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In my opinion, Aidan dodged a bullet when it came to Carrie. He obviously cared about her way more than she did about him, since she was too hung up on Big to really appreciate him. He later ended up with a woman who really loved him, and three adorable sons, which is a better deal than if he'd stuck with Carrie.

The idea of marrying him repulsed her though. And they had nothing in common. He liked the country and she's a city girl. He wanted lots of kids she didn't want kids. Their fundamental differences were always too much. He was a good guy but that doesn't mean he's the one for her. He was too good for Carrie anyway.

Given Carrie's character, Big is the perfect fit. They are both mean, self-sabotaging, emotionally unavailable people who love to have money, travel, pursue ambitious careers and have many nights out on the town.

Honestly, Carrie treated him horribly. Hopefully I'll find myself an Aidan because he was truly an amazing partner. Plus the fact that he made his own furniture was just **chefs kiss**

No! Being with someone you don’t truly want just because “they’re a good guy” NEVER WORKS.… it always leads to heartache because one person is genuinely committed and the other is just going through the motions.

One of my favorite moments is when Aiden says “Carrie, I have a life. I’m just making room for you.”

Also if Aidan understood how much fashion meant to her, he wouldn't have made her lose the outfits. Compromise aside, he wanted Carrie to fit his mold of a partner - enjoying the countryside, being family oriented, taking care of his dog. He's a good man, just not for her in the long run

I maintain to this day that Carrie was Aiden’s Big. Aiden had no business messing with Carrie. Aiden was attracted to her because she was unattainable. Carrie might have cared for Aiden in a way but she always held back. Aiden knew that and continued to mess with her. When he took her back he knew he was stupid to give her another chance but he did it anyways. I think he meant to use her to work off his anger then leave her broken hearted as she did him. But it didn’t work out like that and he got emotionally involved when she called him out on his punishing of her. When they saw each other in Abu Dhabi I get the feeling that Aiden would have left his wife if he really thought he had a third shot with Carrie. Everyone hates Carrie and Big. Especially these days. They were each other’s match. 🤷🏾‍♀️

Hard disagree. Aidan was a good guy but he was far from perfect. He was ready to cheat on his wife with Carrie and I wonder how further than a simple kiss he'd have been willing to go if she didn't stop him. He also came across as someone who was more in love with the idea of a family than anything else. Didn't Carrie meet him like a year after they broke up and he already had a baby? Nothing wrong with this obviously but he sure moved on quickly. And considering his wife was the same woman he cheated on it makes you think. Plus, they were totally incompatible. She was a city girl, he was a country guy. He wanted a family more than anything and she later realized she didn't even want kids of her own. He wanted to marry a version of Carrie that wasn't really her, he loved the idea of her more than anything.

Could you talk about how media used "flipping burgers" as shorthand for "you failed in life"? The famous "study hard or you'll end up flipping burgers the rest of your life" is not only condescending to the people who do that job, but incredibly relevant now that those employees want to be fairly compensated for their work.

Aidan also didn't understand her much. He was pretty traditional in a lot of ways and while theres nothing wrong with it, it certainly didn't fit her. He also seemed fixated on wanting marriage, at one point saying he doesn't want a girlfriend anymore since he's already had so many. He just wanted to settle down and seemed like Carrie was the wrong woman at the right time. I don't think they had chemistry as nearly as people claim tbh. No true deep understanding about each other, just obsession to meet each others needs

Is it just me or was Carrie locked in a relationship with a narcissist with Big? Big being the narc and Carrie his co-dependant.It’s almost like SATC was “normalizing” abusive relationships and that’s why it resonated with so many women. If you’ve ever suffered from narcissistic abuse and never healed from it, of course a “normal” healthy relationship is going to look boring and you’ll pass it. That’s exactly what Carrie did to Aiden. Had she been a little smarter and less superficial and self-absorbed, she would have gotten herself into therapy after Big first dissed her to understand why she was accepting garbage treatment from Big instead of obsessing over him.

aidan represents a healthy partner, someone with whom a relationship is easy and dramafree. the fact that she crushes this to chase someone who negs her is just unimaginable

Hard disagree with this video. Aidan is for sure the overall “better guy” but Big was better for Carrie. She would never be happy with Aidan long term. They had very different interests and goals in life.

