I want to add for the record, if you are given a chance to redeem yourself, and you don’t tread lightly in your next chapter, or you make decisions that make people continually suspicious of you…that’s on you. Being granted a second chance is a privilege, but not a guarantee for changed behavior. No matter what happens next, I still believe the interview served a good purpose and I still stand by the choice to allow people to tell their own stories especially in situations where they’ve been written off in hopes that they can have a new beginning.

Da'Naia Jackson's situation is proof that its better to be single than to be mistreated in a marriage. Being married isn't always a flex, because not every marriage is a happy healthy one. Stay single until you find a man that's worth a damn.

Thank you, thank you, thank you for your kind words. I stumbled upon this video and you got me teary-eyed. You truly see my heart and mission. I just shared this video on my community tab. I want to see this video hit 50k.

I'm just saddened that had Derrick not Divorced her; She would still be with him! 😔 She sacrificed everything for him: While he got to live life as a Single Bachelor! (Not Cool) & The interviewer Laughing throughout the segment made me CRINGE!(So Childish!😡) Ladies never let yourself Go for some Man! ❤

Steph, I’m SO happy you’ve shared your thoughts. I felt suffocated by how many people, ESPECIALLY other black women creators STILL couldn’t muster any grace for the woman. You are a breath of fresh air and my witness there’s Grace in this space. Few and far 😅 but it’s there, Amen!

I watched both videos and love the dear future wifey channel. I love that she was given the opportunity to say her truth without being mocked. (It's good that Laterras thought of bringing a makeup artist but he didn't have to mention it). She was articulate and truthful. I can understand that she turned to God because the whole world was against her, she was pregnant and caught off guards when filming the "bonnet video"...that's a lot. I wish her the best!

I’m so grateful for Laterras and how he handled her and the level of grace he gave her. I thank God he saw her properly. If you have never watched his podcast, I would encourage you to do so. A man of faith who has done his work on his self. I pray by sharing her story, she can help & heal many women & men alike. We all have a story. God bless this young lady🙏🏾❤️

I watched the interview. I felt so bad for her. Unhealed trauma can really mess up many aspects of your life🤦🏾‍♀️ Also, so many young girls/women has had to deal with sexual abuse, which is alarming. I loved your analysis. I loved that you empathized with her and created space for her to learn and grow❤️

2:56 I had a whole argument with coworkers at my last job, about him being married and not stating that in his videos. This was Prior to the allegations. I told them he was a fraud and something in the milk wasn’t clean. They told me I had no idea what I was talking about and he doesn’t have to use his marriage or even acknowledge his marriage to speak the truth. These women were in relationships themselves. Older women at that. of course they threw in my face I was single and didn’t understand even called me “bitter” I felt sorry for these women because they choose to be willfully obtuse. when his cheating came out I felt validated! I There are so many women like Ms. Jackson and yet she was not granted any grace prior to this interview.

I'm glad you said the redemption of Da’Naia Jaxon. So many people didn't give her grace at her breaking point. But maybe they were triggared because they had similar situations going on. I'd just like to say, her trauma definitely was the root of what happened to her. She said at 19 years old she was raped. And 3 weeks later she met Derrick. Right there Derrick probably could see the vulnerability/target on her. And because she never addressed/healed from that, Derrick was able to break her down further.

I highly respect her telling her story and Dear Future Wifey was the right platform for her whole story of marriage and her faith journey. Honestly, I do wish she would have waited until AFTER the divorce is over. 🙏🏽 Peace to her.

She has a long way to go to heal. She shouldn't open school to help others.

Listen 😅 if you took the curse personally I’m inclined to think you were of the many folk who were so vile with their opinions and scrutiny towards her at that time. When she said that it flew RIGHT past me. Not only because I immediately understood she was speaking to those with an ill tongue toward her (and I wasn’t one of ‘em) but also because I saw CLEARLY that she wasn’t well and was holding on for dear life. Grace is so rare in this world it’s sad. So idk… I also don’t think it’s realistic to hurt someone and then scrutinize how they respond to the pain you’ve inflicted 🤷🏽‍♀️.

