Toxic things I had to unlearn to unlock my best life

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Жыл бұрын

I became a better husband, a better father, a better leader, and a better creator when I realized that there were some things I needed to unlearn that I innately picked up on in my environment and in my childhood. But I also needed to learn some things that I taught myself. In this video, I'm sharing what those things are.
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@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

What are some limiting beliefs you have? Share your top 2 and let’s talk about them!

@rileywiebe3512 7 ай бұрын

I’m a late person. And I won’t like my room even if it’s clean.

@matthewalexanderkatsock Жыл бұрын

Something that’s helped me be my authentic self is quitting alcohol. I’m only 9 days in so here’s to the rest of my life! I’ve started researching healthier diets, packing salads for work, reconnecting with friends. Hoping to pick up journaling again. I always knew what was right and what was wrong, but quitting alcohol has allowed me to put my well intentions into action. Thanks for continuing to enable all of us in a healthy sustainable way. Best wishes to you and the family!

@reeree882 Жыл бұрын

Congratulations! Best wishes on your journey!

@cathylynnpietranton Жыл бұрын

Congratulations. You can do this.

@emilyhudspeth2004 Жыл бұрын

Congratulations to you on your decision to make a new and wonderful change in your life. I've been through something similar to this just not with alcohol, and during my journey I did find that Journaling did help me a lot to get through this. And I still 5 years later after making my decision to change will still find myself writing in my journal when I'm having a rough day, or even a great day that I just want to write down about to make sure I always have that memory. And also having a great support system of people who encourage you in your decision as well, like some family members, or friends. I myself didn't have a family I could turn to for that support, and at the time my friends were the ones that I didn't need to be around because they were still engaging in the very things I was trying to get away from. So that's why my journal helped so much and almost was like a friend to me in a sense. But I did eventually branch out and met some new friends and everything worked out for the best. I wish you all the best of luck on your new change and hope it all goes great for you. And yes definitely journal you won't regret it. 🫶👍

@rajathiyagakarthick3131 Жыл бұрын

I’m on a journey to unlearn things and learn new things and be the best version of myself. I didn’t know we have to learn the languages to communicate with different people.

@mbaylee1974 Жыл бұрын

Always appreciate your wisdom, even at your young age of 30. 😊 I’m finally learning at the age of 48 to change my belief system…meaning, the things I have told myself many years about myself and believed they were truths…were really just skewed beliefs and thoughts that formulated because of insecurity and negativity in my life. It’s freeing to truly become you.

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

You’re absolutely right! It is freeing to truly become you! I’m happy you’ve unlearned some of your own beliefs that, like yon said, we’re skewed and formulated because of insecurities and negativity. Keep growing on your journey Melinda! I’m rooting for you!

@emilyalbee568 Жыл бұрын

My biggest limiting belief is that my anxiety will always hold me back from the goals I want to accomplish.

@claudiakotouc6748 Жыл бұрын

Wonderful thoughts. Thank you. It is always a joy listening to you. For me, fear of failure or rejection is a very limiting belief.

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

I can relate! Fear of failure is a big one for me! I even wrote a poem a few years back about my relationship with fear and breaking free from it. You got this Claudia. Remember this: F.E.A.R = False Evidence Appearing Real.

@theabbychronicles-p Жыл бұрын

This video resonated with me and a limiting belief that I had was with my parents. I'm am on a healing journey and just recently had to go no contact with a parent. My limiting belief was that you needed both parents in your life to be whole but what I found out after going no contact is that I needed to heal in order to heal before pursuing a relationship. It is sort of like the airplane analogy where you put the oxygen mask on you before you put it on someone else.

@fdoctor79 Жыл бұрын

I am in the process of addressing these limited beliefs. I aspire to develop a growth mindset and implement a routine that allows for productivity, peace, and success. Tfs, Ron.

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

I love this! If I can help you in any way don’t hesitate to reach out. I put together a video about different mindsets shifts we should make in our life. Adopting a growth mindset is one of them. Here is a link in case you haven’t seen it: kzfaq.info/get/bejne/fdNkktSZq5uuon0.html

@cathylynnpietranton Жыл бұрын

Hi Ron what resonates with me was not being my authentic self. When I was younger I always felt I didn't fit in. I have changed my beliefs and habits. I really don't care now what others think. Thanks Ron ❤

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

Love it Cathy! 🙌🏾 I’m happy this resonated with you!

@startpage717 Жыл бұрын

Agree on the language part for the partner because delicately, with respect but not making yourself small either is a beautiful, safe, caring relationship it makes.

@Squintillions Жыл бұрын

People might want to look into Non-violent communication by Marshall Rosenberg as a different way to communicate with others.

@Vicariouslythroughme Жыл бұрын

Every single time I’m overwhelmed by my goals and the things my husband and I have outlined as things to accomplish in order to have a brighter future, I watch one of your videos and I’m given a sense of calm and it renews a quiet motivation to keep pressing forward. It’s not as complicated as my head makes it out to be. Just gotta stay focused and do it. Thank you.

@louissionn6146 Жыл бұрын

Such an important message. We so often get caught telling ourselves, we can't do such and such because it doesn't "align" with our person. All that is doing is limiting ourselves. Remember: you are the only person who knows yourself and what makes you, you. You are in charge whenever you want to "adjust" your person by doing and learning something new.

