Painful to my flesh but good for my soul

I wish I had heard this before I was married. Ladies pay attention.

Too late for me my young unwise desperate self married an unbeliever and now I am stuck in the most pathetic marriage on earth. Twenty years of foolishness but I got two Christ following young men out of it.

I can testify that everything the pastor had said is true. I married to an unbeliever and when we got into many arguments, he would always brought up my faith and beliefs just to made fun of them. Therefore, I urge you to not make my mistake. Don’t date an unbeliever, it will bring only pain and suffering

This is absolutely true. No matter what the flesh wants, this is the truth

As an unbeliever I married another unbeliever. God opened my eyes 3 years ago and and poured His Saving Grace on me…. It still blows my mind how it all happened. Since then it has been the hardest time in our marriage and I am not able to take our son with me to church , which breaks my heart. But God , He continues to move and I see little glimpses. “Today salvation has come to this house because this man too is the son of Abraham. The Son of Man came to seek and save the lost.” Luke 19:9 This scripture was put on my heart recently for my husband…. One day, just keep praying and having faith, God is the God of the impossible ❤️

Pray for me, please. I have to leave my unbelieving girlfriend.

If you believe he is preaching hatred you know not God. Seek God and the TRUTH of the gospel or perish apart from God forever - This man is simply preaching the word of God - your issue is not with this man or with Christianity - your issue is with God - may you find Him - Seek Him with all your heart, all your strength, all your mind and He will show you the Truth and begin a good work in you that He will be faithful to finish. Do not impose your own issues of morality and hatred of God on to Men of God who fearlessly preach the Holy Scriptures such as this Man of God is doing right now. Seek the Kingdom of God in Truth and you will find it. God Bless you - Romans 3: 4-12

Don't argue with people who do not believe. Just share the word with them and if they refuse to listen shake the dust off your feet and move on. In the end they will find out for themselves what is coming. If you hate us because of our faith then: "PEACE BE WITH YOU BROTHER!"

I married an unbeliever when I was backslidden and even called myself an atheist. Now that I'm married and faithful to Christ, my obligations are no different. The only thing I can do is be the best possible Christian husband I can be and the Holy Spirit does His work.

Amen! 5 years of off and on with a very unhealthy “Christian” by words only. Zero action to show he was actually a believer. It gets tiring to constantly explain my relationship with God with someone who treats Our Heavenly Father like a genie! Rip that bandaid off and seek God for healing!

My daughter is 22 and has two older sisters who are married and having babies. She desires the same and is NOT willing to wait on the Lords best. She is dating an unsaved guy and her standards have bottomed out - this from the broken heart of a Godly momma. . .please pray for her to return to the JOY OF HER SALVATION!!

Praise God for this preaching! I just got out with my unbeliever boyfriend and is now single and devoted to the Lord. Actually a gain loosing the relationship. I was getting skinnier and uglier physically and spiritually because of it. Now, I got to preach the gospel to my parents because I believe that God will also save my household.

Man...I just got out of over a year long relationship with a Muslim girl and I had to end it because she wanted to become more serious. I could not in good conscience pursue that relationship because she would not convert to Christianity and I would not live my life in sanctimonious marriage under the lords eyes with someone that was unequally yolked. Thanks for this video and for clearing this up.

Oddly I was an unbeliever when I married and this last year has moved me to Christ like never before. I read and think about the word almost everyday and in everything I do. God Bless Voddie

I learned this lesson the hard way. I became friends with more than one non believer. The so called friend was a source of spiritual conflict, godless actions. I won't travel with a non believer or have fellowship. It can't work and so I seek and pray to be equally yoked. Both male and female.

IT time for Christians to stop fooling around and be separated from the flesh. Thank Brother Voddie

I called myself a Christian & truly believed but at the same time I didn't really think about my future partner's faith & i fell very deeply in love with a muslim guy who was my absolute best friend & i still love him. I only woke up when it came to thinking of children. I spent 5 years in a relationship with him, not married though & breaking up has been the most excruciating pain I have ever felt and it will live with me forever. It feels as if i am going through a divorce. Please save yourself from the pain it's not worth it.

I watched this around half a year ago when I was in a relationship with an unbeliever. Voddie Baucham is preaching the truth. Now free from that relationship, I can feel much closer with God and feel like I'm on the right path, God's path.

