I created this when my kid was dealing with some bullies at school. A Safe Friend A safe friend is someone who 1. Apologizes/acknowledges when they've hurt you or your feelings, even if it was an accident 2. Doesn't punish you for disagreeing with them (excluding you, silent treatment, threats to end the friendship) 3. When you tell them how you feel, they accept it. They do not try to argue with you or tell you how you are "supposed" to feel. 4. Accept when you say no or to stop. 5. Does not hit, push, grab, or insult you when they are mad. And an unsafe friend can just be someone who is going through a hard time. But you still have to keep a distance until they can be safe friends again. And sometimes people can't be safe friends, even if you like them or they are nice sometimes. Are you a safe friend? Are those around you, safe friends?

22:15 THE MOMENT HE SAID THAT, MY BLOOD BOILED. I'VE NEVER BEEN SO ANGRY FOR ANOTHER PERSON IN MY LIFE.

I love how you focused the issue in *relationships* that are toxic instead of people that are toxic. That is crucial, in my opinion. A person can be nice, can be great, but it may be a toxic relationship if you are in one with them. A nice person + a nice person doesn't always equal a nice relationship. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us

I literally gasped when I heard about the part of ruining your art book. Those are precious books.

I've had a similar issue with a girl whenever I did figure studies or nudes. She assumed I was the disloyal type because of it... Eventually she ended up cheating on me, so I suppose it's true that people project themselves onto others. Nobody should have to give up a career they've spent decades building for someone's ego/jealousy.

When I started drawing when I was 12, I was greatly inspired by a friend who was younger than me and was one of those who was just naturally gifted at art. And when I say this, she was 10 and could already draw a human from any angle and draw very complicated poses. She didn’t need to plan out the drawing, she was able to go straight into without any guidance lines. And her art was good. She was a genius at it. So, because I wanted to draw like that, I started learning a bit later than most artist. When I expressed an interest in with my parents, I was immediately shut down. Hey wanted me to either pursue Tennis, something that I was naturally good at, become a doctor, or a lawyer. They would be little me and tell me that artist don’t get rich until they are dead. But it was something I really wanted to do. I loved designing clothes and wanted to be a fashion designer. But, because of how my parents treated me with art, same with my school, and later my abusive ex boyfriend, I ended up dropping art all together for over 10 years. I just recently got back into wanting to start a comic. But I am so behind in my abilities at art now and I am 31, seeing people who are 18 a heck of a lot better than me and it makes me depressed. Makes me think I will never be good enough at my current age cause those who are my age and kept drawing are loads better than me. I know this has a lot to do with my up bringing and how my ex made me feel ashamed for wanting to do art to control me. (He made me feel ashamed for liking everything I had liked before dating him.) Toxic relationships in general are horrible for you. It hurts even more coming from people who are suppose to love you like your family. Which is why I tell people now, it doesn’t matter if they are related to you by blood. If they make you feel horrible for anything that doesn’t hurt you or anyone else, you need to either have a very serious talk, or walk away and no longer have them in your life. Granted, this is coming from someone who came from an abusive family and relationships. I now currently have a partner who is very supportive of me wanting to learn art and start a comic. Edit: I am glad I never went into Tennis, cause it would have ended very early cause I got health problems that make just walking impossible some days and extremely difficult on a normal day. This has been the case since I was 25.

I went to University for music, but I have always wanted to do art so I made sure to make time to take art classes. I took painting, still life, and figure drawing. When my parents found out that I would be drawing nude models in figure drawing they are mortified. My parents and my sister said everything they could to dis-way me form taking that class. "Ask your teacher if you can face the other way and not participate! That's a sin to look at that! etc etc." After a few months of taking those art classes I sent my mom a picture of my realism piece. She was floored. It was a picture of an older women lounging in a chair, and of course she was nude. She didn't apologize for what she said to me before, but hearing her thoughts on my piece was enough for me. They have never given thoughts on my artwork before. That was the first time and it felt amazing. Not getting any support before made it hard to keep going. It made me very hard on myself. I have some of that support now and god it makes a world of a difference. Hearing the, "I love it honey!" from my parents makes me want to jump right into another piece. Just a story, thought it was relevant.

