Signs of male insecurity women hate

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Women are turned off by a lot of things guys who are insecure do. I list a bunch of these in this video.
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1:23 ending things in upwards inflection
2:23 bad eye contact
3:24 assuming you're going to be rejected
4:51 hesitating
5:51 unable to make a decision
6:45 bragging and insulting others
8:07 fidgeting
8:52 being small
9:19 buying into her nonsense (call out her nonsense / irrational emotions)
10:59 putting her first
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@TheSingleGuy 4 жыл бұрын

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@davidallenparry333 4 жыл бұрын

Very good! Doesn’t talk filler and repeat obvious!!,, gets to pts!

@nsamantinda3504 4 жыл бұрын

This dude is just going to sell our numbers to corporations in order to send us adds

@MaNuELLiFes 4 жыл бұрын

1. Approval seeking tonality 2. Can't maintain eye contact 3. Assuming rejection before it happens 4. Hesitating 5. Unable to make a decision 6. Bragging and insulting others 7. Fidgeting 8. Being small 9. Buying into her bullshit emotions Great video lloyd...

@yousfiabdelali 3 жыл бұрын

I'mma start wearing high heels

@aabahdjfisosososos Жыл бұрын

I hate myself now looking at this list…

@calamityoblivion301 4 ай бұрын

I’m actually pretty good with all this, I’m surprised

@damirs3874 4 жыл бұрын

I love how "Putting her first" is a thing women say they want in a guy.

@footballmatty9 4 жыл бұрын

They don’t actually want that in a guy it’s a test too see how the guy reacts and whether he is worthy of her. If he’s got his own shit to do then she’s gonna follow on

@ibro796 4 жыл бұрын

Yea lmao what women say and what they mean are basically always different

@fallenfreak828 4 жыл бұрын

They want an alpha to put her first. Because alphas dont put women first. Think about that for a second

@vision3691 4 жыл бұрын

That's the point, women want to chase. Don't put her first and she will stay with you until she gets what she want (which is putting her self first). If you smart enough, keep luring her. Make her think she will eventually get there. In reality a strong man will never make her get what she want.

@vision3691 4 жыл бұрын

@rozz2656 I appreciate your comment. I understand your feelings toward my comment. I learned through studying seduction, i have to consider the other person's feelings and thoughts. Getting a woman will require my full attention towards her and towards what she wants from me. She will give me what I want, also I need to give her what she wants. In america, a woman wants a man that make her chase him. If that's what she want, I will give it to her. It's not that I'm scared of losing her, it's about providing what she need from me. Let me know what your thoughts are.

@luizalouyoga 4 жыл бұрын

As a married woman I’d say you gave really good advices. Very precise. The only point I’d disagree is to not put your woman first even when you’re married. Your wife and the family you build with her should always come first, unless it’s agreed that your career will be your top priority. It needs to be talked and agreed upon by both of you.

@OffGridInvestor 2 жыл бұрын

Generally a man is the head of the household. At the early relationship stage, the guy LEADS and the girl FOLLOWS. The guy NEEDS TO lead, and when the girl is treated like a queen and the GUY is the little servant.... that won't last, that is a relationship where she's about to lose respect for the man. THAT is his point

@aabahdjfisosososos Жыл бұрын

Why watch a video that doesn’t apply to you lol

@ShivaShaktification Жыл бұрын

I agree, a loving man is a selfless man in marriage. Check your ego at the door before you decide to take that step

@drakev. 4 жыл бұрын

Assuming rejection is a problem for me I definitely need to work on it

@bugrilyus 4 жыл бұрын

Dont put her on a pedestal dude. You are the main actor of your film. Be good and be confident. :)

@miss_karenjoselin 3 жыл бұрын

I'm like that too

@xwinglover 4 жыл бұрын

The best form of confidence is not over analysing what women want and trying to capitalise on it. Both men and women alike are drawn to a man that tells the truth no matter the circumstance, they do what they say they will do, that inspire through the pursuit of their own goals, and stand up for their beliefs or for those who cannot, and if so, wrap it up in a genuine nice guy delivery. I used to play the "signs of attraction" thing when I was younger, and it was juvenile and empty. Instead I changed myself to focus on personal improvement, being real and brutally honest, and making my word my bond, and always looking for the best way to articulate my words (being right and nice don't have to be mutually exclusive). Reading cards and playbooks on women want is desperate and beta. Women see through the fake game play the moment you let your guard down. Genuine blokes real attract a greater volume of women and women of much higher class and substance.

