As a child of a single parent who was reliant on food stamps for my some of my childhood, I know how it would be. A lot of the time, even with wanting to do something like get a good dress for a wedding, it can be hard for some people to pay even $100 for a dress for a special occasion.

It's literally baffling to me that brides actually expect their bridesmaids to wear a certain dress that they'll only be able to wear to that one wedding, all while making them pay for it. Ridiculous! And definitely not a thing in other countries.

My main issue is why do they even try on dresses over the budget? That's inconsiderate. She'd have probably loved the dress they picked if they hadn't seen the one they knew couldn't work.

@@auntrori well it is her wedding, but since the bride knew she should pay the difference

@@yolandapaulino5952 oh sorry I meant the store associate, not the bride. I should have been clearer! But I agree about paying the difference.

For my wedding I asked my bridesmaids what they’re willing to pay and then when we went dress shopping, I only pulled out dresses that were lower than their budget. I can’t imagine not being respectful of a budget, I am very dedicated to my budget to I know how it feels

I don’t understand why people force their bridesmaid’s to buy their own dress. In the UK we don’t do that

I don't understand the bridesmaid's obligation to pay their own dresses. My sister got married last month, my parents paid all the dresses for them (and hair and makeup job for the big day).

If I am a bridesmaid on a tight budget and a bride demands I wear a certain type of dress I will stop been friends with that bride assap because she have no consideration for me as a friend or my budget especially if is an ugly ,expensive dress that I will only use once...like at least she should help me cover the diference If I must absolutly wear that dress I cant afford 😅

Is that an American thing that the bridesmaids need to pay for their dresses? I mean... You want your bridesmaids to wear a specific dresses, you buy them for them. I mean, youdon't ask the guests to buy and bring specific flowers for their tables, right? Also, if they already pay for the dresses, are they still expected to give wedding gifts?

In the UK where I'm from its usual for the bride and groom to pay for the bridesmaids dresses, I find it really odd that the wedding party have to foot the bill.

Yeah that's what I was thinking as well! They kept like calling her out as she can't afford it every few minutes and I'm like ugh wtf is wrong with you guys. Or one of the other friends should have talked to the bride in private and said hey I'll pay for her dress. Just something other than expecting her to pay for it.

I didn't even have any bridesmaids in my wedding... It was a small affair. I asked my brother to stand with me, my husband's dad and best friend stood with him, and a good friend of mine performed the ceremony. So I was the only one wearing a dress, but what we did was made sure the guys all had white button-down dress shirts, black dress pants and black vests, and I bought ties for them that matched our wedding collors. My brother had to buy his pants and best, but he said he wasn't upset about it at all, since they were all things he could easily wear in the future to other dressy events. I know most people DO spend money to be in other people's wedding... I've bought my bridesmaid dress for another girl's wedding, too. But it didn't sit right with me, personally, to ask people to do that, especially since we didn't want a big affair and decided to have a shotgun wedding.

@@annetidwell4807 Right?? I bought my maid of honor's dress because it was important to me to have her with me. I knew it would be hard on her to make it happen financially, so I bought it for her. Why make her feel bad because she couldn't afford it?

@@elio6037 IF they can afford that. in low income families the bride and groom certainly don´t pay for all the dresses.

Imo she didn't wanted to pay 300 for that dress

@UCvLjNLT76fFeJDc5FJPQ9AQ I don't think she intended to call her out but it was a little targeted and she could have said it a bit more tactfully. I would have just gone with yes I can afford this dress but it's not my decision to make.

Yeah honestly, the sentiment is nice, but the way she phrased it came across super snarky to me, the bit about being a single mother and especially the bit about having 2 incomes. It came across very sickly sweet

As someone from the south, it def felt backhanded.

@@sydneywilson3270 yeah, but I can imagine the bridges mates discussed the price behind the sceen/entire show. And they clearly didn't wanted to pay 300+ for that monstrosity, so she used her friends financial status as an argument, people get nervous in front of camera and can easily say something they didn't mean or

I think it's about 50/50

I think the fact that the dresses should be uniformed affect the looks too. Also it's one person choosing the dresses based on what they like. Not based on what fits each person.

I'm still impressed that the bride choose the dress but doesn't pay for it.... what???!!

Yeah and specially when her so called best friend isn't well financially, how can anyone expect someone who lives in a one bedroom appartment to be able to buy a ugly dress for 300. I felt so bad and angry that she was put through this pressure and guilt, priviledged people just don't understand how hard it is to not be well financially.