Sorry you had to go through that. Schools really need to teach kids how to navigate relationships and what to look for and avoid with intimate partners. Someone who constantly lies, assaults you or destroys your things isn't safe to be around and just isn't a relationship worth trying to salvage.

A Chinese student at my school told me parents won't support a career in the arts until you become successful, then suddenly they will be your biggest fans and will in fact have always supported you from the beginning. It's not so different here in the US at least.

Love this, As a young artist thinking about stuff like this is always scary but hearing someone with experience genuinely talk and give advice about it is comforting

I had a girlfriend once in my early twenties who on one hand really enjoyed art, particularly comics and the whole shabang. But one day she told me after 2 years or so that she doesn't truly believe that I woulnd be able to earn money with this. It wasn't said in anger or to be particularly mean, but within the framework of a conversation about future planning and all that relationship babble that comes with the territory. Admittedly I was in a difficult time in my life, struggling between rarely attending my classes at art college and working retail just to stay alive. So I wasn't on a perceivable fast track to where I'd wanted to be. Still when she uttered that I knew that this wasn't going to be forever. Not because I need to be pampered and lauded all the time, but because of the fundamental disconnect this presented in the perception of me and how certain situation would turn out. I could see how one day if earning money with art would be difficult the conversation might surely shift to "getting a real job". Furthermore, working in a job that didn't fulfill me in the slightest showed me that I could not do this without withering away and spiraling into unhappyness. This was plan A for me wihtout anything to fall back on to that would help me in any traditional career path. We broke up a few months after, not merely because of this but for me it certainly stuck and reinforced my feeling that this wasn't meant to last. Fortunately things turned out pretty well and I've been working creatively for several years now, being able to pay the bills with what I love to do.

I just happened to stumble along this video and I'm not an artist, but I am a programmer, and I feel respect for people who want to be or who are artists. Do what keeps u happy.

Your video's are so wholesome. They not only soothe me, but are also healing and inspiring.

I really really , really needed this. I am working in a studio where the Higher up management is so possessive of good artists that they would start to intentionally degrade the artists skills so they won't leave. I've been burned out, worked extremely long hours, made to feel guilty of asking for leaves and then harassed for thinking of a job change. Its too much emotional and mental pressure for a young artist to take. I really need some advice on this matter. I know the best thing to do is leave and do what i feel makes me happy but they make it seem so hard to do by forcing upon too much manipulations and emotional distress. Thank you so much for this video. It felt so relatable.

I was going to write out a long comment about living with two practically-minded older people who see my work and go "ok but what do you DO with that" and how that's been slowly draining my soul but instead I'm just gonna say thank you. Because you helped me realize just now that that IS the problem.

I'm not crying, you're crying!

I love to listen to advice like this from artists (and other kinds of people) who have experienced life more than I have. I'm nearing 24 and still feel like a child barely getting out of the kiddie pool. I've never been in a romantic relationship, and I never will, but still knowing about how healthy all kinds relationships should be is valuable.

While a lot of these points are something I've experienced one way or another, the last one was the one that hit the most I wasn't the one who was being manipulated, I was the one that was being possessive, and it still pains me to even think that I was that kind of person one point in my life Being an artist myself, it was very blind of me to not see that the person I cared for was also juggling so many other responsibilities aside from their passion, which was also art. I would put our friendship on the line whenever they decided to deal with their responsibilities rather than spend time with me, or I'd bring up about how jealous I was about their following on their social medias. One day the friendship just dissolved, gone, and instead of being very angry, I thought that that person made the correct choice. Even to this day, I would make the same decision they did if I was faced with that situation, just like as Adam said, if your health or safety is not threatened by leaving this person, please consider cutting that relationship. You and your passion are something that is acknowledged at the start of the relationship, as a partner, or maybe even a friend, I think its very important that WE are the ones that catch them when they fall, that WE are the very people that help them keep their fire for their passion burning, WE are the very environment that will help them become better at whatever their passion is. On another note, I would like to thank you for bringing this type of content, my view of art surely has changed, but your videos bring something more than just that, more than just being "good" at art (or whatever the hell that means), it brings very important wisdom. Its been months since that happened but I've been trying to change myself and how I treat other people. To whoever is reading this one hell of a wall of text, I hope you're staying safe and keeping your passion close