I love that she was candid about her situation. There are more conservative women who have a fear of leaving a situation after giving their bodies and/or vows to a man. It can seem like a failure, but ppl need to see it's not. After all that embarrassment he put her through, it was like holding a rope wrapped around your hand being tugged in the opposite direction hard... it can hurt more to hold on. All in all, your commentary is awesome!

Omg, that wig clipped was totally UNHINGED 🤣🤣

Most times the ones being negative and not extending grace to others have sooo much going on in their own lives and would do well to focus there and not on exerting the energy they need for their own matters to be ugly to someone else. May God bless D'Naia on her path to healing and wholeness and give her the stregnth to stand in those shoes that she alone is standing in

Thank you for commenting on this interview. I too watched the whole thing and noticed other reviews were still a bit negative toward her even though she was being transparent and taking accountability. I really appreciate the care you take in speaking your opinion about this woman who was fighting for life. I can always count on you to post with responsibility.

First of all, I love your intro. Secondly I really appreciate how candid and self reflective she was. I learned a lot from the things she said and while I’m sure she’s still in the process of healing, I am so happy for her being in a better mental state than she was the last time we saw her. Truthfully, I did cringe at his laughing sometimes because I felt like he was laughing at times when she was expressing herself in a serious manner. I don’t think there was any ill intent behind it because like you said perhaps that was his way to deal with the emotional weight of that she was saying. All in all it was a good interview.

Love your take on this I felt the same way i was happy to see her smile and be strong enough to laugh about it. She is definitely healing and it was nice to see.

I am all for the new content, Steph. The background, the intro AND you jumped right into it. Thrive!

I watched the interview - my take away is to operate from a place of not fear. When you operate from a place of lack, you are desperate for medicore or expected value (to be married). I watched someone who lives in her van, a lot of people question was why she is happy. We have this value everyone should live in a house or perhaps not car. To know yourself and enjoy your own company is a growth but to heal from trauma is a journey. Al is not going to create a discernment to make decision for the things we post online. Humans can, it is a question of connecting with one's authenticity. My rule of thumb is if you have to record yourself, edit in anger, fear etc then you should not post. Every post should be for your audience to bring value and positive. Your comment session should motivate you ❤

So good to see you back. I was hoping youd speak on this. Im glad to see she is healing and moving forward and was impressed at her ability to take accountability for her role in that relationship

I've seen many content creators be much too hard on her based on her childhood wounds and the trauma she endured in her young adulthood. I'm very proud of you that you showed her compassion and grace in your video.

I don't understand why people were upset at the laughing. Danaia is actually really funny.

I just think women were so cruel to her when she was going through that intial public humiliation. I didnt understand why people were saying she looked crazy in hr bonnet/beret. From the perspective of someone who rarely ever wears makeup and mostly wears tbeir natural hair she looked fine to me. It made me wonder if for some women, if you're not wearing a wig and a pound of makeup then you cannot be presentable to tbe world. It was like buzzards descending on rotten flesh for a feeding frenzy the way some women attacked her. As to the curse - I guess because I'm not a Christian it didnt mean a thing to me but it's a perfectly human response to lash out at someone attacking you. I did watch the interview and i feel so deeply for her. But I felt compassion for her before that. I wish her healing and strength. I do find this Christianity thing problematic. I'm beginning to think the indoctrination that some women experience from birth is what lead them down this path to begin with. I wish her the best.

I was so hurt at how many people dragged this woman down. Im glad she was able to tell her story. It's crazy how women tear each other down. I could never laugh at another woman's pain. Smh. Glad the world see her as the queen she is...broken but still a queen.

Blessings...always a pleasure to hear your commentary. Thank you. ...and by the way, your hair looks phenomenal.

I love “Dear Future Wifey Podcast”. Laterras is so authentic and a gem. I’m glad you understood and appreciated his purpose.

All I’ll say is this: a lot of people look at her and have a lot of judgment. At the end of the day, she didn’t have to have an interview. She didn’t have to share the ugliness of her life. She didn’t have to go into detail about the hurt she experienced, as well as the hurt she caused. There is testimony in every trial and if she chooses to shift her life and really have God work on her heart, I’m all for it. The opinion of people on the internet is never as important as the opinion God has.

