"They love to love." Couldn't explain me better.

What's interesting is that I'm pretty good at picking up emotional cues if it involves two other people misunderstanding each other. I can read both people and see what is happening. It's just when I'm personally involved/invested that I have a hard time accepting that when other people are not conforming to my "obviously right" ideals, it's because they have something they also value or are experiencing that I'm refusing to hear. Regarding the "dangerous blindness", I think turning toward the heart feels like reaching for spiritual/transcendent truth in a world that is overwhelmingly non-ideal. It feels like in a world that is dark with confusion and pain, I have to find some kind of light by which to see, otherwise I will be lost in that darkness. I'm trying to see underneath reality and find the principle with which reality can make sense again. Whether or not you think this is a deeper truth or a delusion I suppose would depend on your spiritual beliefs or whether you believer there is a kind of knowledge accessible to the heart that is not accessible to the mind. Either way, I couldn't operate without that sense of alignment. I wouldn't just feel blind, I would feel *wrong*. If I'm just being stubborn about a principle, that's ego, but when I go inside to truly find the truth of things, I'm trying to find my way past ego to something else, something spiritual that feels more real to me than anything else.

Idk I laugh before, after, and during the telling of the joke.

Glad to see you mention the compulsive aspect of ENFPs. Not something I often see in their type descriptions.

I am an ENFP and this video was made on my birthday :)

100% true on the humor

I feel like the Mau situation is more of an unhealthy Fi than a well-developed one... I'm an ENFP and I'm so insanely in tune to the emotions of people around me that in that scenario I'd start feeling uncomfortable and blame myself for suggesting a game that wasn't being enjoyed... then I'd retreat inwards for a bit and feel bad, while trying to think of other things to play. Personally, I remember playing Mau for the first time and being in that exact situation as your ISTP friend... I felt stupid and stressed by not finding direct patterns in the rules, and was extremely aware of others' amusement at my confusion. I kept playing, because my Ne kept speculating that the game could be fun (and Ne was NOT about to back down from the challenge of deciphering the cryptic patterns), and Fi reminded me how the others were having fun and had good experiences with the game, so I should at least humor them, despite feeling slightly hurt by their enjoyment of my discomfort. I'd never want to put anyone in a situation they feel unhappy with, and my humor, though dark or deadpan at times, still doesn't tend to be at another's expense. I don't like labelling people as "good" or "bad," and _certainly_ not "expendable," because no dichotomy or box can accurately label people in their entirety. All in all, great video! You know a lot about mbti and its inner-workings. However, I personally find the description on an ENFP lacking energy to be inaccurate, though it might apply for some (damn Ne)

I've been deep diving into ENFP stuff for weeks but your video is one of the best things I've seen. Thank you for your apt observation of our complex serious-kid nature and spot-on description of my joke delivery. ;) I see and appreciate you and this effort!

Michael, This seems like you've had some bad experiences with an ENFP. There is an outside element of maturity and ability to learn that is missing from your description. After unintentionally hurting a couple friends as a teenager, and hearing my best friend say, "Don't worry about it, Kathryn just says things sometimes," I realized that I needed to pay attention more to others feelings. I test strongly as an ENFP, but I have been told that I am adept at sensing others moods and feelings. As an ENFP, I will almost self destruct if I know that I've hurt someone. If someone doesn't want to play a game or is hesitant, I will quickly change plans whether it's what I want to do or not. I feel that my time spent studying self-differentiation, Bowen Theory, has helped me become a much happier, calmer ENFP, as well as being able to see my own feelings as separate from others. I'm 48 and still on a quest to accept my ENFP qualities (I was married to an ESTJ for 27 yrs and felt like I was intensely defective from birth....and why can't I just be more organized?). While accepting my ENFP-ness, I want to also be sensitive and accepting to others...always. So I am studying the other types in hopes that I will be. I'm an inner-city school teacher; sensitivity to others experiences and realities is an essential must.

"That peculiar terror that an ordinary or small mistake will have unbelievably disproportionate consequences which they sense with far more vividness than what is really going on before them." This is exactly what I do as an ENFP with perfectionism. Wow. Just hearing it described this way is so validating. Yes.

