I started this stage of life when I was 23, not 12

I also want to apologize for anybody who witnessed or was a victim of my extremist behavior, midlife identity crisis, drug and alcohol abuse over the past several years. Everything I went through mentally, ideologically and physically only shaped me into the young hard working black man that I am today. I still have a lot of growing to do, but am proud of my self for how far I have come as a person. I have finally found myself in this crazy world. One thing I still need to work on is my attitude and anger problems. For anybody that reads this, take my advice and don’t let anybody be a victim of your own problems and just have good intentions and and strive to be a better you each day. Lets all work on ourselves for a better and more global order of things, but first it starts with ourselves.

I'm 35 and I still don't know who the fuck i am. All I know is I constantly self reflect now and look back at how I handled situations like having a conversation and can't help but cringe at how socially awkward i felt and how weird I mustve come off to other people. Or how they may misunderstand my behavior for something negative when really I am just very uncomfortable and don't know what to do. This video helped me understand a little bit on how and why I'm like this today. Still don't know who I am though and I probably never will.

I didn't belong to any clique. My adolescence started in my 20s lmfao. That's when I started to find out who I truly am.

As a psych major, I gotta say I really dig this channel.

I have an identity crisis. I have trust issues and I don't fit in everywhere I go. But I know what I want to do and what I don't want to do, it just happens that I don't have anyone beside me

First of all I would like to say that this is the best video on identity crisis out there 😭😂👌🏾. It was enthusiastically well explained! 👏🏾

I completely failed this stage. I was outwardly successful in many areas, but I had no real identity that i was able to stand behind. I've been dealing with serious mental illness ever since. I'm 37 years old now.

I just watched 10 videos to share with my class this morning on this topic and you did a great job! I found my winner. Thanks!

I have a hard time grasping who i am because of my learning disabilities. Whenever i start to feel confident in my skills when my impairments slow me down and are pointed out by others that confidence crashes. It's hard to say "i am smart i just need extra help in some things" when adults called you lazy and stupid as a kid for struggling in math even though you got straight As and Bs in other subjects.

.... why gotta hate on canadians?

Hahaha! 5:11 - 6:10 pretty much sums up most psychology undergraduates XD It's always hard to find a decent psychologist (or especially psychiatrist) but when you do it is usually because they are cool and have a great rapport with you :) Nice video - keep up the great work!

35 and still struggling.

My son 12:11 is turning 18. I'm a shadow but been constantly reminding 3:33 to look within. I cant wait to reunite. Thank you

i just turn 24 last month and I still have identity crisis I just don't know what i wanna persue.... and find out who i am i'm lost...

I'm 32 and I've come to realise I have no idea who tf I am. I'm the jock and the nerd and the goth at the same time and can just shift my personality and interests to suit. It's served me well thus far. I run a business and have no issues getting along with the contractor or hanging out with top tier CEO's because I'm relatable and can just pop on another mask and off I go. I can dig into people's psyche's and ask the hard questions but when it reverts back to me, I get uncomfortable and I've always wondered why? Maybe it's because I can be anybody but deep down in my core, I am nobody.

I'm studying Erikson, fun vid👍

Yesterday, I wanted to be a rock star. Bought myself a guitar. Today I want to be an astronaut. I bought myself 3 books on astrophysics. Now I feel like being a psychologist. This is a true story. What’s wrong with me?

Thanks. Another good resource is the mindfulness book "30 Days to Discover Who I Am" by Harper Daniels. It's online.

i'm surprised not many people know about this.

We need to know our true identity. We have an eternal spiritual identity. But we also have temporary and changing material identities and labels. Is that who I am? No, those are passing roles that we play on the stage of life.

Very good videos Mr. Tolbert. I didn't know you started doing KZfaq videos. I loved your lectures!

Love your teaching style and these videos!

After all these years of searching who I am, I don't like or trust people who once betrayed me, it's hard for me to forgive myself, I have so much desires but doesn't have a chance to let it all out, in the end I am not worth in anyone or anything. And a lot more on my diaries. It's hard and finding myself strikes depression and suicidal thoughts

Matt, excellent video. Thanks much.

This is good stuff! Clear, direct and funny. Thanks

After I graduated high school, and after my grandmother past away I went through an identity crisis that literally lasted 8 years, up until now.. I’m 25 about to be 26. After high school i went from the Louis Farrakhan, to the orthodox Islam, to the Hebrew Israelites, and then back to being one of those trump supporting dumbasses like the type of people I grew up around in Loudoun county. Now that my identity crisis has ended I actually ended up becoming a young balanced, hardworking, black man. Respect the way you were brought up, your own culture, but respect others at the same time. Learn and grow. Never try and be something you are not. Stay true yo yourself and your intuition.

I can't relate to the highschool example. My highschool in Poland in the naughties didn't have any distinct cliques. You could identify individuals with specific interests or attributes but they never formed distinct groups, everyone talked and spent time with everyone, of course you'd have closer friends amongst them but it was never based on something so basic like interests. Me and my friends were very different from one another and that diversity of thought, value and experience helped us to grow. Perhaps what I learnt through that experience is that I like to have my world view challenged and I like to explore what other people are into. For example some of my friends got me interested in Asian cultures, another into fantasy novels, another into partying, another into crafts and do on.

Thank you for the excellent tutoring!

