never approach a woman with her friends unless you want to get your feeling hurt.

lets keep it real, us blacks are too busy giving each other dirty looks to even get very far... lol

I was at a store and I said hello to this one sister. She acted like I never even spoke. So I get my stuff and get in line. She's in her line and she's short on money. She asks me if she can have five dollars. I ignored her, paid for my shit with a $100 bill and left. Don't support rudeness.

Men don't approach women's nowadays because they have attitudes.

I had to stop. I was tired of meeting the ones who not single and not tell no one about their status. Dating scene is terrible so it is best to stay single.

My experience with black women overall have been positive so when it comes to conversations like this I like to soak up other peoples experiences. I’ve dated black women from all over the world so my pool of experience is a bit different. The one thing I don’t like though is that when these conversations come up and I’m one of the few black males in the room, all the vitriol gets poured on me lol. And that’s the issue, a lot of black men and women aren’t really seen as individuals after a certain point, we just get melted down to caricatures by the people in our own race. So much so that they forget the black men and women sitting right in front of them who HAVE treated them with respect and who’ve been decent human beings.

Yeah, I myself no longer approach women. If they say hello to me I'll respond in kind and then go about my business.

I got a story of when I last approached a black woman a few years back. I was leaving a grocery store and noticed her in the parking lot, I knew there was a chance of me coming off creepy, but I figured I could talk my way out of that. Anyhow all I managed to get out was hello how are you, can I have a moment of your time? To which she replied, "what can you do for me, you're walking?". I guess she assumed I came out of nowhere because she didn't see me leaving the store, but I was so flabbergasted by her snob like reply that I stood there frozen in time and she drove off. One of the reasons I am mgtow now too. Let women do the approaching now.

A couple more: 1. hands already full. 2. in a relationship. 3. not into you. 4. you don't look like a value add. 5. you look okay, but your associates look like an issue.

Nice tips. The problem with BW and BM is that we don't want to be friends. I have a friendly attitude. I don't have to know you to talk, laugh or joke with you. I don't have to see you as a potential mate for me to acknowledge your presence as a human being. I love my BM men and I will continue to encourage and uplift them with a simple smile, laugh, jokes just to make them feel that they're loved. It doesn't mean that they're getting in my draws. If anything, they fall madly in love. Ladies, the ultimate secret is to take care of yourself, be confident in yourself and show all the brothers love. That include the one you desire and the one you don't desire because they will see you as caring human being as oppose to hunting for a mate.

The intriguing thing about this subject is the fact that we really do love our black women. The sad thing about this subject is that our women are looking for something instilled into their psyche about what a real black alpha male should be and look like. I have had countless white females approach me and tell me how handsome I am but a remember very few black women doing the same even when they are interested (not that I need their validity). Might possibly explain why I have dated more white females than I have black females. But it's the same BF that treat BM like shit that will then turn around and get mad at the BM for dating a WF.

You just took me back to the days of my youth when sisters weren't giving me the time of day when I was really attracted to them. How they were only interested in your attention and nothing else. How they wouldn't work with you at all. How you were turned down by their friends even if the girl was initially interested. And when you found one who was willing and gave you a chance and took her out you realized that her ex who was white seen us together and decided to call her all of a sudden which would cause her to push you to the side. Or the fact that actually making out with one was considered "luck" whether enjoyable or not. Too much work for much too little.

Great video. It's good to know other brothers went through the same issue with approaching black women that I did. Once I decided to date other cultures of women, approaching women became much easier. Sad to say, but true. I think women of my generation over 50 stopped trusting black men, passed it down to their daughters and that's why brothers keep getting all this attitude when trying to approach.

Great video and a lot of valid points, personally speaking though I don't approach black women at bars/clubs. The reason? because black women at these places feel it's ok to emasculate men and dehumanize us. I'm talking you come at a "sister" polite and she is just giving you some attitude like "how dare this n****a come talk to me" only black women I approach are ones that are choosing or through social circle. On top of that I don't approach black women cause I'm not a thug and lot of black women where i live wanna be with a thug or pretty boy i.e. Trey Songz type.

