thanks I don't understand why people don't get it. apparently ppl think there is one way to be racist.

I’ve never heard “not into Latino”. I usually hear not into blk asian but usually people only like white or Latin. Just my experience 🙏🏻

"I am not into Latinos", from Whites is as rare as "I am not into Whites" from rest of the community.

OMG you brought up racial fetishism! No ONE EVER EVER talks about it.

Gay life is to complicated. I'll just stay single and keep focusing on other things in life.

I’m black Whenever I went on Grindr and put a picture of myself I get no messages or I get blocked right after. conversation could be going good which a blank profile but once I send a picture of myself to them They’ll block me Or they’ll tell me sorry I’m not into black guys then block Not everyone is like this I’m just saying some of the people I talk on grindr were like that

I heard "nerds over jocks" and was like "what kind of candy is jocks" this is why I need help

Eurocentric beauty norm is racist, not a preference. Every individual of X race, rejecting individuals of Y race on ad-hoc basis is same as announcing "not into Y race".

I did not knowingly knew that gay people can be racist. I thought they want love, equality, and fantasizing about a unicorn.

I hate that there are people out there that think race is a important factor in relationships! Your race shouldn't matter when dating, and if you do act like this and refuse to change you don't deserve a relationship of any kind

I'm SO glad you brought up this topic, Dylan. I've actually dated more POC than I have white guys, but I see ALL THE TIME gay guys who will only date white guys or turn down someone because they're black or latino or asian. And on the other end of the spectrum, I've seen gay guys who have Asian fetishes or something of that nature. It's really sad that people are still seen as a color instead of a person by some people. And it's such a huge thing especially in the gay community and it just contributes to the sort of body shaming and other body image and self confidence issues that are already happening within the LGBTQ+ community. We definitely need to keep working to erase these sorts of behaviors from the community and make it a more inclusive. loving space as it was intended to be. We already go through enough discrimination, why should we add more to the pile?

Yeah, I've experienced this behavior a lot. Sometimes people I have no interest in dating tell me they could never date me because I'm black. I was happy just being friends. On the other side the whole "I love black d*ck thing is a major turnoff" One time someone asked me how to tell a black guy that was interested in him that he wasn't interested because he's not into black guys. If I hadn't been stunned I would have told him the same way you tell anybody else you're not interested.

this really needs to be discussed alot more, this is one of the many factors that triggered my depression and anxiety which then extended to thoughts that are just bad to say the least...

Very true and the sad truth is, I’ve experienced more racism within the gay community than i did growing up in conservative East Texas.

I'm friends with people of all different skin colours, genders, sexual orientations, religions,and races. All my friends in the school are friends with each other. This hit me hard, I always disliked my skin colour. I was very young and affected by the media. I would look at the television and see people with my skin colour who are barely seen because many white people or Europeans (I hope I don't offend anyone, don't take it the hard way. I'm no sure how to even word this) I always see Asians or black peoples be like the robber (stereotypes ugh) or they either poorly represented as a person. I can't lie that the media affects me. It really does. And it's so sad how others can't be accepting. Thanks for making this video. I love these because I can rant. Remember : we are part of society and can change for the better. 😊

Thank you so much for this! I see this all the time as a LGBTQ+ member who happened to be of colour. I'm so glad you're addressing this, more people need to. I'm tired of being part of a fetish or ignored because of my background.

And there are still jokers who keep saying " it saves everybody time" by saying no to certain race. just stop

Dylan this video is very empowering and can really help those who are struggling.

very needed video dylan, love ya

Thank you so much for making this video and please, please, _please_ make more videos like this once in a while.

When you said nerds I thought you meant the candy.......... Am I the only one? Yes? Oh........ Ok then

Thank you so much for talking about this!

Dylan, can I just say how much of an awesome person you are? First of all, your Minecraft videos are hilarious and never fail to make me laugh or smile. But, even more importantly, your personality is so admirable. You aren't afraid to be yourself, talk about real life issues, and stand up for what's right. Thank you for being you

The reason I went to my elementary school was because my mom thought that the school in my district wasn't diverse enough

Glad you brought up this topic, Dylan! It's such a real thing, and people need to be aware of how harmful their comments may be. Especially with so much interaction happening online, it's so easy to just slap on "no asians" or "no blacks" and just write off people completely based on race before even saying hello. Change won't happen overnight, but like you said, opening it up to conversation is going to help a ton!

