younger sister and brother look so evil even when they're just sitting and it really annoys me when they pretend to be cute and nice

No one is telling the parents to take sides. Just discipline your kids and tell them what’s wrong and what’s right and to have respect for one another. That’s parenting, not taking sides

Her siblings should be thankful to be Korean, West Indian mom would beat all three cus one did something wrong. 😂

My grandma has the solution to this. She just needs five minutes and a sandal

It may not seem like a THAT much of a problem right now but if they continue to think it’s okay to treat their own older sister in that manner, imagine how they’ll treat others in the future. Bullies in the making :/

The parents are so irreresponsible. That poor girl got bullied not only in school but at her own house. How stressful is she to deal with all of that. The parents don't have to choose side with 1 kid. They can just agree with the kid who's right. This type of parenting disgusts me.

To be honest the mother still looks like she doesn't care throughout this whole ep

The dicipline from parents actually is the problem, I mean, I am the youngest but I would never treat my older sisters like that.

School bulies in the making.

The younger brother scares me and I’m 16yrs older than him lmao he looks like a mobster from a Noir movie!

moral of the story: if you cant discipline kids, dont even think of having one.

The one who should be shame is their parents. Mostly asian thinks its OK/ can tolerate for the younger one behaviour, but that's where The parents supposed to act as a parents, told whats good or not. For a 12 yo kid, the way She said all negative words (she want to die, leaving house etc) as if its not a big deal is worrying.

I get mad internally whenever i see the younger siblings smiling like they do nothing wrong 😠

to be honest actually this problem start from the parents. if parent dont do anything to change their kids manner they will become violence and hurt other peoples.

And Ms.Youngja!!! I really appreciate her words~ She's the best!~

the sister & brother literally looked like bullies, idk something in their eyes, they looked so cold & mean ... the brother really looked like he's going to be some heartless mafia chef later ... i really hope the parents show the now that there are boundaries, i mean every child needs some rules, they can't just do everything themselves, they need to see if smth is right or wrong.. but if the parents don't do anything about bullying then they think it's ok.. and it's also not just some trivial things like the mother thinks, this hurts her little soul so much & can really end in her trying to run away or k*ll herself, like korea hasn't one of the highest suicide rates for nothing... people can be really heartless & have no understanding of what bullying does.. it's actually so concerning, like in germany there are often anti bully projects in school & everyone tries to make it better, but I doubt there is this awareness in korea...

Yes...Yeonja unnie drop that knowledge!

I think is really interesting how they play, because the younger siblings do the roles of king and queen and the older sister portrays the peasant (vassal). I feel like this is how they hold positions on the family and the power each siblings has. I went through a similar experience with my younger sibling and through psychological counseling I understood that sadly nobody even your family is going to stand up for you, even when you are right or they might not be able to get the reasoning behind your concern. From my point of view the mom doesn't seem to care at all, and despite the good intentions of the dad I believe this will not be resolved by simply talking to the younger siblings. Overall I do hope and send my best wishes to the eldest daughter, she seems to have gone through a lot and I can definitely relate.

I so understand how this girl feels. When I was growing up, every time my sister would fight with me I would end up getting in trouble. If she hit me first and I hit her back then I would get punished since I was the oldest which really bothered me but when my dad was still alive I could deal with it cause he was on my side. After he passed away it still continued and my sister got worse cause she realized that she cud do anything to me and I could never react and she could never get in trouble, she didn't respect me at all which was what made it hard to take care of her when we were alone. At that point my relationship with my mother was bad cause I felt like she didn't love me, I wanted to die too cause I felt like the only parent who loved me was gone and now I was alone. Years later when I was in high school my mom overheard my sister swearing at me and chasing me around the house with a shoe in her hand and my mom asked what was happening and my sister accused me of being the one doing those things so my mom realized how my sister really had been acting. She called a family meeting where I poured my heart out and she finally reprimanded my sister. After that where fights and behavior are concerned she checked my sister when she did something wrong and even though the favoritism is still there it has been easier to swallow since there is no disrespect between us siblings anymore. As for my mom, I have long accepted that she has her favorite and that's never gonna change but she does love me too, but even if that is the case all this has really damaged my self confidence and the way I feel about myself , I'm 28 years old now and I'm still dealing with confidence and self love issues so I do hope that they take this seriously cause there's still time to change it.

