It's so good to see Cole more independent. He's sooo damn handsome and Charisma is absolutely beautiful. Your kids are going to be adorable 🤗

I just graduated nursing school, passed the NCLEX RN, and accepted a job in the trauma ICU and stumbled upon y’all’s page. Your story definitely gives me motivation to be the best nurse I can be.

charisma: “we’re not pregnant” cole: “not yet” 👀😂 hmmmm

Look people...stop going at Charisma for joking with Cole. They've talked about how clumsy she is in other videos. They're being playful. She's never once (any all the videos they have) disrespected, talk down to, demoralized, or mistreated Cole. She is loving, thoughtful, selfless, & giving. If you don't know this already...then you should watch their videos & get a clue before commenting! The negativity in the comments is sad. Cole & Charisma...I know y'all are about positivity & y'all have mentioned the crazy comments y'all get but, I've never seen it until this video & WOW...the nerve of some people LOL! I may have (did) reply to a few comments & it may (wasn't) not have been positive. I'm a work in progress. Sorry 😩🤔🤷🙏😔. BLESSINGS from Texas.

I had an uncle who was paralyzed. As a kid, I remember he would have to sit on the toilet for HOURS and just wait for the bowel movement to happen. He would take stool softeners and would just have to wait for his body to expel the bowel movement on its on. I remember him always having to drink magnesium citrate. But he had a lot of issues with passing bowel movements. This often left him with bowel impactions and one time it damn near killed him. One thing that REALLY helped him was having his feet elevated. He had this stool that had a little border around 3 of the 4 edges so his feet couldn’t fall off since his knees tended to pull to the sides, making his feet fall off regular stools. And he cut down a pool noodle, sliced it down the middle, and put it on the edges so he could rest his legs on the side easier since it was leaving these massive indentations on his legs, since he’d often be there for hours, and didn’t have any control to keep his legs upright and off the edge. It was cutting in to his legs pretty bad for a while until he did the pool noodle thing. I’ve actually seen stools online that come with foot straps but that may be hard to reach if someone can’t bend forward and has limited finger/grip ability. It seems in the last 15 years things have gotten a bit more efficient for both number 1 and number 2. If I remember correctly he had a permanent catheter. And going #2 for him was something I could tell he really didn’t care for doing because it took soooo long. He would be sitting in the bathroom for like 3 hours and I’d be sitting outside the bathroom door with the bathroom door cracked, reading to him or talking to him. We had an extra bathroom downstairs that kinda became his bathroom when he stayed with us, and my parents put a shelf up in the corner of the room so he could have a tv in there, as this was long before smartphones. His injury was caused by him falling through a roof while on a roofing job. I wish he was around today to be able to see all the advancements for people with spinal cord injuries. All the accessibility there is now. Also, i KNOW he’d have been super excited about Neuralink and devices like it. He’d always tell me that one day spinal cord injuries would be a simple fix. He genuinely believed it. I never knew how that could be true but it appears that we’re moving in that direction.

When you rather watch Charisma and Cole instead of sleeping 😴

I am just so proud of you, Cole! Having someone like Charisma who always pushes you to be more independent is a huge blessing. The love you have for each other is rare and beautiful. Keep on shining! God bless y'all!!!

My son is a quad like you. He lives on his own. He caths his self using a speedi cath. It comes in a container that looks like a blue toothbrush holder. It is easier he thinks than the one your are using. He caths in about 10 minutes depending on how long he has to pee.- and he does not have to use tools with his limited hand function. I like your idea of the bungee cord to hold down your pants.

Charisma singing Webbie at the end and Cole having no idea what she's talking about has me cryinggggg lmao

me singing “independent” with Charisma, dont worry girl I got you✊🏾

I don’t pray too often, but I believe in God with all my being! With that said, I pray for a miracle upon Cole’s life and health! May he find himself able to use all parts of his body to no limits! Charisma, you are the the strongest woman I know, and may God fulfill all your dreams and desires! God bless you both!

cole: *spins and bumps into something* “it didn’t break anything” 😂 that’s so me . like who cares ? nothings broken 💀 so that’s all that matters

Thank you, thank you for making this. You're helping & educating a LOT of us out here. Appreciate you Cole and Charisma.

Love how candid you are with sharing your life. Takes a lot of guts to be so transparent for awareness' sake.