Thank you! Another awesome video!!!

the problem is my identity are multiple people. there are a few who take control sometimes

now that I’m not a lost soul, vulnerable to any radical teachings, I’m just glad I found myself in this world. I don’t feel the need to please those around me anymore, and I’m not vulnerable to radical extremist teachings anymore. For anyone reading this message stay away from and do not listen to people of the likes of Donald trump, tucker Carlson, or on the other end of the spectrum, the Hebrew Israelites, or radical Muslim groups, or even gangs. Find balance in activist groups, your hobbies, your career, your spirituality, or global organizations and let’s come together for a better world. I truly think this message can help someone with an identity crisis

This was very entertaining and I learned a lot. Thank you!

You are such a wonderful teacher

That's a really cool tshirt

But look at it this way: what choice do you truly have in what company you keep?

Since I was 6 years old (I'm 17 now), I wanted to become an author and write fantasy books. Every family member, every friend, every teacher knows this about me. They always ask me how my book is coming along and I always tell them it's slowly coming together. But the truth is, I don't know if I want to become an author anymore. It's hard because I always had the mindset that I was gonna be an author, no matter what. So now I feel lost and don't know what to do. Creative writing was my identity. I always referred to myself as an "aspiring author" and I don't know how to let go of all that. It's like everything I did, everything I said up to this point, means nothing. It feels like I'm throwing away my identity and I'm afraid of disappointing the people close to me. I had 2 mental breakdowns last month, where I couldn't stop crying for hours because I didn't know what to do with myself. Now I'm trying to find myself a new identity or reconnect with the part of myself that wanted to be an author. Listing my goals really helps. If you feel lost, list all the things you want to be or have somewhere in the future and then make little steps on how to achieve those things. Then improvise. I believe that it will get better and that I'll be someone I can be proud of in the future. Good luck to all of you.

Oh my God! Thanks for this video ❤❤❤❤❤🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

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Love your presentation

Cant help LOL with this!!!! The sound effects are great ahahaha so cute

I actually love this

In my school in India, there were compulsory uniforms and a lot many restrictions on what you could bring in your backpack. I couldn't explore various parts of my personality due to my social anxiety and depression. I wonder if these contributed to me being a 22 year-old who doesn't have an idea of who he is and what he wants to do in his life.

Great job!

For three cliques he used males as the default but for one clique, a female was used. For the first three male default groups, it is plausible that women can also be nerds, goths and athletes -- but it isn't plausible in our sexist society that males could be categorized in his fourth group. I wish he had used a "group of humans who are interested in art" in place of... "females who excite and support others". Other than that minor quibble, this guy looks like a lot of fun (and competent and confident) and I bet he's a lot of fun to work with!

That pink Freud shit is awesome!!!

I love your shirt! such an interesting informative video

Was that outro about Erikson supposed to be directed to a photo of Freud?

Also anyone going through an identity crisis, don’t because you will come out of it a better more humble person.

Im 25 and having a big identity crisis

The mindfulness book "30 Days to Discover Who I Am" by Harper Daniels has good exercises and lessons.

Good video Mr. Tolbert

After getting a BA in Psychology and studying multiple religions, I'm convinced that much of what we call "me" is the invention of advertising and doesn't really exist.

Where did you get your t-shirt from????

Omgoodness! This was hilarious! Good content! Lol

U explained so well

Finance also plays a major role in finding one's identity or does it?

thank you

Great video!

Awesome video tnx!

What is societal identity crises? Not all friends are beneficial for an impressionable youth

Great video 😍💯

Where did you get that t-shirt from?

My grandma married some dude along time ago then devorced him but when i was born they game me his last name. To this day i still have that last name and i swear it has something to do with my weird behavoior. Bc that last name doesnt line up with my ethnicity, my culture or anything. One day i hope to change it legally but im in a weird part of my life rn. So yeah

Second year psych class brings me here 🤧 interesting stuff

Such a good video

please upload more

I didn't expect his high school to be like that😆

He made that poor man cry!

All I know about myself is my taste in music.

I'm not sure I fell this is soooo importnat. If you were in Band, many people move past that as they get older and get into college. So I don't see high school as important as people might think. At 30, band is a different outlook than when you were 16. I think it's more important when you start dating and finding a significant other. The meshing of two identites that start to merge closer to one.

I am not what I take myself to be. I am not an engineer. I am not a father/son/brother/husband. I am not an American. I am not a democrat. I am not a Hindu. I am not short, nor heavy. I am not bald nor old. Who am I?

This guy radiats Vsauce energy.

But..I don't think cliques exist in my high school =o= p.s. I studied in China

Introduction: "Married a Canadian (unfortunately)" ...?? OOPS!! There goes your credibility, Matt Tolbert!! MEDICE CURA TEIPSUM!!!

i was depressed for 2 months straight because i couldnt form a click

So does the individual decide his identity or does society? Is identity subjectively or objectively determined?

Are you still here my man? Reply if you are :)

What happened?

guys I'm 15 my grandma and mom force me to be super duper girly so embraced it. All my friends know me as a classic girly girl but I am now realizes I don't think that's really me! but I like mini skirts, pink, and all that. soooooo now I'm just confused ughhh

whose here because of your lecturer?

Personality = Self Identification*

I have that shirt! 6 dollar tees!

He confuses cliques and crowds. Poor understanding of the research base. Also has a poor understanding of the cyclic nature of the theory.

Band and wrestling. Almost

woah! it's peter griffin!

so funny!

interesting. :)

I'm going to get a lot of hate for this but I think this can be applied to trans people to some extent.

interesting voodoo..

This dude is wak

Dude, as an American. The Canadian joke was tasteless and unnecessary. The Canadians are our neighbors and they’re great folks. Unlike you

Lol, I thought maybe you were Erik Erikson

So identity crisis is like weebs?

Terrible video, but interesting stuff

This was lame.