@thecurrentmoment 4 жыл бұрын

Assume the attraction, but be ok if she isn't attracted

@calamityoblivion301 4 ай бұрын

“Fake it till you make it”

@reformedstoic1581 3 жыл бұрын

"Being small" that one was the most honest lmao

@HullRupture 4 жыл бұрын

"Buying into her nonsense" totally me! Not so much of a problem in a relationship when I'm prepared to call her out on it. but this video made it clear I set myself unnecessary boundaries during dating when I know she's bull shitting me and out of a sense of etiquette not knowing her well enough, I feel like I should just go along with it.

@miss_karenjoselin 3 жыл бұрын

Eye contact is so important, I had a guy tell me to stop looking at him on a date, I never felt like i wanted to leave more....

@eriktruedson5658 3 жыл бұрын

yikes

@Boiled-Egg-254 2 жыл бұрын

Your beautiful why would someone tell you that

@oc850 2 жыл бұрын

insecure he was, you should have dated me

@iamgoo Жыл бұрын

Desperate people in the comments. No wonder they ended up here

@arealious25 4 жыл бұрын

Looking back ..I've done all of those. But now I go in not expecting anything so I come off as more confident. Having that attitude that I don't care if she likes me or not goes a long way.

@The-EDM-Route 4 жыл бұрын

Well said

@oobibab9572 3 жыл бұрын

Facts. If she's down yeah we could both work it out, if she ain't interested I'm still cool with it. What other's opinions doesn't matter anyways.

@Wolf29222 4 жыл бұрын

It’s 3 am where I live right now, but definitely worth the watch. Keep up the good videos man

@SalimiDan 4 жыл бұрын

You can watch this at other times too, you know that, right?

@Wolf29222 4 жыл бұрын

Daniel Salimi yes but I working, and watching this while on break. I get notifications every time he uploads

@vanadis2420 4 жыл бұрын

@@Wolf29222 working at 3 am? Oof that's a hard life man, good luck for the future!

@bam68 3 жыл бұрын

the cool guy Same

@elsquibbs 4 жыл бұрын

This is really great advice. Upward inflection, not assuming the attraction, etc. all great points. I used to be afraid of rejection. Once I understood the mistakes I was making, that fear disappeared. The main thing is giving 100%. If I truly give it my all and it doesn't work, I can walk away with my head held high. No shame. Getting rejected when i know I gave 100% doesn't sting to be totally honest. Edit: to be clear, the inverse is true too. If I get rejected when I know I didn't give 100%, I get super pissed off... At myself.

@TheSingleGuy 4 жыл бұрын

Exactly man. Dealing with things not going your way makes you successful not just with women but with everything

@13sprintuser 4 ай бұрын

A master class in tonality and confidence. Dang!! Amazing!!! Thanks Lloyd

@DET_C0RD 4 жыл бұрын

People talk shit about watching videos like these but I would counter and say there’s nothing wrong with watching. It doesn’t hurt to hear a 3rd party view on things. That’s why in certain industries they pay a guy thousands of dollars to come say “hey maybe try it this way before you do it this way.”

@palmtreep5567 3 жыл бұрын

I'm guilty of the upward inflection. it also signifies discomfort. you've already helped me tons. I have a zoom date tonight with a hottie lol and ill be taking this to heart.

@scumbagjay6251 4 жыл бұрын

Awsome video as usual brotha. You actually give really genuine and honest advice. Looking forward to the next video! Stay safe homie 💪

@borislibaque1558 3 жыл бұрын

Great Video bro, something a lot of people need to hear. Love what you do, keep being the best

@owl1793 4 жыл бұрын

Grate video man, I watch a lot of KZfaq and you are the best👏🏽

@beachmountain3828 4 жыл бұрын

Haha once again, thank you Lloyd!

@tomothy527 4 жыл бұрын

Eye Contact: one of the things I can actually do!

@duonganhkiet7935 4 жыл бұрын

Really appreciate for those wise advices man!

@wizard1370 4 жыл бұрын

Excellent content. Very underrated.

@kyleparker2821 4 жыл бұрын

I have a big problem making decisions. So many options and so many different perspectives

@sadgroxui 2 ай бұрын

To support each other to make any situation good.

@alcimartinez 3 жыл бұрын

yoo u are the best at this shit because u go straight to the point and say stuff that actually helps

@ciconne 4 жыл бұрын

I've been Mr. Simp. Sir Simps-a-Lot for too long.

@stefan6768 4 жыл бұрын

Same

@fleadoggreen9062 3 жыл бұрын

Me too, I’m done with that, even tho I’m still in love with her, I’m just gonna keep it to myself and move on !

@boosthit811 4 жыл бұрын

Excellent points man!