As an ENFP, I must say that the ENFP's actions in the Mau anecdote are pretty accurate to how I tend to to react in similar situations. As open-minded and agreeable as I try to be, there are always going to be at least a few things that I simply cannot accept as anything but truth; I'm stubborn. I guess you could say that there are hobbies and ideologies that I've spent so much time accepting as a positive thing, or absolutely right in the face of a world full of ambiguity... And then to have that thing suddenly questioned by someone with the opposite opinion, I get a little defensive. Not to the point where I make a huge deal out of it (people are people, we're going to disagree), but it's definitely something I find discomforting at the very least. This feeling is only made worse when the opposing side doesn't explain their position well, or they judge it on criteria that is flat-out ridiculous or stupid in my eyes. For example, when I was younger and talking to some fellow theatre kids my age, one boy said how he hated the musical Wicked. Being a fan of the show myself, I was shocked to hear this, and asked for the reason for his dislike. He said, and I quote, "It makes non-theatre people think they're theatre people." This illogical judgement criteria baffled me to say the least. A more recent example is from this summer when I was out on a date with my (now ex) girlfriend (an ESFJ). Just to engage in conversation, I asked her what her favorite movie was. She answered Finding Dory, which we had just seen the week prior. I asked "What made it your favorite movie?" And she answered "Because I saw it with you." I said "Awe, that's sweet, but what did you REALLY like about it?" She answered "I just said why, silly. I saw it with you, and that made it my favorite movie." As someone who spends a decent amount of time analyzing pieces of entertainment that I enjoy, this baffled me that someone could legitimately judge a movie based off of outside criteria unrelated to said movie. I suppose this is all just nature of the ENFP. Either that or I'm just a weirdo. Or both for that matter.

I can tell you why the ENFP kept playing the Mau game. I’m an ENFP. I can always tell that people are getting annoyed with me and what I want to do. Most of the time I stop if I’m surrounded by people I love and respect but if I’m getting into an idea or story or game and I can tell no one wants to participate I will keep going out of spite. I know it’s not healthy but I find amusement in it because I’m good at pretending I don’t know what’s going on. I know I’m being annoying but I do it on purpose for my own entertainment because I can watch everyone get frustrated without knowing how to communicate properly.

Your friend who was insisting on playing "Mau" was pushing you guys to do team building in order to deepen a friendship. If it's not Mau it will be something else. I believe that she wasn't just insisting because she enjoys it but the risk of doing something difficult with people she cares about and then deepening a relationship with someone she considers a friend. ---One Big Guess by an ENFP

Micheal you speak so beautifully- ENFP

The Mau game and all its associations: I've known a while that I do this -- sometimes become a runaway freight train of my own enthusiasms, tone-deaf to social cues it's time to shut it and reconnect properly with my interlocutor(s). It's a very weird thing, and might, of the neurotic/obnoxious things in my repertoire, be the phenom I've been least able to explain to myself. How interesting and useful it was to see it well illustrated here with some cog functional analysis!! It really is a strange, paradoxical thing how we ENFPs step on other people's toes socially with our overdoing, as often as we do, considering how extremely bad we feel when we learn that we've bothered someone. With the aux. Fi, we deeply care about that. If anyone would like to direct me to any other material explaining more about the etiology of this phenomenon, please do!

Hey man it's been awhile since I've spoken to you (I was an ISTP on my way to the military) and it's sweet to come back and see how much your channel has grown! You deserve the growth and I wish you the best!

your videos are the branches for my brain fruits to grow.

Finally somebody who noticed that Bruce Lee was an ENFP.

Considering the Mao story, I agree that as an ENFP I might impose what I like on others as soon as I'm aware they are not having fun I stop immediately. If I notice a lack off smiling or laughter or enjoyment overall then I ask them and if they say they're not enjoying it I stop. I share because I love it and it makes me happy and I want to share the happiness and novelty, but within that I'm afraid of upsetting them and being annoying. I do this because growing up those around me would make me aware instead of playing along. I feel immense guilt if their lack of enjoyment is pointed out to me after the fact. For example recently I tried to introduce my best friend a music group I like. She tried to show interest but I could tell she didn't enjoy it so I turned it off and asked about her music and we played that instead.

This was a balanced portrayal. As an ENFP, I've been looking for a description of the type that equally goes over the virtues and flaws of the ENFP. Spot on with the odd lack of empathy, I can tell you that, for me at least, it's reserved for those who are cut off from the possibility of redemption (it's either perceived to be impossible or would come at a cost to others who are innocent and hence don't "deserve" to bear that cost). In other words, I would say it stems from an inner paladin/knight/zealot/inquisitor that could potentially go from feeling like protecting a target with their life to nearly sociopathically wishing suffering on a different target depending on their moral judgement of them. I should add that this is definitely an immature aspect of the ENFP and one that can be tempered by training one's Thinking through mindfulness or focusing on rationality and skepticism of narratives. I'm am _certainly_ not advocating wishing violence on others, simply stating that I've felt that fiery certainty and know it's something to watch out for as an ENFP. It's the shadow side of "championing" for a possibility; championing _against_ something you see as negating possibility.