Ive been trying to get my love for art back, but i dont know if thats possible, ive been in a bad relationship for quite some time, where in the past i was scolded for putting so much time into art, not responding and such. With time i just stopped drawing and painting, as i didnt want to hear over and over again of how im being a bad person for putting time to art, even when they compliment my work, even when they keep telling me to draw more, that doesnt change that ive already been scolded for giving time for it. Now im afraid to give time for painting or drawing, as thats still in the back of my head that i am putting too much time on it even if im gone drawing for 5 minutes at a time, i feel like im being pulled between two options in my life

I really enjoy listening to you while I work. You touch on so many insecurities that I've harbored for so long that I thought that this is just how people live. It's an incredible relief to know that I'm not alone and that I'm not that nuts and that it's alright to talk about these sorts of things. You also have a very relaxing voice. Thank you for your help.

finally! somebody said that what I always tried to tell people we also need to study body as doctor do! at that point it is just a subject to study for us.

You are the shining light in the darkness. A genuine gem of the art community and I am truly glad to have your content in my life. You help to make us all better people and artists. Thank you for your wisdom today.

I have a lump in my throat watching this video right now because I've been having issues in my relationship like this for a long time and I know what needs to be done, but I haven't been able to do it.

My boyfriend use to randomly call out the time “you know it’s 6pm, right”. Every friggin hour, any artist would understand, when you are in the zone then abruptly interrupted constantly with time checks it’s infuriating. So never got much done and found my energy change from feeling motivated to annoyed and frustrated and usually in tears. I am no longer in that relationship! Adam I felt your pain when you mentioned the knocking at the door every 15 minutes. Great advise Adam. 🙌❤️🦋

21:54 so true. I am so glad i have almost no conflicts anymore in my private life, because i have my own apartment now and my friends are on my wavelength. Overly emotional conflicts really destroy my productivity.

Damn.I was jealous at my ex because of this and now I started doing art and I understand her .Well it was mostly my fault and I cannot blame her for leaving me .Her choice was really good.I wish her to be well:)

I recently divorced my ex wife due to something similar like this. It was completely worth it making that decision. Thank you Adam, I needed to hear this.

I wish I had known this like...10 years ago. Journaling and having life-changing discussions with very important friends brought me to a new way of thinking. Thank you Adam.

Ahh yes...... everytime relationships felt suffocating I wanted to run away from them... I want someone who can just leave me alone when I need to be.. I get anxious when someone is interested in a romantic relationship with me and they want to be with me for too many hours... like ... I don't wanna be lonely ... but I more often than not want to be alone..... it's sad thinking about it I understand they expect me to be like them and not get tired after talking for 10 hours straight but honestly if that's what being in a relationship means sometimes I feel like I'm way better on my own... yet it scares me.

Damn the title hits hard

this was a great talk. I can definitely relate, For the last few years ive been alone because unfortunately all the women I was meeting took the artist thing as a sort of novelty like they wanted to be a model/muse or something and have no career, they were also artists and were hyper competitive about it or they had some completely boring day job and expected the same from me. Sometimes the best thing for the work is to just accept the solitude that comes with it

when you were talking about programming, it reminded me of my dad. he can go on an on about computers and machine learning, i don't know what he is saying but I love hearing it because it makes him happy :)

Considering situation in my country... I wouldn't allow my kids to pursue career in Art. However, alongside of them pursuing something that can actually bring them money, I'd provide them with as much time and space and resources to pursue Art in their free time as I can and I'd even help them find ways to monetize it. If they proved that they are part of the minority that can make actual profit from their Art, then I'd even support them switching to Art career full time. But in our environment... putting Art as your primary pursuit will leave you bankrupt (unless you are both talented and really lucky).

i jumped right in when you posted this vid. ngl i missed you adam and your wholesome vids ; u ;;;

Oh my god, this is what i needed to hear, especially about artist privacy

Music has always been my true passion, but I have a parent who refuses to fund my education if I pursue music. I’m currently studying computer science in college and I frequently wonder if I made the right decision or if I should’ve gone to a music school or pursued music without an education or something. This video was a really nice reassurance that I am doing the right thing

you talk on the toxic relationships resonates with me greatly as for many years of my adult life i was in a toxic relationship myself. i made the decision to walk away not that long ago after i realized that it wasn't worth giving up everything i love and enjoy for one person who no longer made me feel like i was a valued partner.