I loved the rawness of her interview because she talked about what so many women are going through without them being vocal about it. Heck, she probably saved some women from walking down the aisle with the wrong guy. I loved your perspective because you examined the interview holistically and in my opinion in a unbiased way. How you and the interviewer brought her story to y’all’s platform is what “protecting black women” looks like❤

Steph I didn’t even watch the video but I missed you. I love the regular uploads.

To be honest I agree with her psalm 109 curses. Countless Strangers (majority being women) laughing at & mocking a woman who had been cheated on publicly. Then Coming on her page leaving nasty comments about her, even down to her appearance. And people expect her not to react and cuss everyone out? I love that she stood her ground and didn’t take it back!!! You said God wouldn’t permit the curses if it’s not his will (paraphrasing) but do you think he condones laughing at a woman who’s clearly going through stuff?

…i knew from jump that when she filmed that video with Derrick Jaxson that they had already been through some stuff. You could see it in her face. I’m completely stunned by the whole situation and i hope that she continues to work on her healing. 💕🙏🏽💕

Thank you so much for your very intelligent analysis of her interview. I wish her the best. If nothing else her strength and resilience has taught us a very inspiring lesson.

you really do give a clear and fair analysis of the matter. Thank you for this breakdown! Sharing to all of my friends.

Loving the rebrand of the content. So reflective and an eye opening perspective 👏🏾

I had no idea this went down but I do remember you covering this couple last year so thank you for following up with this update. I’m so glad they found their own paths and I wish her much success!

I love the hair and you look great and refreshed.

This is why I love your channel you are compassionate yet apply insightful critique without malice and finger pointing. I have nothing but empathy for Da'naia she is obviously in a cycle of abuse and destructive patterns that have affected her so deeply that the more destructive they were the more she held on. Suffering from critical low self-esteem, abandonment and unprocessed abuse is what got her here. We can all relate to Da'naia in some ways. I glad she was given the grace to speak freely and wasn't manipulated to create for "entertainment" purposes.

There are a plethora of Da’Naias cloaked in BBLs, lace fronts, beat faces, ghetto luxury, and all the other cover ups we associate with stunting, especially for the social media. I appreciate this analysis and am saddened by the fact that she was put out on front street by someone who was supposed to protect her. She unfortunately got caught up in the trappings of a certain lifestyle that was afforded to her through his deceptive cons that ended up being to her own detriment, Similar to the First Lady of many pastors preachers. Without her either helping his brand or building her own, she and her kids don’t eat. She has to start somewhere. I only pray that Laterras was being genuine in giving her a platform. Look at her now. I also pray that Derrick rights his wrongs to her , the kids, as well as himself, whether there be a reconciliation or not. Great talk!

The people that judged and laughed the loudest were some of the very people that are in similar situations… maybe not as extreme but still similar. The women I know that did not judge harshly or laugh were the ones that had long ago left relationships like hers… including myself. God bless her for being so transparent.

She got snagged by a predator. I love when people SAY girl you need to leave. He had her mind. And she held on to hope. Narcissist abuse is so evil and dark. Especially when you are with people and your not healed from old wounds the narc or extremely toxic person ,they will eat you alive. I’m glad she is on her path of healing.

Love this growth for you! I stop everything to watch your content. Many of us are navigating the same way you are, but aren’t as open or vulnerable. Really glad you covered this topic. Appreciate the balance of pop culture, think piecing, and real life content. You on a roll, sis!!

A great recap of the interview! I watched both episodes…. And between the 2 of you, I am happy to see humanity being positive towards one another!🙏🏽

I'm not only glad that she did the interview, I'm also glad that she gave some insight into her past, because it all makes sense now. When you've experienced abandonment and don't know what healthy love looks or feels like, you'll end up with what you think is love because it's more than what you're used to.

Omg, I was waiting for your commentary on this story 😅.

I knew you were going to talk about this. And I have been waiting for your reaction!