I appreciate the acknowledgment of our drive to ‘do’.. many mbti vids paint us over & over as just dreamers who never realize our potential, which always leaves me discouraged despite a record of having finished plenty of things.. :/

Your videos are so insightful and informative! Especially the revisiting the types - series has given me a much deeper understanding of each type. You bring up some really good points that are rarely mentioned in other MBTI sites etc. Like the ENFP's timely "lack of empathy" (sorry idk a nicer way to put it) is something that I've noticed many of my ENFP friends doing more or less. Since I have inferior Fe I've found myself easily judging their Fi way of handling things (similar to your Game of Mau example), but this video actually explained the reason behind the behaviour which is so important. Anyways you really seem to know what you're talking about and your videos are always able to teach me something new!

I don’t think the story of your friend playing MOW showed a lack of empathy, but rather an indulgence in it. If she loved the game, it seems more likely ( I’m an ENFP) that she was trying to share those emotions with her friend and genuinely thought she would love it

Thank you so much for this video! I have been waiting in anticipation for this video. GREAT INSIGHT AND INFO ON MY PERSONALITY! I LOVE IT!

yesssssss! I was so excited when I saw this video was up! I really like how your type description for ENFP is a lot different from the INFP video-you really honed in on the differences. I think your ENFP-ISTP-INFJ game example could also be the difference between extroverts and introverts. Nice video, as always :)

Thank you, Michael! This helped me understand my type so much more. You're gifted at this!

YES!!! Hahaha been checking for this vid almost every day in the last couple of weeks.. It's like a merry un-birthday present.. Thanks mate! Totally appreciate the work, I love your vids. Especially like the comparisons to the ENTP, I been searching for something along those lines for ages. And the Mau card game, which is funny because the whole scenario there I see I act that way with a lot of things. MBTI for instance.. and music mostly.. also politics. The even funnier part is that through sheer persistence I actually end up getting most people into the things I like.. never seen that trait attached to any other description of an ENFP before, that's why I really appreciate your videos. You add your own perspectives and observations and they always seem to be pretty accurate. Anyways.. Cheers for the great work!

I'm an ENFP, I love your videos. Because of the whole INFJ-ENFP relation which I find very developing and that Fi, justly, is so misunderstood, I will give my own view and best attempt on Fi. We are, as you said, soo concerned about other people and their feelings, and we are at times incapable and unwilling to pick up on other peoples feeling cues. Because we do not simply react to them, but as you said pick up on them. As an ENFP your Fi-values are largely dispositional. Meaning, no ENFP will be able to, on beforehand, simply spell out the propositional content of their own values, "This is my value and this is how to put it exactly into words, dot." At least not the real authentic ones. We are not aware of that content on beforehand. Or even in a discussion, if you would rationally ask me, I will have trouble just putting my values out there. I do practice just simply putting my values out there, even though it feels at times like a flash light right into a sensitive darkness. Secondly, these values are over time discovered to just be the case, "dispositions", from life experience and isn't really an active choice. But, even if the propositional content is being put forward, or "the what", I'm always much more interested in "the why". "The convergence to the what", is not stronger for me than "the divergence of the why". So literally what ever, I will still ask myself, and to others, for the corresponding why. As a typical five year old, but ever so much more tactful, sensitive or mature. As I have become older as an ENFP, I see some of peoples as you said emotional cues, as just a first sign and almost irrelevant in the end in the big picture of what we soon will discover. Or, I do not get so excited about the cork popping out of the bottle, to express myself metaphorically, because I'm, if anything, so extremely aware and interested in all the wine underneath. Just as all the "thinkers" I have interacted with from my two years of academical philosophy (thank god I changed to advanced bachelor in social work) delight themselves in being connoisseurs of logical detail, I do in the fine wine of the unconscious mind or the at times authentic mind. To feel some intensity, to feel something real, something authentic, probably, in some way, from childhood. And without being crazily adventurous and jump parachute on a daily basis :p Oh, I miss childhood.. :) And my natural respect to other people or individuals, hinders me from doing so to other people without their permission and trust. Anyway, and yes I have rewritten this for far too long, yes, I do not know how suiting this is to your example of the game Mau. But I just want others to have the same type of discovery and adventure that I can have, in the change of judgement. That would be my motive in the game of Mau. I do not want to show any disrespect or lack of empathy. And I would never continue if someone are uncomfortable even after me telling my intention, simply because I want to. That sounds like something a very young ENFP would do, or without any emotional maturity, where everything and everyone is just part of their own playful game they call life. Or, hey, maybe they just had a bad day. It is, after all Fi, and not Ti, and I'm every day baffled about how I do all of this (psycho-)analysis internally in this irrational manner, without, most of the time, being aware of "it" and so often being right on the money. I am aware of "it", but then I mean this pure perception or awareness of this grand internal processing of motives, an awareness that doesn't offer me judgements or any propositional content or whole sentences that I'm aware of and can use in a rational step by step manner. Simply, motives irrational nature requires other tools for their discovery. As you said, a strangely involved detachment, that we do involve our entire self without "moving towards in direct relation to what seems to be going on with them". Because we are not purely reactionary or sympathetic in that sense. We can thus sometimes initially be seen as jerks, at least that's what I have noticed as I have gotten older. But it's all with the purest of intention, and I'm more than willing to face some resistance or be seen as a jerk for a few moments, to reach the wonderful child within that already knows somehow in a beautiful deep way. Or face some resistance at first, to explain my perspective and intention. A benefit of being an adult, for sure. A follow up question, how do you, in the moment, differ an emotional cue from just a part of any inauthentic persona?