@311i0t 3 жыл бұрын

4:36 Assume the attraction, but be ok if she's not attracted. Wise words man. I need to pass this on to my friend. I think interest is sometimes vague, particularly over text or messages when you can't always gauge the exact tone / feel of the message. Be confident, assume the attraction, but be ok if she's not attracted. don't drop your crown, kings

@webeducation 4 жыл бұрын

Example of asking a girl out: Watch the classic movie called "office space". The guy is super chill and just asks her out directly.

@jasonkingsmithking5774 4 жыл бұрын

He was also under hypnosis

@studybooks3395 2 жыл бұрын

@@jasonkingsmithking5774 😆

@fonzworthbentley7455 4 жыл бұрын

Clicked faster than a beta male makes jokes about clicking faster than a beta male

@morenokv 4 жыл бұрын

Dam that's fast!

@pgwwa2 4 жыл бұрын

Clicked faster than a beta male makes jokes about clicking faster than a beta male makes jokes about clicking faster than a beta male

@rockymckay1705 4 жыл бұрын

pgwwa2 clicked faster than beta make making joke about joke about beta males making joke about clicking faster than beta males clicking faster than beta males

@carlosc.9573 4 жыл бұрын

This is a beta male loop

@ephapax1 4 жыл бұрын

FIVE 6 MAFIA this was a good one

@ianpearson8976 2 жыл бұрын

You are the best channel on KZfaq in this field.

@Skyman08 3 жыл бұрын

Great video, I found myself guilty of many of these mistakes.

@TOCR815 Жыл бұрын

That was helpful. Good shit.

@Fearless-ex4iv 4 жыл бұрын

Awesome video man...Thinking about going out Sólo tonight and Saturday night any tips?

@E-LUV 4 жыл бұрын

Solid info. I used to do a lot of these.

@Ramenko1 2 жыл бұрын

One of the best videos on the internet. Period.

@xFlared 4 жыл бұрын

How am I supposed to be the one deciding, when I don't even have a plan on what I'm gonna eat in 1 hour.

@danyo5509 4 жыл бұрын

I’m busy as shit sometimes and don’t have time to plan all the dates. I always make up some dumb shit dates. Kinda works sometimes

@neilazeez101 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks Lloyd!

@SunsetLights 4 жыл бұрын

Love you videos loyd! Have you thought about maybe playing some chill music in the background? I can email you my own music for your videos !🤘🏽

@ManuelGarcia-no9bw 4 жыл бұрын

Hi, man i am from the dominican republic a big fan i follow all your advise they are all very good keep like that

@danyo5509 4 жыл бұрын

Only things I could use were the unable to make a decision and assuming rejection, I been working on get better at these. I just been used to thinking about others instead of myself all my life.

@goodnight1530 4 жыл бұрын

26 and single for being too nervous even girls liked me and I liked them at my work places but failed to tell them.

@gaw9716 4 жыл бұрын

Yes, believe in your self!

@AWKWARD_VLOGZ 3 жыл бұрын

3:36 🤣I'm guilty of this one but for a very good reason tho because for some reason girls act like they're afraid to say no, like i've heard of girls doing things that they didn't feel comfortable doing yet they did it anyways because they felt verbally "pressured" or "forced" into doing it so to avoid that all together I let them know from the jump that it's ok to tell me no, that way in the future you can't say I made you do anything that you didn't wanna do or that you weren't 100% comfortable with. Maybe I'm paranoid

@Carry_Rove 4 жыл бұрын

Very useful man thnx

@trevorpark8240 3 жыл бұрын

Using some attraction techniques has been really helpful in in my relationship life .

@dreadgremory9445 4 жыл бұрын

Trying to maintain eye contact my eyes (0 ) ( 0 )

@Lak3baby 4 жыл бұрын

Dread Gremory those are tits man get it together 👺

@Fearless1247 3 жыл бұрын

Ill wear my sunglasses

@DaveCurrieDesigns 4 жыл бұрын

All great tips - these definitely make a difference with women.

@adomede 3 жыл бұрын

4:17 That’s true... go for the positive. Think positive not just with women, but with life in general... that’s a Hugh value trait.

@Ramenko1 2 жыл бұрын

The game of life is to make each situation workable. To transform each occasion through the magnification of love. To give your fullest in every moment, with no attachments to the outcome. You have gained a level of self-mastery when no desire either to attain or to avoid sways your loving or your freedom.

@Coneman3 2 жыл бұрын

Agree with most of what you say but not about not putting her first. If you are in love, that’s what you do. As long as she deserves your love, that should be how it is. You both put each other first.

