I’m about to foster as a single dad. So hard to find content, you’re the only other dad I’ve found online talking about this, so I appreciate it.

I adopted an 11 year old boy two years ago. He's been a challenge but I wouldn't trade him for anything. He's 13 now. His dad was physically abusive and his mom was too involved with her own stuff. I sat down with my adopted son and asked him if it was ok with him if I tried to adopt him. He agreed. He has many behavioural issues but I love him wholeheartedly.

I adopted a boy from foster care and found that there is a HUGE bias against single dads, at least initially. The key is that the case workers (the deciders) must be comfortable with you, which means they have to get to know you first. I got to know one case worker when I was helping with child care for some friends who were adopting. Because that case worker got comfortable with me, she helped me adopt too. But other case workers would hardly give me the time of day.

Adopting a child and giving her/him love and home is the most angel act in this ugly world Keep strong super dad❤️

Merry Christmas. I had a calling 2 days ago to look into adopting a child that I randomly came across in a Facebook video. I’m a single man of 33 years old and didn’t even know if it was possible for me to adopt. I have so many questions and concerns that I wanted answered so I looked for them on KZfaq. And I found you. What a blessing. I feel like pieces are all coming together for me and I am so happy there is someone else out there like me. Thank you for posting all these videos. I know they take a lot of your time and are hard work but they will definitely help so many people. God bless your family! I look forward to watching many more of your vids!

Hey man I think your awesome. Starting the process for foster/adoption and totally scared but have the same calling to help a kid out there who needs a good home. Thank you!

I've been considering foster/adoption for awhile and have been searching the internet for something like your channel! THANK YOU! I am confident this will help me on my journey. God bless!

I'm in love with this channel and it's power and growth. It helps people who want to grow In this area. For me, who wants to be a foster parent but cannot, i love seeing people doing the work I want to do.

Thank you for your kind and balanced information and sharing about your vocation to care for children. Beautiful work 💙🙏🏻🕊️

Thank you for this. I am a long ways before I can adopt myself, but this really back up and provided with info I wanted on being single dad going into the system. I hope I can provide a home for a kid or more in my life once in a position to do so.

Thank you in this video. I am a widow that is feeling the clock tick. Your page is invaluable.

Just found your channel - what a great one! Thanks so much to both you and your son for sharing your experiences and advice! I'm also single and had planned to build my family through adoption from foster care. Was licensed in 2011, but then job changes sidelined my plans. Now, 10 years later (and, coincidentally, 10 years older!) - I'm still thinking about it. Nervous, still dealing with career changes - but thinking about it. It's wonderful to hear from someone who fosters older children too. I don't know if HeartGallery does work in your state, but they do a lot of nice work here. Not just photo listings and interviews to help kids find adoptive homes (especially older kids and sibling groups, or kids with special needs), but also other ways people can help like donating to give a kid a special trip or birthday party, or partnering with Big Brothers Big Sisters for mentorship options. I'm thinking about some of those avenues while my job situation is still uncertain.

Yes! Thank you for giving a beautiful child a home and, even more, for taking the time to educate others on the process and dispelling misconceptions. With your child, and perhaps you will want to share this with others, we want to share our channel which contains diverse nursery rhymes. Some of these songs include the topic of adoption in an attempt to educate others and normalize this topic. We hope you take a look and enjoy our content.

You are doing great and the two of you are suited well in making these videos. I have not been watching these videos in sequence, but that is OK. I have adopted/fostered many children over time. I have received them on short stays and long stays, through social services and the courts, and some just overnight for their security. They have mostly been boys, but a few girls as well on occasions. Sometimes they came as pairs, being siblings or twins. Most of the children have been well behaved, all except for a set of boy twins and one single boy, who were stealing from me and then just ran away. However, I am not writing about them here. You were talking about social workers and an occasion came back into my memory that I thought I would share. At the time I had a set of 15 year old boy twins, not the ones I mentioned above, a 13 year old girl on short stay and a 17 year old boy. Then came the day when I and the twin boys had to visit their social worker. We entered into his office and before I could say or do anything, one of the boys said to him, 'This is our MOTHER! He does the cooking and washes our clothes and we have to do the washing up of the dishes and the cleaning.' They were so serious at the time that both I and the social worker just burst out laughing. I thought it would be a little fun in sharing this story with you. 🙂. All the best for you and yours.