It always baffled me why Aidan, who had a successful carpentry business, a beautiful wife and three sons, would choose to kiss Carrie in the second movie. He deserved more than to be swept up in her constant drama.

i dont think Aden really loved Carry. I think he loved the idea of her like Tom from 500 days of summer

i don’t understand how anybody who watched the show can have this opinion, carrie treated aidan badly and aidan didn’t respect carrie for who she was, he proposed without EVER discussing marriage- huge red flag! he was not the one, they were not right for each other.

Carrie didn’t deserve Aiden she was toxic.

I think it just shows Carrie isn't actually built for long-term stable relationships. She dream's of it because she buys into the Disney stuff like everyone else. But she personally finds greater fulfillment in the chase of a guy who isn't emotionally and sometimes physically available. What she actually wants and what she tells herself and others she wants are completely different. She's just almost never truly honest with herself and that's why nothing ever really works out for her.

I disagree. He was a nice person but the wrong fit. In addition, kids are a dealbreaker if one person doesn`t want them. Also, I think Carrie can be an asshole sometimes. Probably she and big deserve each other.

I have been learning about attachment theory and To me Carrie was a fearful avoidant, big was dismissive avoidant, and Aiden was secure. Big made Carrie lean into her anxious side and Aiden pushed her into her avoidant side. Big created and addiction with his intermittent reinforcement (hot/cold) behaviors and because her programming said she had to "earn" love Big was familiar and known to her it was her comfort zone to be pushed away and have to earn love. Aiden made her feel like he was boring because he didn't make her earn his love and that was wrong for Carrie not familiar. She wanted love but was terrified of it at the same time. Big didn't push her for commitment so in that sense it felt safe. Aiden was better of with someone more secure, as Carrie would have been too volatile for him.

Carrie was with Aiden, because she knew he was the kind of man she SHOULD want to be with. Big however was her true North that her internal compass kept leading her back to because he represented the unfinished business (rejection) from her father when he left when she was just 3. Think of the scene when Big gets engaged to Natasha and Carrie confronts him in the street saying "why wasn't it me?". She might as well have been asking her dad "why did you leave?"

This was an excellent example of how we choose to see people instead of seeing them for who they really are.

She didn’t deserve Aidan. He was too good for her.

Problem HERE what none of you are looking at realistically is REMEMBER when Carrie ran into Aiden sometime later, after they broke up the 2nd time, and found him married with little Baby "Tot?? Obviously Aiden wanted babies, a family-- the normal domestic life! Carrie NEVER wanted that! As I remember, wasn't it discussed that Carrie had an abortion in her 20's?? Carrie never wanted kids! So even if she HAD married Aiden, she wouldn't have wanted children- but obviously Aiden DID! So how well would THAT marriage have worked? NOT!

If you ask me, based on the videos I’ve seen on this franchise, she seems like an anxious avoidant in desperate need of therapy. Her best ending would have been had she chosen to be alone and to go in therapy and therefore heal and realize how she hurt others in the past etc etc. Then her choosing a love interest would work. In the meantime she is stuck in a rut - a toxic pattern doomed to repeat her past mistakes. Also, without having watched the movie where big dies, that sounds like the best thing that could have possibly happened to her - now she is forced to be single and confront her issues!!!

One thing that always gets messed up in the explanation of Big versus Aidan is that Big was always very clear about him not wanting to be in a relationship. Carrie would always try to pressure him into being somewhere he was not ready to be. If a guy did that to a female, the conversation would be VERY different

Aiden was too down to earth for Carrie. She wanted the socialite lifestyle.

It's okay everyone, Aidan went on to meet a lovely girl, settle down, and have a Big Fat Greek Wedding.