I love that someone is addressing this, It's really dehumanising to be judged on your race without being heard for who you are. I'm Australian so I can't say I get it a lot but its important to be aware of rude and unnecessary behaviour and make it less acceptable

Very well-said Dylan. After watching this video, I am now considering deleting my Gindr profile because of the racism I see in people using the app. It's kinda makes me sad seeing their profile information saying "No Asians please", you get the gist. Obviously, we're gonna be attracted by a person based on their physicality but if you factor their race in as the main reason why you want to date that person or why you don't want to date that person, then it becomes a very problematic behavoir.

me and my friends include all races and sexualities, since we all are different. I have bi, , straight and gay friends. As well as black, asian, white, latino ect, I love my group for being so inclusive. I think some people exclude other races and I think it's absolutely horrible, thank you for making this video to spread the word (:

Thank you for addressing this issue about our community. Guys always fail to realize it's not a real compliment when they say to me "I'm usually not into Asians but you're cute". But the majority of the time they write me off because I'm Asian

I totally agree. When I was in elementary school, my friends were all like," White boys are so cute!" " Asians are so rude!" Today I'm best friends with 3 Asians and they are literally the most free spirited awesome people I've ever met. I try to keep away from people who look for a certain race to judge, personality is everything. I approach everyone the same, and how they respond is what I go off of. I hate people who decide beforehand HOW to approach the person by their looks or style. NEVER judge someone you don't even know.

This was so inspiring. And I completely agree with you. I used to have a friend who only liked a certain race and i thought it was so wrong. I dont have a preference i have 5+ friends of each race and we all get along just fine. Thank you Dylan for bringing this up cuz it is a really important topic

Yes, this is needed for KZfaq. Thank you so much for posting this UGH

I love this video. Thank you for making it

I personally try not believe in race and just see us all as people. But I am guilty of finding people of latin culture, European culture, and asian culture more attractive than Brazilian or African culture. And I'm doing my best to break out of that view. Unfortunately I still haven't had the opportunity to date anyone. I just look and admire people's features or personalities to those I actually know. Idk just dumping my thoughts.

Could this video have existed 50 years ago?

This is so true, and I think that the biggest issues is that people don't recognize the racism or segregation they apply when they say something. For example, if you're out with your friends at a restaurant, and you're mentioning the waitress in a conversation, some people might just say "the waitress" while others may say "the Latino waitress". Most people wouldn't even realize that what they said could be considers racist. Another thing that bugs me is when someone says something like "he screamed like a girl" or "her new haircut makes her look like a boy". Why do people feel the need to describe something like that? It's much more than just being specific, and some people may say that it's not racism, so it's okay, but it's not. It's all considered segregation. In my opinion, the first step towards being a non-racist community, or stop judging people based off of their race, is to recognize when someone is being racist, even if they don't mean it, and tell them that it's not okay

You are one of many who have addressed this issue. You handled it VERY well by making really good points and giving solid examples.

Thank you, this video needs a whole lot more views

I honestly hate watching white gay men talk about racism if they haven't truly experienced it first hand. don't try and act innocent like you've never done it or try cover up the true ugliness of your own actions. say the words that truly show what you are if you know them.

I like the fact that you have addressed this.Thanks

Dylan, this was the best possible time you could post this video. I'm doing an essay in my english class, and my topic is racism/steriotypical behavior towards gays as displayed on television. Although your video isn't exactly centered around LGBT actors, it can and does still apply to that area. Thank you so much for this insight, it helps a lot!

We would think gays are more empathic when it comes to race and gay.

Thank you for sharing this wonderful video.

Thanks for posting this Dillon!!! Or is it Dylan,Dillan or Dillon

Thank you for bringing this up Dylan, people in this world can be idiots a lot of time. I have friend is a different race them me, she gets bullied because of her race. Yesterday i was at school my other friend came up to me and said...I dont really like your other friend so... its either me or her.. so i picked her because she doesnt come to me and say its either me or her. so like I sayed thank you for bringing this up -Bella

Even physical attractions are biased because a little example, there are melanin people with blonde hair who identify as African descent and I am not talking about albinism in black or other ethnic people and individuals.

I didn't watch the full video so I don't know what you said I made it to 48 seconds. I want to say who cares what others say about you and you should be happy for who you are and so should your fans and friends. We all care for you and keep up your amazing work. You make people laugh when there sad you lift people's spirits up when there down. Your amazing at what you do. You make me laugh when I'm sad and the past days fee days weren't the best.

When Dylan says, "Stay awesome, stay beautiful, bye bye!" My mind ALWAYS goes to Anna Akana's outro, "Stay awesome Gotham!" I NEED HELP OKAY. Anyways, this was a great video. It really shows that it doesn't matter what's on the outside of a person, but the bootiful inside. :> xo

My old friend used to be really racist and used to call Africa Americans by the N word and then she marrys an african and has like 5-8 kids I'm fine with it but she still aks really racist and thts not okay

preach🙌🏼 showing this to everyone I know because racism needs to stop right here, right now

I see more ageism in dating profiles than anything!