I watched both videos. The woman is going places! She’s funny, smart and beautiful. But it’s an important lesson for folks to learn, the wrong man can drive you crazy (been there). Anyone could see in her posts that she was in crisis, I’m glad she’s gotten help and is getting through. She’s strong and I pray that god continue to give her the strength to keep going!

Hey Steph thanks for your valued contribution to this conversation. I did not consider your perspective through the lens of DaNaia being a hopeful content creator. As a survivor of narcissistic abuse on the more severe side of the spectrum I found it difficult to watch the laughing and giggling during the retelling of seemingly innocent yet highly abusive and predatory tactics used by her husband. This was no ordinary relationship even from it's inception and the most important part of sharing a story this horrific is to make suseptible persons aware of the nuances of narcissistic abuse particularly in the beginning stages of the relationship when it seems to be wonderful. Otherwise, I am so happy that she is now free of him and wish her healing of the deepest and purest kind.

I was waiting and hoping you’d post something on this; love your commentary on things, you speak from a place of reason and grace💕🌸

I watched both videos and love your take on it. It’s really best to not criticize unless you’ve been in a similar situation and in most cases if you have you’ll offer grace

I haven’t watched cant wait to when I get home I always saw the light in you Stephanie when everyone was criticizing you I kept an open mind so glad I’m you doing better :)

I’m commenting this before I hear your input so I’m not biased. 1. I think she went on the right platform to share her story 2. A lot of women have been delulu over a man, I’ve seen it the most when I was in church. The church is full of Mrs. Jackson’s but there’s absolutely delulu women that’s not in church 3. I loved that she really bared it all and I know there’s a lot of women who can relate. Maybe not on the most extreme end that she constantly picked, but the wanting a person who clearly doesn’t feel the same way and accepting bottom of the barrel treatment from an emotionally unavailable man. 4. I applaud her for seeking outside help and holding on to her faith, men will absolutely take you there if you let them 5. Her having a SA she never unpacked and an absent father I’m not surprised she put up with a lot of what she did. 6. She took accountability for a lot of her actions, she admitted she was a willing participant 7. The Vagabonds prayer still rubbed me the wrong way. People called it a spell b/c while she won’t admit it, that’s absolutely how she chose to use her words. Her being dense about her intentions with how she used that scripture absolutely made me side eye her 8. If you know your man is a cheater and you’re not gonna leave, let that man cheat in peace 9. Some women who will allow mistreatment to happen eventually leave. She never left. She had absolutely NO self esteem and no self worth and after awhile I had frowned in embarrassment as I was listening because she never had her enough was enough. She absolutely would’ve snapped and killed her whole household. 10. It dawned on me when she mentioned that he said he wanted a divorce HE HAD TO END THE MARRIAGE, after all that she wasn’t the one who initiated the separation. She would still be in that marriage because she apologized to him and in return he asked for a divorce, even he couldn’t take mistreating her any more lol it probably wasn’t fun or any thrill left 11. She was forced to heal and be separated because he ended things, she would’ve never done it. They still have a lot of coparenting years left so I wonder how that will go, especially if he meets someone that he’s serious with 12. I absolutely wish her the best, she is a cautionary tale to the delulu girls, to the abandonment issues girls, I advise everyone to know their attachment styles and gather some self esteem so you don’t ever go down such an extreme path that she did. We will all have a delusional era with love and take someone back that we shouldn’t but it should never be that extreme. Your inner self worth should tell you enough is enough after awhile.

OK, first things first... your twists look amazing!!! 🤗 So cute! OK, lemme go check out the rest of the video. I'm in central Europe, by the way. 👋 I always look forward to your videos! When my husband sees me watching he's like "Oh that's the Stephco, how is she doing?" ☺️ He saw I was watching a lot of your videos the last couple of years and even watched some with me. It helps him understand me better and we enjoy the way you express yourself!

I watched the full interview and I agree with you 100% in your review of it. As always, your viewpoint is thoughtful, sensible and rational.

What I have found extremely interesting is the fact that Da'naia is not all over the internet pretending to be a "good guy" scamming money from desperate people, knowing that they are the complete opposite of what they portray. Ya'll truly reach to give this man an excuse. He built a financially successful platform based on outright LIES!

