She’s just saying what she thinks he would want to hear lol. Most Filipina women are like that because they don’t want to lose the wallet. That’s more like a father daughter relationship. Filipinas will marry anytime for money/stable housing food

Baby Mae, you have no idea the gem you have in Paul. He’s not telling you what to do, he’s letting you know it’s okay to move on whatever that ends up meaning to you. It’s not a question that requires an answer now, it’s just Paul telling his girl, your happiness is all he wants for you now and in the future when he’s not here. It’s one more way to express Mahal. Guys, this is a very touchy issue, often a hard conversation to have. Don’t wait till it happens to appreciate the different ways we say I care about you while we’re still living. Paul, true gentleman to the end, peace be with you my friend.

Baby Mae, you are an absolute sweetheart a rare gem and Paul is blessed to have found a woman who has so many special qualities, not to mention your total loyalty. I will be happy if my Filipina ends up being half the woman you are. I understand why you were drawn to her Paul, she is and exceptional human being. Just a great couple and what you have, is what the majority of those of us who are looking for true love would wish for. TC

I totally agree with you on the tattoos and drinking. You and BM are blessed to have found each other.

I asked my elderly grandmother, who was widowed with two children in her 30s, why she never remarried. She showed me the ring on her finger and told me she had a husband. My Filipina wife and I have had this conversation. Same opinions. Hard topics but necessary. Good content. Love the uniform. You hit the lottery Paul. Hard to hit it twice.

Paul it is a hard topic to have. When I lost my wife 14 years ago it took a long time to even try to move on. Its been 14 years now and I do want someone to share my life with now.

I had a tear 😢in my eyes listening to BBY Mae’s story about her Mom making her a school uniform . My wife didn’t have it that bad but I do know she had to survive on what the family could provide . As far as BBY Mae staying single she would have to hide in them mountains 🏔️ because guys would be flying into the Philippines 🇵🇭 real fast to court her 😂😂😂😂 . Now both of you stay happy and healthy you guys are a beautiful couple ❤🙏

You're 100% correct about Baby Mae. She has natural qualities that no college degrees can give anyone. You are both fortunate to offer each other the truly important things in life money can't buy.

Hey Paul, the doctor from barzil here... never try to guess who is gonna passa away first. Enjoy the best you both can of each other living together and, of course, take care of material things to be all set to make it easier to who stays on the journey alive... big friendly hug...

Very well said my friends. Hopefully neither one of you will have to face that anytime soon. Stay healthy my friends.

My wife of 30 years is Chinese and although we talk about the planning side of estate matters, she regards it as bad luck or tempting fate to talk much about death and dying. I agree with Mae about the remarrying although I’m much older. I wouldn’t remarry either. It’s almost like asking for potential trouble while you’re adapting to your later years of single life. You first responsibility though Mae, is to keep the ol’ dog alive and well!

It's never too late to be in a girl's school uniform and baby Mae is proving that alright!!!!!!! Great topic guys and it's question that many people procrastinate about until it's too late. This includes people who are single. So much stress can be prevented when that awful time hits all of us one day. Thanks for sharing!

My aunt told me when I joined the Navy don't get a tattoo. I asker her why> She said if you get in trouble (I did many times) they can identify you. LOL.

I don't think she wants to hurt your feelings she's a sweet young lady. It would be ridiculous to even desire for her to be alone to young to live out her life with no one to love or be loved. She will still have great memories of you sure you've told her a lot in life things and perception she will continue to use.🌄🦍

It always warms my heart to see how much you two love each other.

''Class bespeaks an aristocracy that nothing to do with ancestors or money. Some wealthy blue bloods have no class, while individuals who are struggling to make ends meet are loaded with it. Class is real. It can't be faked''. Ann Landers. Baby Mae has so much CLASS. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

My heart goes out to Mae and practically all of the Philippines’ people, they often have it extremely hard. It seems you two are close, I’m glad she found a man that can make her life easier.

I know that it's none of my business but I'm just wondering, why Mae don't go to school. She did a great job learning her English and communicating with Paul well despite she only finished 3rd grade. I truly give her a lot of appreciation for that. It's never too late to educate oneself.

This was heartwarming. I didn't know Mae's story, and I'm glad to see your relationship is based on respect and compatibility. I've been single all my life and don't even think anymore in terms of being in a relationship, but it's nice to see an "accident" brought you two together in happiness.

Great topic Paul . I,ve been looking really hard at becoming an Expat . I have about 3.5 / 4 years tops until retirement . That will put me at 63 seasons . Your content along with a few others is always enlightening , thanks . As I always say " Do Life , Don't Allow Life To Do You " . Take care and Be Well !

