And,I don’t understand why all family must go to all appointments. “ I can’t do this no more they’re taking all my time!” So lady, don’t go. Let daughter go try on 109 dresses and they when she narrows it down, bring mom in.

Yes

I wonder if the reason she wanted so badly for her mom to say she loved the dress is because she thought mom would offer to help pay for it?

people are people and many don't know how to navigate with proper etiquette, socially. Many have backstories or some issues with their families and finances and have a hard time verbalizing. Etc. I know it sucks for the consultant, but pivoting with new information is important.

@@hugs_xo I agree. She didn't need to mention why she had a budget just say hey my budget is $3500. Like one comment said maybe she thought her mom would pitch in.

Yessir, that girl is a prize. I give the marriage 7 months, tho I think she did make a wise decision.

Probably she wanted to be sure she looked the best on her chosen dress regardless of the price. Honestly, the double price dress here didn’t make much of a difference with the other store. She made a good decision even with all the pressure from her sister and the salesperson.

Cinematic choreography. No drama, no show.

Veil’s tend to make dresses look better but granted I don’t really see the point in spending thousands on a dress for 1 day but idk

Its says yes to the veil😂😂

Me too never did understand 😅

​@@juancoronado3736my dress was actually $150. And it was beautiful!!! ❤

I thought that at first. It but it seems entirely self inflicted. She found her freaking dress 2 weeks ago and mom pitched a fit

she did find her dress just no one was supportive so she second guessed herself and kept looking. All bc mom was being inconsiderate and selfish. It's her daughter's wedding and her dress and her money. She probably would have brought this one if mom really liked it too but she knew it wasn't genuine. And that's what she wanted most someone to validate her and approve of the dress. Mom did this to herself and the other daughter by not acknowledging what her daughter wanted and only focused on her vision which doesn't matter! It's more difficult when they are paying for the dress but in this case they weren't so it was really just validation she wanted and to do that would have cost the mom nothing. She only turned on the water works when she realized she was gonna change out of that dress and keep looking bc the sister suggested if she cried she may pick the dress... Very sad her own family couldn't be supportive of her over something as simple as a dress. And if they really didn't want to shop with her to this extent they should have just told her nicely they think its better if she shops alone bc they are complicating the decision. Not come along just to complain the whole damn time and just say yes to any dress to get it over with.

@@alexrusso6503I’m so glad when I went dress shopping (when I thought I was getting to have the big wedding) we rushed and had a “court house” wedding my mom sister and best friend was supportive and told me it was my day I had to choose. They gave opinions but really left it up to me

@@alexrusso6503 The mum is great, she's finding the humour in the situation rather than getting frustrated with the bride. And the sister obviously 'gets it' and makes it into a double act with "I think if you were to shed a tear she might do it". As for not being supportive, you may have noticed they didn't say any of this to her face, they were just having a giggle between themselves while she was getting changed, and why shouldn't they? They look like a family who are used to teasing each other and there was certainly no ill feeling when they were all together afterwards. If the bride had wanted to spend that much money she'd have got the dress whatever her mum said, simple as that. Her sister hit the nail on the head when she said she liked the dress but didn't want to pay that much for it and she agreed. She was only hesitating out of embarrassment because she'd originally told the staff there was no budget.

@@cyflym11 I do agree with that it doesn't seem like there were any hurt feelings over this and this is just normal banter and joking in their family. Hell mine is that way. They were funny. But they did complicate the dress selection and though they didn't say it to her face it did effect their attitude towards the process. Which who wouldn't be over it shopping that many times that's just human nature hoe you feel about something effects your actions. I don't think they realized how important that approval and validation was to this process and I think that's what the sales ppl gave her and that's why she went with the dress she loved originally. If mom had done that then and taken it a little more seriously they wouldn't of had to keep shopping. There's really no way she could have known and she just doesn't seem like that kinda "mom" she's more chill and relaxed and down to earth. So no I don't think anyone meant any harm here. I don't think the bride was upset either. I think it just complicated the process and then to complain about it is ironic when your actions contributed to it. Mom did mention still about the vision she had for her daughter although she was the least pushy out of any one I've seen on that show about it.. BY FAR. And I don't think it really mattered much to mom I just think she personally wasn't a fan of the style dresses.

the thumbnail too, when did he EVER say "let's get this over with"?