7 years ago this was made....and look at where things are now in 2021. Men found out women don’t like accountability and transparency and all hell had broke loose #manlisten

There is no law requiring men to approach women. Despite women's lamentations, that is part of female entitlement, something men have helped perpetuate for centuries. So if they are in fact strong women, they can do the approaching themselves.

It's because we are smart.

I stopped messing with black women. Whenever I used to approach black women they wouldn't give me the time of day. They would either act like I didn't exist, have an attitude or talk shit amongst their friends. I had no luck with the sistas. Right now I'm dating a white woman. We've been dating for about 5 months now and things seem to be going well.

Where the hell are these things happening?I live in Atlanta.I was married for 20 years to blackwoman.We grew apart but are still cool.Few year later,I met another beautiful smart sister and she is just fine.I don't see all these problems.If you are a superficial person,your values are probably superficial and you are looking for the wrong things in a person.If two people come together are honest,then things click,but if both are fake,it wont.

Spot on bruh! I went through a phase when I was approaching women all the time. After getting shot down so many times a was like. Fuck it! Why even bother anymore.

Look at the comment section finally I'm among guys who understand the difficulty.

Sisters should be looking for a family oriented Black man end of story

I never proclaimed myself to be MGTOW but I've actually gave up on women due to excessive rejection in combination with getting into trouble. This dry spell lasted for 20 years.

Good insight about us men experimenting with different types of women.I've noticed for example that women who are into being fit are more confident about themselves.Also more willingly to meet guys.Of course you do need to be in reasonable shape.A fat Albert type has little or no chance with her.

I'm happy to hear your video because men always stare at me but never approach me and I'm shy so I just keep going on about my business

It’s the attitude... I know people said it in the comments already. That’s what it is for me.

The rejection part is on point thats why im real cautious on who i talk to

I’m from the Bay Area where we learned to pop our collar but you’ve made great points that I AGREE WITH!

We don't approach them because we can spot their BS from a mile away. I'll spare myself.

Why is it so hard to find a woman who can actually be dated? Why?

It's not about hating you. You're just something to be avoided! they're just not happy unless you're miserable!

Most guys like us don't approach women because we don't want to be rejected or get played / with black people in general always try to embarrass one another especially in public or on social media nd u got some of these black females who will diss u from trying to talk with them just to show off in front of their friends so that's why I will only startup a conversation with a black women if I see she interested in me cuz I'm not dealing with no aggressive attitude

Why approach women I just be on my 📱 smart phone.

Colored barbie dolls who've been gagged don't have to worry about a real brother approaching them because they're marked by their behavior and that squeaky red girl sound they call 👄 talking and they ain't coming up on no strong brother anyway so it shouldn't make a brother feel any way so it ain't nothing but a lotti da.😎. Dont feel me. Sheeeeee!!! .

I appreciate the honesty in this video. Very well put

I'm glad to, I really think all the truly nice down to earth sisters should really have a talk with other sisters about these issues.

Thank you for this video. I was in a group yesterday and this topic came up. you offered great input

I'm going to keep it real as a black man the reason why a lot of black men don't approach black women because they are not physically endowed and they don't want to be shot down by the black woman. Or they may feel monetarily inept to that woman. What brothers have to realize is that a real woman just wants a man that has a sense of self.

"The problem is that games and porn are entertaining, inexpensive, easily accessible, and reliable. Women can be entertaining, but they’re expensive, inaccessible for most men, and from the male perspective, shockingly unreliable." Helen Smith, Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream - and Why It Matters

This is good, makes me feel at ease.. I don't want black men to approach me, for any reason at all... so this is refreshing to hear...

