Relationships and Spirituality

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2 жыл бұрын

How do you manage relationships in the setting of awakening and living a spiritual life? Well obviously this is a huge subject but here is a simple pointer that can be a practical approach to getting out of your head and into your life.
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About my videos: These videos are a resource for anyone wishing to wake up from the dream of separation. Awakening, enlightenment, and liberation are becoming far more mainstream possibilities than they once were. There are many good teachers out there, and if you resonate with the teachings of Eckhart Tolle, Rupert Spira, or Sadhguru, you might find resources here that address these deeper promptings to investigate your true nature.

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@cps_Zen_Run 2 жыл бұрын

Compassion for those that are not Awake. Understanding that most of our suffering is self-imposed, and most of the world 🌎 is suffering needlessly.

@chickensdontsurf 2 жыл бұрын

This loosely reminds me of a quote, "When you're 18, you care a lot about what other people think of you. When you're 40, you don't care what other people think of you. And when you're 60, you realize no one is thinking of you." Loosely, but I have wanted to do exactly that... not ruminating over interactions anymore. I feel like, as if I somehow needed it, you just gave me permission to let it all go, and move on to the next phase of personal growth. Thank you, my friend!

@tomorrowneverknows248 2 жыл бұрын

Please do more videos on this topic 🙏 (+ a book + a channel + a playlist) 😆

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

@torvnes Жыл бұрын

Looking forward too!,

@cathycolless376 Жыл бұрын

You fall in love with whatever is happening in front of your face.! Magic ❤

@tim2269 2 жыл бұрын

You have knack for turning a seekers problem back towards themselves.Keep doing that. Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing there is a field. I’ll meet you there. When the soul lies down in that grass the world is too full to talk about. Rumi

@dar_jada 2 жыл бұрын

Your grasp of what drives and motivates us is astounding. Then you go beyond these truths and help us free ourselves from our self imposed suffering. Even more astounding. Thank you.

@northernyogi 2 жыл бұрын

Byron Katie says, “who would you be without that thought?” Great video! I love you!

@filmwithtalia 22 күн бұрын

PLEASE MORE CONTENT ON RELATIONSHIPS!!!!! We love you Angelo!!! 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

@DanielleM-yr4di 2 жыл бұрын

A playlist, a book, a channel 😂

@veronicapalermo2599 2 жыл бұрын

Putting in a vote for "more content like this"!!! Good stuff!

@jeanieschainost6233 2 жыл бұрын

A life situation had led my old habit of ruminating to occur. Thank you for pointing me back to the truth of my being. I so appreciate you.

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

You’re welcome ☺️

@AlastairGames 6 ай бұрын

Encouraging and clear, thanks. It sounds like it's okay to just not even worry or think about anything! Though doesn't contemplation thoughts help us to learn from our mistakes? But I guess when we're just being our pure present self it's all good, it's when we follow the thoughts that problems arise.

@nevermind5228 2 жыл бұрын

The message from the 2rd half of the video really shakes my world. Feel like death of self. Resistance and doubt rush forward big time…. Regardless will give it a try. Stay tuned. 🙏

@lynbrowne931 2 жыл бұрын

I’m yet to meet someone who is Awake, I have lots of friends whom are all struggling in their own minds and I love them dearly. Thankfully I’m free of the the need of a spouse these days ( it’s all about me me me now 🤗)

@gregorylent 2 жыл бұрын

come to india, you will meet many

@ingeningeningen 2 жыл бұрын

During shadow work my mood and emotions where all over the place for a long time and my partner reacted in a "bad way" on several occasions which I found made it harder until I made peace with all the facts; me feeling like i did and my partners reactions to it and I simply let it be what it was without wanting it to be any different or trying to change it. Our relationship is stronger today and we let eachother be free to be or do what we want.

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

Wonderful

@joshuahutt Ай бұрын

Such great prompting! I was starting to develop a whole story around “the work.” Surely I have so much emotional work ahead of me! So much to do before… And yet… Who AM I, without the work? Without the problems? Without a journey? Without a process and a goal, and awareness of how hard and long this must certainly be? Very clear that if I just show up for whatever, all of this will take care of itself, as it always has. Then what have I been DOING?

