I used to pay my mom cause she was very poor and worked part time as a laundry attendant where she could sit a lot. My then husband was mad about it but his mother wouldn't help. I always said I'd rather pay someone who loved my kids than a stranger! I think it's right to help a parent especially if they are helping you!

I'm in the same boat with you, Glenda. They raised my rent and there went my SS. Now I work part time to pay the rest of the bills. I'm too old for this!!

Glenda I was 17 when I had my first baby in 1973. I remember having that gas when delivering my son. I was unmarried because I was to young to get married and living at home with my parents. I had no help because my dad said you have to learn to do this yourself since you got yourself in this predicament cause my mom had her own kids to raise. When I got married and moved out at 18 I was pregnant again and my kids are 10 1/2 months apart. I had a part time job and I asked my mom if she could come and watch the kids for an hour cause my husband had to stay overtime. My dad told her to say no. I only had this job for two weeks and was fired cause I couldn’t come in. They said I wasn’t dependable. It hurt me but I got over it. It was how they were raised and I forgave them. It was they saying you had them you take care of them. I held no hate. I love and miss my parents to this day. I learned to help with my grandkids but here I am 65 and working a full time job waiting to retire in December when I’m 66 and 2 months. I’m mad because they keep upping the retirement age. Not everyone is guaranteed a long life why couldn’t it be 65 for everyone and affordable to live on. Have a great day.

Living in NYC is expensive I'm borne and raised there and had to move I did't want but I had to. I had to sell my condo and move on.

I could never live off my social security. I work to make ends meet. If I babysit my grandchildren I never take money for it. I’m in my 70’s. I want to be independent for as long as possible. I know lots of seniors still working. Keeps us young.

Sad as it is it’s only going to get worse.

Some people are having to give up their cars due to the expense of owning a car or they can’t afford a better one, some are having to get roommates to share expenses, others are down to eating only one meal per day.. If my grandsons come for an extended visit, I tell my son I can’t afford to keep them unless he helps me financially. He has no problem with that request. Blessings for your channel!

This may be a conversation you need to handle privately with Jill. I don't feel comfortable giving my opinion about such a personal matter. But, thank you for loving your sweet grandchildren. You are a great mom and grandmother.

I’m sure Jill would be willing to help out with the gas. I don’t think it’s too much to ask especially since you babysit 3 times a week. If she had to pay for childcare for 2 children she would have to pay a lot more than a tank of gas!! Also it’s ware and tear on your car. I have 5 grandchildren and when they were little I would help my boys out babysitting, taking the grandchildren to their practices after school, and having them overnight on the weekends. I never asked for anything in return because I absolutely loved spending time with them. I worked full time for the State of Ohio so along with my income and my husband’s we were able to help the our boys out. But if I had been in your situation it would be different because it’s getting harder and harder for my husband and myself to make things work with our combined retirement income each month. I’m 73 and he is 77 and life nowadays is not easy for us seniors. Our income doesn’t go up just as prices do. We’re having to really cut corners. Our kids ask us when they call “ what did you and dad do this weekend?” Our answer is pretty much the same “we stayed home” Honestly I don’t mind because we aren’t the type couple that has to be always doing something with other people to be happy. We just enjoy relaxing and going out to eat once in a while to a family restaurant. We’re easy to please ..lol☺️ Anyway Glenda ...you will NEVER be like your mother . Asking for a little assistance is not being like her...it’s the life we’re living in right now . That’s all. Period. Hope this helped. Love sent from Florida😊

Some ppl I guess didn’t appreciate all the amenities and low gas prices and food prices, low bldging materials & etc & (somehow) a change took place-woke up to this & (now) we have to deal with a enormous rise in food prices, gasoline, bldg materials & utilities. Until there’s a new change-we will suffer. Blessings 🙏

I would never expect my mom to babysit for free even if she doesn't ask I would pay her it a blessing to have a grandmother watch your kids instead of strangers and you drive to far that alone deserves an allowance

Hi Glenda I am 64 and will be working until I am 70 so I will be able to get my full benefits. I live in So. CA. My HOA fee is twice as much as my mortgage and both combined are more than 50% of my $1900 a month take home pay. I am work 40 hrs a week but I am looking for a 2nd job to build a emergency fund for those life happens moments as my car is 14 years old. Gas here is around $4.30 as we have one of the highest gas taxes in the nation.

