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@nominina12 жыл бұрын
I don't think I've ever commented on one of your videos before, but I just wanted to hammer in one more time the fact that there are definitely people out here who appreciate all the videos you make. I am one of them, your videos are very enlightening and I find it extremely admirable how open and honest you are about so many difficult topics. Thank you, for all the videos, for all the shared wisdom and the funny moments.
@dmackler582 жыл бұрын
Thanks Simsonico!
@dmackler582 жыл бұрын
@ameliabateman Thanks Amelia! I appreciate your words. But I also feel quite fine if people don't comment -- though, I admit, I do like it when people do comment, because it helps me to know that real people are hearing my message. Sending you a warm hello--Daniel
@dmackler582 жыл бұрын
@ameliabateman Yes! :)
@dominusbalial835 Жыл бұрын
weird the other people deleted their replies but I have watched every single video you've made except for the doctor pig series, your message is incredibly helpful and caused immense psychological transformation within me. Your videos helped me realize that I wasn't crazy, and that everything I was seeing was real. Society tried to gaslight me into thinking it wasn't.
@nighthawkviper67917 ай бұрын
@@dmackler58You're awesome Daniel! I don't have an equivalent thank you to give in the form of words... which has kept me from commenting. I surmise many others concur. Thank you SO much for this channel, and for being out here. Happy New Year!
@RevolutionaryThinking2 жыл бұрын
Analytical deep thinkers are so hard to find in the world so I’m glad your channel exists.
@russellm75302 жыл бұрын
Yeah it makes me sick how my mother got compliments for being a mother. She actually was getting compliments for torturing and destroying me.
@yvonneshanson1525 Жыл бұрын
Well said ! That's exactly what happens👌☺️
@yvonneshanson1525 Жыл бұрын
"Wherever the crowd goes run in the other direction. They’re always wrong.” - Charles Bukowski
@july75782 жыл бұрын
"I am a great mother" announced my friend the other day (referring to herself). I just stunted. I see the good and the bad in her parenting but I just couldn't say anything. Afterwards I realized that my opinion is this: it is not the mother's or father's place to say whether they are good parents or not. Because ultimately it is the child who has the last word in this. And I would like to add that when the child has grown up and is somewhat conscious of his or her traumas in the family system. But of course I felt I couldn't say any of this out loud to my friend because I fear she would have taken it as my way of saying to her that she is a horrible mom.
@Sketch_Sesh2 жыл бұрын
You raise a really good point. The child’s assessment is the final exam grade with the most weight, not the parents’ social circles who gratuitously pat each other on the back and give each other awards
@annmarie68702 жыл бұрын
A lot of mothers think they are good moms I just don’t understand why they don’t say instead, “I’m trying to better myself so that I can be a good mother.” But everyone seems to be a good mother or father or friend or sibling when in reality is that really the truth?
@mrkm84362 жыл бұрын
@@annmarie6870 yeah, i would only really trust parents who are open to learning and bettering themselves...even then, i've seen people using the phrase "i'm trying" as an excuse to never really try. Actions and results will always speak the loudest. It's all so sad
@july75782 жыл бұрын
@@annmarie6870 yes, this is an excellent point! Being a parent doesn't mean living in a vacuum. Parents set up an example for their children too on how they treat other people (or talk about other people when they are not around) or themselves, as an examples.
@july75782 жыл бұрын
@@Sketch_Sesh yes exactly. And I feel like what you described of patting each other's backs on stuff like these is the norm that we are living in, unfortunately. And seeing the world like Daniel or us supporting these kinds of ideas is sometimes so lonely because it is so on the marginal.
@katatarot5972 жыл бұрын
Walking the path that most people avoid is a very good life choice.
@jonathanalcantara33852 жыл бұрын
As a single person with no kids your videos have profoundly helped shape my values more so than any professor, professional, or adult figure. I am soon to be in the second year of my MSW program and I am taking your lessons with me on this adventure to further help and understand others, including myself. Thank you for your brute honesty, because it has so truly shined a light in my path and helped me heal myself and the world. When you expressed the anguish making these videos put you through, I was reminded that only the best things in my life have come to fruition from the struggle. I hope you continue to shine your light and be yourself, unabashedly. Thank you so much Daniel.
@annmarie68702 жыл бұрын
Good luck to you! 👍😄
@dmackler582 жыл бұрын
Yes, good luck Jonathan!