I only get approached by masculine men, which is a great thing, plus I have a warm inviting vibe and I smile a lot . I realize that some men are shy. It’s very important to have open energy. I’m a feminine women and enjoy it to the fullest 😌

BLACKS FAVORITE LINE " YOU DON'T KNOW ME"

Black women in my experience are more nicer to whites. Even when they are corny as hell. I’m mixed race and sometimes they told me I’m not black enough. But nevertheless I still found a black woman who appreciates me for who I am and married her. I wanted a black woman because I still wanted to maintain blackness in my children

You got my attention.....not only because you're attractive but I actually learned something new.

I like the delivery of this video. It's not angry or anything. Excellent vernacular ; no swearing love it. In what universe do black men not approach black women??? I have read and heard and experienced black men bei g less selective and basically using the statics of asking everyone and see who bites!

Thank you for your honesty, said in a very respectful way (unlike some other youtuber's and authors). The problem is a deeply embedded and complex one, socially engineered. and passed down from generation to generation. Change starts within and we really need to start. I now make eye contact and smile at black men respectfully and if approached, do not assume straight away that he wants something. I respond intelligently and respectfully and if he suggests, will kindly decline but thank him. As a black woman, I know historically what we have had to endure, some of it at the hands of our own black men so, you have to understand as men our 'attitude', it is a survival and defence mechanism. Black men may have had it bad but as a black women, we also have had it real rough, and this still continues. it is any wonder we are "angry" or "aggressive" or " have bad attitudes". I get not every black man is going to have the ability to work with all that but, we as women have had to stand by our black men. Remember, behind every successful man is a great woman. So fellas, don't give up on us, put the effort in, don't just look at pretty faces, get to know REAL women, Virtuous black women. Ladies, to approach someone you like is really difficult so give the next man who approaches you some respect (especially if he approaches you with respect). Be the queens that you once were. It is a COMPLIMENT. Stay in the here and now and be honest, polite and courteous. People recognise what is really going on and start to make that change TODAY as we are in danger of being 'bred out' our culture is already being taken, fashion, music, art, dance, philosophy, you name it... especially here in the UK. Do you know there was a 49% increase in mixed race couples from 2001-2011, the same is happening in the USA. check your census. This is a real issue...

To all the men that feel they can't approach/talk to our blaque sistaz. THANK YOU. I'm the type of guy that does and when 1 or 2 women don't speak back nooooo big deal becuz my catalog is full of desirable women

Black men are learning something.

Thanks for your gracious commentary. You kept it clean, sincere, and respectful. I appreciate that. HOWEVER...the comments from the Black 'men' about Black Women's attitudes just makes me shake my head in utter disbelief. Truth be told: Most Black women are tired of ya'll, too! We've been dealing with all the madness, drama, lies, deceit, and the list goes ON, so get over it. You had no problem with breaking hearts, sleeping with your brother's girl friend, and/or tapping your ex or child's mother while you were seeing a new love/like interest. And oh, yes, news flash: The jails and prisons are filled with whom???? Mostly Black men. And we STILL have sista's who will commit to ya'll IN JAIL! And please don't tell me about "The man" or the 'System," cause you will marry and impregnate the Man's daughter and damn near take care of the whole family. You can't claim oppression on the right hand and sleep with it on the left. OWN YOUR STUFF. It's not all peaches and cream on this side, either. No matter what: we haven't given up on the Black man. ***Drops microphone***

You are so on point Brother -

Man Mars you got some good comments on here bro...When I was going through my trials for the Hunger Games...at times it was extremely discouraging to talk to black women who simply didn't have time or were "focusing on themselves".My personal favorite I'm in a relationship with Jesus.My brother was saying it on the phone the other day he gave up trying to talk to them because they want you to come at them like a pre packaged black Ken doll,come on really in this economy?We all working to do better.A la too many games.

I'm very honored by your comment. I'm sure that that is the reason why I get so much respect from women. You get what you give.

Can’t wait until I can put in my video request!