Glenda asking for gas money is not charging her for babysitting. The gas does not benefit you but benefits your daughter so that you have the means to get to her house. I am sure she would understand. If it is hard to tell her get a pretty card and explain in the card how you feel.

I think asking for your gas expense is fair! You’ll still be giving your time for free and enjoying the kids. Without help from family, it’s hard to get ahead!

Im 52 and those jobs would be too much for me. Bad back.🤕. I hear ya Glenda! But God always provides for His children. Thank you Lord Jesus 🙏🏽❤️

They are rewarding low income people with kids , with $300 a month per kid ! What about us older people without children or whose kids are grown up ? Some of us worked all our lives & now on SS or SSD , yet we still live month to month in Poverty 😥

Don't charge for the babysitting just for the gas to get there.

Hi Glenda I have always washed my little grandchildren and help raise them I have never asked my daughter is for anyting actually they ask me for help I just tried to do the best I can on my social security income which we all know isn't easy I never have extra money left over if I need clothes or anything but my one daughter that has been staying with me for a while has been buying food for me so that has helped me a lot and I tell her she doesn't have to I can buy my own food I do appreciate it though it makes it easier for me I guess life isn't easy for a lot of people but we carry on and do the best we can have a

My mother moved away when I was barely 18 and said I couldn't come. She remarried and kicked us to the curb🤬🤬🤬🤬

You shouldn't have to ask for help--I always over compensate whenever anyone does something for me especially a relative. But I do know that some children feel entitled.

If my folks were needed to help out, and I was working, I would have paid them a fair amount. Maybe not as much as a Daycare - but something for their time and travel expenses. Especially on a fixed income.

My mom watched my kids, 3 and 4 yr old at the time and she never charged me but I was aware of her finances. This was in the early 2000’s. I’d pay her $160/wk. I wish I could’ve paid her more. I was so appreciate of her being able to watch my kids and she was so happy to have a little extra cash.

I live with my oldest Daughter so that we can help each other. I draw less than $800.00 a month ( I worked hard all of my life but unfortunately only worked a public job as a custodian at a Elementary school for just under 10 years ) before that job , I worked in tobacco and gardening, canning, taking care of my 3 Children, a Husband, and my Maternal Grand Parents and Paternal Grandmother. All that sure felt like work to me but of course you can’t count that if you become disabled. I got off track lol, but I pay $400 a month to her to help alittle bit with her mortgage payment and alittle on bills to live in this beautiful home and I help with her Boys, My Grandson’s a 15 year old and twin 11 year olds while she works and lives a little bit of life lol. She ask me quite often if I am ok with gas, necessities or whatever else I might need throughout the month. I also have a younger Daughter and wonderful Son in Law and my youngest Son whom makes sure that I’m ok. Before I moved with my Daughter , I babysat 5 of my 6 Grandchildren and both the Girls insisted on paying me. After watching you and Your Daughter I feel that she wouldn’t think twice about helping you with a tank of gas a month or anything that you might need. The way the world is getting Glenda, Family has to help one another which really is the way God meant for it to be all along I believe. Your in my daily prayers Always 💕. Your a Wonderful Lady and I enjoy all of your life stories, recipes, your Family, watching your 2 Beautiful Grandchildren grow. Just love your channel.

The whole country changed on January 3rd. And I’m afraid it’s only going to get worse. Take care Glenda 💫

Glenda, when I babysat for my grand babies when they were sick or whatever & couldn't go to school or daycare to help my daughter, she would give me gas money because I live about 20 miles from her so that was a BIG help bc I didn't have to use extra money for gas...she said that was a nominal fee for knowing the kids were in good care & also helped her or her hubby from taking off work.