So happy to find your channel! It's hard to find single foster parent experiences. I'm in the home studies phase. Hopefully I'll be certified in the next month. I have a son and asking to take boys (I've known for a long time I was meant to be a boy mom lol). So question for your son... What were the things in your home or other homes he was in that he liked and didn't like? I'd like to make sure my kids have proper duffle bag gear for their things. I was going to make a "welcome package" with fresh toiletries, their own towel, choice of a personal blanket if they wanted, and choice of a "stuffie" if they wanted it for comfort. What are his thoughts? Thank you so much!

I think it’s awesome that you’re doing this as a man❣️ God bless you

Hello, I am a 45 years old single male, living in Toronto. Still this year (2024) I am moving to Alberta to work as registered nurse. I was married before, but I do not intent to do it anymore. Unfortunately I did not have kids, but I really want to be a parent. As I do not want a wife, I am considering to adopt a child after I buy my house, and stabilize myself in Alberta. I really want a child to take care, pass on my values, help to grow in way to become a great person. I am at the beginning of my research, so I have a lot of questions and concerns. But my plan is something for 1.5 - 2 years from now. I hope to find all the answers until that. Thank you for your video!

39 and I'm thinking about it. Always has been on my heart to be a Dad just never worked out but I have a home,steady job and after I remodel the home I am thinking maybe of foster and adoption.

I grew up in a very dysfunctional and horrible household. Raised by a dissociated mother and a "touchy" step father. I'm probably only alive now because of the nanny my mom hired. Who was 1,000 times a better mother figure than her. So I understand why some children need to be with a single father or mother. I remember talking to my biological father about taking full custody of me but he was too busy being a dr. And my step father was a well yeah... but I didn't have the strength to leave my siblings when the cps came knocking and I lied. And umm they convinced me to keep my mouth shut...

Thanks for being honest, brother

You guys are awesome!!! 👏👏👏🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

I'm really considering the thought of adopting a child.... finically things are not bad for me...love to have a little girl wow ....

what a great person. where does this kind of person come from

sub'ed. Thanks Sir!

I’m a single dad, I have raised my daughter on my own since she was born. It will only be a few more years until she is off to college and out on her own. I have started kicking around the idea of fostering or adopting. I am a school bus driver now and I work with a lot kids in need of homes and stability. I have heard in West Virginia that single men have a difficult time in the process. This video and a few others I have seen are leading me to believe this is not accurate.

Thanks for the good info i am a single male 26 and i want my own kids but i also want too adopt first so i can have the feel for it. Again thanks for the good info

My only holdup is the financial aspect of it all I mean I have enough space enough. Room more than enough TLC I'm willing and able to Foster/adopt as many little blessings my home can possibly hold for now I'm just patiently waiting for the universe to Grant me an opportunity open up doors that are meant to be open for me😔

I do have a question for you and your son: I know in another video you talked about kids in foster care not being allowed to use social media in the same way (no images or voice recordings or videos with them, for their protection I assume). But I was also thinking about how awful it is to have only a paper sack of belongings to carry to a placement! And I thought about how online storage and portability might be comforting. Things like family photos as mementos, from wherever a child has lived and bonded ... is there any way to store such things electronically but securely, so a child won't lose those? Like, a Dropbox account they can have, to keep school pictures and family pictures, etc., so they can always access them if they want to, but they're protected from online predators? Maybe it's not so easy to do. But if a foster kid stayed with me, I'd want him / her to have photos of our time together, if he/she wanted. It just seems there ought to be a secure way to do that.