This is some great insight! Thank you for being honest and tactful. I think you're right, in Atlanta, there are many fakers in both sexes and you're right about the girls night out trap. I just realized a friend of mine blocked an opportunity I had to know someone and I didn't even realize what went down until some time and thought later. Funny thing is now she's in a relationship. Hindsight is 20/20. I know a handful of "good" single women with standards, including myself. I think we need to get out more without the blocking friends. Lol. You're cute btw.

Great video. Thanks for posting it. You make a lot of good points. And yes, a women (as well as a man) needs to feel comfortable in her own skin and have no insecurities if she's worth going out with.

I enjoyed your insight good video and true .

Fellas sometimes she might be stressed out, so don't take it personally

The blessed Child, I respect your comment. It reasonate with your post name. Dam good advice, but I don't know anyone who is at this spiritual level. Point well taken

I will take your advice and flirt with my eyes. I recently have tried saying things more gently if I like the guy. What I am about to say I am meaning to say politely and this is just my personal observation. It's almost like guys are afraid of anything social or that involves putting yourself out there. It has to be user friendly. I am starting to understand that this is how guys work but it seems almost unfair and very silly to me. Only because as a woman even to obtain most of the very dear friends that I have female and male, I have had to put myself out there socially on some level and take a chance, I have gotten rejected plenty of times for all the times that I have gotten accepted and most of the women that I know have had terrible things happen to them socially but they don't let it frighten them so. The fear just does not make much sense to me as women socially seem to endure more socially and still manage to find the courage to put their heart on the line if they love the guy, I feel like courage deserves a partner of equal courage. As for financial, my finances are in order, I am OK, but I would just be more attracted to the guy if he took the lead, like offered to take me to dinner, and properly stood on the other side of the door and held the door open for me not because my arms don't work but honestly I would be attracted to a guy and would consider the sex part of the relationship if I got signs that they felt I was worth investing time and money in not because I don't have the money but because he is a gentlemen and thinks I am worth getting to know.

Thanks for the video makes complete sense on so many different levels.

As a black woman I am in love with this video and plan on sharing it. I love hearing a black man state his reasons but it doesn't come from a place of hate. It comes from a place of purity. I love your delivery and I love how you didn't blame women. I love how you put your words together and I love the overall tone of this video. I feel that you love black women but you have dealt with some liars and you didn't put the information out there to bash women. You simple put the information out there to inform us and this is actually something I can listen to and take note of. I wish all men would simple express themselves like this. I get tired of all of the female bashing. Love love love the approach.

Im scared of all western women

Freaked up attitude is a big part.

Ricky is on point with that statement.

I do not live in the US, nor am I from the US, though I do have several friends and relatives there. However, through information that I have been coming across on various videos here, as well as information from elsewhere, I'm becoming more enlightened about the dynamic between black men and women in America. It's really beginning to sound like quite a grim situation....hmmm.....what struck me as well was your easy, polite, sincere attitude. Plus, you're well spoken....for me, that's VERY attractive. And you are pretty attractive, by the way ;)

You sure summed it all up. Dating has been rough "Buy you a drink, dinner and ask for some ass". Heart breaking when you know you have more to offer. I recognize and move to the left of that. All I can do is focus on self, continue to be a welcoming spirit . A good man with good intentions will gravitate towards me. Keep up the great videos. Nice job!!!

I really liked what you said I love my BM I have never crossed the barriers alot of Women and Men have hidden agendas but I say just be yourself a smile goes a long way and or just a hi like you said and a joke and a laugh goes along way like a sister commented 10months ago and start there you never know if the response is instant cool if not keep on moving maybe you'll see that person of interest again and see if they approach you you sound cool and you do know what you're talking about I try to see what persons personality is like how they approach you my only thing with a Man is their shoes if they are all twisted to the side all scuffed up and dirty feet hanging over to the side as one of my co-workers says you better go on and get or you need to sit down somewhere ha! cause that tells me right there no no no! You jacked up everywhere ha! Have a good day