Thanks for posting that video. I had experience some of those behaviors myself. I have presences myself, like l love green apples but sometimes I eat red.

God, I love you for talking about this. I fear because I'm Asian other gay guys won't date me, or they'll date me solely because I'm Asian. It actually makes me not want to get into the gay dating scene. Another problem I'd like the raise is the fetishism of gay white males in the entertainment industry. Correct me if I'm wrong but it's almost always gay white males whenever there's a gay movie or gay TV show (not saying racism doesn't happen in the entertainment industry when it doesn't involve gay people either), and I grew up without an Asian gay role model, because there was rarely ever one. I feel like because I'm Asian and not white, I'm not good enough to other gay people, and like you've said, this has really damaged my self esteem.

Good for you!!! Someone really needs to say this! Keep loving yourself

Dylan - You hit this on the nose. This is such an important issue!

Luv you Dylan

can i just say something dylan is such a nice guy. just like rly. i dont even think he knows he has kids on his channel and hes teaching them to respect the lgbt community

The other day my 'friend ' told me being gay is as bad as being black...

I need to show this to literally every single person in my school because they make fun of me because I'm middle eastern. And being middle eastern mean I have a big nose. Or what people in my school all it, a big @$$ nose. Not very great to hear every day, right? There have been days when I skipped school and refused to leave my bed because I didn't want to good luck to school and face these people. I want to tell them all "Before we were born we weren't able to chose which family we wanted to be in and what our appearances look like. And if we can trust me I wouldn't be here now."

Interesting point. Although there is a difference between being sexually attracted to a certain race and being romantically attracted. I think in a romantic relationship, people are more open about being of any race and more attracted to personality. But, many people do just have a preference when they are looking at people. I know I do. Whether that view carriers over or not is up to that person

I never experienced any racial hangups but I’ve seen a lot of whites on Grindr saying No blacks, no fems, no fats, etc...and I feel like personally that shit hurts because it’s like you’re attacking someone because of their race. It’s not their fault that they are that race..just be open cause you’re definitely missing out if you don’t date a black guy or a fem guy whatever the case may be. We already get bashed as it is..why are we bashing each other off of race or the color of someone skin.

So is it just as wrong to "prefer" no fats or fems?

Dylan. I would love to watch you're live streams what time are they for east coast?

While agreeing with you on mostly, I have to add something. People are free to limit themselves to a certain race too if they want to, close-mindedness is a freedom too. Where I stand is side where everybody is happy; in the same vein, I find some grindr profiles are racist. One can prefer some people for their race over others but what they can't and should not do is expressing it in a way that can be hurtful in my opinion. For example: you might not find black or asian people sexually attractive to you; but you do not have to say that on your grindr profile like "no blacks no asians". Nobody forces you to respond anyone back.

What I think about racism dating wise is if someone develop feelings for a person but purposely exclude them because of their race. However since you've mentioned how the media could impact us, I'm having mixed thoughts.

Someone said I'm bad because I don't celebrate certain holidays and that I wore a play bear hat with a turtle and a dark angel voodoo doll on it and that I'm Christian.

Upbringing and environment can play a HUGE role in preferences. I grew up in a predominantly white suburb and have been a around white people in my early years so I tended to favor white men at the time. Then as I traveled around my preferences started changing.

What is your opinion on Bisexual people? Because i have a lesbian friend and she says that bisexuals always end up choosing one side or the other... and it makes me feel invalid >~

I'm a 60 year old Black Homosexual. It continues to fascinate me how white gay men will date and possibly marry someone who looks EXACTLY like them. They look more like brothers than husbands.

This isn't in the dating sense, but my one of my best friends is latino, one is Asian, and one is Indian, however the four of us are the perfect group of friends. As for me, I judge people mostly on their personality, and that is the way everyone should judge people. Not by looks.

There are normal, non-racist dudes who are NOT on dating apps like me... I don't look at race AT ALL in life, I think it's because I had every nationality growing up in school and we all played sports! P.S. Vancouver here!!

I'd be a bit wary of throwing the term racism around for people who date exclusively within their own race. For one thing how does that compare with people from ethnic minorities who do the same? Those in the majority race have a lot more choice and may just happen to not come across someone from a different race, the same is less true for those in the monitory. Equally there are certain physical characteristics more prevalent or even exclusive to certain races. Is there a difference between a white person going out with someone because they are Asian compared to doing it because they are ginger?

