My mom picked up control freak Nun habits ( no pun intended).

My mom taught me to be a people-pleaser & a good girl. She never taught me to stand up for myself & draw boundaries with people. I had to teach myself to toughen up & to not be a pushover. It's okay if some people don't like you & it's okay to say no to something you don't want to do. In the boxing ring of life, being ready fo meet conflict or opposition is something that will make you stronger. I had to learn the hard way that most people won't have your best interests at heart, especially in the workplace, so learn to swim or you will drown.

Me too 😂. Raised in a Catholic school with similar values. They may be great and idealistic values but it's all BS (in huge caps!!!) when applied to the real world. Being a Christian and all the things I learned in school set me up for massive abuse. Like be kind but don't be foolish. Look out for yourself first because that's what everybody else is doing (including christians lmao). Like being kind and self sacrificing should not set you up for abuse and often it leads to suffering which isn't even for the greater good but meaningless suffering!

Same.

You spitting the gods honest truth! People want you to look out for others, in hopes someone else will look out for you

Pssy. You think the world owes you peace.

Excellent test that 99% Fail

@@lovewhitey4462 100

Yes, but we must find out a different way to tell without jeopardizing ourself

Yes, I often do a "trust test" and share something that seems personal but that I don't really care who knows about it, then see what they do with it.

Bang on. This has worked for me recently

Late answer, but I've noticed that many people who complain or refuse to tow the management line seem to get their way in the end, rather than keeping your head down and getting on with it actually gets you nowhere. People who get themselves noticed even in when saying No enough get rewarded.

I was already covering 2 regions after being in the role when I was only supposed to have one. This was at 6 months. Month 11 rolls around and someone else quits and they say it’s my turn to take it. Back in the day I would’ve taken it on out of fear for being judged or I would’ve bucked and said hell no in the most professional way I could muster in my immature mind. Instead this time around I said, “As much as I would love to help I’m already covering 2 regions.” Mgmt: “Ohhh idk what we’re going to do!” 2 days later they figured it out! It was assigned to someone else and 1/2 of the 2nd region I was never supposed to have was assigned to someone else. Now we have no issues and my workload is light as a feather. If more money was involved I might have taken it but I’m salary and I knew they wouldn’t budge at least not this time of year. Stand up for yourself but be strategic about it.

Excuse me lang ha,WA ko gahari Harian Dre!ngano dli PWD mangutana o mohangyo? I really got u, iro jud Inyo pagtrato

Saying no means respect. Saying yes means being taken for granted.

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Explain a bit more pls i agree but what do you mean by this exactly

Kids need to be taught ideals and values to strive for, not just the bleak realities of society.

Great point! 💯

Mothers do this to create weak sons out of men.

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This is basically why am here, to learn to be both lion and dove

"Behold, I am sending you out as sheep in the midst of wolves, so be wise as serpents and innocent as doves." Matthew 10:16 ESV

It's the good people who do nothing that allow these bastards to have the audacity they do. However when you stand up to these psychopaths it puts a target on your back. A target they will relentlessly pursue for your destruction. If you are naturally a peaceful person, you'll be drained in round 1 and they're just getting warmed up. It's truly spiritual warfare.

@@dcg31free It doesn't always have to be an epic battle. The whole thing will not even start if one has strong boundaries. They pick their targets meticulously.

🙌🏽🙌🏽 I needed that

@@dcg31free what defines “good” or you need is a little heart which comes from a real honest place and confront the situation END OF, THATS IT. The games people play stop there and then, TRUST ME.

Nailed it. One thing I have been trying is to just stop, breathe, smile and move on - most of the time they ( these sad people) just want you to engage to feed on your energy.

Haha same😆

I feel you sista

always happens to me. for some reason 90% of people I meet either want to take advantage of me, or belittle me. I don't let them do either, they get angry, I have no friends.

I hear ya sis❤

TRUTH! ⭐️⭐️⭐️

Facts 💥✍🏻

You haven’t lost anything. You either win or… learn😊

Most manipulative book of all time written by absolute succubus men

@@sacrilegeisrealworship409 This guy, the bible exposes human nature, we judge on appearance and wicked to our core, none of us are good, not one. But we do good deeds from time to time.

@@myballsitchsomethingfierce6319 We do what’s beneficial but not necessarily righteous.

