Your channel is something society needs the most but doesn't deserve. Thanks a lot, sir.

you had me at "agar shravan kumar banna hai to apne dum pe bano...wife ke bharose nhi"....loved this video

Sir My grandfather made a brilliant decision in 1980s by not making his kids live together. My fathers and his brothers family lives in same building in different apartments. I have grown up seeing such good balance between large family and private life. My mother & all aunties had privacy and were very happy. All equally shared the aging parents responsibility This model of staying next to each other is very successful in my family 👏🏻 My daada daadi were very happy lived till 90 and passed away peacefully 🙏🏻

I got tears in my eyes. My father is bhayankar sharavan Kumar and violated my mamma's life for 30 years by imposing all seva on her shoulders in joint family. She went for two surgery but still she is cooking for whole family. And the worst effect is on me as individual because I have seen this all my life. One thing I want to tell all the unmarried boys that if you are real Shravan Kumar never get married. Otherwise you simply destroy your spouse life as well as your kids future and their entire life by giving them soul wounds.

"Agar shravan Kumar banna hai toh apne dum pe bano biwi k dum pe nahi..... " what a line Sir.. If anyone wants to become shravan Kumar please do your parents' seva on your own not by the help of spouse.

I hope I'm not offending anyone. I recently met an alliance with whom I was having discussion. I asked him that we live seperately in a nearby apartment to his parents so that we can help them when they need us. But he was like "no my mother cooks even if I wake her up in the middle of the night, she loves so much that she comes to my room when I am working from home and hugs saying "Mera baccha". 😐 I am a only daughter to my parents and they have always taught me to be independent because they say "You don't have any sibling. After us nobody will be there to help you, so learn to be as independent as possible". My dad taught me car driving, investment and what not. Even my mother has taught me many things including cooking. So I can safely say I can survive/live alone. So I just asked him one question to that he didn't have answer. When a girl's parents can send their daughter and live by themselves why can't boy's parents do the same since both are of almost same age? I just wanted to share my experience and two cents. It's indeed a sensitive topic and you have talked about it very well, Sir. Thank you .

Finally someone giving voice to my thoughts.... That's exactly what I feel society needs to understand 👍

"It's hard to be a man today, It's hard to be a woman today. " A beautiful statement. Best part is both are equally stated not stressing on either of them separately..

Aise type ke Shravan kumar se bahut divorce ho chuke hai ... I had a similar experience too.. I am glad someone actually hit this topic and sooo logically well... thank you Sir

Wonderfully explained how society is making sons guilty . Yes as someone said in the comments, every family should have one like you. Nowadays all lazy and irresponsible Inlaws are taking the advantage of this sravankhmar story. Yes it’s true that mother-in-law is the main culprit to make sons feel guilt in order to make more overpower on his family.

सर, आपने भारतीय समाज के बेहद महत्त्वपूर्ण समस्या की चर्चा की है। अधिकांश लोग कुढ़ रहे हैं, लेकिन इस पर कोई बात ही नही करता है। हम फिनलैण्ड के बेहतरीन हैपिनेस इंडेक्स की बात तो करते हैं, लेकिन उनके सामाजिक खासकर पारिवारिक संरचना पर बात नहीं करना चाहते हैं। हमारे अभिभावक अपने जीवन के अंतिम 3 महीनों की सेवा की गारंटी के चक्कर मे बच्चों के सबसे खुशनुमा माने जाने वाले युवा उम्र 30 से 45 वर्षों की खुशियों का बलिदान चाहते हैं। वो रिश्ते तो शोर शराबे के साथ बनाते हैं, लेकिन एडजस्ट करने को तैयार नहीं हैं। इस पर गहन और खुले दिमाग से चर्चा की जरूरत है।

Hello sir, please make a video on marriage councelling. The girls(esp working ones) are living in 21st century however the boy and his family is still in 18th century. Its hard to carry on a marriage.

Agar me aapki ye video apne family group me dal do to saas sasur ke sath sath nand devar sab naraz ho jayenge. Ye alag bat h nand aur devar khud bhi apne level per yehi chahte h. Bina bole sab karo bus bolo mat. Aap great h sir jo bolne ki himat rakhte h

We are 3 siblings when our younger sister was born relatives are crying and telling my mom why you have not check the gender and aborted. My parents are ok with girl or boy 🤗 it's been 20 years and I'm working in a MNC company as a software engineer, my sister is an advocate and younger one is studying and same relative are coming and telling ladka ladki me koi bhedbhav nahi h 😅

Thank you so much. Finally we have a man speaking on family dynamics … my in-laws are 57 same age as salman khan and they want seva

Bravo Mr. Sangwan! This was a brilliant discussion. It’s the truth everyone needs to hear. Your mention about the female infanticide brought tears to my eyes.