After watching this video God made me clear that I have to get out of my relationship. It broke my heart to break up with him. But finally I feel an inner peace after weeks. Hope you can pray for my and his healing 🙏

"Until You are that guy, Men you don't deserve a Christian woman" Preach! Preparing and letting God shape me for mine.

When he says women are the ones to be with nonbelievers, its because there are way more women in the church than men, the guys are already married

I am an Atheist, but the title of this video intrigued me. I was involved with a Christian woman for quite some time. I told her from the start that I did not believe. Initially, she seemed okay with that. I loved her so much, and I believed she loved me too. Her smile, her presence, her touch. It was just so amazing to me. I even started to believe that she was forsaking Christianity because it was her who initiated sex in the relationship. Later in the relationship, she made it clear to me that her pastor talked her out of seeing me any further, but we still remained friends. Even after we broke it off, we continued to be intimate because the feelings did not just vanish into thin air. One day she cut me off cold turkey. No warning. Nothing. Blocked my number, deleted me from social media, the whole nine yards. Even though I do not believe in Christianity, I think Pastor Baucham makes a great point. It is foolish to chase someone who does not share the same religious views as you do. It will become a problem even if it is not one at first. I was devastated about how the situation turned out, and I believe she was too. It's safe to say that I won't date a Christian woman ever again. Not because I have anything against Christians, but because they will may very well have something against me.

Left my GF of 6 years, at one point she had interest in Jesus Christ, but the longer we were together, the more she started getting into witchcraft like tarot readings, and trying to contact lost spirit she even went as far to say she is "God's favorite". . . Jesus finally opened my eyes through dreams and encouragement from fellow Christians. I thank you Jesus Christ, I am nothing without you🙏🏿❤️

I became born again while married. Light and dark clashes at home. He says I’m different now. Being silent doesn’t work either. So much battles. But I’m getting better not to engage. We are separated living in the same house. It’s hard because I know God does not like divorce. Praying daily about it waiting what the Lord wants me to do. Trying very hard daily to take up my cross. Don’t do it folks. We are Gods children and can’t be mingling with unbelievers. Not even friends.

Yes! We are not to be unequally yoked with an unbeliever.

That was a hit on my head.. Thank u Lord for make me realize i was doing wrong going against your word.. with this person. Good teaching. God bless u Brother.

One of the clearest thinking biblical ministers of this generation

This for Christians,our moral standards are not the same as atheists,so when atheists comment,they are just commenting to spew hatred and double standards. They think its right to tell a Christian what to do,but not for Christians to guide their own. This is our culture,we understand it very well,usually by experience. So when an atheist (someone who's already hostile towards God) joins in...well their points are usually rude and irrelevant. The fool says in his heart "there is no God" so we must realize we are talking to fools by interacting with atheists on any point relating to spiritual matters. Almost every atheist comment includes hatred and profanity,putdowns instead of points. They are quite irrelevant in the sphere of something they do not believe and are hostile towards because they do not understand.

I just ended my relationship with a handsome man who is a non believer, thank God we haven't been physically attracted because we in different countries, I thought I just made the wrong decision only to find out i have no business with non believers, I really needed to hear this 🙏 ❤ and thank you for telling the truth, we need to be reminded when we make wrong decisions ❤ 🙏 💜 much love 💘 ❤ and God bless ❤

Why 28 thumbs down? This is Biblical truth!

Obey God! You lose your life to save it. This " life" ends quickly. A helpmate is great. Children etc. But I find obeying God to bring the most joy. A relationship w an unequally yoked, was a set up by Satan to KILL ME. ( AS he's known for that) ... thanks God for mercy

Pastor voddie Preaches the truth. It’s so hard to find a Bible Preacher on line that knows what he’s talking about. I love his Teaching of the Scripture’s. He’s articulate and his passion make me want to leave this state so I can be fed with the truth of the Gospel. He’s funny too , in a loving way. May the Lord Richly Bless his ministry. I will continue to listen to him and you should do the same if you are hungry for real training in God’s Word. He’s all about Jesus and what the Gospel means. My Brother told me about him, I listened once and God opened my heart and said” Listen to him.” He didn’t say it to me verbally, but the Holy Spirit gave me his passion for Christ’s truth about the Word. You don’t have to believe me, but if you are truly Saved, you won’t have too. For the Holy Spirit will. True Christians know the truth, and will not follow any voice but God’s. His sheep knows His Voice and will follow it, and will not follow wolves in sheep’s clothing. Like pastor Robert Jeffress who wants your money but has 17 million dollars in his pocket. Jesus said “” Be ware of them.” Research them all first. May the Lord Bless His Children and watch over us.😘❤️✝️