I've always thought Carrie was more attracted to Big's status & wealth vs his character. Big treated Carrie like a side project he reluctantly took on.

I can see why Carrie should have chosen Aiden. I can't see him being happy in their marriage though

SATC works more as Big's story than Carrie's. He goes through the same change as Samantha, Charlotte and Miranda. Failed relationships with the person who seemed perfect, ageing, his body failing him-heart surgery, all this leads him to finding love with the person whom he previously underestimated.

Thank you for bringing up how the writers often abruptly turn the alternate love interest into assholes to justify things not working out.

While I appreciate the growth argument, and generally agree with it, I don't think you have to "end up with" or marry the person who challenges you to demonstrate how you've grown. I think a more powerful ending would have been Carrie and Aiden ending things, and Carrie going on to show the small ways she's transformed while living a happy, fulfilling single life. If anything, she was always the worst *friend* of the group, and on a show that was (supposedly) about friendship, it would have been nice to see her take some of the lessons she learned from Aiden and extend that grace to Miranda, Charlotte, and especially Samantha. (Since Samantha was always ten times the friend to Carrie that Carrie was to her.)

Just because a guy is nice and seemingly “perfect” does not mean he’s perfect for you. That doesn’t mean chase broken men. Carrie and Aiden had different values and goals, it wouldn’t have worked out long term.

Aidan is the perfect guy if there ever was one. He is sensitive, supportive, empathetic person. He is a simple un-complicated guy who represents an easy, simple and un-complicated relationship. John (Big) is a complicated guy, with complex emotional baggage. He strikes a chord with Carrie who is the same. Though she has good camaraderie with Aidan but it's all fireworks with Big. One thing that proves to me that Carrie and Big are the One for each other is actually a scene between Carrie and Aidan, when he proposes and almost forces her to marry him or the relationship ends there. Though Carrie wants the life of simplicity and lack of toxicity with Aidan but she most wants (in my opinion) is to be herself, to embrace herself fully (both quirks and toxiz traits)... So finally it's BIG. With Mr. Big, she's truly herself and truly happy without the pressure to pretend, so it's always been Carrie and Big for me. Both Carrie and Big ultimately grow together and find stability, happiness and consistency together.

Aiden was truly too good for Carrie and Mr. Big and Carrie were more like ‘soul mates’ in that they are both rather shallow and more suited for each other.

big did nit magically transform - in the second movie , we could see him settling down and becoming a more calm, rational kind of partner - becoming almost boring - carrie wasn't doing that yet, At the end of that movie, for the first time in the entire run of the story, she learns something! So it makes sense that 15 years later the two would have settled into a more stable, grown up lifestyle and relationship.

Ah, once Aidan decided that he wanted to be emotionally abusive to Carrie when he took her back, he was no longer the good guy. I always said that people are not paying attention to the story and putting their own desires on Carrie instead noticing what’s going on. There were SEVERAL signs that Carrie and Aiden were never going to work. He was outdoorsy, loved natures. Carrie rather go shopping and hang out at a cafe. Aiden hated her smoking and pushed Carrie into quitting when she wasn’t ready. Carrie had to change too much of herself with Aiden and it was driving her lack of commitment. Like Carrie knew Aiden was many women considered the perfect guy but he was not the one FOR HER. Carrie was deadass wrong cheating on Aiden though and should had broken off things before it gotten to that point. HOWEVER, it didn’t give the right for Aiden to treat her like crap when they decided to give a second go. He should’ve never agreed to get back with Carrie if the resentment against her was still very present no matter how much he loved her. A lot of shit he did could be classified as abusive behavior and it baffled me people still see him as a perfect candidate for Carrie after that. And yes, I know they technically cheated during the second movie with that kiss, but it happen to make Carrie realized how much committed she was for Big and she didn’t feel the way as she cheated Big while being with Aiden because she actually loves Big and didn’t need a high-octane, super dramatic violate romance relationship and can be happy in a “boring” relationship. Now, I didn’t see And Just Like That yet so I don’t have any final conclusion to their relationship.