@leahmckenzie3107 Жыл бұрын

Wow, I love this! What a great challenge ❤

@junewaterman8198 2 жыл бұрын

Yes! Please make a play list!

@Bestbeachesincalifornia 5 ай бұрын

thank you!!!!! wow wow wow

@junewaterman8198 2 жыл бұрын

Yes, write the book please!

@jair_zacarias 7 ай бұрын

Thank you

@solveiglarsen33 2 жыл бұрын

No thought, no problem.

@TimTrapnell 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you brother 🙏💗

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

My pleasure

@infinitenothingness 2 жыл бұрын

[4:43] completely let go 🦋

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

🌺

@tutorial9322 6 ай бұрын

If I could just push a button to let go, I would push it with all my strength, say goodbye to me and my problems and finally be free.

@injoyinmyself2018 2 жыл бұрын

It's interesting if you search "Waking up and parenting " or " non duality and parenting " there is hardly any videos on KZfaq, most teachers don't have kids and the ones that do hardly ever bring it up as a subject, why??

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

good point

@injoyinmyself2018 2 жыл бұрын

@@SimplyAlwaysAwake "I smell a device"

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

@@injoyinmyself2018 what does it mean?

@injoyinmyself2018 2 жыл бұрын

@@SimplyAlwaysAwake device= plot, trick , in reference to my first comment, that there could be a reason why we don't see many videos of that nature. Sorry I don't know why I'm using shakespeare references 🙏

@veronicapalermo2599 2 жыл бұрын

Yeah, I've noticed that as well. I'm curious about Shefali Tsabary. She has some interesting books, including The Conscious Parent which I've purchased but not yet read.

@ThommyB 2 жыл бұрын

Another thing is that we tend to add so much utility and expectations into relationship, which is fine by itself, as long we recognize it for what it is, and don't act like if relationships are an open bar. Husband, wife, kids, friends, nobody exist to serve our needs and expectations. It's not easy to get out of infancy. We learn very early that when we experienced discomfort, all we have to do is to cry and mommy and daddy come to our bed. That's how we learn to expect things in our relations. It's the first step. As we grow, this mental behaviour usually remain, and overall we still consider that relations exist to make us feel better. Just like babies. But, I would say that the need of support in the awakening process disappear with trust and really we don't need any kind of specific relationship to awaken. All relations works. The process required a great deal of silence anyway, so having a spouse that do not share your interest for that, it's really a great gift, so you are living it, and not just talking about it just to get overly excited at every insight, shift and feeling.

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

important points. When we replace someone with our expectations of what they should provide us, we don't see them, and unconditional love isn't possible

@ThommyB 2 жыл бұрын

@@SimplyAlwaysAwake Very true. As for "unconditional love" I am skeptical about that, maybe partly because it has been express too easily by too many people and it created a bias in my mind. But we can certainly by happy for the sole reason that someone exist, and call it love. Just like one the greatest pleasure in life, is to see the people we love, love each other.

@macparker3549 2 жыл бұрын

“Relationships an open bar…” Beautiful! 😆😂🤬🤨😎

@ThommyB Жыл бұрын

@@macparker3549 😎

@ThommyB 2 жыл бұрын

Love your subject. Well, I think it's quite fair to say that people usually have a clear idea of what they don't want in their long term relationship. To know want we want, is way more complicated then it look. If you ask people what they want, you will get a lot of : "I want complicity, respect, having fun, love, getting older together, etc". Except this is not want they want. This is the ideal conditions in what they want to experiment what they want. What we want, are the core criteria we apply when we chose a partner, and unless you have done a decent self-inquiry job, a good share of thoses criteria are unconscious. It's not a coincidence if people who possess high cognitive ability are more likely to ends up with equality brainy people. Narcissists are more likely to ends up with other narcissists. Family oriented people with family oriented people. People with low self esteem with abusers. And so on. Patterns exist. This is where I agree with you that mating is a highly self-reflecting game. Now if you are a highly spiritual person, someone awaken, name it, and you are with someone who have no interest in that, it doesn't mean the relationship will fall apart. It just mean that spirituality is not in your core criteria when it come to chose a partner. But let's say a person suddenly define his or her awakening, in a middle of a relationship, as a core criteria, this person has to be aware that she's changing the rules in the middle of the game and this will have serious consequences. At the very least, she or he have to take responsability for that.

