To add: that your husband’s life will keep going on exactly as it was before the baby even though your life feels like it’s barely holding itself together.

Needed to watch this. I have a 2 month old baby and I’ve never struggled or felt so mentally over than I do now. I miss my old life so much… I also feel super resentful towards my husbands “easier way out”, lack of change to his body, hormones and stability overall. It sucks.

My first baby was my easiest baby which made it harder when my second baby came being the opposite 😅 . It is always an adjustment which every new child . I think if more women thought of motherhood an upgrade , they would not have to feel like they lost themselves.❤

I have 8 kids, one set of twins, 2 of the 8 are autistic. The transformation of our identities from “wife and ____” to “wife & mother” is hard. Yeah, it’s good advice to both mom and dad, “your wife will likely resent you for something at some point, because mothering is hard: help her cherish her new job, and help take the edge off.” Yeah, someone just told me the antidote to resent is cherish, so I’m praying and working on an attitude change, because I’ve carried some resentments for a while, but didn’t realize that was what I was doing. Cool advice - it’s very real. But it’s like a butterfly: no going back.

"You are your most valuable parenting tool" -- absolutely.

This is my favorite thing that you've posted! All so true! I definitely resented my husband for quite awhile, too!

Wish somebody told me teething was going to be more sleep depriving and difficult than newborn stage. My daughter was a dream as a newborn sure i was up every 3 hours but not even fully awake a poop would wake her up it was just clean feed sleep and repeat. I got more sleep then than i do now that she is 5 months pushing 6 months and teething. She has become a little gremlin 😢 my son wasnt this bad cause he found lots of relief with his binky but she hates binkys of all kinds the nights have been terrible ill be awake from 1am-5:30 am just rocking feeding over and over again just to put her down and have her cry and turn immediately. Ive gone from i dont really like coffee to it being what i most look forward to each day.

Thank you so much for this. ❤ I wish I would’ve known this. I remember how scared I was and frantically googling everything in the first few months. It was brutal.

This is what I love most about the culture in my country. In most tribes/ethnic groups in my country, new mothers have to be taken care of by their mothers or another family member for the first 3 months after child birth. To be honest, new mothers are usually the most beautiful they have been in years because all they do is breastfeed their baby and get enough rest. Some of my collegues looked the best they had looked in years because they got maternity leave and didn't work and were still being taken care of at home : I seriously don't know how women without such help cope.

Thank you so much for this. We are having our first little potato this December and Im quite anxious about labor/pain and aftermath of pregnancy. It’s nice to hear the positive side of things while also hearing the not so pretty things. The little family I had here has now moved further so I only have my man here with some of his family and it’s HARD emotionally and mentally for me. I have days where I’m like what did I get myself into and I have days where this moment is one of the greatest I’ve ever experienced in life. This is definitely a journey of good and the bad but your videos give such encouragement and understanding that the good for me outweighs the bad by a long shot. God bless you and your family Anna❤🫶🏾🙏🏾 you’re such a godsend girlie

Breastfeeding needs to be discussed more! I felt so jipped. Lack of knowledge and support was huge when things went wrong. I am much more at peace with my second baby coming knowing I can stop whenever I want... Regardless of what everyone else says.

I just had my first baby 4 days ago 💕 Thank you for this

I didn’t expect to be so sleep deprived in the first 2 weeks and I’m used to not sleeping (intensive care, ER etc). I’ve slept 5 hours in 5 days. Also I never expected to adapt, my 2 months-old still wakes up every 1-2 hours, but I manage to fall asleep in a second.

Depends on the baby honestly. My first slept like shxt until he was abt 3 years. My 2nd slept well right from the start and now almost a year old, she still sleeps well.I feel much more rested than first time around. my first hit all regressions and they were so hard but this baby skipped all. I feel blessed

Ladies, having kids is like having a wonderful, amazing curse, Lol. It sucks but it is so rewarding it's so exhausting, but yet so peaceful when you see them sleeping. I love playing with my baby and being there for him, but at the end of the night, I lay down and say, "I am glad it's nighttime and the day is over," lol

Haven't heard truer words about that topic ever. Especially the last part. I wanna hug you rn.❤ Nothing to add here. Just wanna say: You rock! And I hope your husband appreciates you and what you been doing. It's not easy on him either, but all men or partners that are on the non-giving-birth side need to give the birth-giving side some extra slack. Women are incredible and their body is able of doing these wonders. But it comes with a price.