My husband was a gem of a son who from the age of 21 , he was literally offered service to his parents & after his father who had cancer & passed away,husband was so good to his 4 siblings too, he kept saying it's his privilege 🙏🙏I salute such gems🙏🙏

100% sahi hai Husband k parents ki over expectations se ladkiyan khud ki life enjoy karna to door jee bhi nahi pati hain. Aur ye expectations badhti jaati hai,puri na hone par taane maarne ko baithe rehte hain,saas sasur,chahe bahu ki physical limitations ho, lekin SEVA milni chahiye.Aur phir WhatsApp groups par bechaare ma baap wale message forward karte rehte hain. Meri marriage ko 24 years ho gaye hain aur ye seva ka formula pehle saal se hi chala aa raha hai.Kya moral duties sirf bahu ki hoti hai,saas sasur bimar bahu ka muh se haal puchhne me bhi asamarth hote hain??!! Wahi saas sasur apni beti ko din me chaar baar call karke puchhenge lekin unki sewa kar rahi bahu k liye unke koi emotions nahi hai. I feel like I am only a working machine for them.

Aap ko sunkar Aisa lagta hai, jaise koi mere dimag ko padh paya hai. I have a son who just turned 18 and I've been teaching him all these things: To live separate with his wife and be more connected with family I tell him that last 4-5 yrs of our lives, we may need some assistance but we'll not get old n sewa chahne Wale just next day of his marriage. Everybody should take care of their health, why to depend on anybody specially your daughter in law Or even your son? India me ek shauk hai sabko, apni bimari discuss karke relatives ki sympathy lene ka n sewa karane ka. Kya dusre deshon me log budhe nahi hote, log 80-90 + hokar bhi active hote hain, roj raat ko apne paon nahin dabwate 😁 Jab hum apne budhape ki lathi par khud hi latak jayenge to wo hume Sahara kaise degi, it's merely a support for us but can't become our feet.

So true!@ Mothers of a boy feel that they are entitled to something great. Im working,unmarried, staying with my father,lost my mother 5 years back. Whenever I search someone to get married. Their concern specially the guys parents is that who will take care of your father once you get married. So they mean that its ok for me to be working and take care of the boys parents and thats what im entitled to,but not equally for my father if he is not keeping well?? Why???

Absolutely correct. Why different thought process for parents of a son and a daughter?? If it's a son, he and his wife are bound to take care of his parents...and if it's daughter, there's no expectation from her because she has to take care of her in laws first . Who will take care of her parents if they don't have a son?? And son in law has no responsibility towards his parents in law?? Such a hypocrite society. Truth is both the son and daughter are equally important for their parents and parents are for them. You should not get an additional degree for giving birth to a son. I can't agree more...Shravan Kumar banna hai to apne dam pe bano, biwi ke sahare nahi.

Amitabh Bachchan ki Maa Nirupa Roy hoti hai --seva sirf inko lagti hai ,was sooo good😂😂😂😂😂😂👌🏾👌🏾👌🏾💜💜

These perspectives are bold and deserve highest commendations. Amit Sir, your advice is beyond thanks and money.

Great video. So true. Parents behave like businessmen by expecting returns from their children . They emotionally traumatize their children. Very nicely and honestly put !!

For the first time somebody dared to tell the truth ki " pehle things were simpler..now they are much more complex"!! Maa baap ne bacchon ko paalna is no Ehsan done to the kid..jo usne bada hokar chukaana chahye!! Azaad Kar do bacchon ko! If you say you gave good upbringing and sacrificed a lot then trust your upbringing and set them free! They will take care of you out of love and not as a duty..don't suffocate them with the load of your life and actions..

Comedy aapki zabardast chalegi! Again great issue addressed. What I love about your thought process is the focus on the next generation. If we as a society help the upcoming generations in succeeding without making a big deal out of it, they will automatically be equipped and capable of taking care of the old and the aging.

This gentleman is giving a blow to patriarchy 😆

Yes I m married to shravan Kumar,mere husband nind me se uthe to unhe apni mummy ke liye kuch na kuch sochte rehte hain

Sir, I can't tell what a big smile I have on my face while listening to you. Not that you are speaking what I think, but you are talking about a bigger issues that's engulfing our country. The comment you made about low happiness index/ problems of lower middle class and being stuck in that loop is so true. Hats off to your work and candidness.