@@dietotaku the mom says it, she is quoted in the title

It’s called clickbait

@@dietotakuthe mother said it in the video crazy how they made it seem like it was the bride smh

He didn't show it but I think he was. When he said "If it's not in your budget then you have to take the dress off, " he was basically saying stop wasting my time

Plus alterations and accessories on top. But she could always sell the dress after to make some of the money back

Absolutely right. And to be honest the dress was not that extra awesome to pay more than double the price.

It's showbiz, babe!

If u know your budget don't waste people time, they could probably sell another dress instead of wasting time for her just to try more expensive dresses she knew she wasn't going to shop..

I'd much rather spend that extra 4k on a little better food/photographer or honestly the honeymoon!

I'll bet the sister is swimming in debt with thay attitude. A credit card could easily turn that $7k dress into a $13k dress she'd be paying on for the next six years.

She was probably willing to pay whatever the cost if the dress blew her mind away. And just because you don’t have a budget but decide the cheaper by thousands dress is not much worse than this one then she is just being smart. There are plenty of things that she can spend the extra 4k on

@@TatyanaKosh Exactly. If you like two dresses equally and one is less than half the price, obviously that's going to factor into your decision.

Exactly! I always have my brides or moms say a number for a budget. Even if it’s the top of what our dresses range, then I at least know what I’m working with for them. Most stylists are going to be super respectful of budget because we understand the money discussion. If she’d laid that boundary down, Randy wouldn’t have pulled the $7000 gown, so that was fully on her for being willing to try on a gown that she knew she couldn’t pay for. At least she had the other option, and she looked so much happier in that one, anyway

Frrr

@@sarahrohde7923she COULD pay for it, she didn't think it was worth the extra $4,000 since she liked them equally

You’re just as married whether wearing a $400 dress or wearing a $5,000 dress.

🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 let’s repeat this please my own wedding was low budget and still beautiful 14 years two kids going strong

​@@RevLeigh55......Well said Rev. London. UK.

Most people I know paid for their own. That’s incredible you gave her that much

Well it’s hard to believe but I actually had an aunt die and leave me that amount. So we used it on the wedding. We were very fortunate! We paid almost all our own wedding. I had a used dress and our reception cost $250. We wanted to do more for our only daughter, and it worked out.

Exactly what I said

For real. I'd be saying I love it, let's get it and go.

She told them her budget was unlimited.

@thedorkettereads6052 True, but then she couldn't see herself spending so much for a dress, so in her mind, she had a budget, and she should have just said it even though it was an unlimited budget.

agree other people should shut up I doubt I'd take anyone along

But then there would be no show, right?

which is such a weird concept to me like why cant ppl just give the budget?? lol

@@doctorposting it’s so strange. People love to shop with no money too.

She wants to be preened over

That may make me throw somebody!

I genuinely didn't have a budget when I was wedding dress shopping. I was fortunate enough that my fiancé is in a very good financial position and he told me I could spend whatever I had to spend to feel good. I told the consultant I had an unlimited budget and that I didn't want to know how much the dresses were when I was trying them on, I just wanted dresses that looked good and made me feel good and whether that was £1000 or £10,000 so be it. In the end I got 2 dresses for £2200 and I couldn't have loved anything more, or felt better in anything, if it had cost a million pounds. I paid for my dresses outright there and then & ended up getting a 3rd dress the next day that I had loved, but my bridal part didn't like and the bridal shop gave me a discount as it was a small business. I insisted on paying full price for the 3rd dress but she wouldn't allow it so I got 3 dresses for £3000 and they were all paid for there and then, just as they would have been had I spent 30k (which I wouldn't have done). My fiancé would have done but I wouldn't & that's why I asked the consultant not to see the prices beforehand because I know I would have ended up going for what was cheapest rather than what I liked because I was conscious of not wanting to spend my fiancés money even though I had carté blanché to do so. So, yes, some brides do genuinely have an unlimited budget, & pay 100% of the price there and then to ensure the business owner knows it is paid. Then would pay for alterations further down the line when we knew how much they would cost.

they say the bride is picky. I think it's the mom that's picky.

@@kathyhuffman7523 The mom has a vision different from the bride’s and won’t yield it to the bride’s happiness. I’d bet this is a common pattern in the family.