Good talk man. I have been there more than a few times with each of your examples. It's hard to see in the moment that you are better off without them, but creative life flourishes when it's unchained.

You have a very fantastic ability to communicate to (people ); to fellow artists; much love and thank you for your clear insights! God bless you sir!

The one art talk we couldn't draw to Thank you so much for your guidance, Adam

First, I want to say thank you for making a video on such a difficult topic, Adam. Though, in my life, so far, I've encountered the opposite problem? As far as art is related, anyway. I've talked to my parents about going to art school and, though they were reluctant at first, they slowly warmed up to the idea; now they're completely ok with it. But, I don't know if I want to anymore? I do want to make art my job and I work my buns off everyday to get better; hell, I spent the first two months of quarantine working 8 hours a day on my artwork (now I'm back at work so can't really spend as much time with my trusty tablet, sadly). My point is, I'm positive that art is something I need to create a lot of in my life, and my parents are supportive, but I stop myself because I feel like I will never be good enough? Because going to art school is a waste of money since everything I've learned so far has been self-taught and I feel like I could keep going for years like this? Because even if I make money right now, I will never be able to pay for my entire tuition (France isn't as bad as the US, but it's still pretty awful, here, haha), especially if I need to pay rent because I live so far away from the schools? Because I feel like everything's been given to me on a silver plate ever since I was born and I feel like life should be harder so I get anxious about the smallest things, and I stress out and I panic and then I feel ungrateful to my parents because I never feel good and god, I'm such a mess. Honestly, there's just so much on my mind, constantly, and god do I feel like I'm complaining and I hate that. I feel like my life doesn't really make sense, without art. I don't know if this sounds depressing or not, and I should probably seek therapy considering how I feel and the many psychological problems I know I have but... I've been raised in a house where you just "suck it up" which is completely contradictory to the mindset I see in the communities I take a part in on internet so, I just feel lost... This must be the fourth or fifth time that I type out a comment on one of your videos and everytime they end up being so depressing, haha. I promise it's not your fault, I'm just a mess of a person. :') Well, anyway, I don't know if this kind of comment belongs here but if I don't post this one, I probably never will so. There I go!

Truly, this 30 min passed by without me even noticing. Love your videos, keep up the good work!

Glad to see you back !! I hope you had a great vacation 🙏

This is exactly what I needed to hear. Thank you. ♡

You're an inspiration. I'm so thankful I found your channel.

Thank you for all of your videos!

Very deep conversation, that I needed to hear. You spoke of nothing but the absolute truth💯👊🏾

Ahh, I needed this so much - especially in that time when I was asking myself so many questions about relationships last time. Thanks Adam

Hey Adam, thank you for everything that you provide. Your wisdom helps us all, and certainly for me has helped me recognize flaws in myself, which I have to get a grip on. I'm an aspiring artist soon to go to college, and your knowledge that you provide is definitely helping guide me on a good path. Thank you, for it all, your wholesomeness is calming, and these videos help a lot of people. Have a great day, and hopefully a great year. ^u^

hello adam, im so glad to find your video abt relationships here. your theme is so relatable and the bgm suits the tone perfectly, im an art student thats been a while through love lately so, yeah, thanks a bunch man.

thank you so much for making these videos, they get me in my creative zone and make me just so relaxed. thank you so much

Im so glad an artist put this into words. Thank you for this video. And keep up the good artwork

Thank you for sharing this with us. You are truly an inspiration. Deep in my heart i feel like i cant find the essence of the message i want to convey to you using English words. I feel I'm just speechless. Your words are truly of gold. I can sense the weight in your words in the way you speak. Just thank you . It's just truly wholesome to me to have someone share their experience with so much respect towards their partner and everyone around them (that deserve is, that is) .

Well that was the 'too close to home' emotional ride that I needed at midnight before i have to go to work the next day. 💚

Thank you for your tips, i think everyone need to reflect on their own life and acknowledge what are our challenges and maybe take inspiration on how to beat them. And your channel is exactly that, im very grateful to have found you.