@vlogcity11112 жыл бұрын
Daniel I feel in a lot of way my upbringing was similar. My parents didn’t get divorced until I was 20. It devastated me for years because they were to preoccupied hurting and controlling each other. I realized I never had a childhood and was really never spoken to for more than 5 minutes. I couldn’t even have a conversation and didn’t know what it was until I was in my mid 20’s. Scary to think about. How parents are more concerned about their own self image and getting compliments from others, before their own child. I was forced to play sports at 5 years old I quit at 15 because I realized my dad never spoke to me, like you said he just wanted compliments from other parents about how good I was doing but never told me. Instead of telling me how good I was doing he would give me 1 or $2 per goal I scored. It felt so empty inside getting $6 after a game, I just wanted my dad to talk to me.
@kimlec35922 жыл бұрын
@ Vlog City : wow. that is extreme.
@viktoriab42932 жыл бұрын
your story is quite touching, are you ok?
@vlogcity11112 жыл бұрын
@@viktoriab4293 thank you for taking the time to read and respond. yes im doing much better now to a point i am self sufficient. with my own home land and Dog. I'm working through my past day by day. i am getting great enjoyment from reflection and improving on the developmental milestones i missed out on as a child. ive chosen a life of freedom, reflection, solitude and joy. i hope your doing well in your own life, thanks again for being concerned i appreciate it.
@viktoriab42932 жыл бұрын
@@vlogcity1111 I'm glad to hear that 🤗
@yvonneshanson1525 Жыл бұрын
Im so sorry😥.Wishing you find comfort and happiness. Sending lots of love ❤️
@nickopeters2 жыл бұрын
You deserve to have so many more likes and positive comments on this video then you so far do. You're speaking the truth no one wants to admit. Something I have realized for a long time--. That society is ritually invested in procreation but that what happens after that--; is what they completly turn their heads away from--. Thank You--.
@Nomadtherapist Жыл бұрын
There is a society beneath the surface that really appreciates you embraces your existence.
@jamesbyrne93122 жыл бұрын
I agree, its a crime to be mentally healthy, or thats how it feels in society sometimes
@island6612 жыл бұрын
💯
@Traumbewusstsein2 жыл бұрын
I can totally relate! One thing I don't agree about is relationships. I would say, having a relationship is always hard, regardless of mono or poly, especially because most people are not healed enough. so all those feelings of jealousy, anxiety, competition, needing the other to compensate for something... all that comes up. It comes up in mono and poly relationships and people in both would do better not having children. But when you heal, all these things dissolve: you don't need to "own" or "control" a partner anymore. You don't need to fear abandonment from them, you don't need them to compensate for something. You don't need to force them into some behaviour or try to be in a certain way so they still like you. And then, at least that's what I experienced and what also seems logical to me: jealousy disappears as well as the need to impose rules upon the other person like who they are allowed to have sex with or feelings for. Being healed more means being able to meet others on an equal footing and even being able to feel joy and excitement for them when they get to know someone else who they like. Also I think, monogamy as a norm petrifies the very family system that is so much screwed, because it is a little realm for itself where no other has access to and all that happens to the children there will not be seen by anyone else. Also, monogamy teaches children jealousy and possessive mentality towards persons from the very beginning. That is not to say that polyamorous relationships are automatically better. There are very screwed poly or open relationships as well and they definitely traumatize their children too when they have any.
@AstroMartine2 жыл бұрын
"love-magnet" lolol. My sister was 13 when I was born, and she got judgement when she would push me around the neighborhood in a stroller. Elderly women would be like "so young, and already had a baby?" :))
@annmarie68702 жыл бұрын
Lol Jeez. Why would someone think that?
@cricketycrickets31412 жыл бұрын
@@annmarie6870 because parents dumping their responsibility on the other child, instead of handling it themselves, did not occur to people who want to believe that all parents are awesome parents.
@AstroMartine2 жыл бұрын
@@annmarie6870 well it was not totally unheard of for a teenager to have a child, this was East Europe in the late 80s before the fall of communism. In the countryside especially a lot of girls married at 15-16.
@call_in_sick Жыл бұрын
Society can’t deal with negative emotions. They only ever want you when it doesn’t make them ‘feel’ bad.
@maquantotempo Жыл бұрын
Wowwwwwww I found my guru!!! I feel like you Daniel, totally! Thank you soooo much for doing this. You're such an inspiration; I no longer feel alone in my thoughts. Thank you for your analysis and honesty. For risking your reputation in this thick society to share your views! I wish we could be friends!!!🍎Greetings from England!
@dmackler58 Жыл бұрын
Thank YOU!!
@elodiec9423 Жыл бұрын
I sometimes feel that I am the only one I this world who took the red pill. It make me feel very lonely. Your channel make me think I am not and hope that someday I will find and connect with like minded people... Thank you for sharing all of this with us, this is truely healing.