On comparing ENTP vs ENFP, the energy I get from an ENTP feels more like a prism being held to a window, and the refractions and spectrum of colors and lights that can be scientifically traced back to a cold hard object like a quartz prism (Ti). The energy from an ENFP feels more like that of a firework show. There is a very quick explosion of colors and excitement in one place and then another of explosion in another unrelated part of the sky, and all that is determining them is the whim of a passionate artist (Fi) who is excitedly firing them into the night.

The images you provide for Ne are so good.

Been waiting for this!

I can certainly say this is one of the best ENFP videos I've ever seen. Love from S.Korea

Great video! The ENFP in my life absolutely has that "deadpan" sense of humor.

This is thorough and accurate. I absolutely loved it! I am an INTP and struggle to understand ENFPs in the exact same way. How can they burst into genuine tears at the thought of hurricane victims losing their loved ones and yet at other times be so seemingly callous and downright devoid of empathy. How can they preach the virtues of tolerance and yet be so utterly intolerant in so many circumstances? I feel better having watched this.

Thank you for your work ! Your voice is so soothing

Hey my man your back!! Welcome^^

Your explanation of Fe vs Fi in response to the feelings of others was awesome. Extremely helpful. I have recently been frustrated at my own delay in understanding what I should do in the moment. I only realize later how my actions probably made someone else feel (if it is different from how I would feel).

GREAT VIDEO!!!!! I am an ENFJ but this explains a lot about the many ENFPs I know haha. Thanks for all your hard work on the visuals and everything

I would never laugh at another persons expense. I have always championed people and protected peoples feelings. I can't speak for every ENFP but all my ENFP friends are awesome and I've never experienced any such thing with them :)

I liked the explanation there during your game of mau. I would like to also Add that partly the reason the ENFP did not pick up the ISTP's frustration is I find they can get lost in Ne much like an INTJ and INFJ (to an extent) within Ni. ENFP's can get so excited over ideas and where they can develop that it can take control of the Fi. I have seen this happen a few times with my ENFP best friend and it happens to me once in a while with Ni as an INTJ. This can display the false impression of not caring however, its more being enchanted and enslaved by the imagination within those moments of great excitement or in my case interest with information or events which is the cause.

I have this feeling that either I'm not an ENFP or your ENFP friend who played the game Mao with you and the ISTP had underdeveloped Fi/Te. I only say this because I have made it a point to observe people like Fe does. I feel bad if I make others try to like something if they clearly do not want to. But we are are sometimes guilty of having a very rough sense of humour that makes fun at people. It's because we have this conscious thought that others think bad things about us. So we speak about others.. Yet at the same time we would defend that very person if they were being attacked by others.. It's like let me talk crap about people but at the same time I don't want anyone to get hurt ultimately. Miss you Michael!