Honestly I rarely watch what you are drawing even tho it is amazing, i just love listening to you talk while making art for my game

really touching ...moved me deeply!!!

Your videos always touch a raw nerve that only lived experience and perseverance can provide. I love how you bring in such a balanced and nuanced way of navigating life experiences and finding a space to create art.

I'm so sorry you had to go thro so many toxic dynamics... Thank you so much for sharing all of this, Even when remembering these things can hurt and it takes effort to get thro it and get the point across. Thank you !!!! You are the best

Ahhhhhh I love you, I was in a relationship like the last example, I left it but this helped me make peace with that decision and what went down. Thank you Adam 💕💕💕💕

Very Insightful and so timely 💫 Thankyou🦄

Thank you for opening this conversation because it’s important that we acknowledge the toxic patterns that might lead to unhealthy relationships. It’s not the fault of the people per se. it’s just an unfortunate situation because both may carry unhealed childhood trauma, pain and suffering. It is very devastating when someone who claims to love you cannot understand or support your artistic journey. What I know now is that… They’re blocked from their own creativity too. Keep going and creating fella artists. 👩🏼‍🎨🖼⚡️

Fantastic video Adam. Really lovely way to start my day off. Six hours of happy painting, writing and drawing to come. Cheers

this video was how i found you last year, and honestly your talks saves me from further crushing myself further from my toxic thoughts, even relationships, and i cant thank you enough for sharing this, and other wonderful talks. i love how you discuss and share your thoughts, and you have this calming voice thats not too demanding (like commanding or so) that made me rather pressured. all in all, please continue to do this, i love listening to your talks while doing work. it calms my nerves as an art student, i truly feel all of the topics you've discussed. cheers, Adam!

Gread video Adam. I'm so glad you're healthy and well!

Great video as always, love to listen to you ❤️ I am very lucky and grateful to have a boyfriend who is very understanding and supportive and even encourages me to take time to do my art. And also my parents always supported and helped me financially while studying design. The only thing blocking me sometimes is myself; my self doubt and fear that I'll never be good enough or satisfied with what I do. Your videos are some of the things that motivate me to keep going

You should definitely make this into a podcast. I always enjoy listening to these while I’m working

Best video I´ve seen in years..no joke. I suffered the same thing. A fan from Spain, thank you

Thank you so much. This really helped.

Thanks for sharing this, Adam. I just had a talk with my only real art friend. It's a whole new world compared to non-art practical career people. Gave me so much hope. Talk to the right people. Not that others are "wrong", just that they aren't the perspective you need as an artist. Compromise until you can fly on your own. I learned this in my life as well. Artistic since 3, was going to art college, parent's "practicality" kicks in, I go to nursing school, couldn't sell too much of my soul for other's practicality, became a property manager and pursued an art degree whilst on a desk job. I'm now freelancing for clients that love and care for their work. It's not easy, but try to communicate. The journey is the process and the process teaches us; it's the fun part. At the end of it all, we set off on a new journey. And it never ends. :) We keep learning, and we can all do it together.

Hugely beneficial advice . As an artist for all of my adult life I’ve had similar experiences that you speak of on my journey . Love your content 🙏

I really appreciate your comment on computer science being a creative endeavor. I'm primarily a programmer and not many people understand the creativity that goes into it. It's a weird mix of art and science which, in my experience, leads to a lot of the same kinda things that I hear from artists, especially burnout. You'd be surprised by how many of your videos about hardships as an artist apply to my experience as a programmer.

I love your videos, you are the healer of this world, thank you.

Extremely wise words Adam. They resonate so much over my past... every single word. I end up numb... blocked and depressed... Thank you for sharing and caring for others around. Thank you for your "father advice". Take care as well. #dreamsareunstoppable

Thank you for making this video. The music and your voice are very soothing. I know this is coming from a place of wisdom and love. It can be so hard to pursue our passions when those around us, even those who love us make it so difficult. It can be hard to explain to those who haven't experienced it but for those that have, I think we instantly understood the types of relationships you mention, from parents who love us and want us to be able to be self-sufficient and get by in the world without suffering, to partners who may love us as people but still can not fully understand our passions and are resentful of the time our passions demand. These things don't make our loved ones bad people, but it can create strained relationships. It is very important to make connections with others that can be encouraging. It is important to place value on your own mental well-being. It is also important to weigh your responsibilities and consequences. Thank you for making such a well thought-out video.