I married a unbeliever while I was in a backslidden state, we have a daughter, and now I just gotta live my life in a way she can’t deny the love of Christ

When I met my wife, she was not a believer. I would not go any deeper into a relationship with her until she did. After a span of time of bringing the Word of God to her, and getting her into a good, Bible based church, she gave her life to Christ. We got married, had kids, she was baptized, and now she works in the children's ministry at our church and loves the Lord Jesus with all her heart, mind, soul, and mind. Believers ought to be with other believers. Not in a committed, husband/wife relationship. One flesh means one flesh. You can't be one flesh with someone who doesn't belong to God.

I learned this the hard way, no lies told 💯

I realised that if i would give my self to her she would gone taking my soul,mind and spirit with her.. God give us strenth to agree to your obvious no's

So awesome and as a single woman wow!!! Yes!! God bless

God bless you!!! Flee unbelievers. They will bring darkness into your life. Do not try to convert them. Separate yourselves. Let them stay in their own country

Come out from them and be separate: i became a born again christain 26 years ago and got involved in a relationship with an unbelieving woman and found out the hard way, there are consequences for disobedience, you must be a doer of Gods word, listening alone is total deception.

I watched this clip one and a half years ago, being in a relationship with a unbeliever. My parents had warned me, but I still struggled to see why it was so wrong. This clip (and some other ones) opened my eyes completely. I am now free, praise the Lord! Through tears I broke up with the person I had no business wasting my time with.

I have a friend shes in a unequally you relationship and brought a baby into this world. I think shes sold on this due to how great he treats her. Shes hoping and praying things will change.

Currently going through this with my gf, I'm baptized in the name of Jesus Christ I stopped drinking and partying, but my gf who claims she's a Christian still does these things, she don't even want to repent she says she's not ready, now I see a huge gap between me and her because she even said she feels bored that I'm no longer drinking And I love her, the flesh want her but the spirit is denying

It’s wonderful how we communicate in comments when it seems that only believers are talking,how about when atheists step into especially a Christian video comment section,y’all step back,no that’s when you should defend the faith more because you could snatch even if one soul from the burning

God bless you for telling the truth! Flee wickedness!

Thank you Father for leading me to this video. You are always guiding our steps and protecting us from the evil one. Your Grace and Mercy keep me!

The enemy is relishes when we bind our hearts to unbelievers... It is all because of our hearts desire to have a certain person... These relationships are fruitless over time and veil ones discernment. So much time slips by unnoticed until it's too late ...

Give God the glory thanks. I have made mistakes relationships not listening to God .You just saved alot of lives and less heartache. It matters who we line up with.Our flesh betrays us and we betray our flesh.This isn't an excuse that I am creating.The word is the truth.Keep speaking it Voodie

I almost ended up in a full blown with a total unbeliever if it hadn’t been for God’s graceful intervention. Voddie nailed it lol: was **fine** and I wanted to get that didn’t want to let that go.

God is speaking to me directly. I can’t lie how sad I feel but I want to keep gods promise and actually try my best to be obedient to his word because God actually loves me right and has done more for me than any desire to be with someone and that is the truth. And all the facts I need to remain grateful with my current circumstances

Lord I wish I would have been saved and found this man 25 years ago!! But I trust God and know that He has a plan.. thank You Lord 🙏❤️ that I've been saved for about 3 years now and off of meth and pills for 2 years now!! And everything else will fall into place.. thank You Lord!! Be blessed 😁🙏❤️

I need to hear this so badly, I'm struggling with this myself right now and this just says it how it is🙏

This is so profound. A nail-hitting-on-the-head type of truth that we all must hear and adhere to for a God-fearing, lasting home where God and God alone is the supreme point of focus.

I've never dated a believer. No wonder I'm still single!

When my relationship began 20 years and 2 children ago neither myself or partner spoke to our beliefs 6 years ago I gave my life to Christ & he informed me that he was atheist it’s been a struggle trying to stay separate we’ve tried our relationship is definitely compromised by this but we have raised our children together & the love is still strong I’m torn because I know better and tried to break up but can’t fully detach.