It's going to be a 3 ring circus. So many clowns!!

This is true. I remember when I got married. I got off work early and drove to the bridal shop. It wasn't overly crowded and I had time to look at want I wanted. I called my mom to come and see the dress after i found the one i wanted. There were no bridesmaids, family members, friends or frenemies giving their unsolicited opinions of what they wanted to see me in 😊. My dress was absolutely beautiful.

Never had the experience it seems.

True, but half the time the mom is paying and deserves a say in what she's paying for. Also, weddings have a big emotional pull for both moms and brides (rightly or wrongly), so love of the dress is something they want to share.

10 minutes was enough for me

They probably went through way more dresses than they showed in this clip. also, he was probably a little disappointed for her that she didn't have the money. It was like a missed opportunity, he could have likely found her a dress similar to the other in her range.

THIS 🙌🏼🙌🏼👏🏻 I've been saying it for years DONT SHOW THEM YOUR DRESS UNTIL THE WEDDING DAY! then they have to love it. And small weddings are better too.

She actually wasn't up front... she said there was no budget! I agree $4k more not worth it but don't waste everyone's time.

She wasn't honest from the start. She said unlimited budget and that was not the case.

And *then* she tried to pressure the staff for a discount!

She was. The "I can't do this no more" made me cringe.

AMEN!

My mom spent £70 and looked incredible. There is definitely no need to bankrupt yourself for a dress you'll only wear once!

Same. My favourite dress in the dress shop before I got married was $6700. I found one on clearance for $500 that was beautiful. I could not justify getting into debt for something that would only be used for one day. In the end after alterations, I spent about $1000

I agree. Mine was $350 and I absolutely loved it.

Time is money. You could have spent your time making money but here you are flattering yourself by criticising another woman. "IM NOT LIKE OTHER GUUUURL" drama is not cute.

I died laughing Randy is a riot 😂😂

She’s short so most do stand up straighter to get that extra quarter inch 😁

Mom looks so young! I thought she was the bride

I’m more annoyed at mum, she wants this experience over, she’s had enough, she’s tired, she wants the daughter to pick a dress yet, she’s as picky as her daughter and doesn’t really like anything!

What connection? Seemed weak to me.

The dresses were very similar! And I agree with you, it seemed like mom didn’t want the shopping to end because she was enjoying being the drama 😅 I would’ve done exactly what Randy did and pull a dress that was another version of the one she was loving, and then go from there. If the bride had just trusted herself with the 1004 gown at first, though, she could’ve had the shopping done at the other store and she wouldn’t have needed to put herself through all that other stress

Like nails on a chalkboard

And their horrible spray tans

They aren’t even that bad. Bffr

One can have a budget and still chose a cheaper priced dress especially if that’s the one she keeps going back to, or doesn’t see the extra cost worth it on this one .

@@TatyanaKosh $7000 was out of her budget… so she had a budget. Get over it.

@@florida9728 nah she just didn’t think the 7000 dress was worth the 4000 difference. And good on her.

@@TatyanaKosh think what u want, she had a budget she just wanted to sound like she didn’t lol it is what it is 🤷🏽‍♀️

@@florida9728she wanted to see what she could get for an unlimited budget... and it was nice but not worth the cost difference

Especially since SHE'S the one paying for it. I wonder how many dresses in her range she turned down because mom and sis weren't liking them.

I mean the mom and sister didn’t help much. When she says she liked something and they start insisting it’s not what THEY envisioned than really it’s on them.

I 100% agree

If that's how you feel, that's fine. Wear jeans and go to the courthouse. Not everyone is like you, some people really enjoy fashion and have been saving up for years to get something that makes them feel really special, and that their future spouse will be moved to tears to see them in. That experience of walking down the aisle is a happy moment for the couple and their families that they've been dreaming about since their child was born. Every culture on the planet makes a big deal about weddings because it IS a big deal. Marking the occasion with these rituals will impress upon the young couple the seriousness of the vows they're taking.

@@rachelmaddowswife8713 is that supposed to be in response to me?

@@nickpassion123 No, if it was in response to you it would look like your most recent comment and begin with the blue label "@nickpassion123". When it doesn't have that tag at the beginning, it's a comment directed to the original comment in the thread.