It will be announced this October (2021) how much the Social Security increase will be for 2022. It's projected the Social Security raise will be between 5-6% (a guesstimate). ALSO CONGRESS MAY LOOK AT: 1) Ways to control drug costs for seniors; 2) Possible vision coverage; 3) Possible dental coverage; & 4) Possible hearing coverage. Depending on where you live & how close you nearest Walmart is you may save gas money if you buy their $8 monthly grocery delivery plan. You can avoid driving in bad weather and keep you safe. I believe there is a $35.00 sales purchase, but given prices that won't be hard to do.

Well here in Canada we don't worry much about prescriptions, they aren't expensive and for those who need it theres a program for helping with the costs. I babysit my 3 grandbabies . A 6yr old , 3 yrs and 1yr . If I need anything all I have to do is ask and I'm quite sure your daughter will understand and be so grateful she will help you out . Ask her , tell her its hard for you on gas ,wear and tear on your car.

I recently heard that the kindest caregivers are the ones who were not shown much kindness in their own lives. I think you are a great mom and a wonderful granny. I hope your daughter will help you with gas $$. I enjoy your stories and love the sweet way you speak to your audience. P.S. Your hair looks great!

my mother kept my baby when i went back to work. she didn't ask for money because she knew i was struggling. I took my baby to her house and picked her up when I came home. When i could finally afford it, i did pay her as much as I could. it was less than a daycare and i knew my baby was safe! If you know your daughter could really afford to pay something, at least a tank of gas, it would be fine to ask for her help. She is lucky and blessed to have you there!

I honestly dont know how any of us make it.

Free sitter. Gas money is the least she could do. Start buying a little more at the store to save for harder times if possible. And keep making your vids. 😘

Wow, my mom said the same thing to me when I wanted to breast feed my first born. She had 9 kids. Every time I got pregnant she would treat me with shame. On the subject of the rise of prices. I'm having to buy groceries for a son on disability. So I need to share the money I receive. I'm trying to shop very frugally. A lot of wieners and beans. (which I love). I don't know how people manage. Thanks again for your stories. I can relate to so many. Hugs from Northern Canada.

I babysit my granddaughters and do not accept any money for doing it. I’m happy to do it. I too live on very little money

I never asked for payment to babysit my grandchildren. My very good friend babysat two of her grandchildren from almost the time they were brought home from hospital she never asked for payment and what her son and daughter-in-law would do for her was to buy something for her house like a flat screen tv. Glenda, I don't think it wouldn't be asking too much for your daughter & her husband to fill your gas tank. Cars don't run on air and you are probably helping them out tremendously with babysitting. When my grandchildren were much younger my daughter checked on cost of placing her children in a daycare center neither one of us could believe the cost there was no way she could afford it and I don't know how other people can a afford to put their children in daycare.

On lowcarb diet now. The. Greens are so expensive.I. buy family pack chicken and. Grill one nice piece with nice salad or zucchini. Spinach..brown rice..ALl food so expensive..

I totally understand why you don't want to ask Jill for gas money. You are a wonderful mother and grandmother, and you are doing what a mother/grandmother should do. My situation is a little different. When I broke my wrist, I could no longer work at my job, because it was manual labor and required 2 hands. The company had no benefits, no sick time, no nothing. So all I had was the small amount I had in savings, which wasn't much. However, at the time I broke my wrist, my son was on vacation from his regular job, and he was starting up a business. He was planning on going back to his regular job and let his wife run the business. He said he didn't know what he was going to do for a babysitter, but after I broke my wrist and couldn't go back to that manual labor job anytime soon, he said I could babysit his daughter and he would pay me instead of paying daycare. I also babysit my daughter's kids, but I take no pay from her, because she doesn't make much. I am saving her a ton of money, because she doesn't have to pay daycare. So, my full-time job is babysitting grandkids. My son pays me through the business account, with taxes taken out, so everything is legal. Sometimes I feel bad about my son paying me, but I do babysit full-time, and at this point, I can't get a job, because my kids need me to babysit. And I'm not old enough for Social Security; I'm not disabled, so I don't get any type of disability check; I get no check, no pension, no retirement, no nothing. And on top of that, ex-husband left me in severe credit card debt - I'm paying that off - I know, I could have filed bankruptcy and got out of the debt, but my ethics (I think that's the word for it) would not allow me to file bankruptcy - my conscious would not let me file bankruptcy. I almost did, though - it would have been a very last resort. Anyway, back to the babysitting, yes, I do think a person should be a good mom and grandma. And as soon as I get old enough to get Social Security, I will not take any pay from my son.