@charlesdaubner10172 жыл бұрын
You are so very lovable Daniel, appreciated and admired.
@erockfreedom63992 жыл бұрын
Your videos and experiences, your voice, is inspiring. I have been so shut down after speaking the truth, even in a calm, boundaried way. My elderly parents are cruel, self centered. Society now = my family of origin. Despair, yes. I think despair makes sense rather than bearing teeth. Thank you. Emotions were pathologised in the revolting family i come from, sociopathic father, malignant borderline mother.
@annmarie68702 жыл бұрын
Oh gosh I’m so sorry your father was a sociopath that’s awful to have to go through.
@erockfreedom63992 жыл бұрын
@@annmarie6870 thanks. He's 80 now, though it seems like he has been turning 80 for the last 15 years The results of this are 3 children (myself, and 2 significantly older ones): my sister: dead. My brother: a sick amalgamation of both my parents. Sister and brother, 4 years apart. I come along 11 years later. They never were parents. Ever. Can't think of one moment of feeling empathy from them, care, love .... of course, their interpretation would be different.. Although i have a feeling they've just had to change their stripes and completely victim playing. They terrorized me into near death, 2 years ago this May, denied it ever happened. The interference in myself and my late sisters life (whom i love and miss), is staggering and stomach dropping.
@TVans-vs3gn2 жыл бұрын
@@erockfreedom6399 So sorry this happened to you!
@danielcarbone241411 ай бұрын
I feel less alone when I watch your videos. I feel understood and seen. Thank you.
@lesgadd09 Жыл бұрын
The courage it takes to walk the path of truth and stand and speak from your truth is from my opinion the path of Christ or Buddha or yogi teachings and I believe that it is laden w/n each of us. Yet so few walk it. Not in a religious way but deeply personal and spiritual in the true nature of who we all are when truly connected. When you go within and are open to Self you are supporting and awakening this precious truth to humanity and I honor you. You are like an oasis for my healing journey and I thank you. Please keep sharing. Keep questioning and keep honoring your truth. We accept you. And I understand that you’re hard not so much on your parents and the denials that keep people getting along in life, but challenging the mindset that keep us all stuck and the ostracism it creates when we reject it. ~ Stay golden ~ Love and light to you Daniel! 💗✨🪷
@annmarie68702 жыл бұрын
It’s okay not to want kids it’s usually those who have kids that usually asked, “are you married? Do you have any children?” Especially when I was attending church.
@cricketycrickets31412 жыл бұрын
I think it's ok for people to ask do you have children, may be just easy small talk. But if they ask why not, that's too deep of a conversation topic for someone you just met. If someone asks why you didn't have children, just ask them why they did.
@laurar.28662 жыл бұрын
It's true that we take their rejection and hate, but there is no other way. This is the right way, no matter how hard it is. Thank you again for this great video! 💜
@havadatequila2 жыл бұрын
I would bet parents "love" their kids while they're cute little babies, and when the kid hits the age where saying "no" is an option, Mommy and Daddy can turn real dark.
@yinchimoon4 ай бұрын
You are fantastic Daniel - it gives me so much listening to your ideas, confirms my own experiences of working with traumatised men who had been violent in prison, in addiction and in mental health. ...we desperately need mirrors when we are being scapegoated for telling the truth and yours is such a wonderful authentic voice, not in the wilderness although I imagine it feels like that. I think the biggest issue is isolation and whilst I have to pull out of being a therapist to heal, I see that groups which help people heal together would make that process of recovery so much easier and less alone. You are running a kind of online group here which clearly has attracted people - 11000 on my screen here. Anyway thank you - it's an incredible contribution and I hope social acceptance comes sooner than after your death so you get to bask in the sunlight.
@tribalkoala2 жыл бұрын
Your level of awareness never seizes to amaze me, societal acceptance and approval and being a standard sick “normal” person vs being a rebel to senseless norms, I would always choose being the rebel. You might be the most healthy type of rebel I know, others are either self-harming, aggressive or delusional. Your determination of following the truth and having the bravery to realize and analyse the truth is wonderful. It’s like emotional slavery to have to engage with parents after 18 when it isn’t preferred, really happy to see you get out of this harmful family system and being in a nurturing trusting relationship with yourself. I can understand it’s really tough to find similarly aware people to be a family with and isn’t as necessary without the need for bowing down to societal pressures. In the upcoming centuries I would bet family systems will change permenantly, the reason people are looking for different ways like open relations is I think because there’s lawful and fundemantal issues around how families run in our days. Thank you Daniel for a thought-provoking video ☺️❄️
@krystle85342 жыл бұрын
It's wonderful to hear someone speak their truth and not just say what will benefit them in some way. Your level of emotional intelligence always amazes me, and I highly appreciate your courage and authenticity!
