I’m so glad you are letting yourself connect with and express your anger now! ☺️ Thank you for sharing your experience.

Same. I have so much trauma honestly.

Yes unfortunately the older generation aren't very well informed in regards to anger release . Today I was told twise by my family to "CALM DOWN" . This made me more angry . People should be telling each other "LET IT ALL OUT" .

😂 haha! No journaling when you’re filled with rage! Better to tear paper to shreds! I also find it so satisfying as you can probably see in the video 😅

😂😂😂. I kno right.

That’s so cool to see how your body’s innate wisdom has already been guiding you!

I’m so glad that you found some relief from these exercises. Healing from people pleasing usually does involve getting in touch with your anger - I know from personal experience as a recovering people pleaser myself ☺️ Best wishes on your journey! And thank you so much for watching.

Yes! Holding in anger -> tense jaw -> chronic pain (in my case pelvic floor problems)

That’s awesome 🥰 thank you for commenting.

So glad you enjoyed it.

Try breathing exercise

Yes. Safety is key to healthy expression and moving through all our emotions. ✨

That’s awesome 😊 Expressing anger is one of the keys to feeling alive!

That’s wonderful to hear! Thanks for watching.

maybe seek therapy outside of youtube LMAO

Yes, they are! This is a really healthy way to process our rage without harming anyone.

@@ducciwuccihow bout shutup

Wonderful to hear :)

Perhaps your body enjoyed getting to express some emotion!

That’s so cool! You were getting a release just from witnessing another’s. This shows how we all really do affect each other!

So wonderful that you found this exercise helpful and enjoyable! 💖

Wow, that is so great to hear that you were able to release some intense stress energy and feel better afterwards. Thank you for commenting your experience!

I’m so glad it helped. Thanks so much for sharing your experience!

Glad you enjoyed it! I, too, find that exercise so powerful!

That's awesome. These exercises are great because you can do them pretty much anywhere. Thanks for your feedback!

Hi! This is a really common response to releasing anger. By doing these exercises you are mobilizing stuck energy in your core/viscera. This can make emotions come all the way up to the surface to be expressed. Tears are healing.

Me too!

Glad to hear it! 🥰

I am so glad you are enjoying :)

So cool to feel those primal energies in a safe way! I'm so glad you found relief from these exercises. You might be right about the crisps, hehe!

That’s awesome! Thanks for your comment 🥰

Thank you for sharing your experience. You are right! Somatic exercises are meant to be done gently and experimentally, to see if it feels right for your nervous system. I'm sorry you felt worse after doing this exercise.

@@EmilyWinterSE its ok, i was aware. But maybe it would be helpful to mention this in each video about somatic release. Thank you for responding in such sweet manner.

I’m sorry that you had that experience. I’m a NF and I notice that with each release (using the whole body, not this anger one), I feel less and less threatened and stuck in the feeling. I do tapping and too many other protocols (I had Resonance Repatterning sessions for about 15 years!) to list here, but over time with work, it’s easier and easier. In allowing myself to be a bit more vulnerable each time, it’s building on itself and now it readily flows out. That’s good for me because I still have a lot to let go of…have you seen Dr Peter Levines work? I hope that you will check out his videos here, his insights are supremely helpful. Find the one about the young solider that he helped with PTSD. It’s incredible to watch in real time. I wish you very well.

Yay! I’m so glad to hear this helped. Thanks for your comment 💖

Amazing!

You're so welcome!

I hear you ... Somatic exercises are great tools, but they probably won't unwind or release years of built up trauma and stress. We might need a different kind of support for that, including relational support in the form of a therapy or Somatic Experiencing session. Best wishes to you.

You're very welcome!

I'm so glad it helped! Thanks for your feedback!

I’m glad you found it 🥰

You're so welcome!

Glad you enjoyed it! Thanks for your comment!

So glad to hear it ☺️

So glad you enjoyed!

That’s a release of emotional energy! Great.

I'm glad the exercise helped you! It's pretty natural for different parts of our body to want to shake or tremble as we release energy. I'd only be concerned if the shaking did not stop.

@@EmilyWinterSE thanks for replying, tbh it lasts only as long as ı keep squishing the cloth

Wonderful to hear! You’re welcome!

These impulses are so natural. We just have bad examples of how to express it without harming others. These are great examples. Love to you.