The question is: What did Aidan love about Carrie? What did he see in her? You need common interests for a relationship. They didn't share a single one.

Carrie was hooked on the drama and convinced herself that the ups and downs are synonymous with sparks, to paraphrase Attached. When I was 20- years old, I thought the Carrie/Big will they won’t they was terribly romantic and genuinely felt like it justified my own toxic on-again-off-again that really destroyed both my self-esteem and my relational self for a long time. 10+ years later, I look back and wish I’d had someone shake me. Carrie and Aiden had different values and priorities, so in the long run they would not have been a good match, but she could have used a handsome socialite type who also happened to be willing to commit to her, consistently demonstrate that he was in it for the long haul, and was secure enough to prioritize communicating his uncertainties about their wedding instead of running away as a 50+ year old man. What Carrie really needed was a LOT of therapy.

Why is anyone better than someone else. Aiden wasn’t for Carrie (he’s not better than Carrie). Mr.Big was for Carrie (they were suited for each other). We are just not used to seeing this honest reflection of a woman and her choices. This idea that the only way of life is to be married with children as the better deal is wrong. Carrie got what she wanted, and what worked for her simple. She didn’t want to “evolve” she is fine being who she is. “Growth opportunities” nah she likes who she is, all grown up. A very real character.

Is there a single woman that used to watch it back then that would disagree with that ? lol I love Carrie but she didn't deserve him, "YOU BROKE MY HEART !" that scene

Aidan was the perfect man for home, family, and fidelity. Carrie is too self-involved to raise a family and could not even be bothered with a pet. She wants endless party, the permanent Daddy Warbuck's little girl. Her preference in men is reflected in her choice of shoes. Like her man, her shoes are all about conspicuous consumption and impractical for the long haul. She didn't want to walk along Aidan's path. She wanted to hitch a ride with Big, to wear his life as if he was a pair of shoes. Aidan is the type of man who needs a wife and Carrie is not capable. Big never needed a wife. He can afford to keep Carrie as a pet, because he finds her amusing and is immune to her tantrums.

Looking back through nostalgia yes Aiden was the one but upon rewatching the series with fresh eyes, Aiden was the one for someone else. Aiden and Carrie, was not it. If Aiden happened to meet Charlotte first, that may have been a better match. Not first marriage Charlotte but after Trey I could have seen a life with them working.

Carrie never cared to do the deep exploration of her attachment trauma, which would reveal she is an anxious attacher, while Big is avoidant. She is trained to love drama (like many people are, I can relate). Their happily ever after was only possible if they established the secure attachment, but we never saw how they did it. Period.

I haven't yet watched this video - though I definitely will - but the idea that someone can be "the one" when you clearly don't love them as much as you love a former partner, no matter how good they are for you, is really preposterous to me and I do not understand why this agenda keeps getting pushed. Carrie would've been selfish in the extreme to settle down with Aidan when she just didn't love him the way she loved Big.

Who else came back to this video after the latest Just Like That episode, where Carrie says Big was a mistake and she and Aiden are back on!!

So, Carrie wants a Sugar Daddy? I want to judge but quite relatable 😂

No, Aidan was definitely not the One. He was attracted to Carrie for the same reason she was attracted to Big - the excitement & the chase. They THOUGHT they wanted commitment, but they actually only wanted the feeling of euphoric love, which is not what commitment actually is. Carrie shouldn't have ended up with Big, either, though.

Carrie was the one! She had everything in her to be happy, and she should have looked inwards and found value and love from within. Once she is able to do that - then its easy to be happy with others around you - and when you find someone similar, who has worked considerably on themselves - look inwards, and have started to truly accept themselves as is, and love them - then its easier to make things work. In reality, the only person who got away with true love in the show is Samantha. She sees men because she wants to see them, not because she needs to see them.