I believe that the women who actually want interaction with you and have good hearts make themselves known. If you have a good heart you deserve good things💕.also stop listening to your bitter ass friends who will talk u out of a relationship.and fight the urge to be hiveminded creatures following everything thing in a magazine. And beyonce can afford to be a diva or a bitch or whatever she's actually married and rich.some women dont have that.😕

I wish I had the time to really respond to this. This is a good conversation starter. I could go on for days. Sn: your skin has a glow today. It's nice (I mean that in a masculine way) lol

@maximuslyricus some things are in general that I have heard from other guys. But I myself wouldn't know about dating other races. I will say generally it's an easier conversation or one with less underlying animosity.

Omg, this is my first time ever seeing one of your videos and you are unbelievably good looking. (I'm a female) Good video, too.

right on brotha!!!

Huh!? He's too in shape? That's a first for me. I'd think that'd be an asset.

I've been asked out a lot in the past, and I was always very polite and rejected them, but their response was always the same. How come? Or why? My thing is is that I shouldn't have to elaborate on why I'm rejecting you you should just take it like it is...a rejection and move on. FYI I'm talking about men in general, and no I'm not talking about just black men Asian man white men Hispanic men etc etc etc.

damn homie thought u was Sheek Louch str8 up

They are looking for Material gain, What does the package come with a car a house something they can see that has value. Women even pass up good black men who are 6 figure dudes but do not wear it on their arms so the woman pass him up, then later notice she fucked up when she see that dude getting into a Benz or big Cadillac Escalade or buying another beautiful woman a drink who is not black might I add!

its just way more work if youve dated other types of women. even if you get the number the shit is a headache to get them out

This some real shit bruh that's how I been gettin ass drink dinner ass in that order and in young

Exactly what I was asking

a few weeks ago I saw a beautiful lady walk past me I was getting something from my new car she was attractive outside and then I saw her again dressed very skimpy passed me all this time I don't say anything and another time same place our eyes met didn't say nothing and still saw her talking to my neighbor who is out off my intrest she is pretty to me but there is a problem out there girls sent by police to manipulate you then they cry rape is a set up be careful to strangers.

Only mammies want a bm to approach.Most classy bw dont give a dam.The ones that men would like to approach dont want to be approached.Bw know bm dont take rejection lightly

This is "general" for every type of women.

masculine, rude and sometimes they don't look good as think

Q: Why do black men date white women? A: Because they're friendlier 💁

Sounds like Muhammad Ali.

Love been single.Donot have to worry about the lies

Amen bro do the grace of God Amen

Girls night out I dont to much at all, I go out by myself or meet up with people....

Not worth the effort in my book. I love the peace that comes with my singleness.

larmovement you ain't never lie!

I've just reading the comments below and conclusion is; the nice approachable black women need to shout louder and separate themselves from the typical cold unwelcoming ones that gives you a bad rep. Even though I have dated more women outside my race due to the warmer welcome I received from women outside my race most of the time here in the UK. However I have met and dated good black women. Please check out this black woman in the link below she is a breath of fresh air kzfaq.info/get/bejne/frKAY7ak2q-aj6s.html

I AGREE!!! 100%

Some of these wemen dont have any thing to offer but body well the body and face is going to be ugly and old and what do the women have thin

The women who are in debt but gotta house and car I dated one of those lol never again

Handsome Man ! flying to the USA .......

The problem is your intentions most black men are not married and is constantly looking for women to fulfill their desires. If more black men will get married and take on a purposeful relationships we woudnt have a big problem

Again well said.

I absolutely love"black women"but hate what they have become! I'm only attracted to sista's and that's probably why I'm still single at 39 with only I child.

But what our Sisters fail to realize there gonna be the only black people on Earth in years to come if he don't realize he's in a war! Stand over that for a minute every other woman on earth will have her equivalent but not black women if we all don't wake up!

I understand the intent of the video and your role. I'm speaking about the black men who diss black women. The fact that you can't believe a black man can defend black women says more about you than about me.