Amen! Eventually one has to admit this to themselves about those types--because sometines we use any excuse but them being as bad as that. ("Oh, it must have just been a misunderstanding."...Oh, jt must be because of their divorce".... The excuses I used to make in my head for these so-called humans ) I'm just about to start watching the video, but I went NO CONTACT a few months ago-- and this keeps me focused on staying within my path OUT forever

"They're (disturbed characters/narcissists) aware (of their abusive actions), and they don't care ." My favorite quote from Dr. George Simon

Same 💯💯💯

​@@MsWing-ij9nbthis is so important to know. Sometimes there is no hope. No hope of loving a person to be healthy. No hope for a different relationship w/ that person. When you know, you must go.

​@@Matt-602the idea that it must be a misunderstanding has caused me so much grief. First of all it kept me stuck for years. But it also kept me on my back heels explaing. Always explaining myself.

That's the problem we face when trying to explain to a family member what we're going through. It's shocking how they can oppose us, whom they have known all their lives, and that we have never falsely accused anyone or lied to them! They actually believe the narcissist over our word because of the false "nice, helpful" face they wear around them. They can't see it because it's not normal, so they don't understand.

I'm so sorry.

WHO wants to get vulnerable aka actually naked with someone who is UN-Safe & UN-Trustworthy ⁉️

Ask yourself this question. What if the therapist is a narcissist himself? And narcissist work together.

i work with a " blue jeans- ironing Karen type; nice until YOU DO NOT FEAR& obey her SCRIPT for the day. nuts....

Kmmm…. Really?🤔 he couldn’t come up with any other explanation 😂

Hosea 4:6 🙌🏽 ❤

Rampant in the church also.

​@@robert.9028 Seriously? I guess you missed the part about Anne saying that the father got 50/50. And I guess you also missed the part about how he hit the child in the spine with the screwdriver leaving an imprint. Your situation is YOUR experience, NOT the same as everyone else's. I'm quite familiar with the subject you're speaking about, as a reference the KZfaq channel named- the respondent. What's your beef with this lady? Go pick on somebody else - oh, you're a bully. Leave that lady alone. There's a DEFINITE reason why you're not a part of your child's life. Obviously. Your kid is better off without you. You're just trying to pick a figh, as you enjoy it.

Check HG Tudor, he helps advise people on how to deal with narcissists

0 contact. They just can’t help but hurt other people. Tried to Hoover 20 years later. A very negative energy we learned to tolerate. Tolerating people is not living. It’s being brainwashed.

They make it seem like they always get what they want. But they don’t even get what they need.

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Pushed with that hippie dippie "I'm okay, and you're okay" nonsense

Vile, not vial.

I was blessed to work with Ross in a retreat. He was the first person to call out the narcissist in my life and it was the start to healing.

This was my story too but it happened to me last year and I did come in knowing my husband was probably a narcissist and I was hoping I was wrong. Sometimes therapist are just not good and it is no wonder since narcissist are so impossible to deal with. It is easier to attack the more flexible partner.

Seeking & Receiving THE TRUTH is The Right Path out of Abuse.

2012 happened to me as well:( had to figure it all out myself

Not all therapists are familiar with real pathological NPD narcissism & not all of them graduated with the same level of competence either. It's important to find the right therapist.

Yes, DARK DEAD EYES. TERRIFYING.

@wildhorses6817 I've often thought it could be demonic. We battle not against flesh and blood 🙌🙏💯

I agree that Dr. Simon is a spiritual man. Spirituality is a refuge from character impaired people. As far as I can tell, these people lack spirit, or at least psychopaths, narcissists, and those with ASPD do, which explains why so many of them hide in churches.

Sorry to sound a little judgemental. But did you know he was those things when you married him? Gay isn't the usual straight choice. A spouse with addiction problems isn't usually advisable.

@@therespectedlex9794actually he was a pharmacist. We both were in healthcare. No I did not know he had an addiction problem. My believe was that he would recover & except his disease. His sexuality always closeted until I found evidence on his phone. For me ….. judgement….. ? Not of one’s sexuality but of character. He wanted his cover , me, & stay in the home so that no one knew. He relapsed on metabolic steroid injections for the new hunk he was phone sexting with. CHARACTER. I deserve so much more. He has left town thank god By the way all his injections were bought on line. Remember he WAS a pharmacist. Hoping you will rethink your comment Gay is no crime, deception after 24 yrs at that level is. Integrity, as I showed him in the past. In his retirement???? He was driving a school bus . The steroid injections had made him so hyped he had a rage with me in the car. Now that’s character….. urine tests don’t show steroid use. He knew that. When I found all this info he freaked out I would call the school superintendent. Making him leave was the best decision of my life. Addiction,sexuality I wish him well. No longer my monkey To the new guy “ TAG YOUR IT”

Right there with ya & I say this same thing all the time! 💯💯💯

I think they don't understand that they were hurt. They usually idolise, or excessively respect, one, or both, of their parents.