Aidan was too soft and forgivable. It's not the lack of drama that turned Carrie away from him, it's his lack of self-respect. She got away with every shit she put him through. She was always so resistant towards him, and it's mind blowing he was able to forgive her. The worst thing was when Carrie asked Aidan to become friends with Big, the person she cheated him with. What a twisted psychological torture. Their meeting in the woods was just depressing and that's when Aidan was finally lost for me. Carrie needed a partner who could confront her attitude. She and Big were worth each other, both selfish and childish, sharing the same views on relationship, cheating, children, money and lifestyle. She ruined Aidan's life and it's absurd to think he was the one for her. He was a nice guy but for someone else.

Che is really not written like a 3D character, though. More like an odd collection of internet memes the writers think "woke" non binaries sound like. And a not very likeable one at that.

Carrie was toxic. Big was toxic. So therefore they deserved each other. Aiden dodged a bullet with Carrie.

Aidan was the OG Green Flag and Charming HIMBO. ♥️

Aidan is happy with her furniture designer wife, they have 3 kids and created a company that they manage together. They are a power couple, happy and she helped him heal from Carrie. That's my happy ending untill the And Just Like That writers come and destroy it :):):)

Aidan’s attempts to control Carrie got on my last nerve. He’s not a modern man who has enough confidence to be accepting of what his partner needs. The best sign of who he really is was when he tried to make room for HIS STUFF in the apartment by tossing out CARRIE’S STUFF. IN HER OWN CLOSET!

Aidan dodged a “big” old bullet when it came to Carrie. He deserved a girl who would appreciate him! Carrie wasn’t it!

Everyone legit forgets Aiden bamboozled Carrie out of 40k. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 He offered her to keep the ring without explaining SHES need to use it for the down payment, she GAVE IT BACK. He TOOK IT. He obviously returned it for the money, meaning there was the money he had put down for the down payment, evicted Carrie anyway and ended up taking the money from Charlotte’s engagement ring! LMFAO. The dude was passive aggressive, victim playing Thanos, collecting all the rings. And was married with a kid after telling Nina Katz he could never open up to a woman again, but still boning her….. Within a few months if bamboozling Carrie for 40k. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 and women really call him good. 🤣🤣🤣 He was boring, never liked Carrie’s lifestyle, only wanted to be married…. Absolutely did not deserve to be cheated on OF COURSE, but Carrie started that affair only WEEKS into knowing Aiden and before they were serious. The true victim isn’t hat whole situation was Natasha, obviously. But Carrie confessed to Aiden. Because it was the right thing to do. He dumped her, totally his right. But then when he took her back he was NUTS. Super passive aggressive and weird and was using his employee as a sexual pawn, just abjectly awful. Also WHY THE HELL DID HE GO INTO BUSINESS WITH SOMEONE CARRIE INTRODUCED HIM TO? This dude had enough money to have on hand TWO DOEN PAYMENTS FOR TWO UES APARTMENT LMFAO. He needed a broke bartender from queens as a business partner like we need another hole in our ass! He did it to ingratiate himself back into Carrie’s life and then BAMBOOZLE HER FOR 40k if she did t agree to marry him! How are we SOOOO GASLIT AS TO SEE THIS AS OK? Big sucks! What big did to Natasha is an atrocity and he knows it which is why he left her a million dollars. But bit would have given Carrie the money MO STRINGS ATTACHED. No strings attached! Bro if Carrie had wanted to become a landlord boy would have bought her a building No strings attached! INSTEAD Aiden bamboozled her for 40k. Deranged.

Adan was too good for Carrie. She loved the drama that came with big.

I'm glad someone addressed this. I always thought Aiden was the one that got away. Yes, he was too good for her. Part of me always justified the break up with the thought that he was too good to be true. As I've grown from 9 year old to 32 years old, spanning the entirety of the series, I now know that a sensible Aiden-type is possible. I wish she would have chosen him, but he was not her type.

neither were right for her. they both helped her grow (as well as hindered her). she needs to be with someone that's an aidan-big mix. maybe the teacher guy in AJLT?