@alexxx4434 Жыл бұрын
We the truth seeing/feeling ones, greatly appreciate your videos Dan. It means we are not alone in these corrupted world. Thanks for sharing your corpus of knowledge with the rest of us. Those who seek will find it. In my case YT suggestion algorithm guided me, based on my previous watch history of related topics.
@sarahjones40262 жыл бұрын
Daniel, Your work matters. The truth is dangerous to anyone who tells it. It doesn't matter how you say what most wish to deny, the outcome is the same. This the hardest road and for those of us working our own paths it is a relief to listen to you to hear the validation that the world denies us. (Round my way we call it bush slashing ie carving a path where none existed before). With gratitude and respect, Sarah
@Gypsywandering400 Жыл бұрын
Shooting the messanger… You are loved Daniel. The energy you pour into these videos bears fruit in peoples’ lives. We are genetically designed to crave societal acceptance. Gaining our OWN acceptance through understanding self, feels pretty darn good in itself.
@Thatsbannanas-d8cАй бұрын
Hi Daniel. Thank you for being, you. You feel like a healthy brother, to me. The world is nuts. Hold on to the center. I’m healing, and you have helped me.
@annmarie68702 жыл бұрын
Lol life of some relationships apparently one person trying to control the other. My ex tried so hard to be good at this and yet would get mad at me when I’d raise my voice. “None of my other friends do this” was his reply. Yeah because you don’t ask questions like I’m in the court room. People are a million times better off just being friends it’s okay to end any relationship as long as the person that is getting dumped isn’t going to go crazy. I won’t date anymore though or get married or have kids and I’m okay with that.
@xMnss8 ай бұрын
ياخي قسم بالله انك رهيب انا طول عمري وانا رافض اني انجر ورا المجتمع ولازم ادرس خطواتي وافهم كل شيء ليش اسويه وصلت للقناعة حقتك هذي وتاكدت وايقنت انه هي الحقيقة والقطعه الناقصه وللاسف حسيت بعد ماوصلت للحقيقة اني الوحيد اللي مستوعب هالشيء وكل ماحاولت اقنع اي احد بهالفكرة يجيني رفض قوي وغير منطقي من المجتمع حسيت بالنبذ افهم الحياة والوضع اللي قاعد تعيشه مبسوط اني لقيت قناتك لاني كنت متعطش لاحد يفهم ويشوف اللي انا اشوفه
@katkatkatx3 Жыл бұрын
No, Daniel, We SEE YOU! I love your videos!!!!!
@spectraamunari90592 жыл бұрын
Virtual hugs to you. I resonate with every single word. I’m a therapist and…surprise surprise….a trauma survivor. It takes so much to go against the grain. You are not alone. You are heard. You are appreciated.
@dmackler582 жыл бұрын
Thanks! Daniel
@SD-rm5ty Жыл бұрын
I had a child before I knew or understood the severity of my traumas and after I had him I realized why I shouldn't have anymore especially due to the current state of affairs, all I can do is learn and continue to heal and be a better mother for him for the time we have left.
@stefanolsson49862 жыл бұрын
Thank you! From Sweden the world needs more People like you!
@SteveJones3792 жыл бұрын
Life (living) can be so difficult. Why do people risk bringing children into this awful inhumane structure? Seems very selfish on procreators part, like they “know” it’s best. For whom?
@mohsin_moin-ur-rasheed2 жыл бұрын
Thank you, for articulating what I wanted to say to the world, for voicing my heart and soul, for validating my thoughts; my whole being and especially for letting me know I am not alone in this. Thanks
@ravensky3330 Жыл бұрын
Just love you!!!!!!!!! I hope you exercise or go on long walks. I've never had kids,never been married,am 57 so I relate to you on everything. I just have to go on my long walks everyday to stay centered. I walk with small weights. Love all your videos!!!!!!
@uzhanofchaos Жыл бұрын
Keep it up daniel, i FUCKING LOVE THE RAWNESS OF THE VIDEO
@theelectricalengineer Жыл бұрын
+ an extra reflection to what you already discussed, it's especially frustrating how much kudos dads (or just being a man being with a child) get just for doing 5 mins of the work a mother does all the time without any praise or attention. It's a very dishonest and inconsistent world, and definitely not a meritocracy on any level. + Being a "more acceptable parent" doesn't lead to as much acceptance as other parents, it leads to *less acceptance* than a "normal parent" and it's really difficult work, as you say. Going against the tide is always difficult. I hope the tide is genuinely turning ❤❤❤❤
@loombaron Жыл бұрын
You dont need to be accepted, you only need to be loved. Being accepted means that you are what another person wants you to be like, being love means that they like the way you are.