We cannot change racist beauty norms. The least we can do is to make proper race classifications in gay dating sites - like removing Mediterranean, Middle Eastern, Latino, Indian as "RACE" category. Med and ME are Caucasian, Latin is mixed race, East Indian is nationality, not a race at all. Someone who routinely refuses interracial, the least he can do is to admit it.

Is the last clip over commentated? It looks like your lips didn't match the words? lol Just wondering

Dylan, what does cistgender mean?(sorry if i spelled it wrong.)

What if I prefer Asians, but I believe in getting to know a person and their personality before judging them? I just feel more relatable with a fellow Asian, but I love getting to know other races since its more culture and yeah Idk, I just feel like I like people by their personality, but I'm more lenient if their Asian no racism acquired. Its what I grew up near I guess it's true with the whole "where u grow up has a substantial effect on your bias"

bravo for speaking up and out on this common occurrence

WOW!!! I totally agree with you! I say this all the time!

Earlay! Gettin' ready to slay!

did you see the Davy wavy video!???

Preach

Domt worry as a latino im not into latinas either. Living with them my whole life already.

dunno, still suffering from my ex man lol, the way he treats me was like a mixture of pity and sympathy, he's alway been like "oh i know how it feels like to be asian" "awww i know how hard it is" oh well, hopefully ill move on form him soon enough, still miss him tho lol

Good job

preach

I just realized what the monstercap part meant

I was playing with this guy in Hypixel Skywars. I don't know who he is :/

Who likes pie!?

I agree!

I've had an ex who was only into girls from the Uk/Ireland.Lets just say I was pissed off when he said that. I'm still young and have a lot to learn in life but one thing I'll never understand is why people are racist or homophobic or just need to share a harsh opinion that doesn't benefit anyone. I've had many arguments with homophobic people, on the Internet and in real life.Although not a single person has proven me wrong.They all curse at me then start throwing names at me before leaving. As for people who are racist.I have no idea what so ever.Yea one of my ex's sucked ass but he wasn't the most cooperative person to talk with, and blocked me quicker than he replied to me. Anyway like really -3- If they were thinking about others and not themselves maybe they'd realise someone like them, from another race is probably thinking of them like that.Unfortunately all humans can't get along :c Some just can't accept the truth and say that they're wrong. lolI I'm bad at stories

Far East Asian, so when I was in Elementary, nearly every day, someone would ask me if my eyes were open. ☹️

My great granny died on Friday

I have no problems with dating any type of race. My preferences are on chemistry or if you are my type which usually come to common interests. For example, I am heavily into art, music, or motorcycles. So whether you are Black, Asian, Latino, White, or Etc. it doesn't matter. I am just going to be selective on whether you prefer doing a night at a formal club or are we going to a bike run like Sturgis. 😀 In other words, if a guy is Black and more of a biker bear type, I am going to prefer him over a white guy who wants to go to a formal club. 😁

who we are around definitely affects our attraction. My Muslim friend used to only date black guys because she would only hang around black people. Now she exclusively likes Asians because she moved to a different neighbourhood and hangs out with only Asians now. This is in Toronto which makes more sense.

all true. I have my own share of being rejected up front just because of being an asian. Sucks but true.

Okay so here's the thing. I don't think this is a problem in general. I don't think you should generalize a community. See, you could go and say these things that you feel to your friends. To be honest, race doesn't matter. If you want to have friends based on their race, isn't that just the same as saying "He's kinda cute for a black guy"?

I am not sure their is an upside to trying to force a sexual experience on ones self, if you know upfront that it just not going to do anything for you. Neither side of that equation is going to have a good time. An appropriate analog to your argument may be to say, your sexist for feeling that women couldn't please to you sexually. I would hope you would see how that logic is flawed. On a side note: my response to "He's cute for a black guy" would be "Yeah, I hear they're allowed to do that now." -_-

This is a realllllllly hard topic and something I've struggled with in my life. It walks a fine line between racism and attraction/preference. In my life I realized that I check out more white men and basically ignored dark skinned men. I've told people this and they would say that I'm being a little discriminatory. My mind is open to any relationship because you don't want to lose out on something special, and I could end up falling for a black guy or maybe even a woman if the circumstances ended up right. In the end I think it's important that you are just not objectifying groups of people. Live your life and find love in the people you want to find love in. I've been in relationships with white guys that are really nice and sweet, but I've had to be honest with myself and say that I'm just not attracted to them and move on to someone new.

I had to think for a while to remember if I had any non-white friends. Then I remembered that my high school group of friends was basically a PSA for integration. I just didn't remember they were non-white/non-swiss, because to me they are just Jessica, Marissa, Livi,... They are not their ethnicity and they are not their nationality; they're just my friends.

If people don't know that their comments are causing offence can you really say that it is racist since their is no racist intention behind the words?