सास को लडके की शादी के बाद ही लड़का श्रवण कुमार चाहिए होता है। शादी के पहले नहीं। हा हा हा।

Aap bilkul practical aur sahi baat Kar Rahe Hai.Totally agree👍 I am married to Shravan Kumar

Sir, you are godsent. I have been struggling to articulate this but have failed. You have said this beautifully. Parents are lucky to have kids. they bring so much joy and meaning to your lives! We should be thankful to our kids and stop expecting them to repay.

So profound and true “ye jo tashan tha ladke waalon ka” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

Same thing happened in my home with my mother in law.. She indulged n broke by brother in laws family n looking for another girl... Thanks sir for raising this issue

Agree totally..... Prepare your sons from teenage to be on their own otherwise they grow up with a mentality of staying on and on in their parents house. Move them out as soon as they start earning. Let them manage themselves alone before taking on the responsibility of marriage. Give privacy and freedom to your daughter in law by giving her a separate home.... She will fall in love with her in laws.

I just wish people had even 5% of sensibility as you have.

Very good topic. Parents लटक ना पड़ो अपने बेटे बहु पर।....very true.

I love you for your thought process ❤️ I am mother of two and l feel so much gratitude towards them, l am so grateful to them कि वो मेरी जिंदगी में आए और मुझे मां बनने का सम्मान दिया। मेरे बच्चे ईश्वर का आशीर्वाद है मेरे लिए।

Excellent thought provoking video..The fashion of shravan kumar may be due to feeling of insecurities among the boys' mothers.

18:30 You forgot the ones who spoil all the ironed and arranged clothes that are kept in the cupboard when they pull out something to wear. Aisa bhi karte hain.

In society *Standard for expectations* from parents is low compared to expectations from kids. Kids should achieve more from the less resource but when it's kids turn to takecare of parents, quality must be high.

You are such a father figure. Thank you for being in universe.😇

We can't change our parents who are now in 70s or 80s. But our generation who in few years will become parents in law must learn from these videos and spread awareness by sharing these.

Actually mostly maa chahti hi k beta shravan kumar bane aur Bina shadi k apni seva kare lekin problem ye he k vo ye bete ko Bata nahi sakti, nahi to vo swarthy prove ho jayegi esiliye.

Very true sir,,,, bachche sach me pure soul hote hain.. Hum apne swarth me maa bap bante hain aur fir puri life us bachche par ehsaan jatate rehte hain..

I am married to one and I tell him same thing.... in order to be Shravan Kumar you are making your parents handicap.

Sir! Yet another superb video from you! I feel like you have put into words what is going on in my mind so beautifully! Love this channel for its fresh and reformist take on real issues faced by most people. Thanks a lot Amit sir

Bahut bahut sahi, to the point and super awesome, I really appreciate your super wisdom. Plz continue doing such content, really country needs mentor like you.

Highly appreciated by both my wife and myself. Every topic that you speak on is impeccably presented. We couldn't agree more with your views. Very happy to know at least some like minded souls like us co exist in this world. Every thing you say SA and not NSA :-)

Wah ji wah! Finally one video where I agree 100% Sir ji! Ek point bhi galat ya impractical nahin lagaa🙏🙏🙏

I can say lots of things but it wouldn't be enough to say thankyou.. Mukti mil gaye mujhe to... For last 4 years I m facing depression due to these overated dialogues of parents...😌

Guru Ji ko naman 10000000000000 like

From past 28 years I am married to one.. I just hate him and his parents but still serving them as being a single child of my parents as all of them think it's MY duty... I hate all of them

Very nice. Best part is you are pro daughter and pro bahu Very refreshing

What about some people, who want an earning wife but don't want to live separately from their parents?

Your videos should be circulated in the whole country, you can bring a revolution in india, atleast young generation will understand.