Her body looks 15 and her face is even older even though she's either 10 or 11 in international age stress really made her look old

It really annoyed me when the parents were like "There's nothing I can do about it..." or "I don't wanna take sides!" What are you even saying?! You two doing nothing is the problem!! You are their parents, discipline them for goodness sake!

This is what my older sister feels. We keep bickering fight when we kids. But now we are really close to each other as we getting older. Older siblings always faced this problem actually.

What makes me so mad is hat the 10 year old girl is like smiling everytime someone mentioned the things she did the Subin and i think the child that needs to be disciplined more is the 10 year old

I think this problem is so relatable to every family.

blame it on the incompetent parents. they’re trash, especially the dad that take sides.dun bully anyone, it scars them for life. its rly depressed and stressful for person too. i srsly hope they are in good relationship now. 😔

The parents should be more affectionate for the children to be more affectionate among themselves💕❤

I am also the eldest I was not satisfied and really regretted that my parents had always told me to sacrifice. But never tell others about me or respect me

I think parenting is so important here. They can't simply said to the kids that they need to figure it out by themselves because they probably don't know what they should do. Plus, the eldest is in a very crucial and sensitive age. This may can lead to low self-esteem in the future.

Ofcourse. Another hello counsler episode where parents are being told to do what they should already be doing.🤦🏽‍♀️ Parenting😐

4:31 Jaemin's probably like oh yup we know we know cuz of our Jisung (maknae on top)

I honestly think that this show should have a professional counselor I don't mean that they are bad or whatever that may be but honestly they should have a counselor.

I always heard my friends complaining about their younger siblings (I lived in Korea) but I was the younger one. My parents told me to ask my sister from time to time “Unnie am I really annoying?” If she yes then I would try to fix it, if she said no I would smile and she would give me chocolate. I sometimes wish Korea didn’t have the age ranking system as maybe these issues wouldn’t exist.

11:04 when that kid said he got stepped in the balls, Jeno felt the second hand feeling of it LMAOO he got his eyes scrunched at that

I agree with Korea’s culture, that older age should be more respected, but no matter the age, a standard of respect should be upheld. Hitting anyone of any age is not tolerable. Teaching respect for people is not taking sides.

Wow, this is the first time I've ever seen a host give ACTUAL ADVICE on this show! This is why Youngja won the entertainer of the year award! She straight up told them how to parent their damn spawn. She's not even a parent herself, but she could do a better job.

can we talk about how gorgeous jeno and jaemin looked

when she said, "👋🙅‍♀️" at the start, i felt that 😔

4:30 jaemin can relate 😂 since out baby sungie is the maknae yet also the king at the same time

These kids are lucky they live in Korea, My Mexican mom would’ve already beaten them so bad they’d turn purple(it’s happen to be once) These kids ;-;

it is not the oldest sister’s job to teach the younger siblings how to act

I can actually relate to this girl as I am around her age, and my siblings around her sibling's age. I'm usually the one who neither parents take my side, so i feel some extra sympathy for this girl as we go through he same problems- ooh and also UGH i hate those kids who act sweet inf front of others but when adults are gone they're the worst- (aka my siblings)

I think every firstborn can relate to this. You are the eldest,so you have to be more matured. Me and my brother were separated by 2 years so I can totally relate this. I also used to tell straightly to my parents that they don't love me and they just love my siblings. That's hurt them a lot but I don't even show that I regret what I said.

I'm so happy that I don't have dad and mom like this (sorry that I use the word too hard or bad) . I have 1 sister. They teach me to respect each other.they didn't tell me like you have to share this / forget it / forgive her cause I'm a big sister. And yes, we're happy!! my sister know how to be the cute young sis and I try to be a good person to her too 💕When I saw this, I feel bad with her hope you grow up with more happiness. Please smile more and the good thing will come to you dear💕

when she didn’t take jeno’s hand -:’)

Omg how those parents treated the teasing so lightly 😔

I was going to psychologist yesterday, and she said i was pretending to be stressed. 😔

The people that didn’t vote it as a concern are younger siblings lol I totally relate because my younger brother is completely out of hand, and despite being the oldest, I’m the smallest... I couldn’t really use force anymore at a certain point because words never worked. My younger sister didn’t bother me, but she would do nothing around the house and my brother would do nothing too. Just a ramble about younger siblings getting away with too much lol

My bro and sis would never bother me.i treated them just like my kids,I sometimes ground them... and it's all thanks to my parents.they so strict and never let kids shouted.

