You said something profound. The "obvious" we think point us within the xxx rated bur you are right. These shows that has explicit serial content of a movie is porn.

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Agreed

I just wanted to share that there is a Christian counselor referral list available through Focus on the Family. I recently found a PhD psychologist that is also a believer. They have a searchable database available based on city. Hope this helps someone.

So glad to hear this was a blessing to you! 💙

LOL I was just saying that.

I wish she would.. 😅😅😅 I love Dana but how you gone chaperone someone through their testimony.

Penelope Twain Im not understanding that connection between porn in its various forms being a distortion of Gods design being so sacred and the genre or topic of romance. Is it the unattainable expectation between people in real life as opposed to say a relationship like in The Notebook?

not really the same. one is about intimate emotional connection with another human being, the other is about using a person as an impersonal thing for personal gratification. very different to me

As someone who has personally struggled with an addiction to romance, I can tell you that it actually is the same thing, even if we don't recognize it as such. My desire for romance is completely self-focused. And I would get my personal gratification for that "lust of the flesh" by watching someone else experience it (because I longed for it but it was completely unavailable to me in my relationship). Which means I was exploiting those movie relationships for my own gratification. That's no different than porn. I was not having any intimate connection to the actors in the romantic movies, and worse still, it was damaging my ability to experience true intimacy with my aromantic spouse because it fed my self-absorbed desire for romance and kept me falsely convinced that I was missing something vital in our relationship by not having it. It was all about filling a personal desire inside of me. So the romantic movies just fed my false view that I could never experience true intimacy with my husband without the romance that we were missing. My other half has no need for romance, no desire for romance, and no interest in romance. Romance is something I alone want in the relationship. But romance isn't synonymous with intimacy, like we lead ourselves to believe. Intimacy actually exists completely separately from romance. Intimacy isn't even dependant upon romance. But romance all-too-frequently ends up taking the place of true intimacy. We look at it as if it is the end goal. And that's why so many relationships fizzle and die. They are based only on the romance. So when that fades, so does the relationship. Because true intimacy never existed. It was just a cheap facade. We end up spending our time pursuing romance (and justifying that pursuit), and miss the fact that we're actually just caught up in the same trap as those who are addicted to porn. We are still missing true intimacy because we are filling that void with a cheap knock-off. Porn or PG is irrelevant. It's still a cheap substitute for actual intimacy.

@@penelopetwain8332 I think desiring romance in your relationship, counter to how your husbands default is, is something that he ought to attempt to meet to a realistic degree, just as much as a sexuality would be(so much so that it doesn’t become an idol). I am a verbal person, that is how I express and receive love, my partner is not, they are acts based, however they make attempts to verbally express fondness for me in order to make me feel loved in a way I best feel loved. That’s why we ought to die to the flesh daily for our spouse and be selfless in a relationship. If you desire romance, your husband ought to put some attempts forward even if it isn’t the same as a movie. That’s how you feel loved. Men, typically need to feel needed(and useful), women typically want to feel desired and so often that is made to seem weak or not on the same level, but they desire to feel desired, that’s why God asked for women to respect their husband and for husbands to love and lay down their life for their wife.