Awesome explanation of ENFP, Michael. Thank you so much!!

michael you are super insightful man. right on the money.

Dang I didn't see that this was finished. Looking forward to it!

I'd just like to say that Steven Universe was a great choice to illustrate the ENFP type !

I just am so glad that i found this indepth review. Thank you Michael!! Wish you the best kind of luck and happiness in every area of your life!! -INFJ here, for a concerned ENFP ... ^^

Enfp male here i heart this

Your Orwell vs Huxley comparison is spot on. P-doms definitely see the world as morally ambiguous.

that SU part was spot-on, and also everything else too!!!

Thank you Thank you Thank you! I have not even watched it yet but I wanted to say how excited I am as it starts.

I related a lot to so much of this video!! Most of it was spot on (even some negative things. I have experienced a significant amount of anxiety and depression, related to much of what you said...) I do think it is interesting the way you describe the ENFP's sense of humor - for me, I do have a bit of a dry humor, but I really try never to joke at someone else's expense. Part of that is my upbringing, I think, because I am really sensitive and I try treat others the way I wish they would treat me. My Te is manifest in some other ways though, and I can be insensitive at times. I speak my mind, and although I don't usually say anything deliberately unkind, some comments may be interpreted offensively. Also, I understand your point about the Mau game, (because I would generally try to get someone excited about the game, "Oh you'll love it!!") but I think that if it went as far as you said, I would have eventually caught the cues and apologized and let the ISTP pick a new game. I hate feeling that I am imposing on people; this relates a lot to the nervousness about different actions. I try to be aware, but of course, I do not have Fe so this does not come naturally. This does cause a lot of anxiety. Basically, I think that ENFPs, as Fi/Te users CAN demonstrate empathy and probably value empathy greatly, however, it is not always a natural strength so there are occasional lapses and times when words and actions may be insensitive.

Ive been the unhealthy Fi before. I always insist my friends would love the same stuff I love and would make them participate in my creative hobbies such as Short Film, cover dance, graphic design, wattpad writing, etc. I just had this sudden realization when I am becoming really selfish and I did not realizd that they also have their set preference as I have. I think that's where the healthy Fi comes in. Healthy use of Fi means accepting that all of us are somehow operating in a subjective value that we personally resonate with and through that understanding, the ENFP can acknowledge everyone much more. Not in an Fe way like disregarding your own internal flame for the sake of seeing the feeling cues of others but rather taming your own internal fire so that you can light others, therefore seeing everyone better.

Hello, I am enjoying the revisiting videos. I watched the videos on your travels in Europe and found your interest in particular kinds of art to be what I would expect a INFJ trained in philosophy and psychology to enjoy. I share similar tastes. I want to mention a few film makers (who you may already know)that I think you may find interesting, who I am beginning to look at in different perspectives because of my reengagement with Jung. The works of Andrei Tarkovsky, Ingmar Bergman, Wim Wenders and Yasujiro Ozu are often masterworks that are filled with symbols and I believe each director engaged (in Wenders' case, is still engaging) in the unconscious, be it collective or personal. I would like to hear your take on these directors and other great directors in cinema history, as well as more insight into your aesthetic preferences. Thank you for the creation of quality videos on typology and psychology.

Amazingly amazing. at first, you appeared to me as a healthy INTP, however, this thing of swiftly navigating through the triggers of the other party while delivering truthfully is a trait I observed only in INFJs. Salute sir. also, good job on dat Ti of yours. looking forward to more of your explanations.

I love the music at the beginning.

Soooooo gooood. As an ENFP it's amazing how well you pinned down my personality.

Wow. I wrote this rambling explanation on an ENTJ video of why I thought I was ENTJ, but still had reservations about that type. Then, I see this video, and ENFP, it is. Watts is one of my favorite authors/speakers of all time, and the compulsiveness thing -- with regard to tertiary Te -- hits close to home. It is a kind of black-and-white thing that goes something like this: "If I'm late for this appointment, then I suck and might as well not go at all," or "how could I have made that stupid mistake at work? I can't believe it, etc." As well, the Te didn't start revealing itself until around 9th grade or so. I see it as manifesting differently from dominant Te, which although disappointed in itself when it screws up, just gets back up and works harder without the tearing oneself apart that tertiary Te can do in me.... Thanks, Michael. I've been studying type for a while and unable to come up with my own. Until now! Bravo!

brilliant! this was extremely helpful! thank you!