@@alecoloxa right? That sounds SO wrong to me. If the bridesmaids' dresses are gonna be part of your wedding's decor, then pay for them like you're paying for the rest of it.

I'm pretty sure most brides can't afford that. The happy balance is working with your bridesmaids to stay within their budget and hopefully find something they can wear again, or the bridesmaid can just turn down the offer

In the United Kingdom it is the norm for the bride to pay for bridesmaids dresses- It would be highly unusual for a bridesmaid to buy their own!!! Well actually it would be considered weird af tbh 🤣

@@Somebodyelse141 I would say stay within a budget if the bride can't buy them outright. Or pay the difference for your bridesmaids

@@Somebodyelse141 Then the bride shouldn't have bridesmaids. Have the wedding you can afford without your loved ones to subsidize your choices for you.

@@stormwright8300 yes, I mentioned staying within a budget, paying the difference would also be nice if they went over budget or had a bridesmaid whose budget was less than the others

i agree!!! it is his wedding too, no reason why the bride should be the only person to have a say

@@nathalie3601 Yeah, especially as they're both paying and dresses are much more varied than suits

I honestly hate how people think that straight guys can’t have fashion sense. I love HauteLeMode, but he is perpetuating this stereotype. He deserves the right to an opinion, especially since he is paying for the dresses.

And in the end she looked like she chose different from the groom just because she didn't want him to have an opinion...

@@justlola417 which is just rude as he is paying for them

They look like $30 from Shein

Wedding markup. Any given dress listing gets a 50%+ price bump if they add 'bridal' to the description.

I don't know where you shop for "party dresses" but $300 is almost a reasonable price. But when one stops to think about the workmanship, etc. on some dresses, they could go WAAAAY higher, really.

Keep in mind these styles and prices are more than ten years old so $200 back then is even more now.

My exact thoughts!

Yeah. And if both dresses are a ten, why not have the groom (who is also paying) make the decision. It was such a "I'll demonstrate my power & control." move. Like showing she doesn't need to care about his opinion, because he loves her.

I mean.... they are both paying for the dresses. When you get married you tie your financials together.

@@rosemali3022 Most people still have a basic respect for who earned the money though.

Well he did tell the bride it was overbudget. She decided she still wanted and liked it. It's not like he kept that info from her

When they picked that dress I just assumed that they would see if they liked the style and then pick a similar, cheaper dress

@@stormwright8300 Both of them were assholes about it. He only wants to make a sale, and she doesn't care about her friend's financial situation as much as she pretends to. They totally planned to show it and get the group's approval before telling the price, and then pressure the friend to go over budget by putting her on the spot.

@@FullMoonOctober I understand him wanting to make a sale. It's his job. I think she's more at fault for not considering her best friend's financial situation or even offering to help when she couldn't afford it, as she knew she couldn't. He said it was overbudget, she said that was fine. I think she's a bigger asshole than him

@@stormwright8300 bullshit, ppl like him are a major part of why the wedding industry is ridiculously overpriced.

I definitely agree. A wedding is a union between two people. A bit of pomp and pageantry is fun, but it should be collaborative and what _both_ people want. If the fiancé/fiancée wants to be involved in bridesmaid/groomsmen outfits, they absolutely should be if their intention is to be helpful.

@@Mothman_In_a_T-Pose And supportive of the person they will partner with in life. I too agree that more attention needs to be paid by both parties for the wedding and leave off the "oh it's only the bride's decision" stuff. If a couple can't decide or agree on what their wedding is going to look like and be like....how about the really BIG decisions down the road? Starting a family, what schools, what house, what car, how much debt...etc...etc...etc. When you decide to partner with someone, BOTH of you approach the world together, you aren't "along for the ride".

It's a tradition that comes from a very Victorian concept of gender

Yesss, as long as he's respectful and stays in his line what's the problem with him showing interest?

Absolutely- it’s BOTH of their days (regardless of who’s paying for what.) I’m sure she had thoughts on what the groomsmen were going to wear- why shouldn’t he have thoughts on what the bridesmaids wear? As long as they don’t steamroller each other into something they’re not happy with, it’s just another thing they need to come to an accommodation with each other about. Like they will for many things throughout their whole life together.

RIGHT? And if you can't pay for them but are worried about them not looking cohesive, give the bridesmaids a colour palette to follow and let them pick whatever they can afford and/or fits them the way they like.