I am an asexual looking to adopt. We all know that a man or a gal a clock will tick. I do no like sex so an offspring is only adoption for myself; di you have advice for the process. I do have support from my mother and stepfather. Can you help? If "no" I understand.

I will probably have to hire nannies to help out if I am a working professional as a single parent.

Yeah, the social workers and their supervisors are biased towards certain gender of adoptive parents and that's why we have so many kids stuck in the broken foster care system here in the USA....

I want to ask,What if I want to adopt a child from another country?

There is so much misandry when it comes to adoption :(

I wish that every person got into foster care for the love of children and not just for the money, but thats true. People make money by neglecting the kids

If I'm going for ages 5-9 will they give me other ages or only what I asked for

Have you ever done any mentoring of kids by any chance? Given some things in my background from years past, I highly doubt the system would ever let me foster or adopt...and the things from the past have nothing to do with kids but the system doesn't care, they look at the types of incidents and automatically make assumptions and immediately deny the paperwork, its not only happened to me but to many others. I've been told I could mentor kids, but given the denial of paperwork for adoption/foster care not sure how they'd figure it would be ok to mentor kids....what I don't understand is my background isn't the greatest, yep I did something stupid and stole money and given where I live in a small town, its all about who you know, and what church you attend as to how much harm you can do to someone, so of course they brought felony charges against me as a result, and since the above mentioned small town buddy buddy BS they of course made it so that I had to do 30 days and 3 years probation. Which I'm not even sure really how that connects to denying foster/adoption paperwork, well I guess because I'm not an angel they see it as I can't be a parent because I was an idiot and stole money from an employer, whom we shall just say was mostly absent from his business for 4 years while I ran it for him so he could go play and underpay his employees....not an excuse but at the same time....well we will just leave it at that. I love helping kids, and have been doing so for 16 years. Not in any sort of professional capacity, but helping friends' kids over the years with school work, being a baby sitter a lot of times for them, taking them to appointments when parents are at work, dealing with their growing up, having a parent or parents absent for most of their lives, to helping kids that are heading down the wrong path, using my experience mentioned above as a way to show them what happens when you screw up, and don't do the right thing, and where it leads you in the job world, or rather the lack of you are extremely restricted as to what jobs you can do, where you can go, things you can join, etc. Its very rewarding helping kids, and watching them grow into young men/women through the years and then moving on and having their own families. I guess a lot of wanting to help kids is my step dad was an *******. I never had friends in school, never allowed to go hang out, never allowed to play sports, had to go to school and come straight home, wasn't allowed to have a part time job, etc. All the stuff kids today take for granted, I was never allowed to do...my mom tried but always lost the battle. So now when I see kids struggling, hurt, etc. it makes me want to jump in and help them.

I'm confused on how the now father works and still is with the kid. Do u gotta work from home?

If your wife is separate from you do they contact her for any reason

I’m 26 and am gay so I will probably adopt In the far future but do the agencies look at your job and salary when placing kids with potential parents

You mentioned bias that exists toward single dads - I do feel bad for you guys on that. You also mentioned that you are active in a church; do you think it helps tear down the negative reactions, if a single man is active in a religious or civic organization where his character is kind of known to others?

Would case-workers accept a 65 yr old man who wants to adopt a child?

Please can you adopt my 13years sister sir we are from Uganda please

Many thanks for taking the time to make and post this videos. Any chance I can write you to your mail or whatsapp? I have some questions and would like to have some guidance.

SC single males , can't foster

I’d rather have one really good parent than two bad ones. Doesn’t matter if you’re single or not it’s about loving and providing a good life for kids. It’s not just one way to be ☺️🤍

Thinking abt adopting later in life whether i'm getting married or not, but i'm kinda scared abt not having a big enough support group since i'm introverted as hell and don't know how to get into communities 🥲