental health issues or will be depressed and what not.

@@mimipancakez4700 that's like telling someone who got stabbed that blaming the person for stabbing them won't get them anywhere because they can't change it

@@gulammohiddin5747 most people DO have mental health issues, they're just in denial about it and don't get help

@@gulammohiddin5747 Take your racism elsewhere.

That's not the talking about it, that's people who aren't educated giving bad advice. The video addresses the idea that if you talk about your own depression, that makes it worse, so just ignore it and it will go away.

@@Tracymmo oh, I see now. My bad.

If anything, the psychologist was just simply stating that parents shouldn't be blamed for all the mental illnesses that their child can undergo.

Awesum Bear ...and your "beliefs" are backed up by what evidence?

Bad parenting could lead to bad habits in ones adult life but it doesn’t exactly mean their child will experience a mental illness. It’s not like a person has schizophrenia because of their parents. But the main phrase here is ‘mental illness’. I just think it’s bad habits and having those bad habits may actually lead to upsetting relationship changes which could also lead to depression. But in this case, it was the bad habits that set the depression off - not the bad parenting

I noticed that too.. it can happen. I'm a foster child because my parents abused me, and I developed post traumatic stress disorder from my parents abuse. Parent's unhealthy actions can potentially have an effect on their child's mental health. I'm a university student in Child and Youth Care where family dynamics and mental health is heavily studied, and an overwhelming amount of evidence says that parent's actions have an effect on their children.

He's refering to the Biopsychosocial model (4p factor model too) which specifies that there must be multiple reasons for a mental disorder to occur. A traumatic event (social factor) must also be coupled with biological and/or psychological factor to spur a mental disorder. This is why not everyone who suffers a traumatic event will experience a mental disorder.

of course they can, they even said so in this video. but the point is that not all people who are exposed to a traumatic situation develop PTSD

@@WatermelonIsBetterThanRice Nah, I've had some great ones who took it in stride. It's just the bad ones that are especially memorable.

Hellefleur It do be like that sometimes

Could be cbt

I'm not a psychologist. I do have persistent depression and get treated by a therapist/psychologist. I don't think sharing memes counts as a substitute for therapy with a therapist. The difference is that if you share a suicide related meme, for example, your doctor will never say "omgg, too much info". Doctors will be able to talk with you the underlying reasons, or how seeing the meme made you feel. etc. But, I do think it's helpful, to share memes. To at least acknowledge that you feel that way, and someone else made a meme that feels that way too. So you know you are not alone.

Memes cure depression, this is pretty basic information man

Hellefleur No.

Yes, there is such a thing as being too depressed for therapy.

I too had medications before therapy. I often think that they saved my life. Without medications for depression and anxiety, my brain tries to kill me.

I’m definitely way too depressed for therapy.

@@dahliablack3999 please take care, your life will be much better afterwards

@@dahliablack3999 You deserve to feel good. I am a total stranger and i care about you. I know when i am feeling really low, all i want to do is be alone, but often that is actually the opposite of what i need. Meds have definitely helped me, and therapy certainly helped me too. I wish you all the best on your journey of healing

I agree.

Agree

Galaxy Gamers exactly you like doing it its only ocd if you have to do it to relive anxiety or stress about the fact that your family might die if you don't

so how did you deal with it?

バカロン I still deal with it today. Honestly there’s no right answer that helps everyone. I mean there’s things I use to cope, like healthy distractions, drawing, working out etc. going to my close friends or family was one of the hardest things for me to do because I was embarrassed of my thoughts and didn’t want to seem weak, but saying them out loud and confiding in someone helps so much. also, this is personally what helps for me, but putting my faith into god helped me tremendously, just because I felt like the dread and fear constantly haunting me could be put onto someone else. i know my anxiety typically can last anywhere from like a week to at one point almost a month, just waking up and going to sleep worrying and dreading life, it was so miserable. but who knows maybe one day it’ll get better that’s all i can hope for you know

*The other day I remembered one time I very slightly upset someone and it was resolved immediately and nothing bad happened *And it was over a year ago *But I still couldn't help but dwell on it and p much just cry about it the whole day- *Tbh tho I don't know anyone who says they have anxiety to be trendy except maybe like. 12 year olds? And even then, in personal experience, they're usually just identifying symptoms of it but no one takes them seriously. Then again, I don't go out much, so maybe people act differently irl than online.

Prince Balloon eh idk maybe it’s not as much as a commonality now as when i was in HS, but i recall people seeing having depression and anxiety as “angsty” and trendy. that was around 2013, so maybe it’s less likely but i still think the word is thrown around a lot.

@@hopeschannel *Oh yeah I was definitely involved with people who thought it was edgy and stuff, but the problem was... people who wanted to be edgy themselves usually already had some underlying issues whether they realized it or not? Or were on the verge of developing them. Then again I seem to be younger than you so it might be a generational thing.

Don't worry, when you get older these things won't matter at all, you'll be laughing about it in your 20's.

Im 28 and i still struggle with social anxiety that it manifest physically, accelerated heart beat, freeze mode buy with therapy and medication I've had less

Or humanity

Or maybe thats how we deal with it.

Wow you must not be awfully bright if you think humor is a sign of immaturity :O

We’re afraid of vulnerability & we use humour to get through our pain.

I don't think that's what they meant, but a lot of immature people literally joke about everything and don't read the room or realize that not everything can be joked about and there is a time and place for joking. They even sugarcoat it by saying "iTs DaRk HuMoR" as if that would make it better or would make them seem like a genius.

What was the reaction of the professors you showed this video to?