That’s dope af.

Love to hear it become about recentering ones needs to desires.

Keep going sis 💞👏🏾

And thus proving why the religions say not to have sex before marriage.

@@thrilla72 why are you trying to prove being right. judge with righteous judgement. the last thing you need to do a Christian is shame anyone. You don't know what she's been through in life that made her make the decisions she made. have some grace.

@@nigerianprincess777 society has spent many years bashing these ideals as stupid and outdated. Do you think I am happy that the right answer was there all along and nobody listened. It is saddening, really saddening.

@@thrilla72 anger and hate doesn't solve anything. many have to learn the hard way. thats the choice they choose to make.its not ur place to push that anger.

Agree with this comment all the way 💯

Great now if we could get women to hold on to their virginity the job will be complete.

Violence is too common for me to explore/risk more casual interactions with men. It's not even worth it.

How does that work? It'll only work if there is a prostituted class of women (as there has mostly been to a greater or lesser degree).

True, unless they are being deceived and lied to.

Same goes otherwise. Now I know a lot of my fellow men are like that, but some of us have suffered the opposite dynamic: a female partner who dumped us bc for her sex was the be all end all. To hell with that mindset, meaningful connections are more than just sex.

@@josue.ortega na it was probably because her ex came back

@@thrilla72 so you know I wouldn't touch my x with a 100+ foot poll. Why I stayed with the narcissistic jerk is because I take my vows very seriously. But finally got divorced when my daughter was 13. Now he fought a bunch of dumb stuff so the divorce took about 3 years. During that time I met my second husband and in just a few weeks we will have been married 19 years, he became the dad my daughter never had. His first wife is the one that did him wrong. So here's a novel idea if it's just going to be a one night stand or a occasional friends with benefits thing then be honest. Ya it might not get you laid that night but oh well. Look I'm a child of the 70s and early 80s, it was the last of sex, drugs, and rock and roll. So here's the deal the guys I dated knew up front that until I met the right guy I would be dating other people. In the meantime even if dating more than one guy, if I slept with anyone it would be only one person, not all of them. Did it piss people off ya but I told them the truth. It's hard for me to trust but that doesn't mean I have ever been a jerk about it. See that's also part of building trust, telling the truth. When I met my x that was it didn't date anyone else after, I didn't know or at least realize he was a narcissistic jerk until a few years after we got married and 5 years into the marriage we had our daughter then when he realized I wouldn't be giving him all the attention it got worse. But like I said I made a vow when we got married. But things got to a total breaking point. I didn't date anyone for awhile, I had a few dates but no one caught my interest on any level, until I met my second husband, he did something no one else has ever bothered to try, he broke down the walls I had been building around me since I was little. That's part of the problem to I know I am not the only person that has trust problems because those I was supposed to trust the most as a kid broke that trust. My hubby broke through those walls with patience and caring that turned into true love. Do we argue sometimes ya but not like my x and I. We argue but we don't scream and yell, and we work it out pretty quickly. So you can make jokes and assumptions about people from one comment but you don't know jack about that person. You know what I hear from your little statement. I hear a little boy crying and screaming because they can't find someone to be in a real relationship with and for that matter can't even get laid. Got news for you kid, even if a woman has a one night stand which is fine it shows she's strong in her self, I only have a problem with anyone having a one night hook up when that person is married or in a committed relationship. Both of those things means you have taken a vow of some kind even if it's just the vow made to be in a serious relationship. And strong single woman still aren't going to have a one night stand if they don't have a little trust and the person needs to also have at least some respect for others. Your comment shows you don't have respect. So I doubt you will find any women that is or stays interested in you. Have a nice single life.

@@josue.ortega your very right it takes the right mind set to fully be committed. My hubby got burned by his x wife, sex should never be the only thing about a relationship, while it can be important to help keep a long term relationship going strong because then it's more than sex it's intimacy, but you need other intimacy as well. Holding hands, cuddling on the couch watching a movie and the rest of the so called sappy stuff. In a few weeks hubby and I will be married 19 years and I'm 57 he's 60 and we still do all that sappy stuff. Some times the sappy stuff is the most important thing.

@@mitziewheeler8517 You seriously went on that 5 minute rant because I said the ex probably came back? Seriously?

Almost like the prudes in the previous generations had a point.

I do want to throw in a caveat. Lying is one fork in the conversation. But alot of dangling also happens when women don't speak up about the relationship that they desire. Lying definitely takes away choice, but women do forfeit choice to avoid mistreatment or rejection. So even though I understand why a woman would forfeit agency in pursuing the relationship that they unapologetically want, out of fairness, I think we must define the context. Also, at a certain point, I think have to learn when to shift conversations towards encouraging men to be better instead of prioritizing ragging on them. In the quest for equitable relationships and partnering, I'm starting to see how society in turn gets lost in trauma and defining responsibility but loses sight of balance or an autonomously defined goal.