@ginagg2002 жыл бұрын
You saved my life, Daniel.
@astercorreia37562 жыл бұрын
Thank you for telling the truth. Your messages help me feel less alone in this society. Your personal sacrifice and bravery are so appreciated ❤️ Deepest gratitude!!
@idcb67182 жыл бұрын
people obsessive with babies like they obsessive with new gadgets and iphone because they view both as objects to use
@mike-cq2we2 жыл бұрын
You are real and honest, do keep updating the videos and we're there all the time.
@alejandro1979x2 жыл бұрын
Dude, I love your videos and honesty. Simple as that 🙌
@Rose-gf2pw2 жыл бұрын
Forever grateful for you. Your impact is huge and will continue to be. You are doing such important work. I strive to be as courageous as you! The truth is medicine and you are a healer, Daniel! Enjoy being alive, enjoy nature, peace be upon you ☀️🏞
@lilyghassemzadeh9 ай бұрын
Hi Daniel, I'm about your age, but I'm sure there are many young people here listening to you who are sort of your children, because you are more competent and knowledgeable than their own parents, therefore you are the one who is teaching them about life!
@alexadellastella5247 Жыл бұрын
Thank you so much for the efforts you make to do these videos with your raw honesty and analysis from your knowledge and experience. So much value, it helps me to breathe in this fake wolrd with no desire of depth and truth, I suffocate so much on earth, thank you for helping me breathing...
@zineb33512 жыл бұрын
What I have noticed is that society will reject people for not having kids and for taking a different and more enlightened path but life will reward those for making better decisions. I see now that people who decided to have kids pay the price for that when they're not outside getting complements from strangers. They face reality alone behind closed doors. Life rewards good decisions like Daniel said in one of the videos.
@jamesbyrne93122 жыл бұрын
this open relationhip thing is a joke, people are lying to themelves, its like a who will swerve first when it comes to admitting love and need of love
@lucydoran24702 жыл бұрын
Hi Daniel, I appreciate your videos, and you as a person. I feel a deep safety in hearing your commitment to facing the truth. Lucy
@lakshaygosain88812 жыл бұрын
Perfect timing. I was dating a guy who wanted open relationship. As soon as I found out, I ended. Amazing that this timing is perfect. And now I weed out everyone who wants open or enm relationships!
@Maaraujo72 жыл бұрын
It would be nice to say even more, a whole hour on this topic. Including everything, social media, images, billboards, advertisements, every little unhealthy thing there is created by society that is passed as a “norm” alcoholism is the one I dislike the most. The sufferings of the dependence on alcohol over American veterans and civilians is just sickening.
@oscarwahlstrom54262 жыл бұрын
I think it was very refreshing to hear the human behind all this excellent content you create. I recognize myself very much in this description and benefit from the reflection you give me. I just wanted to say that for a teacher it is not only important to learn the taught subject but also to learn how to stay healthy oneself while teaching and how to best convey the subject. While listening to this I thought about the analogy you made in a recent video about the male bird that died in the process of feeding his family. I hope you keep this in mind yourself, Daniel, because it is sometimes difficult to remember. If you don't get a strong feeling after making a video that it feels good overall then maybe it is a sign that you need to take a break and care for yourself for a while. Remember to only give your surplus to others.
@francescacastellano56812 жыл бұрын
Hey Daniel! Takes alot of courage to express the truth. Each video of yours that I view validates my own experience. I greatly appreciate your willingness to put your self out here and risk negative responses from those who are not conscious of their own trauma. I can see how stressful this is for you and admire your allegiance to the Truth. The Truth sets us free irregardless of how painful it can be! Thank you 🙏
@5DNRG Жыл бұрын
I have been ultra blessed in that, since I was a child, I never cared what "the public" thinks about me, much to my parents' consternation. Of course, I can perceive others' judging as they do, but it is clear any criticism is always about them because it's their own projection of their SELF-criticism. Life is too short to care what anyone else thinks about you.
@nicktaber2969 Жыл бұрын
This is huge stuff Daniel. YOu're doing a world of good. Thank you
@bluecolumbine2 жыл бұрын
This is SO GOOD!!!!!! 👏👏👏👏👏
@gabegibby65156 ай бұрын
This is so spot on. “Real man” is so weaponized. Its using shame to make people conform.