I’m a firm believer in just picking the color and length and just letting the rest of the group pick what they want to wear

I agree somewhat. I would pick the color and let them pick a style, whether I’m paying or not.

My two sisters picked a dress that matched the color scheme (which they approved) which they would actually wear. They both wore their dresses several times and cost under 99.00

i think if as a bride you choose a colour and your bridesmaids choose a dress of that colour, it's totally fair to have the bridesmaids pay - they can buy a dress they like and will wear again. or if you buy the dresses with their input and a budget, it makes sense for them to pay. also many give their bridesmaids the option to decline being a bridesmaid, so if they don't want to pay, they don't have to lmao. that being said, if you really want someone as a bridesmaid and they literally cannot afford to buy a dress, imo not paying is incredibly rude (e.g. the single mother in this video who had a tight budget)

I’m from Montana and same

Ew

That’s interesting

Barefoot is the way to go!!

That sounds fun, as a non American I find that image quite sweet in a bit of a chaotic way. Be rootin, be tootin, and by God be shootin, but most of all be kind. I respect the cowboy boot vibe.

Yeah, the whole "let's just try it on/not mention the price/see what happens" mentality is manipulative, because it tricks them to approve of something and then immediately forces them to make a hard financial choice on the spot with peer pressure. So gross!

definitely agree with this, but I have to think that in this case it was just done for tv to create drama/interest. I'd hope that for any non-tv appointments all the bridesmaids are made fully aware of the dress prices

i always assumed the point of that was to literally just see what they say about the dress, y'know, what aspects they do or don't like, to help them find a better dress close to or within the budget. like, they can just take the features the ladies like and find another dress with those features, as there's clearly quite a huge, varied selection to choose from.

That's a great idea!

That’s a really nice idea.

We're planning on doing the same!!

Tbh I’ve been to a couple of weddings when I was a kid, and as far as I remember none of the bridesmaids had the same dresses (so they probably chose them themselves, and hopefully bought something that they like enough to wear on other occasions). I assumed that was how it was done for every wedding. Maybe the bride choosing THE SAME dresses for all the bridesmaids (and making them pay for it) is very american? Idk

This is what my friend did. She gave us money towards it and a color and we all chose our dresses. It looked really nice and we didn't look like carbon copies of each other.

I SCREAMED!

Sorry i don't understand 😭 explain pls

When he added “love is love etc etc” to the end of it I was on the floor.

@@xxfree-forevloverxx9325 breeders is slang for straight people , he wasn’t trying to be offensive tho

@@marytc2714 lololol, come on, "breeders" isnt a term of endearment, and is offensive. Let's call a spade a spade.

Dude I'm wearing ankle boots for my wedding and you bet your ass I'm going to do some light hiking on the shores of Lake Superior.

I feel like lace + country vibes always goes better with a more flowy style dress. Almost like a sundress but lace. Always feels off to me when the lace dress is sort of skintight

lol yeah, I was cracking up at his hatred of all things rural or Southern :) Except the girl's adorable accent, of course. I'm from the South and I love pretty much all of the things he hated, but fashion is subjective and the world takes all kinds of people :)

If you are in the countryside. But not in the Mediterranean for example.

LITERALLY!!! That's exactly what I was thinking. I would've pulled her aside and been like I appreciate you so much for being there for me and being a part of my big day. I will take care of your dress expenses. Like what???

Yep! I’m a bridesmaid for my brother and SIL’s wedding, and she was determined to stay on budget since most of us are 19-27 and a lot of us don’t have a ton of money to toss around. She found an affordable boutique where the most expensive dress fitting her criteria was $250. She and her MOH have updated us each time there’s a sale and my brother even offered to chip in as I was between jobs at the time. As a broke college student working retail, I was still able to afford and participate in this part of the wedding. I spent $150 on my dress. My friend’s sister is getting married and she has a similar approach-and she’s way more uptight and picky than my SIL. It really isn’t that hard to accommodate and respect your bridesmaids and their needs.

Exactly

Seriously, we should encourage the groom to be involved 🤦‍♀️

If I understood it correctly, he was going to pay for them. If he is the one paying for it, he should definitely be there.

