SILENT VLOG: social anxiety

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22 күн бұрын

Just a faceless 30 something loner, that avoids people and never leaves her house sharing her very ordinary life with silent vlogs for those chasing silence and peace in a noisy chaotic world...
In this week of The Loner Diaries episode I talk about my social anxiety experiences.
Remember to choose silence over chaos, and to enjoy being alone, but never lonely.
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@AfricancoolChic 19 күн бұрын

I could relate to everything you wrote in this video. Not to toot our horn, but I think people stare at us cause they think we're attractive, but because of our anxiety and the fact we dress and look different, we think the staring is negative. I also think our hypersensitivity is our superpower 🖤🩶🖤

@the_loner_diaries 19 күн бұрын

Absolutely sensitivity and hyer awareness is a super power but I also need to learn to control it otherwise it controls you. It's funny you say that, cause I don't find myself attractive because I look different and dress different I suppose but never think that people might find that attractive if that makes sense? It's like society makes you think if you are different you aren't seen, valid, worthy or pretty enough

@AfricancoolChic 19 күн бұрын

@the_loner_diaries They 💯 stare cause you're attractive and your style is different, just facts. Problem is, sensitive people don't like being stared at...

@allanmcintoshesquire 20 күн бұрын

Reading your video commentary you could be describing me in many ways. I always avoid shopping or going out at busy times as I feel like all eyes are on me. I work mostly in solitude to avoid people and hate small talk, I even switched my phone off for a week and no one noticed and I had no missed calls or messages. I hate the anxiety and overthinking that comes with being an INFJ. Apart from that I love being left alone although sometimes I do feel like I am missing out on life and it can get lonely from time to time but I realised from a young age I was "different" and would never fit in anywhere, so here I am finally in my acceptance phase of life which has helped me heal a lot of depression.

@the_loner_diaries 20 күн бұрын

I relate to this so much also far out. It’s crazy to think that so many of us feel “different” and think there is something wrong with us to then overcome that internal battle with ourselves and realise we aren’t alone. There is so many of us out there struggling with this.

@gagefoster4901 18 күн бұрын

Thank you for showing me that I’m not alone. I related to every one of your points, from headphones to feeling peoples energies and stares. It is harder as an introvert because you already get drained from social interactions quicker. I could go on forever but I just want to say I think your style is clearly cool and that’s why I would stare. Continue loving yourself and dare to be vulnerable, we’ll get through it

@the_loner_diaries 18 күн бұрын

@@gagefoster4901 I love this! You would be able to relate to the headphones as I think people see us as being rude but we are just protecting our energy 🖤

@adrianaosirish6065 20 күн бұрын

Meditation helps ....also i practice letting go...surrender , try to catch what's coming up and let it go. It'll help with anxiety .

@the_loner_diaries 20 күн бұрын

That’s what it’s all about hey. Being present and so connected with yourself that you catch it before you spiral.

@adrianaosirish6065 18 күн бұрын

@@the_loner_diaries 👍

@monagirlnyc5781 20 күн бұрын

Hey Love. As ALWAYS, I can soooooooo! As a result of us being alone so much because we LIKE to be.....we've developed what is called a "Discerning Spirit". It's a Supernatural Gift!! Something to be treasured! That's why we can NOW pick up on folks' energy; notice people staring at us; etc. etc. And I've learned not to take the stares negatively anymore. I've come to realize folks see my light, they see my glow up. That's the result of ALL the soul searching and time spent alone with Abba or our Higher Power. We actually shine and glow and that's what folks see. They can see it even when we can't!! I can see your glow and feel your beautiful and powerful energy through the screen watching your vlogs. So take the stares as a POSITIVE and do your best to continue to be God-fident and Strong when you're at the market, at work functions, etc. Mucho LOVE and Big HUGE Hug from Your NYC Twin. 🥰👑✨🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

@the_loner_diaries 20 күн бұрын

@@monagirlnyc5781 I love that you bring this positivity and wisdom to every one of my videos. We need more people like you sharing your light and bringing more positivity into this world 🖤

@monagirlnyc5781 20 күн бұрын

@@the_loner_diariesWOW!! So humbled by your comment!!! Thank You!!! It's taken me a long time and a lot of hard soul-searching work to Get to This Place! And DITTO, right back at You!! 👑🌟💕🙏🏼

@michab193 20 күн бұрын

I can totally relate. I work for a consulting firm and this usually involves a lot of networking, small talk, socializing with colleagues and so on. It's really hard to fit in. But fuck that. It's fine. You don't have to fit in. When I find myself in a situation where I feel uncomfortable around others, I just go to the restroom, take a few deep breathes and remind myself that we all are going to die soon anyway, and that these people, this situation and myself mean nothing. And if it doesn't get better after this, I just leave. 👌

@the_loner_diaries 20 күн бұрын

I love this mindset we should all have this “we are all going to die soon so crack on” basically hahaha. Appreciate this so much!