@BigSausageTits 2 жыл бұрын

from my experience there was a destabilising period where i desperately tried to describe the sudden shift to my wife,this continued on and off for around 6 months,heated sporadic outbursts..until it clicked that i needed to keep it to myself. she was extremely non-participatory,simply saying’i don’t care’ to shut it down. we never speak about it now and everything is fine..i don’t need her to believe me anymore,which feels great. had i continued pushing it,it would have ended my marriage for sure.

@ThommyB 2 жыл бұрын

@@BigSausageTits Nice. Glad that you realised that. It's certainly natural to look for validation and to communicate any exciting experiences of any kind we might had. My wife has no real interest into awakening, philosophy or spiritual practices as well. But there's no need to share the "narrative behind the experience". It's just words. What we can share is the spiritual realisation by itself, directly in the relationship. That's the real stuff.

@BigSausageTits 2 жыл бұрын

@@ThommyB couldn’t have worded that better buddy,sounds like we shared a learning experience there. …it was all necessary of course,no regrets 😁

@JoeyKastelic777 2 жыл бұрын

nice

@peterbuckley9731 2 жыл бұрын

It’s so wonderful to see your numbers climb… for the world. The nuance and articulation is very necessary for us the collectively walk through our increasingly resistant post modern ego. Keep going good sir!

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

@charlesiveson2642 2 жыл бұрын

Thinking is not reality

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

Damn straight

@joy2253 2 жыл бұрын

In my experience 'uneven awakenings' that can occur in relationships often bring up topics like monogamy versus multiple partners, open or closed relationship, in other words huge topics. Relationships that appear to socially be the traditional norm, can explode overnight. And what then? A profound learning experience, yes, often initially with drama. And the result? If the involved parties cannot agree to an expanded version then acceptance of the change must result, and that's just the way it is. Lots to say and learn about this topic. Your video scratches the surface of this topic. What does a spiritually awake relationship look like? Maybe more importantly, what does it feel like?

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

This isn’t your first rodeo 😂

@joy2253 2 жыл бұрын

Horses? More like the wild west!

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

@@joy2253 😂😂 giddy up 🐎

@timothyammons9011 Жыл бұрын

“This is where we thought we were going to find the love, including self-love”… woahh😮 Devoting ourself to loved one can bring about a nightmarish game of tug’o’war. Unless we’re also devoted to ourself. However this can also bring about an internal tug’o’war battle… insanely frustrating, bringing us to our wits end! Unless we’re already fully devoted to serving God. At which point we may dissolve fully into God altogether.

@tosvarsan5727 2 жыл бұрын

The interesting thing is that the solution is the same to all problems. I see as that plays out at times and yet still the mind pull toward some problems seems too strong for now.

@rojorobot5820 2 жыл бұрын

I prefer to suffer silently and secretly.

@alfreddifeo9642 6 ай бұрын

☮🙏

@viktorijevalenta8732 Жыл бұрын

🙏🙂

@Thereedwyatt 9 ай бұрын

“Internal responses within us…” 😂😅

@kevinmai2947 5 ай бұрын

What would I be without my problems? Hmmm

@gracefrazier4775 2 жыл бұрын

Yes.