Cole gets more handsome every time I see him. Cole you are sooo handsome,

Thank you for sharing your bathroom tips. It's *reality* with those suffering from quad/paraplegia. I know when my son first became paralyzed over ten years ago after awaking from a coma from a bout with bilateral pneumonia during the H1N1 epidemic...it was hard at first, 'embarrassing', if you will, for him to void this way...although now he's had to have an ostomy, supra pubic and now a ureter catheter placed due to many physical complications associated with paraplegia that most folks aren't aware of. He's currently in hospital being treated for a twisted intestine blockage/hernia that affects numerous paraplegics. I quit my job to be first and foremost a fulltime *Mother* as well as his caregiver. Life is good, no matter the obstacles we're given. The information you two beautiful souls share are so invaluable. I just wanted to reach out and say, *THANK YOU* both for sharing your journey with us. ♡

Ok, this video is one of my best for 3 reasons: Cole becoming independent is going to make their life as a couple much easier. It's going to boost Cole's confidence even more(he already has plenty) It goes to show how far love can go. He so badly wants to make sure he doesn't put a strain on their relationship that he is determined to try until he can do his own ICs himself and everything it takes to relieve Charisma who is very sweet by the way. Very well done you two. Charisma you should be proud of yourself, pushing Cole be more independent is love all the way. I am so happy for you guys. Ps. was a bit disappointed when you said you are not pregnant. I was about to start jumping. There are many people out here who love you. Take care

I recall when your dad made the wish that you would become independent in being able to do your IC... YOU DID IT!!!! AMAZING ACCOMPLISHMENT. I feel so PROUD of you.

That bathroom mirror is on another level, y'all. Now you two won't fight for space in the bathroom. I am enjoying your videos.

What's Up To Everyone Reading This, Be Bless And Have A Bless WEEK.

I love what you said about the bathroom !!!! When you said Cole can help bathe the babies . Giving a person responsibility and making them feel needed , gives them a purpose. I believe his attitude towards life is awesome and you play a huge role in his happiness. Y’all are definitely the epitome of soulmates. I’ve never seen 2 people thats supposed to be together as much as you two . I’m a new subscriber and have no idea how I came across y’all’s channel, but so glad I did . Much love to you both from Montgomery Alabama

December isn't far away can't wait to see her wedding dress

I’m glad Cole is trying to be more independent practice make perfect God bless y’all

Hey Cole and Charisma, I've been in a wheelchair since June of this year. Your content gives me hope!

Cole when I first saw your hair cut low I mistook your scar for a part. I was like Cole showing some swag. Love your videos UR94

I went to school with C&C today Thank you both for sharing your love for each other and what daily life is like. You are a PHENOMENAL couple and I hope and pray that you are Blessed with Joy, Love and Prosperity each and every day. Cole you are so wonderful as you look forward to helping Charisma help you and looking to the future as to your contribution. Once again, Blessings and much love coming at you. 💞💞🤟🙏🏿💕💕

Having been a fan for a while, I feel so proud seeing Cole committed to doing little things to be more independent. Great job! You are so inspiring!

This really gives you appreciation for being able to go to the bathroom normally. I never knew the difficulty spinal cord injuries had to go through to use the bathroom independently. Gives me a whole new sense of respect ✊

It is exciting to see Cole becoming more and more independent. Even his hand functions are getting better and more diverse. Good for you Cole. We all are rooting for you and Charisma.🙏

That’s great! I’m sure his parents are so happy that Cole is becoming more independent; I love you guys because you are such a blessing to each other. Thank you all for sharing the information.

I'm so impressed with and proud of Cole. A cousin of mine had a SCI (cervical as well) from a car accident about 10 years ago. He unfortunately passed away a couple years later, but he wasn't as optimistic with his care and struggled with his ability to see how beautiful life could still be after his injury (all understandable feelings). I wish KZfaq pages like this were around at the time so he could have envisioned it for himself. Thank you guys for sharing your lives with us!

I am amazed at how much is available to help with independent care for disabled people. Thank you for showing us all of these items or tricks or solutions we might need in the future.

Everything you guys blog about is everything I’m learning about my love, like going to the bathroom, showering, picking out his clothes, getting dressed, him putting on shoes, as well as driving 🥰 I wouldn’t trade him for the world ❤️❤️❤️❤️

Cole your not clumsy.... your chair gets happy!........ smile

I feel like every video I watch, I learn something new. I genuinely had no idea of a quarter of the things that are discussed. Your videos are so informative and fun to watch. Thanks for making me a more knowledgeable person!

Charisma, you are to be commended for your love and dedication. I do understand what a quad goes through; my brother for 5 yrs lived as one from surgery for a tumor on his spine that left him paralized much the same way. May God continue to bless the both of you.

Cole you are the man!! Adorable and independent. You have such a beautiful soul. I know so much has to do with your mom and dad and how you were raised. And then God put Charisma right smack down in the middle. She’s such a strong women with a kind heart. You two blend better then many couples I’ve seen in YouTub. Thank you for keeping it real y’all.

I really enjoyed this video. It’s wonderful to see Cole gain more independence. The OT in me was so excited to see the adaptations in your house. Thank you for promoting SCI awareness. ❤️ your channel.