@@sacrilegeisrealworship409 Historically that’s doesn’t make any sense. A bunch of men did not sit down and conspire to write the Bible in one sitting. The Bible was written over time by multiple authors in various times and places according to the revelation they received from God and their real-life events, not according to how they though the Bible should be continued. I find comments like this a little funny because if you’re so against the Bible, you really should be arguing that the individual books have nothing to do with each other and are just random pieces of literature thrown together rather than inadvertently affirming that all 66 books belong together by labeling them one big conspiracy.

Devil's Advocate was a great movie

I disagree. I knew a pushy girl and she was just rude. I was never jealous of her. She was obnoxious and I told her In private. So don't dismiss it as jealousy because someone is telling you something that isn't praise. She needed to hear that and other's didn't like it either. She always had drama. Sometimes it's good to be open minded and listen and improve. Pushiness can be unbearable to deal with and the problem can just be that. I know many other examples of this so I stand my ground.

@@SR77736 Nobody else says I'm pushy, so I'm pretty sure in this case it was jealousy.

Ah. You nailed it. In a group of 3 or more, one will sense your "civility" and know they can put you down with insulting digs. You meet them on a one to one, they act like the family dog that knows it did a bad thing by sh-ting on the carpet. Weird, man. It's the coward's way of releasing their social anxiety with thoughtless declarations and insults.

@@SR77736 You are kinda pushing your own view now, and disagreeing with her based on your own anecdotes. Like the two stories would be or is the same ?? Try to be openminded yourself like you tell others to be.

I think it’s more your egocentricity. People want to imagine themselves like everyone around them is jealous of their success, when in reality it’s rarely the case. It may be a tough thing to admit, but nevertheless very important to move forward in life and stop worrying about what others think of you. Have a nice day

But the issue with his book is that you don't defeat these individuals.

@@kellyw8017 Everyone has a weak spot.

@@marcuslong9761 If another person demands that you hide you skills to keep your job, that's not called winning.

@@kellyw8017 Depends on who that person is.

@@marcuslong9761 Not sure who you're referring to as "that person."

or just still let others to take advantage of us ........ hence doing own disadvantage

Technically schopenhauer said number 1. Greene just quotes him.

What does it mean strategy twice?

@@Stress_._Free A strategy that you have used in the past, might not work in the present moment and future. Everything changes so rapidly and thus, you have to adapt constantly to succeed in the environment. Like Heraclitus said: "The only thing that is constant is change".

Gamay respeto lang, lessons learned! Pareha man ta bktima aning web scam, d PWD ilusyon lang ang tanan nga way mohatag clarity! Nganong naay bastos Dre nga defensive? Knsa ni akng kastorya, ang yawa ba gihapon nga mag asawa?! Feels like Mao Raman gihapong stratehya

Bro we are kindren spirits but are dark, evil twins. I'm like that too. You just described me.

@@___Anakin.Skywalker What can we do about it?

@@kasratabrizi2839 become outcome independent. Create options on top of options for any scenario especially the most vital. U hate those ppl bc u need them to be like you. You are probably a very smart person who has high or at least decent expectations of others. It is soul crushing when u realize they can’t even meet your minimum expectations. This can be very very upsetting. It’s upsetting bc u think u need them. U don’t. Self improve, enjoy ppl for what they are but understand what they can never be to or for you.

@@jasperanusiem1743 thank you brother , this is the best quote i have seen ❤

Everyone has fear and insecurities, no matter how confident or tough someone may appear to be. Like Eminem sang in Hailey's Song, "I act like shit don't phase me, inside shit drives me crazy, my insecurities could eat me alive". But when it comes to dealing with people, the TWO most important things to do is this: 1). Improve your appearance to gain confidence and the desired effect on people. A nice haircut, fitted T shirt, polo, or button down, slim dark wash jeans or chinos, and a white sneakers like stan smiths or chuckka boots like Clark's Finally, a SMILE, because people will be intimated by your new and improved appearance. And 2). Pay attention. Just pay attention to the people you're dealing with. Many times, a person you're dealing with is clearly displaying social signs and cues, like attraction or deceit, but your mind is occupied by something else, like your phone or perhaps their shining jewelries, or maybe you just feel uncomfortable about the interaction. The most important thing is to stay present in the moment and try not to miss any important social cues and signs, but at the same time, act natural and don't stare hard like a weirdo. Just stay present in the social interaction. By paying attention and staying present, this gives you insight into the other person's mind, their feelings about you and their motives. Even if you cannot figure out the other person's intention at that moment, as long as you are paying attention, your mind will record the interaction and try to solve it for a later time, like in your sleep, or when you get the eureka moment when you're taking that nice and relaxing hot shower

much love

Awesome thx

we are not helping ourselves first and letting others to take our advantage all the time ....