@joel66332 жыл бұрын
Hi Daniel! i just wanted to salute you for being true, it's very brave and very strong of you. Then I also wanted to share some thoughts on this subject; it's true that many people live in denial and don't make an effort to heal in any way, but don't be too upset about that, it's just the way of life that some people are comfortable lying to themselves and not sending truth and love to others, just try your best to ignore them, they don't deserve your time and energy. Also I would add that not every family system is a failure, some make it work pretty well actually, so there is hope i think
@LSA_ART7 ай бұрын
Thank you for your work and efforts in making these videos ❤️
@Flynnmiv6 ай бұрын
I love you David, and what you are doing.
@The.Pickle2 жыл бұрын
This was such an eloquent breath of fresh air, an amazing video I hope more [people see.
@one15112 жыл бұрын
I can dig it! Right on brother. I feel you. I appreciate your voice.
@josgoossens90592 жыл бұрын
Luke 6:26 - Woe unto you, when all men shall speak well of you! for so did their fathers to the false prophets. Proverbs 28:23 - He that rebuketh a man afterwards shall find more favour than he that flattereth with the tongue. Proverbs 26:28 - A lying tongue hateth those that are afflicted by it; and a flattering mouth worketh ruin.
@lorileifer6132 жыл бұрын
Hey Daniel, I think you're awesome! And I'd hire you for my mom in 2 seconds flat if you ever decided to go back to working as a therapist. Thank you ❤️
@BelindaTOV Жыл бұрын
Proud of you for helping others (your babies) not feel so alone. Xo
@Natalie-om1vf7 ай бұрын
I've really appreciated your videos, thank you.
@PeterGriffin-rp9iq2 жыл бұрын
Love your work, it has certainly helped me
@alistairproductions2 жыл бұрын
To be fair though open relationships really isn't cheating, because cheating comes down to a breaking contract over the nature of the arrangement. If one consented to an open relationship setup, then they did do so, even if they feel they got the short end of the stick in it
@adcap6312 жыл бұрын
brilliant video Daniel. Thank you for what you are doing, you help me feel that there are a group of people that really get it. By far the hardest, bravest thing I've done is face up to my horrible upbringing, discover my real feelings. It's been terrifying, but it was better that the depressive cycle i'd been in. Only people who have faced up to their truth are interested, otherwise most belong to the society of denial. I can see their desperation to get away from me when I tell them my truth. I've learned to edit it out of the day to day stuff, while not denying my own pain. Please keep on doing what you're doing.
@thecheekyambipom573011 ай бұрын
FINALLY SOMEONE WHO GETS IT!!!!
@mebeasensei2 жыл бұрын
Nice…water for the plant in me.
@levilabs17812 жыл бұрын
I really love your videos Daniel. I see these things everywhere I go. People call me weird and a variety of other names all the time. Until I'm living alone, I am in frequent despair also. I'd love to have a drink with you or just hang out some day.
@rbond46332 жыл бұрын
Wow, Daniel.... thank you so mush for expressing so honestly everything you share in all your wonderful videos... so greatly appreciated, much love to you
@painisreal1 Жыл бұрын
This actually really helps me , i enjoy watching you. I like u so much .
@serge65982 жыл бұрын
I feel happy and relieved watching your videos.
@marionoschelmuller17182 жыл бұрын
I get the alienation when people don´t get you´re lifestile. I also get that you find it hypocritical of people who are "in the club" that they are just so nice to parents and little children and stuff, but here´s why I do what you describe, me, being just as much of a seeker as you: I see a child and I see it´s aliveness, it´s joy and it´s potential and I encounter it with love and joy as a response to that, which I see (and sometimes I have to push myself a little bit to get this energy up rather than the resentful "I hate children most of all" part, which I am honest enough to notice in myself and to contain it to a certain degree). And then, being full of love and joy and being remembered of that alive parts in myself (sometimes really painful as well) I look at the parent sometimes and I just look at them. They don´t necessarily make me any more happy than other people but I am still filled with the joy over the child and so I just share it with them by showing them my joy over their child (altough I am waay too shy to actually start talking to them). And so I wonder, according to you, would it be better if I not do that or if I should stop doing that if I ever choose to have children? I mean I just don´t think it´s going to make the world a better place if people weren´t nice to parents and children. Rather, the positive energy towards the parents is also good for the children, as that makes the parents healthier and feeling better overall. And I don´t see that that´s bad. I wish, I wish, other people could understand your way of living better, I get it, as much as anyone might, but you know, Daniel, people don´t even get when I eat just a little differently than them, AT ALL, and they CAN´t accept it, no wonder, there´s no way they could understand someone who has a completely different ethics than them, who sees the world from so many more perspectives than them. And if they don´t get it yet, well, if they ever choose that path, they will grow to understand, and if not...well, I wouldn´t consider them people very capable of judging people like us anyway, altough it is always important to listen.