Carrie was a fictional sacrificial lamb for society to see this type of situation really happen in real life - people do really behave like this. And is as normal as it is tragic. the first SITC for better or for worst has become a GOOD example to NOT FOLLOW. For the real people out there who are being toxic to others, SITC has become a tool for society to be introspective and self-compassion to stop stunting our own growth.

Now I wonder if Aidan will make an appearance in And Just Like That. Also, I wonder if Miranda's relationship with Che is really just an affair because Miranda needs challenge and it comes in the form of romance to prove how relevant she is as a well-intended ally she is constantly trying to perform for, which, is not what Che wants. Still, if Miranda is in a midlife sexual orientation awakening, it's poorly written.

Aidan was trying to change Carrie from the first minute. He never loved Carrie for what she was, he was just obsessed with the idea of having a girlfriend, and certain kind at that.

I’m here for Carrie Slander Discourse. Everyone needs their dose of Anti-Carrie Medication. 😂

Please make a video about how NYC is portrayed in shows and movies and the difference with reality.

You know who wouldn’t have had a heart attack at 60 because of his cigars, steak dinners and lack of care for themselves in their youth!??! AIDEN!!!

I mean, yes and no... not every woman wants to be a wife/mother and be all the time in the presence of each other. To me, personally, it is not so much a problem that C and A don't end up together. I see it as a learning opportunity for her that she doesn't feel as comfortable in a more traditional relationship as she thinks initially. My personal problem with the storyline is that she then turns back to Big, and he is THE ONE... I would have liked to see her evaluate what she liked about each of the boys... and then (equipped with the knowledge of what she truly desires from a relationship) find a guy who is like... well, kind of in the middle... I guess. I don't like that her takeaway is "well, I just like drama; Big is drama; Therefore I like Big."

Hot take: I don’t think any one these two men were her soulmates and I think they just propagate the idea of the fun emotionally unavailable guy vs the good boring guy. Big was unavailable and they’re relationship toxic. Aidan and Carrie had nothing in common they had to both compromise too much to feel “compatible”.

In And Just like That... we see that it's okay with Big that Carrie has her own things and goes out without him. This video kinda of suggest that not wanting to get married to one guy and have that kind of marriage means you don't want to get married at all, no matter what the marriage looks like. It drives both Carrie and Aidan nuts to be in such a small apartment together. But that isn't even a concern with Big because it's not the only option. Big gives her space while still getting a partner.

I love this interpretation that includes the choice to grow or not grow. It’s so relatable. Maybe she felt a deep need to create her romantic life as one would create the ending, Which is ultimately a solitary activity? If the creative process is to follow both relationships, they would be two very different processes. Woodworking you must measure twice before cutting. In fiction writing, the story takes on a life of it’s own. Big just seemed to offer more creativity and expression, and maybe more aligned to who she was as an artist. whereas life with Aiden was too predictably pre-formed and less creative for a writer.

Nahhh Aidan was too good for Carrie. She didn’t appreciate him, she treated him terribly, gaslighted him, cheated on him, and ordered him to forgive her for CHEATING ON HIM. Aidan deserved better. Carrie and Big deserved each other.

Many of the pitfalls that Carrie faces represent a lot of the same choices many women make. It's what makes it so relatable. However, it is also what makes her so hard to root for towards the end of the series.