It can definitely get lonely for us artists... But it's nice to hear that doesn't necessarily have to be that way. Thanks for sharing your perspective Adam!

omg this was exactly what I needed. So great ❤ I cry watching all your videos and it shows me so clearly what kind of partner I should be looking for. I feel at home here thank you ❤

i was thinking about rewatching this yesterday,yet it just showed up today

Hey I love your art work and your videos I just wanted to say that your advice have helped me through some very hard times

Hey Adam, your videos help me in a lot of ways. Sometimes I watch them when I drink my coffee in the morning to get motivated to draw. But sometimes I find myself coming to your channel to calm my anxiety at night. Your stories, everything you talk about, the music... I love your channel and your art, thank you so much. P.s I'm view number 50k lol

Look. I really love your content, I love your work, I enjoy your videos like mad. I really hope this vid can help a lot of people! Thanks for your effort and hard work. This video is amazing. Total respect! I have a long way to go as an artist and as a person so this was touching! Love yaaaaa!

aaaaaah you're back I've been waiting for your video for so long so I just clicked within micro seconds as soon as I saw this video nice to have u back ❤️❤️❤️❤️ love your art and work always

Thanks for this, even as someone who wants to go into film (art was my first aspiration) but to me they are both similar in that sense, the video really spoke to me, thanks

I love to draw but the last few years i was in a very toxic relationship and stopped drawing nearly completely. After this relationship i was able to focus again on what i love and slowly i can draw again and be happy while doing it. A big help is another artist i met, who shows me, that I am great the way i am and motivates me to keep drawing and be proud of everything i do, because with every piece an artist gets better. Thank you Alan for your Videos, they are a great help to understand all the feelings some might help in regards of drawing.

Thank You for videos and the time you take to share your experience and thoughts. Mr. Duff you really hit home with this Topic. I am 45years now when I was 14 I was in a position where I needed to make a choice Not because of Toxic Relationships. But more because of Financial Issues. I tell you to This Day I still wonder if I made a Right choice that Day. Today I'm Still fascinated and Love to Draw,.and i dont make a living as a professional Artist. But that does not Stop me from Drawing and expressing myself thru Art. I am a father of 2 children and they show interest in Art., I hope that they find the same freedom i find in Art. I support them 100% once again Thank You.

wow, i clicked on this video because i thought the ilustration looked cool and i wanted to see how you made but... after hearing 10 seconds of what you were talking about i ended up watching and listening to everything and didn't even look at the drawing, this was exactly what i needed and wanted to hear, i didn't expect that this would turn out to be this deep but i'm happy it did. i can't thank you enough for making this video.

I was stuck in a kind of hard relationship with a friend of mine that was as toxic for me as for her. We were friends for some years, we became really close friends since last summer, I eventually quickly fell in all love, I didn't to be in a love relationship with her as she was already in a relationship with a friend of mine and to me it would have been weird, but I ended up telling her just to move on with my love feelings. I thought I did good telling her but tis move started months of depression, self bashing my own art, didn't even want to draw/paint. She broke up with her boyfriend not so long after I told her about my feelings (those 2 moments were not related). She was sad, and even I had feelings for her, she was first and foremost one of my closest friends so I helped stand back up. She was not nice with me, she bashed me verbally regularly and eventually sometimes she was realising I was helping her as hard as I can and bas nicer. I assumed her bad mood was temporary due to her breakup. Months passed, I kept always supporting her, the more I was nice with her, the more bored and harsh she became of me. I was losing my friends cause of her telling them how annoying, boring and stupid was. The more bad I felt about that, the more I was trying to tell her as I expected her to support me as I always tried to support her. But no, she was putting me even further down, calling me a crybaby who annoys people when I get sad. And I was forgiving her, finding her reasons and even assuming she was maybe right and that I was maybe a bad friend, depressed guys, crybaby, and boring dude. At this point I wasn't even doing art anymore, I spent most of my time, worrying, crying, hating myself and everything I could do. My others few close friends (people that were friends with her) were helping me to get better and realising she was toxic to me, while she was saying that I was toxic to her and I should be better. Always saying that our friendship was on the line due to my behaviour. I was dependant of her, was helping her with everything, always there when she was in a bad situation, I was doing her favours she was asking me almost every weeks. Then eventually made my 8years old group of friends explode, one of them think I'm a shot and I don't talk to the others anymore. I took some distances with her since this moment, I was able to make art again, to feel better in my life. The problem is I did that too late, and after almost a year enduring that, I was pretty much lost all my friends. This relationship made sacrifice a while in my art journey and forced me to end up being completely alone. Now I try to restart my life all again, I'm optimistic now and I totally believe I'll end up to get back on track with my life one day. Guys, when you start to doubt, act. Don't wait hoping things will get better eventually like I did. It ruined me so much and it was so hard to finally get out of this depression. I doubt anyone will read this entirely, but it feels good to let it all out freely for the first time. Be safe everyone, hope you get to enjoy your life, have fun and I wish you the best. Love you all :)