@terencehennegan14398 ай бұрын
All your videos are great 👍
@tricatame74272 жыл бұрын
Your videos are some of ours reasons to love you. I've never cared for societal acceptance and desensitized myself to societal rejection from an early age, but interestingly not through dissociation. I truly do not care if most people don't like me. It does nothing to my self esteem. I love myself so much that it feels like a shield around me where negativity bounces off of me. Being vulnerable is good and necessary. But at some point you get to a point where your certain emotional needs reach equilibrium. Its like an old person needing less food or less sleep. Us women literally thrive on love and attention. Its what produces estrogen. But I have the strange feeling that I've transcended my biology. At 40 never wanted and never had kids and I have only ever lived the way I decided how with 0 regrets and 0 resentments to anyone because I didn't allow anyone to pick my path for me. You are doing the same and as is apparent in the comments here, you have every reason to love yourself and you are loved by the right people anyway.
@HIP56948 Жыл бұрын
Thank you, Daniel! 💓
@annejohnson88902 жыл бұрын
Iappreciate your videos and I have learned some amazing information from them.
@SuperNorini2 жыл бұрын
Some years ago I did an interview to become a social worker. I talked about how you needed a licence to own a dog.... Needless to say I wasn't offered a place on the MSW...
@msflyingfree72 жыл бұрын
I look forward to the masses healing.
@gaiadance Жыл бұрын
Thankyou brilliant.. hope you gone to New Zealand on your travels xxxx
@dmackler58 Жыл бұрын
Alas, I’ve never been to New Zealand! Maybe someday- I’d love to go!
@tahiyamarome2 жыл бұрын
Geat insights. Society has always treated the natural impulse to procreate as if it were volitional do-gooding. I deeply resent all the parents out there who talk about having children like it's this onerous horrible burden that keeps them from having a life. I always want to ask them "so you hate your own kids then? Because you're blaming them for everything you don't do and don't choose to become. " I don't know about ethical non- monogamy but as someone in a successful polyamorous family (albeit no kids) for 17 years I would point out that humanity did not live in diads for a very long time. Perhaps if people had the presence of mind to parent in groups it would be a lot harder to abuse kids. In most poly families i know it's very hard to engage abusive behavior because to quote Lincoln "you can fool some people some of the time but you can't fool all people all the time. "
@annmarie68702 жыл бұрын
Right?
@cricketycrickets31412 жыл бұрын
You are assuming that when abuse is discovered, other adults would do something about it. But I don't think they would. They will keep their mouth shut, and go along to get along. Of course depending on power dynamics in the group. Those with more power are more likely to be abusers, and everybody else will look the other way.
@cricketycrickets31412 жыл бұрын
@@darcyroyce lol
@tahiyamarome2 жыл бұрын
@@cricketycrickets3141 i think that can be true and i've certainly seen it... Ukraine as a meta-example even... but i will also attest that being different - polyamorous for example- does tend to put pressure on ppl to investigate themselves more. I find polyamory tends to go w more self-questioning....
@tahiyamarome2 жыл бұрын
@@cricketycrickets3141 one other thought that is often hard for monogamous people- power dynamics are arguably a by-product of the competitive mindset that pits everyone into adversarial postures. Most unconscious family dynamics are rooted in this instinct. Polyamory is not functional in this mindset which is why most monos say they can't relate. if you tried to participate in a poly group and maintain your power you'd just be in a multiple marriage cult. That's NOT polyamory. Sexual jealousy is a stripe of competitiveness that exposes ego pre-occupations. A lot of monogamy is a defense for that.