@@uwanaibanga9488 So what is your prescription?

Exactly! Don't trick casual sex out of a woman that you clearly know wants a relationship. You can't complain about all the damaged women you come across with trust issues if you're contributing to the problem. You're not entitled to sex with every woman you WANT to have sex with. So, If you know she wouldn't be down to just have sex then leave her alone and find someone who is.

@@Jalafian That is why, no sex before marriage was a thing but women have done away with that.

THIS. Seems like taking on a lot of risk with no clear reward

Absolutely. I don't see the point.

Exactly. And add the orgasm gap on top of it, there is no upside. Men generally have most of the pleasure and none of the responsibility for sexual consequences.

I think the problem comes in when people who are only interested in casual sex knowingly try to get sex from people who are interested in relationships. When your intent is dishonest and opposite to the person you're dealing with you're cheating the other person. If you go into it honestly and dealing with someone who has the same perspective that's fine. But that's not generally how it happens. If you can't tell the difference then your best option would be to abstain vs. Being damaged.

Completely agree with you on that point 💯 hard to find people that are transparent and/or want a serious relationship.

She has a video of people talking about their asexuality

Not to mention, on the topic of sex, women orgasm more in longterm relationships anyway

Like?

What exactly and why?

It's supply and demand, basic human nature. Are the men jerks or are the women playing the game wrong?

@@thrilla72 both things can be true at the same time.

And WHO keeps rewarding these "jerks"? Sex is not a solo activity..

This sounds like my dream life lol

GIRL SAME

It's very healthy 😋

this mentality is why we have all of the diseases out there. Do what you want but normalizing it. Ill pass.

I hope you get that.

Lmao YASSSSS 😂😂😂

U are pretty rare bc most men just out here sleeping with everybody. It will serve u well to keep doing what u're doing by waiting for that emotional connection so it's special. Kudos to u sir!!

@@michilove6554 thanks much. Yes I'm often told how of a rare type I am. I strongly believe my virginity is the symbol of purity and power.

You are not rare. 1/3 men are not having sex. There's more sexless men than ever before now. Don't let these conversations fool you. The average man is not out here like that.

@@michilove6554 not true at all. There's only a few men out here sleeping with everybody. Majority of men in the West are not getting it often.

Are you a Demisexual?

I wish women would understand before they lose their virginity.

cis*

Objectification at its finest.

How is the last part any different from womanizers/fckbois who lust daily after women? It's fine when a playboy is shared by multiple "liberated" women but not the opposite? Such faulty logic

It shows how some women are unable to be empathetic with a men’s experience. 🤦🏾‍♂️

The SAME woman who admitted to being "bad at sex" 😅

THAT'S who she reminds me of.....I was racking my brain trying to remember to who she looked like. She's had some shade in the comments, but what people neglect to see is that as a DSBW who is (presumably) dating BM, she is probably seen not to deserve to be courted or treated decently. She's also probably attracted a lot of dudes who don't feel the need to provide for her either or want to go 50/50 or have her pay for most things. Hence why she focused on broke men not having sex. Tunisia has responded to other comments, so if I'm off base here maybe she'll let me know.

Thank you!!!

This is why im abstaining I need something genuine and authentic I need something deeper but its not a lot of that on the scene rn

Created what exactly?

Start finding some hobbies and do push ups daily.

@Ray Allen So do you perceive I have no hobbies and don't work out at all because that's pretty Persumptuous of you. Even if I didn't do it wouldn't make a difference to my disability. The problem is when I'm out I do not feel comfortable or safe anywhere because I pass out at any time. Me passing out in a lot of different areas just because I was trying to just be out and try to get comfortable with it Or even try to get a job or hang out at a wave or convention or Whatever. I still will pass out in a public place Putting myself in danger of my stuff getting stolen, Passing In a place that's not safe like the sidewalk or middle of a floor, We're able to plan anything with anyone because at any time I hang out with anyone it doesn't make a difference what we're doing I can fall asleep and that will waste a full length of somebody's time. It's trying to do stuff regularly and not having a full night's sleep in years.

@Ray Allen Plus I also have aspergers which is a form of autism. Which means I have a very difficult time even communicating with people Or understanding Too many complex things about Communication. Yes I have been to therapist and stuff to try to deal with this and no it has not worked. Still looking for stuff to help me assist with any of my problems.

Sorry to hear that. Find things that work. Believe in your progress and keep doing it. It takes time to develop new habits. N I offered a solution and you automatically thought I was makin fun of u. Stop doin that. U gotta learn to get yourself to a positive disposition. The answers are in u not outside of u. Read more about people with your condition and how they live a life of Abundance

At all…… like it’s like people haven’t found anything else fulfilling outside of sex?! Geez

From Jared ♥️♥️♥️♥️😮‍💨

@@shanboody thanks,does he have a video or classes on it?