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Romantic Love: A Spiritual Perspective
🔸The difference between unhealthy, healthy, and holy relationships
🔸The formula for creating healthy or holy relationships?
🔸Is it possible to share love and romance while on the spiritual path?
Romantic relationships can ultimately reflect the love of God beneath them. From a spiritual perspective, our goal is to get that love to come forward to fullest capacity. Relationships and partnerships, whether its family or partner, any relationship, is beautiful in its own sense. However, let's now break it down a little bit.
So we'll talk about the three levels of romantic love. And this all applies to any relationship, there's unhealthy, healthy, and holy.
You might be shocked, but I would include puppy love in the shallow category. It's like, "I love you. I love you. I love you." But it's just really still shallow. It's like what you could call infantile stage. It's just this puppy love, and you're not a puppy. It's a little bit needy.
In the shallow category, there is also full-on codependent, abusive love.
In a healthy relationship there's more interdependence, there's more clarity. From a spiritual standpoint, romantic love can be beautiful, but it's got to become healthier, which means I'm going to need to know more about myself. It means I'm going to have to be interested in you. If I think I find myself not really interested in my partner, the relationship gets dull. I'm just there. For me. That's very selfish, potentially even narcissistic.
I'm in a relationship with you, and we have a child called the relationship, think of it like that, you need to feed the child, you need to take care of the child, you need to nurture it, you need to protect it right? A child, your child, or it's not just the children, you have probably more important even than you having children in that romantic relationship is that you have a healthy relationship because that will help produce healthier children. Should you choose to have children, but when if people could recognize that, that the relationship is their baby, it changes things because it's no longer I am here, you're here. And you and I might have kids, it's kind of like, we have one are we taking care of it.
There's a third category of relationship - holy. Holy doesn't mean that we both wear white and only speak in a whispery voice. It's not like some, pseudo-spiritual experience. You can't have a holy relationship just because it sounds neat. You don't get a frame and put the words holy relationship and put your pictures in it. And assume that does it,
First and foremost, you have to actually ask spirit for your relationship to be commended into or surrendered into a holding state. That doesn't mean things are going to be perfect and holy from then on. It means you're ramping up your relationship from one level to the highest on earth. And that means on one level I know unhealthy love, another healthier love, and this is the healthiest love. Another way of saying it is conditional love, unconditional love.
In whatever we experience, I know how to be responsible and look within myself. I don't lean towards projecting onto you. And if I do, I try to catch it as soon as possible and practice forgiveness. It's not just about getting along better, therefore eventually becoming holy. It's like saying, no matter how crappy our relationship is, I can surrender it to spirit and ask to see you, a dysfunctional partner, as as a holy being. And then there's a vibe that happens, a shift. You've had a holy instant, as A Course in Miracles call it.
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