I absolutely agree. I do not diss my boyfriend's fashion taste because he is a straight man, I will tell him something looks bad because of my opinions. We should support calm discussion between the sexes and sexualities, as long as in it ends with good compromise or agreements and does not harm anyone at the end of the day. It makes no sense to start so hostile since the beginning towards Jerry just because the heteronormative idea of it being the "bride's day." It is both of their's and we should respect when couples have healthy and equal relationships.

Yeah I felt like Luke went a little too hard on him for just wanting to be there and help out

traditionally it's meant to be bad luck?

Also I’m pretty sure I see that EXACT dress in Walmart, Sears, or any business attire store for women. It may not be the same quality, but it would for sure be cheaper and last for the one day it’s needed

@@SammyP038 yeap. That dress for $310 is way too cheap looking for that price. You’ve seen it for less at Sears. And I’ve seen at Macy’s in the clearance section for a quarter of that price or less 😂 Literally manufactured drama for tv.

@@SammyP038 That's what I was thinking. $300 for that Windsor wannabe dress??? Hell no. It probably cost them $30 to make that thing, gimme a break.

From Dallas area and I can definitely confirm.

I'm from Texas and this was pretty much the exact outfit we wore for my sisters wedding.

As it should be! :D

Honestly, this is exactly what I was thinking. Not sure about the States but here in the UK you can walk into most stores which sell womens clothing, and you can find lace dresses between 10£ and 70£, so about 14 to 95 bucks :/ I feel like wedding stores overprice really basic shit all the time and 80% of the time it doesn't even look good 😂😂

This true. The second girl said the dresses will be black

Agreed. I'm not sure if he's just judging that version of the dress or how it'll look at the wedding though. Because if he's just judging the current dress future color doesn't really matter.

he seems really cool

That’s yanks for ya

It’s definitely bizarre because yeah we have Okefenokee swamp but I feel like Georgia’s much more known for the coastal colonial towns, Atlanta, and the mountains.

I'm from the UK, I've always been under the assumption that the phrase "the bayou" was referring to the Louisiana kind of area? Whereas Georgia is more over towards the Carolinas?

@@RealElongatedMuskrat yep, you’re pretty much spot on

@@RealElongatedMuskrat I also thought that too. lol

omg you read my mind

Me too!

YES!!!

That would be incredible!

AHHH IT WOULD BE AMAZING. I'd also just love to see lukes reaction to our nonsense batshit tomfoolery, like as an American how would he interpret the euro trash fabulousness.

Omg that sounds amazing!!

I LOVE that!!

It’s like thrifting in the south, it’s all the same shabby chic.

@@margaretsolomon5053 that's what I thought too I was like "it's shabby chic man!" 🤣

But at least those dresses aren't ugly

I got one churidaar at 15 which looks like a different colour under different light and have managed to wear it atleast once every wedding season and gotten the "You look great; I couldn't even recognize you" in it every single time but now it's gotten tighter in my 20s and I'm running out of the lights and I don't know how I'm gonna deal without it anymore 😞 (The dress was a shade of pink btw)

Gurl just steal a sari from your mum each time and you'll be set

@@vanik1505 😂 true that

That's why i stick to salwaar kameez or fusion styles. You can mix and match for other weddings and fusion dresses are good for normal day parties too.

😂, omg I'm so glad that I grew out of my live laugh love phase of my life. But because I grew up in New Orleans there wasn't much cowboy boots around here.

yeah I also never heard of such thing anywhere besides USA

Jes me neither. I m from central-europe and i was very bewildert by this cpncept of americans

Same. I'm from western Europe and the only 'special' guests would be the two official witnesses to the wedding. I think an equivalent of the maids of honour somewhat exists here but those are little girls who carry the flowers, and they are very optional.

@@collinea8300 in the US, we call those flower girls. The maid of honour is usually the one who organizes the bachelorette party and, unfortunately, incurs the most work and cost

Lolol, so if you'd heard of this outside of the U.S then the concept would be more legitimate? I'm really confused by ppl being surprised by Americans having a different culture as if your culture doesn't also have things we don't have. Like what so bewildering about this?

😂😂😂

As a Greek i approve! This is so true!

YESSSSSSS!!!!!!!!

I would choose because it's my wedding but I would pay

That doesn't really make any sense though. You're asking people for help in organizing and creating the wedding. They can decline. If you could pay everything, then they're not your bridesmaids. They don't have to pay for the actual wedding but they're supposed to throw your bachelorette party and everything.

it’s very commonplace for the bridesmaids to pay for their own dresses! it’s important for the bride and bridesmaids to get on the same page financially beforehand for sure, but bridesmaids are 100% able to decline the position bc of finances.