@saraj94292 жыл бұрын
Your videos are life changing for me
@Dman9fp2 жыл бұрын
About half way in. I mean everyone has their ashaming weaknesses, just sharing my thoughts (maybe mostly for myself, but if others find a shred of truth in it / helps... Really doubt I'll release a book on realizations & stuff, overall hate this mostly or hugely hellish life so much...) But it's kind of a trap to seek validation, and super natural to have it unfortunately (we are social creatures after all). But the more one enjoys/ lives for validation, the more we give our power away and others/ the system controls us. Even if we don't wanna admit it. Because nobody can love or be loved unconditionally, so Nobody actually loves us or vice versa for just being our true selves/ honest/ genuine( Always some assets actually underlying this). But it may feel good for a bit, sure, but you can't please Everyone... So might as well just get used to living life your way, since validation seems to come in bursts anyways (or if you mostly get validation, it'll become the norm and not getting it will hurt more, while getting it will feel less good over time) Even if you think of whoever is seemingly seen as most saintly or gets the most attention, such as celebrities, they get intense love but also intense hate from certain people ( even from the get-go they burst onto the scene-- no matter what the false narratives they tend to paint in these kinds of stories of rise to fame) .So everybody suffers and nobody truly "wins". It just seems like most people are in the most major pain while alone because they're so alienated and tend to spiral and assume that their worse off and will automatically continue to get worse than they really are/ could be Seeking validation is both a worry and an expectation, both nasty things. Although the alternative is of course just living for yourself or what you enjoy (and maybe eventually reaching some validation or company if you're super lucky or something... ) So yeah life sucks, a lot of people would be better off never living in this time I think, not to say that they're a waste/ inferior... This society is so cruel and judgy, "you must fit this mold or else you're a failure" kinds of projections/benchmarks/ molds (seemingly to either have a nice family, get rich, or some kind of combo, upholding family values... Because that's super rational to assume that's the bench only benchmark for success in life & personal success, forget overcoming major depression and all kinds of issues just normal functioning and enjoying life and smiling and laughing more than you otherwise would... Society doesn't care about that, people expect it then get go from everybody..., they can still stick it) that society puts up because it's so convenient no matter how many people that it victimizes unfairly. But yeah ultimately validation seems great but actually sucks, just actually is short feel good bursts that are actually much more shallow and much less about you versus you're upholding their value assumptions and fitting somebody else's mold... and it makes them feel good that "hey I see somebody matching my expectations. Good job" That's the way of the world is unfortunately, so much selfishness, so much pain... Of course there can be pain in loads of deep knowledge, but to live in active ignorance makes life a minefield... and yeah I mean one must still have to live life and struggle (in some ways) in order to find some semblance of happiness through the pain.. or so it feels/ seems I haven't had true rock solid social stability just about ever, if not counting immediate family and out-branches of that, so it's easy to be gloomy. I don't know, life can be enjoyable but still can mostly suck in many ways and that's fine, we can keep living regardless until we need to tap out in some way or just until we reach a natural end I guess. (But most people taking their own life I'm sure is mostly irrationally out of fear and worrying about worrying about the future and trends too much... when in reality it just mostly fluctuates a ton and there can be tons of growth and blessings behind curses of being dealt a bad hand in life, they overlook more than not ) Edit/ some more thoughts: of course social media is making Everything Worse, including our validation compasses and how much it makes us feel confident or in pain (& if we are on Facebook & reacting to posts a large part of most days, it'll control our thinking in that we will shrink our emotional scale to what Facebook tells us are acceptable emotions/ in the available emoticons. But I could go on about the shallowness of social media for a while and then some, whole 'nother topic (unfortunate how rampant and addictive it is) Also in a way sure, validation is a small joy, and small joys are actually what contribute to us feeling mostly positive in life or not (since our baselines always shift, always good and bad stuff going on in life, so usually the small stuff are the game changers). But still, relying on validation to feel sane and acceptable is like relying on junk food to survive. Sure it's possible, but there's much better and healthier options
@ChaiTogether3 ай бұрын
I definitely agree! I’m not part of that societal norm 😊❤
@ParkrinkBeats2 жыл бұрын
Thanks for making these Daniel. Idk if it's necessarily worth it to take this "hard road," but it's very nice to hear from someone who has. It's comforting to hear that others are on this path. Not many are willing to share their difficulties the way you do. Thank you 🙏
@agent_exodus Жыл бұрын
The world is profoundly in denial, isn’t it? It’s… baffling. Since, it’s kind of important to address these things for problem solving. Especially complex problem solving.
@anthonytimpano93322 жыл бұрын
Love this. Your sharing my story and feelings. Thanks for speaking your truth, authenticity and vulnerability. Side note: your adorable btw
@twofierce2 жыл бұрын
Yes, Daniel, yes! :(
@nikolt20002 жыл бұрын
I do get you and very much appreciate your videos
@nighthawkviper67917 ай бұрын
Daniel, thank you!
@elenab1380 Жыл бұрын
How to bridge this to a new reality will be very beneficial
@jehavedfe23562 жыл бұрын
Thanks for helping me in ways I never expected.
@Kay-np2vy Жыл бұрын
I appreciate you making these videos. I don't agree with everything you say and i can't imagine how difficult it must be to be so vulnerable. But i also feel you are a bit self absorbed and too focused on how you view and experience things and how your truth is the only truth...there are other lived experiences and perspectives in this world that are different than what you believe in and still as true as your beliefs and experiences.