Great take Steph! Your commentary is the only one I cared to listen with this topic. Well done on your graceful approach and well-rounded perspective on the matter. Folks are hypersensitive about EVRYTHING with the exception of human decency.

Steph!!! Omg I have always been rooting for her. I have always been one see through hoteps like D Jackson and have been waiting for her to stand up this entire time. I’m glad to see she’s working through the trauma.

I just discovered this page and while I consume some of the big bloggers; this is probably one of the best insight on the interview I've heard.

She did not leave Derrick. HE asked HER for a divorce. She cannot help women leave a situation that she herself did not and has not yet left.

I was waiting for you to speak on this because I do really value your additional opinion.

I’m glad she shared her voice. It is so needed! Her story is still being written and I would be interested in reading more chapters. She is still very much in the process of healing - still wading. It’s clear there are things she hasn’t grappled with. While I think she should craft a brand - I just don’t think she’s going to get the traction she possibly could without more inward reflection. Be bold in your love of God, but coldness doesn’t have to accompany this. She was unraveling during that infamous sit down with Jackson and during the “curse” she handed down - and the dynamic interviewer was attempting to get her to stand in the fact that she was unraveling, rather than place it solely on God’s shoulders. She is not quite there and still banishes folks to hell.

Yesss. Literally about to search your name but you were the first recommended video on my timeline

Love your commentary!! ☺

This was a very classy commentary. I really appreciated it. I'm happy to hear a more positive perspective on the situation. I've checked out a few channels and I hate all the negative talk surrounding Da'naia. People are so quick to judge and forget that we're all human. Some people seem to lack empathy and compassion for others.

I usually vibe with your content, no matter the topic. This piece was all over the place. So many side stories.

It was hard watching those videos and seeing how she acutely knew about his cheating for over a decade. She lost her dad, had been sexually abused and then broken down by Derrick. I think she is so broken and I truly hope this new chapter will provide healing for her. I also hope she gets 👜 👜 👜 in the divorce, it’s her money too.

I love how she’s “glowing up” & speaking her truth! It looks like she’s getting out of that “spirit of religion” phase she was in…. If not, I hope she gets out of it soon. I went thru a phase like that after dealing with a man similar to Derrick Jackson (not as bad) and I went deeeeeeep into religion. I was clearly delusional and came to my sense😂

The man that interviewed this woman is the same kind of man that her husband is.

I found your channel last week when I watched your fertility video and I’ve literally watched nearly every video on your channel since then. You’re very relatable and interesting to listen. I love how articulate you are and your vocabulary. Keep going 💛

I haven’t even watched it yet but I’m saying thank you, because I know you won’t miss. In my mind your Dr. Stephco, your interpretations of things are so spot on. I love you 😘

Such dope commentary on the interview sis. Thank you for your content as well

Love you for this❤ you are a wonderfully kind person.

I watched both interviews too and feel like she did a pretty good job at taking accountability for the role she played in her relationship. The part that I didn’t like, which I think the person you referenced was right, was that she tried to downplay what she was doing with psalm 109. Although I wasn’t personally offended because I wasn’t necessarily one of the ppl it was directed at, I could tell her intent at the time was definitely not wholesome like she tried to make it seem in the interview. Her healing definitely will be a process and maybe helping other women will give her the time to process whatever she needs.

I do not understand why anyone would go online, watch a video about an experience they do not understand, and proceed to attack (not critique) the speaker. Why did they even watch the video in the first place if they were not the target audience? If someone gets online and says they have experienced something, the fact that YOU haven't experienced it does not invalidate the speaker's experience. Now there are some gray areas, but for the most part, if you can't empathize with the speaker, just watch another video 🤷🏾‍♀️ It's negative attention-seeking/trolling.

Pause before you post prompts sounds like an amazing idea

Can we have a moment for the hair?? This is a look!

Oh this is the video I need!! Your analysis and perspective on all this👏👏❤️❤️

I Loved the review, I always value your thoughts .. I also watched the interview and agree wenleaned alot about her and can totally relate to having a man drag you through the mud emotionally and how that can change who you are and how you act....sad but relatable...glad that space exist for her to speak and I'm glad she got the opportunity to show the world who she actually is ..