This vid is great thank you for reassurance you deserve some too you seem like such a nurturing nurse and mother you go girl!!!

Thank you very much for sharing this Video, You are absolutely right Anna. 😃

This was spot on❤

This is very helpful and refreshing, and really honest, thank you! 🙂

You're a God send Ana 🙏❤! Nothing but FACTS!! I LOVE being so honest with new moms, it's better to let them know what to expect or what could possibly happen. All the ins and outs 😊❤

Wow. This was what I needed to hear. First time mom, and it’s been super scary and so exhausting ! Adjusting to this whole new mommy thing been hard. But it’s worth it. He was worth it. This is all So new to me! Hopefully postpartum don’t hit hard… 😞

Great advice. Seriously, spot on. ❤ All of mine wouldn’t sleep until 18-21 months, and then the next one was born at 24-27 months pp, so I basically haven’t slept much since 2015. 😂 Current baby (our last) is 8 months. I’ve tried the chair method, which eventually worked with my older three but isn’t working with my daughter, so now I’m trying Taking Cara Babies. 🙏 this method works because man, I’ve never been so tired. 🥴

I try to watch these videos to be more informed... I just keep getting more depressed, and feeling like I dont want to be in this world anymore. Im pregnant but I have epilepsy. The number one trigger of having a siezure is sleep deprevasion. Im so scared and ashamed. I shouldnt have tried to have a baby in the first place. I dont know what the hell i was thinking.

Hey Anna my wife is 29 weeks pregnant

I watch these videos to remind myself not to give in to baby fever.

Thank God im a short sleeper and only require 4 hours of sleep per day and can manage off of 3

That's why I loved my epidural the last 2 times. I slept before I started to feel like I needed to push. ♡ and then I was awake for awhillleee. That 2 hr nap is God send. The next sleep I get is when I'm settled in my room and baby is settled and I find a good time to doze off

It does get better and before you know it..they are teenagers..I have 4..20.17.10.and 11..and it has flewby😮😢

Hi Anna! Not sure where you live but I thought this comment might be helpful to consider. A lot of medical providers talk about disparities in quality of healthcare for people who are part of minority groups. And this could possibly be in part due to the fact that minority groups have less access to educational resources in a language and format that they are comfortable navigating. I have searched far and wide for SPANISH IN-PERSON birth classes for myself and my Ecuadorian husband to take, but so far I have only found Spanish ONLINE birth courses and they are rarely as helpful or detailed or naturally oriented than the resources that I’ve found in English. Additionally, my husband has great difficulty navigating technology so online classes would not be beneficial for him.

Though I don't have kids anorher thing no one talks about is how intrusive the check ups and birthing process can be

Mom of 4 hear!my 4th is a newborn,my husband and i wanted a 4th baby,now im mom of 1 child 2 toddlers and a newborn, she is with colics and i can not sleep at the nights,my parents or my in laws don't ask or care about anything,and they never had and its ok,but im really sad cause my husband does not helping at the night noteven for a minute,it is like i don't efen exist, im so exhausted cause i can not rest not even the day because im having my other kids,im feeling depressed im crying all the time and yeap im so lonely,my husband don't love me anymore,i don't have time not even to pee,my house is a big mess,im a big mess,my hair,i am asking him ti keep the baby just ti wash my hair once the week and he is asking me abiut how many minutes do i need and becoming angry, i love my kids but i feel sas tired and disappointed, this is how i feel

My baby is due in just about 2 weeks and I’m glad for but now scared of what’s to come…did anyone talk to their husband about how they were feeling? The baby’s dad and I are not married but we hope that our love and partnership carries us through

Im a new mom... Again 😂

I needed to hear this! Currently up at 3am feeding my 3 week old, fighting to keep my eyes open 🫠

Anna, you’re an incredible source for parents. It’s so nice to see someone telling it like it is and giving support to parents! You’re a gem! 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