I definitely relate to not wanting to try the same thing over and over, I need to try new things almost constantly, though oddly I have times where I listen to the same music over and over again.

I just love the idea of Jaques Derrida being a woman imposing an obscure game of cards on people. 💜🤡👽💛

Enfp is actively gathering ideas from the world to form their values. Infp is values are used to gather ideas. Fi and Fe are not feelings they are deciders. The Group (Fe) or individual (Fi). No matter what type, balancing the two as much as possible is needed. Without these two being balanced, we act in extremes as tyrants or doormats. With the 2 balanced, we have self respect while also respecting others. Assertive rights create Unity.

I also used to have that obsessive compulsive thing, where I avoid stepping on cracks on the pavement, or imagining sharks in the swimming pool I convince myself are really there, scaring myself with an unrealistic possibility.

Wow this was a great video. It helped me realise I'm an ENFP and not an ENTP so thanks for helping me figure out my true type! :D

I keep hearing entp or infp or other personality types instead of the ENFP description ☺️

This is.. very interesting to me because, although relatively new to Myers-Briggs, from everything I've gathered so far I'm pretty much an ENFP poster child. XD I remember specifically watching your first video about ENFPs, and it literally made me laugh out loud in places and get all teary eyed in others because it resonated with me so completely and utterly. In this video however, for the first time since I started reading up on ENFPs, there was a part that... doesn't quite... fit. The way I figure this could have several reasons but I wanted your opinion (if you have the time to reply of course) In the Auxiliary Fi section you mention how ENFPs, despite their concern with other peoples feelings are sometimes surprisingly blind to the actual emotional cues of others in a given situation. Now I do recognise this somewhat, and it's definitely happened to me that I was so caught up in a moment that I'd occasionally "walk all over" someone, but I was never blind to it. And I can never see something like the Mau situation you described happening to me because I am usually (unless inebriated or caught in some moment of extreme excitement) very very aware at subtle emotional clues of people around me and I often pick up on things before anyone else does. I'd also never force someone to do something they're clearly not enjoying, insisting they'll have fun in the end. And I can ALWAYS tell. Now I wonder why that is. Do you think it's something I learned and worked on over the years due to natural selfreflection (and an amazing friend who always slapped me on the wrist when I was doing that XD ) or do you think it's more likely I'm deluding myself thinking I don't do this very often anymore, when in fact I do but never realise? I'm just curious if you think it's possible I got conditioned somehow to pay more attention to this kind of situation.

Hands down best ENFP video ever made.

16:00 Have been through that multiple times and even if you explicitly tell them that you do not like it they act like you are saying that because you are either too shy to admit otherwise or you didnt experienced it enought.

As an eNfP I feel I can offer some insight to your the feeling detachment and using internal values on other people's feelings. @15:00-15:35ish mark in your video. As an eNfP I feel that I use my encounters with everyone I ever met to create my values so that I can know how to perceive reality. It gives me this we rounded understanding and I use this to help others with their feelings. This can help or make a situation worse depending on how the persons views consensus. Some care what others think an "external moral compass" and others have such a "internal moral compass" and dont put as much value on consensus opinion.

This is very interesting and got me thinking. I didn’t understand the second to last point I think it was, but otherwise it sounded accurate.

I am an ENFP 🤗, people think and say I am weird because I am me;-;, when I want a thing I have, when I want to do something I do, I love everyone and I want to be friend with you all because I want to give you love😚. I love speak with people but.. things they like do ect..I don't like speak like: "how are you ?"ect🙄 I just listen and if I think it's interresting boum I am here😂. I have too much imagination😅 I have to sometimes stop myself thinking because I'll continue always. I have too much emotion to... I just want to say, I love be an ENFP😄

I wanted to hit on what you said about ENFPs wanting to be involved and help yet simultaneously not reading emotional cues-- (If I really am an ENFP which I'm fairly certain I am, I finally got around to watching this and it is spot on 100% me!) I think we are empathetic.. but everyone is unless they are a psychopath or sociopath. And when we think someone is upset (especially if it is with us) we become more uncomfortable rather than feeling what the other person is feeling. It's more like "I don't want you to be sad I hate this! How can I fix it!" Rather than going through the situation with them... I don't know about other ENFPs but when my friends are others are upset sometimes I will give advice based on what I would do in the situation. Lots of Te since I tend to give quite practical advice. And more often than not I actually take steps to solve their problems. That being said a majority of the time, if I'm speaking to the upset person/friend in person, I eventually notice that my face doesn't show sadness, and I begin to feel guilty that I don't feel negatively when others do. I think it honestly just comes across as awkward. I always apologize and i've done this so many times. :P Recently during a group intervention for my cousin I couldn't stop giggling even though the mood of the room was quite serious LOL. I told them I was happy he had such a supportive group to care about him, and that I was glad things would get better. I tend to be the one to just provide advice and snacks when my loved ones are upset. :P

Thank you for understanding my humour. Finally.

