💔That one cuts deep. We know what you mean and send our love💕

I feel you MissTotos. I’ve been rejected by my family this week and they’re refusing to help me even with a roof over my head. They can’t give me any emotional support and it’s devastated me. I left my partner of 11 years a week ago.

I feel you. Got abandoned by my family during the peak of the pandemic (basically told "you can't come home" and effectively cut contact) after coming out as trans. While also dealing with mental health, discovering we were a system, trying to find my first fulltime job, etc.

Wow what an intense situation! We absolutely agree- props to you for following your heart even though it was really difficult❤️

Thank you so much for your support!!

Oh my gosh this is so sweet😭

yes yes, thanks, for saying, its hard to me find the words, but you said it agree totally

I too like that they are good listeners. Very important in any relationship to be successful!

Hannah here- It’s such a different kind of relationship right?? I spent a long time thinking about my love for Sadie as a friend and wondering how it was “supposed” to feel once we were dating. Thank you for sharing and we’re sending our best to you and yours as well!

Thank you! What advice do you have for....dealing with people in your life (mainly family) that don’t support your relationship? I’ve only told a few people that I know will be accepting. But I also know some family members won’t be accepting. I’m really struggling with it.

That’s such a good question. Of course telling them is not required, but I think it can be even harder to have to hide part of yourself that feels so central to your identity. If you feel safe sharing, it can be a really big opportunity to connect. There’s no way to know how they will take it, but then at least you know you are showing them your most authentic self! From what we’ve experienced, it mostly just takes people time to adjust mentally to the idea. Sending our love💕🌈

Yeah that sounds really hard. In our experience with religious family members, hearing from someone who is gay can help shift their perspective. Whatever you decide, we’re sending good vibes your way!

Thank you so much! Yes our friends were the BEST through the whole thing🙏🙏

Wow thanks Rachel!!

Thank you Robert! It was definitely a little tougher to talk about than most of our other topics. Thanks for your support🌈

Thank you Marc! Cheers to you in France!

Haha wow thank you!! We so appreciate you taking the time to watch. Let us know if there’s anything specific you’d want us to do a video about!

Hahaha I almost forgot about that part! Thank you for watching and sending ❤️

Thank you Twee! Your support is so kind💕🌈

Thanks for commenting with your story Sarah. I’ve been in this relationship 10yrs. Engaged for 3.5. (Should have been married if it wasn’t for Covid). I told him in the beginning I was bi (had one experience of a three month relationship with a woman). He accepted that and we moved along quite happily for a few years. I never imagined I would feel this way today. There have been some intimacy issues in our relationship for many years now and I even thought HE was gay and asked him several times. We have a sexless relationship. I suggested counselling so many times and he’s never wanted to and things never improved. I’ve been struggling for what seems maybe a couple of years now and it’s manifested hugely through lockdown, dwelling on the wedding that should have been and I feel actually relieved it couldn’t go ahead. I am terrified to start a conversation with him. It’s caused me depression and even very frequent suicidal thoughts. I’m completely alone as I’ve no one impartial to talk to who doesn’t know him (before I start the process). I love him but I’m not in love like it should be. We both deserve better in life but I think we got this far as we have had a strangely happy companionship all these years. I want the reason for the relationship to end due to it is sexless and there’s no communication. I feel it would be less cruel for him (than to say I think I’m gay?). Would it soften the blow? He knows I’m bi anyway. That way it shouldn’t be so much of a devastating surprise as we’ve talked/argued too many times over the years about the lack of intimacy and when I say we what I really mean is I have been the only one to complain and try communicate with them and he’s stonewalled and gaslighted me for probably seven years on the subject. My head right now 🤯😪

Oh hey Chi! Welcome! Thank you for watching them all😊😊

Thanks Mimi!

That seems to be the case with any sexuality that isn't hetero. For some reason no one asks you to proof that you're heterosexual, but as soon as you're anything else it's almost as if they expect a certificate that proofs it.

You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching and for your empathy! And we will definitely keep them coming🌈🌈

We hadn’t heard of sapphic experiences before, so you’re teaching us so much! We have so much to learn in so many ways when it comes to sexual identity. Thank you for your support!