@tamlynrn Жыл бұрын

I think your communication style is more thoughtful or insightful rather than “smooth”

@MsGirliegrl Жыл бұрын

This video definitely resonated with me. As a woman of color growing up in a non traditional household, there were plenty of things I needed to unlearn. I didn’t realize it until I became a parent and that’s when the real work began. I could no longer think or act a certain way and expect people to accept me because "That’s just the way I am” or "I was raised differently”. I had to be responsible for a little human being and I wanted him to be his authentic self all while I was unlearning some beliefs and healing. I now have better relationships with people and able to set boundaries, especially with family that are still stuck in their old ways of thinking. I’m still evolving but definitely living an intentional authentic life. Thank you Ronald

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

I love this! As a new dad myself…I want my son to embrace his authentic self as well plus I’m unlearning a few things so he doesn’t pick them up from me. It’s a very interesting life experience but I happy to see you’ve experienced something similar! Sounds like you’re on the right path for you now. Love it!! 🙌🏾

@ambikawolf664 Жыл бұрын

I just moved from. Chicago to a mountain on TN and find I can be more my authentic self here. I definitely can relate to your video.

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

Awesome! I happy you were able to relate to this video my friend. Keep growing on your journey. Sounds like moving was a great decision for you!

@danalawrence8272 Жыл бұрын

I love your perspective on things, thank you so much. Love your channel!

@christinemurphy4367 11 ай бұрын

😊 Thank you 😊. You make a lot of sense and are easy to understand.

@user-lj2ho8bz9u Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much🧘🏿‍♀️

@amyhoover9 Жыл бұрын

A while back this month, I had a conversation with a friend about habits and choices... I haven't fully finished watching the video yet, but one thing that comes to mind when it comes to growth and getting out of certain habits or choices is that it's okay to have setbacks. It's okay if every now and then, certain old habits or mental blocks take longer to heal or outgrow. I feel like it's easy for us as humans sometimes to suddenly become down on ourselves when we say or do things that has this opposite effect on us, and overlooking the concept of making mistakes or errors in judgment as if growth and change is only linear. Thank you for making this very insightful video, Ron!

@rachelemazza8623 Жыл бұрын

✋ TY for all the insightful videos! Hugs, Rachele

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

You’re very welcome Rachele! Thank you for giving me the opportunity to share these videos with you.

@lennonmoore2847 Жыл бұрын

Powerful truth as always! Thank you Ronald!

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

Thanks for listening my friend!

@craigmerkey8518 Жыл бұрын

Really really great, self awareness is so important!

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

Absolutely Craig. It’s extremely important and it can help you navigate life and your decisions!

@Mysteriousyimaorgmailcom Жыл бұрын

Keep the work. I love watching your videos...

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

Thank you! I love that you’re enjoying my content and getting value from it! Keep growing and learning on your journey my friend!

@magorzata6613 Жыл бұрын

You are a great person, i love your channel and the content you present. They helped me a lot to understand myself. Greetings from Poland

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

Awesome and thank you!! I love that you’re loving my content. I hope to continue to help you on your journey. Keep growing my friend!

@dreamchaser5758 Жыл бұрын

Profound and nuanced insights in this video. I am reading T. Harv Eker's bestseller "Secrets of the Millionaire Mind". The book focuses on the concept of our internal money blueprint. We all essentially have a financial comfort zone. We sabotage our own success and even make decisions which validate our internal limiting dialogue. I tracked my income over the last five years.....no upward trajectory. Failed to cultivate different income streams. I grew up where there was never enough. I create lack and survival is an accomplishment. I want to move beyond this mentality.

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

This is deep! Definitely a conversation we need to have in this community because I can tell you know that you are not alone in these thoughts. “I create lack and survival is an accomplishment.” Wow! Now you have me reflecting on other limiting beliefs I’ve had over the years. I may have to borrow this thought for a conversation because it deep and real for a lot of people!

@teenoso4069 Жыл бұрын

when you point, there are 3 fingers pointing back

@ajscott9528 Жыл бұрын

Limiting Belief #1 It is never a good idea to approach a woman in public Limiting Belief #2 I don't have what it takes to be rich

@mercyuchendu Жыл бұрын

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@koiiiy Жыл бұрын

thks for this video, i started my healing journy a year ago and the top of this video clik me in a completely diferent way, im 100% surte that this will help me to became the best version of my self thks

@RonaldLBanks Жыл бұрын

I’m happy this resonated with! I hope your healing journey is going well also. Becoming the best version of ourselves makes a big difference in our quality of life. Keep growing on your journey!

@nancymosby7369 Жыл бұрын

Are u and ur a religious man? Just curious!😉

@rileywiebe3512 7 ай бұрын

He’s said a couple things in episodes about Church, but it was vague and not an absolute yes. I think he is though.

@iamlyrics9118 Жыл бұрын

💪🏼💯💥👑🤎

@9latinumStudioz Жыл бұрын

Wow paid off 23k in 1 yr 🤾 that's impressive 👌✨ really practice what you preach 🤙⚡ I like that 🧐 "everytime you learn something or hit a milestone - unlearn a limiting belief 🤔"