Traditionally in many cultures, the bride’s family paid for everything except for corsages, many times the groom would pay for a honeymoon. Now, families come in different sizes and incomes, so bets are off.

Unfortunately it's the norm here. Some may say "they can decline being a bridesmaid" but that's a lot easier said than done, due to social implications and hurt feelings etc. One should be able to support their friend without breaking the bank out of obligation... Bridesmaids are expected to pay for their own dresses, hair, makeup and accessories most of the time, and foot the bill for the bachelorette party, maybe even throw a Bridal Shower and pay up front costs for a Jack & Jill Party. Not to mention pitching in on doing DIY's for wedding decor and helping to arrange/schedule things for the ceremony if asked. And probably end up giving the couple a wedding gift too. There's travel (and possibly accommodations) for things like dress fittings, and then of course travel and accommodation for the rehearsal and wedding itself. Personally hoping I don't have the "honour" of being in too many wedding parties.

@@rochelle178 Where I live, in the UK, it's commonplace for the bride to pay for the bridesmaids dresses.

Stock dresses. They all come in a wide array of colors. You can get all these dresses in multiple colors

@@mylitttleemilyjayne9 ahh ok

Same to me it's more flowers and pastels or like Little house on the prairie. Comfortable, flowy fabrics too but lace would fit.

Country weddings I've been to (which is a lot because all of my inlaws have cowgirl country weddings and most friends in my area do the same) have usually been a mint, pink, red, or sunflower yellow, and there's a jean jacket on top. Or they try to do another theme (such as winter, black tie, or beach theme) and shoehorn the boots in. 😂 The boots are always there. And burlap and white lace is passed from friend to friend at every wedding.

was waiting for someone to point that out!

Was coming here to say that hahaha

lol we really do stan skillshare!!

Picture a size 18 with G cups in a red station spaghetti strap number. HeeLs dyed to match red that hurt like hell and that I could not walk in well. Charity box as soon as I got home from the reception. Bride: You can wear it again on New Years Eve. No thanks, my sweats and t will be just fine watching the ball drop.

@@romeoslover817 😁

Me too! I'm from Omaha lol

I think it's a Raf Simon's Shirt.

Lady gaga moment

Because there's only three men that Luke is going to serve in his whole life.

It's his favorite Bruce Dern Movie

agreed

@@hollystiener16 I'd rather pay for them and make sure they chose something they could wear multiple times. So that way, I know I didn't waste my money and they are happy too

Yes!

Thank you! If people wear stuff like that ironically it’s cool but not when those who originated the look wear it

don’t get the ridicule. Wouldn’t be my choice just because it really shortens the legs optically.

I agree that there's classism involved in the distaste for Southern styles and habits and such. It's easy to write off anyone and anything Southern as uneducated or ignorant and no one really questions why we think those things or how regions became poor and disadvantaged to get that association. As I'm sure you could guess, I'm a Southerner who loves rural life and most things about living here. But I'm also trying hard to keep an open mind to the fact that a lot of things are genuinely just preference and I probably wouldn't like a lot of things this KZfaq's loves :) And that's okay too.

@@kellyriddell5014 As another Southerner, I totally understand that sometimes things boil down to preference rather than mere prejudice. But by and large, people see Southern aesthetics as trashy, or a gimmick or, dare I say, "camp" rather than a part of a real culture. I'm not saying that Luke has to LIKE cowboy boots! Lol. I just think it should be acknowledged to the audience that laughing at a bride for having her bridesmaids wear cowboy boots is NOT a joke... harkening back to Iman on Project Runway: it's a *legitimate look.* And it deserves all the same careful critique and consideration as any other aesthetic from any other culture.

I got mine for 35 bucks from the thriftshop. The people often only wear their dresses one time? Two Times?? Better for the enviroment, and most of the time cheaper

Floor-length dress and cowboy boots?? 😬

YEEEEES please

OMG YES

Yes to this!

The grey dress is just a sample. The floor samples are usually only available in 1 or 2 colors and a couple of sizes just so you can pick the cut and fabric. From there they usually make the dresses to fit the bridesmaids in the color you want.

@@RachaelTheRed ah ok that makes sense :)

In Chile we Don't have bridesmaids at all

Yes!

Love that idea!

Wonderful idea

I think these episodes are pretty old so the dresses seem quite dated to us 😂