I agree 👍 मुझे नहीं लगता कि हमारे पुराणों में भी श्रवण कुमार बनाने के लिए लिखा होगा,because hamari Ramayan में भी श्री राम की मांओं का कहीं जिक्र नहीं है कि श्री राम उनके साथ रहते थे, वो अपने अध्यात्म और मोक्ष के लिए तीर्थ स्थल चली गई थी और महाभारत में कुंती, गांधारी और धृतराष्ट्र जंगलों हिमालय चले गए, तो कहीं नहीं है कि वो last time में अपने बच्चों के पास रहे हो,because last time में उन्हें मोक्ष priority होती थी, ये बात सही है कि श्रवण कुमार इसीलिए था because his parents were blind

Bahut badiya hai... Maa baap ko khush rakhna hai chahe phir wife n kids ka kuch bhi ho... Ant main na ghar ka rahta hai na ghat ka... Koi khush nahi rahta

I watched two videos of sir today. One was curse of being good child in family Second was this....... Unfortunately my father is shravan kumar And i am the cursed good child......

This is great explanation. Each and every line relates to my daughter's life. Both boys side snd girls side exactly same.

Make video on caregiver burnout for issues like elderly depression, Alzheimer's etc so people get aware and how to deal with it as children.

I was facing same situation from couple of years But now I balanced every thing Great explanation sir Very much practical 🙏

I am 27 years old n i sometimes try to tell the same things to my parents but they take it in negative sense. Sir, despite u r my parents' age, ur way of teaching style is superb and entertaining like the present times. Hats off to ur modern views and starting ur channel😊

Jai ho Sir.....Ye to kamaal explanation h... Too good syllabus change ho Gaya ..

Mere pati bhi 24 saal se shravan Kumar bane pade hain mere damm pe its bitter truth

U say it like it is sir . Indian family joint system is now decayed . It’s just politics and interference on in laws in sons life . Control issue and interference. It’s couple who should take control of their Marraige and have their own space . Don’t people move cities for jobs ? People go abroad for jobs and passports their parents stay back with cook maids . Indian parents should have some self respect for them selves.

Brilliantly said, Sir... Exactly resonates with my views... Always wondered why nobody thought along the same lines... You're such a progressive thinker and a splendid speaker 👏👏👏

All new couples should follow your advice. Women should stop supporting the family that exploits her

Correct sir I do agree with you, that they should be a bachelor if they want to take care of only their parents my husband also same mentality’s they use to trouble me a lot but still I should shut my mouth & do seva for them from morning to night & always they pick up a quarrel with me & my husband always supported his parents even though he knew deep down in his heart ❤️ that his parents were wrong as he could never draw a line for his parents so they use to treat me like scrap as I was working initially & later started my own company but always they mocked me including husband as well the worst family I have seen in my life

So finally someone of our parents generation is talking about this harsh truth... So here's my opinion based on what I read or studied so please sharavan Kumar's can avoid this... So basically in India, everyone is declared as GOD... Parents are first God, babies are God, teachers are God, doctors are God... So if a human being with body of flesh and blood and with limited lower consciousness is God... Do you even know what kind of Sin is this of acknowledging human as God? 1. Specially I don't understand what special powers Indian parents get when they give birth to a baby... Foreigners also give birth of baby through same process and even animals.. so what is so special about Indian parents? If they are God then can they kill their children and give life to them once again? If not then how can be you termed as God? Srimadbhagwatgeeta clearly states that there is only one almight divine or Sachchidanand Parambrahama and every creatures on this planet are a tiny part of him including our parents. 2. Second as you mentioned in this video that bringing up the child and giving them a good life is responsibility and not sacrifice then the Indian parents emotionally blackmailing their children is not at all love... Love is always unconditional and with no expectations. Srimadbhagwatgeeta clearly states that do your duties but without any expectations and attachments so if parents are expecting that they are investigating on their children and in future they will give them back is certainly not love. 3. As you said, if a son wants to be a Shravan Kumar or Sri Ram then first of all introspect yourself that do you even have 0.1% qualities of both of them? And moreover are your parents SATYAVADI, DHARMAPARAYANA and KARTAVYANISHTHA like Sharavan Kumar's parents or Raja Dasharath? If not then how can you becom Shravan Kumar or Sri Ram.. don't abuse them by doing all these sins in name of them. 4? The most important thing, shravan kumar and Sri Ram lived in Tretayuga when Varnashram dharma was followed in society.. Brahmacharya upto 25 yrs, grihastha 26-50 yrs, vanaprastha 51-75 yrs and sanyaas 76-100... So basically when parents used to turn 51, they used to handover all the responsibilities to the couple and left home and go on teertha yatra... Main motto was to leave the materialistic world... So if you want to become shravan kumar in kalyug then your parents must leave home at 51 but no the kalyugi people want all luxuries at that age also so basically making son shravan kumar or Shri Ram is basically a ninja technique to be in the materialistic life... So if you want to follow all the rules of Satyuga, Tretayuga and Dwaparyuga in this kaliyuga period then do follow all the rules and regulations strictly and not using some of them for their own personal benifits...