I'm 72, retired, and am now looking for work. As you said, the jobs that are available-- retail, burger flipping- are something I would be unable to do. I got an offer for work as a security guard, but I couldn't stand 8 hours a day.

I’m sure that Jill would help with the gas. It’s fair in my humble opinion. Gas is almost $5.00 a gallon where I live. It’s ridiculous. I have a 4 cylinder car and limit my driving to the market, drug store and doctors so I can only imagine how expensive it is for the SUVs and bigger vehicles who have to drive everyday.

I just retired in May. I'm thankful I have saved for it, but I am trying not to dip in just yet. It might get worse before it gets better.

My sister used to pay my Mom to take care of her children until they were ready for pre-school. If you were watching the grandchildren so your daughter and husband could have a night out occasionally that is one thing, however once it is a committed situation then I believe you should be paid. If you weren't available then someone else would be doing it and they would be paid. Having you is an added bonus because it can give peace of mind knowing they are in safe hands but it is still your time, gas, etc that you would not be expending if it were not the case.

Thanks for sharing Glenda.

I'm living in my sports car , waiting fir senior reduced housing assistance. The waiting list is between 1-2 years

Could she get a gas card for you? I'm sure Jill realizes all the work you do for her. You have such a good relationship that she will not be offended. I think the way you talked to us is a good way to begin a conversation with her. Praying for the Lord's wisdom to be felt for you. I know how prices have gone up. I look at thinks twice before putting in my cart. 💘 and blessings. Sue

Glenda i have 15 grandbabies. I have babysat them all from time to time. I kept my son's baby from infant to 3.5 everyday 12 hour days. I wouldn't charge him but about once a month he'd throw down 500.00 or so. If i could see him, he'd wait and deposit it in my bank account. Lol i did appreciate it, but never expected it. Nothing wrong with charging, i just never asked.

Every week when you go to store, everything is so high.My husband retired. Im not yet l work but prices are outrageous. Medicine and co-pays its just terrible.

Since my Husband passed Away, I am very much on my own! You are right Everything just keeps getting more Expensive! God Bless You & Your Family Ms. Glenda……….. Good Video!

I didn't ask for money when I babysat my grandson. Maybe ask for the monthly tank of gas and see if it helps at all. I can totally empathize with you on the cost of living here on LI. Thank God you have your nice apartment.

Scary world. I can't work. Fighting for SSI .i get a little alimony but not for long. No, I've never charged to babysit my own grandbabies. I just don't believe in it. My mom never helped me either. Lol, i wouldn't have left them with her anyway.

I think if my mom was struggling financially, I would offer help whether she was babysitting for me not. It is very reasonable to ask for the cost of gas to get back and forth to Jill's house. Some help with groceries, too? I know this is a very uncomfortable conversation to have, but I know the way you present it to Jill will be gentle and sincere. I'm praying for you 🙏

I have never charged my children to pay me for babysitting. I would never do that. My mother-in-law stayed with me two weeks after I had my first child. My Mom couldn’t stay with me because she was still working. I will forever appreciate that my Mother-in-law helped me. I agree with you that it would be a good idea for Jill to pay for your gas. Blessings to you 🙏.

Glenda you brought back so many memories of when I was a single mother struggling. I still have resentments. Because my X mother in law was the babysitter. Her son was a mommas boy and didn't pay child support. She had her husband who worked as a pipefitter at a big corporation. She was always in need. So I paid her the same I would of paid a babysitter. I hated it and she never said No I can't accept money for taking care of my own grandson. She took the money that I couldn't afford. I think now why did'nt I tell her ask your son to pay this week. Or whats wrong with I have no money this week. I was so stupid back then and no back bone like I do today. I'm glad you brought up that topic cause I was able to heal a little more by writting this down. My mom would have nothing to do with it.

