The title to this video is literally what I experienced this weekend. She finally reached out after 3 years. Stay in no contact guys and keep working to on personal growth and mental health.
@Zemohc3 ай бұрын
Gotta be clear with what you want. Don't jump the gun. Relax. Count to 10. You'll have a much better outcome. I wouldnt know cause no one has come back but it's working in my professional life.
@AaronMetallion3 ай бұрын
I'll never forget Margaret, her words helped me after a breakup with my avoidant ex 7 years ago. 💜 I'm not in a relationship but I've found contentment since. I'm just here because these videos are comforting, and I like the case study to further my understanding. I've helped a number of people recognize their anxious / avoidant attachment styles since, all thanks to this channel :). Forever indebted.
@fosterfoster99133 ай бұрын
A vital part they both missed is he started acting like her father.
@user-mu2mp8ll6c3 ай бұрын
Man.....this dude was exhausting....damn
@mariotibbrine13 ай бұрын
He dodged a bullet for sure and its now her loss if someone is keeping you a secret you dont really exist you're in a relationshit they are ashamed of what you have together dont stick it out end the relationshit.
@LinkCtProds3 ай бұрын
The age gap is around 25 years which substantial.
@stompinground843 ай бұрын
What's with the calculation of the age difference? You said she was in her late 20s and the guy in his early 50s. Even if the girl was 30 and the guy 51, there is a good 20-year difference, not 15. Also, the guy sounds toxic; good for her if she has moved on. She has daddy issues...
@moneytime15563 ай бұрын
Sounds like me. Th only difference the father was not in it. I was insecure and did this with my ex and she eventually left. She was in a relationship with another girl. And I broke no contact a few times and she told me she was happy. I was hurt and I got block . Y’all are amazing for figuring things out.
@mogged11813 ай бұрын
It’ll be 6 months this Saturday and It’s just as hard to stay in no contact as when I began, just in the last 12 hours I have been fighting a war not to reach out, hard to imagine I’ll ever get over this, makes it harder that she’s starting to begin light contact with my friends but not myself, a crumb of a breadcrumb…
@yuno17813 ай бұрын
If she’s contacting friends hang in there.. do not break. If they really want to talk to YOU they will text you.
@mariotibbrine13 ай бұрын
Stay strong don't break no contact don't reach out she has work to do to straighten out this situation.
@christopherbullens54943 ай бұрын
Been 6 yrs. She broke up with. Me. 3. Yrs of no contact. I saw her in the grocery store a few weeks ago back. When she saw me she looked nervous. I felt more confident talking to another woman while she was around. Stay in no. Guys
@carlfreiermuth54243 ай бұрын
I have dated Muslim girls too.. they can be in their twenties or in their thirties in my experience and still hide every bit of Truth about their life from their toxically controlling manipulative and invasive families of origin.. ironically even though I'm from New York my family is also that way but at least now I can see it and I don't tolerate a bit of it anymore.. sometimes a major breakup can lead to a great awakening
@c.j.erickson96473 ай бұрын
This dude sounds like a super avoidant!
@asan31323 ай бұрын
My ex dumped me 10 days ago and today, on my birthday, a friend sent me a screenshot of her on dating apps......
@rulonjjj2 ай бұрын
I disagree….I wanted my ex back so badly but rejected her because she wanted to work it out on HER terms. Nope. You broke it, you can fix it and she was unwilling to put in any work.
@NolanMellows3 ай бұрын
Is there a video on whether an ex dumper will come back if you (dumpee) were the red flag? Like it was my first relationship and I didn't know how to communicate properly.
@carlfreiermuth54243 ай бұрын
sure, plenty of people not only stay in terribly abusive and dangerous relationships but they even beg to have them back when the abuser is too busy abusing other people.. do the workbooks and your relationships will be much more natural and wonderful.. for real.