@espressocoffeeshine4346 20 күн бұрын

"Are we scared of not fitting in? Do we not want to fit in." Those are interesting questions and both correct to a certain extent. I should have wrote down who said this, but listening to INFJ videos within the last 2 months I heard it said. When we as INFJs tell others what we are thinking about, we often "offend their sensibilities." It could even be that our extraverted feeling does not want to offend others! I actually like crowds and observing people, but I don't like running into people I know. It's just going to be boring small talk that never leads to anything valuable for them or myself, or I will offend their sensibilities! But, it could be that we feel inadequate, and that's why we don't want to talk to others, that's always a possibility. But at the same time, extraverts have all kinds of events and goings on in their life that they enjoy talking about. But they really don't understand when we say, I spent 4 hours today pondering why I hate running into people I know at a store or on the street! We are private because it's hard for many others to understand the amount of time we spend thinking things through!

@the_loner_diaries 20 күн бұрын

Are we the same person 😂 I connect with so much of this that it’s crazy and I understand exactly what you’re talking about. People don’t understand the amount of time we need for ourselves. But also I think it’s takes us a long time to figure why we do, and why we can’t do what extroverts do which is outwardly connect with others. I know it took me a long ass time to realise that the connection I needed was within me, and everything else was a bonus. I spent too long trying to connect outwards resulting in me feeling worse.

@martinnilsson-om6gw 19 күн бұрын

I think something happens though, when there is somebody else there (at least occassionaly) who could really listen to us with a non judging precence, holding space for us, something that we can´t really do on our own. At least I couldn´t (and I have tried being more or less a INFJ hermit for a decade or more... well perhaps all my life). There is a beatiful youtubeclip between Stephanie Foo (trauma survivor) and her therapist Jacob Ham that I think illustrate and describe this beatiful healingprocess. Somebody who can truly listen with precence is a very precious thing but quite rare, at least in my experience.

@the_loner_diaries 19 күн бұрын

I will give that KZfaq a listen! I do think this is where us soul's that have experienced so much pain can thrive in helping others because we can truly listen, understand and be present with someone because we have experienced it within ourselves but also have analysed it and healed from it as well. So we know what life is like in the depth and darkness but also afterwards when we see light and perspective from it.

@martinnilsson-om6gw 18 күн бұрын

@@the_loner_diaries Yes it opens up possibilities for a deeper healing through human interaction. The moment of true connection with somebody else is healing. There is a lot of depth to it. Maybe it is true what you say we have to go through the deep suffering ourselves in order to help each other.

@miket1159 17 күн бұрын

Hello i see many great comments about how these videos help people relate to what they are experiencing in real life which i think is awesome. I on the other hand am the complete opposite to what this video says for example i will be the person that talks to the person sitting next to me like on the bus (I know how horrible of me) but jokes aside i have gotten to hear so many great life experiences, learnt new skills and even one time gotten candy (Kids don't take candy from stranger... Except this time it was an old lady how could i refuse.) I have gotten curious of the introverts and whatever types of social phobias are out there, no doubt i don't know many of them kinda obvious from the name but how do anyone off you like cope when you are getting a bit too much lonely, does that happen to you? But getting back on track. If you ever feel to lonely i would like to learn how you all differently cope with loneliness? And also sorry for the English is not my main language Aeeh but what can you do about it if i wrote something incorrectly.

@the_loner_diaries 17 күн бұрын

@@miket1159 I appreciate this comment so much as it brings us another perspective. Preferring to be alone vs socialising because you just is different for us. If someone engages in a conversation with me I will definitely engage as I am not rude and like you I find peoples stories and experiences fascinating because it provides you with such insight and wisdom. It’s a little hard at times to tell who is introvert or not. I am introverted by energy I need me time to reset and recharge, but I have a more extroverted personality when with friends and work cause I turn it up to be the energy they need cause I am so in tune with it. I am a bit of a chameleon which is a super power of mine. People super sensitive can generally change their persona to make others feel for included and comfortable and I certainly do that. As for loneliness, I can only speak for myself here. I don’t get lonely being alone. The only time I have experienced it was when I was in relationships because I was with the wrong people my intuition knew that if that makes sense. I craved being alone and being with myself which was a telling sign they weren’t right. I have a 12 year old son also so I have him always around when he isn’t gaming in his room, and I have my dogs which ease my anxiety so much. But also I find that you can’t feel lonely when you are truly alone with yourself and your spirit. You only feel lonely when you’re not being yourself and that’s a way of your soul saying “hey connect with me”.