I know how she feels but where I’m from I learned to put mine in head locks and make them apologize that how that ended

I can relate. My parents always tell me I'm older so I have to help my brother and empathize with him. I have to do things for him since I'm older. I take care of everything and my parents would always call me to do chores while he plays games all day. I can't even complain or look annoyed or they'll get mad. What's different is that my problem is with my parents not siblin. Now I just want to graduate high school as soon as possible and move away overseas. They can be fun and parentlike but many times I just feel like I'm suffocating.

I grew up on a 40 acre plot of land that all my family lived on. So during the summers, there were 6 kids running around the property. When one got in trouble, we all did. I remember having to file into the house one by one and all of us getting whooped as we passed through the door. Lucky they weren't raised by my family.

I can relate so much as the oldest 😔😔😔😔

I speak from experience that one day Subin will reach a point she acts violently to her siblings and that is when she will not only strike fear in her siblings but in her parents as well. Then the relationship between her and her siblings will be broken for good, those parents need to discipline the younger ones better before Subin gets violent or the siblings do.

This is gonna be a bigger problem for the siblings once they grow older. The more they tolerate their attitude the more they'll show how bully they are until they will be the one ending up getting bullied by other people. PARENTS NEED TO DISCIPLINE THEM PROPERLY WHILE THEY ARE STILL YOUNG AT AGE.

I get her concern, I would get angry if I my siblings didn’t respect me and would treat me as a push over. It may not seem like a big problem to people but as parents they need to set boundaries, yeah they treat her like that because is her sister (and its not okay) but just imagine them treating others as push overs is simply not okay

I relate to this episode so much. I sometimes just want a parent that listens and helps instead of lecturing how to be a better older sister. And it's even worse when my parents tell their friends that I'm a teen and that's why I'm taking it so sensitively. BECAUSE I'm a teen I need someone to comfort and take care of me. I think that 50% of the problem sometimes is the parents because they don't discipline their youngest much because they think their oldest is an angel and will do anything they ask

The fact that she doesn't feel respected at all weather it's at home or at school must be really heavy on her,, she'll see people thinking of her as easy and someone to annoy and play with and that she'll stay silent. That would hurt her and instead of keeping quiet because she doesn't wanna argue she will end up keeping quiet because she will feel lonely and not supported 😔 Each human deserve self respect, it is frustrating when people doesn't respect you as a person and doesn't respect your feelings

The parents are at fault here too. As a parent, they should tolerate and discipline their children. No one should take sides. Even if she's 12, you cant just say that she should figure it out on her own. She asked for your help but thats your answer? Sounds like an irresponsible parent. And also, maybe the sister is also a bit too much since her brother and sister just wants to play with her but she keeps on declining but that's not an excuse to disrespect someone older than you. Discipline is really needed here.

In my household, these 2 siblings wouldn't be that twisted because my parents are actually good and strict. They know the concept of candy and sandals :v

You nice keep going🤗

I probably shouldn’t say this cuz it’s not related to the problem at all but nana’s smile is literally making my heart burst.

Jeno reminds me little bit of a mix of Moonbin and Donghae in some of his facial features

This whole time I was like these kids need a good ol fashion whooping

2:42 aww why don't you hold jeno hands 😭😂❤

I hate when parents tell you to be more mature when you express a problem w someone younger being mature has to do w how you handle the situation not w how you feel about the situation it still hurts even if you don't stoop to their level especially at 12 years old maybe by the time they're all in high school or college they'll understand how much they grow and change each year so they'll have some sort of sympathy for younger kids but the girl's not even driving and she wants to run away that's heartbreaking

if their parents dont teach those 2 kids. theu grow up with bad manner -_- they must be happy live in korea. if they born like me, they surely know how to respect people

I still remember when i was a kid, and my brother annoyed me for every damn minute, and my father just went "dont cry and come to me but annoy him twice" LMAO and surprisingly I and my siblings could live happily till this very day

5:46 Best annoyed reaction 👏👏👏

the woman at 5.48 issa mood

I just started the episode but jesus she sounds beaten down and sp unhappy/stressed.