Cole. I am so proud of you...your confidence is showing...Keep up the good work!!!!! ..Charisma you are a gem!!!

It's crazy how fast time passes. I feel like it was just a few months ago y'all were teaching us about SCI Awareness month! Can't believe it's been a year!! Glad your channel is thriving. 🙌🏽❤

I love their relationship ☺️❤️🤗! This is the kinda interaction EVERYONE asks the universe everyday for in a mate. You guys handle your daily struggles better than half of us with "normal" lives.

Cole IS AMAAAZZZIINNGGGG ! LOVE HIS SPIRIT - At times when I watch I tear-up because he his a TRUE WARRIOR !!!!

Really happy to see all the adaptive equipment you've found Cole to assist in your independence and support as a couple. You and Charisma are stepping it up and moving forward in your adult life! Yeah team C & C!!

I can't believe how well you do with what you have to go through. I like your attitude about what has happened the last many many years since your horrible accident. I know you wish that you could take that day back when you were just 16 years old but God has made you much stronger for going through all that you have.

Cole you’re amazing. Just don’t hurt yourself. Good idea Cole. A tv in the bathroom is a great idea. Growth is taking place people. 🥰

Every time I see you two, it makes my heart smile. Cole, I pray for you EVERY night that advances will be made for spinal cord injury patients. If I knew it was possible, I would donate my spinal cord to you. The two of you are the epitome of toughness, grace, integrity and grit in the face of incredible challenges. What more can I say? You guys are great. Much love from Tennessee

Hi there...new viewer here. I just have to say I genuinely love this channel and y'all for the positivity you ALWAYS show and spread. I'm a new-ish mommy (little guy is 6 months) and for some reason, had been down lately (ppd I'm assuming) until I found this channel. Your videos always make me smile! In addition, I've been faced with some hard realities about my own health lately...skuleosis worsening and arthritis kicking in. Sometimes I get SO frustrated when my hands won't work or are swollen and numb...I could scream. Or when my back hurts so bad I can barely move...but any time I start to throw myself a pity party, I find myself coming back to this channel...just to see someone so differently abled than myself with even less mobility be so genuinely happy is really good for my soul. After feeling like a jerk, I'm able to pull myself out of all that and look around and appreciate my many blessings, instead. So thank you for that. 💙

Very glad that Cole is learning how to be independent. One never knows, an emergency could come up, and Charisma is no where around!!!!!!!

You guys give me hope. My partner is a lot older than Cole and needs some extra help. U guys have so many things that I don't think my partner knows about. Can't wait to show him!!!

This was such a great video, very informative and I love that Cole is learning different ways to become independent so he can feel good about himself and not feel like he is a burden even though he is not. I adore you guys. God will continue to bless you both.

Thanks Cole for allowimg us all to learn through your learning journey to independence. We all have the capacity to turn bad situations into learning experiences and impacting others. You guys are true role models.

It's so cute that y'all are always talking excitedly about having kids!! I Can't wait to see where y'all go in life. I love watching y'all

I am so happy for you guys Cole is able to do a little more for himself I wish you peace and blessings...

Who knew this informative video could actually be... fun!!! I have to agree with so many comments here; you two are great. Keep up the positivity and playfulness! 💜

Gosh, y’all make me so happy. We need more happiness like this in the told. I found y’all through Hannah and Shane’s channel and I’m so happy I did.

Cole, you are an inspiration to all. Be kind to yourself, so what if you bump into things, things slip etc.. You are doing great and you are loved. Keep the love, keep the faith and God Bless you guys!

I appreciate how much these two keep us educated and doing it with a positive attitude

Good job Cole, seems like you have a great support team. Remember, don’t give up and continue to allow yourself growth

You came along way baby blues, I thank God he place you and Charisma together , with her background, you are stronger together. Love you both.❤

These two wonderful peoples always inspires me with their will to facing their daily life. We all go to the bathroom Cole so we are here for you❤

Don't worry Cole I run into things and I don't even have a wheelchair! Lmao

You are so considerate of each other. I am really learning a lot. People pay for this knowledge. Thanks.

Hi guys thanks for showing this video about Cole being independent that's so good And it's a great load of your mind also Charisma when you are not with Cole .He has come a long way very proud of him.💕 Love from London ♥️🇬🇧

Wonderful cuties. Was just thinking Cole & Charisma should post today and they did

I continue to enjoy watching you guys. HAPPY SUNDAY!!

I am so happy 😀 for you, that you’re getting more independent. You are an encouragement to others that have disabilities.

I love you guys for being brave enough to share your personal journey with the world. It takes a lot of courage to do that. Kudos to you both. Stay strong and alwayz be kind to each other.