@ManuB3581 Жыл бұрын

Lol I have done all of this and have seen the effects in like a day !! Screwed up got it back by playing cool then again went ahead and did some of this shit and screwed up ! A lot to learn still

@wwRAGEww 2 жыл бұрын

6:00 decision making is key. Never be a confused man in a relationship EVER!

@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan 3 жыл бұрын

I am totally independent right now , so go after what I deserve , the most important thing is get out from my head

@MohamedSaid-ww7fx 4 жыл бұрын

One girl stopped me because I was unable to maintain eye contact the first we went out

@thesage250 4 жыл бұрын

Better be single then. That’s too much work for something that might not work out in the end. Lol

@arcticridge 4 жыл бұрын

gotta be in it to win it

@johnnicholas6802 3 жыл бұрын

Its really not difficult man..just have to not put a woman on a pedestal and confidently tease her every now and then, show her she's lucky to be with you It's all worth it if you have the right girl

@oobibab9572 3 жыл бұрын

Man up and take risks dude. Alpha males aren't afraid of failing. Through failure we learn. Just be cool and calm when interacting with women. Never give a hint of your insecurities. Never invest too much in a relationship. Just ride with the flow man. It's simple actually.

@sherbertvids2182 3 жыл бұрын

well every woman is different so that’s also sum to take into consideration

@craigosborne8667 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks ! For the help

@redhoodie4111 3 жыл бұрын

The fidgeting is hard for me because I have ADHD, I am extremely confident in conversations, I make great eye contact, I'm very deliberate with my words, I don't do the upwards inflection when I speak, but I sway back and forth, I tap my feet, if I have something in my hand I'm usually playing with it. I try not to, but sometimes I won't notice I'm doing it until I've been doing it for a while

@aabahdjfisosososos Жыл бұрын

You’re literally the same as me…

@HannahFaith69 4 жыл бұрын

11:08 I don't know about that. There's enough overly selfish people out there, and that is a turn off.

@henryhaxby9283 3 жыл бұрын

Thanks for video, pleased to find out I'm only 2 out

@dimex3362 4 жыл бұрын

Loyd, how come when I make eye contact with a women I might be interested in, but don’t necessarily want to flirt with in that moment, they get all weird? I’m talking about like at work with coworkers or even clients. Even if I smile it seems like they just get weird. Is this not something you want to do unless you are hitting on her at that particular moment? Does this mean you shouldn’t make obvious eye contact with coworkers and clients? This is very confusing....

@CrizpyOnyinz 4 жыл бұрын

JUST DO IT..... you'll never know unless you just do it

@stevencoil9831 3 жыл бұрын

I kissed a girl on a first date then she dumped me the next day

@xyx982 4 жыл бұрын

Here in Europe girls absolutely love that "gay type" you just described.

@Lak3baby 4 жыл бұрын

iam theking Lol u talking about that upward inflection?

@morelions4014 2 жыл бұрын

With mental health, maintaining constant eye constantly may be very difficult.

@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan 3 жыл бұрын

Live at the present , be grateful what I have , go after what I want , because obviously I have much more value than majority peoples

@evilB300 3 жыл бұрын

question for #9, what are the best responses can I get more examples? unfortunately i have fallen victim to #9

@Gaoham 2 жыл бұрын

This is not just about women but life in general

@risnandarmultimedia5296 4 жыл бұрын

ten advice is the best. put yourself, family then girlfriend.. my life is cool :D thanks

@morenokv 4 жыл бұрын

The last is key men!! I put her first and my ex fiance left me. That is what brought me here. Now I keep my purpose first at all times. Now I have a dime piece that will show up everywhere I go and wanting to take me out! I have "Purpose over P-sleeve" (Vulgar, I know but it works for me) written on my wall to always remind me that my purpose will never leave and woman are a distraction but go figure, this makes them want me more. Always keep yourself number one men, no matter how hot they are or even how good in bed they are. You are the prize!

@crazygazz 4 жыл бұрын

Its good that youv learnt less is more chicks crave attention but like my virgin friend is what you were hes a nice guy always goin to apartment helping her moving furniture n shit cause hes a pussy chaser the more he does for her the more powerful and in control she feels and he already got shredded by his ex girlfriend which was his first she shat in him cheated multiple times he would go home after they were at the club and she would continue drinking goin to after partys but some dudes just never learn

@theresag1969 4 жыл бұрын

Could it be you made excuses for her a-hole behavior because she was hot and she finally moved on because she is really a a-hole. Or she may have been a damsel in distress who made you feel like a hero but who turns out to be a very resilient distress damsel while you fall apart.