Yes I was waiting for that video 😍

Stephico 🥰 the is was an awesome analysis. You hit it from so many angles that I haven’t heard but I’ve thought of. The interview made me like her and see her outside of Derrick Jaxn. It has bothered me how cruel people namely other black women have been so harsh towards her for essentially getting the fairytale that turned out to be a glass cage. It is so good to hear another black woman handling her with grace and understanding. I am so here for her to find and monetize her own voice and mission. She’s certainly been behind the scenes long enough to know how to do it for herself and her children.

I watched both episodes and I loved your commentary. In my opinion you are spot on with all of it.

I really appreciate you and your content! You are genuine, thoughtful, and beautiful. Press on my sister and be blessed. 👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽

Had to instant sub 🤩 I see you. The journey you’ve been on and I appreciate the new you! Love and peace your way, so proud of you 🥰

Okay new set, new intro too. You look fabulous as always. Now lemme get into this video.

I think you would be a great interviewer. You are so insightful and craft your opinions thoughtfully and offer a perspective that represents the majority of us (cis black women) on a real level.

I only have KZfaq, never had TikTok or Twitter and been over a year since I quit Instagram. Social media has changed a lot. My channel grows a lot slower because I’m not following the typical growth blueprint that requires doing all the things and jumping on trends.

Good job on this video. It was coherent and graceful. Just what that lady needs now from everyone

I think that’s a great idea to pause and reflect before you post. Well said.

Anyone else was VERY put off by Laterras' constant laughter during the interview? I understand incorporating humor here and there to lighten the mood but the constant geep geeping really turned me off. Here this woman is baring her soul, telling her story of what she endured for over a decade and you're not treating it with even an ounce of the seriousness it deserves. Making a mockery of it. As if infidelity is even remotely funny. And she as the interviewee naturally fed off his energy and also went along trying to make a truly unfortunate situation humorous. I'm not sure if he was subconsciously uncomfortable because of his history with infidelity in his previous marriage (& I will say that I watched other videos on his channel that were very well done) but man, did his trivializing of her experience piss me off. Idk, I just had to get that off my chest.

Ha yes! Wild.. I was randomly thinking of you and her. E.S.P. right on time 😂

The man on Dear Wifey could have done the good deed without needing to be acknowledged for having a make up artist hired for her, let her shine. Compliment her for her beauty and tell her that you know this is really who she is. Digging for compliments was bad and not so spirit-filled. wonder about him alot. Not so Christian...

Steph we need more videos ! Please and thank you !!

I absolutely LOVE your hair like this! Right- now let me actually watch the video! 😍

Great commentary Steph! I really enjoyed your perspective.

I watched the interview & was shook. She knew exactly what she was getting herself into before she even got married. She blackmailed him twice by using the kids to be able to be with him. She moved after him 3 times. Gave up her family. She aborted babies. Ppl supporting Derrick & calling her crazy & boring are just as clueless as ppl yes queening her & saying she should write a book. We heard her side of the story. We do not know how many untruths there were as she is also a liar. She called herself manipulative. She participated in the lies Derrick sold to his audience because it benefitted her. I really do feel sad for her kids. Wish they atleast had the good sense to not involve kids in this mess. Da'naia has a long way to go, she is not healed as ppl are saying. She should focus on self respect, self love, boundaries & taking full responsibility for enabling him in this toxic situation because of her own toxicity. I could see her need to make money & thinking coaching is her way to do it but she is not ready unless she wants to grift & lie to her audience like Derrick showed her. Accountability does not only mean being willing to admit your mistakes. There is a 2nd part: Making the changes to result in different behaviors & growth. I honestly hope the best for her & her kids.

First of all your hair looks stunning ❤

We're you mad at him laughing?? I was mad at him laughing.

"If she was really healed she would understand it was wrong *to curse people". 💯 I saw SO MANY excuses for his behavior. Blaming herself at times, it was the devil, etc. I think she still wants to blame everyone but him for this situation and she has a long way to go.

Is this the same interviewer who witnessed the wig falling off mid testimony? Bc 😂😂😂😂😂