@TheLegend-ct6ss 2 жыл бұрын

What happens when a psychiatrist detects decreased activity in my default mode network? Could he treat it? I went to one because my low motivation and depression because of the no thought state and i was wondering if they could detect the spiritual part and treating it

@TheLegend-ct6ss 2 жыл бұрын

@@markfuller i became depressed because of this, Im just searching for solutions and i will try psychedelics. I just became 18 and it feels like my life is already over if i think about the fact that i cant socialize and if i ever will have a wife and kids😔😔

@nat998 2 жыл бұрын

I am sorry to hear you're not feeling too great. You're such a young guy, barely an adult, to be faced with depression. How long has this been ongoing? Have you seen Dr's before, and been prescribed any meds? What do you think trying psychedelics might do for you - is it the magic bullet, you think? 😀 I have no idea if it is/isn't, maybe it is? Just curious. Um, how are the other areas in your life going? You say you don't socialize and this creates future anxiety for settling down. Do you keep to yourself, have a few friends? Are you studying? How does an average day look for you? 🙂

@TheLegend-ct6ss 2 жыл бұрын

@@nat998 i heard story’s about psychedelics filling the mind again. A day for me is working at a cleaning job without any purpose in life or future and no motivation at all.

@nat998 2 жыл бұрын

@@TheLegend-ct6ss well that sounds like a demoralizing situation to be in, definitely just adds to the hopelessness you feel, I'm sure. Do you feel like your work situation is permanent, or is there a possibility that perhaps something else may pop up. You're still very young, so to be working at all says a lot of good about you! It shows that you're capable of sticking out a job (even if it does feel like you're serving time), being dependable and reliable. You also show an initiative in wanting to help yourself instead of curling up in the fetal. I think you're being too hard on yourself and there is hope. All isn't lost. I don't know much about psyches tbh. I've always fantasized about having a shroom trip and attending an ayahuasca ceremony. I also saw the doc, "D.M.T. THE SPIRIT MOLECULE" and that looks highly interesting indeed but I'd be too scared to tempt fate. Knowing my odds, I'd wind up pulling a Syd Barrett and be in absentia for my remaining yrs. I know there have been studies on shrooms, ketamine, and lsd to treat depression but they're inconclusive and experimental. My dad was hospitalized in his late 20s after a psychotic break and was dx with schizoaffective depressive disorder and he swore by cannabis as a treatment. In fact, he refused psychotropic meds and therapy. If the shoe fits... I think you should apply Mark Fuller's advice re: Eft tapping and Guided meditations before you resort to drastic extremes. Meditation is extremely potent at alleviating depression. Why not set yourself a month to 3 month long trial and see for yourself just how amazing this unassuming little practice can be. You have nothing to lose and it's worth a shot. I highly recommend meditation and have noticed immediate improved well being from daily sittings. Best of all it's instantly available and free. Give it a try? Depression sucks the joy outta life and makes you feel like a caged rat. It's lethal. Getting lost inside your mind with churning, ruminating thoughts about the dread of tomorrow will just make you feel even more desperate. This negative self talk becomes a self fulfilling prophecy often but I don't sense this from you. I see a bright young guy looking to better his life. You will prevail bud. Just take it easy, practice whatever makes you feel incrementally better. Nothing lasts forever. Nothing is set in stone. You are not your mind. This too shall pass. As my hero Nick Cave sang, "... You gotta just keep on pushin'... push the sky away..." 😀💛

@SimplyAlwaysAwake 2 жыл бұрын

Emotion work is the key, I highly recommend looking into it. Byron katie the work, Kiloby inquories etc. It's not the quiet mind but the emotional repression that is causing so much suffering :) It's not comfortable to do the work but thats the path to the life you want to live.

@freeman669 2 жыл бұрын

❤️

@birgit8996 2 жыл бұрын

Am only ever in relation to myself.....all appearances😊🤔🙄😣😃😇🤐

@nat998 2 жыл бұрын

Hells yeah!! 🤘😎 😜

@gregorylent 2 жыл бұрын

if you don't need to don't bother ..

@ecologiesofmindfulness564 3 ай бұрын

Love each sensory event….. to death

@v3g499 2 жыл бұрын

I like rupert spiras point of view that we are all consciousness experiencing the workd from different perspectives, it seems natural that so much love and compassion would arise to others from this point of view 🤍