My man, you just read me for filth. But also, I feel very understood. I am constantly obsessing about how my actions have consequences which leads to a lot of inaction. Also, I do agree about the Mau game. That's something I've done often, and I feel so bad about it afterwards. Which leads me to my favorite part which is actually the last part, because I feel like you touched on a deep part of me that's not necessarily a *big* part of me, but something that brings me a lot of joy/nostalgia, i.e. me having a very sensory-based association with memory. For example, seeing bats brings me a pure sense of joy because as a child, I used to lie under the stars and watch the bats fly overhead. It's a simple pleasure, but it happens to me all of the time. It's like I fall back into the past because of a sensation, and deeply. I think that's why your friend may have done that with the Mau game. She was trying to reproduce that same feeling of joy and lightness that came from her first three experiences, not realizing that everyone may not enjoy the game in the same way that she does. It's that childlike innocence that we have going on, (which can unintentionally be selfish in the most good-natured way possible). Anyway, thank you for this, I really enjoyed it!

Finally a video that relates ENFP to INFJ. This is insightful. Most of us will always exhibit behaviors that is fueled by a mash of our mental processes. Thank you.

love listening to you talk, it's soo relaxing, do all infjs have this presence?

I feel like ENFPs and INFJs can quite often switch places way too quickly. It's like both types have equally strong Ni / Ne - Fi / Fe, each type just *tends* to favor one over the other. I'm an ENFP by the way, great video!

9:07 perfectly expressed. beautiful insight

THAAANK YOU SOOO MUCH,LOVE IT!!!!!

Speaking as an ENFP here: Good video as usual, it was quite cute how hard you try to put a positive spin on Fi though. Is it so bad to say that Fi is, in essence, a selfish function - especially in the eyes of Fe users? Most Fi users aren't able to admit it to themselves (if they even realise this is happening at all, which is unlikely), but we only care about others due to their impact on our own feelings (altruism through selfishness!) and deep down, how we feel -always- takes precedence. How to act with respect to Fe users is going to be a significant challenge in most Fi users lives. I considered not mentioning it but I also feel you seriously underestimate the importance of the shadow function in ENFPs, especially in young adults. It can have an almost drug-like pull and I believe you'll often find young ENFPs attempting to shoehorn themselves into ISTJ-esque roles.

The candle metaphor in the auxiliary function section is terrific. I particularly appreciate everything in the auxiliary (Fi) section (though I think the whole video is fantastic) because your awareness, interrogation, and disclosure of your Fe biases as part and parcel of investigating the unlikeable effects of Fi that you do is so useful and refreshing. Several other Fe-using MBTI Nerdworld kingpins whose work is so intelligent, informed, useful, and inspired in most other respects seem (to me) to have a glaring blind spot of unconsciousness and ignorance in this area, but you don't. The connection you make here between the deep, complex, internecine processes of Fi and Ti (I think the same inferences of 'kind' could be made with Ni as well) and seemingly strange (i.e., inobvious), delayed effects is very well made. Jung did it. Maybe more theorists about his work should do the same! ;-)

10:12 ... A relationship diagram where the bubbles and arrows look like sperm cells.

I love this jazz classic

Why do I just happen to stumble upon this video full of Avatar imagery right after it's put on Netflix and I rediscovered it? I've been watching your videos for years and yet I only just watched this one.

So many triggered enfps here. You guys realize that the Mau example was ONE example of how Fi can be displayed negatively and that every function has positive and negative aspects, right? Each of these videos touches on it, you're not being singled out. It's an example.

Dude, you literally quoted me when you said that ENFPS say “I’ll do this and then that and that and that and everything will be great!” That is the only way that I am able to organize tasks in my brain is by saying them out loud in the moments before I carry them out and following them with a positive affirmation. You are SCARING me, man! 😅😂

Thank you for this! :) -ENFPal

Great description as always :) (Only thing I don't have a problem with is the situation at 16:10, If I knew someone was uncomfortable, I wouldnt continue based upon myself.)