We all lie

Man this is such an eye opener! But at the same time it feels disturbing as hell.

Osho called Ghandi one of the greatest politician that has ever lived.

Don't think much instead do it, translate to action and all will solve.

Gandhi was a stooge of the British Empire. That's why he is glorified in whole of the west but you ask the common man of India, and they'll tell you things about Gandhi you don't want to hear. He created more rivalries between hindus and Muslims while playing the card of Non- Violence

@@adhrit1426 it's true that he was pro-western ideals but in no way was a stooge. His own values (Gandhian 'values') were based on some redundant Indian philosophy. But still he's a way better Indian than the glorified bootlickers like Savarkar / Golwalker and elitist Brahmin gang who thought they could keep the higher social class by pleasing the Beef - eating British.

people still need to face consequences

So true bro..Sad but true

It takes TIME to get to KNOW an individual & even then… 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

so true

Facts, it’s so hard and draining

You need the resources to leave that environment and still be able to survive

Generational curses 🤬 also 💥💥

Genetic disorder too 😢

We know that not everyone is onboard. We know that very well. Weak people who easily fall into darkness are very prevalent.

Right on point 💯 I literally said it in my head before even clicking on the video

like can you give examples ?

Saying people take advantage because we allow it is called victim blaming. Your blaming the victim rather than the jerk taking advantage.

Bullshit

Brilliant

Agreed. I don't think the author was ever much of a team player (I remember him saying he worked in 80 different jobs). Most things in this world require people working together. Well, I guess he's an expert on his own life.

SAME. Appreciate this insight!

"Some of the most benign “appearing” battles and wars I’ve been in, are with entitled, narcissistic people, some of whom do absolutely nothing for themselves. The idea that I could be busy with my own life, means I’m an horrific, insensitive person or at least what they’re trying to project onto me." --LOL! Especially from Black people (I live in Canada) who accuse you of being white on the inside because you want to live with purpose and dignity.

@@vittoriacolona this woman is married to a black Inmate. However, through some conversations with her, before I ended them, I was not under the impression there was much understanding and empathy, when it came to the experience of people of color. Add to it that the look on her face, when I told her no [that I’m not interested in being her caregiver], made her eyes pop. While I’ll never know for certain, for her, the idea that I could say no to what she’d already “decided”, as if asking me was mere courtesy of what she’d already decided I would be doing, was an absolute shock to her system. Shortly thereafter, it was clear that she was angered and insulted by it and considered me to possibly be a lazy handmaid, oddly entitled to my own life, not understanding I I didn’t live in her attic, but instead of as a separate, paying tenant above her. I don’t have an issue, with a neighbor asking me for help. I also understand the disappointment of being told no. What I will not acknowledge, nor tolerate, are subsequent attempts to reign me in, with the lack of understanding that they’re not asking to borrow a cup of sugar. What they’re actually asking for, is the remainder of my life. She has no idea how good it has been for her, that I said no…

Many don’t want to acknowledge that you have a life of YOUR OWN!

@@hissyfitz7890 that is why they are taught to respect my boundaries and they do not have to like it… I also know that, when some people see a single woman with no children, who has the luxury of taking her cat for a walk, they start to have ideas in their head. First, it’s that I’m lonely. So lonely that I’m desperate enough for their company, to start working for them, for their convenience. That may be projection as, they’re most likely way more lonely than I. I am quite comfortable in my own company and, as a creative, I wouldn’t run out of things to do, even if I didn’t work for a living. But, second is, of course, simply that they can start assigning tasks. As if they’re automatically above me, rather than lateral to me. She is also only 6 years older. That they will decide what is important and I need to comply. That a single woman with no kids, despite the fact that she supports herself, needs tasks assigned to her, especially as she’d “feel more comfortable” with domestic tasks, rather than living the “fantasy” that she’s a career woman. Complete the picture with being assigned tasks by someone who exists only to eat and watch TV 24/7. Yep. I just assumed she was bat sh*t crazy.