Rarely eat out. Combine errands if driving to the store etc. No satellite TV. Netflix though. Watch electric use. No ac if not necessary. I'm thinking of cutting my ra meds in half. I do buy kcups on sale. Just living frugal.

GLENDA!!! Sit down with Jill and tell her exactly what you need! I don't know how far you live from her, but by the highway signs I know you do not live that close! I feel a tank of gas A WEEK is not unreasonable!! $40 a week is not a lot for two people working, because if they had to pay for child care, they would have to pay a fee X2 children!! A lot more than $40 dollars a week! People(Jill and Husani) cannot know what you need if you don't speak up!! Would Husani's family ask for gas money if they were coming back and forth to babysit multiple times a week(maybe not asking for money for the babysitting, but definitely for the transportation!) I could see if it was only one day a week every once in a while, but it is multiple times a week and sometimes an extra day that was not planned! You do not live around the corner!! Instead of buying you blouses and clothes on her credit card ( which I know she does not mind doing) have her give you that money that she would've spent so you can buy gas! Maybe she thinks that these extra things make up for not paying you! She won't know unless you tell her! Show her your gas bill for a full month of babysitting, money that you have to spend even though you do not get a salary!! Maybe she would rather pay you a little something every day that you sit for her instead of giving you gas money all at once?? And if she agrees to any money, put it away and only use it for gas! Then you can't complain when you don't have gas money if you use it for anything else intending to replace it!! (replacing it never works! Borrowing from Peter to pay Paul never works! Paul never gets paid back!!Lol!) So have the talk with Jill and show her what you use in gas going back and forth--- take the mileage round trip to her house X the price per gallon of gas = what you pay EACH day for gas and then X that by how many days you babysit = total amount you pay for gas that week!! Use that amount unless gas goes up or down a considerable amount! Good luck and have a blessed day! ( you might be a child of your mother, but you do not have to REMAIN a child of your mother!! You are a grown, intelligent woman who came this far in life on your own ideas and by your own mistakes, not your mother's!! Live your life, not the life you think your mother would have you live!! Every time you start to think of negative thoughts of your upbringing, STOP and say, " NOPE- NOT TODAY!" My daughter has a shirt that says that! I laugh every time I see it!!) Blessings and strength are what I wish for you!

Hi glenda I cant even tell you just how expensive all the essentials are .I cut back on many things.Gas is 319 gallon..bread. milk juice,eggs conducts. Wheat flour corn.all. vegetables so expensive. Our small stores are closing up. Nobody wants to work.3 local stores cant find help,so they cut hours down.I make my own baked banana bread and corn muffins I refuse to pay I. Store prices of cookies or muffins .I cook lots of baked macaroni,,pasta,sauce, I search for sales.walmart has great frozen vegetables. I love fresh but my garden not growing that well.too much rain.I been writing down in little note pad prices on food and paper goods. I bit coupons and I call manufacturer on my probiotics and vitamins.they are nice enough to mail coupons.I have changed up my diet..low carbs. Lots salad,chick peas,olives I find in dollar tree a buck..I pray for everyone during this inflation .🙏🙏❤ my daughter actually gives me little gift cards for gas when I babysit I never take money.My daughter brought me beautiful card thanks me for all I do and slips a Visa gift card.I tell her I dont want anything she said just keep it for emergency gas or treat yourself to nice manicure.I adore my grandsons so much and she always offers I gather she found a way to make me take the nice card and little gift card. 25$ I think you are doing amazing job watching your grandkids and you showed a beautiful video of all the beautiful tops jill went and bought you from chico's. 👍❤

Making ends meet is so tough these days,

Such a relevant topic. Gosh groceries have gone up. I work about 8 hrs a week, at home and I can sit and that’s almost all I can do. I’m not disabled but just not strong I guess. So that few hundred a month is really needed. What happens when we can no longer work a little bit??? I’m so sorry about what happened with your Mother. You are simply the best grandma and mother!

Glenda I personally feel a mother, father or both whom have brought their child(ren) into this world with lots of love, hardwork, and didn’t shift their responsibilities, definitely deserve our help as their children, especially now. The grandchildren are in good care and if it weren’t for you, the money would go to a daycare due each month or week, no different than you. As grandmother, you are sacrificing again for their well-being and not being selfish about it. Therefore, I do believe if you have a conversation with your daughter and explain where you are and that you’re not asking as much as a daycare would, I believe it is not out of order nor should you feel guilty about doing so. Prayers

Yes, I am retired and I get what you’re saying. Thank you for your channel.