I finally feel understood!

As a male ENFP I could tell you about that Mao game that you played little boy. U must understand ENFP's love to win more than anything in the world! We want to be Victor's because we are the best in the world and we also love to watch other people suffer. When you were suffering we got great joy out of that cause it's just a temporary game where we can show everyone our supreme awesomeness. Understand bich? ENFP's rule!

I work with people daily in behavior change in a healthcare field (I'm a dietitian, I work with diabetes, eating disorders, etc.). I've realized why and how I can be inspiring to people is because I process through Fi. So I sense or ask for their feelings through Ne-Fi and then process this quickly with Fi and Te (is what they experience good them or bad for them in a health sense? I am able to use my Ne-Te to gather enough data about what behaviors generate health and well-being to have become very confident about what IS actually the best behaviors for health as far as our society is currently aware. Staying up to date I have noticed is also very important and needed for ENFPs to feel confident in fields such as mine. I have noticed other ENFP counselors and therapists who also have this drive to bring cutting-edge evidence-based data into their practice) and here is the part I am interested in you hearing. Because I process it with Fi I can then figure out what some of the best possibilities for this person could be. I believe it is why we can be inspiring. If I had Fe, I think I'd only steer them in directions they communicated to me that they wanted? But as it is, I can think out of the box and get them excited because I give them my all as a push. LOL I think I'm telling you this because of your negative experiences with Fi! Ducking out. =) I enjoy your videos. Thank you.

Great vid. (Insofar as there is greatness within my own vanity as an ENFP. LOL!) I've often heard the ENFP type referred to as being the "campaigner " I wonder if I might campaign (😅) for the moniker "Advocate." Cheers! (Edit: there are 12 versions of all 16 versions of the 432 versions of the 1. So, meh.)

I think thats my issue throughout adulthood. Because I am extroverted, i tend to always get inquiries about the things around me that at the end of the day I just move along to the next thing if my Fi doesn't want it anymore. We tend to look like assholes to other people. As I get older, I tend to get aware of the social structures that I am unable to be the jolly, lively ENFP that I was when I was a child. Because without exerting enough cognitive effort, I am really disregarding or yet unaware of the emotional cues of other people as I expect that they do that to their own selves as how I do it. But that doesn't mean we dont care, we love people but we get bring down in the process since people expect you to adhere to a collectivist mindset that you should also be concern and establish harmony amongst your peers. Thats an issue I have yet to solve.

As a ENFP in the mau situation, I may have the tendency to behave like your friend. Im normally accommodating to other peoples desires and interests because I wouldnt want my interests being stepped on if the situation was reversed. But if I had been making concessions for too long before this, I may be in a mental state where I would subconsciously say "fuck it, they have to do what I want for once, they're adults, they can handle it, I know I handle it all the other times". Like you were saying @13:36 when my internal fire is in a frenzy, I lose sight of my peers feelings. @19:30 I certainly have a internal fire raging towards bringing people to justice. Sometimes its a joke. Most of the time im serious due to how angry the disrespect of my values burns inside me.

Great video! :) Would love to hear Heidi Priebe's review on this video :D Have a good one! ^^,

Outsiders perspective of ENFP...interesante 👌🏾

I love your videos, they are having more depth than many others, well done. one thing: I was astonisehd to see J., she seems SF to be and SeFi or Fi Se user. Im sorry, I bet you get tons of such messages ;-) again: you makle the best videos!!! I find them insightfull and they help me a lot! thank you!

Thank you so much

Not sure I can relate to the lack of empathy, unless I really dislike someone maybe, but even then if that happens I hate myself.

the 'not laughing until everyone else does' i think is because we hate being embarrassed in front of friends more then strangers and if your the only one laughing it puts you into that situation

To me it sounds like the card game ENFP friend was more of relationship issue. There are many KZfaqrs who use their self professed profession to call out or attack a person who they have had a not so desirable relationship with. It has never sat well with me, when people use personal relationships as so called objective examples. It’s a bit like naming and shaming in a covert kind of way. Besides labelling another person as a type is strictly from your own perspective. If I queried this ENFP, I am sure she might have a different perspective on the matter. The idea of Myers-Briggs is for self analysis and self discovery. Also personal behaviour is affected by personal values and ideologies as well. Otherwise there would only be duplicates of every type without deviation. Basically Clones of a type. We are each individuals, first and foremost, not types.