The human race especially in the western world is slowly dying out, basically in these so called rich countries nobody are having babies, and the scientist know this

Confronting such people is exactly what they need. But they hope you play dirty or act angry or hostile when you respond so that they can run off and tell someone else. If you don't respond that way, they'll lie that you did anyway. This is why you should "accidently" use a recording app on your cell phone that will go for as long as your cell phone's memory allows. Try to catch a few of these before you take it to HR - or an attorney. If she has damaged your career in any way, you can directly sue her for slander or libel. And you'll have the evidence, which your attorney should try to allow by claiming that she has been shown to lie, so there was no option but to capture evidence of the lies.

I am in a slightly similar situation. The person is intimidated by my competence and so tries to overstep her boundaries in areas she is embarassingly unfamiliar with; she is in a higher ranking role than I and is increasingly becoming more brazen in her tone with me. (Background: I was originally offered her role and declined it for work/ life balance reasons.) It's so obvious at times that she is trying to provoke me into an argument . Currently devising the best approach to this. Good luck to you though!

@@SolarTTauri Use an app on your cell phone to record her. Don't muffle it under clothes. Keep it in a pocket where it can clearly capture voices. HR almost never helps, but you need to go to them to later show the judge that you followed procedure. Then if her targeting harms your career, sue her directly. You will have the evidence. Keep copious notes and all your work products. But likely, the company will make a claim that there were "communication problems." This is where your recordings may help you. But it's very wise to go to an attorney specialized in defending employees to give you advice about what evidence you need to collect while you're still employed with that company. If you sue the jerk directly, your company may even relax that they aren't being sued and if not help you out, not stand in your way by lying. You might even consider talking to the EEOC. They will also advise on the evidence you will need. I knew someone who was very successful by doing so and then filing suit. In her case, she went after the company for not protecting her. They finally acted, and she continued working there.

@@SolarTTauri She has two options get the humility to understand that you are you and she is she. Or do something to improve her life. But she's too lazy/insecure to do so. The problem with such people is that she might not have the maturity or self awareness to improve or change. and it is not your job to fix toxic people. I had such a person in my life and stopped talking to them when they do wrong, because they don't listen or take offense. I just mentally cut them off and keep the relationship surface.

Try the gray rock method, I find it very helpful. Most bullies are Narcissists.

At the end of the day, where not here for very long, so people try and be nice to your fellow humans

The game is social and you need to find the right game for you and cooperate with the right kind of people.

Hopefully you wear a wristwatch. That’s why I do :)

im not millionaire but your post resonates with me, if i were rich id choose to live just like you. I couldn't care less for status symbols like fancy cars or watches. Many people in the world are shallow and materialistic....unfortunately

I still make that mistake, projecting my values and ability to think critically onto others. I do it much less than before though and am able to catch myself and quickly reverse course.

Thanks for sharing your story, brother. I’m learning to navigate through it all myself. I’ve realized that I’m a lot like my Mum in a sense that she’s constantly seeking validation from people who don’t seem to care and it frustrates me now because I use to do that with my ex gf and current/recent ex. I’ve got to get out of that mindset and accept people for who they are. In the word, Jesus talks about being “meek” which Jordan Peterson often touches on about sheathing your sword. There’s a difference between being nice and being good. And the key difference is virtue. The nice man has no boundaries whereas the good man knows when and when not to act in any given scenario or circumstance. This may not be relative at all but your story resonated with me a lot so thank you. I’m focusing on pursuing my goals and tackling obstacles that are in my way as that challenges my character. The rest will fall into place. Wish you all the best and more. God bless

@@p-dee2288 yes exactly that…. True kindness can be painful… tree kindness is delivering honesty to others in the most softest way possible…. Many good people forget to be kind to themselves meaning that taking on other peoples burdens. Not in a selfish way, but if we aren’t congruent in our true values, we have no integrity, many human beings walk this planet without knowing they are diminished of integrity and I personally believe it’s a key ingredient for depression. People who stick to their morals and values and don’t look externally for validation will be rich. I really like your comment Dee, I’m not religious but I think the bible has some deep lessons that are on another level.

But your AI knows 😂😂😂

Thank you so much for this. We are raised to see the world as a fair and good place. It makes my blood boil to realise I was raised the wrong way due to ignorance and its also very difficult to start approaching life from this new lens and view of the world.

Telling people about the real world is one thing. But he goes overboard, encouraging people to be like or act subservient to the nasty, low-end people they despise.

@@kellyw8017 needs to be done for one's own survival.

@@kellyw8017 true...he works AROUND people because it's the generic thing to do to survive one's job, or whatever. Life is SO complex; these skilled Experts are only sharing what has worked for themselves. Everyone is at a different level emotionally; generic answers are helpful to those who are functioning at an OK level. Others will desire deeper solutions. We all should figure out our current levels, and proceed from there.