Exactly like the ones I knew. Thank God you're going against the common false narrative that they had a poor wittle childhood or whatever

Spiritual affliction. Perhaps one's born with it are suffering the sins of the father. Their "doors" are more open... they are more prone to "passengers" Just my humble opinion after personal experience and much research 🙌🙏

In either case, too many people slobbering and crying for the narcissists supposed "bad" childhood that they allegedly had. (Some of the kindest people I met in the world had much worse childhood's than those narcs. It's a cheap excuse that doesn't solve anything and gives too much sympathy cushen to the most merciless monsters in the world)

agree i think it is genetic it runns in families the narcs i know have parents who are just like them

Some may be mix of nature and nurture plus environment.

The cure is through Jesus Christ. Does anyone believe in Spiritual Warfare? Demons?

Blessing to you little Mama💌

@@selfesteem3447 thank you that was nice of you to say. 😇

Thank you

Awareness is the right foundation to start the journey of Recovery.

Now you know, and you can change it.

Me two. I’m learning. I’m waking up and evolving and diving in. Woke up after a painful betrayal. Definitely high narcissism due to his diagnosis with an extremely strong DA leaning FA. Wondering now if it’s covert ( vulnerable ) narcissism. The label doesn’t matter. Abuse is abuse. Now just dealing with extreme negativity towards others. Absolutely fixated and focused in an unhealthy way. The negativity is really hard. I just call out what he’s doing like baiting and just tell him I’m having my own experience with this particular situation and his feelings are his business. It’s tough but there’s no co regulating. You can’t ever feel close as when you do he inevitably breaks it by destructive behaviors. I’m tired of trying to placate to his every single need and whim and I don’t do it anymore. Which are incredibly unreasonable at times. His heart is icy and he lacks empathy. He’s not wrong with being frustrated with certain things ; but his attitude and approach is horrible and if you go looking for the worst in others you’ll certainly find it. We are all flawed. I gave him such incredible grace in 10 years. Especially last 5. Yet he can’t extend that to others who are important to me. The things they are doing are nothing compared to what he was doing in our relationship. He behaved very badly. I ask him to focus on himself. His family of origin stuff that had caused his extreme style and and affects all of us including him. He has so many deep deep issues that his focus ought to be on himself. Clearly he’s acting 🎭 in ways with me and still the same man and had no intentions of deep change. Unfortunately I find His behaviors and thinking very unattractive. He is extremely negative and miserable and he actually hasn’t truly changed. The changes he made are superficial. They are basic relationship things that I’m supposed to be so grateful for. That I should be handing him bf of the year award. I did acknowledge these changes; but I’ve realized these are basic essentials in a healthy relationships. I’ve been way way too agreeable ; he’s extremely disagreeable. I see my own style and am trying to heal and learn. He’s been my greatest teacher. I’m grateful for the growth despite the pain he caused me. I also understand how I caused myself as unnecessary pain.

@@UnacceptableTee I date a lot. And narcs are drawn to me.

Part of the family court system 40 years ago , everyone even to the therapist that were mandated by the court for evaluation enabled the narcissist on every step. I was the only person that understood how sick he was …. First he was able to by pass all these supposed professionals. I sat in the therapist office crying half the time , from the trauma of my ex husband and this family court system who were not helping to protect my children and I …but I was labeled the person who was not of the best character compared to my ex. It was the most traumatic thing to go through. A year later my ex kidnapped my children … took 14 months to find them . He did not ever care about them. This was the early 80’s before domestic abuse laws started to evolve in a more serious continuum.

Cindi Hunter, were either of your parents narcissists? I have fallen for these types of “bad boys” too and my family of origin (including both parents) is full of narcs. These types of men will feel “familiar” to us if we were raised by narcs.

@@fifilafleur5555 Yes! My Mother was a narcissist, drug addicted, and alcoholic. My step mother as well. I married a convert narcissist and back then I didn't know anything about these behavior disorders... It just wasn't ever spoken about. I've often felt "like there's something wrong with me!" I think it's because of my upbringing and now it's tough to trust people! My two grown sons are both narcissistic too! I was also in a cult church, i.e. Mormon, and left years ago, realizing it was a high demand religion, filled with control. I have dated many men, yet often they don't really want to be in a commitment... The world has become a crazy place, and staying alone, is peaceful for me.

My Dad collapsed from a brain bleed after the 2nd injection (quacksine) I begged him not to take it. My brother works for UK Health service, 3 nurses had to be resuscitated after administering the experimental injection. He still took it and advised our father did the same. It’s like living in a sci-fi movie/ mental asylum. Respect ✊ to you for bringing awareness on this channel my friend.

A Mishel It has been the case in regard to psychiatric drugs for many decades as well and a lot of women are staying on one or more while pregnant, which is frightening, due to the fact that the drugs blunt empathy! 🙁

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​@@cyndigooch1162"We don't like your opinion. You need to see Dr Lithium!" --some brainwashed HATER trying a control tactic

It's a great way of calling out the wacky far-Left's silly "safe spaces" concept too. The blowback is here from even former Democrats like me, so deal with it! (I won't even use the word "safe" anymore because they ruined that word to me)

yes, I am shocked to hear this suggestion, it could bring false hope