Bud, you are wise enough in life to know. I was married to a woman who said the exact same things, said she would even wipe my butt when I was too old or too disabled, but if I died never remarry. Fast forward to decade later, she left me and is with another man. Great story, but I hope men have enough insights from the masses of us who believed.

Paul: Such an important topic to discuss with your partner no matter what the age gap is. I know from personal experience what it's like to lose a partner in the final way. While we were both still in high school, my girlfriend of 3 years was killed by a drunk driver. We were young, but we were very much in love with each other. We made plans to get our careers going and our finances set before taking the vows. We complimented each other like bookends. After her funeral her parents asked me the same question. Would I date again? I replied that the future is not set, and there is a long way to go before my journey is over. At some point I would date again, but it would take a very long time to find someone as special as Nikki. I have dated since then, but never married, because I could never find someone who made me feel anywhere close to the way Nikki made me feel for any length of time (more than a couple months). Still hopeful, still looking, but with the way western women are acting lately, it's not worth the effort. One of the reasons I really want to go to the Philippines, the women there know how to be humble, kind, and selfless. It happened 36 years ago this July, and when I am down and feeling a bit depressed, I think about the wonderful time I had with a very special person in my life. And it cheers me up and gives me hope that someday I may find another special person to share the rest of what I have left of life.

Paul and Baby, My Thai wife and I are of much the same age as both of you. And not long ago went through almost the same both of you are doing now. We are settled now as to what needed to be done. I would not be surprised if your thoughts and actions are much the same as us. All the very best to you both. I can hear the rain but still hear you both.

I am 23 years older than my filipina. Realistically I will probably pass first. I'm hoping we can enjoy lot of time together but I have some health issues so I am not sure how long. I try not to think about it and just enjoy every day we wake up together. I worry about her financially when that time comes. I am getting ready to prepare some documents to give her some legal rights. Due to my health I am not able to get life insurance without paying lots of money for it. I would rather put money into her bank monthly for emergency purposes. I hate the thought of dying and leaving her in financial trouble. I have seen situations couple years ago on KZfaq where foreigners have passed on and the wife or girlfriend had nothing. A guy named Mike comes to mind and I saw her troubles on videos and I thought I don't want my filipina to be left like that. Great vlog Paul. Long life to you both.

This is something that all couples should talk about, there's no guarantees in life except that if you are born eventually you die, every day and moment is a blessing no matter what your age, tomorrow is not guaranteed so live like every minute is your last. Respect the people around you and your loved ones, and take care of each other in life and in death, I wish the both of you a very long and happy life together. Me personally I would not want the person I love to spend the rest of their life alone, I would expect them to eventually find a new partner, that doesn't mean that they didn't love you with all of there heart, it's just that a person needs companionship we weren't meant to be alone. Good luck and best wishes to both of you.

If Mae stays as smart, humble and kind as she is now, whatever she will do in the future I'm sure Paul would approve.

I was happily married for 20 years when I had this conversation with my wife. She wanted to get remarried and I did not. Just a couple of months later she was killed in an accident. It took 11 years before I could even consider trying to replace her in my life or in my heart. I wish that hole in my chest had healed more quickly as that 11 years represented about 25% of my remaining life span and the youngest portion of that remaining life span. At 58 I'm now willing to entertain the thought of another partner.

I love the sound of rain. I did not get married till I was in my mid thirties. But I met this lady from the middle east and I liked her because she was smarter than me Plus she was 4 years older than me which I wanted to balance our life together. We are married now for 32 years now. Yes, we had our ups and downs but I did not dragged it on. She would never argue with me. But now as I am older, I realized that I was mostly wrong.

I don't want my wife to live alone so it's up to her how she manages her life, I'm just making sure she and our kids don't suffer financially right away. Anyway, I'm so happy about the time she spends with me and the love she gives me, so what happens later is not on my radar.

Paul I agree with you. The only tattoo I ever saw that touched me was a baby’s footprint over a woman’s heart. Her baby died shortly after birth.

Mae is a fantastic woman! I have nothing but the utmost respect for her. Kudos to you both! Such a great example of coupledom done well!

Such beautiful words by the both of you ❤️ you guys make a great couple, wishing you both a looong happy life together❤️

When Baby Mae asked, "Now how about you?", I knew things were about to get interesting.