Exactly why I don’t talk to my parents that much. They could have warned me about so many pitfalls but instead always deferred with the bull**** phrase “you’ll understand when you’re older”

Great comment. All life is competition. Even nature....be it an amoeba or a blue whale. And our system is even worse. And yet knowing all this people continue to bring people in this world for the elites to use as slaves.

I swear 🥲🥲

This is interesting and it reminds me of my hardworking self and making the least amount compared to others who do less 🤔I don't have adhd 😁I'm afraid of failure and rejection 😔

Bravo👏

Interesting take, keen to hear more. Especially on the ADHD?

@@fordskool Check out the KZfaq channel HowToADHD. She reviews these kinds of topics rather well.

Well said! This is why Boundaries are essential! Figuring out the BS is the first step to becoming healthier. Keep going. Some people divorce their parents once they understand that grief can be minimized, significantly, by distancing themselves. We do what is best for ourselves, instead of becoming carbon copies of parents.

@@kirstinstrand6292 - as a German Biologist - it is much worse... we ARE 100 % of our parents, the genealogy of our Ancestors - and the conditionings of our enviorenment. It is sheer LUCK to find a way to escape this genetic mental emotional Prison. In essence - this is the concept of Evo Lution - to start a new Species - by not interfering with the others anymore. This demands all the POWWER we can assemble - to become Self Reliant, endure PAIN... ..a way beyond ... Robert Greene did this - as a model - cost him his health...

Yah if an annoying little sibling thinks you’re ignoring them so they do EVERYTHING they can to force you to give them what they want. This can include lying or manipulating

Exactly always an opportunist waiting to Pounce

Bingo

Just problems compounding. They can't improve anyway. Find any way you can to ignore them.

Nobody is inherently "good" or "bad". People just are.

@@True38 Nature loads the gun 💥Nurture ( or lack of) PULLS the trigger… Period.

I was told by someone that I respect that they are proud of me. I have had loads of complaints, yet that one was the best

Toxic is as Toxic does 💥🤬

No. Some people are sadists too.

Excellent!

100%

Bingo! And it’s very sick they try to manipulate & push us back into being the way you described so they can use and take advantage of us.

Greene says many thing (if you watch his various interviews or read his books) - and many things he says contradict each other. He seems to want people to accept the dark side in others without complaint and then only seems to pretend at other times that he's not making that claim. But then he'll once again encourage people to accept the dark side and defeat. I say, "Is he kidding!" No way should any subject or witness to such darkness put up with it. They should stand against it to show these low-ethics people that they won't easily get off with their schemes.

@@kellyw8017 I'm glad to read this and see that I'm not the only one who noticed the contradictions in his ideas. It seems that strong adults with a solid sense of justice and integrity will succeed at reclaiming power from psychopaths. When dealing with toxic people in power, the only solution may be to utterly neutralize the power that they have over others. No cooperation or compromise; but rather complete conquest.

@@Amadeus_2061 And complete exposure.

@@kellyw8017 Yes.

Very good question!

I was hoping he’d recall. Bravo he knows there was actually name of the rules. Lol

Nearly 3%of the human population are psychopaths..........there is no way to defeat or defend them..........if you spot them.........RrrUUUUUNNnnnnnnn

Sometimes people trust without knowing what the hell they are getting into! Then, life becomes living in HELL! Have you heard of Stockholm Syndrome?

@Kaavish Naz And collect evidence.

Hhahahah me exactly. I couldn’t believe how nasty some people could get when it came to “their” money. It’s like trying to mess with a dogs bowl as he eats. You see a real mean side of them come out

Some are Rocks, others are Narcissists or/and Megalomaniacs. Life is hard, though it seems sinful, or weak to be honest about it. Why is this?

This is truth

Even if you choose not to cheat, If you are facing against a cheater in any form of competition physical or mental. It is the mark of the intelligent man to adjust his strategy to most effectively deal with his opponent.

@@Ophanim1000 The most effective way is to simply disengage when possible. If emotional, process your emotions as you see fit and deem necessary then detach completely.

We are humans, there are many champions that cheat for sure

RCOZ I was thinking that a lot of people DO get mad at the rock, or whatever, for being in the f**king way! I'm glad I've learnt to think critically about what people say, including the ones with degrees, instead of accepting everything as gospel, so to speak. 😊

It’s MARCUS…