I never saw SATC on first run, but did binge season one when the first movie came out. My first thought was Carrie had BPD and daddy issues, probably because she was raised by a neglectful mother. This was confirmed by the season where she worked at Vogue and later the marriage to Big in the movie. 1. There's never any mention of any of Carrie's family members until the fourth season. We meet members of Charlotte's and Miranda's families. Even Samantha talks about her alcoholic father and her mother being tied down with three kids. Carrie briefly mentions being raised by a single mom to her fatherly Vogue editor. And she acts like a helpless child when dealing with Enid. Enid expects an adult writer who can do the job, but Carrie practically whines I don't wanna. 2. Big presents as the daddy who she desperately wants attention from but can never get. His wealth is that protective cocoon most children take for granted. And when she can't get it/him she throws tantrums. Look at the wedding in the movie. Does she really need to be humiliated because he got cold feet and then realized he really did want to marry her? A serious discussion, and a possuble postponement, would have been the mature thing to do. Nope. Yell and beat him with her bouquet is Carrie's reaction. Then have her friends be mommy because daddy doesn't love her. Ugh. 3. She LOVES the drama. Pick a scene from any episode and she's having some kind of emotional blow up with her latest love interest. Getting involved with an alcoholic who hasn't been sober for a full year? Yep, dive in head first and then when in spirals out of control, she's got a drunk guy tearing his clothes off in front of her apartment. Or her harping on "the scrunchie" to the point of alienating Berger? Or trying to turn a noncommittal sex buddy into a boyfriend and having it go wrong? All so she can feel the wound of dad not being there. 4. Basing her relationship with Aidan on lies. Lying about being an interior designer on first meeting. Lying about the smoking. Lying about her feelings and later affair with Big. Aidan was all in but Carrie couldn't because her lies were too many. Is it any wonder that Aidan was crushed and spent a month in bed dealing with it? All the lies to sort through and wondering if any of it was real. Aiden's wariness and hint of bitterness when they got back together is understandable. Also, Carrie acted like a whiny teenage brat when she didn't get her way. That's why he said "I can't believe I'm here again" because he got duped again. Carrie's final lie to Aiden was saying yes to marriage and then rejecting him. Why? Because he didn't fill the daddy role that Big did. Aiden wanted a partner. Carrie wanted a daddy. 5. She confuses her freedom with a barely controlled anxious attachment style and fear of commitment. For a writer she leads the most unexamined life. She questions everyone else's motives in depth, but is rarely that rigorous with her own. Her self-doubt is helpless rumination with no clear action. That's why she keeps falling back onto Big. It's never resolved. Whether dating, marriage or death there is never anything to give her satisfaction. Clothes, shoes, smoking, drinking, an active social life, friends, a thriving career, being a published author, none of it gives her a sense of satisfaction. I don't consider Carrie to be an antihero. I see her as a troubled, middle-aged widow who will find it hard to cope as she loses her fiends to infirmity and death. I hope the writers of AJLT show her getting professional help. It would do much to destigmatize mental illness. With the death of Big, she is going to be dealing with serious depression.

This channel is one of the best! It has helped me a lot to understand cinema, movies and tv tropea! Thank you for all the hard work! Lots of Love

im gonna quote charlie from the twilight series: sometimes you need to learn to love what's good for you

I disagree with this, when u say carry should change to fit with Aidan, because Biggs wont change to fit her. Her friends thought they wanted one thing and realized they actually didnt want that, they wanted to love and be loved with someone who is comfortable for them despite the idea they/and society put in their heads what an ideal man is. With Carrie it was different, if she could choose she would not love big and be with aiden instead, to be with aiden she would have to change her values and not let go of self imposed limitations or lack of self knowledge like it was with her friends.

Aidan should thank the gods everyday he didn’t get stuck with that self absorbed, selfish Carrie. Big died young but Aidan will live a long contented life.

great job! rly loved this video! all your videos are so smart, insightful, witty, and amazing. thank you!

This girl had an allergic reaction and a panic attack to the idea of marrying Aiden and you think he's the one for her? Aiden wanted kids. Carrie didn't. I'm sorry but no this ship don't sail

The writers of AJLT basically wrote a fan fiction. They destroyed the characters we love and didn’t hire the correct writers to speak for the characters we fell in love with.

Im glad they didnt end up together... She didnt deserve him.

Sheesh this breakdown was soooo good!!! It makes my heart so happy!

I love Aiden but Carrie was always her best self with Big. They were always laughing and she was witty with him in a way she never was with Aiden. And Aiden wanted kids, and Carrie didn’t, and that should always be a dealbreaker. The main case for Aiden over Big, at this point, is that Aiden was her age and much less likely to meet his end on a Peloton.