@teemadarif8243 3 жыл бұрын

Probably because you did that too much.

@thelovefairy7253 3 жыл бұрын

Greg Adams is a god-less man. Wise up dude

@CaptainProx 3 жыл бұрын

The assuming they're already saying no thing is something I've been doing, but no more. I did it mostly just to try and make them feel comfortable and that I'm not trying to push them to do anything. I guess it definitely makes you look less confident thougj

@phantomreacts 4 жыл бұрын

What if u dating a bar tender ... How do u make the decision on where to hangout??

@Snow_Pulse 4 жыл бұрын

That octopus 🐙🙌🏼

@grantklentzman1852 4 жыл бұрын

Nice job

@Robozgraggi 4 жыл бұрын

Everything checked with the exception of eye contact and fidgeting. Sucks to have ADHD.

@johndoyle7590 4 жыл бұрын

I have ADHD and I’m not like that, that’s no excuse

@Robozgraggi 4 жыл бұрын

@@johndoyle7590 Dude, what kind of an argument is that? That's like telling someone who's dying of cancer: "I have cancer too and I'm not dying, that's no excuse!"

@xFlared 4 жыл бұрын

There are guys with Tourettes syndrome having hot girlfriends. In fact there are several youtube channels dedicated just to that. Don't identify yourself with your insecurities. They're not who you are.

@GTheGenius 4 жыл бұрын

Can you do a video on buying into her nonsense & how to call her out on it.

@webeducation 4 жыл бұрын

About to close the door behind me, I look up at her, and she is not looking at me until I start the motion to turn my head then she looks at me at that precise moment in time, but I'm already in motion turning around to close the door, so it looks like I am looking away. Is there a way to recover from this?

@morelions4014 2 жыл бұрын

The trouble is I probably make most or all mistakes but , with very severe mental health, I have no clue what I'm doing. It's like trying to find a one in a million woman that will just except me for who I am. If that even exist s.

@NoObKiLlerS117 2 жыл бұрын

Hesitation is defeat.

@brentmanuel3398 3 жыл бұрын

I messed up, I got drunk and was rude to her and her friends, and everything just got worst from that point on, hung out with two time and went on one date with her, she pulled away from me since then, should I just move on?

@TanNguyen-jn1ly 4 жыл бұрын

Love this guy, straight up spit lol

@dinguschimpus3259 4 жыл бұрын

Anyone else notice that little cry for help at 6:14

@MauGeez 3 жыл бұрын

When r&b music lies to you all your childhood scary hours lol smh

@jumboegg5845 3 жыл бұрын

So what are a few good responses when you ask do you want to get a drink and she says "oh Im kind of tired, my cat needs to be be fed, etc".

@WickedNinelives 4 жыл бұрын

The lions approach!

@F0XCL0UD 4 жыл бұрын

Wow this should be the ten commandments on how shy dudes need to think

@Heeej235 4 жыл бұрын

On calling a girl on her bullshit. When does that Appy? Is it only during late into dating , relationship or can it for example be when you just started seeing her, say that she canceled on you two/three times in a row and you know she is lying.

@phatmanlovescake 3 жыл бұрын

Ive always had good eye contact since I was a kid

@ToquzOghuzKhaganatekhan 3 жыл бұрын

The insecurity is I was afraid of women , stop it , get out from my head , lower my ego , secure my bag , live the fun life first

@ryana-6762 3 жыл бұрын

just shows how much expectations women have

@a1den623 3 жыл бұрын

6:11 it looked like he was about to cry 😂

@albertoscotton4221 4 жыл бұрын

Can you explain better the point 9 with how to reply a girl tha says bullshit?

@spep1750 4 жыл бұрын

Two ways I handle this. 1. Tell her too bad she's going to miss out on a fun time. This sends a message that her presence isn't required to have fun. You're simply extending the offer to do something fun with you. 2. Don't say anything. I hate ghosting but this is a grey area. If she's blatantly lying then she has no respect for you. Stand firm and don't entertain that behavior. She'll re-calibrate and message later if she cares. Otherwise just move on.

@josiahenglishjcpsaccount9389 4 жыл бұрын

What do you do if you and your girlfriend love each other alot but when you guys decide to be toxic to each other she jokenly says I'm gonna break up with you, like I know she doesn't mean it but still it's annoying and I feel uncomfortable like it isn't funny ya know? I feel like I know she knows she means alot to me so when were toxic to each other she'll do say that not every time but sometimes

@kamogelomogadima5694 Жыл бұрын

Finally I found a video that explains what I have been thinking about. I almost cheated on my boyfriend because he is so insecure it stresses me. I'm gonna talk to him about it.