What the full episode here - kzfaq.info/get/bejne/er9zg9d9mZm6dWg.html

I definitely empathize with Romesh hearing that voice inside your head telling you, you are not worthy. People around me think I am very confident, I have no problem jumping on a stage to play music or give an impromptu speech and take meetings with executives from the top brands in the world, but that comes from a dark place and having to prove to myself time and again that I am worthy. For me, it came from a childhood of quite literally having it bashed into my head daily that I was useless, weak and stupid. No matter the accolades or level of success, every once in a while that little devil will pop in and try to convince me to give up because I am not good enough. Thankfully, I have learned to ignore him most of the time, but every once in a while he still sneaks up when you least expect it. I have learned to flip that on its head and leverage it to prove to myself what I can achieve. It has taken a LOT of time and healing to get to that point though. If you hear that same voice, bad news, it never goes away; good news you can not only learn to live with it, but can be empowered by it.

I feel this. He’s right about the default setting.. when you’ve been through repeated trauma in your formative years, you learn not to trust the status quo and when/if something really positive happens, it kinda blows your fuse. You reboot to your default settings and are stuck in freeze mode, waiting for the shit to hit the fan.

Nobody understands it. That's the worst part. It's always there and it just gets lonelier and lonelier. It gangs up with bad memories and one reinforces the other until you wonder if anything has ever felt good. Knowing that it doesn't make sense just means that "I don't make sense". It sucks.

Romesh bruv your epic and need you be proud of the man you are.

I'm the same so respect your openess and honesty...

The voice in our heads is also repeating messages told to us during our growing up years. It's the parental or caregivers' voice.

I had the same issue ..but with lot of tools I am better now ..the voice inside your head never stops .. When it's all negative then it's overwhelming and draining

I have the exact same thing but most of the time it’s not ”on”. Only when i’m really down this irrationally negative voice barrages you. It’s very hard to deal with and makes you feel like shit. You just gotta keep moving though and luckily it’s not always present although i’m a person that’s very hard on myself.

Have the exact same thing as this. but I'm on top of it now. It never goes away. But regular exercise, mindful meditation, journaling - keeping track of what you've done: every little success.Then write down want it is you want. Finding a purpose/following a 'rosebud' passion helps a lot. YOU DON'T HAVE TO BELIEVE EVERYTHING YOU THINK! Serving others too. Peace out Romesh.

Having a nonstop voice in your head and a tendency to negatively spiral and overthink shit could be undiagnosed ADHD. It’s very common amongst comedians. Many people with it get misdiagnosed with anxiety and depression then when they finally get the right Ritalin dose the nonstop voice in their head goes away.

Steven Peter's book, a path through the jungle, is a great book to read and understand the mind. There's also a podcast on here with him. It's really informative. I learned a lot, and it has helped me. It's worth a read.

I'm the same Romesh

Read the untethered soul...

Have you looked into ekhart tolles books.. They were my savior

Much respect for the honesty, you do need to research the ego you can research scientifically or spiritually either way it’s the same conclusions your ego is always trying to kill you while pretending to be your guide. Best of luck.

I can relate to that about brother. I used to fk my brother up bad growing up and it burns me.

Listening to Romesh felt like an older version of me guiding me through my current state. Thanks D.O.C!!!

That's the daily struggle of a lot of people so thank you for sharing this 🙏🌞

Understood everything he said. I particularly like to the passage where he explains that he has developed a coping mechanism and when he gets tired, his negative thoughts come back louder. It is so handicapping in day to day life. You really try so hard to change natural tendencies and it wears off when you're tired. It takes so much energy to work on yourself, to learn and find coping mechanisms, that it adds just more frustration towards yourself when you are not in your best shape, you end up exposing your "true" self with its vulnerabilities and flaws.

Everyone has an inner voice, and if you have a negative one out doing the positive voice or drowning it out completely, it's all the voices you've heard putting you down, a family culture a society that doesn't promote self love or has tall poppy syndrome. Give it a good counterargument, tell it to straight out F-off. Focus on the fact that nobody is perfect. The best cure is taking your dog for a walk or learning something new and telling yourself, "Good job." 👍

Wow - great articulation of an idea I’m sure affects many people.

It’s not a voice bro, it’s just fucking life. Go on

All men are in the same boat these days, if they say they aren’t they are full of shit, we deal with life best we can……….

Basically life is shite and we'll be happy when we die

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I wonder if he was bullied at school or felt rejected or discriminated against. Obv, perfectionist parents could be the reason as well. In any case, kids aren’t born not liking themselves or thinking they aren’t enough - it is a learnt perspective, internalised negative feedback