After rewatching SATC the third times, I realized 2 things: Carrie didn't deserve Big and Aidan didn't deserve Carrie

There is a scene where Carrie realizes she is playing Big to Aiden's Carrie. She is as closed off and guarded as Big. She also views being in a relationship as doing whatever the other person wants. The second movie started with her and Big in a rut: she wants to go out and he doesn't. At the end, they are on the couch with takeout, watching a movie. Just like the first movie ended up with the wedding he wanted. Aiden needs a grown up and partner. Carrie can only be in relationships where the two people live parallel to each other: don't touch or hold each other emotionally.

I watch a lot of your videos but I must say this might be one of my favorites!

Aiden was so lucky to not end up with Carrie

I genuinely disagree. Carrie was the problem in all of her relationships and I do not think Big was the problem in the way you portray. He told her he wasn’t ready for her to meet his mother so she showed up to her church and forced an introduction, she invited herself to Paris and threw a burger at him when he was concerned about her going for him and not for herself, and let’s not forget when they were at that party and she spent time staring at the tattoo on the groin of the waiter, leading his friends to think she was blowing the guy. Carrie was the issue in that relationship and constantly pushed Big’s boundaries. I do not think he was unreasonable pre-Natasha.

Aidan was the ideal relationship guy, which is why many liked him, but that wasn’t Carrie. He deserved better than her.

Aiden was a dream man and who I would've chosen, hands down. He was too together for a person like Carrie, though. I think on some level she likes the crazy ride that Big offers. They're more suited for eachother than it seems, in my opinion. Although I like Carrie, imperfections and all (and Big too, Lord help me), I can't help but feel that Aiden was just... too good for her 😳

Carrie didn’t love aidan. It’s that simple so no she shouldn’t have chosen him. It would’ve ended worse than it already did. Her decision not to marry aidan was one of the only if not the only choice of hers i respected in the series bc i expected her to say yes it would have been a very carrie thing to do. Aidan isn’t the saint everyone makes him out to be either. He’s the “nice guy” he gives ultimatums and tries to trap carrie to seal the deal bc he is insecure and he’s passive aggressive. Obviously thats a terrible reason to get married ? It remeinds me of eric giving donna a promise ring along with an ultimatum in “That 70s Show”. That was even worse though bc they were in high school… in Wisconsin… anyway Carrie should be with big bc they are both equally repulsive and no one else in the world should have to deal with them. Eh well what do i know

They both should have realized their differences much sooner. They would have made good casual friends. They had very different life relationship goals. Aiden & Carrie tortured one another trying to force this. The themes of ‘should’ and other people’s expectations crushed them.

Aiden was a little bit codependent in trying to control her behavior (smoking). I also used to be that kind of person, but after some time and several failures, I learned that it doesn't make sense to try to change some aspects of the person you want to be with.. it makes more sense to find someone who already fits your standards.

Mneah! Carrie always had dreams of luxury, fashion, status and making it big in New York and also she loved the toxic. That’s why she wanted to get back with Berger when it was clearly not the case and loved Mister Big so much even when he was clearly using her and humiliating her. She got what she wanted and Aidan was just not it. In the end they both got what they wanted and I’m happy Aidan did not end up with Carrie. Growing up I would have agreed that he was better for Carrie but as an adult I know Carrie is also toxic and ended up the toxic man she actually wanted and deserved.

Aidan was NOT the one. He was way too grounded, conventional, and family-oriented for Carrie. He wanted marriage, kids, a house in the country, and quiet nights at home. She didn't want any of that. She was a modern New York woman who really wanted to hold onto her own independence. She wanted love too, but her ideas of love were unhealthy ones. She was often drawn to things that were bad for her, so Big really was the one.

The same Aidan that tried to lock her down with a wedding ring b/c he was insecure about her hanging with Big? That Aidan? 😒

I used to be in a long “relationship” to my best friend but we married with other people and I used to have that felling “the one who got away” BUT now I am Shure that we didn’t belong together. If things are supposed to happen THEN HAPPENS. Aidan better not appear in the next season.