@ApostleThe3443 ай бұрын
If you messed up or made a mistake that caused it you must send one text on how you messed up and recognize their feelings and reaction as a response to that red flag. Ask for a chance and let them know how you are making it right. And if they say no, you say we'll I wish you the best if you change your mind let me know take care. Problem solved
@NolanMellows3 ай бұрын
@@ApostleThe344 should I break no contact to say that
@Jess-wk5jo3 ай бұрын
Questions about affairs. 1 Is it turth that Not every affair involves sex. ARE still affair or do people need sex for affair or cheating to happen ur not 2 can people have affair or Cheat on someone without having no sex 3 .If i was dating Morgan i starting seeing my ex boyfriend Stephen start to make emotional attachment to Stephen i when i know him from school to college by texting him and meeting up and talking to Stephen on phone and thinking about him and watching films with him without never never having no sex ? Is it emotional cheating
@carlfreiermuth54243 ай бұрын
Yes, it looks like you answered your own question.. I also call it emotional cheating. I remember I had a wonderful connection with a woman and yet she turned out to be married.. we didn't kiss and we didn't have sex but she eventually really wanted to.. but I would not let it become physical if she was married.. she was still cheating on her husbands emotionally with me.. her husband does not treat her like a human being.. she stays with him because he is super wealthy.. I mean mega rich.. another married woman was getting physical with me and it turned out that she was a Muslim girl and she was arranged married at an unspeakably young age.. she has been through many terrible things.. but yes it does not have to be physical to be cheating.. a connection is a connection.. but people can have friendships.. friendship is not cheating but you never know what may develop.. actually the first woman I mentioned was also arranged married.. but from India.. we were working together and the chemistry was very natural and wonderful.. I hope all is well with her.. of course I will always care but I needed to move on for my own mental health. it was one of the most difficult things I ever did.
@carlfreiermuth54243 ай бұрын
after those two I wound up dating another Muslim girl who was actually already arranged to marry ☠️ .. of course I don't date these women knowing this.. they lie to me and tell me that they're single.. Life has been interesting 😭
@carlfreiermuth54243 ай бұрын
try to tell an avoidant how you feel.. lol.. perhaps you have heard of the term "ghosting".. avoidants avoid their own feelings so guess what they will do when other people want to talk about THEIR feelings.. I BELIEVE THEY EVEN INVALIDATE THEIR OWN FEELINGS, NEEDS AND WANTS because they think that it shows weakness or perhaps they were just hurt so badly in their formative years every time they tried to express a need or want.. so then when their partner tries to express any feelings.. they get punished.. ouch.. I'm still hurting to this day
@Lanefasts3 ай бұрын
When your ex uses the "F" word, "Friends," when referring to you, you're toast. It's over.
@carlfreiermuth54243 ай бұрын
I'm guessing the guy will be hurting for many years while the girl will either get into a lifestyle of unhealthy coping mechanisms or a lifestyle of unhealthy coping mechanisms to wind up being a cat lady.. My mom's stuck to being a manipulative avoidant into her old age and she is still at it in ways people would never believe.. but the guys are not begging and falling for it the way they used to because her looks have faded quite a bit by now. so in the end she only fools herself
@carlfreiermuth54243 ай бұрын
sounds like a pretty toxic power struggle going on with this situation.. it takes two to tango.. yikes.
@carlfreiermuth54243 ай бұрын
her having school, two jobs and in the military.. Don't pretend that her keeping it a secret from her family and keeping herself so busy looks anything like begging for the relationship.. it's actually all things that were blocking the relationship even though the guy reversed his surgery so that he could give her children.. apparently he wasn't as much of a jerk as her father was so she just wasn't familiar with the dynamic.... later in life I'm sure she will realize that she pushed away another good thing... congratulations to all the avoidants 🤷 I'm guessing this guy will need to commit to doing the work for years to try and recover from this level of hurt and betrayal.
@carlfreiermuth54243 ай бұрын
avoidants be like I need to go to college full-time and work 20 jobs just so I have an excuse to never connect with anything except for money,, those lonely people that claim they are so happy to be independent and yet you can see right through their bullshit.
@oscargamboa61613 ай бұрын
I respect you guys but why are you advising people, specially men, to act towards reconciliation after people have had intimate relationships with othet people. That never works. Its in detriment of your mental health. You cant address men psychologically the same way as women. About time to stop being afraid of hurting people's feelings. Thats where "psychologists" today have failed.
@carlfreiermuth54243 ай бұрын
how about let's let the avoidants be as avoidant as they want to be and do the work so you can find a healthier partner to have a healthier relationship without all of the horse snot.. Life is really too short for all of this nonsensical game playing
@carlfreiermuth54243 ай бұрын
she's in the armed forces?! lmfao well I guess that's a good excuse to keep busy with too besides school and all the other jobs.. what a routine. Good grief!!