My mom went to school with Gold Medal burlap dresses and panties. Old Missouri ozark folk, her parents never had electric, running water and still had the outhouses and this was in the 1980’s. Of course when my mom was little it was during the depression years

Paul, you realize that most ladies would give you exactly the same answer, right? LOL. I do however have to admit that your girl sounds pretty convincing, judging by her quick and straight forward response. Honestly, does it really matter whether she will find someone else after you pass? What matters is, she will stay and respect you until you take your last breath. You guys enjoy yourself as long as you can. Keep yourself warm and happy.

You are both inspirational Paul and Mae. Mae is self educated, her intellectual level is college level 🙏🏽

We are social creatures not meant to be alone. Emotional response, but yes Paul she has a lot of years ahead of her, and you will be a picture on the wall.

I like Filipinas with no tattoos, no alcohol, no cigarettes, no drugs, and no cell phone. 🙂

The nice thing about the Philippines is age gap relationships. Once old Americans that are with these 20 somethings ,pass away ; a new expat can just take over , move into the home the previous expat left behind, and you'll still have a nice girl in her 30's , financial independent, and you'll be living for free in the house.

My Filipina wife well we're not technically married but we consider ourselves husband and wife. Since she is 24 years younger than me the chances of me going first is more than likely. We have had this discussion we feel the same as you and Mae. We have built 2 houses here on the small farm she owns so she won't have to worry about where to live. Plus she's the beneficiary in my will so that should take care of her comfortably in the future. Plus we have invested in a couple of parcels of land for back up incase some major happens in the markets. So hopefully she will be in a good position when I'm gone. Just a thought for you Paul maybe you could figure out a way to get Mae that house that she wants when your gone Plus you wouldn't have to pay rent while your still here with Mae.

Happy alone. "Alone but not lonely". What ever comes beyond that is just that much better.

I think it's difficult to ask someone who loves you to determine what they may do if or when you pass on. I think even with your blessing most people do not want to think that it may happen. I'm totally with you on the tattoos Paul. 🏝️

WOW!!! 👍🏾 YOU BOTH POSSESS AMAZINGLY RARE AND VIRTUOUS CHARACTERS!!! 👏🏽 THIS WAS A TRULY A SOBERING AND THOUGHT-PROVOKING TOPIC. 🤔 PAUL, YOU ARE A TRUE GENTLEMAN, AND BOTH YOU AND BABY MAE ARE AN AWESOME COUPLE WITH RARE VALUES THAT ARE RAPIDLY FADING IN THESE CURRENT LOST AND TROUBLED TIMES. 😳 GOD BLESS YOU, AND KEEP YOU BOTH HEALTHY AND HAPPY! 🙏🏾 😇

Paul's eye is getting wet, the very moving moment for both of you. Grateful and true love is worth a million.

Very interesting Paul. I also have a list of things that are a no go for me. Some things I can tolerate, others are NO WAY. If you don't follow that the relationship WILL end in disaster.

Baby Mae is an absolute angel / sweetheart. You are a very lucky man sir.

Respect bro I stumbled upon your channel , your relationship with a younger beautiful woman is not "weird" . You show a respectful aspect of finding love abroad.

Great video Paul. I hope I'm as lucky as you to find someone like you have. But like you said I'm also content to being by myself. But having someone that you are compatible with is always a great feeling

Paul and Baby Mae, you are a cute couple with respect for each other. Wishing you many happy years together

I also feel when the sad time may happen I feel Mae will have lots of support with friends and you have good western friends as well as Mae's friends that will talk to her be a friend a ear to see how she is doing those times are good to have a few friends to listen to when the time comes. Support in talking I think is a huge help

My Filipina wife always says don't say that. I thought it was just her and she told me that she would never get another guy . I tell her that she should find someone else.. so thanks Paul for teaching me that it's common amongst Filipinas.

I enjoyed the video that you and BMM make. Like usual. You both are awesome and natural together. I am also married to a filipina for 20 years now. I am originally from the USA. I am 70 now and no plans to return. I hope to meet you both soon. My wife and I are planning a trip soon to Dum. My wife is my soul mate. I am lucky 🍀 to have her in my life. Bless you both. Dan and Anibel paranaque NCR Manila. ❤️

I feel the same way You do, Paul. I enjoy my own company. If my Wife passed before me, I would not look for another partner. I would stay with my boys in the Philippines. I would tend the farm and visit my Wife's family on a daily bases. I Love the rain. And I Love being outside with the rain. As long as there is tree cover or patio. ❤ 🔻 🙏

I hope whoever is left continues to make KZfaq videos ❤️❤️❤️

Always insightful, thanks Paul!

All I have to say is, God bless the pair of you and may you both live for many more years together in happiness.