Very informative, Cole you really are very independent. You guys rock together. Love the bathroom.❤

Bathroom came out soo nice! Yay! The plant I sent is thriving

You are more of a man than I ever was. This was really an eye opener. I so respect you.

You guys are AMAZING. Love seeing you guys living life. I work with a young man who has a traumatic brain injury (I know its different to Cole's story). The reason I am mentioning it is because just like you Cole my guy refuses to give up. Keep going guys.

Cole it’s ok if you like looking at yourself :)

That's awesome the company actually thought of the person using/needing to open the package as well. Way to go to the company who makes it🌞🌞🌞

Cole and Charisma, you both are two very inspiring human beings. My thoughts and prayers remain with you ❤️.

Have been watching you for a while . I am glad to see Cole improving. Cole and Charisma , that is real love

Discovered your channel yesterday and have been watching all your videos non-stop.... then I saw you just uploaded and it made my day!! You guys are my favorite people on KZfaq, sending much love your way

Staaaaay positive my fev couple on KZfaq

So glad you posted yesterday. When I heard the bell, I immediately stopped watching my movie and tuned in. I love to see a young couple being responsible and using wisdom. I know Cole is trying to get more independent so that he can do more things for himself (so proud of you Cole) but in the back of my mind, I'm thinking you're planning ahead for the triplets😊. I'm expecting multiples because life and death is in the power of the tongue and you have what you say. Since you confess MULTIPLES you shall have MULTIPLES...IJS😊💃🏽🙌🏼💃🏽🙌🏼💃🏽🙌🏼May God continue to Bless and keep you and enlarge your territory! ❤❤❤

Hey, Charisma and Cole nice job handling your bathroom business. There's nothing like doing things on your own it makes life lot easier. Way to go Cole you have come a long way. I been watching you for very longtime and you have improved so much with being self-efficient these days. Thanks for sharing and have great day!!!👍☺☺☺💪

Charisma: I-N-D-E-P-E-N-D-E-N-T DO YOU KNOW WHAT THAT MEAN??!! Cole’s Face: 👁👄👁 Ayyyye I was just listening to that song!!! 😂🕺🏿💃🏽....I got the feeling Charisma played this song for Cole after filming 😄♥️

It will take time but cole can do anything he can put his mind too. I enjoy their videos. Keep up the work. God bless and be safe.

Cole I just always love the way you handle yourself....you are so mentally strong....love you charisma

Glad to see cole being more independent and seen the happiness what he can do more on his own.house tour next and stay safe always.

Thank you for continuing to show how Cole is becoming more independent. Great team.

Ive been a fan for soooooo long! I just wanted to say that I love you guys!

Thank you for sharing your life with us. The house is so beautiful. I know Cole is enjoying his independence. Much love and stay safe 💕💕

Wow, learning so much❣️ Thanks Cole for being so open, honest, and personal with us. We just love you both SO MUCH❣️❣️❣️❣️

Amazing Cole! You are doing an excellent job becoming independent.

Thank you for sharing this! You will help so many people!

I love them. So glad I found their channel. The positive energy is inspiring. Kudos to Cole being independent.

I love that he is becoming more independent and I love how you encourage him you 2 are a awesome team ..

LEARNING IS THE KEY TO EVERYDAY LIFE.. ONCE YOU FIND YOUR OWN WAY OF DURING THINGS... EASY FOR YOU ...THANKS... C&C BLESS YOU BOTH..

Good job!!!! independent cole we all are proud of u!!!

Do all you can on your own . Keep trying and trying ,,Never Give Up. I'm a quad also and pushed to be totally independent. The help is always nice but times there aren't any help. I'm 66 now and in constant pain keeps me bed bound and I hate it. Drugs to help is all right now. Keep the faith young man. There's nothing you can't do use your mind to figure away.

Wow! I had no idea there was equipment available like this out there to help people in that situation. Good on him for being more independent👏🏽.

This is the first video I’ve seen of yours and I DID get the Wreck of the Edmund Fitzgerald reference. 😂 I grew up in a home with a disabled (cerebral palsy/developmental disabilities) uncle and love how y’all talk about accessibility. You’re such a fun loving and beautiful couple, I can’t wait to watch more of your videos! ❤️

I'm so happy to have found your channel!!! Love you guys! Great video, very informational.

So glad that your came this far. You done a very nice way to show how you use the restroom. Your home looks so beautiful and amazing. You both are always so special. Thank you for talking to us.

Excellent video Cole and Charisma. I love how Charisma is pushing him to be more independent I know Cole you can do it. When the precious babies come you will be able to feed, change diapers, and more. God is with you always. I am so proud of you trying to be more independent.

I'M SURPRISED THAT SOMEONE AS YOUNG AS COLE KNOWS ANY GORDON LIGHTFOOT SONGS. WOW.