My daughters are the best, if I need or want anything they give freely,I don’t ask, they just give , they say mama you took care of us , now we want to take care of you

This is reality for so many. It truly is sad to see seniors struggling to make ends meet. So many worked so hard all their lives, in not only raising families but working. Those days, most mothers stayed home while the dad went to work. Often a pension plan wasn't offered in many of the jobs. Saving money for retirement was really out of the question, as it took dad's pay to cover monthly costs of raising a family and having a home. So now the parents are retired and needing social security to live on. The way I am able to help you out with some extra income is by streaming your video's for several hours a day. I pick a playlist and play it in the background with the volume muted. It adds extra watch hours and views to your analytics and in the end adds some extra YT income for you. If everyone could do that once a day, for an hour or two it would really help you out. Thanks for sharing... these video's can help many others. Enjoy your weekend.. 💖

I'm 62 with severe arthritis and had been in a tractor trailer accident a year ago.I can not stand on my feet more then a few minutes, walk I can if I lean on a shopping cart, I'm collecting SS now and hope to get a school bus driving part time job this fall

I feel your pain Glenda. You are doing so much to help yourself. Jill is a wonderful daughter too. I am impressed by you all the time, thanks for sharing with us. There is comfort we are not alone in what we go thru. Hugs🌸💖🌸💖🌸💖

I live 3 hours away from my daughter and 2 granddaughters, so I would drive down to see them (this was when I was still in my 60's), and she would just slip me $20 for gas when I left. I didn't expect it, but appreciated it! I have no doubt that Jill would pay for your gas, since it seems that you have quite a way to drive (and cross bridges) to get to her house. It's not the same as making her pay you for "childcare". It's just helping her mom with the travel time - period.

I was a single mother when I was raising my oldest daughter. When I got a job she babysat for me but I wanted to pay her. She did not come to my house I took my daughter to her. I would not expect her to babysit on a regular basis for no pay!

Our government should boost the SSN They are helping tax credit for families who have Kids what about the singles and the elderly We all deserved extra money

Exactly what was said to me by my Mom , she was grossed out by breast feeding. For me it was the best thing I ever did.

I think the easiest way to handle that situation is to tell her You don't think you will be able to keep the kids anymore because the gas is just too much and being on a fixed income is straining your finances. I think she would then realize it is costing you to watch them. Sometimes they probably just dont realize its costing you money. I dont know if this helps but...My Mother was on Humana Gold Plus (that takes the place of Medicare) and they gave her a grocery card..for $50 a month and a OTC (over the counter) card for $50 month. You dont pay for Humana because they are taking the place of Medicare. It sure came in handy with my Mother. I just turned 59 and my husband is 62 and girl we both are still working. I sure understand where your coming from!!!!!

I agree I would not charge my daughter for babysitting my granddaughters. It does not feel right. But I know many people do. I just went to the grocery store and the amount does keep getting higher. Unfortunately at 63.5 I am still working full time and will have to continue 2-2.5 more years.

The word you were looking for. Was Epidural. The needle in spine to help pain when child birth.

It terrible. We need take care of our seniors. Iam 61 and working till iam 70.

I had five children, and my mom was there each and every time. And she had to travel some distance to be with me. I really miss my mom so much, she was the best mom ever. I always tried to do something nice for her. 💕

I can't drive, so I can't drive to get to anywhere I could work. I'd like to work for Kroger, but I can't drive to get there and work 2nd shift. And I'm a woman and can't walk outside at night.