Paul, It is great to see that you and Baby Mae are having this important conversation about this subject. My beautiful and loving traditional wife of 30 years and I had these same conversations during our marriage. She told me that should I pass before her, she has no plans or desire to date or marry again. I would laugh when she would tell me that she does not want to cook, clean or do laundry for any other man but me. She was the greatest wife ever! Sadly, I lost her in 2016 to a brain tumor and I am holding the same promise to her that she gave to me. I have no desire to be with anyone else or engage in a relationship as a commitment to her and our marriage. My only plan is to live out my life with our wonderful memories together until I see her again beyond this life. I know in my heart that she will be there to greet me and be together, this time forever. I commend Baby Mae for her decision and I plan to do the same for my beautiful wife. May God continue to bless you both with many more years of love and happiness.

This was great match for both Mae & Paul. The fact it happened without Paul or Mae expecting it too is icing on their cake. A good discussion to have between couples - what happens.

Mae is very sweet. You can't fake genuine. Great couple. Congrats.

Great subject! Good Job!

I think the both of you are fortunate as hell to have found each other. The two of you appear to fit together really well, and compliment each other quite well.

You always have a good topic Paul. Sometimes things we've planned doesn't happened exactly as we planned. I'll say no one holds our future but when it is the current situation will let you realized what you need or don't need in your life. Having a good companion is a good is not all about sex, it's having someone you are comfortable to be with....

Well done video - great topic

You are such a sweetheart Paul, enjoy life,take care and Mae.

Live long and prosper guys. Love the look .

Great Video Paul and Baby Mae ❤️. Excellent topic 👍. I really look forward to your videos 📹. Helps me me get through this stagnant times here in the states. Can't wait to get there. Congratulations 🎊 👏 💐 🥳 🎊 to Baby Mae's accomplishments for her Subscriber's 💖 ❤️. Stay Safe 💕 💞 🙏 🙏

Baby Mae is the cutest schoolgirl.

You both have communication skills .

I'm glad you two are not breaking up but I am glad you've talked about what happens. If one you is gone someday it shows you care about each other.😊👍

Another great video with content that everyone can relate to… thank you both

Just returned home to Arizona from Dumaguete. Paul, your videos are wonderful and Maye is a beautiful companion. Look forward to my return to Dumaguete. Hope to meet you. Thank you for the great videos.

Thank you Paul and Mae. Always enjoy your videos. Hopefully many years ahead for you guys but great discussion to have with your partner.

Don't worry about it Paul, your will live for ever, just like me......🙂

It's nice to watch your videos and listen to your stories Paul, God bless you and Mae.

Very proud of you Mae and your family.

Paul, you and I are of a similar age (I turned 68 in August last year - happy cake day, BTW). Between you and Pea, I get a pretty good, honest glimpse of what to expect if-and-when I move to PI. I was there waaaaaay back in the 70's when I was in the Navy (the day I got off base was the day Marcos Sr declared martial law) and I fell in love with the country and the people - well, what little of the country I got to see back then. Travel by American sailors at that time was frowned upon due to political circumstances. The only thing I ever had difficulty adjusting to was the crushing poverty, which is still very much there. Some of the stories I'm getting from women are just heartbreaking. I chuckled when I saw your video as this is a conversation I do try to have right up front, especially when someone more than 25 years younger than me contacts me on a dating site. I want to make sure they are working in some way, shape, or form, and have a career so that I am not constantly worrying about how they will survive should something happen to me (I've got good genes and can pretty much expect to live into my 90's if I eat healthy(er), but I don't want them lapsing into poverty once I'm gone. I'm most especially worried when a 30-something messages me on FilippinoCupid and really starts pushing for a relationship. My own qualification list is that they are either; Employed; have a degree from a vocational college or a bachelors or; own their own business. I let them know up front that I want them to have financial independence from me. It's turned more than one of them off, but that's probably a good thing. We also seem to agree on tattoos. I was once asked by my son (when he was still in high school, he's 41 now), why I "didn't get a tattoo in the Navy." I told him it was because a.) They could never get me drunk enough; b.) I couldn't find a tattoo that I wouldn't think looked stupid on me 'when I turned 50' and; c.) because I have a fear of needles. If I can't stand to have a phlebotomist stab me once with a needle without getting queasy, I'm CERTAINLY not going to want to be stabbed 10,000 times with one! But, as I recall being told in my youth, the reason for getting tattoos was to hide the bruising from an abusive relationship. That may or may not be true, but it stuck with me and I really don't understand Tats. Too permanent. Piercings, you can take out when you are tired of them. Tats are for life. I think it was George Carlin that said something along the lines of, "That picture of a rising sun you got on your lower back in your twenties is going to look like an insane octopus trying to escape from your ass when you're fifty!" Well, when I get there, I hope to visit your city and perhaps have that proverbial brew with you, my friend!