Excellent Word once again Voddie! Christian men and women do that all the time, especially the ladies always searching for that man who is a " fixer -upper" that kind of Labor is usually painful and fruitless. Relationships rarely come together like a building project

So true Every word he said . if two people not committed to one faith or believe their relationship will loosen and then drifted apart then they began searching all over again for another relationship with the wrong person , until we come to an understanding that it’s unequal in the sigh of God then we can never be happy , But some learn for their mistakes and turn to God for help finding the right person who is a believer while others keep fighting a loosening battle .

I have to let my unbelievably boyfriend down, I've been spirituality attaked, by him, since I told him I gave my heart to Jesus Christ. He doesn't understand why I did it, he just doesn't care, he doesn't support me either, when I became vegan, he threw it in my face, he's throwing Jesus in my face to, mind you, I don't mind, I'd rather have Jesus in my face than him. I cried last night knowing what needs to happen, I called on Jesus to help me, I have faith he's answered me. Praise God

Jesus help me, I don't know why only ungodly man ask me out all the time. I love Jesus and most of them don't. Those Godly man don't ask us out anyway. I am torn. 💔

I was in a relationship with a woman for 3 years. I loved her a lot. But not having the same faith really was the death of us.

Pure,Clean,and Clear!

There are exceptional cases where a friend married a non believer. Then the husband converted and become more faithful than that friend, she had been a wonderful husband to her. They have 4 intelligent kids who are born again and all doing well in life.

First off, being a faithful believer in the lord and abandoning the flesh, then you would know that the lord comforts you and helps you and brings you to wisdom. He doesn’t punish or lead you astray like Satan. So ask no questions abt what happened or did not happen. Have faith. Believing in the unseen

We who claim to belong to the Kingdom really need this and need to be reminded regularly, because we forget as soon as things are doing what we want we attach God to it and declare it as a blessing. We don't realize God has one agenda, and it's not ours not is it earthly. God blessed us with Pastors like voddie they are so few.

It doesn't work. I married an unbeliever and it was a huge mistake. He's trying to drag me down.

Good teaching! but might I add, 1. Women out number men by 2:1. And many churches its worse than that. 2. modern believers have been so caught up in their specialness, no one is good enough, they want the BEST, so they overlook perfectly fine people for minor flaws. 3. Modern men fear marriage and wait longer marrying younger leaving women in certain age groups ignored. Lust of the eye is primarily a male problem. 4. Churches don't encourage singles properly or hold events where they can meet. Just telling someone to wait, wait, wait is not enough. 5. Isolation and loneliness can be soul crushing. 6. Impurity in the leadership.

7 years ago and I'm here ❤

Not even going to resist, this is the truth! I need God's grace to overcome!🤧

He said he didn't understand why women are usually the ones that do so but it's because we are more emotional. We don't want to experience pain as human beings but as women we are always trying to nurture things including pain

Please pray for me. I’m going through a breakup with my Muslim ex. It’s been really hard for me. But Ik that he wasn’t what God wanted for me.

Wont do it by God's grace. Wont marry an unbeliever. Never married. Easy for me to get a date. But stay single because even the Christian men I've met at church ( in South Florida) are full of compromise. Dont want it. Praise Him now and forever! God bless you all:)

I had to end things with this lovely girl tonight. I tried and tried to show her God, but she refused to even explore Christianity. It hurt my soul to watch her cry on the swingset infront of me. In my own selfishness i used her company knowing i couldnt change her. Lord forgive my foolishness, this pain haunts me. God have mercy on me, please pray for me please.

so funny, iam in a mess like this out of a wrong decision when i was at the lowest, now i don't know what to do, 8 years suffering in silence walking through the desert, now i see, please God get me out of this, i plead in tears for month now, never ever date a non Christian!!!

Hes a real rightous Brother . God bless Him.

A christian guy i was getting to know left me for a pagan woman, he is so blinded wants to convert her to christianity has even failed God with her, yet claims there are signs of God that this is His will.. my heart hurts of course to discover he isnt the godly man i thought him to be.. but mostly bc hes lost.. going backwards is not good.. the world is pulling him.. and i hurt for him.. blind leading the blind..she pays attention to his faith now, but how can an unequal yoke be Gods will from the begining .. plz pray for him.. may God reach him before his heart turn harder...i might pray a wrong prayer bc i got emotionally involve with him..he lead me on then dropped me... But you whoever wishes plz pray for him.. you, Evgenii, run back to God .. 🙏🏻

I broke up with my unbelieving girlfriend today. I just want Gods peace

Amen brother! Glory to God!

cold hard facts!! this is how preaching touches your spirit!!