I enjoy watching your videos. My daughter has 6 children and I have always babysat for free for when they have date night, etc. She is a stay at home mom. The older 3 also came to my in home half day preschool program 2 yrs ea for free. That alone would have cost them $16k. As I've gotten older, I have babysat less and less. She has never offered to pay gas or anything since $ is tight for them living on her husbands teacher salary. I have basically quit going over to see them very often because frankly I'm tired of always being the one doing the giving. When our car broke down a wk ago and had to be towed, she let us use one of their cars for 3 days but needed it back so when our car was finally ready, we walked to the mechanic shop to get it. She was too busy to take us. I know she appreciates the help but like I said, I'm tired of always being on the giving end. I hope I'm around long enough to see how she handles babysitting grandkids from 6 children. I love my grandkids to pieces but I just had thyroid cancer surgery and am 67. I don't have the energy like I did 5-10 yrs. ago. We are basically on our own to get thru ea. day now. I would think Jill should realize the gas it is costing you plus the wear and tear on your car to go back and forth and would insist on giving you even $100 a mo. which is nothing compared to if she had to pay elsewhere for childcare for 2 children. What we older folks consider to be common sense of how to handle a situation seems to fly right over the younger generations heads. Maybe we just made life way to easy for them that they don't even think about such things? I wish you well and keep putting out videos for others to enjoy and learn from.

I have never asked my daughter for money for child care but I know that, if I did, she would pay me in a wink. So would Jill. Our children are so busy and have so much on their minds that we somestimes have to bring issues to their attention. My other thought is that Jill may fear hurting your pride or independence.

Hi Glenda, I know this video is older, so I’m sure you’ve worked it out already but I just want to give you my two cents. I am 46 years old. My mother-in-law watched my kids while I was in nursing school. I was struggling back then, and she never expected any payment. However, she was not retired and did not need the money at that time now that she’s older and in retirement if they ever came to me and just said they are struggling, my husband and I are in a position where we could help them. We wouldn’t necessarily pay them for babysitting but we would just help them. ❤

Talk to her !! I'm a grandparent and I have never asked for pay but they were close by but you should ask !

Love that hair color! KEEP it that way! Brightens up your face soooooo much! Hugz

Hi Glenda, My Grandsons are 12 &10 and I was there every moment of their lives and picked them up from school until the pandemic changed that. I never expected to be paid but she does pay me to watch her dog since I have a pet business... lol I never asked for money but she would Zelle me. In your case it is reasonable to ask for gas money. Found out it is $1700 a month for one child for day care. You are saving her a ton of money. All the best to you❤️

Morning glenda I hope you have great day. I hope you get rest and relaxation. 🙏❤

I was mortified to hear your Dad telling you to pay your Mom and her leaving with him. That is just unfathomable to me! Wondering if your Daughter already offered to help in some way (like Gas etc) and you turning it down. I would definitely bring it up. She can count her lucky stars to have you babysitt and not have to worry about a million things that could go wrong with a friend or stranger. Not to mention the cost if she had to pay someone. I know it's hard to have to ask but they are getting so much more than just the Babysitting in return that is priceless. If she has a Costco/Sam's Club Membership maybe she could purchase a $50.00/ $100.00 Gift Card once a month? Much Luv and cheers to you from sunny California

Babysitters charge $10-$15 an hour, plus mileage. It's not 1970 anymore. So it's a discussion that needs to happen. My insurance company, State Farm, increases my basic premiums by about $8 a year. I asked them why and they said, " just the way it is ". You might enjoy the KZfaq channel "Sheila Travel and Outside". She's gone back to work at Amazon and addresses the physical problems of arthritis.

It’s getting very expensive for everything these days…. I hope you have a blessed week 🙏🏼

Being on Social Security is hard. I have my son and his family living with me we share expenses. As for babysitting no payment necessary! I now furbaby babysit! Love the quiet at my daughter’s house! We will survive! God is good, with him all things are possible!

Love it when you do video like this on social security

I watch my grandchildren on a regular basis as well. My son and d-i-l tried to pay in the beginning, and it irritated me to the point that they stopped trying😂 I get paid "in lieu of cash"..lol they butcher a cow every year so I always have a selection of beef, they provide all the formula and diapers and once they started switching my oldest grandaughter's snacks to organic, "crunchy" snacks, they started buying all of the snacks for my house. My d-i-l always asks me if I "need anything from town" which is code for "if you won't take money, I will get you sour cream, diet dr pepper, etc"😂 It would be hard for me to ask for money, but then I always have them at my house, which wouldn't involve travel.