Great video..Paul and Baby Mae. Greetings from the cold winter of Spain.

Very good chat thank you Paul and Babe Mae

They always say that getting somebody else is a compliment to the previous partner.

Love your videos 🙂 Paul and Babies Mae 😍💓

Good video. Thanks for sharing.

Hello Paul and Baby Mae, I'm in a LDR with a filipina in the province and we have been very open in many topics. Death was discussed and she said the same thing as Mae that she would never have another mate. There is an eighteen year difference in our ages and me being 65 yrs. old I wouldn't ever look for another mate if she were to pass before me. I so agree with you about tattoos that is such a turn off to me when I see them on a woman, another immediate question I had for my girlfriend. You are one lucky guy to find such a beautiful and kind woman like Mae, May God bless you both.

Interesting topic. She will inevitably meet another soulmate should she ever be widowed. My wife and I met reluctantly and absolutely NOT looking 44 years ago on Saint Patrick's day. Bless you, both in this particular relationship. Enjoy every moment together.

I think it's very healthy to discuss dying with your partner, I think it helps when the time comes... when one of you passes away, by openly talking about it...not in a morbid way... helps the other with the grief. Thanks for sharing your life Paul & Baby Mae

Well thanks Paul, that opened up some fresh wounds. I'm still struggling with the death of my wife, it's been two years now; and this was a conversation she and I never really had. I'd bring it up occasionally because when I was in the military I was always having to update my will, and every time the subject came up she would absolutely shut down and refuse to talk about it. The closest we came to this subject was about 4 months before she passed away. Out of the blue, she says to me, "Baby, I wanna die first." I was like _Why!?_ "Because I know I could not live without you, ever." Well dear, that's funny coz I feel the same way for the same reason. Sure enough, she passed away four months later, and I wouldn't wish this grief on anyone. But I take some solace in knowing that Mindy _didn't_ have to live with this and so she was spared that pain. As for whether I'd date again, I sincerely doubt it. I had what I always wanted in my wife of 42 years and so that 'need' for a relationship just isn't there. Like y'all, the potential for drama is a turn-off, and at my age it's all about preserving my ability to live in retirement without carrying any baggage that at least currently I have no use for. My heart is warmed by Mae's insistence that after you're gone she's done and is content to live alone, because that's pretty much where I'm at now. Whether that changes or not down the road is up for grabs, but presently I just don't have that need to fulfill.

Hi Paul, Baby Mae is not the only one who does not want to talk about what happens after. My wife also refuses to talk about it and will not prepare for it.

The comedian Mike Myers said “I like a woman with tattoos. I see potential. I see a woman that is willing to make a decision she will regret later”.

Blessing Paul and baby Mae, I hope you both have a long and happy life together, the two of you make my day everytime I get to watch your channels. Wishing you a happy birthday Paul 🎂. Well that's all this old monk has to say other than may God bless and keep you.

I know it's hard to talk about. I'm a female and my husband hated to talk about such issues. He was Sicilian and died far too young. I'm in a new relationship with a Filipina 22 years younger than me, who also doges such discussions. My husband did not keep up on his paperwork for survivors. Money went to other recipients on old policies. Unlike him I updated my policies to include her in mine. As our relationship grows she will slowly be added to more.

Love you guys. Total respect!

Loving the rain!

It’s an essential topic to discuss between couples. Must have a WILL & Living Trust no matter how little we have. Baby Mae has a good head, I can relate from her humble beginnings. God bless you guys.

May I suggest purchasing a life insurance policy with baby mae as the beneficiary. The funds upon your demise may be invested in the stock market in companies which pay dividends about 10%. As long as she only withdraws the dividends and not the principal, she can count on a stream of income the rest of her life. Companies like IBM pay about 5% in dividends, Sunoco pays almost 8%. There are many others that pay about 10 to 12%.

Love Baby Mae's outfit. Glad you mentioned it.

Really good video from both of you!

Hi Mae and Paul it's Your friend Ray from California, I appreciate your Insight and Honesty. This subject is unavoidable and needs to be addressed in any relationship. Grate Job and GOD BLESS YOU BOTH 😇🙏😇

Mae looks pretty in her conservative clothes.💖

This is one of the most beautiful and impressive videos i have ever seen. Thank you for this!

Same here Paul ! I don't NEED anyone so when someone does click with me it's usually great !!

16:50.......Rain sounded awsome!!! No "problema"......