You talk about a fortune teller in the video. Adam. You just became a fortune teller with this video and it's what I didn't want to hear. But it's true and you communicated it perfectly. Seriously the best.

Adam, you are the teacher that I aspire to be. Thank you.

Oh boy, I'm crying... thanks, Adam!

Thank you for sharing this video, your life and experience really interesting. Really important for all of us, the artists (whatever at wich "artist level") we are out there.

With regards to relationships In my experience whether you're doing anything as a career or as a hobby, the most important thing you need to look for in a partner is someone who has an interest in what you're doing even if they don't do it themselves or someone who can understand having a passion for something. If your partner can't understand why you want to spend so much time doing what you love in the end it will cause problems. Usually they will either think you're just wasting your time or become jealous and think that you value your job/hobby more than them. Some people always believe there must be a purpose to what you're doing, like there should always be an end product or something to gain from the time you're spending and that's not always the case. Most people who have a passion for something in life spend time doing it for the act itself and not for what will come out of it, although that's obviously part of it too. A quick example, when I was a kid I used to love fishing but almost never caught anything, my friends couldn't understand why I spent entire days doing it without catching a fish and so thought I was wasting my time. That was because they didn't and couldn't understand why I enjoyed fishing. To them the point of fishing was to catch fish but to me it wasn't, I enjoyed the whole process just as much as catching the fish. I think having someone who can understand is key in a relationship. Usually it's a lot easier for people to understand when they also have their own passion in life. You don't need to both be into the same thing but it definatley will help if they also have a passion for their own thing. Relationships are obviously a fine balance with a lot of give and take. If you're selfish and just expect your partner to fit in around you that's also not going to work, but if someone is constantly making you feel like you need to choose between spending time with them or doing what you enjoy then it's a bad sign. When it comes to art it's also good to remember that there's a large amount of people that never get to do it as a job, the creative industry is extremely difficult to get into and a lot of artistic skill and luck is needed. This means it can end up putting even more strain on a relationship, as not only do you have a day job filling your time but also a hobby you want to spend a lot of time on evenings and weekends too.

Thank you for a worthy 30 minutes spent on wise words with visual ASMR beautiful piece of art there

I've been growing frustrated with my spouse, who is working from home during quarantine. I know that in his office he has people he can talk to, so it feels natural to him to come into the room where I'm working and make small talk once or twice an hour. But I really wish he would just leave me alone and let me work. I'm glad I'm not the only one with this problem. I imagine quarantine has put a lot of people in this position.

I've found time to be one of the most difficult issues to navigate. I have been in a toxic relationship where they felt the need to control how I spent my time and would also get angry whenever I received positive feedback on my art (or for anything else for that matter.) Even in a general sense, it can be difficult to meet people that are also supportive or at least able to respect that you need some time for yourself every so often.

It's a bit surreal to hear the testimony of your mother, A similar story played out in my life with computer graphics, and I can think of many in the spectrum of computer graphics to machine learning to technical art who had similar thoughts of combining the two passions while also seeking employment. Thanks for sharing!

Thank you... I think I needed the help... thank you

This helped me so much. Thankyou.

Now I understand the comment "I felt this" I actually felt this

I cried watching this video I really needed that Thanks