Need more persons like you to change the society😢

This is what only girl child parents already follow what you have said and boy child parents should change

Aapane navjaat Shishu ke bare mein bilkul sahi kaha hai ki vah ek pure soul hota hai aur bahut kuchh deta hai

So blunt and hard hitting. A totally new perspective.

This is the harsh reality. Thank you for bringing such topics and discussing them with an open mind. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

You are a great man .... I wish everyone thinks like you

Excellent talk needed for many... Hopefully ppl listen to you and change the way ppl think..

Dear sir, no words for this opinion, so true and right, every person has some duty towards family members but nobody should be considered as devi Or devta.

Best video ever I watched.... ur brilliant Sir 👏👌 my husband also same category..

No one can make this type of video... You are doing good job for our society.... Very relatable

Thank you so much for this.... 🙏. I was dying inside with all the burden of sacrifices..

ye baat hamesha mere man me thi , ki I dont want sharavan kumar kind of guy in my life .

Very important to talk about this particular topic , adds to unnecessary unproductive rather destructive stress on both generations involved and stops growth . Also practical thinking , respecting emotions though , but not getting carried away with emotions can bring up good solutions. But problem with us is either we are too emotional or too practical. Wahin gadbad hota hai phir . But yes big thanks for opening up this discussion much needed true service to humanity to uncover blind spots - not easy.👌👍😇🙏🏼

सर, आप सत्य फर्मा रहे है।हर आदमी श्रवण कुमार बनना चाहता है पर औरत के बलबूते पर..वह अपने घर के लिए एक कामवाली बाई चाहता है ,ताकि समाज मे उसका गर्व कायम रह सके।

I concur with each and every word of yours. Some parents think that they are no less than God. By providing the basic necessities like food, cloth and education, they show as if they are doing some 'ahsaan' on the kids.

Sir... You always have a way apart perspective of all the situations.... Well explained 🙏🙏🙏🙏

What you mentioned is absolutely correct sir that mother-in-laws & including husband also thinks that no matter what the daughter in law will never leave the house.... we are not that old fashioned people coz we are not dependent on anyone.... coz we are also working... & all we want is peace in life

This was so good, so true. It was bang on. People with this mentality had to be called out. Very inspiring

Sir maine ek Srabankumar se sadi ki he 27 saal hogaye, sadi Nasha to kab ka uttar Chuka he.Aap 💯 percent sahi ho .

Very practical approach. Bilkul sahi

Somewhat same situation in Maharashtrian families. I will share this to my brother and sisters 😊

Best comment "qualified maid " pls add with dowry 🤣🤣and with salary

Sir mai bilkul aap jaisa sochti hu.. mujhe lagta hai mere bachhe ne mera jeevan khusiyon se bhar diya hai.. par mujhe ascharya hai is baat ka ki aapki umra ka ek aadmi aisa sochte hein.. aapki umra toh chodo sir apse bhi baht chotti umra ke log apne baccho ko esaan ginwa ginwa ke unka jeevan karz jaisa bana diya hai.. Mera namaskar hai aapko

Very good presentation of the reality and worth listening for all in the society

Aap bahut samajhdaari waali BAAT karte hain. Aapke videos saare parents ko dekhne chahiye

Such a great advice for both- parents of boys and girls. We used to talk about this that men get their moral obligations done via wives, now coming from a male counsellor, this is great. never ever heard a man saying this. At the same time - girls should not be just papa ki Pari but learn few things- things that you have stated. So that atleast they can manage their own families ( husband and children) well as equal partners in a relationship.

Yeh analysis kabhi nahi suni our Salute to you Guruji.

Love your style of way of speaking truth . We live life to keep happy others and keep ourselves in worries and our children always in pressure ki humne apne ma baap ko to hamesha khush rakhna hai chahe hum khush rhe na rahein. That's the truth you speak reality of our society.

Kitna achha ho agr sbka mindset aapke jesa ho jaaye...sb itne logical or clear ho jaae ..... 💯 U r great sir 🙂

You are awsome 👍🏻I hope it has impact in society. I have seen one example where the wife has left the husband in one year of marriage blaming his family. But after that stigma too, the male elders of the family are still the same egoist. The same age cousin of the boy have become sceptical of marriage 🥺