As much as I agree with this (because I'm agreeing with the Word), Romance can sometimes be like a market driven economy. If a (specific) woman is looking to the world for a mate, it's because we men have to step it up. These women aren't finding what they need and want in the local church body they find themselves be in. Have a spine (disagree for your own self respect), take care of yourself, don't be so fearful, a push over and be a responsible adult man. I'm telling you, even if my wife and I disagree, she respects me for not just going along with whatever she wants. No matter how bossy one particular woman can be, NO WOMAN wants to be with a push-over. There's obviously exceptions to this - Though no woman should blame men for their bad choices nor should any man blame any woman for his own bad choices.

What does death hv in common with life? I refuse to date a zombie!!!! Some of my most soul ripping heartache was being disobedient and dating a non believe. So much work and heartache!!! Pls don't be unequally yoked.

Thanks for the message. I agree, and have seen this in people professing to be Christians.

I wish i have heard that many years ago. That's the truth.

Yeah and I’m involved with a woman who is not of my faith. Yeah the truth hurts but it’s God’s word. This is hard.

Blessed from my head to my toes by this. THANK YOU!!!! 😊😊😊🔥🔥

This applies to friendships too

spot on. The truth always bitter and hurts.

Amen!!! Thank you so very much for teaching and preaching the truth pastor Voddie Baucham, GLORY TO GOD!!!

Amen brother!

There are situations where this was and is allowed, but it’s important to understand the context of this following Scripture: “To the rest I say (I, not the Lord) that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he should not divorce her. If any woman has a husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not divorce him. For the unbelieving husband is made holy because of his wife, and the unbelieving wife is made holy because of her husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy” (1 Corinthians 7:12-14). Note at the beginning this is Paul’s own discernment. He is trying to resolve a conflict that was common at the time, which was one being already married to an unbeliever after the Gospel truth had made its way into the family, converting the hearts of at least one spouse. In this case, Paul argues they should remain married. Note that this does not apply to those seeking a wife or husband, only those already married. This is why Paul also states in his second letter to Corinth, that they should “...not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?” (2 Corinthians 6:14) Once a single individual has accepted the Truth, they should not choose a non-Christian spouse. This is a view that even Orthodox Christianity shares with some of Protestantism, showing that Scriptural interpretation is most likely not needed on this matter as it as been made clear by the letters to Corinth. Usually when the Orthodox Church agrees with a Protestant, the Scriptural evidence of an argument is irrefutable. In short, Corinthians supplies a precondition that must be met to marry outside of Christianity: one must be married before a spouse accepts Christ for the marriage to be proper (in Paul’s opinion). Paul taught that it would be better for a new believer to remain married and hope their spouse will eventually stop rejecting Christ than for them to divorce, as Christ makes it clear only adultery from one party makes a divorce acceptable, “But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery” (Matthew 5:32). St. Paul was a master mitigator of social and cultural circumstances and his views should be accepted. Yet note that Paul a acknowledges this allowance of a marriage to a non-believer as his own conclusion, giving credence to God alone. The Scriptures make this issue very clear, as one can see.

Halleluyah amen. So on point and truthful on every point made. I hope and prày young people, especially young women listen and take heed to this message. Praise God for Pastors like this. We need a whole lot more to make enough of an impact on the God fearing community who cuts right down to the chase.

Oh wow! It's been over a week that I've been connecting with her who believes in Buddha. Please God help me.

Preach it, Pastor!

Beautiful

i love how he preaches fron the bible ,breath of fresh air America needs lot more men like you my husband agree's

God spoke to me and said my unbelieving husband was my husband at 18, freshman year in college. Sometimes it’s God’s assignment....see the book of Hosea. This wasn’t my choice, it was God’s!

I have an ex in which I made a soul tie, and she still goes to my church. She now says she received revelation that I’m the one for her but I don’t believe that, pray for me in this season. I don’t want to stumble once more

#RealTalk Voddie always comes with it

Preach it!

He has that deep "Dad" voice. Makes ya listen closely.... Such great advice!

You can witness and be polite But do not become emotionally tied.