Those siblings are soo lucky to have a kind sister like that, she doesn’t get scary when her younger siblings annoy her. If I try to annoy my older sister in any way or eat her ice cream I’ll be dead meat😔

They shouldve done another animation for this intro, it would've been hilarious for this concern

Sam’s story is freaking funny 😂

My siblings used to follow me around ALL THE TIME. That's really hard I can say but actually as they get older they'll eventually stop being so annoyiny

I swear the maknae looks scary 😭 I'm 18 and I'll be scared to have him as a sibling or like he looks like one of those bullied in kdramas

jeno and jaemin be thinking throughout this episode: pwark jisong

I can relate because I have a sister who always follows me where I go and bothers me, but we get along.

That's what bad parenting does, it ruins people 😔 I'm sorry for the girl

I really relate to her concern. I hv a big brother and ofc he’s a boy and barely do any chores but always got money from my dad bcs he’s sTuDyInG as if i didnt go to sch smh. So i always give hint to my parents that i hate this kind of discrimination but they didnt listen and put me in life that i hate

I think most oldest kids are relatable with this concern.. including me 😊 And as we can see here, the parents didn't do their job as a parents to their kids. The main problem here is the parents, so the younger kids didn't respect their sister because their parents never teach them 😒

Oh finally

The parents need to be involved too, not just letting them figured it out by themselves. Without the right directions from parents, it's hard for them to figure it out the right way. There will be many times they figure it out the wrong ways. That's why they take actions by hitting each other or doing violent acts. True, they need more rules. She may be the oldest but she didn't choose to be born first. Ofc, there are times for her to be responsible as the oldest but first, treat her as "child", not "the oldest". Treat the three of them equally as your children first, not just "oldest" or "younger" or "youngest". Please parent, be active in disciplining them! Parent them, guide them! -------------- Btw, 14:20 the male audience who did bite his fingers though 😂

Than, I and my sibling's is the upgrade version of them~ They are 12, 10 and 9 y.o We are about 20, 15, and 12 y.o What a life!

I can't believe this is more concerning to them than the smoking problem smh

I can never imagine being mean to my older sister

Him : your thumb hurt the most when you bit Me: bit each of my fingers

that kid has anxiety

I'm the second oldest out of all of my sister's and brothers but... even my younger siblings know not to come messing with me or being disrespectful bc I will beat the brakes off of them 😂😂😂👀👀...but also my older brother and older sister know that I wouldn't dare disrespect them bc that's how we discipline each other and how much we respect each other...also that's what are parents always taught us...but I think it's the parenting her parents need to work on bc they are making it seem okay that they just run around disrespecting people and it's not right so yea😶😶 And I'm only 15 😂😂

I can feel her pain cause I'm in here position rn.

The parents are the problem here those 2kids should be thankful that they don't have a older sibling like my brother

Me: -watching all the hello counselor vids about siblings fighting- Also Me: *laughs in filipino*

Why is everyone so nice to these kids like fr fr leave them with me id scare them without even touching them 😤

If the parents were Somali the 2 youngest would have been the one with a concern 😂😂💔

I relate to this too much and I'm also 12-

the eternal plague of the eldest sibling. i'm 20 now and this shit will never end you just gotta beat their asses until you leave for college/university lol

The parents don’t seem to care at all which is so sad! They should take care of their children’s mental and physical health as well, obesity is dangerous they might get diabetes later on which is no fun

Every time my brother would punch me or hit me my mom would let me do the same thing back to him and he wasn’t aloud to do anything about it

AWWW JENO😂😍😍😍😍🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤🤤

Totally unrelated, but the guy at 7:34 looks like a model. So handsome.

The parents seem don't care. Idk but i genuinely worried about that girl. She's being bullied in school and stress at home. She's only 12 y.o 🤦