My mom told me I had better stop breast feeding immediately because my son's poop was soft. What a crock.

When I take my grandkids to my other daughter's to go swimming or spend the night. I always give her money to cover the cost of food. She is disabled.

Can you move back to NJ? You mentioned that you received better benefits there. Is that an option?

Hello Glenda hope you are doing as well as can be. The struggle is real...cost are rising at an alarming rate.Still enjoying your videos. Praying everything will stabilize but I don’t think that is going to happen. I too am retired. I don’t charge my daughter for keeping my granddaughter either have been doing it for almost 7 years. I love every single minute of it. It is so very rewarding.. Unconditional love. Also I am still helping my elderly parents. Staying busy but I wouldn’t have it any other way. Prayers to you🙏

Both auto and homeowner's insurance have gone up 10-20% with no claims. Wait until we see our property tax bills with all the inflation in home prices.

I'm living on 15$ of food a week, with no help

Yes Glenda gas and food cost are getting higher!!$$here in Ky too 🤪🤪

I work a part time job,that helps a lot

I would NEVER even accept payment for doing what Gid made me to do. My sons wife left him March 17th, I gave up my home, moved in with him to help him. He is slightly autistic, was the stay at home parent and he needed me. No one generally will keep him at a job, but I went with him, explained his issues up front and he's doing good. He actually starts a new job Monday at Walmart distribution. And it is supposed to pay well. Pray with me He is able to do what is asked of him. He just got full temporary custody of his 2 children. We are struggling. We are on disability, so once the money is gone, it's gone for the month. Groceries are hard to come by with the rose in costs of near everything. Food, gas, etc. It's hard. Ssi and ssdi pay below poverty level, so it ain't like they care. So yeah. I'm praying your channel gets what you put into it, FOR US! I live you momma glenda and your genuinely, honesty ans perpetual balls to make these hard videos. Truth is, aside from the kids, we do without most of the things we need, but God is always faithful. I hope all yalls day is blessed beyond measure, shaken down and pressed together and overflowing. Love, me.

You are AWESOME!😍God bless and be safe.

I quit my job to babysit my oldest granddaughter. So I could not afford to do it for free. I only charged them a fraction of what they would of paid daycare. They worked full time. So I had her 9 hours a day 5 days a week. Anyhow I just feel if a grandmother is struggling to make ends meet and you are saving them money. Yes they should pay something.

Hi Glenda, that’s sad that your mom and dad wanted you to pay them. I was living with my mom and dad when I had my son. My husband was in the Air Force at that time. My mom and dad had a 3 Bedroom home. I was vey blessed to have them. My dad owned a gas station. My dad was a very . proud man, he came from Italy. Chris and I lived with my mom and dad for one year. When my husband came home from the Air Force. My mother and father gave us a house free and clear, no mortgage. We had to fix it up but it was ours. My husband would send home money from the Airforce. My mom and dad told me to save it they’d give us money for food, diapers and baby food. I never realized how blessed blessed I was to have them. I was only 19 when I had Chris. My delivery was hard too. They gave me pain shots. My son was born in 1970 and my daughter In 1972. When I brought Chris home I too didn’t know what to do. My mom let me figure it out💕 They gave my either too after the baby was born💕 I,m 74 now.

The US has become 70% dependent on consumer spending alone to drive its economy. No longer employed in full-time jobs , w/ benefits, workers get caught between declining purchasing power and rising health care costs. Many workers additionally suffer under a global 'wage race to the bottom' as corporations seek the low cost supplier (wherever they may be off shore). The Middle class has become a "vanishing class".

Glenda, I think our Mothers came from the same school of thought. My mother didn't understand breastfeeding and she said she would never do it because she wasn't an animal like a cow. So I didn't breastfeed my first son but my other two I did because I was old enough by then to realize I didn't care what she thought and that it was cheaper and healthier. I hope things get easier for you and everyone in the near future, Take care.

That is so sad that your parents would not help you with your baby. They were truly very damaged souls. But still you are lovely and love your children. Proving we can can our destiny and the destiny of our children.