Thank you Sheila! Cheers to you for coming out, no matter the timeline! We will definitely play guitar soon. Sending love back to you in Arizona💕

Thank you Reagan💕💕🌈

I told him in the beginning I was bi (had one experience of a three month relationship with a woman). He accepted that and we moved along quite happily for a few years. I never imagined I would feel this way today. There have been some intimacy issues in our relationship for many years now and I even thought HE was gay and asked him several times. We have a sexless relationship. I suggested counselling so many times and he’s never wanted to and things never improved. I’ve been struggling for what seems maybe a couple of years now and it’s manifested hugely through lockdown, dwelling on the wedding that should have been and I feel actually relieved it couldn’t go ahead. I am terrified to start a conversation with him. It’s caused me depression and even very frequent suicidal thoughts. I’m completely alone as I’ve no one impartial to talk to who doesn’t know him (before I start the process). I love him but I’m not in love like it should be. We both deserve better in life but I think we got this far as we have had a strangely happy companionship all these years. I want the reason for the relationship to end due to it is sexless and there’s no communication. I feel it would be less cruel for him (than to say I think I’m gay?). Would it soften the blow? He knows I’m bi anyway. That way it shouldn’t be so much of a devastating surprise as we’ve talked/argued too many times over the years about the lack of intimacy and when I say we what I really mean is I have been the only one to complain and try communicate with them and he’s stonewalled and gaslighted me for probably seven years on the subject. My head right now 🤯😪

@@samantha4130 You know what to do. Just listen to your heart. And be sincere with him - if there's one reason - he deserves to know.

Local Guide Well it’s been a week since I told him and left. It’s been utterly horrendous, chaotic, scary and so sad. But all necessary. We couldn’t go on the way things have been. I tried to stay and make it work for 11 years. I can’t continue to compromise myself for the sake of not wanting to hurt someone.

*Just_someone_who_spends_too_much_time_on_youtube! Good for you! We only live once

Oh man- that sounds really hard. We send all our love and good vibes to you💕💕

Sorry it took me so long to get back to you! Thank you so much for sharing. Cheers to you for being such a supportive uncle to your niece!! She's lucky to have you. We're so sorry to hear about your wife. Thank you for your support- we send all our love and happiness to you

You're one of the good ones

Thank you so much Najwa! We send love and peace back to you💕

You are very welcome My beautiful girls you deserve it more love and peace 💯❤️💯

Also, if you've already talked about these things in another video, I'd love to know the title of it. Since posting my original message I've discovered a few videos where you do actually talk about some of these things, so sorry if I'm the umpteenth person asking you these questions, lol!

Hey Patricia! Thanks for your questions. This sounds like a potential video topic:) but I will say- being together has been so incredible and so fun!

Thanks and agreed-we are committed to each other and grateful that our relationship brings both of us so much happiness. During that time I wasn’t really identifying as anything except “not totally straight.” I eventually came to the conclusion that I was gay but I didn’t really categorize myself for a while in the middle.

Hey Jennifer! Hannah here- It can absolutely be terrifying to come out of the closet, so I hear you. Thank you so much for sharing, and know that there are so many people out here who support you. No matter where you decide to go from here, we send all our well wishes!

Hi Jennifer, I’m curious to know if you have come out now?

😥Tammy that’s a hard one to read. We’re sending our love💕

Wow thank you! She’s very beautiful!!

Haha I’m taking that as a compliment- thank you!!

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Thanks Alejandro!

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Hi Glen- for many reasons i talk about in both my coming out videos, I hadn’t discovered that I am gay until recently. With this information, my fiancé and I decided not to stay together. Sexuality that is misaligned between partners should not be taken lightly.

@@HannahSadie The reason I am trying to understand is I think one of my granddaughters might be questioning her sexuality and is avoiding me. It's not right for her to be avoiding me for any reason. I just want to learn how to be more accepting and less judgmental. I hope you understand and let me follow you for awhile. I don't hate anyone, never have, never will.

Glen Moore the fact you are reaching out and making an effort watching these videos to make her feel more comfortable already makes you a great grandpa, don’t worry ❤️

@@Claire-oq7ut Thank you for the inspirational video's. I hope I can make a difference to squash more hate from the world. Don't ever stop being you.

@@gmc6vette as a person who came out, its normal to part for a period of time from your loved ones to figure stuff out and its super hard, because you need to be tough enough to face bad reactions. So dont make this about yourself and let your granddaugther deal with this on her own terms if you wanna be supportiv, this isnt about you.

Hey! Hannah here- It was definitely a hard time for everyone involved. Sadie is not bisexual, so there wasn’t a way to make it work that fit the visions they each had for the future.

Hard for who the guy who got no say in the women he loves more than anything.Your storie doesn't tell all the facts like everyone that got hurt and the other friends that was lost or the family that will never look at you the same .This make it look like all you want to tell is how happy you are for destroying and manipulating people's lifes for selfish reasons becouse she could have made it work she made a choice not to anx I bet you helped with that.

Yes, it was hard for him. And you are right in thinking that he didn’t get to decide Sadie’s sexual orientation. There was no manipulation here. In the end, they decided together that it wasn’t right to get married. Now, he can be with somebody who is better suited for him. His story isn’t ours to tell. He is an awesome person and we really wish him the best.

@@unknownunknown5173 may I suggest you watch the video again without prejudice and actually listen to what they say.

@@unknownunknown5173 ITS NEVER THE WOMANS FAULT THEY CAN NOT ACCEPT RESONSIBLTY FOR VWHAT THEY DO