Thanks for your important comment. Grief takes a different course in the body than trauma, and needs to be supported differently; there isn't really a somatic tool for grief as a whole. Grief tends to come and go and get easier to carry over time; traumatic grief is when the grief is not able to process or move through or change over time. Working one-on-one with a somatic practitioner or grief specialist may support you to access those emotions that haven't yet been safe to feel. Like all emotions, grief is social: it's best healed when we are able to share it with a safe and supportive person. Best wishes on your journey. Feel free to reach out to me if you'd like to explore a one-on-one session: www.emilywintersep.com

Thanks so much for your reply!

Absolutely, and thank YOU for engaging and watching 💖

This is not meant to be cathartic because it is done slowly with full conscious control and intention. If this feels too fast still, slow it all down even more. The release happens through feeling the exercise itself.

Thanks for bringing this up. Not every somatic exercise feels good or right for everyone, but luckily there are many ways to help your body release this "fight" response. The goal here is ultimately to engage your muscular system to use up a small dose of the angry energy, then relax your muscles and feel the release, then repeat as needed. You might explore sitting down and pushing your feet down into the floor, feeling your leg muscles engage. Hold for a few moments, then release and see if that feels better for you.

Hi Mao1132. This is a great question. Venting, or talking a lot/complaining about what makes us angry can bring up the angry feelings in our body, but may not be enough to move through/process and express the emotions associated with anger. So talking can keep us stuck in a loop sometimes. By Twisting the towel and feeling the release/relief that happens when you let go, you are mobilizing that emotional energy in the body and creating a route for it to discharge (through muscular action). If you keep twisting the towel and not feeling relief, that is a sign to slow everything down. Take a "less is more" approach so you can FEEL what is happening in your body as you twist and then release.

@@EmilyWinterSE Thank you for answering. Yes these exercises actually do work well for me. I just starting having doubts after seeing a video of a woman hitting sticks in her yard to release her anger and people were bringing up that study done on venting (including agressive behavior) saying that it only reinforces violent behavior in the brain. So I started wondering if twisting a towel for example could also apply to that situation since it is in a sense “agressive”

Yes, great question. We can totally get 'stuck in a loop' in our healthy aggression, too. The woman hitting sticks sounds a bit more like a cathartic/"big" movement of energy while in sympathetic activation, which can help to exhaust the body and send us into a shutdown state (which can feel relieving, but is only temporary). It's the equivalent of someone who cries for a very long time when they are overwhelmed; it's a way to move some energy and shift the body's physiological state but it is not bringing the nervous system into a more integrated place. The SE tools in this video are slow and done with awareness of the bodily impulses to engage muscles and then release and relax. When we are embodied like this (feeling our body), the brain is not in a state of looping/overwhelm.

@@EmilyWinterSEthank you, that’s very informative!

Yes, you could try the paper exercise. Or, you can squeeze your hands together or squeeze the arms of your chair with your hands, instead of wringing a piece of fabric. But these exercises will work best when you can do them without holding back! :)

Correct. This is a non-cathartic somatic tool to help manage the intensity/level of anger. It is non-cathartic because we are moving slowly and with awareness of the exercise's effects on the body, and not overdoing it or overwhelming ourselves.

Do you mean that after you do intense physical activity, you find yourself doing verbal dumping on others? I’m not sure if I understand your question correctly. I want to be sure I understand what you’re asking before I answer.

You might try pushing your hands together instead, as another way to use your muscular action, and don’t use the towel.

Hi! This can happen sometimes and means this may not be the right tool for you in the moment. If the exercises are just generating more energy, instead of giving you relief, I’d recommend you try a grounding exercise instead.

thanks :) @@EmilyWinterSE

I’m sorry you didn’t find this helpful. Somatic exercises don’t work for everyone and they don’t work all the time. I hope you can find some relief another way.

I disagree as this was very helpful to me. I also believe it will not contribute to my anger because anger needs an avenue to express itself. I feel more after squeezing my hoodie and growling with no reservation. Amazing exercise Emily and God bless.

Sorry to hear that.

Hehe, we must be careful with the paper tearing 😅

I'm sorry that this didn't work for you. Somatic exercises aren't always going to work or be the right tool for that moment. I hope you found relief another way.

Hey, I get it, it’s not for everyone! 😁

Did you actually try it, Ronnie?

Professional hour with this woman. Lmao, such wisdom. The paper towel one worked extremely well for me and I will definitely be doing more of it.